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How To Help Autism And Meltdowns & Everything In-between (Q&A) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  My name is Dan. I have autism ADHD OCD and
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  But right now, I've got my phone before you guys and we're gonna
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  get into some Q&A. Okay.
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  So over on Twitter, autism. Me and my daughter said, do you
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  suffer with anxiety badly? I seem to get it every day for
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  no reason whatsoever. Then can't shift it and get
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  anything and I can't get anything done.
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  In my mind goes blurry. Yes, 100% anxiety.
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  Is a A involuntary - inflection on your life.
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  Right? But what you need to do is you
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  need to take control of it by adding in positive voluntary
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  actions. So when I get anxious, I know
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  that I'm getting, you know, I'm getting anxious and I'm going to
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  work there. So I use the breathing technique
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  which is breathing in 45 holding my breath for five and then
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  breathing out 45 because that is a positive voluntary action,
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  which will help keep clear and calm you down.
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  I hope that helps autism me and my daughter.
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  Okay, so Tash over on Twitter said, any tips on how to cope
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  with being overwhelmed at work? I can't cope anymore.
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  Gonna stash. Look.
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  First of all, you need to ask your work, your job.
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  Your employer for reasonable adjustments because every
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  employer has reasonable adjustments is as like a legal
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  requirement because if you're, you know, a disabled person, you
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  need reasonable adjustments. Your employer is legally bound
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  to do so, so make that priority number one.
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  Another thing you can do is to take more quiet brakes.
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  So ask your employer if you can have like a In the morning, in a
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  break, in the evening, but go somewhere like your car or a
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  quiet area or space where you are.
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  That's really quiet and calming. So you can have just a 5 to
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  10-minute breather, just complete silence.
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  This will have break up the the the constant kind of noise and
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  under stuff going on in your workspace.
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  And the other thing is to wear headphones or earphones.
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  They are really really awesome and they work really, really
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  well. Okay, so I went over them to
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  So, Tory Philip said, what's the best way to separate two
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  separate if you have C PTSD and add or ASP?
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  Well, Tory, I have not really sure what you're asking here.
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  But how do you know, if I think what you're seeing is, how some
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  of you have PTSD ADHD or ASD? Well, these are all different
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  kinds of categories. PTSD is a post-traumatic stress
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  disorder, which happens after a Might experience whereas ADHD
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  and ASD which is autism, are lifelong, neurological
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  conditions, and thus will be correctly diagnosed by a
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  psychotherapist. Okay.
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  So Junior go. Gorilla.
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  They said mum of a Teenage ask me.
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  What's something you wish your parents understood about you as
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  a teenager. Wow, space.
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  I wish my parents understood that I needed space and time
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  because they always pressuring me to do these things, but I
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  just needed a More time and a little extra space to actually
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  get to understand like they are pushing me to get a job and
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  understand this and the other and friends and go here and go
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  there and it was all too much. So giving more space and
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  allowing more time was very much something that I would have
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  loved to have Stephanie. Marx said, how do you handle it
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  when your family and other people in your life?
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  Think Asperger's is a fake diagnosis.
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  Well, I don't have those people in my life.
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  And if I did have those people in my life, I would cut them
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  out. Hence, why I don't have any of
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  those people in my life, because Cuz if they're really family and
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  friends, then they wouldn't have that opinion on it.
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  So that's the best way to do it. Okay.
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  So Tosh Clark asked, how do you cope with meltdown and burn out?
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  What do you do to calm down? I do use a breathing technique
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  with the, you know, before and after a meltdown.
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  If I can, I can do breathing techniques.
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  Same with a burnout recovery. Is everything meltdowns can last
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  a long time because of what you do directly afterwards.
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  If you make sure that after having a meltdown you drink,
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  lots of Water stay hydrated because hyperventilating or make
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  you sweat and all sorts of stuff and you'll get dehydrated and
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  that's no good. Also, you need to then go to do
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  an action of something that you really enjoy.
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  For me. It was studying like UFOs aliens
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  and stuff like that. So after having a meltdown,
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  that's the first thing I do. It's my go-to.
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  This helps you recover quicker and will definitely help.
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  Okay. Ingrid Kellogg.
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  Hello Hoffer said, how can I help my son?
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  Focus on the teachers instructions when they won't
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  write the instruction for him. Well, then they're not very
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  good. Teachers if they're not able to
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  write the instruction down for him.
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  There is no other way other than finding a communication for more
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  pattern. That actually works with your
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  son's for the teachers. Do need to do is have a personal
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  learning plan with your son to know.
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  Hey, he understand this way. Let's communicate that way.
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  What I would do is I take this to the principal or the head of
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  the school and ask them to sit down with you so you can discuss
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  the issues in the classroom because this seems like a bigger
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  issue than just communication to seems like a disconnection
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  between the teachers. Okay, so One pecker look of
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  beret. Can you read that name?
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  They said before diagnose where you concerned about stigma can
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  connecting to work family and friends.
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  I think like people just always saw me as a bit of a weirdo and
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  before my diagnosis, I kind of felt like that as well.
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  And it was really much of a stigma is more of a kind of like
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  a loss of self and I wasn't really sure who I was, and yeah,
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  I mean, wasn't a great time. Okay, so Katherine said, sleep,
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  my son doesn't sleep and I'm realizing I a lot of autistic
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  kids have trouble with that. Yes, indeed.
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  They do it's because their brains are going very, very
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  fast. There is a few things that we
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  can do in this situation. One of them is to make the
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  sleeping environment is calm, as you can.
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  So get rid of bright colors, get rid of anything that may be like
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  triggering, you know, toys in the room stuff like that where
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  they can play with and get onto, you know, that kind of is no
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  good. The other thing I would
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  definitely check out is a sleeping or bedtime routine
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  where you kind of like, you know, you set the light and
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  everything starts coming. On have a bath and it's lavender
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  and then maybe use like a an essential oil, like a lavender
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  essential oil diffuser in your room.
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  And then also try things. Like, I know melatonin is more
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  of an extreme sleep remedy but melatonin does work and there's
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  another one called 5-HTP. If you want to get your hands on
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  the ones that I would recommend, there is a link in the
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  That's the, the shop initially does sauce.
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  If you go into the also going to use the So sweet of melatonin
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  and 5-HTP, which are probably help you out a lot.
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  Kaisa Dave, Fabian said I have nine year old twins with
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  Asperger's and you would have liked your parents.
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  What would you like your parents to do differently, listening to
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  me? And realizing that I wasn't
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  being awkward, everything, that was an issue there.
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  Then we're parents misunderstood a lot of what's going on.
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  Rather than being like Oh, you know, Dan has issues.
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  They were like, oh, dance being weird and awkward.
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  We just need to push through this because that's the best way
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  they felt they could do it. Listening and understanding.
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  And having just that little bit of extra time to go.
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  Hey, it's okay. I understand.
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  We'll go the extra mile beef pant, girl named said, can you
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  be autistic? Even though none of your family
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  is 100%, It's a genetic thing. That's a neurological
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  developmental condition. So, yeah, it's not, it's not
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  relying on header. Tree Behavior or anything like
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  that. Autistic line gamer said,
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  what's, what's something? You heard a lot from people?
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  Who doesn't understand your videos.
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  People say the worst honest. People say, I didn't know your
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  artistic, please don't do that. Okay, server.
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  Service Vesey. Oh, said, how can I cope for
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  people? Bullying me all the time just
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  because I have autism. Well, you need intervention from
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  a probably, something like a teacher or a parent or the
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  police, you know, this is serious stuff, you know.
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  Will people don't just get away with bullying.
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  When this is horrible stuff. You need to alert somebody of
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  authority. ASAP.
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  Tacitly 17 said, do you do you feel different?
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  Yes, the only way I can explain it is if I feel like everybody
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  else in the world, is it different level?
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  Like they just don't really understand.
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  It's like, it's like running a race and you're in the front and
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  you look back to see how close you were to your competitors.
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  And every else is just like miles and miles away, but
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  doesn't the yeah, I feel very different.
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  Okay, so Callo Dig. Yes, I do you take meds for
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  ADHD. I do take medication of ADHD and
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  Asperger's I take something called Duloxetine, which is a,
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  it's a, it's an antidepressant. But it also has some really good
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  help for people with Asperger's and ADHD was put recommended.
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  So rec room, officials said, if you had to explain autism in
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  just a few words, how would you describe it?
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  Super awesome and challenging at the same time?
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  Krista Marie said how to balance a relationship when you and your
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  partner have hypertension is the it's a difficult one, right?
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  Because you're both going to have specific needs, you know,
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  and but you both are connected. Romantically and engaged in a
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  relationship is going to be difficult.
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  The the key to it is listening to each other and really finding
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  a communication pattern that works like it could be texting
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  each other with Emojis. It could be writing things down
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  creating stories taking that time to listen to each other in
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  a communication. From that works for you is going
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  to pay off dividends. Okay, a neuro-diverse star said,
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  what do you think about categorizing autism?
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  Severe severity. Except for example, level one,
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  two, three, and four, you know, I understand why they did this
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  nomenclature so that you would be able to understand autism.
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  You support needs, but I don't know if there's a place for this
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  right now in the world. As we're moving more towards
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  like, more neutral language, which is better for everybody.
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  Sadie Mae said, where is the best place to get?
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  I was with without tags, please, and best to please.
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  Okay. So, Chewie, Jam is a company
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  like that for stimming. Now, in terms of clothing.
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  So just Just ring that Bell. Okay, so silly fry one autistic
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  bodybuilder said, why do some children and adults walk on
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  their tiptoes and some don't, or is it related to diagnosis?
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  So it's not, it's not Paramount. A diagnosis is known, and it is
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  common that people on the autism spectrum, like, to walk on their
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  tiptoes. I think it's a form of stimming
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  personally. That's what it is.
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  And so that's why people on the autism spectrum do that.
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  So Adams dot mummy. 15 said, how do you react when they told you?
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  You have autism. I kind of was just like, oh,
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  Okay. Well, that answers a lot of
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  questions, Anna. And I are curved egg from a kind
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  of absurd, just like see it sucks, any advice, how to how to
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  I handle hyper fixation. When I become too obsessed on
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  our project. I would say that you can't get
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  too obsessed with something. If you get really involved in
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  something that just means you're mastering it.
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  So try to lean into it in a healthy way.
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  So you can kind of know that it's, you know, when you're
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  telling yourself, it's a bad thing.
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  It's a bad thing. It's a beginner can make bad
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  thing. But when you say, no, this is
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  me, I'm creating. I'm really exploring myself
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  here. That's a good thing and you
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  should keep that. Okay, so T.G.I.Friday's favorite
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  fidget tie? All my favorite fidget I has to
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  be. Oh, I don't know.
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  It's a mixture between the clicks and I've got a new one.
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  Where is it? Okay, I've been told that the
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  gecko I have this, the gecko, right?
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  Its a mix between the gecko on the close to the Geico has been
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  the one I'm using pretty much all the time.
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  Always and Scott autism said, do you think Autism affects a
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  driving and would an automatic or manual cabbie better?
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  Well, I drive automatic cars even though I did pass my test
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  in a manual car, but I do feel that like, you know, having less
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  things to think about and distract you in the car, like
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  changing gears and doing clutches and stuff like that is
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  going to be more beneficial, to I do recommend having a not
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  somatic. Okay.
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  So Lisa and scottandelle 72 said, how old were you when you
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  were diagnosed autistic? I was 26 years old, which is a
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  Eh, so Cindy said, what's your thoughts on parents posting such
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  reporting on this day, you know, posting and supporting people on
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  wall dogs and Wednesday is fine. I mean, if you're advocating for
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  somebody advocate in so many no matter what you are, who you
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  are. It's what you do, that matters.
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  Okay, Jules and said generally curious.
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  My son is six or years old and artistic.
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  I love the way he sees the world.
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  Cool. That's awesome.
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  They said, what are your thoughts on puzzle piece and
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  going blue versus red? Look, I'm neutral on this if you
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  want to lie. A blue do you?
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  Okay, don't let anybody dictate to you what you want to do?
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  If you feel like that's something that you want to do,
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  do it. I don't I don't use the puzzle
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  piece. I don't light it up blue, but I
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  don't light up any color. I don't use the puzzle piece
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  because I don't use that. Some people like to use it, some
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  people don't but it's a personal choice and we should just
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  respect other people's ways and stuff of doing things, really.
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  That's my personal opinion up. That's just me, you know, you
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  are you and you should decide that for yourself.
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  Okay, Farrell and Scott Prince said, how do I explain my
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  sensory issues to my friend? Without making it sound like I'm
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  being a baby look for your friends, then they should listen
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  if they don't listen and call you a baby.
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  They're not real friends, bro. Okay live.
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  See gray said, how was the waiting process for ASD
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  screening? As mine is already a year and
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  it's stressful. Yes.
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  It is a very stressful and, you know, lengthy process, but I
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  would say that it's sticking it out is rewarding because you
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  will. Yeah.
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  Yeah, I mean you just will kind of get there in the end, but I
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  only I had to wait maybe like six months for Didn't my mind
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  was ages ago. I mean became vastly more
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  difficult and and screaming became longer and longer, you
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  know, after I was diagnosed. So burdened us cornered said,
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  how do you stop masking when it's subconscious?
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  It's difficult. It's a training process.
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  You have to kind of relearn how to not mask, and that's the only
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  thing I can say on it. So, Lizzy The de gel.
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  Diligent said, how can I celebrate this day?
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  Do something that you feel helps other people.
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  And that's what I try and do Natalie.
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  Nashville said any Tip for asking my GP for referral for a
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  diagnosis, it ESP as a woman and masks every very well and
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  Natalie. I have a link in the description
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  down below that I will put there for you.
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  I'll put Natalie and then the link which is a link to a
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  playlist where I guide you through three videos, step by
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  step to guide you through this process and there are PDF
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  download checklist to help you guide.
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  You along that way as well. Somebody else listenings, find
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  Okay. So Deb I said without making her
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  feel more different than she already.
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  Does I want to help her so badly, how do I bring up the
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  subject with my teen about her possibly being on the autism
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  spectrum? Okay, good question.
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  So it's broken up there. I would say, open and honest.
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  And if you have a good rapport with your kid, then it should be
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  really a straightforward but just be open and honest you
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  can't improve upon the truth. So just do that.
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  BX, R NX RDX 2.0, said, how do you deal with the with people
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  who don't believe that your artistic?
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  I was Diagnose 20, ignore them bro.
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  They ain't worth it because they don't believe you.
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  Who cares. They ain't in my squad.
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