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3. Core Beliefs - Building Discipline, & The Infinite Potential Unlock · The Impossible Life

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  Speaker 1: You can spend all the time to disassemble your fears,
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  Speaker 1: or you can just simply say I know what I
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  Speaker 1: have in my life right now, and it's not what
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  Speaker 1: I want. I'm tired of being undisciplined. I'm tired of
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  Speaker 1: being someone who continually wants to change and never does.
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  Speaker 1: And you can decide now that you're not that person anymore.
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  Speaker 1: That's as simple as it is.
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  Speaker 2: That's impossible. Let me tell you what I believe. What
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  Speaker 2: your weakness is, not your technique. Yus, yus, don't think
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  Speaker 2: you all know you the Impossible Life Podcast.
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  Speaker 1: Man, you're sitting on a winning lottery protective an idea
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  Speaker 1: that is fully formed, fully understood, that sticks. This is
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  Speaker 1: the Impossible Life Podcast because Nick and I are attempting
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  Speaker 1: to live impossible lives. What we know is that nothing
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  Speaker 1: is impossible. So instead of using impossible as an excuse
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  Speaker 1: to not try, we'll use the pursuit of him possible
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  Speaker 1: as an accelerant for greatness. If something's never been done before,
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  Speaker 1: that just means it's unexplored. If they tell you it's
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  Speaker 1: too hard, it's just waiting to be simplified. Impossible as
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  Speaker 1: a default label used by uncourageous people unwilling to.
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  Speaker 3: Take a risk.
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  Speaker 1: The real truth is this The solution to any impossible
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  Speaker 1: task starts with this question if I had to, what
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  Speaker 1: would it take?
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  Speaker 2: All Right, Welcome to episode three, Dun Dun Dune of
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  Speaker 2: the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm here with the talent, the phenom.
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  Speaker 2: He hates all of this when I big him up
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  Speaker 2: like this, But Garrett uncle bam.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Garrett's good. We'll go with that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we'll go with Garrett. Yeah, Garrett, it is so anyways, Garrett,
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  Speaker 2: Episode three. If you didn't listen to episode two, I'd
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  Speaker 2: highly recommend you do. We talked a lot about resiliency,
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  Speaker 2: which is not a common topic that people talk about.
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  Speaker 1: It's probably something we'll talk about on hundreds of episodes
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  Speaker 1: on this podcast.
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  Speaker 2: No, I agree, But I mean one of the things
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  Speaker 2: is when we went deeper, was we really tied to like,
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  Speaker 2: how resiliency comes from who you believe you are. You know,
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  Speaker 2: just to kind of give a quick recap, it's you
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  Speaker 2: know who you are even when everything external is telling
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  Speaker 2: you that you're not. And it just got me thinking
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  Speaker 2: so much about how many people don't know who they are.
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  Speaker 2: And you know, I don't know if this is you
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  Speaker 2: having an influence on me, or if it just happened
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  Speaker 2: to happen. But I watched The Matrix, your favorite movie,
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  Speaker 2: my favorite movie, your favorite movie and life guidance as
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  Speaker 2: far as films go, and I love obviously everything about
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  Speaker 2: that movie. But when they're uploading the patch to Trinity,
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  Speaker 2: when she needs to learn how to fly a helicopter, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I know you love that.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, it's one of my favorite favorite scenes in that movie. Well,
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  Speaker 1: there's so many great scenes in that movie, and that
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  Speaker 1: probably wouldn't be somebody's pick for a favorite, or if
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  Speaker 1: you tried to guess my favorite, I would say it's
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  Speaker 1: my favorite because it's the most impactful for me. That
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  Speaker 1: scene was a trigger moment for me, or as someone
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  Speaker 1: in our life Pastor Keith Leadership Speaker calls a defining moment,
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  Speaker 1: the that scene in that movie was a defining moment
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  Speaker 1: for me at twelve years old watching the movie for
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  Speaker 1: the first time, what I realized was, you know, as
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  Speaker 1: a young person, I was skateboarding, extreme sports, football all that.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you're an athletic young guy like you just
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  Speaker 1: think about physicality and what this movie shifted for me
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  Speaker 1: was into understanding the power of my mind. So in
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  Speaker 1: that scene, you know, Trinity says, hey, I need a
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  Speaker 1: helicopter patch, and instantly it downloads into her brain and
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  Speaker 1: she's able to fly a helicopter. And what occurred to
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  Speaker 1: me in that moment is, Okay, I'm thinking, like, wow,
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  Speaker 1: the only difference between me, Garrett, and a helicopter pilot
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  Speaker 1: is what's in my mind. And I thought even more, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: the only difference between me and like the greatest neurosurgeon
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  Speaker 1: in the world is probably just what's in my mind,
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  Speaker 1: the great the difference between me and Tiger Woods, who
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  Speaker 1: you know, when I was twelve years old, Tiger Woods
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  Speaker 1: was the king, he was the goat. Like, that's who
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  Speaker 1: I thought was one of the most amazing athletes, not
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  Speaker 1: just a great golfer. Only difference between me and Tiger
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  Speaker 1: Wood is what's in my mind. Like if I could down,
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  Speaker 1: if I could get the helicopter patch of Tiger Wood's brain,
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  Speaker 1: I could be that good of a golfer, right, because
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  Speaker 1: I have the same level of athletic ability.
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  Speaker 3: It's what's in your mind.
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  Speaker 1: So that movie, and that scene in that movie shifted
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  Speaker 1: everything for me from being someone who thought about okay,
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  Speaker 1: like how do I train? How do I make myself stronger?
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  Speaker 1: How do I get bigger to how do I do that?
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  Speaker 3: How do I.
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  Speaker 1: Software download instantly into my brain a helicopter patch? And
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  Speaker 1: where that's not a reality today, even though Elon Musk
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  Speaker 1: with Neurallink is trying to make that a reality, which
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  Speaker 1: we'll probably see. That guy has a ridiculous track record
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  Speaker 1: of achieving what he wants to achieve, so we'll probably
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  Speaker 1: see that in our lifetime. But until that exists, and
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  Speaker 1: the thought process started with at twelve years old was Okay,
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  Speaker 1: it's not possible today to download a software patch instantly,
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  Speaker 1: but what if?
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  Speaker 3: What if nick I could download software faster? And thought?
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  Speaker 1: And that's the thought process in and of itself. But
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  Speaker 1: then but also I started thinking about, Okay, everything that's
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  Speaker 1: in my brain is software, and so what software.
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  Speaker 3: Am I writing? Right?
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  Speaker 1: When you manage your computer, you get to control what
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  Speaker 1: applications are on the computer and what applications aren't. And
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  Speaker 1: if you're pretty savvy on a computer, you can start
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  Speaker 1: writing some detailed code of like, Okay, this is how
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  Speaker 1: I want the application to work, this is how I
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  Speaker 1: don't want it to work.
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  Speaker 3: And we have that.
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  Speaker 1: Ability with what we believe. The things that we believe
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  Speaker 1: about ourselves are at the deepest layer of our operating system. Right,
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  Speaker 1: these applications kind of if you really want to look
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  Speaker 1: at yourself like a computer or like your phone, you
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  Speaker 1: have applications, you have thought processes that work. But at
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  Speaker 1: the deepest level, your operating system is your way of thinking.
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  Speaker 1: And one of the things that impacts your way of
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  Speaker 1: thinking the most is what you believe about yourself. It's
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  Speaker 1: a core belief. So core beliefs for me. You know,
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  Speaker 1: on the last episode we were talking about resiliency. That
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  Speaker 1: is where resiliency comes from. What do you believe? Not
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  Speaker 1: what do other people say, not what do other people believe?
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  Speaker 1: Not what does external stimuli show you? Not what do
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  Speaker 1: you see in the mirror? But with your eyes closed,
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  Speaker 1: with no reference to what people are saying, to what
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  Speaker 1: you can see, what do you know about yourself? And right,
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  Speaker 1: it goes back to the Henry Ford crowd. Like we
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  Speaker 1: talked about before, whether you think you can or you
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  Speaker 1: think you can't, you're right, that in and of itself,
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  Speaker 1: for me, is a core belief. At a young age,
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  Speaker 1: I said, you know what, I do believe that because
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  Speaker 1: I believe.
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  Speaker 3: I can not.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone thinks that way, but I chose to think that way.
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  Speaker 1: It's choice and core beliefs together that make you very capable.
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  Speaker 1: So you're looking at me like you want to say something,
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  Speaker 1: So what do you want to say?
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  Speaker 2: No, I'm just I mean, it's amazing. Because I'm sat here,
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  Speaker 2: I think many people will know what they may not.
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  Speaker 2: You're a Navy seal. I don't know whether to call
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  Speaker 2: you retired Navy seal right now or X Navy seal.
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  Speaker 2: What's your path?
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  Speaker 1: So I'm not retired? Yeah, I guess X or whatever
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  Speaker 1: I'm retired is for guys who are either medically retired
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  Speaker 1: or twenty plus years retire, which I am neither. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so I was a Navy seal at one time, right, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: there you go. Okay, I guess the term doesn't matter.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, no, but I mean, I mean those things
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  Speaker 2: are what we're touching on with core beliefs, and you
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  Speaker 2: know we're going to go into that. That's the whole
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  Speaker 2: point of this is we want to talk about core beliefs.
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  Speaker 2: We want to talk about how to change core beliefs,
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  Speaker 2: and so it's yeah, I mean, it's it's an incredible
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  Speaker 2: analogy you give there with the software and the apps
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  Speaker 2: and everything. I think that's something everyone can relate to.
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  Speaker 2: But I got to ask you a little fun question here.
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  Speaker 2: So patch uploads. Okay, you were a Navy seal, yep,
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  Speaker 2: if we could patch upload a Navy Seals mindset into
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  Speaker 2: just you know, anybody, what do you think would be
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  Speaker 2: possible or the result of that.
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  Speaker 1: What would be the result of putting a Navy seal's
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  Speaker 1: mind into someone else's brain.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's an interesting question.
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  Speaker 1: Honestly, my for my initial reaction if because we're talking
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  Speaker 1: about the matrix here, right, how Morpheus says he apologizes
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  Speaker 1: to Neo, saying that we have a rule for not
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  Speaker 1: bringing people out of the matrix beyond a certain age, right,
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  Speaker 1: And I think there is certainly, you know, there's some
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  Speaker 1: truth to that. It's not a hard and fast rule.
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  Speaker 1: I would say, if you put there's some people that
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  Speaker 1: you could put you know, my brain or another Navy
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  Speaker 1: seal's brain, will you know, kind of take that core resiliency,
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  Speaker 1: thought process and some other software that is essential to us.
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  Speaker 1: If you put it in some other people's brain, may
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  Speaker 1: work for them. If you put it in some people's brain,
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  Speaker 1: it may break them, and they may it may make
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  Speaker 1: them realize all this lie that they've been living in,
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  Speaker 1: this lie of impossible, this lie of incapable, this lie
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  Speaker 1: of accepting fear and doubt about yourself. It would probably
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  Speaker 1: crush some people if you put that into their brain,
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  Speaker 1: because they would look, they would it would invalidate so
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  Speaker 1: many things in their life.
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  Speaker 2: Man, I am, I am so curious about what you
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  Speaker 2: just said, because I mean, that's amazing. So you're basically
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  Speaker 2: talking about a breakthrough and a different vision of life
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  Speaker 2: life because of what you've tapped into in the way
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  Speaker 2: that you think. Sure, and obviously you know Navy I
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  Speaker 2: think Navy Seals. I've observed you, and I've observed the
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  Speaker 2: way people interact with you. I think everybody looks at that, like,
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  Speaker 2: look what you did, Whereas you're very much like the
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  Speaker 2: Navy Seals was the result of a thought process that
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  Speaker 2: was already there.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Something they say at seal training is that seals show
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  Speaker 1: up to be trained, right, And that's they're saying that
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  Speaker 1: you can't make one, like as in, you can't make
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  Speaker 1: someone a Navy Seal, but Navy seals show up to
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  Speaker 1: get trained, and everyone else gets eliminated.
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  Speaker 2: Huh, all right, it's an.
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  Speaker 3: Interesting thought, and I think there's some truth to them.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I also just think for listeners, even for
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  Speaker 2: myself sitting here.
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  Speaker 1: But the question you have to ask yourself is, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: if I don't, if I don't get made a navy
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  Speaker 1: seal here, I just show up as one. You've got
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  Speaker 1: to if you're going to buzz, you've got to ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: am I the guy that's showing up that's a Navy
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  Speaker 1: seal that just needs to chip away all the things
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  Speaker 1: that isn't a Navy seal? Or am I what's going
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  Speaker 1: to get re moved? That's up to you to decide.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, for all the tadpoles out there listening, I know
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  Speaker 3: there's gonna be a few.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, for the non tadpoles and people like me, who
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  Speaker 2: you very clearly pointed out are too old to apply,
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  Speaker 2: not that I would want to anyways. I think it's
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  Speaker 2: just the mindset there and the vision of understanding. I mean,
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  Speaker 2: you talked about it would break people. To me, that
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  Speaker 2: is fascinating. That's what drives me on is the belief
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  Speaker 2: that there's another level, there's more life, there's more to living.
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  Speaker 2: There's more to how you see. Let me give you
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  Speaker 2: of that.
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  Speaker 1: Let me give you an even bigger mind bender. Nick,
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  Speaker 1: this is this is what's beending my mind. Okay, say my,
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  Speaker 1: if you took some of my software and put in
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  Speaker 1: someone else's brain, it would break them. What is is
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  Speaker 1: there software out there or what is some software out
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  Speaker 1: there that would break you today or that would break
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  Speaker 1: me today?
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  Speaker 3: And what again?
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  Speaker 1: This goes back to some of my core beliefs is
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  Speaker 1: that you can have anything you want as long as
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  Speaker 1: you're willing to pay the price for it.
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  Speaker 3: And I pair that with Ray Dalio's.
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  Speaker 1: You can have anything, you just can't have every thing.
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  Speaker 1: What I believe that there are so many higher levels
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  Speaker 1: that people can elevate themselves to. And I'm not trying
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  Speaker 1: to make it sound like a weird thing. I'm just
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  Speaker 1: saying that you can be a better, more capable person.
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  Speaker 1: What I have observed is that there are people in
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  Speaker 1: life who aren't the best at life, and there are
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  Speaker 1: people who are really good at life.
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  Speaker 3: And I don't just.
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  Speaker 1: Mean good at making money, or I don't just mean
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  Speaker 1: good in their marriage. But there are people who everything
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  Speaker 1: they do they're good at. And there are people who
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  Speaker 1: everything they do, they're not very good at so and
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  Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with their height, their gender,
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  Speaker 1: their weight, their skin color. It just has to do
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  Speaker 1: with the way that they think. And so what that
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  Speaker 1: tells you is that there is a scale of your
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  Speaker 1: way of thinking. Can you can be stronger, you can
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  Speaker 1: be more capable, or you can be less capable. And
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  Speaker 1: I don't think that there is bookends on that scale.
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  Speaker 1: I think that you can just continue to grow and
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  Speaker 1: grow and grow. And so even where I'm at today,
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking, how can I elevate, how can I go to.
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  Speaker 3: My next level?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I'm so with that, because there's they're constantly
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  Speaker 2: rediscovering things. I think was actually pastor Keith in a
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  Speaker 2: Mastermind recently said that the total knowledge of the world
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  Speaker 2: is now doubling every twelve hours, which is insane to
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  Speaker 2: me because you just think about what's out there that
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  Speaker 2: we don't know that it's constantly being uncovered, and it's exciting.
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  Speaker 2: It's also mind bending.
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, it's like it's human technology. Yeah, there's these things
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  Speaker 1: that have existed for a long time, but we're now
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  Speaker 1: discovering them. Just like Carol Dweck growth mindset, right, She
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  Speaker 1: wrote that book in two thousand and five. Well, people
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  Speaker 1: have had growth mindsets for hundreds of years, but now
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  Speaker 1: we're taking this concept that can be earth shattering for
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  Speaker 1: people like that. I would call that book like, that's
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  Speaker 1: a piece of software that people need to download into
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  Speaker 1: their brain.
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  Speaker 3: Right that was.
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  Speaker 1: Now that software has been synthesized, you can buy it
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  Speaker 1: at the store for fifteen dollars and download it. But
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  Speaker 1: before it didn't exist, and so some people kind of
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  Speaker 1: built their own software, they built their own growth mindset.
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  Speaker 1: But now there's like a clear install for it. And
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  Speaker 1: so that's kind of like in the way that I
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  Speaker 1: see it is human technology. I think there's so many
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  Speaker 1: other softwares yet to be written. I think there's so
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  Speaker 1: many examples of things that are a growth mindset that
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  Speaker 1: no one's just written a book or a clear install
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  Speaker 1: guide for. And there's things that no one has done
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  Speaker 1: yet that someone needs to discover, that someone needs to
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  Speaker 1: develop to make humans more capable, to take humans to
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  Speaker 1: really their their highest potential. I don't think we've even
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  Speaker 1: tapped it into it yet.
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  Speaker 2: No, And I agree with you on that. I mean, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: so we could keep going down this because I think
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  Speaker 2: it's fascinating, but that is not at all where we
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  Speaker 2: want to go. As fun as it is. You touched
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  Speaker 2: on it again about core beliefs and being the basis
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  Speaker 2: for all your thinking, and it's not just you that
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  Speaker 2: says that the first thing we want to do is
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  Speaker 2: just talk about, Okay, what is a core belief because
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  Speaker 2: I think it's something that we hear a lot in
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  Speaker 2: our own circles and something you talk about a lot,
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  Speaker 2: but it's not something that everybody walks around with, like, hey,
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  Speaker 2: what's your core beliefs? A lot of people would be
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  Speaker 2: like a pizza.
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's kind of like it's like mindset, Like what's
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  Speaker 1: your mindset, whether whether you can define it or not
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  Speaker 1: you have one, you do whether you know what your
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  Speaker 1: core beliefs or not you have.
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  Speaker 2: Them indeed, yeah, so, or you're going to go to
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  Speaker 2: cognitive behavioral therapy, which when you were talking about how
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  Speaker 2: the human mindset has developed, cognitive behavioral therapy is actually
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  Speaker 2: not super old. This is sort of my loose understanding
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  Speaker 2: from reading Martin Selig's book called Learned Optimism. I think
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  Speaker 2: it's really started taking hold in the nineties, so it's
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  Speaker 2: not actually that old. I don't want to go down
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  Speaker 2: there can people can fact check me and call me
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  Speaker 2: out if I'm wrong there. That's not the point, But
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  Speaker 2: I just want to go into cognive behavioral therapy for
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  Speaker 2: core belief definition. So it's core beliefs are central beliefs
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  Speaker 2: that people hold about the self, others, and the world.
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  Speaker 2: Core beliefs are often formed at an early age and
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  Speaker 2: can refer to a cognitive content or construct such as
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  Speaker 2: I am unlovable or people can't be trusted. And then
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  Speaker 2: thoughts are built on core beliefs. So the way I've
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  Speaker 2: heard this explain to me is that your core beliefs
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  Speaker 2: are like the roots of a tree, and then what
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  Speaker 2: builds house tall the tree can go, how much it
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  Speaker 2: can stand up to you know, how strong it is,
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  Speaker 2: is all based on those roots, which are your core beliefs,
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  Speaker 2: and oftentimes they're formed when you're a child, so you
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  Speaker 2: have these experiences, which is where this is a huge
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  Speaker 2: challenge for us now as adults, and you see people
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  Speaker 2: all the time that haven't dealt with difficult experiences when
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  Speaker 2: they were young. You can't control what happens to you
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  Speaker 2: when you're young, but you are going to develop a
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  Speaker 2: way of thinking largely based on that. So as adults now,
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: and I believe we're speaking to mostly adults now, it's
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: our responsibility to look at these moments, look at these traumas,
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: look at what's happened, and realize I can't control that,
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: I can't change it, but I can control what it
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: means to me. I can choose what it means to me.
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: I can choose my response. And that's the challenge.
• 15:34
  Speaker 3: Absolutely.
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: Just like on a computer, there are applications that you
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: can download that help you remove stuff that you don't want,
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: help you analyze what's there.
• 15:43
  Speaker 3: We have to do that for ourselves.
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: Like some people, unfortunately as children were had forcibly installed
• 15:50
  Speaker 1: on their computers a bunch of fear software. Yeah right,
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: and so you need to remove that. But you've got
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: to be aware of that.
• 15:57
  Speaker 3: And you're right.
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: You know, I'm not a neurologist, but I know that
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: that our thoughts are like trees, the dingdrites, they form
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: like trees, and so some of these like a core
• 16:05
  Speaker 1: belief is if you that's going to be like the
• 16:09
  Speaker 1: center of the tree, like that's going to be the
• 16:11
  Speaker 1: main branch of a way of thinking for you, and
• 16:13
  Speaker 1: all these other thoughts tie back to your core beliefs.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: So if you lose a core but if you change
• 16:19
  Speaker 1: a core belief, that's going to change a lot of
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: your thoughts. And if you write or create a new
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: core belief for yourself, it's going to take some time
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: before you can attach everything to that new core belief.
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: It's hard to write or unwrite core beliefs. You need
• 16:33
  Speaker 1: to know what yours are. You need to know, like,
• 16:35
  Speaker 1: what are these deep thought processes that are shaping all
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: of the things.
• 16:39
  Speaker 3: That I think.
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I would always recommend to anybody that's super
• 16:43
  Speaker 2: interested in this. I've done cognitive behavioral therapy. I've sought
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: out a therapist personally, I have no problem saying that
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: it was phenomenal. It's kind of crazy how you can
• 16:51
  Speaker 2: see these thoughts that you're aware of, but you have
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: no idea the core belief they're tied to. And oftentimes
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: it's very distorted thoughts, especially if it's coming from a
• 17:00
  Speaker 2: core belief that's based on something traumatic or like you
• 17:03
  Speaker 2: talked about fear, that can show up in so many
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: other ways. So it's really just.
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: For an example of like a simple one. I love
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: this because I share a similar story to Carol Dweck
• 17:13
  Speaker 1: that she talks about in growth mindset because she talks
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: about a core belief right, her experience with math and
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: people telling it, Like she was good at math, and people.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: Would tell her, oh, you're a girl.
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: Girls aren't supposed to be good at math, right, and
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: that messed with her. And she said that to this
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: day she still has to like work through that, like
• 17:31
  Speaker 1: being good at math, but then having the thought and
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: even though she knows it's not true, it's still there.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: There's the evan it lingers in her brain that like,
• 17:37
  Speaker 1: you're not supposed to be good at that. I have
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: kind of a similar but opposite personal experience when I
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: was going into first grade. Before I was going into
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: first grade the summer before that, I had a relative
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: like teach me my twelve x twelve math tables to
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: where like instant, like within half a second, I could
• 17:57
  Speaker 1: you know a times nine seventy two, like I could
• 17:59
  Speaker 1: give you all all of the math chart really quick,
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: which was good in first grade. And so whenever we
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: would play like math games, I always won, and so
• 18:08
  Speaker 1: was I like naturally good at math. I don't know
• 18:11
  Speaker 1: is there a math gene. I'm not sure, but I
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: know that in first grade because someone helped me out
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: and set me up for success, and I beat all
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: of my peers in math that year. What I believed
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: was I'm good at math, and since then I've been
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: good at math because at a young age, I believed
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: I was good at math.
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: Man that's such a good example. So pullback now as
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: a listener as an adult and realize, if you can
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: do it as a kid, if we can do it
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: as a child, you could do it as an adult.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: You can create new core beliefs. And we're going to
• 18:38
  Speaker 2: get into that. We're going to talk about how you
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: could choose new beliefs, and we're going to go through
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: some of the steps to get there. It's something that
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: I mean, the example you just touched on with math
• 18:47
  Speaker 2: is absolutely perfect. So before you can actually change, because
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: we are going to go through so how to do that,
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: there is a prerequisite that comes with this. And we
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: touched on it a little bit when we talked about
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: looking at some of your core beliefs and some of
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: the traumas and experiences you had as a kid and
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: attaching a new meaning to those and unfortunately, and when
• 19:07
  Speaker 2: I say unfortunately, because it's not an easy pill to swallow.
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: But the prerequisite for change is taking absolute ownership of
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: what's happened, of your reactions, of your thought processes.
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: Absolutely no, I agree.
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: One time when I was jumping in San Diego with
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: some friends, we were having fun and we were filming it.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: You have a helmet cam, but I also was like
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: doing a selfie video on my phone, and so I
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: just jumped out of the plane. And you're jumping into
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: like nearly one hundred mile per hour wind. It's about
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: as slow as those planes can come down to to
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: let you jump out. I'm jumping out of the plane
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: with my iPhone in my hand, and I'd done it
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: multiple times, and I remember somebody asking me, like, aren't
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: you scared you're going to drop your phone? And I said,
• 19:51
  Speaker 1: why would I drop my phone? That's stupid, Like then
• 19:54
  Speaker 1: it would I would lose my phone then and it
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: would break. I don't want to drop my phone. And really,
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: like I was being sarcastic and almost rude, but I
• 20:03
  Speaker 1: was also just taking ownership of the fact that, like,
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: I know that's a possibility, and I chose that, and
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I also chose to be aware and intentionally be gripping
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: my phone and holding on to it. Right, So instead
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: people say, oh, you can't jump out of a you
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: can't do that. You can't jump out of a plane
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: with the phone in your hand.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: Well I can. I did it.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: And all I was saying was I'm aware of the
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: circumstances here and I'm gonna overcome them.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: It is stupid, though, isn't it when you start thinking
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: about that, because it's like, well, why would you drop
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: your phone?
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah you don't. I mean, aren't you scared you're gonna
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: drop your phone? No?
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, just grip it?
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah, just hold on to it.
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: Are you scared?
• 20:36
  Speaker 3: Why would you drop your phone? That's stupid?
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
• 20:39
  Speaker 3: But so when I've told.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: This story to other people before and some people look
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: at me like they're still not getting it, Like they're like,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: but you can. You can drop your phone, Like I
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: dropped my phone all the time. Well you need to
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: take awareness of that. And this is like if you're
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: someone who drops your phone all the time, like if
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: you have a crack screen. I have an iPhone, I've
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: had one since they came out. I've never broken a screen.
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I've never cracked a screen. That's not because I'm like
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: some weird, overly anal person. It's because I'm intentional, and
• 21:05
  Speaker 1: I'm like, I just don't throw my phone on the ground. No,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: I just make sure I don't drop my phone. So,
• 21:10
  Speaker 1: if you're someone who like drops your phone all the time,
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: and you think that's just a reality that you have
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: no control over you, that you have no control over,
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: this should like be you should a light bulb should
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: be starting to come on for you. You should be
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: aware that. Okay, maybe I need to be more intentional.
• 21:25
  Speaker 1: Maybe I need to take ownership of the fact that
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: my phone, my screen, my phone screen is cracked because
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: the phone fell out of my hand, not because somebody
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: hit me, not because somebody bumped me, but because you
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: the phone was in your hand and then you dropped it. Yeah,
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: Like my my baseball coach used to tell me, you know,
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: if it HiT's your glove, you could have caught it, right, Yeah,
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: that's true. Right, if the phone is in your hand,
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: you could have held onto it.
• 21:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: No, I mean that's such a just taking ownership.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I just think that's such a good example, though,
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: because everybody has dropped their phone, and.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: I'm not saying I've never dropped my phone, but I've
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: never cracked my screen on my phone.
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: Well you got lucky, thanks a lot, Tim Cook. But
• 22:05
  Speaker 2: I think it's uh. I do think it's a great
• 22:07
  Speaker 2: example though, because it's something so common and you you
• 22:10
  Speaker 2: always hear people say, well, this person made me do this,
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: And if you ever want to make your wife mad,
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: you should be like, well, actually I didn't make you
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: do that. You chose that reaction that'll get you a
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: good punch. So I don't actually recommend that, but there
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: is some truth in that. I hope my wife's not listening,
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: but there is some truth in that, Like, no one
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: can make you feel eleanor Roosevelt, right, no one can
• 22:28
  Speaker 2: make you feel inferior without your consent. That's right, great quote.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: All right, So let's get into it then, as if
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: we're not already in.
• 22:34
  Speaker 3: Well you were.
• 22:35
  Speaker 1: You were trying to You wanted to touch on ownership,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: and we touched on that.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, first, no, exactly. I just want to give a
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: practical example because it's ownership is something that's hard to
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: really exercise on a daily basis, but when you can
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: break through and kind of give some practical examples of
• 22:52
  Speaker 2: where that mindset fails you, I think it just helps
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: to illustrate it. So, yeah, so how do you change
• 22:57
  Speaker 2: a core belief? This is really what we want to
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: get into because I think it's so key to resiliency
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: and understanding the importance of believing in yourself. So I
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: think the very first thing we talked about last time,
• 23:07
  Speaker 2: it's good to know what you believe about yourself already.
• 23:11
  Speaker 2: I think if you ask most people, hey, what are
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: your core beliefs? Yeah, they wouldn't.
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: Let's talk about changing a core belief, like okay, So
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: the same way the person would look at me and say, like,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: what do you mean you wouldn't drop your phone jumping
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: out of an airplane, it's the core belief that they
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: have that there are certain circumstances that are beyond their
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: control where it's excusable or okay that they would drop
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: their phone. So there's an awareness that needs to occur
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: for you that for and how it occurred for me
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: is like, okay, I would see how norm people would
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: normally think that, like jumping out of a plane one
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: hundred miles an hour, wind, phone in your hand, you're
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: gonna drop it. But I chose to change the way
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: I looked at that problem. I said, Okay, I can
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: hold onto my phone in one hundred mile per hour wind.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: There's no circumstances beyond one hundred mile per hour wind
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: that would make me not hold my phone. So I
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: wrote a belief that said I can jump out of
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: a plane holding my phone.
• 24:04
  Speaker 3: And I did.
• 24:05
  Speaker 1: And so there's two things that you need to write
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: a core belief. You got to make a choice. But
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: then I was also able to make that choice.
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: Nick.
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: I wasn't making that choice. I wasn't someone who's like
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: super klutzy and then went up in an airplane and said,
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: you know what, I'm going to change everything about myself
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: right now.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: Now.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: I also have evidence of that in my life, and
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: I have experience. I have all these past events where
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: I haven't been clumsy, and so I was able to
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: just kind of like broaden or increase the ability that
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: I already have of not being a klutz and go
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: take it a step further. So to write a core belief,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: you need to make a choice, but then you also
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: need experience that goes with it. And it's like a
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: chicken or the egg conversation, and don't try to figure
• 24:48
  Speaker 1: out which comes first. Just whichever one you encounter first
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: is the one that you should do. I need to
• 24:53
  Speaker 1: make a choice here, make a choice. Do I need
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: to start to experience this? Then do that, and they
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: both build on top of each other. Right, So you
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: don't start disciplined by saying like I'm going to go
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: run a marathon tomorrow, but I've never run in my life.
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: It doesn't work that way. If you wanted to build
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: a belief of being a good runner, well, the first
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: thing you got to do is just start running. Say
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: you know what, I've never run before, or I'm not
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: a good runner. I'm going to become a good runner.
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: Choice second thing, start running, and the more you run,
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: the more you'll reaffirm that choice that you made. So
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: you build those core beliefs over time. And the core
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: beliefs that I have I'm fortunate to have had for
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: a long time. So they've just gotten stronger and stronger
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: and stronger, and core beliefs have touched together. Core beliefs
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: have leveled up, and I've added new ones and attached.
• 25:38
  Speaker 3: Them to the ones that I have.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: So if you want to write a new core belief,
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: just know that one it's not going to happen super quick,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: but you can change it with choice and then build
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: up experiences that reaffirm that and strengthen that core belief.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: Man, I love that for people. I want to talk
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: more about the discipline because you are so big on discipline,
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: and I love how you describe it like a muscle,
• 25:58
  Speaker 2: because I think that's the perfect analogy. But just to say,
• 26:01
  Speaker 2: for anybody listening, because this is something here comes an
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: impossible life bingo Tony Robbins quote. He says, the fastest
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: way to get someplace that you want to be is
• 26:09
  Speaker 2: to model somebody that's doing what you or has what
• 26:12
  Speaker 2: you want, or is being the person that you want.
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: So if you don't know your core beliefs and you're
• 26:16
  Speaker 2: trying to figure this out so you can make the choices,
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: look around at somebody that you admire, look at somebody
• 26:21
  Speaker 2: that you would like to be, like, do what they're doing.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: That's the simplest form. But that's just a little side
• 26:26
  Speaker 2: note nugget there. So for you get discipline and you
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: talk about that like a muscle, can you go into
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: that little bit more because I think, yeah, for sure,
• 26:34
  Speaker 2: you can talk to discipline.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: So in the last episode, when we were talking about resilience.
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: It might have even sounded like I was talking down
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: about confidence, and that's not the case. I was really
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: just making sure that people understand that resilience and confidence
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: are not the same. Yeah, but confidence is great. And
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: I actually call discipline and confidence sisters, which would seem strange,
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: but they build on they build onto each other.
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: So, like, if you want to form a discipline and
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: you are you're a completely an undisciplined person, you also
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: have no confidence in yourself, you have no confidence in
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: your ability to be disciplined. So again, chicken her egg here,
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: you need to just get rolling. You need to start
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: the process. But when you are, like if you're already
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: a very disciplined person, then you have the confidence that
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: you can write new disciplines. So again, if I'm trying
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: to become a runner and I don't have any discipline
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: about running, well, all you got to say, you know what, tomorrow,
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: I'm going to put my shoes on and I'm going
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: to run around the block. Right, And you just did
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: one day's worth of a discipline, and you just did
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: one lap worth of confidence, and you continually build the
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: two and the more laps that you take, the more
• 27:39
  Speaker 1: you'll feel like, man, I'm so disciplined. Like I said,
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: I was going to do this today and I did it.
• 27:44
  Speaker 1: And the more you run, the better runner you'll become,
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: and discipline gets easier. So discipline is like a muscle.
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: When people say like, oh, man, I'm not a good reader, Well,
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: how often do you read?
• 27:54
  Speaker 3: I don't.
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: That's why you're not a good reader. People say like, man,
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: I'm so undisciplined. Well, what things are you did diciplined
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: about in your life?
• 28:01
  Speaker 3: Crickets?
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: Right, So the reason you're not disciplined is because you're
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: not disciplined. The reason you're not a good reader is
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: because you don't read. It doesn't mean that you don't
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: know how to read. It means you don't practice it.
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: You're not disciplined because you don't practice discipline. It is
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: a muscle. You're not you. People say, oh, man, like
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: I just I'm so aded. I don't know how to focus. Well,
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: focus is also a muscle. Different conversation, but we have
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: to build these things that are muscles and you can
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: strengthen it up over time. But I want, actually, if
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: we're going to talk about discipline, I want to talk
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: about discipline versus willpower. Okay, so discipline and willpower are
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: are not the same thing. Now they can sometimes achieve
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: the same results, but they're actually two totally different uh
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: mechanics or pieces of software. Willpower is really like your
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: choice power, and willpower is a finite resource. Eventually, you
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: will run out of willpower if you are tempted enough
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: times to eat a cookie or you know, break a
• 29:01
  Speaker 1: diet that you're loosely on, and you have weak discipline,
• 29:05
  Speaker 1: eventually you're going to cave in. Like people don't. People
• 29:08
  Speaker 1: don't eat pop tarts. Well, pop tarts isn't a good analogy.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: People don't eat like snacks or popcorn or candy, whatever,
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: the stuff that you're not supposed to ice cream. Nobody
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: eats ice cream at eight in the morning. They eat
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: it at nine pm, ten pm at night, right because
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: they have decision fatigue.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: Have you seen my house due do you have cameras
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: in there?
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: They have decision fatigue.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: They were strong enough to make good choices in the morning,
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: maybe to make it through lunch, but at the end
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: of the day they've made so many choices, they've run
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: out of willpower. They've run out of choice power. So
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: where discipline comes in. Discipline is different. Discipline doesn't say
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: do I want to eat ice cream right now?
• 29:43
  Speaker 3: Yes or no.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Discipline says I don't eat ice cream right and that
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: you don't. You're never going to run out of energy
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: for discipline, but you will run out of battery power
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: on your willpower very quickly. It's I mean, willpower is
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: like your phone. At the beginning of the day, you
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: got a full charge. By the end of the day
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: you're trying to play get back in. Discipline is different.
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: Discipline is like software, and the more you strengthen that software,
• 30:05
  Speaker 1: the more of that software that you write, like, it's
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: going to be very hard to get past it.
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, if you saw something appear over my head while
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: you were talking, it was the light bulb of you
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: talking about the chicken and egg because you're talking about choice.
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: But I mean I can choose. I mean the diet
• 30:20
  Speaker 2: example is perfect. The amount of time is that I'm
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: not saying that I've done this, hint, I have done
• 30:24
  Speaker 2: this many times. You wake up and you're like, man,
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: I want to be in better shape. You know you're
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: getting changed. You look at yourself in the mirror, you're
• 30:30
  Speaker 2: like today, I'm gonna eat super healthy, I'm gonna run,
• 30:33
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna work out, and you do all this stuff
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: and like, maybe you do some of it. I've done
• 30:36
  Speaker 2: some of it, and maybe even the last of day.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: But then sure enough, man, usually it doesn't even last
• 30:41
  Speaker 2: a day. It's that night you're like, oh, I guess
• 30:43
  Speaker 2: I could have this, and you just shipwrecked your whole,
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: your whole you know, vision, great vision that you had
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: on a whim.
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: And let me step into the person. Let me step
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: into the conversation with the person who's in exactly the place.
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: That you just described.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Okay, you're you are the person who you're saying, yep,
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: that's me. Like I keep making willpower efforts. I keep
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: making these declarations, yeah, and not keeping them. You are
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: sabotaging yourself. Like, if you want to be disciplined, if
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: you want to have confidence, quit lying to yourself, like
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: don't set an alarm for four am and then snooze
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: at thirty seven times. Right, But the flip side of that,
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: if you say, write with intention, and this is why
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: you know, I keep a journal at night that I
• 31:23
  Speaker 1: write in and I say, here's what I'm going to
• 31:25
  Speaker 1: do tomorrow, and then the first thing I do tomorrow
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: when I wake up that next day is what I
• 31:30
  Speaker 1: wrote in my journal. And you know what that gives me.
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: That gives me confidence that when I say something, I'll
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: do it, and that is a superpower right there. So
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: quit making declarations and not keeping them. Don't make declarations
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: you can't keep, but intentionally make declarations that you know
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: you can keep, and then you'll have more confidence in
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: the declarations that you make for yourself, and then you
• 31:51
  Speaker 1: will be able to take on larger and larger declarations
• 31:54
  Speaker 1: and say, you know what, man, every time I say
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: I'm going to do something, I do it. Let's see
• 31:58
  Speaker 1: what kind of crazy things I can say and still
• 32:00
  Speaker 1: do them.
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: All right, Let's let's deconstruct the Navy seal myth, because
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: I know you're all about that. You're a Navy seal,
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: so quote unquote, it's easy for you to say these
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: things because you've done all this stuff. For sure. You
• 32:10
  Speaker 2: weren't born in navy seal. So how did you get
• 32:13
  Speaker 2: to the level of discipline that it took to make
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: it through buds and to you know, do what you did?
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: Because you're talking once again, we're looking at you on
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: the other side of your victory, where you've already accomplished
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: these things. And a lot of these things are habits.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: But where was young Garrett and how discipline?
• 32:28
  Speaker 1: I'm still building my disciplines today, and that's why they
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: are daily disciplines. You can be a disciplined person and
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: become a very undisciplined person. There's plenty of people that
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: come out of the seal teams and go through a
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: season of undisciplined because they think now is the time to,
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: you know, take the belt off and let the waist
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: out a little bit. And you don't do that intentionally,
• 32:48
  Speaker 1: but as soon as you stop trying to be disciplined
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: like you can be, you can be muscle cover guy
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: giant arms. But as soon as you quit lifting, those
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: arms slowly start getting smaller and smaller.
• 32:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: Right, So deconstructing, give me the question again that.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: You don't mean to answer, And that's a great analogy.
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: I think that's where the example of calling discipline a
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: muscle is so easily understandable for everybody, because everyone knows
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: you're not going to get massive muscles by working out.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: Once you have to start something.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: There's so many analogies to the muscles. Honestly, if you're
• 33:18
  Speaker 1: someone who like you know, you worked that you were
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: a bodybuilder for fifteen years, and you know what, you
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: go through three or four years of you know, you
• 33:25
  Speaker 1: have surgery or business or whatever, and you kind of
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: get out of shape and a little overweight. But it's
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: really it's still going to be a lot easier for
• 33:31
  Speaker 1: you to come back and get in shape than somebody else.
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: So just know that about yourself and understand, just like
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: you need to understand your anatomy to be good, you know,
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: to build your body and to keep health, you need
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: to understand the way that you think you need to
• 33:43
  Speaker 1: understand your neurology. If you're getting into what we're doing here,
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: which is trying to build mental processes. If you've never
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: been a disciplined person in your life, you're not just
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: going to overnight become a super disciplined person.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Okay, So going back to deconstructing the Navy seal, I
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: am really curious about this. So you know this now, Wow,
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: you join buds at night or you sign up for
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: the Navy at nineteen, So how did I don't know
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: if you were you aware of this discipline thought process
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: or how did you train for budds or get your
• 34:09
  Speaker 2: discipline muscle for lack of a better word, ready for buds.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: So, okay, I'll just kind of talk a little bit
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: about my disciplined story for myself. Ever, there's a lot
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: of different verticals in life that you can be disciplined in.
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: People start with one thing. Like some people like the
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: first thing they're disciplined in is their finances, right, That
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: wasn't That wasn't the case for me, Like in my life,
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: my finance is is one of the last things I disciplined,
• 34:34
  Speaker 1: But for some people that's first. You have all these
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: different things that are first. And I can when I
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: sit with people, with people that I coach, I find
• 34:41
  Speaker 1: out which discipline, if they are disciplined, which one they
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: mastered first, because it helps me understand them. For if people,
• 34:46
  Speaker 1: for young people that are disciplined, almost always it's physical
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: discipline first.
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: So in eighth grade, people called me skinny, and Garrett
• 34:56
  Speaker 1: had a core belief that he wasn't going to be skinny, Right.
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: I had a core belief in who I could be
• 35:01
  Speaker 1: and what I could become. And so even though I
• 35:04
  Speaker 1: looked skinny, I said, I'm not skinny, like people would
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: tell me I was skinned.
• 35:06
  Speaker 3: I said, no, I'm not.
• 35:07
  Speaker 1: Even though I was skinned, I was one hundred and
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: sixty one one hundred and thirty five pounds, So I'm
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: not skinny. And I kept saying that, and I kept
• 35:13
  Speaker 1: changing it. So the first discipline for me was working out,
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: and like I got into bodybuilding between eighth and ninth grade,
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: and I was someone who was at the gym every
• 35:21
  Speaker 1: day for over an hour, six days a week, all
• 35:24
  Speaker 1: through high school. So the first discipline I built was
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: physical discipline. And once you master one discipline, then you
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: then you realize the journey that it took to build
• 35:33
  Speaker 1: discipline and you can go apply that to other things.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: It's like, man, when I first started working out, I
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: don't know, Jack, but how much time did I spend
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: reading forums and buying books and all that stuff to
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: learn about a discipline that I wanted? And it was
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: something that I cared about, something that was so important
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: to me. That's the only reason I was able to
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: build that discipline in the first place, because it meant
• 35:53
  Speaker 1: everything to me. Like I more than anything at thirteen
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: fourteen years old, I wanted to not be skinned right,
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: and I built the disciplines that got me there.
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: But even sorry, I just want to step in real
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: quick because you literally just talked about core beliefs as
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: and once again the link to discipline. I just want
• 36:10
  Speaker 2: to point it out because you talked about you said
• 36:12
  Speaker 2: it was something important to you, and I think core
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: beliefs sometimes people shoot for pie in the sky. But
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: I just wanted to make the point these are things
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: that are important to you. It's going to be different
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: for every single person, but it is so central because,
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: like you just said, when it's important enough to you,
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: then you're going to start taking the path of discipline
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: and building. So sorry to interrupt you, I just wanted
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: to point that out because it just dawned on me.
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: And if you're if you're having the question of like, okay,
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: how did you like have that core belief at it?
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: How did you in eighth grade, you know, have the
• 36:40
  Speaker 1: core belief that I'm not skinny, right, I'll identify that
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: really quick and then we'll and then we'll keep going
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: down this deconstruction of a seal thought process for me,
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: like the core of core beliefs, like this is my
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: core belief generator, this thought process is what allowed me
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: to control all my core beliefs.
• 36:56
  Speaker 3: Is one of the things in my infinite potential unlock. Right.
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: My parents told me at a young age, you can
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: have anything you want in life as long as you're
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: willing to pay the price for it. What that say?
• 37:06
  Speaker 1: That a different way? You can change anything you want
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: to change. And so when people told me I was skinny,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: it was true, but I said, I can change that,
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: and I don't want that, and so I can. Like
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: that thought process of you can have anything you want
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: as long as you're willing to pay the price for
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: it is a thought process that says you can do
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: whatever you want to do. You can change whatever you
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: want to change if you're willing to change it. Right,
• 37:28
  Speaker 1: So that's like the that's the core belief underneath all
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: of my core beliefs. But let's build the disciplines here, right.
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: So I started out just working out in high school
• 37:38
  Speaker 1: and understanding how to build discipline, and then I started
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: disciplining myself as well as I could to prepare for
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: seal training. And my story going into seal training is
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: a little bit different than most people's. For a lot
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: of my peers, even in that time because so I
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: started in BUDS Class two eighty six, which kicked off
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: August twenty ten. I had in November twenty ten.
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: Hell week.
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: I'm also voicing this just to get myself back on
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: my chronology. But where where was I going with that?
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: Nick?
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: You were trying to tell me how you got ready
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: to go in?
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: Ah?
• 38:11
  Speaker 1: Yes, thank you that you're awesome. So preparing myself for
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: seal training I started so not. I couldn't just you know,
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: be a Jim bro anymore. I did prepare myself to
• 38:22
  Speaker 1: become a seal. But the hard part for me was
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: the first seals I ever met were my instructors, the
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: guy from the North Texas area and he still he
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: still does it today. Who is the seal mentor? You know,
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: say you're joining the Navy and you're trying to get
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: a seal contract. They're going to connect you with the
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: seal mentor, right, and he's going to interview you. Understand
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: you also help you answer questions for you. Well, he
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: was deployed when I was trying to he'd been called
• 38:46
  Speaker 1: out of reserves to get deployed. So when I joined,
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: there was no seal mentor for the North Texas area
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: so I didn't know anything, Like literally, all I had
• 38:55
  Speaker 1: was Buzz Class two thirty four documentary and Survivor. Those
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: were the two things that I had to read and
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: learn about to figure out whatever I could figure out
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: about seal teams, what they didn't you know, funny story
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: and Buds Clos's two thirty four, Like you see log
• 39:11
  Speaker 1: PT and all that stuff, but you don't see a schedule.
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: I thought log PT was every day, like from a
• 39:17
  Speaker 1: bud Stuss. So when I got there and I'm like,
• 39:19
  Speaker 1: you mean this is I think that camera if it's
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: once or twice a week, but I'm like, this is
• 39:24
  Speaker 1: you don't have to do this every day, Like oh,
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: this isn't that bad. And then I remember googling, like okay,
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: so I knew Buds you see it in the two
• 39:32
  Speaker 1: thirty four documentary. You know it about the Pacific Ocean.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: I knew the water's cold, and so I'm like, okay,
• 39:37
  Speaker 1: I gotta like prepare myself for cold water. And so
• 39:40
  Speaker 1: I in December in Texas you get in a pool
• 39:44
  Speaker 1: and that water is very likely to be somewhere between
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: thirty five and forty five degrees. Well, I didn't figure
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: out until later that the water in San Diego is
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: only fifty eight degrees.
• 39:53
  Speaker 3: So I'm like, dang, like, this is easy. I remember
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: Maan Diego.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: So that's hilarious to hear you say that because I've
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: served that.
• 39:59
  Speaker 3: H Oh, it is cold. It's cold for sure.
• 40:01
  Speaker 2: Five hurts.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: The average I'm pretty sure the average water temp in
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: San Diego, like yearly is between fifty five and sixty
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: two degrees.
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: There's not a lot of variation.
• 40:10
  Speaker 2: You can get high sixties in summer, yeah, for you can.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: You can skin it surfing a couple of weeks a
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: year in San Diego.
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: Dude.
• 40:17
  Speaker 2: Okay, I'm I'm not going to listen to some foreigner
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: tell me about San Diego surfing. Dude, but I used
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: to skin it all the time, just saying maybe I'm
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: better at cold water than you.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: Bro. Oh, that's that's definitely the case. So anyways, get
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: us back on track.
• 40:29
  Speaker 2: Maw all right, So you're trying to prepare for this.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: You've seen a documentary and done a few Google searches
• 40:33
  Speaker 2: and think, hey, I'm gonna be a Navy seat.
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so me, so me disciplining myself, Like, how do
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: you discipline yourself for what? You don't know is coming
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: because I didn't know what I didn't know. And so
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: for better or for worse. Garrett's version of disciplining disciplining
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: himself preparing for cold water because like I'd read online,
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: like most people quit from the cold water, I'm like,
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: all right, check, Like I don't want to quit from
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: the cold water.
• 40:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's funny.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: That I say check referring to an old thought process,
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: because that's not a word that I use now, but
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: that is a word that I use as a student.
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: So it's funny, like I'm even going back to the
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: words that I use.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: Transform before my eyes. You might kill me now for
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: that comment I made about the cold water and me
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: being better.
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: Only when you're not looking.
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: So anyways, the way that I discipline myself preparing for
• 41:15
  Speaker 1: seal training, it's like, all right, if people quit from
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: the cold water, and like that's the most common thing
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: and the hardest part, one of the hardest parts of
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: buds is not quitting. And people quit from cold water, Well,
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: then I'm going to make sure that I'm quit proof
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: on cold water. And I just got in the cold
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: water every day, and my dad would come out there
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: and he's like, please get out of the water before
• 41:34
  Speaker 1: you pass out. Like I would stand there, like with
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: my arms over the edge of the pool in case
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: I did pass out, and literally until I was blue
• 41:43
  Speaker 1: and like I could barely walk out of the pool.
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: And I would walk out of the pool and I'd
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: go sit inside, and I visualizing myself doing this in
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: my parents' house. I'd go sit inside for a minute
• 41:52
  Speaker 1: until I warmed up enough that like I wasn't shaking
• 41:54
  Speaker 1: so bad that I was about to chip a tooth.
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: And then I would just go right back and get
• 41:58
  Speaker 1: in the water and do it over and over. Or
• 42:00
  Speaker 1: sometimes I would get up frozen and take off running,
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: and you know, go run a couple of miles and
• 42:05
  Speaker 1: come back and get in the pool.
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: And it hurt every time.
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: I guess, Oh, it never stops hurting. I would tell you, honestly,
• 42:12
  Speaker 1: I think if you have like severe cold exposure, or
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: you like for years after hell week, I couldn't feel
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: my toes. Oh, and like even to this day, like
• 42:21
  Speaker 1: the very tips of my toes, just like the last
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: like little tiniest piece of the tips of my toes
• 42:26
  Speaker 1: have a lack of feeling.
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: A lot of guys would tell you that.
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: Huh.
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: So I would tell you that more cold exposure doesn't
• 42:32
  Speaker 1: necessarily make you stronger. It just makes you more You're
• 42:36
  Speaker 1: more used to it, like you you know what, you
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: know how painful it's going to be, but it doesn't
• 42:40
  Speaker 1: make the pain any less. It's not like running, where
• 42:43
  Speaker 1: like if you're if you're a marathon, or like a
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: mile is easy. It's certainly not that way. But I
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: will say there is a little bit of comparison in between, Like, Okay,
• 42:51
  Speaker 1: I subjected myself to so much forty degree water that
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: when I got to San Diego and I'm in the
• 42:56
  Speaker 1: fifty five sixty degree water whatever it was, it was
• 42:59
  Speaker 1: still cold. But I remember so many conscious thoughts of
• 43:03
  Speaker 1: this is a lot warmer than the pool.
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: Huh. But you, I mean, you talk about it.
• 43:07
  Speaker 1: Doesn't It doesn't mean I wasn't shivering right there next
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: to everybody in miserable.
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah. But but you said you weren't necessarily training for
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: cold water, because you just said, Okay, it wasn't as bad,
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: but it wasn't easy. You were training not to quit.
• 43:19
  Speaker 2: You said you were disciplining your.
• 43:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, making myself quit proof. So some advice that I
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: give to tadpoles that are saying like where do I start?
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: What do I do?
• 43:30
  Speaker 1: First off, I'm like, don't ask me about diet, don't
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: ask me about an exercise plan, because I don't really
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: care about any of that. My favorite movie is The Matrix,
• 43:39
  Speaker 1: not Pumping Iron, right. My favorite movie is how Do
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: I Make My Mind Strong? And I think I was.
• 43:45
  Speaker 1: I was inferior physically to my peers and buds. The
• 43:48
  Speaker 1: strength that I had was in mindset. So if I'm
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: talking to the tadpoles like how do you train and prepare,
• 43:53
  Speaker 1: whether it's the cold water, whether it's getting physically capable,
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: you need to start telling yourself how do I pe
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: not quitting any you need to like first off, and
• 44:03
  Speaker 1: if you if you are a quitter at anything, stop it,
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: you know, stop it. My parents would let me quit sports,
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: like I remember when I wanted to. When I decided
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: I wanted to stop playing football, my dad was like,
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: you have to finish the year, Like you can not
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: join next year, but you have to finish. Anything you start,
• 44:17
  Speaker 1: you have to finish. That isn't just a I want
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: to be a Navy seal, that's a lifeism. Yeah, anything
• 44:22
  Speaker 1: you start, finish it. So get that solidified. And then
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: whether you're a tadpole wanting to become a seal or
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: you're someone that's on this podcast because you're just trying
• 44:30
  Speaker 1: to push the limits of impossible, you're just trying to
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: level yourself up. Well, what you need to start doing is, Okay,
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: I'm going to commit myself to something harder. I'm gonna
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: make those declarations kind of like the discipline, but I'm
• 44:40
  Speaker 1: going to make myself finish it.
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: And so what.
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: I did is I kept subjecting myself to more and
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: more difficult things until I found myself in the freezing
• 44:47
  Speaker 1: cold pool. It just kept subjecting myself to it over
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: and over and making myself want to quit, and then
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: choosing not to quit. And so if you want to,
• 44:55
  Speaker 1: like if you want to prepare for buds, do that
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: practice not quitting put yourself in the most un comfortable position.
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: I think what most people like, if you want to
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: talk about the worst way to train for seal training,
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: try to make difficult things comfortable. Most guys say like, well,
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: how good of a runner would I have to be
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: to know that running won't be hard? And if you
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: are trying to train to a level that buds won't
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: be hard. You're setting yourself up for failure, but instead
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: say how do I become someone that, no matter how
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: hard it is, I can finish it? Not someone who says,
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: how do I make hard things easy?
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah? And I mean, I'm just imagining what you were
• 45:31
  Speaker 2: saying about discipline and willpower. If you would have just
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: gone in there off your own willpower, you would have
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: got out pretty quickly.
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: Oh man.
• 45:38
  Speaker 1: It's the saddest thing. So many guys come in there
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: when we could interview people who make it, but you
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: get so many interviews of the people that quit. I
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: got to see it from both sides, both assisting afterwards
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: on hell weeks and talking to students as a seal,
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: But then even as a student, like your friends quit
• 45:56
  Speaker 1: and you get to talk to them, like, bro, why.
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: Did you quit?
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: And you'll hear people set like this is the most
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: common one, and it's the most disappointing one.
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: I just decided that I don't want to be a
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: Navy seal anymore.
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: Oh man, it's totally They just like it got so
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: hard that they weren't they they were counting on willpower.
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: I really want this until you don't, right, and if
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: you think your wanted game is gonna get you through
• 46:19
  Speaker 1: the game.
• 46:20
  Speaker 3: That won't work.
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: What I decided was I don't quit things, and so
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: when I got into BUDS, and this is the mindset
• 46:27
  Speaker 1: that I try to give Tadpoles going in. You've got
• 46:30
  Speaker 1: to know once you start Buds, once you join the Navy,
• 46:33
  Speaker 1: there is zero backing out. The only way out is through.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: You have to finish. Whether you decide becoming a seal
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: is like the worst thing on the planet and you
• 46:42
  Speaker 1: don't want to do this anymore, you better freaking finish
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: because the pain of quitting is worse than the pain
• 46:48
  Speaker 1: of the cold water. And you've got to have that
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: awareness before you get there, not say like, well, I
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: just want this so bad. I'm pretty sure I'm not
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: positive in this, but I'm I'm very confident that all
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: the legacy students and my Budds class. Legacy students are
• 47:03
  Speaker 1: guys who you know their dad was an ABC, right, Okay,
• 47:06
  Speaker 1: that would be a real reason to want it, right,
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: Like this is important in my family. I look up
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: to my dad. I'm pretty sure all the legacy students
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: in my class quit because they tried to get through
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: on willpower.
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: Man, that's such a practical application. And we've gone through
• 47:21
  Speaker 2: a really wonderful long story showing the difference between discipline
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: and willpower all tied to core beliefs. I'm hoping everybody
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: stayed with us as far as how we did that.
• 47:29
  Speaker 2: I just want to kind of revisit what we were
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: talking about. We know that your behavior will fuel your
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: core beliefs, right, and your core beliefs also fuel your behavior.
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: So it's like what you said, it's chicken and egg.
• 47:40
  Speaker 2: So you've got to decide beforehand who you want to
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: be right, and then you've got to build the small wins.
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: You talked about that training your discipline. It starts in
• 47:48
  Speaker 2: one area and then it goes into every area. And
• 47:50
  Speaker 2: then consistent choices, I mean what you talked about without
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: actually saying it in this word, but consistent choices over
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: time become habits. By the time you got the seals,
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: you were so disciplined to not quit that to quit
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: would have been you know, I don't know, like spinky Chinese,
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: you don't. You just don't know how to do it
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: at that point. I don't know if you do speak Chinese,
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: but no, okay, I just want to make sure you
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: never know. I might say I say stuff to you
• 48:10
  Speaker 2: all the time. You're like, oh yeah, one time I
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: fought a wild rhino and I won.
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: I'm not much of a linguist.
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: Okay, well whatever, I'm glad that. I'm glad to know
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: that there's one area where maybe I speak two languages,
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: so maybe there's one area where I can I can
• 48:23
  Speaker 2: bust out on you.
• 48:24
  Speaker 3: Not that it's not a competition, but it's but everything's
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: a competition.
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: I'm just joking, man, take it easy anyways. But going
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: back to that, so, yeah, just we're talking about that.
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: It's so key man for changing core beliefs. So once again,
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: decide beforehand. One thing about deciding beforehand, and this is
• 48:40
  Speaker 2: a really key thing if you want to build confidence,
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: especially if you're trying to change the behavior because you
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: want to change a core belief, you decide it on.
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: Make the decision when you're sat on your high mountaintop.
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: Don't wait to say, hey, let's go back to the
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: diet one Oh you know, I'll eat healthy if they
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: have it there, or let's see what they got. You
• 48:56
  Speaker 2: make the choice that you're either going to eat healthy
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: or you're not going to eat it at all.
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: That's call that the sober mind.
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: Right, So that's not like just like alcohol sobriety, but
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: a sober mind. Like you can have sober moments, yeah right,
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: that doesn't refer to alcohol. It's a moment of clarity
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: where you know like, Okay, this is who I am,
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: this is what I want, this is a choice that
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: I'm making, this is important to me. You have to
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: listen to your sober mind. You have to remember those
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: sober decisions that you made when it gets hard or
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: when you're feeling something else, because your feelings are never
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: are your feelings going to align one hundred percent of
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: the time to the choices that you've made in the past.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: You're gonna get married, and then you're gonna start feeling
• 49:37
  Speaker 1: like did I make a wrong decision? You're going to
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: join a diet plan, and then you're going to start
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: feeling like it's really not that word. It's not worth
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: it to me, Like I forget the six pack, I
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: want this food, whatever it is. You're going to make
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: decisions in a sober mind, and then your feelings will change,
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: and do not listen to your feelings, listen to your
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: sober mind.
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and there is a real but there's a real
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: power in that in making that decision before and so
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: there's not so once you've made it, it's a non decision, right,
• 50:03
  Speaker 2: and you're get in front of it and it's not
• 50:05
  Speaker 2: even like, oh well, what's the healthiest thing here, it's like,
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: oh well, if it's not going to meet my goal,
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: if it's not in line with what I'm thinking, I've
• 50:10
  Speaker 2: already decided I just don't eat right. You can skip
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: a meal. Like, let's be honest, we fall apart with
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: people who get angry. I have no tolerance for that.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: I'm like, if you get angry, you need to check
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: yourself because that's ridiculous. Anyways, that's a whole other thing.
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna get off my high horse here. So we
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: have covered an absolute metric ton of stuff here. I'm
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: looking forward to listening back to this personally, just because
• 50:29
  Speaker 2: I always benefit from metric ton.
• 50:31
  Speaker 3: I believe that's twenty two hundred pounds instead of two thousand.
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: Not a linguist, but he does have a strong math
• 50:35
  Speaker 2: for our listeners. Yes, thank you for pointing that out.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: You must have been great at math as a youth.
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: Well, either that or I'm wrong about how much a
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: metric ton is, so.
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: It might be twenty four hundred. I'm just look that up.
• 50:45
  Speaker 2: But the point is, I'm just tying that back to
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: that story you told about being good at math. It
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: was beautiful. I'm trying to close the story loop. I
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: thought you'd enjoy that.
• 50:53
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, So challenges for listeners, Guys, We're going
• 50:56
  Speaker 2: to wrap up here because we've definitely covered a lot
• 50:59
  Speaker 2: talk about core beliefs. Talking about change is the very
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: first thing to ask yourself, who are you? If you
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: don't know the answer to that question, then answer this one.
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: Who do you want to be? Next? Challenge for you,
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: what can you do practically, starting right now, to begin
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: building your discipline muscle? Anything you want to add to
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: those takeaways, Garrett, If.
• 51:21
  Speaker 1: You're going to start building your discipline muscle, if you're
• 51:24
  Speaker 1: going to start building it tomorrow, why not start building
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: it now? Stop stop this podcast posit and say here's
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: what I'm going to do. You know, if I'm the
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: person that wants to build discipline, Okay, here's what I'm
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: going to do tonight. I'm going to write down the
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: things I'm going to do tomorrow and then tomorrow I'm
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: going to do the things that I wrote down. That
• 51:40
  Speaker 1: is as simple as it is to start building discipline.
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: And just like you don't become Arnold Schwarzenegger from visiting
• 51:46
  Speaker 1: the gym one time, you don't become a master of
• 51:48
  Speaker 1: discipline by following your declarations by doing what you say
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: one time. But eventually you'll go to the gym enough.
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Eventually you'll do what you say enough, and you'll look
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: up one day and you'll say, man, I'm very disciplined.
• 52:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you said you can have anything you want if
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: you're willing to pay the price. Well, if you decide
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: what you want, the price that you're going to have
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: to pay. Here is probably ten thousand small decisions to
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: back up what you determined to do.
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: And I'll just say this and we'll close. There's a
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: lot like this. These are things that make people very
• 52:15
  Speaker 1: uncomfortable because it's not as simple as math. It's not
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: just like, oh, this is what I want and do it.
• 52:20
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of fear associated with this. And instead
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: of spending all the time disassembling your fears, because you
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: can do that, you can go to a counselor. And
• 52:29
  Speaker 1: I'm not making anyone feel bad who visits a counselor
• 52:32
  Speaker 1: it's not what I'm saying. You can spend all the
• 52:34
  Speaker 1: time to disassemble your fears, or you can just simply say,
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: I know what I have in my life right now,
• 52:40
  Speaker 1: and it's not what I want. I'm tired of being undisciplined.
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: I'm tired of being someone who continually wants to change
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: and never does. And you can decide now that you're
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: not that person anymore. That's as simple as it is.
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: I can't think of any better way to end this man.
• 52:55
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• 52:58
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