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Ep 33 | Your Own Soul Curriculum: Why There Is No Single Right Way · Rise & Realign: Conversations for the Sensitive Soul

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Welcome to Rise and Realign, conversations for
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the sensitive soul. I'm Melissa, and this space
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is for those of us who feel deeply, love fiercely,
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and sense the world in ways that are hard to
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explain, but impossible to ignore. Here, we honor
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your sensitivity as a strength. not something
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to fix. Through reflections, realignment, and
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soul -led stories, we remember how to move through
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life in a way that feels true to who we really
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are. This is your space to rise, to realign,
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and to come home again and again to your own
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wise sensitive, and authentic self. So last week,
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I spoke about, you know, beyond the old records,
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waking up to your sensory intelligence and the
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variety of paths. You know, as somebody who,
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you know, from a human design perspective, I
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have an open, you know, head and a open Ajna.
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So I really love the fluidity, you know, and
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of course, being an air sign Gemini, you know,
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there's just, I just get a parade of thoughts
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and perspectives and You know, I've really come
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to appreciate this openness and how I'm designed
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because it really is beautiful when you notice
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that there is no one right way. You know, there's
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no, you know, there just isn't. Whether we're
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talking diet, whether we're talking career, whether
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we're talking, you know. a lot of the areas where
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there seems to be a, it's this way or it's that
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way, right? Like I'm really somebody who is honoring
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all paths. Um, because once you start to really
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dive more deeply into understanding, like, how
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the universe, you know, operates or how reality
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unfolds, right? Like these are the deeper places
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that I go because I have this openness in my
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design. I'm just deeply curious and fascinated,
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you know, and being a profile of three, five,
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right? Like I'm a pioneer. I'm here to just try
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and explore and you know, just see what works
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and what doesn't work or what makes sense, what
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doesn't make sense, you know, and I'm definitely
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somebody who, you know, I don't give up, you
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know, although there's certainly times in my
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life when I'm just like, okay, like. I've had
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enough. I don't want to do this anymore, you
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know, but those are healthy times, right? Where
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it's like, okay, something's not working, you
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know, there's an imbalance and I just need to
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sit back, you know, and just kind of gain a new
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perspective on what's happening or, you know,
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um, just be curious, you know, in a new way.
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But you know i'm definitely fascinated with i
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mean i've always well my whole adult life have
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been fascinated by the mind you know what is
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the mind where is the mind right like you know
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there's different ways of talking about the brain
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and the mind and are they one in the same and
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how are they different and you know what's operating
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what and and i'm telling you there's just there's
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just a plethora of perspectives, you know, and
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what I've come to recognize is that, you know,
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I'm certainly not here to change anybody's mind.
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Like in the sense of if you believe something
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and it's true in your heart and you know, that's
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part of your operating system. then that's yours,
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right? And I'm in no way here to tell you you're
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wrong, right? I've lived by this philosophy for
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as long as I can remember, just live and let
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live, you know? Like I stay in my lane and I
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do things my way and it's up to me to figure
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out like what actually works for me and what
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works against me, right? Because I certainly
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love living in the flow. of abundance you know
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in all of the glory of what that means um And,
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you know, this is the thing I've come to understand
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too, as highly sensitive individuals, right?
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Like we're the people who have this depth of
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processing, we're taking in more information,
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we're processing it on deeper levels, right?
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We also deeply care. And oftentimes we, as the
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highly sensitive who can see what others might
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not be able to see, we want to help others, right?
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We want to be like, well, here, if you try this,
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this will work, you know, you'll feel better,
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you'll have a different experience, right? And
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that's something that a lot of us have experienced
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frustration around, like, why can't that person,
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you know, see what they're doing, and how that's
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not taking them where they want to go? Or why
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can't that person realize, you know, that that's
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just not going to work out for them, right? And
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it's important to recognize that as a highly
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sensitive person right one who may be able to
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see sense right feel whatever that that other
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individual just can't whether that's because
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they're so overwhelmed that they just lack the
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awareness that they would maybe normally have
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if stress was not so compounded or chronic Right.
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But the important thing to know is that everybody's
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here on their own journey and has their own path,
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their own soul curriculum, you know, and we don't
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know anything about that. Right. Like, really,
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I feel that, you know, live and let live is about,
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you know, each of us just let's tune in and and
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understand ourself. Right. And when we take the
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time to tune in, to really understand ourself,
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right, it becomes more about like, well, what
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am I thinking? What am I feeling? You know, like,
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what is orbiting for me to pay attention to,
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right? Because sometimes, you know, we're uncomfortable,
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we're not ready, right? Or we just don't know
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yet how. how essential it is to be aware of what's
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going on for yourself that we often are looking
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outward you know like why is that person doing
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that or you know being frustrated with their
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path right like see it as this is about coming
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back to you right coming home to who you are
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right what are you living what are you experiencing
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what are you thinking what are you feeling right
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And that's what I find. This is, you know, I
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call what I live, do, breathe, you know, and
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share with others, the realigned journey. Because
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it really is about continuing to come back to
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ourselves, right? Realigning with our authentic,
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you know, heart, voice, rhythm, you know, wisdom
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and wildness too, you know, like. Again, just
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like that other episode before was called the
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privilege of being who you are, right? Like we
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really are not living freely and authentically
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as ourselves. If we're looking outward more than
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inward, um, because I mean, this is the number
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one relationship to focus on and develop is the
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one with ourselves. And I know I've spoken about
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that before, right? Like your body, like that's
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your best friend. That's who's going to carry
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you through every experience, right? Every heartache,
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every excitement, every adventure, right? Like
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taking care of our own bodies, like that's number
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one. listening to it, trusting it, right? Just
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being aware of what's arising, right? And not
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to try to fix it, right? Like we've been in this
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era of, you know, let's diagnose, pathologize,
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let's fix, let's just keep working at this, you
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know? And we do it often from that external angle,
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right? You know, whether it's a medication, a
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surgery, a procedure, right? Like sometimes it's
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a gazillion supplements, right? And it's just
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like, it's so, so different when we just start
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reeling things back in and connecting with our
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own heart's intelligence and wisdom. So I just
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have to share that, you know, I have the opportunity
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to support women of all ages and primarily they
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all are highly sensitive right and I support
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women from 18 you know on up into the 80s and
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I have to say that supporting the younger women
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is something that I feel so deeply passionate
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about because when I hear you know and again
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when they feel safe to open up to really share
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their own innermost thoughts and experiences
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oftentimes I'm in awe, you know, because they'll
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talk about, you know, something that they say
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or that they do at times of, you know, stress
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or something. And often I'll hear them say something
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like, I know this is crazy, you know, or others
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probably think I'm crazy, you know, or it's weird,
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you know, and I will just be like, that is brilliant,
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you know, and then I'll give them. The research,
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right? The language to help them understand how
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what they just shared with me is so powerful
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and something that I actually am educating, right?
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Women in the more advanced ages, right? And I'm
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just like, oh, wow. You know, it's just, it's
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beautiful to hear the wisdom that comes out.
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And also to be able to hold up that mirror that
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says, no, this is not crazy. This is brilliance,
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you know, and I want you to see how brilliant
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you really are, you know, because when we understand
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that. You know, these beliefs that again are
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under the surface, they create a reality that
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may not be serving us, right? And we all inherit,
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you know, beliefs from our family, our culture,
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right? Our ancestors, like long lineages. And
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for many... especially that I work with, you
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know, you're the pattern breakers. You're the
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ones who are saying like, why do we do that?
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You know, even when it comes to schooling, right.
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Um, just not seeing the value in certain things
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and you know, why, and, and again, this is why
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I just feel so much joy in supporting younger
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women, especially because It's so much easier
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to help them see their own magnificence, right?
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And their own brilliance. And to clear out those
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old belief imprints that don't serve them, right?
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That makes them question their craziness, right?
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Which again, it's not crazy. It's beautiful.
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It's brilliant, you know? And I just... I feel
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so honored and blessed you know to be a mom in
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this lifetime and you know I have birthed three
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amazing individuals who um you know relationships
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throughout their lives has been challenging because
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I see it as this humongous spiritual awakening
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journey that you know we don't always understand
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that that's what it is and I know I didn't you
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know for a big part of um you know my first two
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children's um childhoods um but the more you
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know like the old imprinting that I, you know,
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uh, have had to navigate around, the more I let
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go of that and see them in their brilliance,
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I'm just like, again, in awe. And I'm just like,
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so grateful that they each have stayed true to
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themselves. Right. And just to see them and listen.
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and hear them in ways that, you know, my old
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conditioning just didn't allow me to, you know,
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so, and I see that as, you know, yes, number
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one, being a parent is a spiritual journey, you
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know. And it's one that really helps us, you
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know, in the sense of children will really hold
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that mirror to us. You know, we don't always
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recognize that that's what's happening, you know,
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but when we do, you know, it's just like, oh,
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okay, I see that now, you know, and it can really
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deepen your relationship. It can really deepen
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the level of respect, right? But I've also just
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been amazed, you know, I mean, gosh, I remember
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times when my now adult children, you know, used
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to ask me questions about why I was doing something.
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And I just remember kind of being dumbfounded.
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You know, I just kind of sit there and be like,
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hmm, yeah, good question. Why am I doing that?
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You know, and it's like. That is such a gift,
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right? Like if we're not questioning ourselves,
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like, hmm, why am I doing that? Right? And then
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we have somebody in our life, which again, for
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me has been my children. For you, if you don't
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have children, right? Or if you're still young,
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right? Like there are other people in your life
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who can ask those questions, right? Some people
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have that, you know, with conversations with,
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again, their loved ones who have passed or their
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pets, right? I'm just speaking to my journey
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as a mom because that's my path. You know, I...
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I've always known I wanted to be a mom, you know,
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and a career mom at that, you know. I really
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always had a passion for both. But again, back
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to why, you know, it's just so important to honor
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your journey, you know, where you are and what
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makes it unique, you know. And I know that sometimes
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You know, we talk a lot about the importance
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of community and, you know, how loneliness is
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something that can contribute to a lot of uncomfortable
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periods in our lives, right? And for some people,
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it's really problematic. Me personally... I've
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definitely navigated periods where I felt really
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lonely. I would say more so because, you know,
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I really wanted to be around people who were,
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you know, kind of waking up more to that spiritual.
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aspect of life right because this is the thing
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with all the people that are living on this planet
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we are not all operating you know at the same
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level of consciousness the same level of awareness
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or understanding and that's not a bad or wrong
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thing right that's just the nature of reality
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And that, you know, we each come in, you know,
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into these physical bodies and we have, you know,
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brought forward with us whatever our soul has
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experienced before. And, you know, we're raised
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with, you know, different people who may be part
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of our soul group as far as we've traveled together
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before. And so we support each other, you know,
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but there can also be souls that we've met before.
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And then we have a pretty bumpy ride in this
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lifetime, right? Like, I really think that that's
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an important conversation for more people to
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understand, because when we just look at the
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physical plane, you know, when we just look at
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this earthly material, you know, and we just
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say, why aren't they doing this? Or why is that
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happening? You know, and, you know, well, this
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should be this way, or that should be that way,
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right? It's like, Again, that's looking at only
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what we can see on this physical material plane.
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And that's not all that is. Because all that
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is encompasses the invisible, not just the visible,
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right? There's so much research now, you know,
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that I love when research supports, you know,
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what we already know intuitively and what our
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ancestors, right, already knew. And, you know,
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this is why I'm a holistic psychotherapist, because
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I have learned through my own journey. Like,
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I can't go see a professional who is only going
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to look at, like, my body as, you know, uh one
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one aspect of me right or or see my body as the
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whole because it's not right my body is an extension
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of what um i've inherited but my environment
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you know influences how my body experiences life
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my my mental you know experiences influence what
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my body's experiencing and so it's really important
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that as you're navigating your own waking up
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to being a sensitive individual right having
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this sensory intelligence and really reeling
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it back in to see like okay why am i feeling
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so much you know why am i having these big emotions
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you know Why are others, you know, potentially
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questioning me or thinking I overreact, right?
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Because it's not about what others are thinking
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or doing. It's really about what is true for
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you. You know, that's what's worth exploring.
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Because what you believe is true for you, that's
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going to be what you're experiencing through
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the reality of what we call this physical plane,
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right? So this is more of what really lights
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me up to talk about, you know. I do my best to
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share on each podcast, like what would be helpful,
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you know, for sensitive souls to hear right now,
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you know, and I always want you to hear that,
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you know, you are here for a divine purpose,
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whether you realize it or recognize it or, or
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don't believe, you know, in. whether you call
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it the spiritual realm, right? Or being a soul
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or anything like that, right? Like, I just want
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you to know that your presence here on this planet
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at this time truly matters, right? And I'm not
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here to fix you or make you think that there's
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anything wrong with you because everything that
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you're each experiencing is the result of what
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you've already lived through and experienced
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and how open and discerning you are with your
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environments. So I feel like that's a really
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important part for me to focus on, right? Like
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being a mental health professional, being fascinated
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with the mind, right? Being a Gemini. having
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my career, you know, in integrative mental health
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and quantum biology for health. Um, it's important
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to be including, right? Like that you are so
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much more, you are part of something so vast
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and beautiful and your path is unfolding, you
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know, in the way that is for your highest and
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greatest good. even if it doesn't make sense.
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And my invitation is, you know, like I often
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do on my podcast, right? Take a break and breathe.
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I say take a break and breathe love because I've
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just woken up to, you know, this pure positive
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love energy that is always flowing to me and
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through me and surrounds me and supports me.
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Um, but I didn't always know how to connect with
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it when I was experiencing uncomfortableness
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and challenges. And, you know, that's really
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why it's each of our journeys are so unique,
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right? Like what our challenges look like, what
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are, you know, um, solutions look like, so to
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speak, right? There's things that make us contract,
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right? And compress. And then, you know, when
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we can take a break and breathe love into it,
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you know, just being present with whatever the
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challenge is, whatever is arising, right? Like
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that pause, that stillness, that connecting with
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your breath. Helps again to bridge you with your
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own heart's intelligence and wisdom with whether
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you want to call it your higher self, your soul,
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right? Infinite spirit. Again, there's so many
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different words to use to describe the journey.
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But the important thing to know is that. Each
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of us has our own unique beauty and brilliance.
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And not everyone we interact with, even those
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we love, you know, may be operating from the
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same level of consciousness. And that's not something
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to fix, right? Like we can't necessarily drag
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somebody along with us. Believe me, I certainly
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had hoped that that was how it worked. But I've
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lived and I've learned, right? Like, live and
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let live. Because I don't know what somebody
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else's soul curriculum is. If there's a pause
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in a relationship that I have with someone that
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I love deeply, I trust that there's a divine
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purpose for that pause, for that space, you know,
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and it doesn't mean it's forever, right? But
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I honor it because, you know, a lot of the old
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conditioning and beliefs that, you know, I might've
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carried, um, you know, they don't affect me like
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they used to. And that's a really important piece
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to understand. Even when we've gone through maybe
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decades of believing a certain thing, it doesn't
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make it so except for as long as we're believing
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it and we can transmute it, right? Like we can
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alchemize old beliefs and focus our attention
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on a new way, right? Like that's what I really
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want you to know. Again, whether you're in your
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twenties and you're doubting your own brilliance,
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right? Like know that I see it. I appreciate
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it. I celebrate it. And I have the realign circle
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for sensitive and strong women in their twenties.
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If you'd like to join us once a month to really
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celebrate you. I also do offer one -to -one sessions.
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whether that's as a therapist or as a consultant.
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I'm really happy to just be a positive presence
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for sensitive and strong women navigating out
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of old conditioning and old beliefs. Because
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I'm telling you, there's so much beauty, so many
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bright lights, so much brilliance. So I know
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I mentioned take a break and breathe love, but
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let's do that, you know? Maybe take a minute
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this time, rub your hands together. Just really
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connect with that body of yours, you know? Like
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we've been talking, your body. Bring that relationship
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to the forefront of your mind, you know? Tune
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into it. I invite you to place your hands on
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your heart. Tune into your heart. Take a nice
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deep breath in through your nose. And then just
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pause if you can hold it there. Think of there's
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like a string at the top of your head and just
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lengthen your spine. Open up your chest. Whenever
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you feel like you need to, start that exhale
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out your mouth long and slow. Remember, this
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is signaling to your nervous system. It's okay
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to relax. And again, inhaling deeply through
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your nose. And then hold that second inhale for
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as long as you feel is necessary. Just being
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still, lengthening your spine. And then exhaling
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long and slow out your mouth. And continue at
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your own pace. And remember, there are so many
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different breathing exercises, different numbers
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you can count, right? Different ways to hold.
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And again, it's doing what feels true and correct
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for you. Because, Williamie, there were times
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when I did breathing practices that I held for
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a really long time. And then there's other times
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where it's like, nope, don't want to hold it
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all. I'm just going to keep it going, you know?
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So again, honor where you are on your path and
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journey and definitely be tuning into you so
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that you know, you know, what actually is best
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for you. So if you're recognizing yourself as
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a sensitive woman, I do have that entry pathway
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into my essentials course. Your sensitivity is
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intelligent design. It's a five module, 26 lesson
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science informed course. If you're ready to understand
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your unique sensitive nervous system. it is not
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a flaw to fix it is an intentional design to
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understand and we actually have our first seasonal
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threshold gathering on the summer solstice so
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when you enroll in the essentials course it's
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included you have a full year of the sensitivity
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realignment spiral gatherings. And so the first
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one will be on the summer solstice. And yeah,
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you can find everything about that and my other
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offerings at realignwithmelissa .com. And so
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before we close, I invite you to return to your
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breath again and again. and to your body, and
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to what feels true for you. There's nothing you
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need to fix. Just notice what's here for you.
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Where the heart leads, the body remembers, and
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the soul awakens. As a reminder, we are here
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together to rise, reclaim, Remember. And as always,
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I'm so grateful that you are here. So take good
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care of you. Much love and light.