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[EP11] How to deal with stress & anxiety · AWAKEN with Dylan Ayaloo: Inner Work, Healing, Yoga & Meditation

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  His question was something around stress and burnout, stress, burnout, anxiety, panic attacks, depression, all those kinds of things.
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  Anxiety, you could say from one perspective is a breathing pattern, which you would have heard me say before.
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  Another perspective of that is that anxiety is having many choices and not knowing what to choose or not wanting to choose.
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  It could be break it down, simplify it.
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  You have lots of choices.
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  So you're like, oh shit, I don't know which one to choose.
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  while makes you anxious. Stress is obsessively playing out a thought in the mind over and over
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  again. Normally, the version of how it's not going to work, like how bad it's going to be.
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  And thoughts cannot be compartmentalized. So our body and our mind and our emotions and our
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  connection to something greater than body mind source spirit universe whatever like we are
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  connected you cannot compartmentalize one from the other so if you think a thought you will feel a
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  feeling based on the thought because the mind doesn't know the difference between the thought
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  and reality which is why visualization is so powerful stress you could say is us visualizing
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  how bad it's going to be and practicing that putting our focus into that over and over again
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  therefore we realize it right make it make into our reality so it's the same formula but you take
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  that and if you make it focus it on visualization or manifesting part of manifesting yeah someone
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  who's visual would picture it they would see it hear it feel it but it's the thing that you want
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  rather than the thing that you don't want.
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  So stress is, okay, we take,
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  sometimes there's a certain situation,
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  and our nervous system is wired.
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  First priority is survival.
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  That's an ancient part of our brain, our nervous system,
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  that is still existing within us today.
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  Even though we don't need the protection mechanism,
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  it is there.
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  All information has to go through this filter first
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  before everything else.
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  And it goes, I don't know if I can trust this.
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  I don't know if I'm going to survive it.
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  This might be danger.
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  Right?
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  So maybe you are in a situation where things are like high pressure.
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  And we look at it and stress as if we're playing out the worst case scenario.
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  And then our body is responding, our emotions, and our body respond as if that is the reality.
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  Because remember, the mind doesn't know the difference between reality and what we focus on,
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  visualize, see, hear, feel.
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  That's why manifesting is so powerful, because the mind doesn't know the difference between
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  reality and what you're imagining.
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  So if you imagine a lot of what you want, then you could say it comes true.
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  So stress, if we're doing it in the mind, like thoughts cycling over and over again,
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  I obviously get stressed a lot too.
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  I've just learned some tools to manage it a bit better than I did some years ago.
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  And I find that if it's happening on one level, let's say if it's happening on the mind,
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  so it's like thoughts playing over and over and over again.
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  So if I have some feelings and then my body's taking on certain kind of sensations,
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  you can address it on any one of those levels.
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  So a lot of times it might be more useful to make it tangible.
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  and the most tangible out of those three right the mind the emotion the body is what the body
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  so then for us what we do and get on the yoga mat start to move start to shift your breath
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  because your stress breath would be very different to when you're doing yoga and you're doing deep
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  breaths so it switches your body and your nervous system out of that stress which is normally fight
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  flight to a little bit more rest and digest.
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  Now it doesn't take away the situation if you're in a situation, but suddenly you have
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  more, like you have tapped into more of your resources or resourcefulness, let's say.
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  Your body's calmer, right?
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  The stress, that tension is taken out of you because you've moved your body, yoga, whatever
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  your movement is ideally conscious and you shifted your breath so now your emotions are going to match
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  that because you've moved your body and because your emotions feel different you might have a bit
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  more space to think clearly and thinking having a bit of space internally to think clearly is useful
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  in a stressful situation because that is the time for us to get creative but the part of us that is
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  is for fight or flight.
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  That is not the time to get all
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  expansive and creative.
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  It's fight this thing
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  or fucking run.
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  Right? Or both.
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  Which makes sense.
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  But
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  even though there isn't a saber-toothed tiger
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  in your living room right now,
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  our body still responds as if there's a saber-toothed tiger.
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  And when it's fight or flight,
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  the focus narrows in.
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  and it's single focus rather than expansive.
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  And all our resources, right, drain on the topic,
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  so that we're getting ready for that fight or flight.
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  And most of us are living in most of our day,
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  most of our year, most of our life,
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  in fight and flight.
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  That's the modern day life.
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  Most of us are almost all the time in fight or flight.
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  our body doesn't get an opportunity to rest and digest.
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  So for me, part of what is the work, the inner work,
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  is despite the problem or the situation that is in front of you,
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  whatever it may be, yes, you can acknowledge,
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  okay, it's there or it's here, and I'm feeling these feelings,
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  and my body is taking it on in these ways,
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  these thoughts to bring, to cultivate a certain level of awareness, to train
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  within us a certain level of awareness.
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  Therefore, there is a sense of space between the thing, the problem and you.
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  Right?
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  And as you can start to calm the nervous system down and start to create more
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  space within yourself, suddenly you can start to think a bit clearer.
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  You can start to get more creative.
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  because the problems that we have, our worst problems,
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  it's someone else's, they're just happy for breakfast.
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  So let's say maybe it's more tangible like this.
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  That's your running business.
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  And in your business, you have a set problem and you think,
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  oh my God, this is it.
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  It's like, this is going to kill the business.
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  That's it.
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  But if you brought someone like, I don't know, Richard Branson in,
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  Richard Branson would just solve that problem.
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  So it's not like the problem is going to kill you.
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  It's just our ability to be resourceful.
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  And we cannot be resourceful when we're stressed out.
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  Because you can't see wider focus.
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  Even our blood vessels, right?
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  They tend to open up, they're pumping blood, the heart's pumping.
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  Everything's like starting to build up.
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  It's cutting down digestion.
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  Everything's getting ready to fight and fight.
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  And at that time, you can't think clearly.
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  You're like, run or what?
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  What should I do?
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  So deal with it on the left of the body.
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  Let me work this tension, this stress out of me first.
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  Let me go for a walk.
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  That's why walks are so powerful.
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  Let me sit down and meditate.
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  When the logical mind would be thinking,
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  what are you doing sitting down and meditating?
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  What are you doing freaking yoga?
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  Yoga is not going to solve your business problem.
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  Actually, it is.
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  or they would say a business guy and you'd say like why bother mediter what's all this meditation
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  shit where you think you're going to sit down like probably a meditation but like a problem
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  the solution is going to fall in your lap your business going to magically work actually you
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  know what yes because when i sit and meditate and when i do my yoga and i create space within myself
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  i can be creative i'm not rushing frantically just doing shit for the sake of doing stuff
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  so I can be busy
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  and I'm actually doing the things that matter
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  and it comes from the clarity within
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  rather than just trying to fill up space
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  trying to do something for sake of doing it
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  which is actually making me more stressed out anyway
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  so there's nothing new right in our world
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  in this work
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  I've been saying this for almost two decades now
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  I'm not the only one who's been talking about it
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  about it too. It comes back to the same thing, the slow, consistent way. This is where training,
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  like having a solid foundation underneath you so that you gear yourself to step into the day
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  in your best. So your worst can be your greatest gift for anyone facing something very challenging
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  right now. If this could be your greatest gift, what could it look like? How would you approach
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  What would be different?
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  If what seems like your biggest problem right now
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  could be your greatest gift,
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  what would be different?
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  And I'm talking internally, not externally.
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  Part of our resourcefulness.