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how to have a healthier relationship with your feelings · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  One thing that I struggle with is having a healthy relationship
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  with my emotions instead of allowing them to run their
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  course and do what they need to do.
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  I Rush my feelings and I try to feel better or feel it different
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  way as soon as possible this leads to more turbulence and it
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  leads to my emotions coming back stronger than ever instead of
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  properly dealing with them how I need to.
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  Hey there, and welcome back to feel your feelings with me.
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  Ethan Jewel. This is a podcast that I started
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  all about mental health, and mental health awareness.
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  Now, I'm not a doctor, a psychiatrist or professional in
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  the mental health field whatsoever.
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  I'm just a normal guy who like, you has felt some big feelings
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  and wants to talk about them. So, without any further Ado
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  together, let's feel some feelings.
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  Lately. I have felt an odd pressure to
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  get better and to be mentally better as soon as possible and
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  that's new for me. Because in the past, I've just
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  let myself sit with my feelings until they run their course, and
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  I've written poems and done, self-care and done all sorts of
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  little things to just Aid my mind and my body towards
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  recovery instead of trying to rush it but lately, I have felt
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  this urge to hurry in that. The place that I'm in is not
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  Good enough and that I need to get better soon.
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  I've seemingly lost my ability to just be okay with where I'm
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  at and to flow with my feelings and to understand that healing
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  takes time. But I've realized this, I have
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  done some thinking lately and realized that I am trying to
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  force myself to be better when perhaps I'm not ready to be
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  better yet when perhaps there are still feelings and Oceans
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  and turbulence. That needs to run through my
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  mind. You see, the way that we process
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  emotions in a healthy way and the way that we let go of
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  emotions is by feeling them and by sitting with them and
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  understanding them. And when you try to force that
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  you don't properly process, these emotions.
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  So one thing I've been working towards is simply being okay in
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  the moment and being okay with feeling sad, being okay with
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  feeling lonely being okay, with With feeling empty and it's
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  difficult. It's difficult to Simply accept
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  these feelings as they are, and let them run their course.
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  Because it doesn't feel good. I want to be better, but I know
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  that I have to let these emotions run their course.
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  So I've been reading a little bit of poetry lately, and I've
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  been reading a lot by an artist by the name of young Pueblo and
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  I came across a poem that perfectly encapsulates, what I'm
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  talking about, and it goes like this, learning how to breathe
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  and Bo. Hey, when my mind feels dark and
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  gray to accept this passing moment without suppression or
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  lasting fear to know that the clouds, moving through me, do
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  not define who I am or who I will be learning.
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  The Art of Letting Go has been the skill.
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  My mind has always sought now. I see that I am a river always
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  changing while moving gently in the direction of total Liberty.
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  Now this poem perfectly captures, the feeling that I'm
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  talking about the fact is we cannot force Improvement.
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  We cannot force our mental health to be better.
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  We cannot force ourselves to be better.
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  Instead we must understand that life is always changing that
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  feelings can be turbulent and that our job is to Simply write
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  it all out when we try to force ourselves through emotions and
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  situations and Trauma and pain. All we are doing is prolonging
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  the process. It has the exact opposite effect
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  because instead of facing our feelings and feeling them and
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  processing them were running from them and putting them off
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  for later. When we run from our feelings,
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  they sit and they fester, and they marinate, and they come
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  back stronger than ever. And in the meantime until they
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  come back stronger, you will feel anxious and way down and
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  heavy because those feelings are still Well, they're, they're
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  just not present. So the goal must be acceptance.
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  So let's break down this poem line by line and understand how
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  we can reach a place of Acceptance in our lives, how we
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  can learn to float down. This turbulent River that is
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  life and learn to be okay with not being, okay?
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  So the first line is learning how to breathe and be okay.
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  When my mind feels dark and gray, I take this very literally
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  One thing I learned in therapy is how important it is each day
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  to Simply sit with your mind and breathe, some call this
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  meditation, but my therapist always just said that, it was
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  how he dealt with his emotions. On days, where I'm feeling bad.
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  I like to sit and breathe and just let feelings come and go.
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  I don't try to force feelings or thoughts.
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  I just focus on my breath and let feelings run their course
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  through my body and I believe that concept is exactly what
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  Young Pueblo. Oh is talking about in this
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  poem, learning how to Simply exist with your feelings and
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  continue moving regardless the next line is to accept this
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  passing moment without suppression or lasting fear.
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  This means that in order to be okay with our emotions, we have
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  to get rid of judgment, we have to get rid of fear and over
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  thinking about where these thoughts will take us.
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  We have to not suppress them down as I mentioned earlier when
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  we suppress our feelings, We're only making it worse, we have to
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  learn to Simply exist with them. When we allow fear and
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  overthinking to run their course on our emotions, it will lead us
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  down a path of panic and self-destruction we will make
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  our feelings out to be worse than they are whenever we
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  overthink and are overcome with fear.
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  So we must learn as Pueblo states to accept the passing
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  moment and understand that it is passing.
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  And that everything will be Okay, the next line is to know
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  that the clouds moving through me, do not define who I am or
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  who I will be. This is incredibly important.
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  One thing that I've always preached throughout my music,
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  career is the fact that your feelings do not define you, if
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  you feel sad that does not mean that you are a sad person, it
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  means that you are encountering a situation or an emotion, that
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  makes you feel. Sad.
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  But that doesn't have to Define you.
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  We need to stop labeling feelings in ways that overcome
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  us. So the way I rewire my thought
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  process in my own life is instead of thinking I am sad, I
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  am anxious instead all think I feel sad.
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  I feel anxious and often that slight switch in that mental
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  process, can make a huge difference.
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  It can totally change the course of how that emotion runs through
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  my body. Because instead of persona
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  finding it and making it who I am, I become the Observer, and I
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  observe my feelings. As they pass through.
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  I believe that is the most important part of feeling
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  emotions without letting them overtake us.
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  Now, the final line of this poem, I feel is the most
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  impactful he says. Now I see that.
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  I am a river always changing while moving gently in the
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  direction of total Liberty. That is such a beautiful.
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  Way to put it. As I started this episode out,
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  we need to understand that life is not a rush.
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  Life is not a race and we do not have to force ourselves through
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  difficult situations. In turbulent times.
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  Instead we are allowed to Simply float through this figurative
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  River. That is life.
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  We are allowed to observe our feelings as they pass through
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  and that is the most important part of it all, if there's
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  anything I want. You to take away from this
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  episode. I want it to be the fact that
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  you are allowed to Simply observe your emotions without
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  letting them overtake you. Yes, it's a lot easier said than
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  done and know this change won't come overnight, but by rewiring
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  our thought patterns and rewiring how we approach.
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  Emotions, we can better navigate drama, and better navigate,
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  depression and anxiety, and all sorts of other feelings.
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  That mental illnesses can bring. I personally am doing this as we
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  speak. I'm not a professional here.
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  I haven't been doing this for years.
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  I'm learning this. So know that I'm right there
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  with you. I'm fighting that fight too, and
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  I'm trying to figure out how to feel my feelings, and it's not
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  easy. But let me tell you the
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  difference between observing my emotions and becoming.
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  My emotions is already incredible.
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  Don't let your feelings control you instead.
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  Serve them and let them go. So that's going to do it for
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  today's episode. Thank you for listening.
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  Please send me a message on my Instagram at Jewel boy
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  underscore and tell me what you thought of this episode.
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  If you need help, observing your feelings and feeling them.
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  Go listen to my music, Ethan Jewel on all platforms, it's
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  emotional, sad. Spoken word poetry, that will
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  definitely help you feel a little bit.
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  If you like this episode follow me in order to catch future
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  episodes. I'm trying to upload a Saturday
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  at 5:00 p.m. Eastern.
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  So, thank you so much for tuning in and as always, thank you for
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  feeling your feelings.