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S3 #6 Passed Loves · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I almost famous podcast
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  Speaker 1: with our radio. Everybody Ben's in studio. I'm actually in studio.
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  Speaker 1: This feels weird and nice. He looks like particularly good
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  Speaker 1: today ladies like super sparkly. His eyes are just bright
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  Speaker 1: and shiny. I have gotten into the guyliner. So uh,
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  Speaker 1: if anybody hasn't noticed, um, I guess why would you notice?
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  Speaker 1: I've been. I've had Invisilne for the last three months,
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  Speaker 1: and Monday is my last day of invisi line. So
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  Speaker 1: thank you pro Smile Dentistry in Tender, Colorado for the
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  Speaker 1: invisile line. Wait a second, now, why do you only
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  Speaker 1: have three months? What does that? My teeth weren't that bad? Um?
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  Speaker 1: I had? I had a couple of things moving on
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  Speaker 1: the bottom, and and they said if I let that
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  Speaker 1: keep going, it's just gonna get worse and worse. And
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  Speaker 1: so I took advantage of the opportunity to get in
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  Speaker 1: visilne um and now and now they're leaving me, which
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  Speaker 1: is a good thing. But I have to take them
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  Speaker 1: out before every podcast, like spit on the mic and
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  Speaker 1: I slear my words. I mean I would do it,
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  Speaker 1: It's just I don't know it would be the best sound.
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  Speaker 1: Oh gross, I was at the dentist this week too,
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  Speaker 1: and they're like your bottomed either shifting, you need to
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  Speaker 1: get a retainer so you know things that it's not
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  Speaker 1: a terrible thing. Actually, um, it really isn't. And do
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  Speaker 1: it during a season of life when you're not making
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  Speaker 1: out with a lot of people, okay, like right now
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  Speaker 1: for you liked house the perfect time. It actually did
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  Speaker 1: come into play when I got him, so I'm not kidding.
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  Speaker 1: So when I when I decided to get in Visilin,
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  Speaker 1: I thought, all right, what is on the slate here
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  Speaker 1: coming up? Um a podcast? I can take them up
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  Speaker 1: for a podcast. It really comes down to what are
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  Speaker 1: you eating and who are you kissing? If you're not
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  Speaker 1: comfortable with the person you're kissing, like, don't get in
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  Speaker 1: Visilin yet, because you would have to take them out
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  Speaker 1: every time, and then you have these buttons on your
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  Speaker 1: teeth and it just I feel like it could feel weird,
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  Speaker 1: a little bumpy. Well, wouldn't it be interesting if since
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  Speaker 1: I've never had a season of my life for like
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  Speaker 1: making out with someone was a constant that what if
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  Speaker 1: I got in Visilin and then I found that person
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  Speaker 1: where Wisconsin. I feel like that would be a huge
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  Speaker 1: step in relationship and really positive step. I think so too.
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  Speaker 1: I get insigne now over Thanksgiving if one of the
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  Speaker 1: first things you did when you guys are laying in
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  Speaker 1: the couch and he leans over and he goes, hey,
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  Speaker 1: can I kiss you? And you said I would love
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  Speaker 1: for you to kiss me, but just give me a woman.
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  Speaker 1: I gotta take out my my retainers. I don't know
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  Speaker 1: anything hotter. It's really hot. Hey. Speaking of hot um,
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  Speaker 1: we have one of my favorite people ever in Bachelor
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  Speaker 1: Nation who who She is beautiful herself, but she is
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  Speaker 1: engaged to one of the hottest men ever to come
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  Speaker 1: to the franchise, Sean Booth. We have Caitlin Bristow on
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  Speaker 1: the line. Guys, why is it always the shop of
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  Speaker 1: the hot one in this relationship? Caitlin, I don't get
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  Speaker 1: to see Shan much anymore, and so whenever I can
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  Speaker 1: talk about him, I get really excited. And so I'll
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  Speaker 1: just give him a ton of compliments to try to
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  Speaker 1: to try to fulfill my lack of Sean in my life.
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  Speaker 1: Nothing me feel better than a Sean Booth compliment like
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  Speaker 1: Carl Evan's wedding. When he kept talking on me, I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I've never felt better about myself. Yeah, because
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  Speaker 1: he could have like a whole pocket full of compliments
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  Speaker 1: and you could just need one to save your life
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  Speaker 1: and he won't give it to you, So you're lucky
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  Speaker 1: to get one. Well, Okaylyn, we want to talk to
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  Speaker 1: you about your big Broadway debut. How did this come
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  Speaker 1: about and what's the show about? Oh my gosh, I
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  Speaker 1: can't believe it's all happening. I feel like I've put
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  Speaker 1: it out into the universe since I was like five
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  Speaker 1: years old, so I'm like, okay, it took long enough,
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  Speaker 1: Like it's about time this happened. Um. It's basically a
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  Speaker 1: Christmas holiday feel good show for two months. It has
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  Speaker 1: people from American Idol, The Voice, America's Got Talent, the
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  Speaker 1: YouTube sensations, and basically they reached out for me to
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  Speaker 1: host the show, and then they found out that I've
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  Speaker 1: been singing and writing music in Nashville, so they're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: and you can join the cast for a few songs.
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  Speaker 1: So not only am I hosting it, I get to
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  Speaker 1: singing it as well. Are the original songs? Yes? Oh?
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  Speaker 1: Like like old school real Christmas songs like Oh Holy Night,
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  Speaker 1: stuff like that. I like, Caitlin, is a lot to
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  Speaker 1: unpack there. I want to hear about this. So the
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  Speaker 1: first thing that was surprising to me not that you're hosting.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not surprised at all that they would ask you
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  Speaker 1: to host. It's that you're singing and writing music. Tell
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  Speaker 1: me a little bit more about that. Oh yes, so, um, well,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you know this, but if you
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  Speaker 1: live in Nashville, you have to be a singer songwriter.
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  Speaker 1: Uh So basically I'm just channeling my my inner John
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  Speaker 1: Mayer and going for it. That's incredible. I mean honestly,
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  Speaker 1: like we're like that just come out of nowhere? Or
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  Speaker 1: did somebody ask you to do that? Like, what's the inspiration? No,
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  Speaker 1: you know what, my whole life, Um, I've always loved
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  Speaker 1: singing and dancing. Um, I always did musical theater all
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  Speaker 1: growing up, and I took voice lessons. And then being
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  Speaker 1: in Nashville, Sean actually hooked me up with this really
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  Speaker 1: good vocal coach. She actually used to work with Taylor
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  Speaker 1: Swift when she was really young, and I just absolutely
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  Speaker 1: fell in love refell in love with singing again. Being
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  Speaker 1: in Na Spill and the city is just full of
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  Speaker 1: talented people that I started meeting songwriters. I started hanging
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  Speaker 1: out with other country artists and I just kind of
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  Speaker 1: got involved into that circle. And then, um, I've written
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  Speaker 1: four songs now and I'm recording recording my last one tomorrow.
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna start putting some out soon. I was gonna say, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that was that was my big question, When is the
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  Speaker 1: album actually dropping? Well, I'm thinking after my Broadway debut.
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  Speaker 1: Time the life that you're living right now, after your
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  Speaker 1: Broadway I'm dropping an album alright. That is a first
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  Speaker 1: nation for sure. But seriously, Caitlin the pop star, Like,
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  Speaker 1: if you learned the bachelorrette, I could totally see you
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  Speaker 1: as a pop star. Well maybe maybe being in the
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  Speaker 1: Bachelor world was just a little segway. You know, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: you have really done I mean, you know, living in
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  Speaker 1: this world and watching people kind of post Bachelor and
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  Speaker 1: and what they do with I guess the platform that
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  Speaker 1: they're given, you have done more than most in such
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  Speaker 1: a good way. Right. You've always been energetic, You've always
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  Speaker 1: been outgoing. People have always loved you and you and
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just giving you a ton of compliment.
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  Speaker 1: Are you hitting on me? I might be hitting you again.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how to get out of it. Like, sorry, Shot,
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  Speaker 1: I'm stuck in a cycle. Every time I talked to Caitlin,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just getting used to giving her compliments. But no, honestly,
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  Speaker 1: like you are the triple threat you now. I know
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  Speaker 1: you dance, Um, you're singing, You're writing. What's like? What
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  Speaker 1: is next? Like? Do you have a vision in mind? Like?
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  Speaker 1: Where is your life moving? Um? You know, I really
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  Speaker 1: do feel like singing and doing something in that world
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  Speaker 1: is going to be next, just because I am so
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  Speaker 1: passionate about it and I do feel like I have
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  Speaker 1: the right people around me to succeed in that. And
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I don't like saying I've just come off
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  Speaker 1: a reality show and be like I'm a singer now, um,
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  Speaker 1: but I think I'm willing to put in the hard
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  Speaker 1: work and show people that I've loved this my whole
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  Speaker 1: life and that's a passion of mine. So I hope
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  Speaker 1: to just kind of dive into more staying in the
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  Speaker 1: new year, um, because I think I'll be settled down
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  Speaker 1: and everyone keeps wanting me to stay, Well, what about
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  Speaker 1: what planning and I'm like, yeah, no singing, Yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: get that. Yeah, don't just just ignore those questions. Hey, Caitlin, Um,
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  Speaker 1: it's kind of well. I mean, I'm in Nashville, so
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I'm going to do a little country.
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  Speaker 1: But I grew up loving country music, so I'm kind
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  Speaker 1: of going like the country pop route just because I
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  Speaker 1: feel like my voice is meant to be that way.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of people hear my speaking voice and
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  Speaker 1: they're like, I don't picture you as a singer. But
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  Speaker 1: even Sewan says, he's like, you have no idea. It's
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  Speaker 1: you when you hear you sing. Well, I've always thought
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  Speaker 1: you were very mildy asked, even the way you look
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  Speaker 1: and then the way you speak, so I feel like
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  Speaker 1: you'd get a Miley voice out of you. Oh okay,
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  Speaker 1: I love that. Yeah, I've drink like a couple of
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  Speaker 1: whiskeys before and get a little raspy. It's all good.
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  Speaker 1: I do want to ask, though, Okay, how is Sean
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  Speaker 1: and how are how are you and Sean doing? Oh
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  Speaker 1: he's so good. He's just killing the fitness thing and
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  Speaker 1: he's just such a little go getter. He makes me
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  Speaker 1: feel lazy when really I'm super busy. So um, he's
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  Speaker 1: just totally involved in the fitness world, making me feel
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  Speaker 1: lazier every day. And his meal plans are killing it.
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  Speaker 1: He's you know, he's been so happy lately because he
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  Speaker 1: gets such nice emails from people that he's just like
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  Speaker 1: changed their lives with his meal plans. Because this lady
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  Speaker 1: the other day just said, um, you know, she feels
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  Speaker 1: so confident going to her sister's wedding now and she
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  Speaker 1: lost thirty two pounds and fits into her dress and
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  Speaker 1: she's just yeah, and it's he's just been getting a
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  Speaker 1: lot of good feedback from that. So it's really nice
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  Speaker 1: that he can share his passion um for his healthiness.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't even know the lingo to use for
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  Speaker 1: the health world, but whatever it is, he's killing it.
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  Speaker 1: And how is Tucker doodle dog? Oh my gosh, he's perfect.
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  Speaker 1: Moving to New York, I'm like, I have to be
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  Speaker 1: away from them for three weeks and then they're going
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  Speaker 1: to drive up and spend the rest of the time there.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm like dreading being away from Tucker because I
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  Speaker 1: can say time with Sean and talked to him every day,
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  Speaker 1: but like Tucker doesn't understand that, and it's really sad
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  Speaker 1: to me. I always say that when my parents are like,
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  Speaker 1: you miss the dogs? Where miss us? I'm like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because I faced time you every day. I don't get
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  Speaker 1: to talk to the dogs every day. Actually, bless be honest,
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  Speaker 1: you missed the dogs more than yours. Your parents like,
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  Speaker 1: don't try to hide it. Can The other day I
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  Speaker 1: was I like to watch and all my friends do that.
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  Speaker 1: My friends are huge fans of you and Sean, and
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  Speaker 1: I am as well. I watch your videos and I
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  Speaker 1: laugh out loud everything you do. The other day, I've
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  Speaker 1: been working out a lot, and I've been on this
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  Speaker 1: diet plane myself. I've been trying to get in shape.
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  Speaker 1: That's why you're glowing. Why I'm glowing, actually said I'm
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  Speaker 1: glowing today. Um but anyways, and I got a compliment
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  Speaker 1: from one of my my friends and they said, been like,
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  Speaker 1: you're looking fit, and I was like, oh, yeah, like
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  Speaker 1: that's good, that's good, And I'm not kidding. It didn't
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  Speaker 1: take me four minutes until I was checking my phone. Obviously,
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  Speaker 1: I looked on Instagram and there's a picture of Sean
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  Speaker 1: just standing there in one of those tight shirts anywheares,
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  Speaker 1: And I was like, gosh, dang it, Like I'm never like,
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  Speaker 1: there's nothing that makes you feel worse about yourself than
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  Speaker 1: seeing a picture of Sean and a tight shirt. He
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  Speaker 1: let me know them. Yeah, this is so funny because
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  Speaker 1: every guy in the Bachelor Family, if if you were
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  Speaker 1: to ask them who their man crushed in the family is,
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  Speaker 1: it's always Sean. The guys like lose their crap over
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  Speaker 1: Sean being just like so hot in having everything going on.
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  Speaker 1: He's a sexual beast. He does have an indescribable swag.
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  Speaker 1: It really does. Um. So you're moving up to New
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  Speaker 1: York for two months, fully like you're you're gonna be
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  Speaker 1: living there. You're moving from Nashville. When does that start? Um? Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: So I'm going November three, And i gotta tell you,
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  Speaker 1: I'm a little nervous because we've been spoiled in the house.
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  Speaker 1: We just thought it's so gorgeous And I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: like this tiny little apartment with no laundry, and I
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  Speaker 1: don't really know what I'm gonna do with myself, but
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  Speaker 1: that's how New Yorkers lives. I'm gonna I'm gonna do it.
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  Speaker 1: Did the show set you up with an apartment? Yeah? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: apartment and it's close to the theater. And uh, it's
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  Speaker 1: actually close to Shawn's family too, which is nice because
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  Speaker 1: they're over in Connecticut and it's a two hour drive.
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  Speaker 1: Socill be able to come up and see the show
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  Speaker 1: a lot. My last question about the show is, um,
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  Speaker 1: is there any plotline to it or is it all
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  Speaker 1: just performance like singing and stuff. Um. Yeah, it's just
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  Speaker 1: all singing. I mean basically, I'm introducing each singer for
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  Speaker 1: their songs and then I'll jump in for a couple
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  Speaker 1: and then I think we talked about like the holidays
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  Speaker 1: and what the holidays mean to us, and it's going
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  Speaker 1: to be the same show every night, but different crowds,
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  Speaker 1: so new to them. You ever get tired, you ever
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  Speaker 1: get worried that you're going to get tired of doing
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  Speaker 1: it every single night, like eight times a week. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: absolutely not. If that ever crosses my mind, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 1: plap myself and be like Caitlin, You're standing on a
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  Speaker 1: stage on Broadway. You're living your dream. Okay good. I
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  Speaker 1: was actually there. Uh. I don't know if people remember this,
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  Speaker 1: but I was actually there for Caitlin's Broadway to be
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  Speaker 1: debut on the lad that's right. Yeah, I spent that
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  Speaker 1: day watching Cupcake. Our good friend Chris Chamberg dances little
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  Speaker 1: hard out. I brought my jam from home. Um, and
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  Speaker 1: I've been thinking about who could be my Aladdin for Halloween,
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  Speaker 1: and Chris would love to do that. I've seen it. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: he's got some great spirit fingers. Um, hey, Caitlin, before
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  Speaker 1: we let you go here, I know you have to
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  Speaker 1: catch a flight, just give it. If you can't, give
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  Speaker 1: us a quick shout out to um. Like again, what
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  Speaker 1: you're doing on Broadway? What's what's it called? When? When
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  Speaker 1: does it start? And how people can find tickets? Oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, wait, I don't know how you find tickets? Um, googleron. Yes.
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  Speaker 1: So it's it's called Home for the Holidays. It's a
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  Speaker 1: Christmas show over um from beginning the middle of November
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  Speaker 1: to end of December. Um. It's winners from American Idol,
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  Speaker 1: the Voice, a bunch of amazing talent and uh, actually
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  Speaker 1: know what the link is in my bio on Instagram
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  Speaker 1: to go buy tickets so you can do that, and
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  Speaker 1: uh come watch me in action perfect keep crushing at Caitlin. Seriously,
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  Speaker 1: it's fun to watch and I will one be there
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  Speaker 1: around Thanksgiving. I'm going to see you. I'm not going
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  Speaker 1: to miss That's a big Broadway buff. You can sleep
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  Speaker 1: on my weird New York couch and of that, thank
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  Speaker 1: you by If you do want to catch Caitlin, it'll
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  Speaker 1: be at the August Wilson Theater. Tickets are at Broadway
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  Speaker 1: dot com. You know she is. She is absolutely crushing
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  Speaker 1: her right now. Um, Caitlin is really like one of
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  Speaker 1: the most talented people. I'm not just saying this because
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  Speaker 1: I'm not hitting on her anymore. I don't think so. Um,
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  Speaker 1: but no, she really is. You even knew that when
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  Speaker 1: she was a bachelor, Like she is just one of
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  Speaker 1: the most skilled and talented people to ever come through
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  Speaker 1: this franchise. You knew she was just going to be
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  Speaker 1: a star at whatever she did post Bachelorette. All right,
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, forever ago? Um? Well, I started obviously
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• 16:02
  Speaker 1: for a second. You were on Christal season with me,
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: and then we did our first season of Paradise together
• 16:08
  Speaker 1: season two, and you had a little drama with Joe Bailey.
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: You Bailey, and apparently since then you ended up falling
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: for our fellow castmate j J Lane, who was on
• 16:22
  Speaker 1: Caitlin season at the Bachelor and one of Ben's good friends. Yeah,
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: I mean it was crazy. I we stayed friends after
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: the show. We talked, you know, constantly. He's a single dad,
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: I'm a single mom, so we talked a lot about
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: that and just like the struggles of you know, being
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: a single parent and I don't know, just bund and
• 16:41
  Speaker 1: we were really good friends for a long time and
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: we go to events together and then finally we're just
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: kind of like, what are we doing? We should be dating.
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: I mean I watched him go on dates. I was like, oh,
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: get him j j um. But yeah, we ended up.
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: It was just more of an organic thing. I don't know.
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: We just decided to start dating, and then the opportunity
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: for marriage book came along, and we both thought it
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: was a great idea because I live in San Diego,
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: he lives in Denver, and we just wanted to escalate
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: the relationship to see where it was going to go,
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: because you know, I didn't want to introduce anyone just
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: to my daughter and UM. So that's why we did
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: marriage Bootcamp. So it's called marriage Bootcamp, but you don't
• 17:16
  Speaker 1: have to be married. No, not for the reality stars,
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: I guess, but I think the other ones they mostly are.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: So that's a that's a point to bring up here,
• 17:23
  Speaker 1: just in case people don't know so you do have
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: a daughter, correct, tell us a little bit about her.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: Ireland is four and a half now. She is a spitfire.
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: She keeps me in high toes like I've exhausted all
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: the time. But she is literally the best thing that's
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: ever happened in my life. She is so fabulous and wonderful.
• 17:40
  Speaker 1: I want to know when you think it's the right
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: time for people to meet your daughter, like j J
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: or did you ever meet it? I never met Gemma. Um,
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: we would FaceTime, so I met v face time. You
• 17:52
  Speaker 1: met Ireland via FaceTime, but I had never introduced anyone
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: to her in her entire life. So she's four and
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: a half now. I I'm very very protective of her,
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: and um, I'm not going to just introduce anybody into
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: her life when you know she doesn't have a father,
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: and I don't want her to get attacked to people
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: that you know aren't going to be in her life
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: for a long time. So here's a deal. So you
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: go on you you're dating JJ. Okay, that's where this
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: is at right now. Um, and you go on marriage
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: boot Camp Reality Stars kind of without ruining the whole
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: show or ruin the whole show. I have nothing invested
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: in this. What happens? How does this play out with
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: you and j J? Um? So on last Friday's show,
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: you guys got to see a little bit about I
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: think the main reason why I couldn't move forward with
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: j J in the long run Um basically he wrote
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: this letter that UM basically just picked apart everything about
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: me physically that he didn't like, and it was like
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: nothing to do with our relationship or my personality, and
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: it just was. It was a huge red flog, obviously,
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: and it was something that I thought to myself, like,
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: I can't be with someone like that long term. What
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: if I and a car accident, what if I gained
• 19:01
  Speaker 1: vibe pounds or you know, It's just not anything that
• 19:04
  Speaker 1: I was interested in. I'm sorry, what, Yeah, where did
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: that come? What kind of things are in this letter? Well,
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: I mean I'm assuming that the counselors during marriage boot
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: camp encourage you guys to write a letter about all
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: the things that that your partner wanted you to work on. Right,
• 19:17
  Speaker 1: it was something along those lines. It was called the
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: lever letter that was never sent. It's basically a letter
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: that you write all the things down about your partner
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: that maybe you don't like that would hurt their feelings
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: or you want them to work on anything along those lines.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: And we when we wrote the letter, we didn't actually
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: think that our partner was going to read it. So
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: then they kind of like, I had another drill letter
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: that day, and I obviously was thinking, like, come on,
• 19:41
  Speaker 1: what are they gonna do with this letter? What did
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: you say about j J? I just basically said that
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: I think that he was hung up on his marriage
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: and that he needed to deal with, you know, things
• 19:53
  Speaker 1: with his ex wife. And I think that he just
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: has a hard time moving forward because it hasn't fully
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: gotten over that yet. This is off, I mean, I
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: get it right. So it doesn't sound like JJ was
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: just doing this out of nowhere, right. He was prompted
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: to write all the stuff down, didn't know if you're
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: going to read it or not. And then you you
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: have to read this or you get to read this
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: letter that he wrote about you, and it hurts, it
• 20:13
  Speaker 1: stings deep, right, uh? And so your response to that was, well,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: he actually refused to read the letter, and then the
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: doctors kind of forced him. He like, they framed it
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: and put in our room. So I when I walked
• 20:27
  Speaker 1: into our room. I was sitting right there. Yeah, they're
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: they're fun over there. But um, yeah, so I I
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: think he thought that I would have never read it,
• 20:37
  Speaker 1: and when I did read it, it was just so
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: shocking to me because we've been such close friends for
• 20:41
  Speaker 1: so long and I was just like, really, this is
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: what you see when you look at me? Like that's
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: so sad, and um, yeah it was hurtful. I mean, Luckily,
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I'm a really confident woman and I don't believe the
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: things that he wrote. Um, but if I wasn't, I
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: think that would have been damaging for life. Honestly. Yeah,
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: I haven't seen the episode. I actually don't know like
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: what it says. Um. I mean the one thing I mean,
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: j J is a buddy, someone to kind of stay
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: out of this. One thing I do know about JJ
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: is he he's very honest in his filter, as we've
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: seen even on shows, he doesn't have one, like he thinks,
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: like what he thinks is what he says. Um. I'll
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: have to go back and watch this episode to see
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: what this letter says. It just doesn't sound like a
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: very healthy exercise. I don't see the benefit. What was
• 21:27
  Speaker 1: the benefit in this drama for a TV show exactly,
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: not because I mean the way that we read the
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: letters was us half of us actually pretending like we
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: had died, and then he was basically at my death
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: bed and he was like and he was admitting the
• 21:42
  Speaker 1: things that he didn't like. I know. The doctor was like, JJ,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: this is the last thing you ever said to Julius,
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: so go ahead and read this to her on her deathbed,
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: and it was just probably the worst part was just
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: that he was worried that I was going to get
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: bigger and that he thought that I already was. And
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, there was a lot like that. J. We
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: need to have him on next week to scold him. Um,
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: that say, doesn't sound like a healthy practice, Like, okay,
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: here's the deal, not defending JJ. I don't know what
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: the letter said, so I really have no basis for this,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: but the practice in itself doesn't sound healthy to me. Right,
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: You ask somebody to write a letter to be honest,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: to get out all of your issues, which I think
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: is healthy in relationship is to say, Okay, these are
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: the things that I'm not not exactly excited about in
• 22:23
  Speaker 1: my partner, or these are the things I have issues
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: with my partner. I don't think that's a bad practice
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: if you like put it in a journal and you
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: keep it to yourself, or you talk to a counselor
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: or a confident in it, but don't do it with
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: the expectation of, hey, my partners ever going to see this,
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: so it won't actually affect them personally. This is just
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: a practice for me to get off my chest then
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: make you read it like totally unfair and totally uncalled
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: for on a part of these relationship doctors, the love
• 22:46
  Speaker 1: Doctors totally. Jade and Tanner did this last year, and
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: Jade said that it was like the most emotionally exhausted
• 22:53
  Speaker 1: sixteen days of your life. Do you agree? A million percent?
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: I wanted to leave. It was like out there so
• 22:58
  Speaker 1: ja yeah, I mean the first stay it was just
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: like super overwhelmed. And I mean after the letter came out,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I was just like, oh my gosh, how am I
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: supposed to continue like doing therapy, you know, with someone
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: that I don't truly trust anymore? Right? Yeah, so yeah,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: it was exhausting. So today you you were and JJ
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: are no longer together. Um, I'll spoil that. I happen
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: to know that from my insight sources, and you are
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: dating somebody that actually told me about Yeah. He you
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: met him at Carly and Evan's wedding and he is there.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: He is who Aaron Bass? It is Evan Bass's friend.
• 23:34
  Speaker 1: There that dark Bass family continues to pick up the chicks.
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: So I've been together for roughly five months now. Tell
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: us about how it was at the wedding. Was it
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: love at first sight? You were kind of getty over
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: him and actually wasn't love at first night, just because
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: I didn't know much about him. I was there for
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: You're not supposed to know the person you fall in
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: love with the first night. I mean, my point was
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: that I was focused there on Carly, and I was
• 23:59
  Speaker 1: there for Ali were in Mexico. I'm not thinking about
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: like trying to meet something your bridesmaid. Yeah, that's true.
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: He was a groomsman, and so I met him when
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: we were trying on our you know, wedding outfits and
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: all of that, and we all went to dinner together
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: and went out with um Wells and went out drinking
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: in to the bar and just ended up talking to him.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: He's amazing, he's um. He looks nothing like Evan. I
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: wouldn't have even thought they were not at all. Sorry,
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: but he's very funny, he's charming, he's sweet. Um, It's
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: just not something that I thought about at that time,
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: just because he lives in Nashville. I live at San Diego.
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: I've just done a long distancing, you know. Um. But
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: the more time I spent with him, the more I realized.
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, this guy is pretty cool. And um,
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: he ended up coming to visit me in San Diego
• 24:52
  Speaker 1: and the rest is kind of history from there. What
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: an incredible story, I mean, it is. It is crazy
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: how you can meet somebody and then you have to
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: meet a met a wedding, which I feel like a
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: lot of people meet at weddings. I mean, I think
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: it's a great way to I was gonna say, I
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: wonder I want to ask you actually when she said, hey,
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I was there for Carly. I'm going to the wedding
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: for Carly. I was there to support Carly and all
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: of that. And you and not meet somebody is what
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: Julie just said. And you go, well, you're at a wedding,
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: did you in your back you head think what weddings
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: are the best place to meet people? Um? You know,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: not only is there an open bar, which I think
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: can be dangerous and meeting people too, but I think
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: that people are the right mindset there because love is
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: on their mind and they're saying seeing this very happy couple,
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: um dedicate their lives to each other. And then you're like, okay,
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: well I think this guy, even if he's not normally
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: in this marriage, UM, point of mind, point of mind,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: a frame of mind. I get it. I think of mind.
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: I think that maybe today he's thinking about that and
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: everybody looks their best. It's just what do you think?
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: I agree? No, there's love is in the air. It's
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: always when when love is in the air and you're
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: celebrating love, I think love flows from it. Um your
• 26:01
  Speaker 1: good friend for going to support Carly at this way
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: and Julia. But I'm glad you kept your eyes open
• 26:06
  Speaker 1: and your heart open to what was hiding beneath the
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: Bass family and that was beautiful lover. Yet. Yes, yes,
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: he was the first guy that you introduced Ireland too.
• 26:20
  Speaker 1: Since your husband passed away. That's a lot. That's a
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: big deal. How did he handle it? Was he impressive?
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, he was so sweet with her. He
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: got her a giant pink teddy bear that was bigger
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: than her, and you know, of course that went were
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: over previously, and then we went to the zoo and
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: it was just really fun. It was only for like
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: four hours, but it was just so much fun. And
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: now they faced them all the time and it's really cute.
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: That's so cute. Would you ever consider moving to Nashville
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: to be closer to him? I would consider it. It's
• 26:48
  Speaker 1: a big I can see nobody can see this. But
• 26:51
  Speaker 1: when you asked that, Julia kind of lit up a
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: little bit, like this has already been talked about. You
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: and Carly sister in law. I know that's some that
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: we've never seen before. Yeah, I mean Carley came straight
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: to my house after she came, you know, from getting
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: engaged from Evan on Paradise, and I remember thinking like, wait,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: who are you engaged? Shoes? She's like the erect called
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: this function guy. I'm like, wait what he's got he's got?
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: Back then, I just would have never thought that I
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: would ever like be dating, you know, his brother, and like,
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: it's just crazy, but we could get two bachelor marriages
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: out of that one meeting. You just got so excited.
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: I know. I'm sure she was going to kill me
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: after this. That was a beautiful We have a couple
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: of emails. A lot of people are huge fans of Julia,
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: and so we have a couple of emails that came
• 27:41
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• 30:17
  Speaker 1: And I said that as you're saying imagery right. So
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: now it just sounds really creepy and weird that I
• 30:21
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• 30:27
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• 30:32
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• 30:34
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• 30:38
  Speaker 1: is this one sad. It's from Susan. My partner died
• 30:41
  Speaker 1: six months ago, and obviously that was incredibly devastating for me.
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: I know, I'm not ready for another serious relationship, but
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: it has been very lonely, and I've actually tried to
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: date casually. I hooked up with my friend's roommate. Things
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: got super awkward. When he asked me something that brought
• 30:56
  Speaker 1: up my partner. I text him to ask if he
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: wanted to just be friends or if there was something
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: else going on. He said that he did not want
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: a serious relationship and wasn't good at casual dating. The
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: next week I was hanging out with his roommate, he
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: mentioned hanging out with the guy I hooked up with
• 31:11
  Speaker 1: and his new girlfriend. Obviously he was lying when he
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: said he didn't want a relationship. This really makes me
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: think that he was overwhelmed by the fact that I'm
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: a widow. Have you ever had experiences similar to this
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: and do you have any advice for young widows who
• 31:24
  Speaker 1: are dipping their toes back into the dating pool. Um, Well,
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: the first thing is I can say that there's I
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: don't think there's a certain time frame that you should
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: be basing it off of. I think it's just based
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: on however you're feeling. Everyone's different, every situation is different. Um,
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: as far as you know, people being scared off by it.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: If someone scared off by he's definitely not the right
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: person for you. And UM, I mean, I don't think
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: that's something that truly really matters. I think maybe maybe
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: she wasn't Like I don't know, maybe they didn't meshed
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: as well as she thought, and maybe she just needs
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: to take time to herself and you know, figure out
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: who she truly is and what she truly wants and
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: not try to be dating. Do you think that possibly
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: he was thrown off by the fact that her husband
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: had only died six months earlier. I think six months
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: is a very short amount of time for grief. Um. However,
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: you know, like I said, each situation is different. I
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: don't um. I think everyone just has to decide for themselves.
• 32:26
  Speaker 1: I think when we have a loss or we have
• 32:27
  Speaker 1: a whole from whatever it is, you do have to
• 32:30
  Speaker 1: react and try to fill that somehow, and if you
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: don't do with a positive thing, it can be detrimental
• 32:36
  Speaker 1: to who you are as a person. I think in general,
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: like if you're losing somebody, no matter if it's a
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: father or a husband, or even like a breakup of
• 32:45
  Speaker 1: somebody that you've been with for a long time or divorce,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: I think any of those situations, you just need to
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: take your time figure out who you are, what you
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: truly want, um, and just do take the time to
• 32:58
  Speaker 1: heal for yourself. I think it's important to feel whole
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: before you try to enter back into a relationship because
• 33:04
  Speaker 1: then you're just you're hoping that they can fill the void,
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: which they never will. So you have to do that yourself,
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: and hopefully you take the time to do that. It's uh,
• 33:14
  Speaker 1: you are a testament to this and it's something that
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: is encouraging for me to see and hear about you.
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: And I want you to speak to listeners out there.
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: We do have a lot of um young ladies and
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: men that listen to the show. You know, when you
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: go through a tragedy in life, Ah, it often feels
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: like it will never go away, right, that that just
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: pain and that you'll never heal. But you're a testament
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: that you can heal, that you can move on, right.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: Had I mean, can you give some encouragement, just some
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: words of wisdom based on some experience to the people listening. Yeah,
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: So for me personally, I mean, when my husband died,
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: I had no idea what I was gonna do. My
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: daughter was seven weeks old. I had just become a mom.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: I moved back to Oregon, where my family is from,
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: because I was living in southern California and I just
• 33:59
  Speaker 1: had I was in no state to be you know,
• 34:02
  Speaker 1: raising a child by myself. Um, So for me, I
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: you know, went to the comfort of my family to
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: try to just like rebuild a life. And um, I
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: think just the main thing is is that, you know,
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: I allowed myself to cry myself to sleep probably for
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: an entire year, and then after that I was like, okay,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: like I have to make a choice at this point,
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Like I can't wallow and my sorrows for probably ever
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: and probably no one would blame me for that. But
• 34:32
  Speaker 1: I look at my little girl, and I look at
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: my life. Is this what I want for my life? No,
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: it isn't, and this wasn't my choice, and it is
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: my choice how I move forward. So at this point
• 34:42
  Speaker 1: I have to choose to be happy. I have to
• 34:45
  Speaker 1: choose to smile at my daughter, and I have to
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: choose to show her when you fall down, you stand
• 34:50
  Speaker 1: back up and you start something new. So I think
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: that's just the main thing is that it really truly
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: is a choice to be happy. It's something to sit
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: on for say, it is even as you say it,
• 35:02
  Speaker 1: like it's a choice to be happy. You know, I
• 35:05
  Speaker 1: think for me and my experiences in life, I often
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: wait for that moment's okay, now I'm good. You know,
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: when I wake up in the morning, Okay, now today
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: is the day that changes everything, and it doesn't exactly
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: go that way. And so for coming from somebody like
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: you who has been there and as a testament has
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: the wisdom to share that, it's it has to be
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: a choice. And for the listeners out there, we get
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: a ton of emails about relationships and about breakups and
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: about loss from the from everybody that listens to podcasts,
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: and oftentimes I think Astley and I are kind of
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: at a lack of words and wisdom because we just
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: we don't know. But but what you're saying is it's
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: a choice. Choose to be happy, to choose to move on.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: It's okay, it's okay to be happy. They won't want
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: you to move on because they want you to stay.
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: Well for me personally, well, I've noticed and I've talked
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: to people. When you know you're in a situation where
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: your spouse dies, people have a hard time with you
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: moving on. You're not that person's spouse anymore. So I
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: think it it's hard, but you have to not worry
• 36:06
  Speaker 1: about that because it's your life and you're not that
• 36:09
  Speaker 1: person's spouse anymore and you're you, so you have to
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: like reclaim your identity. How long did it take you
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: to feel like you could start dating again and you
• 36:22
  Speaker 1: were you again? Um? I would say like after the
• 36:26
  Speaker 1: first year. Like I said, the first year, it was
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: just so hard, all the first everything. Um, and then
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: after that, I just I just I literally I'll never
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: forget the day I woke up and I was like,
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: no more of this, no more of this. I'm gonna
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: do things that I want to do, and I'm gonna
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: have a great life with my daughter. I have this
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: beautiful blessing, and um, I moved back to California, which
• 36:49
  Speaker 1: is where I initially was before, and that where I
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: wanted to live. And so that was like my first
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: step was just like you know, I can do this,
• 36:56
  Speaker 1: and um, I didn't start dating. I would say for like,
• 37:01
  Speaker 1: it was definitely over a year about the Bachelor time, right,
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: Bachelor was like almost two years, like a year and
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: a half two years. Do you think that was sort
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: of a helpful way to kind of like you're you're
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: jumping in so hard, but this is the thing I went.
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: I went on match dot Com because I was like
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: throwing myself back and I was like, okay, I gotta
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: do this. I don't think we had like cool like
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: bumble ups back then. So we went on match dot
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: Com and I went on the Worst Days to you guys.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: You Oh my god, it was so terrible. I just
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: remember coming home and being like, this is what's left?
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: Like what the heck am I going to do? This
• 37:36
  Speaker 1: is awful? Um? And so I was laughing and I'm like,
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna apply to be on the Bachelor because
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: the Bachelor's screened, like I don't have to worry about that. UM.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: And my friends like, oh my god, you actually should
• 37:48
  Speaker 1: apply to be on the Bachelor, and I'm like what Okay.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: So anyways, that's how that happened. But and did the
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: sense of community that came with the show really help
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: you get off your feet? I mean I feel like
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: I truly was like myself again before I went out
• 38:04
  Speaker 1: to Bachelor, because the thing is I wasn't trying to
• 38:06
  Speaker 1: heal myself by like throwing myself on a reality that
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: would have been one of those bad decisions. Let's fill
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: a void with the back. If anybody out there is
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: a little public service announcement. If you have a void
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: in life, do not fill that void with reality Television's great,
• 38:24
  Speaker 1: that's a great pointer. I have one last question for you.
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: You're talking about how you had to make that choice
• 38:32
  Speaker 1: to be happy, and it had to be conscious. So
• 38:36
  Speaker 1: how long did it go from being conscious? Like I'm
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: gonna smile, I'm gonna laugh, I'm gonna do what I
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: like supposedly want to do, and maybe my brain, but
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: not in my soul right now, because your soul was
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: probably still sad. How long did it take for those
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: things that you were telling yourself to do to come naturally? Honestly,
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: it was pretty quickly. Once I like made the shift,
• 38:57
  Speaker 1: everything just I just started doing all the things that
• 38:59
  Speaker 1: I need to do, and I didn't worry about what
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: other people thought of me or we're judging me for
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: I just was doing what truly made me happy, and
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: I didn't. It's not that I didn't care about other
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: people's thoughts anymore, it's just that I didn't. I had
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: been so sad for so long that I was just done.
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: I like that. It's kind of like that self fulfilling prophecy,
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: Like you're saying, I forced myself to smile and pretty
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: quickly I didn't have to force it anyway. It's true,
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: that's really good advice. It is really good because I
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: don't think I've really ever had a time where I
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: was in such grief. But I'm thinking back in the
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: times that I could say we're like my darkest which
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: really weren't that darkness scheme of life. Um. I'm just
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: thinking about like if one day I had said stop,
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: just like wake up and be happy and just keep
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: trying to smile and not feel like this, I just
• 39:47
  Speaker 1: wonder how long that would have taken. Julie Kenny, you
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: are a testament to um perseverance and to making those
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: positive choices. Thank you for coming on too to day
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: with us, and thank you for being vulnerable and sharing
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: your story. What I want to tell you is that
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: there are a lot of people out there and listen
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: to this, and so you know, Actuley knows a piece
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: of the story. I know piece of the story, and
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: there's people out there that probably know pieces of your story.
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: But for you to explain it and to be intentional about, hey,
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: this is the things you can do to to heal
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: means a lot to everybody out there. Listening. So thank
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: you for coming in here today. We appreciate you. A
• 40:23
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• 40:26
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• 40:34
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• 42:11
  Speaker 1: big Bachelor Nation newsweek. So first we have Caitlin and Broadway.
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: Then we have Ari's season with Emily now up on Hulu.
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: So if you want to get to know more about Ari,
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: go to Hulu watch Emily season. It's one of the
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: best bachelortte seasons I've ever watched. Are you going to
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: rewatch it? I might. I think I'm going to Actually,
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: really there's there's a small personage. Actually watch his season.
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure always great, but the bene watch
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: a whole Bachelorette season doesn't seem very exciting. Well, it
• 42:47
  Speaker 1: is like you have that problem because it's anti climactic
• 42:50
  Speaker 1: because you know what happened, so you don't like stay
• 42:52
  Speaker 1: invested so long. But it was such a good season.
• 42:55
  Speaker 1: I love Emily. I just like watch her talk and
• 42:57
  Speaker 1: her sweet voice. Yeah, that's not worth it to me
• 43:01
  Speaker 1: for Emily and less for our I have. I have
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: something crazy going on. So I see this picture and
• 43:06
  Speaker 1: it's in the group with me group thread that I'm
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: in that I talked about sometimes Karan and Tomorrow at
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: a Halloween party. I guess I'm out of the They
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: look happy together. Are they dating? Are they hanging out? Like?
• 43:17
  Speaker 1: What's going on? Actually? I know you know this. I
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: actually I know that they're not dating. I don't think that.
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: I think they maybe just use it because the magazines
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: use their photo. I think they're very smart because they
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: know what gets publicity. Um, I think they're definitely hanging out. Okay,
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: is that wrong for me to say? I think they're friends.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: I think they're totally friends. They get along and they're like,
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: let's show up together at the party because it'll make
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: a splash. I'm really glad they're friends. That's that. That
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: is important. My confusion. I just I remember going back
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: to a few months ago and the whole scandal happened,
• 43:49
  Speaker 1: and it was it was heavy, and it was dark,
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: and there were tears from the producers and from the cast.
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: I remember that there's just this heaviness over our podcast
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: that day, and I think back on that and I
• 43:59
  Speaker 1: look at this and it's like, Okay, I hope they're
• 44:01
  Speaker 1: not using this for fame. I don't know if they
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: are not. Of course they are, um, I mean I
• 44:05
  Speaker 1: think they're genuinely friends. I just think that it's maybe
• 44:07
  Speaker 1: pictures and stuff like timing. When there's gonna be photogs around,
• 44:10
  Speaker 1: then yeah, that's a little plan. I'm not being rude.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if she's on the carpet alone and
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: he's on the carpet alone, no one's running the photo.
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: If they're on the carpet together in their nutty Halloween costumes,
• 44:21
  Speaker 1: that photo went everywhere. It just is Yeah, I don't know.
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: I feel weird about it. All the listeners out there,
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: please email us do you feel weird about this? I mean,
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: I'm glad they're friends. Like I said, I don't have
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: a problem with them being friends, but it seems weird
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: to me. So if if you have an opinion like
• 44:38
  Speaker 1: like it or not, if you agree with me or not,
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: email us at Ben and Ashley I heart media dot com.
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Can we talk about this headline Ben higgins latest post
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: bachelor endeavor will make you cringe? Thank you for that.
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: So if you keep reading the first sentence of that
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: I've read this article goes Ben Higgins, who's not known
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: for his sense of humor. To be I don't know,
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: googling and you see an article that says your own
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: name and cringe. Yeah, it feels awesome that before Yeah
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: it feels really really good. I'm telling you what, Like,
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: the last few days have been really like uplifting for
• 45:20
  Speaker 1: me too. I did Okay, So here's the deal. Let's
• 45:22
  Speaker 1: talk about it. Last night in Denver, Colorado, at a
• 45:25
  Speaker 1: place called Comedy Works. It was last night. It was
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: last night. Yeah, I pursued stand up comedy for the
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: first time. I did. It was so it was a
• 45:34
  Speaker 1: part of a of a television show that I'm gonna
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: be a part of called First Look on NBC. I'm
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: guest hosting an episode that takes place in Denver, and
• 45:43
  Speaker 1: part of the episode was to put me out of
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: my comfort zone for me to do something that makes
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: me a more well rounded partner. Did you get to
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: choose what you're going to do? No? I mean no,
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: honestly not, because I think the show said, okay, well
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: they looked at me and they said, we need you
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: to be a better well rounded partner for somebody. Humor
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: is a huge part of that. Let's see if you
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: have humor or a personality or you don't. So when
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: it was announced that I was doing stand up in Denver,
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: than The Denver posted a couple of articles. Um, Bustle
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: did an article and the and and the whole articles
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: like they're shocked. I mean, you know, good at feels
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: for somebody to be shocked that you have a personality.
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: That's just the people are obviously not listening to the
• 46:22
  Speaker 1: Almost His podcast, because if they do, they know you're
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: no no, no, no, they rip on you too. I'll
• 46:28
  Speaker 1: read your on me or him. Oh you Ashley, they
• 46:31
  Speaker 1: say I'm not. He is now hosting a podcast with
• 46:35
  Speaker 1: the queen of capitalizing on the Bachelor franchise, Ashley. I yeah,
• 46:39
  Speaker 1: proud of it. Ben barely did press after his Bachelor season.
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: Now he's interviewing Bachelor lums every week for his own show,
• 46:46
  Speaker 1: and I feel like I needed to fend myself here.
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: So here's the deal. Ashley is proud that she's capitalizing
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: on the fame she should be. Would I just do
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: it and then be like, you know what, let's not
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: let okay, I went to broadcast. I haven't broadcast journalism.
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: I always wanted to do stuff like this, So let's
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: like not make it seem like I was supposed to,
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: Like I wanted to go into obscurity. Well great, I
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: think you guys own it. Let me explain myself. I
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: need to defend myself, so you're right. Post Bachelor, Uh,
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: let me just give you my life story. It's gonna
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: be a lot of fun for everybody listen to um.
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: Post Bachelor, I did very little press. Laura and I
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: were together. We want to pursue our relationship. It was
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: important for us to kind of take a step away
• 47:27
  Speaker 1: to see to figure out who we were. Uh, that
• 47:29
  Speaker 1: was a different time in my life. I had somebody
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: that I was uh not just responsible for, but I
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: was trying to pursue a relationship with I'm on my
• 47:35
  Speaker 1: own now. I'm a one man show. Um, I can
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: travel the world if I want, and nobody really cares.
• 47:42
  Speaker 1: And so life for me looks a little different than
• 47:44
  Speaker 1: it did post Bachelor. I was trying to manage my
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: life then in a different way than I'm managing my
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: life now. I do a great podcast. I don't know
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: if you've heard about it, but it's called Almost Famous
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: podcast on I Heart Radio with Ashley I Ken Eddie
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: um the Queen of capitalizing and uh wait, since when
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: in America is it a bad thing to happen? You
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: had to bring this up and now she's gonna be
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: piste off the whole show about I'm kidding, this is
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: about cringe, e Ben and so and so we do
• 48:13
  Speaker 1: this podcast, and then NBC reaches out and say, hey,
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: we love you to guess host a show called First Look.
• 48:18
  Speaker 1: I'm all about it. This stuff's fun. I want to do.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: I have no shame in doing this. Is this stuffs
• 48:23
  Speaker 1: so blast I got to do stand up comedy last
• 48:25
  Speaker 1: night and I tell you what, Ashley, You're good at it.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: I failed gracefully. No, I actually did not fail. We
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: got some laughs. Um, nobody was too critical. It was
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: a lot of fun. And and here's the best part.
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I would never claim, never claim I'm the funniest person
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: out there. I would never claim that. I even that.
• 48:42
  Speaker 1: When somebody thinks of me, they go that know that
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: knows me to go, oh, yeah, I've been so funny.
• 48:46
  Speaker 1: But I wouldn't say Ben so funny. But I'd say
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: Ben has a good sense of humor. I hope. So,
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: I hope that's the case. I want that. But so
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: here's the deal. I tried something that I wasn't comfortable
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: with last night. I tried something I'd never done before.
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: I tried something that when I got off stage last night,
• 49:02
  Speaker 1: my heart was pounding, like absolutely pounding. Was her handshaking
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: on the mic? I don't think so. I was really
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: calm and confident up there because I just taught myself
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: to be like I told myself I have to be.
• 49:12
  Speaker 1: But when I got off the stage, I was freaking out.
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: And I'm glad I did it because I do actually
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: feel that after last night's experience, I am a little
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: more well rounded than I was yesterday morning. That's awesome.
• 49:25
  Speaker 1: So hey to bustle to the articles out there, um
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: that claim I don't have a sense of humor. Let's
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: get to know each other now. I will say I
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: reached out to the girl that wrote the article lady,
• 49:36
  Speaker 1: I probably shouldn't say girl, the lady that wrote the article,
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: and she they did respond but said she was getting
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: on a plane and unavailable to talk to you. But
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: we did try. We did try. So here's the deal.
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: We're not mad at or we just want to prove
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: how funny you are. I'm not mad at at all.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: That's I mean. Hey, people are entitled their opinions. I
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: could I mean, I could care. I care it hurts
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: a little bit, bustle, like it stings a little bit
• 49:58
  Speaker 1: right here in the heart, but it does it hurt
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: that much? Like we could talk about this as friends
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: now right, um, But you need to judge for yourself.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: So check out first look on NBC. It's gonna air
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: like January twenty. Look for it on after SNL The
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: Best Time Funny. I'm sorry, do you have any jokes
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: you could give us from last night? So this is
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: how I'll say this. So I walked up on stage.
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: How many sold out house? So here's the deal. So
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: I walk up on stage. This is my my weakest joke.
• 50:32
  Speaker 1: It's how I opened up. But I'm gonna give to
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: you guys. Why would you open up? Hey, here's the
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: because you don't want to leave them with your weakest
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: and want them to leave with the strongest. Actually stand
• 50:43
  Speaker 1: up one on one. Actually, how do you not know
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: that you have a stand up coach? I did. I
• 50:47
  Speaker 1: worked with a group called the Pussy Bros. And that's
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: about that's cats cat bros. Um. So they're a great
• 50:54
  Speaker 1: stand up group out of Denver. It's three females. Um.
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: They're amazing and their story is great. And so we
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: have to do is check out the episode. But here's
• 51:02
  Speaker 1: my my jokes. So here can we pretend for a second? Actually,
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: will you announced me? All right, ladies and gentlemen, are
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: you ready for your headlining comic of the night Ben Higgins? Hey, everybody,
• 51:16
  Speaker 1: thank you so much for the five minutes on stage tonight,
• 51:20
  Speaker 1: considering I've already had my fifteen minutes a little bit,
• 51:29
  Speaker 1: a little bit. Hey, hey, that's good stuff, but it
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: gets better. So watch the episode. Uh, you're not trying
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: to be a stand up comic, You're just doing it
• 51:39
  Speaker 1: as a bit for this TV show. Yeah. And then
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: the thing is, I don't want people to think, you know,
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: Vanilla Bland. I know. I remember when SNL did the
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: skit about me for my season it was the Bland.
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: Which is the fact that SNL did a skit about you.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: You know that means you've made it right And I
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: talked now on this podcast, so I'm not that boring. Um,
• 51:59
  Speaker 1: then you one of the least born people ever so
• 52:03
  Speaker 1: slowly but surely. Um, we're gonna keep showing it. For example,
• 52:07
  Speaker 1: we did lip sync Battle. Uh, and I'll just give
• 52:09
  Speaker 1: a sneak preview to lipsning Battle. My shirt does come
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: off at one point during that. Hey, I'm coming out
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: of my shell. This is a new band. It's not
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: a new band, it's the same. It's I'm you know,
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: I'm just I'm coming out of my shell. I'm opening
• 52:22
  Speaker 1: myself up to the world like a flower in the springtime. No, okay, no, hey,
• 52:28
  Speaker 1: we have some great emails. Um, Higg easier, watch out
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: pigg easier. All right, So back in college, they used
• 52:36
  Speaker 1: to like say, that and chant that when he would
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: walk into a room, that's how much life he brings
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: a room. And so now Ashley does it for me
• 52:43
  Speaker 1: on this podcast. Team definitely does it every day. You
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: know what I like to do. It gets me really
• 52:47
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  Speaker 1: shifting as a as humans to where having a hairy
• 54:42
  Speaker 1: chest is now attractive again? I think so? I like it.
• 54:46
  Speaker 1: I like it. That's an important topic for me. I
• 54:48
  Speaker 1: had a comment made at yesterday at one point to
• 54:51
  Speaker 1: me about having a hairy chest, and you do, but
• 54:53
  Speaker 1: you have the perfect amount of hair. Yeah, but I'm
• 54:55
  Speaker 1: not ashamed of I like it, and and you don't
• 54:57
  Speaker 1: understand when you when I shave like it gets caught
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: on my shirts. Um, but I just knew somebody to ask,
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: and so I thought i'd ask Amy and Ashley having
• 55:05
  Speaker 1: a hairy chest? Is it back? Are we? Are we
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: bringing it back? Um? I've never thought of it as
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: something that should have gone away. I think that men
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: should probably have hair on their chest. I agree with
• 55:16
  Speaker 1: man escaping. I think you can trim it a little bit.
• 55:18
  Speaker 1: I don't want your your chest as a twenty eight
• 55:21
  Speaker 1: year old boy year old man, to look like my
• 55:25
  Speaker 1: dad's chess, but like I like you to have a
• 55:28
  Speaker 1: little something there. I hope my chest doesn't look like
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: your dad's chest either. Hey, but Bradley Cooper is an
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: excellent example of Oddie he man escapes. Well, yeah, google
• 55:39
  Speaker 1: Bradley Cooper shirtless. You know you can google almost any
• 55:41
  Speaker 1: celebrity shirtless and they they pop right up. I knew
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: that Bradley Cooper is hot shirts. I look at myself.
• 55:48
  Speaker 1: Can I google Ashley I shirt? But you can do
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  Speaker 1: Ben Higgins shirt. I'll do it okay at home? Give that,
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• 55:59
  Speaker 1: and then everybody at home that's listening, please email your
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: opinions on is it cool from men to have a
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: hairy chest um or not a hairy chest, but a
• 56:08
  Speaker 1: hair on their chest? Email us at Ben and Ashley
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: at I heart media dot com with your opinions, your thoughts.
• 56:15
  Speaker 1: All right, so you guys some emails from our listeners.
• 56:18
  Speaker 1: You want to take him over? Yes, Hello, Ben and Ashley.
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: I currently work as a sex and couples therapists and
• 56:25
  Speaker 1: one issue I repeatedly here is the timing just wasn't right.
• 56:28
  Speaker 1: I already love this email. My boyfriend and I lived
• 56:31
  Speaker 1: together for two years and when our least was coming
• 56:34
  Speaker 1: to an end, he basically told me that he needed
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: to figure himself out and quote be alone up and
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: quote be alone to work on his wants and needs
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: before fully committing. He insists he doesn't want to marry me,
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: but it's just not the right timing for him because
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: he needs to mature and grow on his own first.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: This word timing is something that I just constantly here
• 56:57
  Speaker 1: in breakups, and honestly, I think it's b s. I
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: would really love for you guys to give your perspectives
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: on this issue. Love you guys, Rachel. All right, before
• 57:06
  Speaker 1: I ask you, Ben, I did a podcast on my
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: other podcast with Jared Wells and Cupcake, and this topic
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: got brought up because so many guys and just like
• 57:18
  Speaker 1: I'm you know, I'm a girl, so I only hear
• 57:19
  Speaker 1: guys saying it. UM. So many guys are saying, oh,
• 57:22
  Speaker 1: the timing, I'm just really not into that. This timing
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: is not working out for me, and I always think
• 57:27
  Speaker 1: it's BS, just like our listener Rachel Um. And they
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: basically agreed. Those three guys were like, yeah, timing, that
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: excuse is BS, because normally it's just a nice way
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: of saying like, I'm nothing into you. Because if we
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: really really are into you, then no matter how bad
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: the timing is, and no matter how now matter how
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: awful my family life or my work life is, I'm
• 57:48
  Speaker 1: going to make time for you. What are you think? Sure? Yeah,
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: I mean I think it all comes back. And I'm
• 57:54
  Speaker 1: starting to realize this more and more is no matter
• 57:56
  Speaker 1: what the excuses, let's break it down for it is
• 58:00
  Speaker 1: a breaking up, like and I mean I think there's
• 58:02
  Speaker 1: a thousand ways you can sugarcoat it. There's a thousand
• 58:05
  Speaker 1: ways you can say it nicely and you don't want
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: to offend the person to make them feel less. And
• 58:08
  Speaker 1: I think that's what this is is, Hey, I think
• 58:10
  Speaker 1: you're great, I think you're beautiful. I care about you
• 58:13
  Speaker 1: a lot, but the timing is not right or hey,
• 58:18
  Speaker 1: I'm not there yet, or whatever it is. Let's just
• 58:22
  Speaker 1: say what it is. You're breaking up, and so who
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: if I communicate that to somebody, I hope that they
• 58:27
  Speaker 1: understand that I'm just trying to nicely tell them we're
• 58:30
  Speaker 1: no longer going to hang out, or if they say
• 58:31
  Speaker 1: it to me, I need to accept it and say
• 58:33
  Speaker 1: not fight it, and not be like that's b S.
• 58:35
  Speaker 1: Of course it's b S. The truth is they just
• 58:37
  Speaker 1: don't like you. I agree with you, except I think
• 58:39
  Speaker 1: there's a few cases where timing, like if someone's going
• 58:42
  Speaker 1: through a breakup or getting divorced or something, or if
• 58:45
  Speaker 1: they just got fired, they just can't handle it. So
• 58:49
  Speaker 1: I think that I don't know that they don't like you,
• 58:51
  Speaker 1: they just can't handle it. But here's what I want
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: to know. I do think there are cases where years
• 58:56
  Speaker 1: later the timing is right and that same couple all
• 59:00
  Speaker 1: works out, you know, how and he's just not that
• 59:03
  Speaker 1: into the movie and probably the book. They say, you're
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: the Bible. Yes, I actually don't read it enough. Um,
• 59:13
  Speaker 1: what wait, what are we talking about? Their rule in
• 59:16
  Speaker 1: he's just not that into you, Like it's like you
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: are the rule, You're not the exception. So it's like
• 59:20
  Speaker 1: out of a hundred cases, the word timing is probably
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: just an excuse for like, he's just not at that
• 59:27
  Speaker 1: into you. But then if you're like the one out
• 59:29
  Speaker 1: of the hundred, you're the exception to the rule, like
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: when Amy's talking about like down the road, it really
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: does work out. Yeah, I'm sure, I mean, but again,
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: breaking up is hard, and breaking up with somebody is
• 59:42
  Speaker 1: difficult and it's not fun, and you probably care about
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: that person unless you that person has done something to
• 59:47
  Speaker 1: hurt you. And so if you're just not feeling anymore,
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: the partner that's getting broken up with has to give
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: that person to benefit of down and to say, Okay,
• 59:55
  Speaker 1: I get it. What you're trying to tell me is
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: we're no longer to be together. That sucks and it
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: might hurt, but however, you you broke the news to me.
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: You broke the news to me, and that took something
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 1: and so b s or not timing or not, or
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 1: if it's true or not, it doesn't matter. You're breaking up,
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 1: accept it, move on, move away, go cry in your
• 1:00:12
  Speaker 1: room somewhere. But Ben, you make it seem like this
• 1:00:15
  Speaker 1: is like a real thing, like it's time. You're telling
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: me that timing is always bus I mean, I I'm
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: just saying that it's an excuse. I mean, and if
• 1:00:23
  Speaker 1: it's valid or not, if somebody use it, uses it
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: and it is actually BS and it's just the truth
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: is just not that into you. Um Like, I guess
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: that movies title is a great title. Then if if
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: that's true, great, If it's not, you're still just breaking up.
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: Would it be better if people just said done? Yeah, hey,
• 1:00:42
  Speaker 1: that would be great. By the way, we're done. I
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: apologize for the last five months of our life. But
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 1: all I'm gonna give you is we're done. Sit on
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 1: that for a little bit. Feel it, yeah, feel the
• 1:00:55
  Speaker 1: fact that we're done. And I don't even care enough
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 1: to tell you and use the excuse the timing. Don't
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 1: have time tell you all. I have to just mention
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 1: this one thing. When you blame timing, I know that
• 1:01:06
  Speaker 1: us girls are like, okay, well, I'll just leave you
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 1: in the back of my mind and when when the
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 1: timing is right, it'll all be okay. So like when
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 1: a guy. If a guy, I don't think I've ever
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 1: said timing to me, No he hasn't, thank God, did
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 1: he say it's not you, it's me. No. But I've
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 1: gotten like distance before and I'm like, oh, interesting, you're
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 1: now you're now dating a girl just as far away.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 1: You know what I mean. That's what my point to
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 1: the very beginning of this was. At the core, they're
• 1:01:31
  Speaker 1: breaking up with you. You You need to move on, right,
• 1:01:33
  Speaker 1: So I'm just I'm just saying I know. But but
• 1:01:36
  Speaker 1: you guys, if they say it's timing, don't be like, okay,
• 1:01:40
  Speaker 1: well great, so in six months the timing will be
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 1: different and we'll work out. Like, don't bank on that.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 1: We're done. Moving on to Jessica. Jessica says, Hi, Ben
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 1: and Ashley, you guys are always saying we should email
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 1: you with topics and ideas, So here's one of mine.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 1: While we wait an anticipation for the Winter Games and
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: more Bachelor content, you guys should consider having some throwback
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 1: bachelor's and bachelorette's on the pod, like Jason Mesnick, you
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: can get his opinion on the new school of Bachelor Nation.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 1: And what about Andy Dorfman, She'll want to come on
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 1: and talk about her new book. Um. Maybe Ashley or
• 1:02:12
  Speaker 1: Jillian they were the cutest ever. I really really did
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: love Ashley. Didn't watch Jillian season. I feel like some
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 1: fresh old blood would mix up things and get us
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: in the mood for Ari. Not a bad idea, Jessica.
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: I mean this whole this whole theme of this Bachelor
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 1: is going to be throwback, right, We're bringing Ari back,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 1: So this is gonna be a throwback season. Well, speaking
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: of giving you the throwbacks that you're asking for, We're
• 1:02:35
  Speaker 1: going to have Bob Guinea on the podcast and next weekend.
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: That's a big deal. Bob is hilarious. Bob is eating
• 1:02:41
  Speaker 1: your Bachelor boys. Um text message group. He's the oldest
• 1:02:45
  Speaker 1: person in the text message group. He brings wisdom. We
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 1: actually I think his name in the group is goat
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: greatest of all time. Um, he's hilarious. I love Bob.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: He actually and this is uh when the last few
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 1: months have happened for me and when things have gotten
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 1: really hard, Bob actually and I've only met him once
• 1:03:04
  Speaker 1: personally reached out to me just with some encouragement and
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 1: some guidance and some wisdom from his front. So Bob
• 1:03:10
  Speaker 1: is a great dude. He's gonna be awesome on this podcast.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: I'm telling you you'll be laughing the whole time. And
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 1: if you're not, then he really disappointed. It's not our fault.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: You know what I have to ask Bob. You know
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 1: what his rep is in like Bachelor history? No, what
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: is it? It's sleeping with the most girls in season.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: He's left with like, I can't. I don't want to
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: slander him, so I won't throw it out there. But
• 1:03:33
  Speaker 1: it was more than the three in the fantasy suite.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: Come on, Bob, You're better than that. But a little away,
• 1:03:39
  Speaker 1: all right. Next email from Ali, Hi Bit and Ashley.
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 1: First of all, I love you both so much. Well
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 1: thanks Ali. My question is this, why is it that
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 1: after the lead of the show, the Bachelor or Bachelor
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 1: and his or her winner break up, the lead never
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  Speaker 1: dates anyone else from their season. It seems to me
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  Speaker 1: that if the contestants have such strong feelings for the lead,
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  Speaker 1: then some of them would reach out again after the breakup.
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  Speaker 1: That sometimes follows the proposal. I know that Jason Mesnick
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  Speaker 1: changed his mind and picked another contestant after the finale,
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  Speaker 1: but besides him, I don't think there's any examples of
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  Speaker 1: Leeds dating someone else from their season. For example, Ashley,
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  Speaker 1: if Chris Souls were to ask you out after he
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  Speaker 1: and Whitney broke up, would you have said, now, Oh,
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  Speaker 1: should I answer this now? Yes? Um? I always say
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  Speaker 1: that I kind of knew once I left Christmas season, Like,
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  Speaker 1: I was really really infatuated with him during the season,
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  Speaker 1: but then when I got on the plane the following day, Um,
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  Speaker 1: I was like, Okay. I think that may have just
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  Speaker 1: been physical attraction and like admiring his personality because he
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  Speaker 1: was so sweet. But I don't think that was like
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  Speaker 1: the guy that would move to Iowa for like, he
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  Speaker 1: wasn't my soul mate. UM. I would like I would
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  Speaker 1: probably have said yes to a date afterward, though I
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  Speaker 1: would have said yes to a date. He did kiss
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  Speaker 1: me at an elevator after the show. Yeah, actually, what
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  Speaker 1: are you talking about? Should we keep that in? That's brilliant?
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  Speaker 1: Actually tell us about it. You were there, Ben, I
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  Speaker 1: don't think I was in the elevator. You weren't in
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  Speaker 1: the elevator. Okay, now that I'm spilling beans, let's just
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  Speaker 1: spill all the beans. Um. We had been coming from
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  Speaker 1: you and Lauren. You and Lauren had that really nice
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  Speaker 1: sweet at the one side of the Blago okay, during
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  Speaker 1: the I Heeart Festival last year, um, and then Chris
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  Speaker 1: and I were in the other tower. So once you
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  Speaker 1: guys went to sleep and we ate like all the
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  Speaker 1: room service, we walked back the two of us hard
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  Speaker 1: tower and then he kissed me in the elevator, like
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  Speaker 1: what kind of kissed like a long It was really
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  Speaker 1: it was very almost pecky, but like it was actually
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you have makeup on, but you're
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  Speaker 1: like there's like you're shining, right. Okay, So anyway, he
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  Speaker 1: took a step off the elevator and then before the
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  Speaker 1: doors closed he walked in he kissed me, and oh
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  Speaker 1: my gosh, yeah, I wish I could have. It was
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  Speaker 1: very it was like very brief. It was like really
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  Speaker 1: a pack. What were your thoughts after Chris Soul's stepped
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  Speaker 1: back onto an elevator for you that he was probably
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  Speaker 1: drunk is what I was thinking. Um, But I was
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  Speaker 1: like felt actually very very weird about it. Until the
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  Speaker 1: next day I thought it was hilarious and a good
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  Speaker 1: story to tell. Um it just felt weird. It didn't
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  Speaker 1: make you tingly, no, but like maybe like it made
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  Speaker 1: me like brown, Like my my facial expression must have
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  Speaker 1: just been amazing. I wish I had the elevator footage
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  Speaker 1: from the camera because like my facial expression was like
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  Speaker 1: I wish you guys could see right now. It's like
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  Speaker 1: my brow was like what is it burrowed? And but
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  Speaker 1: like I also was like kind of smiling because I
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  Speaker 1: thought it was hysterical. I'm just listening you look at
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  Speaker 1: me like I have a response to this. I'm amazed this,
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  Speaker 1: this is beautiful. Next morning, I like, you've always wanted
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  Speaker 1: to be a part of a Nicholas Sparks movie, And
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  Speaker 1: in my moment, that elevator camera makes Nicholas Sparks movie.
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  Speaker 1: I can just me Okay. So then the next one
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  Speaker 1: is a question towards me, would I date anyone from
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  Speaker 1: my season today? Uh? And then they say I always
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  Speaker 1: thought you and Becca would be especially cute. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I still do think this what what I think that
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  Speaker 1: you guys make a lot of sense. Just dropping the
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  Speaker 1: bomb on me. Now, I don't think no. I mean, okay,
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  Speaker 1: so let's start with the first question. There, would I
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  Speaker 1: date anyone from my season today? I'm not gonna say wouldn't.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, it's I just feel like it's different, right,
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  Speaker 1: you've broken up before, you kind of chose somebody else
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  Speaker 1: over them. It just doesn't feel natural to step back
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  Speaker 1: into a relationship with somebody. I don't know why it
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  Speaker 1: doesn't happen more. Um, it might happen kind of behind
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  Speaker 1: the scenes a little bit, I know, but I actually
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  Speaker 1: don't think it's happening really. That's why I think it's curious.
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  Speaker 1: I think, like Christal's pecky me and the Elevator, maybe
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  Speaker 1: the most backtracking there's are a been like you have
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  Speaker 1: never done it. Um. The girls are all engaged and
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  Speaker 1: they stay engaged. I mean, that's the thing is so
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  Speaker 1: for me. Uh, you know a lot of the women
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  Speaker 1: from my season left the show and found other relationships,
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  Speaker 1: and they did other people from me that the franchise
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  Speaker 1: are outside of it, and and I actually and I
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  Speaker 1: don't know how they feel about me, um, but I
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  Speaker 1: actually was really happy for them for that. So like
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  Speaker 1: the batchler kind of propelled them and opened themselves up
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  Speaker 1: to find other relationships. Um, why we I don't go
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  Speaker 1: back to that. There's no like hard feelings or there's
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  Speaker 1: no like these women are amazing. Are you kidding me?
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  Speaker 1: Their twenty six beautiful people that I got to know
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  Speaker 1: really well. But I just think it's the dynamic that
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  Speaker 1: I chose somebody over them, and I have to I
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  Speaker 1: would have a lot of explained to I mean, I
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 1: had a lot of explained to you anyways after my
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  Speaker 1: season of The Bachelor. Um, but you know, if I
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  Speaker 1: went back to it, I feel like that that woman
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  Speaker 1: would need an explanation on why and it chows them initially.
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  Speaker 1: And so would Beck and I be cute together? Of
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  Speaker 1: course we'd be que together because the best Um. But
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  Speaker 1: Beck and I are not dating. We won't be dating. Um.
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  Speaker 1: But Becca is one of my favorite people in the world.
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  Speaker 1: So of course anybody that dates Becca, people a gonna
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  Speaker 1: be like, oh, that's so cute because she just makes
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  Speaker 1: it cute. Would you tell her it's the timing? Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the timing is not right with Becca. This
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  Speaker 1: doesn't make sense for me. But wait, Ben, if there
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  Speaker 1: was one girl you had to ask out, like, say
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  Speaker 1: you had a knife, to your throat. This is always
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  Speaker 1: a fun had to take one girl from your season
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  Speaker 1: now on a date? Now? Who would it be? Oh? Man,
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  Speaker 1: you just asked me like that. If I had to
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  Speaker 1: take one girl from my season back out on a date, now,
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  Speaker 1: who would it be? So? I mean, honestly, it would
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  Speaker 1: probably be Becca. That's why I gave you the question. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I just can't think. I mean, all of them are great, right,
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  Speaker 1: but when I when I go back through, a lot
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  Speaker 1: of them are like either super close with Lauren, so
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  Speaker 1: that would you know, not be okay? And it wouldn't
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  Speaker 1: be like fair of me to ask that of them
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  Speaker 1: or um, I didn't get to know him very well.
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  Speaker 1: I mean you have like so Becca would be it?
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  Speaker 1: So thank you everybody. That's a great great stories that
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  Speaker 1: we didn't want to tell. Yours wasn't a story, but
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? Hey, everybody, this has been
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 1: one of the most fun podcast because I am sitting
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: next to the beautiful Ashley I Ken Eddie in studio.
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't talk today. You're fine, My bad. It wasn't
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 1: like my hottest day. There's a lot of there's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of grace given on this podcast. Para laughing because
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  Speaker 1: they know. But here's the deal. Before we go, and
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  Speaker 1: before I sign us off here, I have one last
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  Speaker 1: question I've been wanting to ask you the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, gracious, you have a rainbow of something
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  Speaker 1: painted on your arm. Please explain what the heck is
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  Speaker 1: going on? I because I also have like extremely split
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  Speaker 1: minted two like sparkles on my cheek. Um. I was
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  Speaker 1: just had access Hollywood before. I was doing a demonstration
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 1: of Kylie Cosmetics new fall collection. So these are all
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: of Kylie Is. You have Matt lipsticks on my arm.
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  Speaker 1: Oh that's that's lipstick on your arm. Why would you
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  Speaker 1: Why don't you put on your lips um? Well, it's
• 1:11:15
  Speaker 1: just what they do today an influencer makeup marketing. They're like,
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: put it on your arm. It's like, here's the colors.
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  Speaker 1: Oh oh, so you're testing? Okay, I was super Confusedly,
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  Speaker 1: it looks like you have like a tattoo of a
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  Speaker 1: rainbow on your arm right now. Know that that's the
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: lip liner and the lipstick. And I put on this purpose.
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  Speaker 1: I thought it might be something for your big night tonight,
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  Speaker 1: which Ashley is heading out of here right now to
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  Speaker 1: go see Hansen live in Las Vegas. And with that,
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  Speaker 1: Ashley and I would like to thank Caitlin Bristow for
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• 1:13:03
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