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HHBSO 30: If You Can't Drive a Big SUV, Get a Smaller Car · He's Hot but Something's Off...

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Hello, Welcome to He's Hot, But something's off with me.
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Just Joey Tea. It is officially fall in Los
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Angeles. I mentioned The Weather, The
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Kickoff, last week's podcast, but it's gone to the point where
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you know when the weather gets cold and you get the sniffles.
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Not because you're sick, just because the temperature
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differences. Like when you go from indoors to
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outdoors, when you're exercising or walking around or whatever.
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And I already have sniffles, kind of sort of.
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Usually I have allergies. I've got hay fever for pollen
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when it's like most of the year. Now you think pollen's only in
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the springtime for like 3 months.
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That is not true. There's pollen from like all
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sorts of different things from like flowers and grass and from
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trees. So my hay fever season runs from
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February to September. So most of the year I have to be
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taking like a nose spray or some sort of allergy medication.
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So the winter time is usually when I don't need to do that.
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But I did recently have some sort of like a cold or flu or
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something. It's very mild.
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Maybe it's like a mild cold. And one of the side effects
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though, after you've kind of sort of gone over the cold for I
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know it was like four or five days or whatever, but afterwards
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for like 2 weeks, you just keep having a runny nose.
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So that's what I had. And it's not that annoying when
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I'm at home where I'm, I live alone and I'm by myself.
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I'm not on like conference calls all the time.
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I can blow my nose whenever I want, but when I'm at the gym it
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was very annoying because I'd be exercising, obviously, and your
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body gets warm, which only makes the mucus more runny than usual.
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So when you have a runny nose and you exercise, your body
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warms up, you're breathing heavily.
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That's like the worst environment for a runny nose.
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And I'm working out, I'm warming up, I'm breathing heavily and
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it's like so difficult and so annoying at the same time to
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work at in that state. I wasn't sick because I was like
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over the cold or whatever it was.
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But a lot of the times after I've gone over a cold for like a
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couple weeks, I still have the runny nose and I kind of sort of
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still have that now and then with the cold weather kicking
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in. It's like when you go from cold
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weather to like warm weather and all that.
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Anyways, there's some scientific medical explanation for all that
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stuff, but this is a very like, this is a very roundabout way to
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say that I've got the sniffles. Basically, I can turn any story
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into a story that's like way, way too long.
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My friends have basically started saying, yeah, you're
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kind of meant to do a podcast, aren't you?
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Because you like talking, but we don't want to hear it.
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Anyways, Yeah, so it's gone pretty close.
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Dipped into I was telling my Aussie friends this week is
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dipped into the single digits on the Celsius scale.
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It's going to go to like high 40s Fahrenheit.
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But anyways, last week was Thanksgiving, last Thursday US
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Thanksgiving, and I went to a friend's place for a
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Friendsgiving and that's kind of popular within like the queer
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community. A lot of the times we're not
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necessarily going home to family that celebrates Thanksgiving.
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For me, it's not because I have any beef for my family, but my
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family is a Chinese background and they live in Canada and
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Thanksgiving in November is US specific thing that doesn't
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exist anywhere. It's only for Americans and
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people that like live in the US. So Canadians have their
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Thanksgiving in October, which like, obviously no one in the US
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is aware of because Americans. But I went to a friend, have a
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friends giving because they weren't going to visit their
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families either. A lot of well, not a lot.
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But yeah, maybe a lot of queer people in the queer community
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don't necessarily go back to their blood family.
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They might just hang out with friends or their chosen family,
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if you will. So we did a Friendsgiving.
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It's really, really, really nice.
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My friends just bought a new place in LA, so they have like
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the Super nice house to host a bunch of friends and that was
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pretty fun. We did do that thing where we
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kind of went around to everyone and everyone said what they were
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thankful for, which is I feel like a bit of a tradition for
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people that gather for Thanksgiving, You know, just
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regardless of who's there or you know, why you all gathered.
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There are two things I said that I was thankful for.
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The 1st is my health. And it's one of those things
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where most people that are in goodish health where there's not
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like anything obviously wrong with you or whatever.
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We always kind of take our health a little bit for granted.
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You know, as you get older, you might feel like, oh, sometimes
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my, I don't know, knee hurts a little bit or like, I'm not as
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flexible as before, you know. But by and large, for people
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that don't have any, like, serious disease or serious
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condition that impairs their like, day-to-day, most people, I
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feel like, tend to take their health for granted.
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And like, I've been in that boat.
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It's when everything is mostly working and nothing's really
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wrong. You don't really think about
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your body. You don't think about, you know,
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your health. You don't think about, like,
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what foods you're, you know, putting in your body.
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You don't think about, like, all how many drinks you're having at
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the bar, that kind of stuff. But yeah, I think it's kind of
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nice that, you know, at least once in a while you do a reality
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check like, oh, like, you know, I'm in pretty good health and
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that's something to be thankful for and not to, like, really
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take it for granted. So that's the first thing that I
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said. The other thing that I was
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thankful for was, well, I'm about 11 months into this quote
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UN quote career break, and it hasn't ruined me financially
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yet. So I'm thankful for that.
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So on that topic, though, I go really back and forth on whether
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I should go back to the 9:00 to 5:00.
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This is a topic we've explored at least a few times on this
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podcast as time has gone by with doing this podcast for six or
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seven months now. So obviously, you know, over
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time my feelings on it kind of sort of change.
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And on the one hand I'm thinking, well, I've got, I
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don't want to call them side hustles anymore.
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I think normal people would consider what I'm doing a side
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hustle the other ways I'm making money because they're not like
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typical quote UN quote main sources of income or quote UN
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quote day jobs. But it's a day job for me now.
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You know, all the time I spend working, and it's not like I get
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up at 8:00 and I start working at 9:00 and I stop working at
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5:00. And it's taking me a while to
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wrap my head around. Just because you're not working
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9:00 to 12:00 having lecture from 12:00 to 1:00, then work
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from 1:00 to 5:00 doesn't mean you're not doing anything right,
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Because that nine to five is so ingrained in my head ever since
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I was like a little kid, right? It was 9 to 5.
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Get a paycheck. Do that to your retire.
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And then that was it. I was never, like, taught
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anything else. Obviously nowadays I, you know,
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but you know, old habits die hard, right?
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And you kind of live with a lot of the things you were taught or
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thought was just the norm for everyone when you were young,
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right? So there's that.
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But on the other hand, I won't. I won't say that I'm making
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enough money to pay my bills and I'm not broke by any means, but
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definitely I'm not. I'm not technically making
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enough money from like cash flow point of view to pay all my
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bills. And that sounds kind of
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horrible. This society has taught us, you
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know, like we don't have money. You're kind of sort of less
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than, but if you have, you know, like the more money you have,
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the more the the more. Like, socially acceptable it is.
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Society looks down on people that don't make a lot of money.
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Maybe not in an explicit way, right?
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But you know it. It's never like a good feeling.
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I think you know it's not a good feeling.
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Like, for example, if you know you go out to eat with your
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friends and your friends want to go to like a slightly nicer,
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fancier, pricier place. And then you're sitting down
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looking at the menu and you're like, I'm not going to pay
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$30.00 for an entree because like I don't want or can't pay
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that type of money for food. So yeah, it's when I told the
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career break, I didn't think it would last this long.
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So there's a part of me that's like, well, you are working on
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things and it is bring in money and my revenue is going up like
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every single month. But then the other side of me is
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thinking, girl, go, go get AFM job.
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Because like, if you don't have no money coming in every single
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month to pay your bills, hey, that money has to come from
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somewhere and it has to come from like your savings or your
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investments or like whatever it is.
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This year I've done a pretty decent job not digging much into
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my savings at all. Part of it is luck, but I got a
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huge tax refund that that came out of nowhere.
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I still can't tell you why I got such a massive tax refund back
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in like March or April whenever it was.
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So that was that. And the second thing is I sold a
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few big ticket items, which I sold my car, So I owned my car
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outright before it was a used car that I bought for it.
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It it, it wasn't like a Fiat or like a Pinto.
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It was like a slightly nice car. So I was like, well, that's just
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like a chunk of money sitting there depreciating.
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So I decided sell the car, pocket the cash and I leased a
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different car, which I can already hear Susie Orman saying.
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No, no, no, you're not to lease a car.
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Hey, but but but for me, for my situation, I feel like it makes
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sense. I'm not here to say I'm making
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all the best or smartest or whatever financial decisions
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according to like, Susie Orman. Now that I'm listening to her
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podcast, I can just hear her voice in my head.
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It's like, no, why are you leasing a car?
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But for me and my situation, I was going to sell that car, the
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old car that I owned outright and take that money and
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basically invest into the business that I'm starting and
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we've hit some milestones there. So I just signed the statement
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of work with a vendor, A manufacturer for the business
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that I'm trying to kick off. And like the deposit is in like
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it's real now, like it's real real.
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There's a part of me that thinks you've never started a business
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before and like, you don't seem to be, like, researching things
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that much. And it's like, are you really
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going to be able to get this off the ground?
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But then I have this other side of me that I'm really rooting
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for, which is being almost delusionally optimistic about
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this being successful. Like, you have to believe in
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yourself. Like if you think negatively,
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that of course is going to, like blow up in your face and not be
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successful. So I have appreciation for
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anyone who's ever started their own business and has made it
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successful on like a somewhat consistent basis.
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Because I feel like it must take so much self-confidence and
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determination and just being like optimistic through like all
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the ups and downs. Because starting a business,
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it's not easy. It's not.
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Anyone can just go out tomorrow and like start a business.
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Like a lot of people have started from nothing and built
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like something awesome for themselves.
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But statistically the odds are not in your favor.
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I think they said something like only like a third or something
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like that of small businesses end up being like successful in
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like I don't know what time frame we're using.
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But yeah, it's like conflicting thoughts is kind of sort of
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like, I feel like I'm not trying super, super hard to start up
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the business, but I feel like I'm not putting in 40 hours
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every week of every month to like do stuff for the business.
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But on the other hand, I'm also thinking like you just need to
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like believe in yourself more. You just believe.
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You just need to like as be almost almost delusionally
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optimistic and be your biggest cheerleader and not have that
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negative mindset. So getting the 9:00 to 5:00 is
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not out of the picture. But this is the logical thing
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that I keep coming back to that's held me grounded is I am
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looking for jobs. I I'll go on LinkedIn every
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single day. It's not as many job openings
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for what I want to do from like the IT stuff that I was doing
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before for the 9:00 to 5:00 as I would like.
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But you know, if there's a decent job out there, you know
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that once that is out there that I'll apply.
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I'll apply to like four or five jobs this week, actually.
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But in the meantime, while I'm applying for jobs and looking
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for jobs, I'm going to keep chipping away at those other
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sources of income. I don't want to call it a side
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hustle anymore because it's not, it's not on the side.
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It is the main thing. And I don't like the word
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hustle. I never really liked the word
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hustle. Like, I don't like this slang of
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like, people saying, oh, you have to hustle, you have to
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hustle, you have to hustle. I'm always thinking, why didn't
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you work a little smarter? Like there's a difference
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between like when I someone, when someone says hustle.
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My mental image of that is someone who's doing a lot of
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manual labor or something that's like doing a lot of work
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physically or spending a lot of time working for maybe not a ton
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of pay, Which I know it's not like the technical definition of
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hustle, but it has that, like it has that.
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It gives me that impression, if you will, right?
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Typical side hustles are like, you know, if you like drive or
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for like Uber or Lyft or if you. I don't know, I don't know what
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typical side hustles are freelance or do a blog or
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something like that. But I don't like the word hustle
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for that reason, because I feel like you can do like difficult,
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like hard to do things to make extra money.
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Or you could try to look for things that are not as difficult
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physically, maybe or doesn't take as much of your time, but
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has a greater return on your investment, Your investment
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being your time and your energy, right?
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It's just better value. So that's like the way I see it.
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Hustling to me means like grinding your nose to the stone
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or the pavement or whatever and just doing whatever to earn the
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extra dollar. And these are not hustles for
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me. I don't I don't feel like
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they're like work work. It's not like I don't know when
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when you're when you're younger in your career and you're just
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like entering into the to whatever career you've chosen
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and you do like the most manual kind of things.
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Like I'm in IT and a lot of people start off in Technical
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Support in IT and it's doing lots of tickets lots of phone
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calls lots of whatever. And that's a lot of work that is
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like work work and but as you get you know higher up in the
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career ladder you you stop doing that type of for like a better
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term, low level work and you're you get to be like a manager or
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director all that kind of stuff. But anyways this is not a very
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round about waste. This is why my friends think
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it's so great that I have the podcast that I'll talk on my
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podcast and they don't have to listen to it.
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But I'm happy with where I am. I mean, I I do have these like
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thoughts about like, you know, maybe you I do need to make a
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little bit more money for sure. And I can't, I can't be in this
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state forever. So it's like, yes, I am looking
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for jobs. I am looking at job openings
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every single day I'm applying to stuff.
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But I'm not just going to take any job.
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I'm not at that level because I know that would just bring me
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back to last December when I just like, hated my day job and
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all I can think of. It's quitting.
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And that was not a happy time for me.
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And it's not that much use to spend my time and energy putting
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myself in that kind of situation for like 40 hours a week when
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that 40 hours a week can be so much better spent building up
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the businesses that I have running my other current streams
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of income. And I much rather invest in
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that. Maybe that's like the best way
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to think about it. If you're not charitable, you
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can say, bitch, get off your lazy ass and go find a job.
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But hey, to each their own anyways.
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Changed the topic completely. I pulled my hamstring.
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So this happened this past weekend and it's kind of sort of
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in a way. That's nice.
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I go to the gym a lot and you go to the gym a lot.
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Eventually you will hurt yourself in some way, shape or
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form. Never intentional, obviously,
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but I was on one of the lake machines and I was just going
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too fast, too furious. Basically on this machine I was
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channeling some rage into my exercises, which usually helps
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to, you know, get like a good pump.
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But I was going a little too fast and a little too heavy on
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this machine and I was doing my reps and then my right
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hamstring, it it didn't snap, but like there was like a
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feeling in it, like a tendon type feeling.
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So I stopped right away. So I've been laying off my right
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foot and I've been just resting it and icing it.
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But today I did go back to the gym.
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All I did was just like upper body stuff and and that was
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fine. Yeah, that's always fun when I'm
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at the gym. What impressed me?
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What impressed me the most when I'm at the gym?
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Not that you should be comparing yourself to other people is so
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when people are courteous that it's a public space that you
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have to share with others. I was with some friends on our
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Friendsgiving last Thursday and they said they were.
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They were at the 24 Hour gym in Hollywood and the 24 hour gym is
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not a it's lower end gym. Like I was perfectly fine with
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the 24 hour gym that used to be in West Hollywood before they
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closed down. They still have to like
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Hollywood location. They've got locations everywhere
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actually. It's not like a super expensive
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high end place, it's more like a regular run-of-the-mill place.
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However, they were used to Equinox because that that's the
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regular gym. I don't know why they were at
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Equinox for like so many months or years and now they went to
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the 24 hour. I think they just wanted to try
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it out because they just moved and it was like close by and in
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the area and they're going back to the Equinox, but they're just
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used to the Equinox. But they did remark that at the
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24 hour people don't put their weights back.
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So you get dumbbells like the free weights and there's always
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a rack for all the dumbbells and you know people don't put them
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back where it's supposed to be like the on the rack it's
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labeled, oh, the 5 LB dumbbells go here, the 10 lbs all you
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know, the rack has labels of which weights go where.
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So and they said at Equinox people do a pretty good job put
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in the weights back and at the 24 hour people don't care.
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So I wouldn't pay like 2-2 hundred and something dollars a
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month just because people put their weights back versus people
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not putting their weights back. But when people don't put the
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weights back, it is annoying. Basically it's like a bigger gym
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and the weights you want are not where they're supposed to be on
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the rack. You now go on like a treasure
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hunt throughout the gym, and the bigger the gym is, the more
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annoying it is and the less that people care to put the weights
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back, the harder the treasure hunt is.
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You basically go around the gym looking for the weights that you
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need, which is like a little bit annoying but.
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I'm kind of, sort of used to it. And if the gym is not like super
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big physically, then it's not like that hard to just like do a
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quick loop around. Yeah, but I'm never going to pay
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$270 for a gym. Are you kidding me?
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I yeah, I just don't have that kind of money.
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Even if I have that kind of money I felt like I would spend,
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I would spend that money. I I will pay like $50.00 a month
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for a gym. I'll take the other $200.00 and
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it's better. Not something else, but not in
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the gym. Yeah, yeah.
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What impressed me the most is when people respect the put
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their weights back. It's it's a public place and you
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know you are all sure the equipment.
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You would think someone who like can lift a lot of weights is
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impressive at the gym. To me that's like that's great
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for you. But if I was, if I ever get to
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be like a personal trainer, I would want to tell all my
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clients. Don't compare yourself at the
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gym to how heavy a weight or how much weights that other people
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are lifting, or how many reps they're doing or what type of
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exercise they're doing. But everyone's fitness goals and
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what they're trying to do at the gym is different.
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Some people go to the gym to workout for endurance reasons,
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so they go like higher reps or like they do more like the
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aerobic machines, right? Some people are trying to live
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like the heaviest way possible. Maybe someones doing like a
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fitness competition and training for that.
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Someone that's training for like a marathon.
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Someone else is just there for general fitness.
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They're not trying to go for crazy heavyweights.
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So you know, it's sometimes not great to be in the gym and you
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know, you've got like these super big, muscular guys that
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look like, you know, they've been lifting forever.
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Sometimes it could feel kind of intimidating.
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I imagine for someone who's like newer to working out with
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weight, someone who is newer to like going to the gym, that's
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the best advice I can give. For a newbie though, it's
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everybody starts from like everybody starts from kind of
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like nothing. I just everyone's got like their
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first time at the gym. And yeah, like don't be, don't
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compare yourself to other people that are like lifting however
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many weights they're lifting or doing some crazy looking
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exercise or you know like they just look like they know what
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they're doing. You'd be surprised how this is
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partially in my head and just this partially shady, but you'd
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be surprised how often I see someone that they look like
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they've got a decent physique. And at a glance on paper you
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would think they look like the type of person that knows what
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they're doing at the gym. And then I'll see them doing the
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exercise. And I'm thinking, I don't think
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they're supposed to do that exercise like that.
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But I don't say anything because hey, maybe they are a
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professional fitness trainer and that is a legit exercise.
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So, like, I'm not, I'm not a professional trainer at all.
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So like, I don't ever know better.
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But there is a shady part of my head that's like, I don't think
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you're supposed to swing your weights like that and use that
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much momentum to get the weights up.
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But yeah, I mean, I I, I keep my thoughts on my shelf.
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I am a shady bitch in my head. At least you know I'm not going
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to go to a stranger and be like, Are you sure you know what
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you're doing? That'd be hilarious.
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But I'm not gonna say that. Yeah, you go to the gym enough
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times you're gonna hurt yourself.
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And for me, I have this thing where if I take like 2 days off
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at the gym or three days off, I feel like I'm not doing
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anything. But when I take days off at the
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gym, I'm just like in the house. And that feels like, weird.
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When you go to the gym regularly and you get injured and you have
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to not go for a while, that feels weird.
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When I travel, though, that's different.
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I'm traveling for a reason. I'm going to something.
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I visit a family or like I'm going to an event, So I'm doing
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something, at least I'm like, out and about.
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And when I travel, I don't go to the gym.
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Like, it's it's rare for me to be traveling and going to the
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gym because that's. I just don't.
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So when I travel, I just don't. But why?
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I'm at home? I it's so much of my routine
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when I'm at home that when I am injured I need to be sidelined
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for like a few days or like a week.
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It feels like I need to be back at the gym.
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So I did take a couple of days off.
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I went back today, just did some upper body stuff, didn't push
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super hard, made sure I wasn't stressing my legs and and it was
24:30
fine. So it was fine.
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And yeah, I need this leg to heal pretty fast so I'm a bit
24:35
icing it. So apparently if you pull muscle
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you're supposed to rest. They call it the rice method.
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Rest, ice, compress, elevate. It's hard to elevate my leg like
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that so I I'm not doing that. I don't have anything to like
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compress with so I don't I'm so lazy, but I am resting my leg
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and I I am icing it. Thank God I have the ice machine
25:02
so I can ice my leg or it'd just be like packs of vegetables.
25:05
But yeah, I'm just going to enjoy not having to go to the
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gym so much. I'm just not going to beat
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myself up about it. Today was actually a good day at
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the gym, just doing upper body stuff.
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But OK, there are a couple of people at the gym that I don't
25:21
like because again, I respect people that understand the gym
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is a public space to be shared by all.
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And you know, you need to have a certain level of, like
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courteousness and awareness of their surroundings.
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There are some people that just don't.
25:38
There's like a couple people that are definitely, I'm a
25:41
shitless at the gym, but I was like, OK, today is like the gym
25:46
is pretty. I went a little early and then,
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you know, the gym is pretty light.
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And I had some Uber Eats credits that is going to expire at the
25:53
end of the month. So after gym I was like, OK, I'm
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going to get some. I went to get Boba, so I drove
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to the Boba place. I picked up the Boba and drove
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home. And we're going to get into it.
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We're going to get into my living situation because I'm
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going to vent for a bit. So I live in a condo, it's an
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apartment and there's a a parking garage at the at the
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ground level and everyone has like their own spot, right?
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And one of the things that is annoying for me is a pet peeve.
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I think most people wouldn't care that much is when I when I
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came home today after I got the from the gym, the car next to
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me, and I don't even know who's, you don't know who that person
26:37
is. They had parked very close to
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the line, like in their parking spot, which made it difficult
26:44
for me to park the way I usually park.
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So I usually back into my spot and I had to pull forward
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because if I backed in and they were parked that close, I
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couldn't open my door to get out the car, so I had to like pull
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in. This sounds like nothing to most
26:55
people, right? It's for me, it's annoying.
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So it's like the can normal people understand that this is
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annoying? I think I think most people
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would be like, dude, just park your car and like just whatever
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and just get over it. But it was annoying for me
27:14
because they they do it once in a while and I know they don't
27:17
intend to do it. But I feel like if you can't
27:20
park your car, get a smaller car.
27:23
Now sometimes you have these like big giant SU VS that can't
27:25
stay in their own lane on the road.
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And I'm always thinking if you can't drive a big SUV, don't
27:31
drive a big SUV. If you can't drive such a big
27:33
car, got a smaller car. But like this car or like
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whoever parks in that spot, like once in a while they park like
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close to the line on my side. That makes it difficult for me.
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And OK, this is like a super, like, this is not what I
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recommend. It's not the most mature thing
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to do, but and I'll say I did it, I parked just as close to
27:56
the line within my spot that they are to the same line in
28:00
their spot. Just to basically say, you know
28:04
what? If you're going to make it
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difficult for me to park in my spot, I want to make it
28:07
difficult for you to park in your spot.
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And we're equally as close to the line and we're both on our
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own sides to the line. So we're not doing anything
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wrong, are we? But yeah, next time you have to
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pull your car and park it back in.
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I hope you realize how difficult it is to park in your spot when
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I'm that close to the line as you are to that side of the line
28:27
that you are today. So that's like, that's like the
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part of me that's like, I want to get you back.
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So annoying. So I don't know.
28:37
I have this thing. I have this pet peeve about like
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people not being very courteous in in public spaces, like or
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like people, they're not aware of their surroundings.
28:52
There was this completely different, It was like months
28:55
ago. And I was like walking back home
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to the gym and I was like in front of my apartment building.
29:03
And I noticed that there was this car that was waiting for
29:09
another car in a parking spot to leave.
29:11
A car was parked. They were going to leave.
29:12
This truck had the signal turned on so that they were going to,
29:15
like park in the spot after the car that was leaving was gone.
29:19
And then I don't know where this SUV comes in and just like swoop
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and takes the spot, which is like, you know, maybe they
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didn't see that this truck was like waiting.
29:32
This truck had this. I was walking on the sidewalk
29:34
and I saw this truck had to turn on.
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So it's like the car, as it turns it on, they're probably
29:38
waiting for a spot, right? They're doing something, this
29:41
SUV, I don't know where swoops and takes the spot.
29:44
And I was about to, like, enter my building, but like, I was
29:46
outside and there was some workers or like landscapers or
29:49
gardeners or they were just like chilling, taking a break, like
29:52
outside of the building. And then this chick gets out of
29:56
this SUV and looks around and sees that the guy is like the
30:01
truck was waiting for that spot. And she's like, she's she's
30:04
walking away from the car. She's like, oh, sorry, it just
30:07
walks away that that kind of stuff is so annoying.
30:13
It's like, it's one thing to like like this car that's parked
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beside me in the garage. They don't, I know they don't
30:21
intend to park close to that line because like, why would
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they? It's, I mean, intention matters.
30:28
They didn't tend to park close to the line.
30:29
Maybe they were in a hurry. Or like, hey, not everyone is
30:33
that particular about their parking, as I am, I'm sure,
30:36
because I'm a little fastidious about it.
30:38
But this chick just, like, swooped in, stole this guy's
30:41
spot. And when even when she knew that
30:44
she had stolen someone's spot, she's like, sorry.
30:46
Like, that is like the fakest story in the world.
30:48
Like, you don't mean it. You just walked away.
30:50
It's like, if you're really sorry and I said this out loud,
30:53
I remember, like not yelling, but like I said out loud as I
30:57
was entering the building. But it's like all these
30:59
landscape gardener people saw it and was like, what the fuck?
31:03
Remember saying this? I said, well, if you were really
31:05
sorry, you would move your car. It's people like that that is
31:09
annoying to me because you are intentionally not caring that
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your actions are making someone else's day worse.
31:17
It's like life is hard enough that we don't need to do that to
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each other, you know, we don't need to take other people's
31:25
parking spots. Just 'cause you had a bad day
31:29
that that does not give you any sort of a pass to make someone
31:33
else's day worse because you're in a bad mood.
31:36
If you're in a bad way, that's on you.
31:38
Like, don't be like making someone else's day worse for it.
31:43
I say this after I told you I parked super close line, but
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other cars parked close to the line.
31:47
And I'm not saying that was the most mature thing to do, but my
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two points completely cancelled each other with dinner today.
31:56
I don't know. Yeah, I don't like my neighbor
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who parks their car close to the line, but it made me difficult
32:01
for me. And also don't like this shake
32:03
that still this trucks parking spot.
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I don't know where I'm really going with this, but yeah, like
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stuff like that. It's annoying when like people
32:10
don't have this like awareness that their actions have a effect
32:17
on other people. Like if you if you intentionally
32:20
go to steal someone's spot, I mean come on like you're you're
32:23
you're just making someone else's day worse, honestly.
32:25
And like, you don't need to make someone else's day worse.
32:28
Maybe I should go move my car or parking less close.
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I just want this car beside me to understand that, hey, if you
32:35
park close to your if you park close to the line that separates
32:39
our two parking spots, it makes it difficult for the other
32:42
person to park there. Oh my God.
32:45
Anyways, let's end this podcast on a more positive note.
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So this coming weekend I'm actually going to Austin is one
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of my good friend's birthday. It says 40th birthday, actually,
32:58
and that's why he's having like a little bit of a thing.
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They live in Austin, so I'm going to take a short trip to
33:06
Austin this weekend for that. And we used to be a roommate in
33:11
San Francisco, so we have a bunch of San Francisco friends
33:15
when we were all living there. And some of those San Francisco
33:17
friends, some of whom I haven't seen in a while, I think some of
33:22
them now I've seen even since before the pandemic, since the,
33:26
yeah, for like a few years now. They're going as well.
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So yeah, that'll be a fun little weekend.
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And hopefully when I get back from the airport on Sunday, my
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neighbor would not be parked so close to the line in our parking
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garage. Let's just edit there.
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Bye, guys. I'll see you next week.