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76. How to *genuinely* live your best life · Unbalanced with Cerys Davage

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Hey, guys. Welcome back or welcome to
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Unbalanced with me, Kerry Savage.
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I hope we're all doing well. It's finally February.
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I just feel like January goes on just a little bit too long.
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There's a lot of expectations when it comes to January.
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There's a lot of pressure and now that we're out of January,
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I'm feeling a little bit less pressure now.
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Just we could just get on with it.
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You know, the New Year's resolutions have been forgotten
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about. All the stuff that people were
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trying to grind really hard to do in January.
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We can just continue with a little bit less pressure now.
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So I really like that. Also, today is the first of Feb,
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which means it's Harry Styles birthday and Harry Styles is so
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back. Guys.
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I'm very excited whose new album is coming out.
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And if you guys aren't excited about it, then we can't be
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friends. I'm sorry I'm joking but is
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still very exciting and you should check out his new song
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Aperture. Not sponsored in any way, but if
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Harry Styles wants to sponsor me he knows where to find me.
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OK, that was like the weirdest intro ever that I did not plan
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at all if you couldn't tell, but I hope you're doing well.
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I've been extremely busy doing content on my social media pages
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and on my YouTube. I posted a vlog very recently,
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so if you haven't checked that vlog out, you can check it out
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and let me know what you thought.
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I've got some exciting content on the way and one of them being
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an upcoming trip. Actually, I'm going to Lisbon
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very soon. You probably already know if you
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follow me on social media that I'm going to Lisbon because I
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was asking for recommendations and I received so many
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recommendations. So I'm really excited to go and
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try out all these different spots, these gluten free places
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to eat. However, I'm a little bit
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nervous because Lisbon is known for being extremely hilly and
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I'm worried that I won't be able to get around as much.
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But apparently Ubers are really cheap so I'm hoping to just take
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loads of Ubers everywhere. I was going to take my electric
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wheelchair, but the streets are supposedly really cobbly and if
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I get stuck I'm going by myself so no one else will be with me
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to Get Me Out and to tilt me backwards or whatever.
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And if I take Ubers then it'll just be so much easier if it's
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just me. So I'm going to take my walking
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stick from cool crutches and I'm going to vlog the whole thing.
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I'm going for the Treat NMD conference in Lisbon in
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literally a couple weeks, less than a couple weeks.
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So I'm very excited to take you along with me and to vlog as
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much as I can from it. So stay tuned for that.
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Stay subscribed on YouTube if you're not already, because
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there's going to be some more vlogs this year.
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I promise it's going to be some good stuff coming.
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Another exciting trip I did recently that I didn't actually
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vlog, but I do want to mention is that I went to ABBA Voyage in
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London. This was right in the new year
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and it was absolutely freezing in London.
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It was like, I mean it is still very cold, but I was literally
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covered from head to toe in just layers and I only did it in one
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day. So I went with my sister, my mum
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and my mum's best friend. It was an absolute blast.
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Me and my sister caddy took our electric wheelchairs and we were
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just whizzing around having a good time.
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We took the Elizabeth line, which is just an absolute dream
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if you've got mobility aid, but not just mobility, it's like you
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know, if you've got kids in a pram or you've got buggies or
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you've got suitcases, like it's just so much easier because
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everything is step free. Like there is always a step free
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option. So yeah, the Elizabeth line was
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amazing. We took it straight there to the
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ABBA Voyage like arena and the accessibility there was amazing.
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Couldn't fault it at all. Have to give my mum credit for
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organising this beforehand and for contacting the venue to
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check everything was OK. As we already know with a
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disability we have to look up everything beforehand just to
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avoid any surprises and it was an absolute dream and the show
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itself was incredible. If you haven't gone to see it
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and you're able to, I really would recommend.
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Apart from that trip I have just been seeing a lot of different
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family and a lot of trust on side of the family.
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So it's just been really nice to catch up with different people.
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But also I've been very, very busy.
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I've tried to cut down on some things but I'm still working on
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my work life balance at the moment.
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I think I'm just that type of person that loves to chase being
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busy and being productive all the time.
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But I need to remember that I need to rest, otherwise I'll
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just burn myself out and I won't be able to move for like 3 days
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straight. So I need to take it slow, I
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need to pace myself and I need to remember that it's not a race
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and it's not a case of doing everything as fast as I can as
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soon as possible. Like I can spread things out, I
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can take my time sometimes. So that's something I'm still
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trying to learn. I've just had to close the
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curtains again just like last episode because the sun has
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randomly decided to make an appearance, which is very nice.
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But anyway, today's episode, I wanted to just bring some
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positivity to the world, I guess to whoever's listening.
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I think this will be that kind of episode where if you're
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feeling down, if you want to change your mindset and you want
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to be more positive and have a more positive outlook on life,
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this will be the perfect episode for you.
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Because I'm hoping that this episode will just be reminders
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that life is beautiful and life can still look good.
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And I know everyone's life circumstances are very
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different. You know, we've all got stuff
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going on. We've all got hard times
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sometimes. And I'm not taking that away
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from you at all. But I think from day-to-day,
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it's much easier to focus on like the negative things and to
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complain about everything. But I want to remind you guys
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that life is still pretty good and we only get one life.
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So this is going to be hopefully not too cheesy, but a very much
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needed episode for all of us sometimes, and hopefully one
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that you can return to if you're feeling down about your
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disability or just about life in general.
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I've spent the past few days culminating a list of things
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that we can do and things that we can take action to do to
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actually enjoy life, to genuinely bring joy into our
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lives. And hopefully there's something
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in here for everyone. Some things that we can take
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action if we're unhappy about, something in our lives that we
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can actually take steps to change something.
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Things that we can shift our mindset about, things that we
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can think about a little bit differently.
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Also, I asked my followers on Instagram to share some of their
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tips, share some things that make them happy and ways that
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they genuinely enjoy life, especially with a disability.
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So I'm going to get to those in the end.
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But first, let's get through my list.
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First of all, and something that I'm seeing absolutely everywhere
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at the moment, is romanticise your life, even the little
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things. So it could be using your
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favourite mug every day for your coffee, or using that nice plate
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or that nice set of cutlery that you barely use.
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Sometimes it's about wearing that perfume that you only save
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for a special occasion. But actually it's OK to wear it
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now, you know, make the ordinary days feel special.
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For me a huge thing is music and music boosts my mood completely.
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I'm not that type of person where if I'm sad I would play
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sad music to like wallow in the sadness.
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I would immediately play happy music to snap myself out of that
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mood. And if I'm feeling a bit dull,
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if I'm not feeling like 100%, music is just something that
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lifts me straight away. I know what kind of music makes
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me feel good, and I don't really listen to lyrics as much.
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I'm more about listening to music that just makes me feel
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good, makes me want to bop my head or tap my fingers against
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the steering wheel on the way to work.
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You know? I really believe that music just
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changes everything. Music can kind of be the
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soundtrack to your life if you want to, if you're on a long
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commute or if you're doing a workout at the gym, listen to
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music that can be the soundtrack of your life, that can boost
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your mood, make you feel like you're in a movie.
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So that's a huge thing for me, and I would really, really
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recommend that, to be honest. I think romanticising the little
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things will really change just the way that you live day-to-day
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because we all have ordinary things that we don't even think
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twice about, things we take for granted.
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But if you re look at that and think, OK, I'm so grateful to be
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here. I'm so grateful to have a car so
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that I can drive and I'm so grateful that I have work to go
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to. If you just remind yourself how
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lucky you are to have the things that you have for the people
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that's in your life and for the opportunities that you have in
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your life, I think it really just shifts your mindset and
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makes you appreciate just every little detail in your life.
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This may sound really corny, but if you genuinely stop and you
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think, wow, OK, I'm so grateful for this and I'm so lucky to be
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here and so lucky to have these things in my life, then it just
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puts things into a bit more of a perspective.
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This is where post code lottery comes into play.
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Not everyone has what you have and you may not be happy with
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your life right now, but there are, there are a lot of people
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in the world that would love to have the things that you have or
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the people in your life. And sometimes it's just about
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the people and the connections that we have and the little
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things that we take for granted that actually makes a pretty
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good life and things that a lot of people crave in their lives.
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You know, this leads me on on to my next point.
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Water the grass you currently have.
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So it's really tempting to always have the mentality of the
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grass is greener on the other side, but actually it's greener
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where you choose to water it. Make the most of and learn to
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appreciate the life you currently have rather than
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constantly chasing or dreaming of other versions of it that's
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out of your reach. I'm really guilty of this.
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You know, I think we all crave some things that we don't have.
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We all crave versions of lives that we will never have, some
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things that are out of our reach.
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Yes, there are some things that's within our reach that we
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can change to achieve those goals and to change those
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certain aspects about our lives. But there's a lot of things in
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life that we can't change, like my disability.
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And I think rather than constantly crave and complain
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that we don't have the life that we really want, we may as well
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just deal with the cars that we've been dealt with and just
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learn to appreciate what we have.
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So yeah, the grass is greener where you water it.
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So it's always going to look more tempting on the other side.
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It's always going to look more tempting to have a life that you
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don't have. But actually, maybe if you had
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that life, you still wouldn't be happy.
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I've spoken about this book before, but the Midnight Library
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really helped me put things into perspective about someone who
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got to try out all these different versions of their
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lives and see how each different life actually ended up.
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But they were unhappy in every scenario.
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So it's just about being appreciative and learning to
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love that life that you have and just be grateful.
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We have a lot of things in life to be grateful for.
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And as much as I don't want this disability, as much as I, if I
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had a wish, I would wish this away right now, I can't, you
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know, I may as well just deal with the cars that I've been
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dealt with, learn to appreciate the life that I have and just
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make the most of life because life is too short.
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And if I'm just going to be sat here complaining about it, then
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I won't get anything done. And I'd rather just learn to
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accept things and just move on and still create a beautiful
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life for myself if I can. But then we go to our next
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point, which is if you're not happy about certain aspects of
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your life, rather than complaining about it, think
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about how you can take actions to change that.
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You know, if you're not happy with your job, then, you know,
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instead of just complaining about it, can you take actions
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to look at other jobs, you know, send out CVS to different
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people, make those connections and start networking to take
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actions towards changing that aspect of your life that you
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don't like. I could delve into so many
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different examples, but I'm sure you get my point.
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If you don't like something and you can actually do something
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about it, then do something about it.
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You know, don't just like sit there and complain.
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And it's the same about mentality as well.
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For me. I struggled, as we know for a
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long time with using mobility aids and the stigma that came
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around it, you know, that young people, I don't use mobility
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aids. But actually that's not true at
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all. And I think once I learned to
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harness that mentality, that it is there to help me and it's not
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a bad thing at all, then that's really changed my perspective.
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And it's just made me more grateful that I have learnt to
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appreciate them from a young age rather than trying to be
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stubborn and ignore the signs that I need mobility aids and
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then end up struggling later in life.
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So I'm very grateful to myself for learning to harness that
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mentality pretty early on so that I can look after myself
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better. And a lot of these things about
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changing aspects of your life will actually help you as a
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person. It will help your mentality, but
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it will also help your quality of life overall if you're just
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going to be happier about things that you can control.
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So it's actually, if you can't change something about your life
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that you're unhappy about it, how can you change your
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mentality around it instead? Like I just said with the
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mobility aids. But another example is that I
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can't change the fact that I can't do certain things or I
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need help from other people a lot of the time.
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Or if I fall in public, I'm going to have to ask someone
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else to lift me up. And I've had to learn the hard
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way to be at peace with that because otherwise I'm just going
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to be really upset and really anxious and really nervous every
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time I go out. And I'm not going to want to do
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anything at all. And I still want to go out.
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I still want to enjoy my life. And I'm not going to let my own
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mentality stop me from doing that.
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I need to be at peace with these things so that I can just move
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on, learn to accept that I do need a bit of help, especially
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from strangers, which can be a scary thing.
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But ultimately, it's going to lead me to live a better life
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because I'm not going to worry about that just because I'm
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getting my head about it. I've seen this a lot on TikTok.
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But there's this trend where you draw a circle and then inside
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the circle you've got things you can control.
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And then outside the circle, you've got things you can't
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control. So you should only really be
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focusing on the things that you can control.
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And if you can't control certain things, how do you change the
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way you react to it? How do you change your mentality
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around it or just let go? You can't control what other
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people think about you. And that's a huge thing for me
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because I'm people pleaser. I want everyone to like me
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because I want to like everyone else.
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I have so much love to give and I would struggle knowing if
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someone didn't like me, but that's something I can't
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control. I know I'm a good person and if
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someone else doesn't want to like me, then I can't force
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someone else to like me. You know, I'm just going to have
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to let them make up their own minds about that.
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And to be honest, if there was someone like that, you know, in
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your life that doesn't like you, it probably says more about them
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than than you anyway. So let's just not think about
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that because that's out of our control.
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As much as I hate that, I'm going to have to make peace with
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it, you know? So that's just one example of
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something that I've decided to make peace with because
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otherwise I'm just going to get so anxious about it.
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I'm going to overthink and there's literally nothing I can
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do. So why do why do I want to waste
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my time and energy on that? People have spoken about this
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book a lot. The let them theory.
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It is a theory, but it's also a book.
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I haven't read it myself. If you have read it and you
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really recommend, please let me know in the comments of this
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episode. I I'm kind of toying the idea of
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reading about it, but I've heard mixed reviews.
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I think I've spoken about this theory before in like an episode
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a couple of years ago now maybe, but it's just essentially about
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letting other people do their thing because it's out of our
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control and we need to just be at peace with that.
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Another thing I'd recommend doing if you really want to
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enjoy your life is to find out what your passions are and
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follow them. What makes you really happy?
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What gets you going? What makes you really passionate
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about something? Are there certain hobbies that
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you love but you never have time for?
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Scroll less. Put down your phone and
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intentionally make time for that.
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Block out some time in your diary to make time to do
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something that you love. Because I think it's easy for us
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to just be on our phones as a default and I'm so guilty of
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this. Mine is reading and I'm terrible
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at being on my phone until the 2nd I go to bed.
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But something I'm really trying to work on is that as soon as I
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go to my bedroom I turn my phone on, do not disturb and then only
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then do I truly wind down. I think it's so easy to just
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keep scrolling as a default. Like if you've got a spare 5
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minutes, just go on your phone. Like mindless scrolling, which I
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do love sometimes and that does help me just kind of switch off,
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but it doesn't help me wind down to go to sleep.
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Like I feel so wired if I scroll on my phone and then I put it
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down and then immediately try and sleep like I'm not going to
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go to sleep straight away. And I'm really guilty of that.
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Like I'm really, really trying to work on it.
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If I have one resolution this year, it's that it's to try and
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put my phone down and put it on do not disturb as soon as I walk
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in the bedroom so that I can just pick up my book instead and
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read. Not only is my brain finally
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able to wind down properly, but I'll also feel satisfied for
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having achieved more reading and not feel guilty for being on my
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phone instead. So you've got the satisfaction
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from actually achieving some more reading and then you've got
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the guilt free feeling of knowing that I didn't just waste
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some time scrolling when I could have been reading instead.
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So that's a great feeling, like unbeatable, like to end your day
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to go to sleep. But also, I'll be able to fall
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asleep quicker because reading makes me a little bit tired and
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then BAM, I'm asleep. And I know that's easier said
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than done, I know a lot of people have insomnia and things
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like that, but obviously I'm just taking those steps to
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ensure that I'm winding down in the proper way.
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Another thing I'd recommend is to create a routine you love,
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something that will make you excited to wake up in the
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morning. You know, like when I'm at home,
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I always make a coffee with my favourite mug and I don't know
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why, but it's like just such a beautiful way to start the day
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is literally a cup of coffee. I know how sad, but I'm going to
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romanticise it as much as I can. I really do enjoy it and to be
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able to just sit down and enjoy that cup of coffee whilst
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reading or doing some admin work, something like that.
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I also find a lot of satisfaction, like I said right
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at the beginning of this episode, in being productive and
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to just take things off my list. I love making lists.
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OK, I'm probably a type A person and.
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I just find so much satisfaction in writing lists.
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So the day before I would write a list of things that I want to
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do the next day, and then when I wake up, I've already got that
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list ready to go and that automatically sets my routine
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into place because I've got things I need to do before the
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day finishes, so I'm not going to waste time.
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Just things like that. I don't know.
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I think just having a sort of routine where you're
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comfortable, where you know you're going to get things done,
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but also have that balance like blocking time for rest as well.
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I think that there's just nothing like it.
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Just having that good balance is just perfect.
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But we here are all unbalanced. So we're going to try our best
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to work on that balance this year, right, guys?
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We'll see. Another thing I'm trying to do
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is to focus on the positives. So what I can do rather than
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what I can't do. There's a lot of things I can't
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do, especially as I get older. I've lost a lot of things that I
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used to be able to do. But rather than wallowing in
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that grief and sadness, focusing on what I can still do or how I
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can adapt things that I used to be able to do, but just in a
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different way. To still do those things has
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just changed my mentality so much because I'm a very positive
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person. Like, I don't want to wallow in
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the sadness. I don't want to think like, I
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can't do this anymore. Like, my life is over.
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No, it's not. Pick yourself up and just focus
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on what you can still do. You know, I know it's easier
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said than done. And I don't want to be naive and
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just sit here and be like, yeah, like it's all actually sunshine
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and rainbows if you just look for it.
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I know there's a lot of layers to peel back.
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And everyone's life circumstances are very
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different, and I'm very aware of that.
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I just think that, like, mentality is such a huge thing,
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and it really has changed my life for the batter.
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As soon as people with LGMD, for example, get diagnosis, what
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they're essentially hearing is that they're going to lose a lot
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of things and end up in a wheelchair when they're older.
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And that sounds pretty miserable, but actually life is
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still going to be pretty good. And I think that's not something
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you immediately think of when you get a diagnosis or when you
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truly deep what the future might look like.
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But what people don't tell you is that things may look
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different to what you imagine them, but it's still going to be
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a good life. Nothing will ever go the way
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that we've planned it to. Nothing will ever be like a
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straightforward line from start to finish, like life is a roller
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coaster. And once you learn to just go
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with it and to just remain positive, that mindset shift
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once you do learn to harness that just improves your quality
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of life so much. I think my next one is surround
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yourself with people that don't make you feel like a burden and
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to genuinely bring joy and value to your life.
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If you feel like you're walking on egg shells around them, are
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they really your friends? You know, you want to have
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people that you're 100% comfortable with in your life,
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people that you convinced to if you need to, people that you can
23:04
share the happy moments with, the sad moments with and just be
23:08
like completely yourself around. Yeah, that's just and matched,
23:13
in my opinion. My last one is connections and
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community. I've benefited so much from
23:19
knowing that I'm not the only one going through what I'm going
23:22
through. And especially because the
23:24
disease I have is so rare. It's made such a difference to
23:28
my overall quality of life to know that there's other people
23:31
going through the same things as me.
23:34
You know, it's not weird. I'm not abnormal.
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It is, you know, a very rare condition that I have.
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But just knowing that one other person, not just knowing that
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not only one of the person, but actually hundreds of people
23:49
across the world are going through the exact same changes
23:52
and the same experiences as me just makes me feel so much
23:56
better. You know, I'm not alone.
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I'm not a freak. I mean, I am, but, you know,
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that's a whole other thing. I'm just yeah, so, so grateful
24:05
for the community that we have online.
24:07
And I'm not just talking about disabilities, I'm just talking
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about anything in general. Once you find like minded people
24:13
or people that's going through the same experiences as you that
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you can just bounce off of, there's nothing like it.
24:20
Like community is just absolutely incredible on and
24:23
offline. And I've been in contact a lot
24:26
more with the LGMD community online just very recently.
24:30
And everyone's just so lovely. And it's just so, so nice to
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know that we have people we can turn to on those days where we
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just feel like no one understands us.
24:41
It's just so nice to know that we have people we can turn to
24:45
that just completely gets it. And we don't need to explain
24:48
ourselves. We can just talk to people who
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just are going through the exact same thing as you.
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There's nothing like it. So that's all I have.
24:56
But I've actually had a lot of responses from my followers on
25:01
Instagram. I put up a question box on
25:03
Unbalanced Podcast Instagram. I wasn't sure how this is going
25:06
to go, but I've had so many lovely messages saying how great
25:10
of an idea this episode is. So I'm very excited to share
25:13
quite a few of the responses from our community.
25:17
So the question I put up was I'm filming a podcast on how to
25:21
genuinely enjoy life especially with a disability, and I want to
25:25
know what you do to live your best lives.
25:28
Let me know. So the first one is I make cool
25:31
artwork and eat cookies. Love that.
25:34
Someone said leaning into my neurodivergence and
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understanding myself better. There's nothing like just taking
25:41
the time to fully get to know yourself and how you work.
25:44
Someone said devoting myself to hobbies I love and causes I
25:48
believe in. Love it.
25:50
Force myself to go out even when I'm done with inaccessibility or
25:55
when I'm nervous of getting called a faker.
25:58
That is so brave. But that's just absolutely
26:01
incredible and I'm so proud of you.
26:03
Someone said. Except that you may have to
26:06
cancel and try to find ways to free yourself from guilt.
26:10
So true. It's so easy to feel guilty for
26:12
things that is out of your control, like the way that you
26:15
are, but actually it's nothing to feel guilty about.
26:19
Someone said I remember I'm disabled.
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It stops me comparing myself to others.
26:23
Things will take longer and that's OK.
26:26
Someone said protect my energy fiercely because energy, not
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time, is my most limited resource.
26:34
I love that. That's very true.
26:36
I designed my life to work with my body, not against it.
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Liberating to put yourself first.
26:43
Amazing you know your body better than anyone else.
26:46
Another one, find the simple things that genuinely make you
26:49
happy and fill your life with them, someone said.
26:52
Wake up every day with gratitude and be You Beautiful, someone
26:57
said. I spent a long time switching to
26:59
the mindset that I am just as deserving of space as others.
27:04
Absolutely. I surround myself with friends
27:07
who view me as more than my disability.
27:09
This is so important. You don't want friends that pity
27:12
you or who also just dismiss your disability.
27:17
You want people who look out for you in that way but also just
27:20
don't see you just for your disability.
27:22
You are way more than that. Someone said my recent thing is
27:25
to look at people who are smashing the gym with one leg or
27:29
arm. I love that.
27:30
If they can do it with one leg or arm then so can you with two.
27:34
Someone said try not to focus on the future too much.
27:38
Very true. Fear of the unknown is wild, but
27:42
let's just focus on right now. Let's live in the present.
27:45
I do painting, it's like therapy.
27:48
Going for long drives and now looking to travel so figuring
27:51
out ways to do this. I love that.
27:54
Let me know where you end up travelling.
27:56
Another one on travelling. It scares me the most, but it
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makes my life so enjoyable when I get to my destination.
28:03
Just stepping out of your comfort zone is a crazy one
28:05
because it's really difficult sometimes, but the outcome is
28:09
always just amazing. OK, that's all I got for today's
28:12
episode. I hope you enjoyed it anyway.
28:15
I just feel like I would vomit it even though I had a list of
28:18
things I just scrambled a little bit.
28:20
So I hope you enjoyed it anyway. I hope you were able to keep up
28:23
and I hope you were able to take something away from today's
28:26
episode. That's the most important thing.
28:28
Let me know what things you do to genuinely enjoy your life by
28:32
commenting underneath. So on Spotify or YouTube,
28:36
there's a little comment box and I'd love for you to share your
28:38
thoughts because I just love reading them.
28:41
Honestly, reading these out on Instagram just now just made me
28:43
so happy and I would love to see what yours are.
28:46
My next episode is an interview episode as always, but it's an
28:50
audio only episode because it's recorded in radio platform.
28:53
So if you're watching on YouTube, there won't be a new
28:56
episode next time, but only on the podcast platforms.
29:01
So make sure that you're following on Apple Podcasts or
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29:07
don't miss the audio episodes as well because I don't want you
29:10
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29:12
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29:21
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29:23
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29:25
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29:28
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I'm off to have a coffee with a friend now and believe it or
30:36
not, I haven't had a coffee today.
30:37
So maybe that explains the word scramble that came out of me
30:41
today. But I hope you enjoyed this
30:43
episode. I will be back with you guys
30:45
very soon, but until then, have a lovely couple weeks.
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Bye.