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Gossip, and a good opinion of other people. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop.
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  Along with all her chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken. Coupe.
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  So today we are talking about the good opinion of other people
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  and it doesn't always have to be a good opinion, does it?
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  Oh my gosh. No it doesn't.
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  So this is coming up because I just love the fact that my real
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  life situations, sometimes just bring me abilities to be able to
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  talk to you guys about things. Oftentimes, it brings me things
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  that I can talk to you guys about and this weekend was so As
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  I heard a story that my husband was filling me in on about
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  something that happened to someone in his family and how
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  someone else was giving an opinion on this unsolicited.
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  I might add and we've talked about unsolicited opinions
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  before on here. However, I have to I just had to
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  come back to it because I cannot express enough how when you
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  decide that you are going. Going to take on the role of
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  calling somebody and giving them information or running into
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  somebody and giving them information that they did not
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  ask for and giving your opinion, what that does to the other
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  person and how that makes the other person feel.
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  And when these things come up and they have absolutely nothing
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  to do with you in your life, nothing to do with you.
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  And you're just like, well, I think you did X Y and Z and I
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  think this was wrong and I think this was this and this and this
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  and you think you're doing somebody a service by calling
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  them out on it. The question you have to ask
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  yourself is is this for you that you're doing this or is this for
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  the other person that you're doing this?
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  And oftentimes it's for yourself because you feel like you have
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  moral High ground, or you feel like you have value to Share but
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  if that other person didn't ask you for and that other person
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  didn't intend to have that information nor want it and ask
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  for it. You're putting yourself into a
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  position where you look foolish. Let's just come right down to
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  it. And all of this, all of this
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  comes down to one, big circle of, where, do all these things
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  start. And these things start behind
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  the scenes, where two people may be talking about somebody and to
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  people maybe sharing they're like, wow, I had no idea or and
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  this is, this is common. This is human cute
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  communication. Do this all the time.
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  My husband and I will sit and discuss things, but I know when
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  I discuss something with my husband, I don't have to worry
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  about him going on social media are going out, making phone
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  calls and saying things to people, I know when I discuss
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  things with my coach, I don't have to worry about him running
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  off and talking to anybody about it.
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  I don't talk about things that I don't want other people to know
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  if your mother never gave you that advice or your grandmother
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  or somebody in your life, never gave you that advice.
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  Let's let me be the person. Person that share it with you.
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  Now don't talk about people behind somebody's back.
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  If you don't want things to get out there and you don't want
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  people to know, don't stir the pot, don't be a little shits
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  shit. Stirrer out there who's steering
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  the pot, all up and making it for other people to be enraged
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  and going out there and having conversation and talking
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  especially when it comes back to talking directly to a Person
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  about it every time that you decide to go out there and do
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  that. And talk about somebody behind
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  their back, you run the risk of it getting back to them whether
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  you think it's okay or not, they're still going to find a
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  way to get back to you. I promise you would always does.
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  I learned that very early in my life, about fourth grade.
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  My mother said it to me and I didn't necessarily think a big
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  deal of it. I still remember the incident.
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  I still remember the class. I was in mr.
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  Ghorab. Herb.
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  And oh my God. And I talked about my friend and
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  to another friend and it was the worst thing and I hurt her
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  feelings and I learned the lesson very early on and I was
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  always very careful about it and Later in life.
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  I did one thing again and it came back again.
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  I didn't think it would be a big deal, but it was two times.
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  There won't be a third ever in my life I can assure you of that
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  but I will say this It is incredibly important to realize
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  that the good opinion of other people is not something that
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  you're in charge of. You are not the boss of the good
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  opinion of other people and you cannot, you cannot Reign people
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  in. They will have their opinions.
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  They will say things they will do.
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  Things don't be one who's partaking in it.
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  Don't allow yourself to get caught up in it.
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  Don't put yourself into the position of judging other
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  people. When you don't know what made
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  somebody made the Decisions. They make, you don't understand
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  how they came to the conclusions.
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  They came to, you don't know. You haven't walked a mile in
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  their shoes so to speak. So to wrap this up and to put it
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  all in a nice, neat nutshell, we mind our own business.
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  We try not to talk about other people, especially in a way if
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  we're not adding to the value of helping them.
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  Then we should be quiet about it.
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  We can have our opinion, but we should not be talking about
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  other people and we certainly should never jump.
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  Up out and judge another person when we have not had their
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  experience have not lived in their house, have not gone
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  through what they're going through.
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  Have not stepped into their shoes.
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  It is a dangerous dangerous place to go, my friends and it
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  breaks families up. So watch it be careful of it and
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  through this holiday season where we'll all be with people.
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  It's time to just sit there in, take it all in and say this is
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  interesting and let it all go because it doesn't affect you
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  one bit in your Internal ecosystem and remember that.
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  Don't let it in. All right, my friends.
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  I hope you have a wonderful day and remember the good opinion of
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  other people, doesn't matter. You don't need it.
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  Stay out of it. I hope you have a blessed day.
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  See you tomorrow. Bye.