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Capítulo 051: Mala y Diosa · Locatora Radio [A Radiophonic Novela]

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Speaker 1: Radio radio Radio Commies, a myth and Bullshit A radio
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Speaker 1: phonic novella, Local Radio hosted by Malamo. Hello, welcome back
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Speaker 1: to local radio Loca Moorrees. Welcome, Welcome, welcome back. This
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Speaker 1: is Mala and this is Dersan and we are last
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Speaker 1: local radio coming to you once again from Radio Spasso
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Speaker 1: always for joining us. Thank you for tuning in to
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Speaker 1: look at a radio a radio phonic novella. Are having
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Speaker 1: the legacies, geniuses and brilliances of women and fans of color,
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Speaker 1: so another capitol. We just keep them coming, Yes we do.
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Speaker 1: We are out here, y'all. We're out here and we
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Speaker 1: are giving you guys a little bit extra with this,
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Speaker 1: you know, a little a little something. Yes, the us.
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Speaker 1: You know, we got some feedback from our listeners. We
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Speaker 1: got some requests that we do more episodes like we
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Speaker 1: used to or it was just the two of us talking. Yes,
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Speaker 1: our interviews are amazing. All of our interviews, like the
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Speaker 1: past few months have been so incredible, so incredible. I
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Speaker 1: also want to say, like our tagline is that we
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Speaker 1: are archiving the geniuses and legacies, and the part of
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Speaker 1: that is interviewing the so many dope creators like within
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Speaker 1: our circle or just like out there doing the damn thing.
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Speaker 1: So also really important to us that of color y'all
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Speaker 1: get to know them because we also can't like us
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Speaker 1: to like cannot talk about everything because we don't experience everything, right,
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Speaker 1: which is why we have guests to bring up their
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Speaker 1: own expertise. And again, like we see so many of
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Speaker 1: our friends doing incredible ship and people that we look
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Speaker 1: up to or that we've been following for a long time, artists,
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Speaker 1: creators especially, you know, like folks of color who are
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Speaker 1: really creating like our canon and who are making history. Right.
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Speaker 1: Think about like when we were in even in middle school,
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Speaker 1: elementary school, right, and I know, like as a literature major,
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Speaker 1: like the cannon was white men. Right, Everything that was
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Speaker 1: like important in history and that was worthy of learning
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Speaker 1: was by white people, right. But we're flipping the damn
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Speaker 1: scripts and we are archiving. We are interviewing the amazing
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Speaker 1: creators of color, the women of color, the fems of
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Speaker 1: color that are like creating you know, that's narrating our
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Speaker 1: one political climate to our lives three like what we
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Speaker 1: enjoy you know, Yeah, and I it's the type of
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Speaker 1: thing where like you know, however, many years from now,
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Speaker 1: just like we do today and like we do online
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Speaker 1: and on our Instagrams and our Tumblers and our Twitters
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Speaker 1: and everything like that and shout we yeah, you know,
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Speaker 1: we look to like moheads and fems in the past
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Speaker 1: who we're doing cool ship, and we commemorate them and
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Speaker 1: we celebrate them. We're hoping that we can like have
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Speaker 1: a source to continue that tradition to the future, like
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Speaker 1: in Maagin and like ten years from now, someone writing
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Speaker 1: a dissertation about and all the artists that we interviewed
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Speaker 1: like manifest right, and where and then where all these
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Speaker 1: artists going to be? Where will we be twenty years
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Speaker 1: from now? You know what I mean? The story. So
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Speaker 1: it's just so amazing and it's so important to us,
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Speaker 1: especially like we've talked about this, but like where is
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Speaker 1: our history for queer people? Like we have been in
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Speaker 1: history forever, right, but like where's the documentation for people
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Speaker 1: of color, for women of color, for survivors? Where is that?
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Speaker 1: Like this is where it's at, right, the community memory. Yes,
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Speaker 1: this is why it's important. Also, if you're creating stuff,
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Speaker 1: always put the date, like put the year, like se
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Speaker 1: us stand from when Cheeseman taught me that. When I
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Speaker 1: was taking classes with him and we made a flyer together,
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Speaker 1: he was always put the date because that is how
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Speaker 1: people will look at your history and no, you were
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Speaker 1: doing this in that year, your chronology, this year, this
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Speaker 1: time period, this place where in l A. Of course
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Speaker 1: we've done interviews with people out of state and even
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Speaker 1: in different countries, different continents. But you know, I think
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Speaker 1: the fact that we're in Los Angeles, our proximity to Hollywood,
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Speaker 1: the Me Too movement, our survivors center of material, the
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Speaker 1: fact that it's this is focused on women in firms
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Speaker 1: of color, survivors of color. I think this is a
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Speaker 1: particular sort of narrative that not a lot of other
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Speaker 1: people are doing, not in the podcast world, not necessarily,
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Speaker 1: like even in journalism or written work. Like I think
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Speaker 1: that we're pretty niche in that way, and for us,
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Speaker 1: that's special. And you know, like we have made it
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Speaker 1: a point where there are some things in the news
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Speaker 1: cycle that we will cover. Um. But as you know,
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Speaker 1: like it has been a very intense two weeks and
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Speaker 1: even longer, like not only with the hashtag me too,
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Speaker 1: but also with like the recent like Supreme Court justice
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Speaker 1: nomination of yeah, Brett Kavanaugh. So yeah, you know, so
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Speaker 1: it's been a really really intense time and like we
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Speaker 1: our brains are not meant to be traumatized. We're not
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Speaker 1: meant to um intake all of this trauma that not
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Speaker 1: only other people share because they feel the need to share,
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Speaker 1: which is incredibly important, but also what's in the news,
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Speaker 1: you know. So I just want to say, like I
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Speaker 1: hope that y'all are listeners, are local, what is are
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Speaker 1: taking care of themselves. You don't have to be reading everything.
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Speaker 1: You don't have to tweet about it if you don't
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Speaker 1: want to write, you know, like your story is yours.
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Speaker 1: So just like practice some extra self care in the
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Speaker 1: next this week and in the next few weeks, like
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Speaker 1: make sure you're prioritizing yourself right. And I think too
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Speaker 1: when we try and figure out how we respond to
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Speaker 1: current events. You know, again, we we've talked about this
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Speaker 1: podcast follows the narrative ark of our lives. Our goal
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Speaker 1: was never to like cover all of pop culture and
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Speaker 1: comment on every new event in the news. No, and
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Speaker 1: we've shared before, like there's so many there are so
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Speaker 1: many places that our listeners that just everyone in general
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Speaker 1: can get their news from and it doesn't have to
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Speaker 1: be us. And we've made it so that we're not
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Speaker 1: like a news source in the sense that it's like
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Speaker 1: right when it's happening. Yeah, you know, if it's relevant
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Speaker 1: to us, if we really really really want to, we'll
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Speaker 1: choose to write. But also, like think of think of
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Speaker 1: the podcast, think of local radio radio as a novella,
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Speaker 1: like it's your escapism exactly. You listen to learn, maybe
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Speaker 1: you listen to feel better, to listen to different music
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Speaker 1: to learn from you, from other artists, from other creators
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Speaker 1: like you know, and let let that be it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and let it be it. And the thing is that
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Speaker 1: we we go in between because we have done like
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Speaker 1: our sounding out contribution, you know, the sonic landscapes of Unwelcome,
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Speaker 1: We do, um collect narratives from our listeners about assault
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Speaker 1: and abuse and harassment, like we do that very real conversation. Um.
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Speaker 1: But what we don't want is to be like one
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Speaker 1: of ten other sources talking about the exact same topics
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Speaker 1: every week. We like being thematic, right or specific to
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Speaker 1: like the specific creator where interviewed, interviewing. Absolutely, so yeah,
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Speaker 1: just that's just a little bit and again for our
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Speaker 1: new list to be oriented to like who we are
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Speaker 1: and what we do and why we do it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: so this is going to have a different structure. Um,
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Speaker 1: we are actually going to do a little bit of
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Speaker 1: a getting to know us. You know, we have actually
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Speaker 1: reached fourteen point three thousand followers on Instagram, thank you,
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Speaker 1: So we know we have new listeners, you know, which
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Speaker 1: is why if you follow us, you saw that we
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Speaker 1: did like kind of a reintroduction of ourselves and the
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Speaker 1: podcast um because you know we love our O G
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Speaker 1: Loca motes that I've been rocking with us since. But
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Speaker 1: we know we also have some new listeners, some new
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Speaker 1: local Morcito, so we want them to get to know us.
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Speaker 1: So with that, we're going to go into a song
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Speaker 1: break um m m um um um um um um
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Speaker 1: um um um and ship. So today we're actually gonna
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Speaker 1: be answering some oyolokas question to just you know, chap platica.
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Speaker 1: You can get to know why our beliefs all of that. Alright,
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Speaker 1: So we have a lot of really really good questions.
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Speaker 1: I'm really excited to answer. So this question, I love
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Speaker 1: this question. Thank you to the person that answered the
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Speaker 1: answered asked this question, how would you go about encouraging
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Speaker 1: our youth to embrace their inner look up? You know. Um,
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Speaker 1: I think something that was really important for me was
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Speaker 1: finding um, like sources and influences outside of my Catholic
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Speaker 1: school background and outside of like my high school background.
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Speaker 1: And that's we talk about being online so often, but
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Speaker 1: like I really like I did a lot of reading, um,
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Speaker 1: viewing poetry, like film and television, UM, women of color,
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Speaker 1: creatives on the internet who were like challenging all these
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Speaker 1: ideas that we were growing up with and socialized with
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Speaker 1: and having on to Catholic school and learning from other
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Speaker 1: Mohenna's helped me to unlearn all of those things and
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Speaker 1: to embrace like my inner look at because I think,
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Speaker 1: you know, the gas lighting that happens, the crazy making
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Speaker 1: that happens, Um, it is hard for us as young
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Speaker 1: people to realize that like we're not the problem, you know,
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Speaker 1: but to have older other women pointed out, you know
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Speaker 1: and kind of show me and kind of be the
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Speaker 1: blueprint UM for me, that was very helpful. So I
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Speaker 1: would say, look to others, look to other and other
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Speaker 1: examples and sources, and look to art. Yeah, I agree,
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Speaker 1: um mala completely Um. I'm thinking about listening to you
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Speaker 1: speak about talking about different television and movies and music
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Speaker 1: and all of that. It made me think about UM.
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Speaker 1: When I was in high school and I was maybe
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Speaker 1: fifty sixteen and I was coming out, I had already
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Speaker 1: come out, UM, I started looking for lesbian films because
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Speaker 1: to me, I was like, okay, well, I was like
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Speaker 1: learning how to be a lesbian basically, like that's how
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Speaker 1: I felt. I was like, Okay, how does this work?
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Speaker 1: How does this work? Like what is dating? Like? You know,
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Speaker 1: like I was, I had nobody to ask, I had
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Speaker 1: nobody to mentor me. I remember like looking on Planned
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Speaker 1: Parenthood and they had like a save sex little um
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Speaker 1: portion section on their website talking about like you know,
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Speaker 1: having sex with other women, having sex together, like how
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Speaker 1: to stay safe and all that stuff. But I didn't
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Speaker 1: really have a mentor. I didn't have anybody to talk to.
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Speaker 1: So I would watch films. I would like look on
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Speaker 1: the internet. I was. I was very much on humbler.
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Speaker 1: I was like one of those little tumbler kids. Same
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Speaker 1: what was your tumbler? What was your what was it
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Speaker 1: called a handle? What was your It was like your
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Speaker 1: your your webs, like your you are light. You are
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Speaker 1: I want to stem into. I have no idea for
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Speaker 1: high school, my tumbler, I remember, I do remember now, Okay,
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Speaker 1: mine was the right girl, the right girl like rich. Yes,
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Speaker 1: that was me for a long time, the right girl
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Speaker 1: back in the day, back in the day I had.
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Speaker 1: Mine was called La. That was a long time ago. Youth.
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Speaker 1: That's so funny, the youth, the youth. Yeah. So again,
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Speaker 1: like I would like Mala has talked about and even
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Speaker 1: how we talked about in the first episode. I mean
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Speaker 1: at the beginning of this episode is what we considered
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Speaker 1: to be the canon, what we considered to be our
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Speaker 1: source of knowledge is often very white. So if you're
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Speaker 1: an educator and you have the ability to bring speakers
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Speaker 1: onto your campus that we reflect your actual student population,
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Speaker 1: if you're in an after school program, having if you
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Speaker 1: have the budget to have like you know what I
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Speaker 1: mean to having like different writers of color, yes, having
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Speaker 1: absolutely having zines, even teaching your teaching your youth to
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Speaker 1: like make zines, like I remember I did like a
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Speaker 1: writing I used to do a lot of writing workshops
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Speaker 1: when I was in high school. Um, and I remember
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Speaker 1: making my first zine. So like you know, even that
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Speaker 1: like it's really accessible for for you just to make
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Speaker 1: a zine and to have them like talk right about
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Speaker 1: what have it be, what they wanted to be about
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Speaker 1: and learning creating. When I was in high school, I
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Speaker 1: went to a predominantly white high school, so I took
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Speaker 1: summer classes at eLAC. I took Chicano Studies because I
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Speaker 1: didn't have access to it. And then I thought in
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Speaker 1: my head, like, what if I don't go to college
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Speaker 1: in the Southwest, if I don't qute to college in California,
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Speaker 1: I will not have access to Chicano Studies classes because
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Speaker 1: they really only exist, to my knowledge, you know, on
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Speaker 1: the West Coast and in the Southwest. And I ended
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Speaker 1: up going college in Massachusetts and there weren't any ch
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Speaker 1: kind of studies classes. So I used my local resource,
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Speaker 1: which was eLAC. He still like Community College UM, which
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Speaker 1: is a great resource in the community, especially if you're
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Speaker 1: anywhere like on the East Side or the San Gebroel Valley.
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Speaker 1: UM Learning learning has always helped me to embrace my
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Speaker 1: inner loca. I agree reading breading stuff that my mom
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Speaker 1: was a really big influence in me being a very
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Speaker 1: avid reader. So yeah, I mean, I think art is
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Speaker 1: just really one way to embrace your inner loca going out,
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Speaker 1: going out with friends, dancing, letting loose. It's not all
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Speaker 1: about work, and it's not all about school. You know,
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Speaker 1: we have to focus on work in school to survive
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Speaker 1: and to live, but like we have to create other
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Speaker 1: spaces for ourselves to have fun and to let loose
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Speaker 1: and like, you know, be crazy and like any chance
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Speaker 1: I get to be by myself or like just kind
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Speaker 1: of you know, explore and read and listen to music,
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Speaker 1: have fun. I think those are always to embrace your
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Speaker 1: inner look at I agree the dancing. The dancing is
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Speaker 1: always yeah, the dancing. Who next question, thank you, question, question,
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Speaker 1: thank thank you so much. This is a long question.
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Speaker 1: It's multiple, multiple parts, but I think it's important. I mean,
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Speaker 1: they're all important. But I don't think we've talked about
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Speaker 1: this explicitly, like directly. Um, is there ever a misalignment
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Speaker 1: between your personal life and your beliefs? What I'm getting at,
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Speaker 1: how do you manage having feminist beliefs and dating sis
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Speaker 1: het men? How do you handle the relationship if your
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Speaker 1: partner is problematic? I studied gender studies and my boyfriend didn't,
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Speaker 1: so and so sometimes it's tiring explaining things that are
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Speaker 1: important to me but are not to him. That's a
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Speaker 1: hard one. That's a good one, multiple parts. But okay,
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Speaker 1: So to begin with, how do we manage having feminist
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Speaker 1: beliefs and dating sis het men. So I've really, um
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Speaker 1: only dated sis hetman. I mean I've had like, I've
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Speaker 1: slept with women, but I've never dated women or been
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Speaker 1: in love with a woman. And part of that is
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Speaker 1: because I am a fem and I don't approach anybody,
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Speaker 1: so I don't approach anyone. So I think that I
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Speaker 1: don't always necessarily like read is queer or whatevers. But
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Speaker 1: I've only dated sis hetmans so far, and it that
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Speaker 1: is that is a huge piece of it is like
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Speaker 1: navigating their misogyny and their sexism and their mucheesmare and
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Speaker 1: the toxic masculinity with the love that's there too because
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Speaker 1: they both exist at the same time. And it's so difficult.
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Speaker 1: It's learned because I mean, you know, we see our
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Speaker 1: our mother's doing that and see our fathers still being misogynistic,
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Speaker 1: and our mother's loving them anyway, right right, loving them
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Speaker 1: through it. And so I think part of it is
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Speaker 1: kind of like I'm at this stage where you know,
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Speaker 1: what was our big hashtag past year It was dump
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Speaker 1: him two thousand seventy because we were going through that process,
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Speaker 1: literally dumped them. That's the thing. How do we deal
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Speaker 1: with it if they're problematic? You know? At some point
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Speaker 1: it's like what is the line? What's the limit? Like
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Speaker 1: do I try and work on you or do I
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Speaker 1: just get rid of you and say, fuck it, I'm
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Speaker 1: not even going to deal with it anymore. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: dump you. And we joke about this like, oh, you know,
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Speaker 1: if your boyfriend is causing you the slightest inconvenience, dump him,
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Speaker 1: get rid of him, find a new one. You know,
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Speaker 1: we say that kind of like we're being facetious, but
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Speaker 1: also not really like why put up with it? Why?
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Speaker 1: Like are they contributing to you and at the same
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Speaker 1: level educating you, elevating you. Are they getting stressed out
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Speaker 1: because they're pouring their their knowledge, you know, in their
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Speaker 1: wisdom and their experience to to elevate you or is
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Speaker 1: it only going in one direction? Are they just siphoning
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Speaker 1: energy and information from you? And I just I don't
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Speaker 1: I'm not in a place right now. I don't even
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Speaker 1: want to go her with any of these men. It's
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Speaker 1: not even worth it for me right now, Like I'm
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Speaker 1: detoxing because the problematic stuff it gets to you right,
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Speaker 1: you know, and it's like, Okay, I gotta go, I
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Speaker 1: gotta go. Yeah, I mean, I will echo that exactly sentiment.
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Speaker 1: I was dating someone that I would not get it,
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Speaker 1: couldn't get it, didn't want to get it, didn't want
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Speaker 1: to get it. Was just I stayed as long as
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Speaker 1: I could, which was about six months, and then I
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Speaker 1: had to end it. Yeah. I tried ending it at
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Speaker 1: one time, and then he was like, I'll do better,
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Speaker 1: like I promise, blah blah blah blah. So I stayed
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Speaker 1: another month and then that was it. I couldn't do
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Speaker 1: it anymore because the behavior didn't change, and he wasn't
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Speaker 1: willing to learn. Um. He wasn't willing to look internally
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Speaker 1: and ask himself the important questions of why do I
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Speaker 1: feel so entitled to her body? Why do I feel
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Speaker 1: so entitled to her space? Why won't I just let
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Speaker 1: her breathe? You know? For me, it was too detrimental
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Speaker 1: to not only my mental health but also my physical health.
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Speaker 1: It was getting to the point where I was no
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Speaker 1: longer safe. Um. So I had similar issues. We had
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Speaker 1: a lot of similar issues. So I had to just
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Speaker 1: end it. And even though I ended it, it was
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Speaker 1: still like it was kind of ongoing in a way
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Speaker 1: or two right, right and both of us, both of us. Um,
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Speaker 1: So I mean I will say, like, if your partner
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Speaker 1: is willing to ask himself these questions, um, you know,
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Speaker 1: maybe it's maybe it's worth exploring. If your partner just
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Speaker 1: doesn't want to learn on their own or also learn
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Speaker 1: with you, Like I'm not saying to dump him, but
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Speaker 1: like ask yourself, like is it worth all the extra
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Speaker 1: work you're putting into the relationship? You know, and we've
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Speaker 1: talked about this too, is the self preservation piece of
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Speaker 1: it is. This is not to say give up on
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Speaker 1: love or it's hopeless or don't do the work. But
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Speaker 1: part of the question is, you know, um, it's it's
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Speaker 1: tiring explaining things that are important to you but aren't
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Speaker 1: important to him. And if we're talking about feminist topics,
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Speaker 1: those are topics that are important to us. What are
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Speaker 1: those topics? Our health, our safety, culture, our longevity, Like
19:17
Speaker 1: those things should be important to him. How are they
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Speaker 1: not important to him? If they're not important to him,
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Speaker 1: then get rid of them and find another one, because
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Speaker 1: find somebody who gives about because there is there is
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Speaker 1: someone out there, and that is important to know something
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Speaker 1: we know to be true. Married women have a lower
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Speaker 1: life expectancy than single women. Married men have a longer
19:37
Speaker 1: life expectancy than single men. So when women get married
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Speaker 1: to men, are life chances right, They decline, and the
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Speaker 1: life chances of men increase when they're married to women.
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Speaker 1: That's something to keep in mind. The leading cause of
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Speaker 1: homelessness amongst women is domestic violence, is inter personal violence,
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Speaker 1: is relationship violence. Women in prison. The majority of women
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Speaker 1: in prison have some history of gender based violence and
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Speaker 1: self defense. A lot of women in prison are there
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Speaker 1: because they defended themselves against a male partner. In the
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Speaker 1: United States, the person most likely to murder a woman
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Speaker 1: is who their romantic partner and current, current or former partner. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: so when we talk about his views are problematic, well,
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Speaker 1: your views often translate to your actions. So we want
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Speaker 1: to ask ourselves down the line. If he's not willing
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Speaker 1: to learn, he's committed to not understanding, and he doesn't
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Speaker 1: give a funk about the things that affect your your
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Speaker 1: well being, dump his ass and find a better one,
20:34
Speaker 1: find a fresh one, right, I agree, time alone, I
20:38
Speaker 1: spend one him alone. And again, there is somebody out
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Speaker 1: there that does get it. It does give a fuck,
20:43
Speaker 1: you know. Like honestly, I remember the first time I
20:47
Speaker 1: spent the night with current bou current current partner Mallow.
20:51
Speaker 1: The next day I told her like, oh, I spent
20:53
Speaker 1: the night with him for the first time, like physically
20:55
Speaker 1: slept next to him, and she was like, well, how
20:58
Speaker 1: was it? And I was like I had not felt
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Speaker 1: safe like that in a while. And for me, all
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Speaker 1: what made me feel safe was that I was able
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Speaker 1: to sleep right. I didn't have somebody waking me up everything.
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Speaker 1: I didn't have somebody, you know, like not letting me
21:13
Speaker 1: sleep for obvious reasons because they wanted to do something
21:15
Speaker 1: else and like a bit just tired, which wants to sleep.
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Speaker 1: But you know what I mean. For me, that was
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Speaker 1: like my first indicator of like, oh I feel safe
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Speaker 1: with this person. Absolutely, you know, absolutely, I feel safe
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Speaker 1: enough to sleep. I feel safe enough not to be
21:28
Speaker 1: on the alert. You know that's important. And I just
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Speaker 1: want to say, you know, men don't have to have
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Speaker 1: studied women's studies to care about correct a woman's well being. Correct,
21:40
Speaker 1: that's not a requirement at all. There are plenty of
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Speaker 1: men that have never studied women's studies that can understand
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Speaker 1: violence against women is bad. Women deserve to be paid
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Speaker 1: the same for their labor, right, like women deserve the
21:55
Speaker 1: right to control their own body. It doesn't take a
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Speaker 1: women's studies degree, it doesn't. I tell my men all
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Speaker 1: the time, like I make fifty four cents to your dollars,
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Speaker 1: so you have to buy me dinner, Like you literally
22:04
Speaker 1: have to buy things. I'm literally like that. This is
22:07
Speaker 1: an ongoing comment that I make, Like I make fifty
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Speaker 1: four cents to your dollar. You know the fact. And
22:13
Speaker 1: let me ask you this, Like, if you decrease my life,
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Speaker 1: chances increase the likelihood that I'm going to be physically harmed,
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Speaker 1: Why the funk else would I have you around not
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Speaker 1: to like improve my quality of life? Right has been
22:30
Speaker 1: preaching for decades. Make yourself honestly. But you know another
22:35
Speaker 1: comment I want to make, um, just to like explore
22:38
Speaker 1: this topic a little further, Like this is also not
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Speaker 1: just men that don't care about women, child and safety
22:45
Speaker 1: and just in general what's important to them, Like, you know,
22:48
Speaker 1: queer toxic masculinity is something we have talked about internalized masculinity.
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Speaker 1: Lobo talked talked about this when Lobo was on the
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Speaker 1: show Correct and I'm sorry. Internalized misogyny is also a thing.
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Speaker 1: There are other women that can project this onto you
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Speaker 1: and onto any type, like trying to take away your
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Speaker 1: bodily autonomy. Right, that you shouldn't have the right to choose, right,
23:10
Speaker 1: all these different things that you shouldn't sleep around women
23:15
Speaker 1: voted right. They are like the women that like their
23:20
Speaker 1: sole purpose in life is to find a husband. That
23:22
Speaker 1: is fine, the pick me women, And that's fine. If
23:25
Speaker 1: that is your goal, fine, how or to you do you? However,
23:29
Speaker 1: that does not have to be my goal. I don't
23:31
Speaker 1: have to clean to keep a man, you know, that's
23:34
Speaker 1: not that should not be my purpose for me. For me,
23:37
Speaker 1: that is not my purpose. Don't project that onto me.
23:40
Speaker 1: That is the internalized misogyny. Misogyny is huge seeing other
23:45
Speaker 1: women as like a threat. You know, if another attractive
23:49
Speaker 1: woman in the room is a threat to you because
23:52
Speaker 1: you think your man is going to leave you for her,
23:54
Speaker 1: like look at your man like that's the problem, or
23:57
Speaker 1: look at your partner, you know, that's the issue, not
23:59
Speaker 1: the other one. Man who has the wandering eye. Lots
24:02
Speaker 1: of them, lots of those men. You we know one
24:06
Speaker 1: or two of those out there, the wandering eye, the
24:10
Speaker 1: loose hand, loose hand, loose hand, the strategically plays, do
24:15
Speaker 1: not put your hand on my waist when you're saying
24:17
Speaker 1: hi to meet my hip. You don't know me. You
24:19
Speaker 1: don't need to put it there. Shake handshake, right handshake Hi,
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Speaker 1: Thank you, um. This question is with the podcast going
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Speaker 1: so well, thank you for saying that. With the podcast
24:39
Speaker 1: going so well, is there any room do you have
24:42
Speaker 1: any idea to quit your day job? Whose fingers crossed?
24:45
Speaker 1: One day? One day? One day. We're not in a rush.
24:48
Speaker 1: We're like very much of the belief of like, you know,
24:54
Speaker 1: like we just you know, yeah, you know, m we
25:00
Speaker 1: have our day jobs. They pay the bills and that's
25:02
Speaker 1: very important to us getting our bills paid. Um, and
25:05
Speaker 1: you know, like you know, we would love to be
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Speaker 1: a pipeline, you know, we have a five year plan.
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Speaker 1: We have a direction that we're going in. Yeah, all
25:27
Speaker 1: that to say like you'll see there's more to come.
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Speaker 1: other day about like a comment on someone's page, like
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Speaker 1: reading everything. We would like anytime there's like an indie
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Speaker 1: something that we've learned that we didn't understand until you know,
26:34
Speaker 1: this past year, I think is that you never know
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26:50
Speaker 1: that you all were responding. It's your response. I think
26:53
Speaker 1: that really catches folks eyes more than anything. Yeah, So
26:56
Speaker 1: just you know, we'll see what the future holds. We
26:59
Speaker 1: have lots of goals, lots of visions, lots of dreams,
27:02
Speaker 1: but for now we're going to keep And that's the
27:03
Speaker 1: thing too, is like we believe that the more work
27:06
Speaker 1: we're doing, that's more seeds that are being planted. So
27:08
Speaker 1: even in our day jobs are professional life, like, we
27:12
Speaker 1: still want to keep that up until we're stable enough
27:16
Speaker 1: to move on to something else. But but like this
27:18
Speaker 1: is also good for us to work. Yeah, you know,
27:21
Speaker 1: it's not like a waste of our time or anything. No, no, no, no, no, no.
27:25
Speaker 1: I mean and I like the company I work where
27:28
Speaker 1: we like provide services for developmentally disabled individual individuals with
27:31
Speaker 1: developmental disabilities UM and one of the things is that
27:34
Speaker 1: we do like a person centered approach. So what you're
27:37
Speaker 1: thinking about is the person, So even just shifting your
27:40
Speaker 1: language like I did right now, it's individuals with developmental disabilities, right,
27:45
Speaker 1: because what we're looking at is the individual, right and
27:47
Speaker 1: the disability is one part of them, a piece of
27:50
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27:53
Speaker 1: say that I the people that I work with are
27:56
Speaker 1: like doing this like really great service to our community.
27:59
Speaker 1: Um So yeah, I mean that's definitely something I still
28:01
Speaker 1: care about. Yeah, I'm teaching you know, basically sex education,
28:06
Speaker 1: and I still teach self defense classes and I love teaching.
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Speaker 1: Um And so for me, I also want to be
28:12
Speaker 1: able to focus more on we have talked about, like
28:16
Speaker 1: continuing with our education and continuing to study the things
28:19
Speaker 1: that we talk about at a more advanced level. So
28:22
Speaker 1: that's also I think something that we want to do
28:24
Speaker 1: is continue expanding our knowledge. Just imagine Mal and I
28:27
Speaker 1: just like in like grad school together or like doing
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Speaker 1: some type of program like with our little back path. Imagine.
28:34
Speaker 1: Just imagine. So cute, just think about it. We also
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Speaker 1: really hard. But also I mean also you know, higher
28:40
Speaker 1: ed but whatever, but like it's hard, it's hard. At
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29:19
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Speaker 1: continuing with our theme of Shakida, we are actually going
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