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Broken Crayons Still Color: The Art of Effective Leadership | FT Christian T. Howell | EP52 · Jess Ask

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Yo, it's your girl Jessica and Smith, and you already know that you've
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coming God for another day. Hey, hey, I know we could be
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another way. Okay, listen, listen, Okay, let's I'm about to
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start. Okay, I'm about to you. Okay with me starting. Yeah,
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yo. Yo, yo, Yo, it's your girl Jessica and Smith,
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have fun and just as Yo, that's a ray. What's up?
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That's all ray, that's all ray. That's a ray. Hey Hey,
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now y'all done heard this theme song a little bit? You know what I'm
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saying, y'all like the little new theme song that you'll introduction. Thank God
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for another da dooming. I know we could be another way. The comment
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tell us, because nothing other than my family king chosen. Thank God for
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another day. It's hidden like it's a whole vibe and so I'm by him.
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But it's that's how we do it over here. So listen, I'm
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not gonna take too much time because the person that I have here today,
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y'all, he we didn't if you probably heard his voice just a little bit,
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but he is really near and dear to my heart. And I mean
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that, but I'm laughing because I have for one I haven't seen him in
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so long, and it feels like it feels like he is giving it to
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me. Okay, y'all didn't heard me talk about him before. His his
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name is none other than Christian T. Howell, but I call him Father
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Howell. He is my spiritual father, and I'm super excited to have him
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here. Y'all. Welcome, y'all welcome. We don't have all aplause,
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but so we do it. So this is a warning this podcast, this
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episode is we just gonna thank God for an advance. Okay, that's a
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worry. Can you can you can I get an amen corner because I need
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to be help explaining what was about to hear amen because I don't even know
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Father Howell. Thank you so much for joining us, like y'all y'all don't
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know. He is a powerful man. He teaches leaders to lead. I
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don't know how else to say it, but you teach leaders how to lead,
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and you teach them how to elevate outside of the four walls of the
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church. And so he's also he is also an author. He also has
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his own podcasts that we might talk about today, but I don't know.
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He told me he was gonna get me if I brought it up, So
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let's let's see. Let's see how we're doing. But yes, his specialty
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is inner healing and deliverance, and so a lot of what you see about
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from me on my side. The reason why I even have a podcast is
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because of these men. So I want to tell everybody else, tell you
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in front of everybody the things I've told you before. I thank you for
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pushing me because I never i that conversation is. I never expected for us
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to be here, but we're here, and so I want to go ahead
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and say thank you. How you feeling of the day. It's a great
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day. I'm nervous. I'm scared. What are you nervous for? Anytime
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I'm with you? Two? This is you just expected, unexpected? What
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do you mean, anytime you with us, we need to be worried about
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you. I ain't worried about me. That's why I'm scared. It's not
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your all, don't worry about it's me. I'm worried about Okay, Yeah,
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we're on the same page. Then we're on the same page. Have
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y'all ever gone up against Batman and Robin at the same time? It is
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totally banana. So is that what appeared Wonder Twins any way you want to
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look at it? Twins? Yeah, Wonder Twins, Oh yes, probably
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for most people time. But it was a little cartoon. They were called
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Wonder Twins and they would hit their facet together to Wonder Twins activate when it
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did that, I mean, deal with that. Okay, they did because
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they could do so much more together than a part. So what you said,
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you know, artist, I just couldn't hear. I just heard what
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he said. We do so much more to get together than a part.
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So you you're trying to tell us something that we're trying to do, need
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to do more together. Hey, we're just going because you said, I
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mean, you prophesied this podcast. You pushed me into this, so might
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as well get on camera. What you're finna push next? I'm just happy
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be on this TV show. Listen, I'm just happy on this TV show.
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That's all. I'm happy. You know, everyone's while they remember the
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small older people like me. We're glad to have you, father House.
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We are so like we've been waiting. Yeah, we've been waiting on this
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day, and so I want to kind of like start off with like our
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relationship kind of be in the foundation of this conversation. And there's some places
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I want to go. But what why? What did you see? I
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need to I've always been curious about this question and I need to get on
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camera. Why did you push me into doing a podcast? Like? What
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was it? Because at this point now we got to give the people a
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foundation. I was broken when you told me to do this. I was
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still healing. I'm still healing or whatever's available, but I'm much further than
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I was when you told me to do this. I'm I'm curious as to
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why. All right, so let me ask this Roy, how we want
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to do this today? Easy? How we're doing this? Give us?
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See what I mean one of the twins be yourself? Apo? No,
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No, okay, you said why? Most leaders aren't gifted to see the
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value in broken crayons. M m. Most leaders aren't. They want the
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cute, pretty sharpened crayons. I realize that broken crayon is still color.
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Mm hmm. You have to be gifted to take a broken crayon sharpened a
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little bit and realize that maybe the best crayon. So why did that about
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the baby crying? That was so beautiful now because I'm like, I was
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the broken creyon. But broken crayon say have value, They're still color.
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Yeah, just because it we're broken, don't mean it doesn't have purpose of
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value. It just means somewhere along the way, somebody mishandled broken crayon.
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It could have been an angry person. This could have been a mad person.
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It could have been a person who then understand the value of crey so
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broke it. But oftentimes in our community we throw away stuff that looks broken.
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It's realizing if you got skills and gifts, you can take anything broken
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and make it useful. You just gotta spend a little time with it.
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So yeah, we're here now. Like so you said some of them beginning,
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you said, there's some leaders that are able to only see the sharping
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crayon, and there's only people. The people that can see that, they're
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still use of the broken one. So how because that's what you specialize in
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as far as in leadership. As a leader, how do you develop an
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eye for the value of the broken crayons? It's so it's really easy and
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one I think every crayon is broken to a degree. The problem is there
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is no perfect crayon. To be a leader, to recognize the value broken
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crown, to recognize that all crayon have value. But every once in a
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while, with your gifting, a crayon is highlighted. And here's what makes
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it interesting to me. I don't like the crayon that everybody's fight for.
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It says more my more about my value. If I fight for everybody else
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want, wait, so my veaue not turning by going after everybody else want.
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My vasue is turned by my ability to produce what I believe can exist.
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It's cheap people who want everything cheap and free. That's cheap, folks.
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A person who's not broken is not afraid to take something broken. They
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know they'll add value. Why, because there's value in there, just got
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to pull it out. So we have too many leaders who are fighting over
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what somebody else already made. Y'all, it has been five minutes. If
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we about fifteen minutes, that's no, we're not. We're not. Because
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that's the thing that's the modern church problem. We're all fighting for the same
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people, except all people have value and purpose. If you don't see it,
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you'll keep recycling people in and out. We do that in the day,
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and we do it everywhere. Yeah, I mean to the people dating.
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I would put it this way. If a young lady is looking for
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a man that's perfect marriage, it's probably because some other woman already made them
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ready for marriage. Can you slow that down and just kind of like say
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that one more time? Because I say it one more time? Well,
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because you know, because everything grows together. And so if he's already there,
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because somebody got him there, that's oh oh, so then what you're
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doing, you're getting something that somebody's already put their hands on and made that.
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Those relationships normally don't last long, wow, because it has somebody's fingerprints
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on it already, because they they developed them in the way that they feel
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should be developed. All wild and then you have conflict because she made him
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good for her. Well he's not with them no more. That don't just
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because he appears good don't make him good for you. So to the young
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lady, she's like, I know my value. And because she know it's
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her value, she knows whatever she gets with it's gonna add to its value.
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So she don't mind taking somebody who has potential because she knows who she
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I mean, she knows her worth. That's what's wrong with our culture.
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We only we don't celebrate brokenness now that because that sounds it seems like an
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oxymor run to celebrate the brokenness. So what do you mean, like be
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specific about more, like give us more detail on that, like what what
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is it? It's now this is loaded this So the church people just don't
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inbox me, don't d me, don't message it. They gonna come up
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because just gonna please don't come not on this platform. Don't you mind doing
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somewhere else because I fight for this one. So this is because this is
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my truth. Jesus didn't comfort people that were perfect. He only came for
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those that broken. Bible says a broken in contrast, so he don't need
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everybody's put together. Jesus came after broken crayons. That's so good and it's
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so accurate. And so the problem is we don't know how to celebrate it
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because we're too busy. If you're not broken, you should be working.
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Now, that's a message church don't want to celebrate because we like to get
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the working crayon to keep working it. That's why people are tired, burnt
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out, stressed out, frustrated because that overworked. A good leader says,
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let me get some new crayon and develop that. So I get another worker
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and give the break. Yeah, because if not, it goes back to
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the good crewer becomes broken. It's overworked, overused, frustrated, beat down
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until it gets broken. Then we throw them away. So what I hear
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I hear you say is good leaders not only see celebrate brokenness, but they
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provide a balance for the good creon because even because brokenness just means we're human.
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There's a there's a problem in our modern American culture where we we we
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idolize leadership when we see when we think leader, we think perfect. Yeah,
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I don't want to work about it being that perfect. I want to
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be with nobody that perfect, except we ain't perfect. So I always say,
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how can you demand something of people you can never give? And even
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with what you just what you're just saying right now, I think that the
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it's a because all right, so I think when I okay, can you
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break this down because you might be able to spend it better than me.
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So when people hear me call you apostle, what does that mean? Let's
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start right there. So, okay, I'm in this thing where I'm taking
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the church out of the church. Because that term was never even a Christian
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term. It was a worldly term. Apostle was a naval, amphibious commander
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who went where others couldn't go and open a door for them. That's what
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he did. So that's why they were called disciples first. So what makes
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someone of the postulors not the closer where the ring they wear the title,
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is the ability to open up. I am about to leave the high I
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am about to leave. I am about to go. Because that's what it
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does, that those twelve opened up the rest of the world for the Gospel.
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And so we realize that people can be apostolic and not even be primarily
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function in church. We need people opening doors in education, we need people
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in everywhere who are pioneering con trail blazing. So if as long as we're
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limited to things about church, we're missing the whole world. So this is
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what you're saying. Okay, I love I love this conversation. So you're
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really saying that we, for one have to do our research because that you
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just taught me something new. I don't know, does it worry did he
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just teach you something new or slightly? Because I've only been taught the church's
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view on apostolic ministry. I knew an apostolic is like building. Yes,
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I understood that, you know what I'm saying. I understood the times of
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like where you know, when you have the twelve Disciples and they were going
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it wasn't no church then, you know what I'm saying. But it wasn't
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a church then, and so now we've made a church five. So that's
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I'm so glad I asked you that because I even learned something in the midst
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of that, and I learned something so much that I forgot my original question
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of even why I asked you that? Well, because people say, why
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do you call it impossible? Because my gifting has made to unlock and open
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if you can unlock and open. Then what you're building on something else.
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Yeah, And the problem is we got too many people trying to build on
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what everybody else is building on. And the church. And I was talking
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to another leader this morning. The church right now as the institution is the
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only thing. Don't come for me. Don't come for me. What I'm
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gonna say, it's accurate. Who wanted to come back post pandemic and function
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like it did before the pandemic. Now you're not lying. It's only the
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church. The school system change, workplaces changed, But the church want to
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get back here to do what we've always done. So in my estimation,
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we're missing it. That's why the church numbers according to the they don't.
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The Gallop polls and statistics say church attendans is declining. You know why,
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we're trying to do something in the world. Don't exist anymore because we're not.
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We can never go back because there's nothing to go back too. And
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that's a part about mental health. Memories only exist in your mind, So
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what your new church should be only it only exists in your head because what
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church was me is only my head. Your memory is not my memories,
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So does that become insanity. So that's the thing. We're doing the same
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thing over north again, trying to get back to a place that does not
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exist. Do y'all see why I love talking to him like this is the
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denials over this shout out to the denial. My girl, Hey girl,
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hey girl, hey girl, that's his daughter. You just set a whole
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mouthful like okay. So as far as like leadership goes, and we're talking
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about the broken crayons, where now were I properly identified? What your your
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representation of leadership is and why you can lead leaders like why you can teach
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leaders how to lead? And so how do you know how do you properly
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identify a leader when a leader doesn't know who they are? Like, I'm
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pulling these questions from our transaction because in the place that I was, and
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even the place where I was being developed, I was still fighting for something
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that I didn't understand. So how do you make that believable to somebody that
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is them saying that themselves? I got the best answer that I finally figured
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out. When you see you and them, you know, let me say
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it again, When you see you in them, then I know I'm called
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you to help you. That's so good. I can't help you unless I
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relate to you. That's why it's called what that's relationship. It's not religious
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relationship. I'm about to say. So, So when I when I see
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me in somebody, we relate, I can help you. I can't help
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you if I don't relate to you, because why would you believe me if
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we don't have if we don't relate. I mean, so now we're back
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to religion. We're trying to put these rules on each other. Instead of
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saying I relate, I get you. You don't I get you, you
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get me. We don't have to have a lot of rules because we relate.
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So that's why this is so good. So that's why it's this.
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This is going somewhere. Okay, So the term church hurt, right,
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it goes around and it's a real thing, right, But it's a lot
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of people experiencing it because because what I hear you saying, in order to
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not experience certain hurt, you gotta you've been led by people they can't see
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themselves in you. So so here's the thing, and I'm gonna say it's
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not it's some of it's church hurt, but it's people hurt. And it
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goes back to it. If I try to force this square into this circle,
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something's gonna get hurt. Either the square a circle. They don't fit.
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And what we forgot don't come for me, y'all. God no,
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because God don't call people to church. They call people to leaders. He
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don't call He don't assign you to a church or saying to a leader,
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that's so good. I'm not trying to see if I finish church. I'm
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trying to see you do I connect with the leader. That's just gonna that
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that that's a clip right there. Dad is gonna free so many people alone.
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Because people, it's like, how does make my church the church feel?
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This is so good? So I'm even getting the picture of how the
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whole house works. Right. And so because because I have I share the
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same parents with my sister, this is so true. Because me and Kendall
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say, share the same parents, we have a thicker bun than any of
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our other siblings. Because we share the same parents, We've experienced some of
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the same things. Even though our parents are divorced, we still have the
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same people that we went and called mom and dad. And so now if
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you think about it on the terms of the church. I'm looking at for
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my mom and I'm looking for my dad. Right, not so much in
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the civil fought, but like I'm looking for that connection. And because I'm
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in with that connection, I'm in the same house. So this is how
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this is the problem. The terminology is in the episode we share DNA if
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I don't. If I don't share the DNA in my leadership, and I
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don't fit in with my leadership. Here's watch this. If your sister hurts
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you, you don't leave your sisters. Y'all share DNA, but if a
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stranger hurts you, it's easy to walk away, easy to walk away because
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we don't share. And so when people started having church herder walking out,
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the problem is we I don't know if we had a real relationship, because
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when we're connected, how do we leave ourselves? Because if I left you,
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I'm still related to you. I'm gonna miss you. I loan for
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you. You're my sister. I mean I think about you at night.
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We share the same DNA. The problem is we've been too bit trying to
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fit in church. Instead of saying I'm looking does that leader have my voice?
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My sound? Do they believe do we have this DNA because if we
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do, they could say the wrong thing to me. I may be hurt,
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but I won't leave. Why we're related the church. I'm telling the
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church. We go to family reunions, drunk folks, he'll show up.
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We don't leave people still in the family, we don't leave. We tolerate
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a lot of stuff when we know we're related. So whenever we try to
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figure ourselves into a mental construct of being a building of people to the people
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that really relate, it always goes bad. Because we've been talking go to
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church on Sunday, Well, but nobody said where I have to go.
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I'm looking for what I fit in? Well I fit in. They value
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me being broken. Why we're together this is this is so good. So
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for the person that like so for someone that is looking for a church home
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or looking for a community, right, So, how would they know that
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they're not choosing because the just the presence of the thing versus the actual things
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is thing itself. So that my truth is before people get married, they
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to date. We don't date our church. We get married. That's probably
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that's probably said too much. I need you to go deeper because I'm gonna
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tell y'all this. I y'all saw my pastor maybe a few weeks ago,
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and he's my pastor because I took these li like literally what he just said
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he just said to me, But I told him. I said, he
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was like, it's okay for you not have a church church right now.
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It's okay for you to date, but you got to find a church.
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Like it was. The end result was you gotta go to your to find
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a home. You can't just be laying around. You can't just be laying
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dormant in your gifts, you can't be activating. You got this is a
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like, this is a break, and understand that this is a break.
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But go date some churches so you can understand where you because you never know
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because I'm I'm dating. Do I fit in? Do we? Because in
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one good service, it feels good, it sounds good. It's like one
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date, magical date. But that don't that that that don't it's a dating
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once does not equate to learning somebody. And so I'm gonna go to your
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church. I mustee. It was just one good Sunday out of four,
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because y'all got three bad Sundays, one good Sunday, I came on to
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one good Sunday, I felt like I felt God, Well, maybe it
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was me, Maybe y'all was really maybe, But I want a date to
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see if we really do relate. If we don't relate, it's a great
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place, it's just not my place. And that's where we get. Now
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we're bringing a whole nother element to it because a lot of because social media
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is so is a tangible place for people to destruct, destruct everything, Like
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even how recently ty Tribute was district for what he said, but his sound
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is for his people. And so I even understood what the man and God
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was talking about. But for those that didn't, it sounded like gibberish in
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disrespect because of how he was he was he was talking for me. I
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talk the same way, so I can relate to that. Right. So
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for people that are like they had these experiences, right and they say,
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oh, well I connected with this church, how do they decipher between an
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intellectual decision versus an emotional decision. So here's the thing that I put in.
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Jesus said, my sheep know my voice. I hear lots of sound,
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but I don't hear the voice. That makes sense so we grew up
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in different generations. I hear ty sometimes them I don't. I don't dismiss
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him if I don't hear it. I just know it's not for me.
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But I'm going listening. Are they speaking to me? When you go to
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a real service, it's like you're in there by yourself in the whole room.
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I'm going consistently. Was that a one time thing? Are you really
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speaking to me? Because my leader seemed like they're always preaching about right where
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I'm at, what I'm doing, what I'm going on, So I don't
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want a one time wonder. I need to go. Are you consistently speaking
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to me? And watch it not just to where I've been? Are you
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telling me where I'm going? Because we Father Howell, we got some folks
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that's stuck in the deliverance part of and we know I'm trying to touch it.
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But do I gotta get like if I got to go to the altar
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all the time, then who need to be looked at me? Or you?
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So? So here's so yeah, Because so here's the flip side.
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Jesus own disciples were broken, but he didn't kick them to the curb.
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He didn't stop using them, I would mess with they wasn't full of trained
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when he was using them. Oh, they wasn't full of trained because they
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had he only had a three year period and they would not try to cast
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our devils. And it didn't work and he didn't kick him to the curb.
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So what I as leaders? I'm measures tickets. I mean, if
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it's an indictment on me, if if if I'm a scientist, you're signed
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to me. If something don't happen, responsibility always lies that with the leader,
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not the follower. That's the measure real leadership. Who is responsible?
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Now? Who is the title? Who's responsible? Wait? Hold up,
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you just said I'm just I'm just trying to make My brain is acting little
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slow right now. You just said the measurer, the measure of leadership is
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not on the follow The responsibility is not on the follower. But it's the
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one who's leading. Yeah, and so what do we do? How do
28:02
we Okay, so I'm a leader, I'm not doing this thing right,
28:06
I'm kicking everybody to the curb. I've poorly branded myself. Let's just say
28:11
that in the community. How do I change that? How do I switch
28:14
that up? Because you only know the level of leadership that you have based
28:19
upon the not necessarily the number of the following, but the quality of it.
28:25
So here's my thing. I'm always checking me though s. It's the
28:30
problem. We don't We're too busy looking at the people. Now this is
28:34
gonna be this is a painful statement. But since they're not gonna message,
28:38
then they're gonna inbox me. They're not gonna they're not gonna reach out.
28:41
They The Bible says, we've reproduced after our own kind. If you don't
28:47
like what you're seeing, check what you've been reproducing. That's the Bible,
28:52
I mean, and the Bible. Every seed reproduces after its own kind.
28:56
There's just a lot of reproduction. So if a leader looks at everybody,
29:00
don't like it, like, don't keep looking at the people, maybe you're
29:06
reproducing the worst parts you that you ignore. I mean, that's because we
29:11
reproduce. We I can't make anybody be like Michael Jackson. I'm not him.
29:15
I can't. I can't produce the TV J I'm not him. I
29:18
reproduce after myself. So as leaders, if we don't like it, we
29:23
need to stop. Don't measure the people, say Hey, am I doing
29:29
the right thing and my and my am my leading properly? Am I broken?
29:33
Whatever it is? Because one thing church people forget. We're supposed to
29:36
be the most forgiving people. That's the whole answer Christianity. We forgive.
29:41
So if a leader of relationship say, hey, you know what y'all has
29:45
been me? I need to I need to get myself together because you know
29:48
it ain't been going right, people would honor that leader more. Yeah,
29:52
instead of the one saying that's all y'all. If we I'm tired of y'all
29:55
every day. Yeah, social humility is I mean, it's good leadership because
30:00
we're not looking for perfection. We want incheguity. Hmm. That's so man,
30:07
that's so good. I'm like, I am bubbling over over here,
30:14
desert. I'm just looking at you. You look like your mind is still
30:17
trying to It's like, I got I have questions. It's almost like talking
30:22
to somebody that you have questions for, but they're talking so good that you
30:26
like, bro, like what what you know? I'm like, this was
30:30
not the option. It wasn't. It was not. This was not the
30:33
option. So that's why that's why I said, what I said before,
30:37
like Holy Spirit leads this question because we have what we have some diluted leadership,
30:41
because leaderships don't have leader, proper leaders, and because every other broken
30:47
leader is or immature leader. I'm gonna say there's some immaturity there because you
30:53
just said that all of us has a level of brokenness. Right. But
31:00
well, and let me say, and these the leaders that are are have
31:07
some opportunity in this in this area, what are the things that what are
31:11
the maybe three four things that you would say that they needed to go ahead
31:15
and initiate so that they can not necessarily even just developing their leadership, because
31:21
it sounds like to me they need healing themselves. Like what does what needs
31:25
to happen? Like how do we revert that? So what the church is
31:30
at a pivotal point, and I mean the church because the church is what
31:33
we're supposed to get of our structure strategy, not just corporate worship, but
31:37
we got our strategy from the church. And so the church at a pivotal
31:41
point because we've gone from this one man leadership tier system to understand we need
31:48
a team and it takes another leader to have humility, says I learned from
31:56
you, but I need to learn from you too, because until we give
32:00
rid of the ownership membership model, we can never embrace what the church is
32:06
supposed to be. So when I lead a church, there are other churches
32:10
connecting me my thing. Yes, And I tell the church I'm not really
32:14
leading your people. I'm leading you as a leader. I don't own your
32:17
church. I'm coming alongside to help you as a leader. You don't,
32:22
I don't. You're not my member, no, because once I do my
32:28
job, my role may change in your life. And I'm trying not to
32:35
go so well, I'm trying. I'm trying to go places, but I
32:42
have really try hard hard, look a because that's the thing. I mean,
32:51
you know what I'm saying. I mean, I mean, okay,
32:53
let me put it this way. Listen, if I can change it,
32:57
let's say we can change y'all. How how long you're gonna make me say?
33:00
In first grade? Yeah, once I learned the first grade principles,
33:05
there may be another teacher. But I've got to be a secure enough teacher
33:07
and let you go to hand you off or point you in. Another director
33:13
says, you know what you're what I gave you in first grade you'll use
33:16
for the rest of your life. But there's some algebra you're gonna encounter the
33:22
future that you need an algebra teacher. That So you're saying a leader understands
33:31
where they can't help because we got to be we need to be whole leaders.
33:37
That says I can help you this, but I can't. As a
33:38
matter of fact, let me tell you who can help you this. Why
33:42
because I don't have ownership? Why do you think it's hard for for us
33:47
as leaders to do that? Because we were broken, we start going to
33:53
have value. Bey, how many crayon we collect? I know that's not
33:55
gonna be good. That's never sound good to people. We we we we
34:00
take our value by the size of the box of our crayons. Well,
34:07
how many shades of green do you need in the cryon box? You realize
34:10
if you got green, if I just keep using white and on it,
34:14
it'll change the shade of the green. So our brokeness it calls us collect
34:21
We become hoarders. And so I now need a whole lot of people.
34:24
Because if I get a whole lot of people, it makes me look important,
34:28
makes you feel important. But I don't measure it by number. I
34:32
want quality, and every shade of green is only diluted by white. Just
34:39
give me green and white. I can do it. You got sixty four
34:42
crayon, Just give me green and the white. I just keep putting white
34:45
until I come up with the same results as you. So I mean we
34:49
have to be hold secure enough to realize whatever God puts in my hand is
34:52
more than enough to get my job done. All you know what's interesting?
34:57
Do you really only need red, blue, yellow, black, and white
35:01
the primary color? And so all I need is a good apps alte.
35:07
I need to give me some fivefold. My job as a leader, Yeah,
35:12
that was you get My job is because my job as a leader is
35:17
to really and if now, if, if, if we're gonna keep with
35:22
the Bible. My job as a leader is to raise up leaders who can
35:24
raise up other leaders that raise up other leaders. Because at what point can
35:30
I affectly lead all those people? Because at some point you gotta go see
35:35
speed on? Not? Even then? My phone can only answer so many
35:38
calls to day, do you right? I can only make so many visits
35:43
a day, so why not? But that's mean I've got to be whole
35:47
enough Because it was Moses had the same problems that Jessro said, Moses,
35:52
and he can't He came brought alder. You can't do what what did you
35:55
do with all these folks? Raise up some other people people, give them
36:01
what you got and be security to let him go do it. So basically
36:05
you just saying Moses had a leader even though he lived, and he listened
36:08
to the voice of his father and said, as he said, you're stressing
36:14
yourself out. You want yourself out. You're doing this to yourself because you
36:19
don't. You don't have the sense to realize this is too much for you.
36:22
And at some point I'm like when I start, when I become frustrated,
36:27
when I become agitated, when I lose sleep, when i'm when I'm
36:30
no longer having fun, I ain't doing this because we cannot keep coming out.
36:35
That almost got the soul about when we change. My face looks fresh.
36:38
We can't keep out that thief come but to kill since true, But
36:40
I've come to life more bundant. But we're miserable, we're angry. So
36:46
which scripture we're gonna live out? Because if we're not having fun, then
36:52
we can't be doing John ten and ten. We can't. We we're canceling.
36:54
Sin means that's why the churches fall apart, because our confession is a
36:59
match the way we live. We're saying he can't. We have life more
37:02
abundant. But we're all looking miserable, tide, frustrated, angry, vexed,
37:07
we we we we black blast and everything it made me. You step
37:10
outside of your grace. So Ime, just come on back in, pull
37:13
it back in a little bit and let somebody else do their part. Because
37:16
broken cry and say a value, it goes back to it. You may
37:21
not do it like me. You may not do it what I would do
37:24
Before am I determine how you do what you do. I'm just here to
37:29
shape you so you can color whatever your color looks like. That's so I
37:35
love that another I'm here to shape you so that you can come. So
37:39
that's why, that's why I haven't been rebuked for stuff on the podcast.
37:43
Well because here's well, here's my thing. Now, this is gonna make
37:46
no, this's gonna make sense. It's not mine. Yeah, if I
37:52
force you to do what I would do, it would be my podcast.
37:55
Now this is this is probably gonna take a change. I promise you I'm
37:59
not gonna respond to your on line. I'm not gonna respond to you because
38:02
leaders who force you to what I do, I really I really cloned myself
38:09
in you, and now you are really just doing what I want to do.
38:15
Mm hmm. But I've never I've never been a female. So there
38:22
are people you're supposed to reach and use language I never would use. That's
38:27
so that's good. So if I force you to do what I do,
38:31
then the people that you should be reaching you never reach. That that I
38:37
mean, that's what I'm saying. No brain of this thing is you have
38:39
you have purpose, You have an assignment. You don't have my assignment.
38:44
So you're not gonna do what I do and the way I do it.
38:46
That's my assignment, My God. But we got to be whold enough to
38:52
realize. And I think some leaders we're we're trying to relive I miss mouch
39:00
through the people we lead a possible we do because almost like a parent living
39:08
through their child and their child grow up to hate them. That's the brokenness
39:13
of the family. I'm saying, that's the brokenness. Instead of realizing I
39:15
never had a problem, you going to your problem. I don't want to
39:19
go. Yes, you are no, just because you never went on really
39:22
me and I want to go. Then you're gonna make me go. You're
39:23
gonna make me wear what you want to wear, and I'm going I'm miserable.
39:27
I'm really gonna rebel against you at some point because you forced me to
39:30
live in life I don't want to live. So I mean, as leaders,
39:34
we have to realize our people have different calling, different assignments. We're
39:40
to develop them to do their thing right, not to do our thing right.
39:45
We're there to open the door for them for who they're assigned to what.
39:49
We're there to shape and mold them so that when it's their turn to
39:52
stand on their platform, they can do it. Not what's in it for
39:57
me, it's what's their assignment and how do I help them do their assignment.
40:02
Because the end of the day, the first first grade teacher still gets
40:12
gratification when the high school senior graduates, that's because she realized they were made
40:19
to the twelfth grade because I did my part right. She's not competed the
40:22
other teacher. She realized it's a team effort. So we have to be
40:28
whold enough as leaders to really get people where they are and put them in
40:31
place and know when our limit is to say, wait a minute, they
40:36
can take a little further and celebrate when they go further. Because my belief
40:42
is everybody who I come in contact with their life, they should may do
40:45
it faster and go further than I ever have. If not, I'm not
40:50
done my assignment right because I'm supposed to be the thing they stand on,
40:53
not the thing that puts a limit on them. That's the apostolic. I
40:59
open a door so wherever I well, if I get tired here, you
41:02
just started your strength where I stop at. That's called advantage. So I'm
41:09
looking to connect with leaders who say I'm only here what I'm doing now because
41:15
leaders saw something that I didn't understand and they let me stand aside some great
41:19
I mean, I know some of the greatest leaders in the kingdom, but
41:27
they took a chance on me because they not because I was perfect. I
41:30
was so imperfect, but they saw something in me and they just by proximity
41:35
put me close enough to I want to be like them. I want to
41:38
be like them until when I get in position like who do I see who?
41:43
If I place them close enough, ill eSPI I didn't want to be
41:46
what I did and go further. That's what I mean. We're supposed to
41:50
be advancing the kingdom, not not competing, not compressing that comepack. Now
41:55
we're supposed to give each other advantage and say whatever I have, you have,
42:00
I can't. I will never be a woman. So when people say
42:04
women, I don't have the language of a woman. I've never lived a
42:08
woman's shoe. So for me to think I could do it better than a
42:14
woman who's called the women, I can minister the women, but I can
42:17
never minister as a woman. So my job is to develop the lady who
42:23
is it so that when they need a person who they can relate to better,
42:29
so they may relate to me as a father. They'll never relate to
42:31
me as a mother. I have to be secured, say you know what,
42:35
there's a mother figure, there's a brother there, because you need a
42:37
whole family. Some saying we're looking for DNA. Now it's it's that's how
42:43
well we got to have healthy leadership because and I've talked this before and people
42:50
don't like it, but we just we have slave mentality and religion. We
42:53
own people put them on a plantation called the church. Yeah, don't go
42:58
nowhere, don't talk nobody, don't let nobody else. That's a plantation.
43:00
Yeah. The problem is I don't have everything for you. And the what
43:06
you just said about the slave mentality of church, I think it's so real
43:10
because let me ask you this, how do I know when it's order and
43:20
when it's a massive situation love? It's it's the simplicity for me, it's
43:30
the simplicit, Like it's like, how do I know this? Like,
43:34
well, because love gives liberty, relationship create rules. Okay, let me
43:42
let me. Let me put it back in terms of dating. If you're
43:45
dating someone and you have to worry about wherever they go, there's something wrong
43:50
with your relationship. If you love enough, I don't care where you go,
43:54
you'll be loyal to me. You can go. You can go to
43:57
Themorrow, you can go, you can go to Ballet, go to why
44:00
go Honolulu. I'm secure because love is present. If love isn't there,
44:05
I give you a whole lot of rules. So but I got it from
44:10
Jesus. If you love me, you keep my commandments. Well, you
44:13
can visit every church America. They'll never love you like I will go for
44:17
it. So I'm not. I don't have this sense of putting these boundaries
44:22
and putting you the plantation because we have each other heart. So so for
44:27
somebody that is like, you know, the person that might be listening to
44:30
this is saying, Okay, when I'm looking for this church, when I'm
44:32
looking for this leader, what do I look for? You know, I
44:37
hear you saying love, but I've gotten love wrong before. What do you
44:40
say to that person? First thing, I say, love yourself better,
44:46
because if you don't love yourself properly, you'll accept people valuing you lord than
44:57
you should. So, oh, if you're if you're not in a church,
45:01
or you're in a church where you know you don't fit, find a
45:06
place where you can be healed. Those places aren't looking for you to be
45:12
a member. They're looking for you to be healed. When you get healed,
45:15
they know you're gonna leave. That's a difference in mindset. So if
45:20
I have a minister does healing, I expect people will come that may never
45:23
stay. That I'm not collect I'm not collecting people. It's not a plantation,
45:30
not a country club. My specials get you here. When you get
45:32
healed. I mean the church is backwards. Nobody go to the hospital just
45:37
lives there. You're here because you're not well. When you leave, when
45:42
you feel better, you're going to leave. Some people are going to stay
45:45
and work at the hospital, so you're gonna volunteer at the hospital. But
45:51
not everybody comes to the hospital's just supposed to take up a bed and just
45:53
stay there forever. To say, oh, I'm gonna go from a patient
45:57
to a nurse or you know what I'm saying. That's good. So them
46:00
saying you're looking when people are saying what do I look for? Now?
46:04
Look for a healthy leader. Don't look for a healthy church. Look for
46:07
a healthy leader, because people are called to leaders, not churches. That's
46:15
a mistake. We were raised saying you gotta go to church and they can
46:20
smoke, they can sleep, I do all the kind of stuff a long
46:22
we wear church. They weren't healthy. It was just we had to go
46:27
to church on Sunday. Well, I don't just want to go. I
46:30
want to find a healthy person to connect to. When I find a healthy
46:34
person, they will make mistakes. I can overlook it. They'll make bad
46:39
choices. I'll still overlook it. But if we really connect, I know
46:43
you have my best interest and I got yours. Even when I leave,
46:47
we'll still be related because I don't leave the leader. I just leave where
46:53
I'm living. And that goes back to your family. When you left your
46:57
mother and father's house, it didn't change your relationship. He just live somewhere
47:00
different, but relationship. So I'm saying it's all based off relationship. So
47:06
you ask, how do people know stop looking for a good church. Find
47:12
you a good leader. That leader can tell you because a healthy leader.
47:15
There are people who sell the people churches that they say I thought I mentioned
47:21
them a good leader. I don't have to be your pastor to do my
47:23
gift towards you, and I tell them, let your pastor know that I'm
47:29
involved. There's no compation. It doesn't because if I'm not your pastor,
47:35
then we have different roles. I'm secure enough to know that's not my role,
47:39
and so healthyness. Don't move past it too fast. You just said
47:45
something that I need for I really want the listeners to understand why, Like
47:52
even when you were talking about dating, when we're talking about the church,
47:57
pastor all stuff like that, and it's like, why do I have to
48:00
identify that role. There was a moment and I always get emotional when I
48:07
talk about this, because like the things you've done for me is like the
48:14
ways you've made things make sense for me, It's like just beyond. So
48:17
I remember we was on the couch that was at the not this house,
48:22
but the other house with Pastor Mayle Louis loved Pastor Meo and both of y'all
48:28
were having a conversation with me, and you just ran like we having a
48:31
regular conversation, y'all like like I don't know who were talking about his kool
48:37
Aid, lentils, somebody cook that they I don't know what we were talking
48:40
about, but he randomly asked me, who is uh? Who is coach
48:49
d to me? And for those that know me and follow me on my
48:52
platform, everyone knows that I've introduced her as not only my coach, but
48:57
my spiritual mother. I wouldn't. I would have never done that if I
49:01
didn't. I wasn't. My relationship was challenged then, and I started taking
49:07
a fish to it. And I loved Apostles because he was like, I
49:09
be ready for the I be ready for the fight. I'm ready. I'm
49:13
ready for the hands. I'm ready for whatever you try to do me,
49:15
because I'm still gonna say what I said. He kept repeating himself. He's
49:17
like, so, do you know what a coach is? Do you know?
49:22
Because I didn't grow up in that. I didn't grow up with my
49:23
dad having a coach or a spultial mother or father. I didn't grow up
49:28
understanding, so all this language is new to me. So he set me
49:30
down and I said, I said, nah, why are you asking me
49:36
this? Because I'm like, I'm finna fight because I'm at this point folks
49:38
acting like I'm sucking a woman told or something like that. So I thought
49:43
he was trying to come at me like that. So then so then he,
49:45
you know, further explained to me that he didn't disagree that she wasn't
49:51
supposed to be in my life. He said, I missed. I'm not
49:54
appropriating the relationship, so what why why is it important to do that?
50:00
So I wrote a new book, chameless plug no please advertised book. Because
50:04
we look at we like him. Know, it's called your signed Seat.
50:07
Now this this might change everything. We say, we have to wrap it
50:10
up. Your signed seat the seat people occupy determines the role, the responsibility
50:16
to and the thart that they have. So you have to know where people
50:21
are seating. We're in this room, we're seated at the table. Everybody's
50:27
room could be in the room but may not get a chance to talk because
50:30
they were have a seat at the table. So we have to really know
50:37
who is seated, where we seated. And so here's the thing coach d
50:46
had. Let's see, how do I how would I say this for those
50:50
who may not know you had her in your life, but you hadn't seated
50:54
her. She was in there, and because she didn't know what seat she
51:00
occupied, you didn't know what role she was playing. You didn't know what
51:04
authorities she had, nor did you know what the responsibility she was supposed to
51:07
have to you. That's so good and so it's not a chair you seated
51:12
her at this seat that she could fully do something for you. And so
51:19
we have to be able to find relationships and roles, not because people are
51:22
insecure, but you don't get responsibility authority unless you operate a certain seat.
51:29
If there were ten people at this chair, if there were ten people at
51:31
this round tail, if there were ten people in here, I would walk
51:36
in and know who's in charge based off who's sitting in the right seat.
51:42
So our problem is we put people in the wrong seat in our lives.
51:47
We let them occupy the wrong seat. You hate the person you're dating,
51:52
but you gave them the seat of a spouse. Well, because you gave
51:57
them that seat, now they're doing the things you don't want them to do.
52:04
It's okay, this it gets it gets a little chint sometime, y'all.
52:07
Y'all pray it gets a little chints, it gets a little chance.
52:13
Yeah, that's good. We had a commercial station break. It was a
52:16
little earthquake, little earthquake, little rumble. We don't, we don't,
52:22
we don't. We don't like how they're treating us, but we gave them
52:24
that seat. And because we gave them the seat of a spouse, they're
52:29
treating us like they're our spouse. We don't, we don't, but but
52:31
we put them in that seat. So you have to put seat people at
52:37
the right place. And it's only in the church. We don't like it.
52:42
And man, when I wrote this book, it messed me up,
52:45
messed me up on the inside because in kindergarten, your first there of kindergarten
52:50
you' getting a sign seat, you get on the airplane, you gotten a
52:54
sign seat. You go to a football game, you pay for a certain
52:59
seat. If you work in a company, there are assigned seats. It's
53:07
only when it comes to spiritual matters. We don't want to assign people.
53:12
We just we just want to be That sound like a good book. Yeah,
53:17
So that's why I wrote it, because I got the revelation we're sitting
53:21
in heavenly places. If you don't know that's your seat, then you'll fight
53:24
stuff. You won't know your response, you will know your thoughts because you're
53:28
sitting in the wrong seat, fighting a fight you cannot win until you sit
53:32
in a seat of victory. It makes it makes world of difference. If
53:37
I'm sitting in heavenly places, then most of the other stuff folks doing this
53:39
is really beneath me. They're doing stuff I don't entertain of why that's beneath
53:45
me. I'm seated up here. That stuff you doing, that's foolish,
53:47
that's down there. So if you don't know where you're sitting, that's why
53:52
I said, we there's some basic things. That's why we gotta teach people.
53:55
You're seated in heavenly places. You know what I'm saying. So as
53:59
a leader, you it may not be working well, but you're seated properly.
54:02
Just stay in your seat because if you're in your right seat, it's
54:07
gonna work out. You can't quit. But you need another leader sometimes come
54:08
alongside you and say, hey, maybe you're looking get it wrong because I
54:15
love now I like Starbucks. Let me hide my little brain on by send
54:19
me nothing because you know, you know the turkboat. They don't like th
54:22
Bucks. They said Bucks a trip, Yeah, they say, But I
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tell them all the designers they wear they should start wearing clothes too, And
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they ain't say either. But that's a whole nother story. So check this
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out real quick. I want I want to say this. I want to
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do this analogy. This is a cup of Starbucks, right, what do
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you see? Look at this cup? What do you see? Starbucks?
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Okay, but what do you see on the cup? Words? From where
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I'm sitting, I see a logo? Hm hmm. This is gonna makes
54:53
sense. There's a race. Tell me this makes sense. We're looking at
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the same thing. But depending where I'm seated will change what I see.
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So so that I'm saying, we're sitting at this we're looking at that thing.
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We're looking we're looking at the same thing. But we have and so
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that the seat gives you different perspectives. The sea gives you different or outlook.
55:23
The thiet will give you different revelations. The seat will give you a
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different annoyty. The sea where you are. I ain't got to shout in
55:34
this place. Oh my god, deliray, deseil ray. We gotta get
55:37
this book. That's why you gotta get connected other people who have a different
55:43
seat than yours, because they can see what you can't see. We can
55:45
look at the same problem. I see a solution. You see stress.
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It's our difference from where we're seated. That's why we can't be one man
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chained no more. Oh I felt my help coming so oh I felt this
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was not No, this wasn't I'm gonna tell you after we stopped recording what
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I said, I was gonna say and do, but this was not the
56:13
plan. But I'm so glad because you you taught us well, you taught
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us look, yeah, yeah, I think what really set me free,
56:23
though, was when he was talking about you're looking for a leader and not
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a church, but which makes sense, Like, you can go to a
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church and that's literally what you're doing. You're just going to the church.
56:31
But when you're responsible, when you're accountable or submitted to an actual leader,
56:37
then the words that they're saying you will actually go apply. So you're not
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just going, you're now transforming and changing and becoming a better person. You
56:45
know what I'm saying makes sense to me. Yeah, yeah, this is
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why I know you. I'm talking mental health this month. This is why
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you have conversations. When you look at you, you see fine. When
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I look at you, I see off. We're seated differently, so we
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see differently. Yeah, I mean we we gotta have this integrity to say,
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wait a minute, let me be authentic enough to look at other views.
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That's what's wrong with our country. We're sitting from our angle looking at
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it this way, and it's because that's what we see, we're fighting for
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it. But to the person on the other side of the country, what
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they see is real too. Who to say, who's wrong? Or can
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we just learn that different views depend on where we're seated, and if we
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can respect the different views different of roles, we might get to solve a
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problem because I see what you see, but you see it from a healthier
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view. You have a solution. I'll digress. I'm hold enough not need
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credit. But we can't do that if we're not healthy and whole. So
57:39
we really need to develop mature leaders to understand that life is not just two
57:46
or three dimensional anymore. There are many facets. And to this my conclusion,
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to the person who loves jewelry looking inside of a diamond, there are
57:58
many facets to it. You may not find a flaw in any side,
58:06
but a person on the right side, with the right experience, the right
58:07
skills, with the right eye can look and see a flaw in the third
58:13
cut. They're all right, But our different experiences, our different gifts are
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different everything just cause us see differently and we can't reject the people see stuff
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different than us. So we need a whole, healthy, balanced team leadership.
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And for all the millenniers and entrepreneurs and the generation exers and wires,
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hear me. Don't surround yourself with people who agree with you. That's your
58:38
biggest demise. You need people who disagree with you, because if they agree
58:45
with you, they're no good to you. I need people who see what
58:47
I don't see and say, hey, we about Tomouf for Cliff, Why
58:51
because you're seeing it differently. So we need to build teams that are diverse,
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that not just agree with me, not do what I like, but
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I value what they see, what they bring, what they do. I'm
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hold enough when somebody says that's off, maybe you're right, maybe it is
59:08
off. I never saw it that way. Mm hmm. That's why I
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need you, because you can see what I can't see. M hm does
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ray. I'm gonna talk to you real quick. So I know I probably
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said this to you that PG and father howld I want them to meet,
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but I'm also scared for the meet He kind of just likest that. Yeah,
59:40
So I normally, as if a final thought talk about a lot today,
59:52
give it to us about a lot today, and we give the space
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for I guess to you know, if there was one final thought that you
59:59
would like to leave the listeners, what would you like? What would you
1:00:02
like to see? Okay, yes, the final thought. Don't be afraid
1:00:09
to look in the mirror. What you see is real, embrace it,
1:00:15
love it, and commit to being better. If you become the best version
1:00:20
of you there's no competition ever in that game. You shine regardless. Just
1:00:25
be the best version of you, y'all. I'm smiling like I'm just silent
1:00:35
because I just love I love I love Father. That was so good.
1:00:43
This whole conversation was good. I was not expecting to go here, and
1:00:46
I know that anything that happens on just as the podcast is needed. Whatever
1:00:51
conversation, however, the Lord Holy Spirit. You know, I don't tell
1:00:54
y'all this before. How you asked the quin how you can have a good
1:00:58
conversation. I literally before, Like even Desiray was like, hey, what're
1:01:01
you gonna be talking about? I said, I feel like I can go
1:01:04
two ways with this, and she said, well, you know how you
1:01:07
do. You'll say that you're talking about this, and the Holy Spirit give
1:01:09
you something else and you start going down. It happens every time, So
1:01:15
I don't prepare questions. I don't like, I literally don't. I've learned
1:01:17
not to even fight against it because it goes a completely different way and God
1:01:22
highlights where he needs to highlight. So I'm I'm grateful for you. I
1:01:24
think the I could say on the behalf of my community, thank you so
1:01:28
much for the push. Thank you so much for seeing the broken crane,
1:01:30
and that part makes me thank you so much for allowing me to be me.
1:01:38
But also I thank god that you had the sight something that was in
1:01:44
me was something that you could identify with so we can continue to do our
1:01:49
relationship and so I love you like real hard. You know what I want
1:01:52
people to do, It's a shameless plug. Go ahead. I want to
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What can I do? What can I do? I want to become a
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to do anything for me, become a sponsor of the show. Because if
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we recognize the real prophetic is not seeing what's seen, is seen, where
1:02:23
something is going and getting in on it before it gets there. That's how
1:02:27
people do well in the stock market. That's why we need to recognize where
1:02:30
this is going. And if people recognize where this is going, may be
1:02:34
wise to get in on it before it get there. Okay, because once
1:02:37
we get there, the values to hiw you can't afford me no more.
1:02:43
So if I would you, I become an original investor, and then it's
1:02:49
a difference because one hundred twenty years ago, people who would have put ten
1:02:53
dollars in an apple would be millionaires. Right now, ten dollars an apple
1:02:58
will get you nothing. So we need to see where something's going before it
1:03:01
gets there, sponsoring invest in it so that when it is there. That's
1:03:07
all I'm telling people said this with a smile. Yes, yes, I'm
1:03:13
swelling so hard right now. I love, I love y'all. This is
1:03:17
my father Howell, and I am so grateful that he's all here. And
1:03:22
I didn't tell her to do that, y'all. I didn't. He does
1:03:23
what he wants to do, okay, and so I'm grateful for you that
1:03:28
the assigned your assigned seat is available on Amazon. We will definitely put that
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1:03:40
coaching available availability there, y'all. If y'all think this was something, y'all
1:03:45
just we gonna have to pick up the book. We have to pick up
1:03:47
a book and read it. Thank you. That's what people. They might
1:03:52
let me come back. You are like we had already talked about that this
1:03:54
is not this is not the last time y'all gonna see him. We made
1:03:58
it through this one this way, y'all. Thank you so much for listening,
1:04:04
Thank you for watching. Until next time, Remember life could be much
1:04:10
more simple if you just asked, thank you for tuning in to this week's
1:04:18
episode. Since you've made it this far, you might as well connect with
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I won't see you back until next week, but until then, remember to
1:04:32
love always yourself and always say thank God for one another day. Hey,
1:04:42
hey, I know we could be another way. Hey, pray thank God
1:04:47
for another day. Hey hey, I'm just thankfu for another day. Hey
1:04:57
hey another day? Oh, another day wise, another day to get it
1:05:01
right, another day to rise up, another day living, another day.
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We loved ones. I always remember holding down for a ball one yup