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Wedding in Paradise with Chris Randone & Krystal Nielsen · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
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Speaker 1: with I R Radio. Yo yo yo? Did that sound cool?
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Speaker 1: Is that pretty cool? Yo? Yo yo? Okay. Anyways, Hey,
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Speaker 1: it's been here. Ashley is making her way from the
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Speaker 1: East Coast back to the West Coast. She'll be joining
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Speaker 1: us very soon, and we'll be getting right back into
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Speaker 1: it together as co host. We still love each other,
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Speaker 1: We're still together. This podcast is bigger and better than ever.
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Speaker 1: She just had to take a little lover's break, but
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Speaker 1: as you heard from her here recently, as she recorded
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Speaker 1: in New York City, she's coming back soon with that.
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Speaker 1: We're gonna be bringing Chris and Crystal, who just got
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Speaker 1: married on last night's episode of Bachelor and Paradise into
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Speaker 1: studio today. There be co hosting a lot of this
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Speaker 1: show with me. But before we bring them in, I
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Speaker 1: want to break down a few things that are happening.
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Speaker 1: Last night's episode was um I would say, one of
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Speaker 1: the most entertaining episodes we've seen this season. UM entertaining
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Speaker 1: and and sometimes a not so fun way. Though. I
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Speaker 1: want to hear from Chris and Crystal about this, but
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Speaker 1: I have some very I would say, uh, concrete inconfident
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Speaker 1: thoughts on their wedding. I didn't love being at that
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Speaker 1: wedding and having people argue around me the whole time.
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Speaker 1: That wasn't fun for me to hear. Is actually so
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Speaker 1: bad that that Jesse and I actually got back to
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Speaker 1: our room after it was all and said and done,
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Speaker 1: and Jessica and I said, Wow, what a beautiful wedding,
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Speaker 1: but what a weird experience at times. I mean, there
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Speaker 1: was a moment, I'm telling you this, jess and I
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Speaker 1: were sitting literally sitting in the reception and there is
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Speaker 1: eight different groups of people arguing. There was multiple people
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Speaker 1: having tears, there was makeout sessions going on. This is
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Speaker 1: a wedding, this is a celebration, And finally jess and
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Speaker 1: I just said this is too much. We've got to go. Um. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I want to hear from christ and Crystal beautiful wed
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Speaker 1: super pumped for them. I'm glad they're coming into studio,
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Speaker 1: but I'm sure there's some things that dell Field did
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Speaker 1: not go the way they wanted or maybe not. Maybe
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Speaker 1: they'll prove me wrong. But before they get in, I
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Speaker 1: want to break down a few things that are happening.
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Speaker 1: There's some main points from last night episode outside of
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Speaker 1: their wedding that we need to talk about. J p
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Speaker 1: J is on one. The guy is fired up because
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Speaker 1: he now loves Tasha, and I think for me and
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Speaker 1: I want to hear from you please emails at been
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Speaker 1: A Ashley. I heart media dot com or uh use
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Speaker 1: Twitter and hashtag almost Famous podcast. I can't quite understand
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Speaker 1: where his love suddenly blossomed for Tassia. I think I
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Speaker 1: would be feeling this way and feeling for him if
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Speaker 1: up to this point I had ever seen a sign
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Speaker 1: that he was super invitation. I know he had said
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Speaker 1: and mentioned it, but then he goes on these two
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Speaker 1: dates because Tasha kind of told him to. But these
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Speaker 1: two dates, it wasn't like he was holding back. It
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Speaker 1: wasn't like he was thinking about Tasha on both of
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Speaker 1: these dates. I felt like he was entering into new
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Speaker 1: relationships with new great people. I know. I know the
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Speaker 1: Ferguson twins well, they were on our season of the Bachelor,
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Speaker 1: and Haley Ferguson is a tremendous, tremendous catch. I think
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Speaker 1: as her sister has now found uh somebody that she loves,
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Speaker 1: Haley is starting to venture out as well. I see
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Speaker 1: JPJ go on this date with her, and the only
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Speaker 1: thing I can think about is this relationship could work.
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Speaker 1: It could literally work. They're they're very similar people. Um,
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Speaker 1: they vote. They both are very fun to be around. Uh.
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Speaker 1: They both are intelligent, even though sometimes when you watch
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Speaker 1: them you go they a character of themselves, But when
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Speaker 1: you talk to him, they both have really really good thoughts.
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Speaker 1: They process things well. But all of a sudden, we
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Speaker 1: see this whole new JPJ come into play. This j
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Speaker 1: p J is mad at Derek because Derek is now
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Speaker 1: into Tatia. And maybe I'm wrong here, maybe I'm alone.
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Speaker 1: Please tell me if I am. But I'm celebrating Derek
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Speaker 1: like it's a good thing. He moved, he handled them
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Speaker 1: the situation well, he didn't give up on the pursuit
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Speaker 1: of love. He said, I'm gonna stay in this thing.
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Speaker 1: And then all of a sudden, before his eyes is
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Speaker 1: his beautiful momentation. Derek says, I'm gonna go after because
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Speaker 1: she's interested in me as well. I don't think he
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Speaker 1: did anything wrong, and I want to know what J
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Speaker 1: p J thought he was doing wrong. We have Tori
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Speaker 1: in studio with me right now, before we bring Chris
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Speaker 1: and Crystaline, I gotta get Tori's opinion. What did JPJ
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Speaker 1: actually feel like Derek was doing wrong and did Derek
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Speaker 1: do anything wrong? It sounds like the classic he's not
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Speaker 1: here for the right reasons scenario, and he saw Derek
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Speaker 1: talked about his podcast too much where he thought, oh,
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Speaker 1: he just wants to get more content. I mean, trust me,
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Speaker 1: I'm all for they gave me content. Well, I also
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Speaker 1: feel like what Derek was saying was no, I was
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Speaker 1: doing that as it's really cool to opportunities we have
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Speaker 1: available to us after the show, like after going on,
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Speaker 1: we do have a podcast we can have opportunities with
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Speaker 1: and I do want you to come on and chat
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Speaker 1: about Bachelor in Paradise. So I feel like it was
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Speaker 1: kind of just work talk. But then JPJ took advantage
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Speaker 1: of that and manipulated it kind of to make it
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Speaker 1: seem like, see, Derek's here for the wrong reasons. It's
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Speaker 1: interesting there's a comment that was made by JPJ says, um,
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Speaker 1: Derek is on this show and using his bachelor profile
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Speaker 1: to hook up with girls. Uh, And that's one of
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Speaker 1: So there's a few things that JPJ has said the
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Speaker 1: Derek is doing wrong. One he's using the Paradise Show
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Speaker 1: to enhance his podcast content. Um, the next is uh
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Speaker 1: that he is using his bachelor fame took up with girls,
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Speaker 1: and then also he is deceiving everybody in the process.
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Speaker 1: I think it's a viewer. It's hard. I haven't seen
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Speaker 1: that yet, and I don't know if many people had,
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Speaker 1: Like even the people that were on the beach with
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Speaker 1: Derek were confused by j what JPJ was upset at about.
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Speaker 1: We saw at the wedding. I understood at the wedding.
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Speaker 1: I saw him getting mad at Derek at the wedding,
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Speaker 1: and everybody's like, I don't know what's going on. I
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Speaker 1: think this is maybe, let's say, in the Most Beautiful Sins,
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Speaker 1: JPJ really does love Tasha and he's losing his mind
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Speaker 1: because Tatia is slipping through the cracks. Do you believe
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Speaker 1: in love at first sight? Yeah, sure, because I swear
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Speaker 1: this is what happened to him. I don't know. I
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Speaker 1: don't think. I don't think he loved Tashia as much
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Speaker 1: until until Derek started Like in Tasia, no, because he
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Speaker 1: pursued her beforehand and then Tatia said, hey, seek out
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Speaker 1: other options, and then he went on a date with
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Speaker 1: Haley and Tajwan. It's all of a sudden become one
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Speaker 1: of the most dramatic storylines that we're seeing in Paradise.
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Speaker 1: I am interesting see how it plays out. I want
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Speaker 1: JPJ to pull it back together. I like the JPJ
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Speaker 1: that doesn't have to be goofy all the time. He
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Speaker 1: doesn't have to make everybody laugh all the time. He
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Speaker 1: doesn't need to gag after everything he puts down his
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Speaker 1: throat because that seems to be something he's doing. But
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Speaker 1: JPJ that just lifts people up. The joyful JPJ that
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Speaker 1: is confident in himself, loving, caring, fun, exciting, and and
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Speaker 1: very secure in who he is. I don't like the
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Speaker 1: JPJ im seeing. I want JPG to come back to
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Speaker 1: normal because I think if he does, my prediction is
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Speaker 1: if JPJ can wrap this up and get his head
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Speaker 1: back and right him and take you could actually make
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Speaker 1: things work. Do you know what I didn't like how
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Speaker 1: he kept interrupting Derek and wouldn't let him speak. It happens.
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Speaker 1: It was weird. It was monologue. It was it was weird.
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Speaker 1: Derek was very calm and collected, and J like I said,
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Speaker 1: I've never seen a freak out like that. Even on
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Speaker 1: this show, like it was a uniquely dramatic freak out
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Speaker 1: that had no sensibility to it. We can oftentimes to
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Speaker 1: the show. I'm gonna go back to some of the
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Speaker 1: most villainous people we've ever had in the show. I'm
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Speaker 1: not gonna mention their names because some of them don't
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Speaker 1: deserve to have their names mentioned on this podcast. But
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Speaker 1: sometimes they're arguing things and you're like, oh, that kind
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Speaker 1: of makes sense. Like, yeah, it's wrong and it's aggressive
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Speaker 1: and you're not saying the right things, but like, it
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Speaker 1: kind of makes sense. This one didn't make sense to me.
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Speaker 1: It was a lot of talking, very little conversation, and
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Speaker 1: it completely lacked any sensibility. Derek couldn't even a word out.
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Speaker 1: I don't know what happened to JPG. I wanted I
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Speaker 1: want jp J to sit down on this podcast at
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Speaker 1: some point and tell us what happened. Because it was
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Speaker 1: a breakdown of all breakdowns. This one we'll go back on,
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Speaker 1: I think and watch years to come. Hey, uh, Chris
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Speaker 1: and Crystal are getting warmed up. They're getting a vocal
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Speaker 1: chords ready. We're gonna break down their wedding with him
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Speaker 1: all the good, bad, ugly, and excitement that came from it.
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Speaker 1: But before do, let's take a break to talk about
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Speaker 1: one of our favorite sponsors. Bachelor in Paradise this year
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Speaker 1: has not missed its drama. We talked to Wells last
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Speaker 1: week and we both were feeling like the drama is
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Speaker 1: out kind of weighing the love right now. I do
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Speaker 1: think we're taking a hearn, but we're getting pretty far
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Speaker 1: in the season. There's a few couples that were celebrating
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Speaker 1: right now. I know that we feel pretty confident in
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Speaker 1: Hannah and Dylan. Finally, UM, Blake is still out there
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Speaker 1: pursuing love the best of his abilities. Um. I think
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Speaker 1: we've seen successful couples kind of blossom late in the show,
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Speaker 1: but at this point, I feel like, tell me if
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Speaker 1: I'm wrong. We're getting a little late in the game
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Speaker 1: to really be cheering for any of these couples like
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Speaker 1: we want to. I mean, I'm I'm thinking back to
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Speaker 1: the Astroids and Kevin's. Um, I'm thinking back to the
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Speaker 1: Joe and Kindle's. I'm thinking back to the Tanner in Jades.
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Speaker 1: I think the closest thing we have to that right
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Speaker 1: now is is honestly Hannah and Dylan and their their
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Speaker 1: journey has not been perfect. I don't know if we
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Speaker 1: we necessarily expect it to be. But even after this episode,
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Speaker 1: and we'll get into it later, the Clay and the
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Speaker 1: Coals are even breaking up, it feels like, I mean,
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Speaker 1: we see Kalen heartbroken during the wedding because of Deaners,
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Speaker 1: but we also see Connor step in as maybe the hero.
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Speaker 1: These are all things we want to tease to talk
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Speaker 1: about later in the podcast, but quite honestly, I believe this.
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Speaker 1: It's been a great season. It's been fun to watch,
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Speaker 1: it's been at times hard to watch. But there are
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Speaker 1: very few couples that I am fully behind other than
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Speaker 1: Hannah and Dylan. And that's sad to me because I
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Speaker 1: think a lot of them are on their edge. I
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Speaker 1: think that I don't think they're gonna make it, really,
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Speaker 1: mark my words, I don't think. I think Hannah and
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Speaker 1: Dylan make it, and I think a lot of the
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Speaker 1: other ones that we're watching right now, I think it
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Speaker 1: gets it's it's not looking good. Christian and DEMI I think,
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Speaker 1: oh yeah, Christian, DEMI will make it. I kind of
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Speaker 1: like feel like that's like, uh, like I don't know
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Speaker 1: if this makes it. I feel like they're like above
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Speaker 1: paradise now, Like it's almost like you, of course they're
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Speaker 1: gonna make it like it just feels like it's such
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Speaker 1: a good and healthy and positive thing. I don't know
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Speaker 1: why I watched this down like they are a paradise couple,
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Speaker 1: but they feel like so much more than a paradise couple,
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Speaker 1: Like they're out of the dramas, like there's not a
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Speaker 1: lot outside of their own relationship that could blow up
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Speaker 1: in their face. Side note, did you see how jess
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Speaker 1: had a little cameo and the cocktail? Um, Yeah, it's funny.
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Speaker 1: I I watched it before Jessica did, and I said, Jessica,
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Speaker 1: you had a really good moment during this show. You're
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Speaker 1: talking to Clay and I was back in an interview
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Speaker 1: and she was introducing herself to some of the people
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Speaker 1: that are at the wedding, and I remember I came
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Speaker 1: out and then I felt so awkward. I don't know
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Speaker 1: any of these people. When I was just like spinning
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Speaker 1: in circles trying to like everybody's trying to mingle with
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Speaker 1: each other and meet each other. And then we get
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Speaker 1: to see it on national television where Jessica is talking
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Speaker 1: to Clay. There's like an argument or somebody or some
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Speaker 1: girls trying to flirt with Clay, and she comes up
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Speaker 1: in could just like stands there, smiles and like spencing
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Speaker 1: circles like I don't want to go, but this this
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Speaker 1: is a crazy part of this And I think I
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Speaker 1: mentioned it a few weeks ago on the podcast. I
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Speaker 1: was at this wedding as well, and in this batch
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Speaker 1: the world, I've been in it for a long time, right,
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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know a lot of these new people,
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Speaker 1: so I was excited to meet them. But I would
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Speaker 1: say I'm a veteran, like there's not many from the
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Speaker 1: many things on this show that is gonna throw me off,
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Speaker 1: but I'm There's two scenarios. One, I'm sitting uh at
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Speaker 1: the wedding and I look behind me and there's Connor.
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Speaker 1: I said, Connor, Ben, nice to finally meet you, and
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Speaker 1: he's like, oh man, He's like, I want to talk
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Speaker 1: to you right now, but I'm gonna go talk to
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Speaker 1: that girl, and just like yes. Second one, Mike, they
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Speaker 1: well Mike, I'm talking to him and he goes, Dude,
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Speaker 1: I want to talk to you right now, but I
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Speaker 1: got to go talk to this girl. Two different occasions.
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Speaker 1: I got completely ignored, dumped, walked past because I was
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Speaker 1: at that point I realized I was in the middle
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Speaker 1: of a television show. I was just hanging out like
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Speaker 1: I was at a wedding. My final point before we
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Speaker 1: take one last break before we bring Chris and crystalland
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Speaker 1: I know they're they're warmed up there. Listen to this.
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Speaker 1: This is crazy. We met Connor, really tall, good looking dude,
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Speaker 1: right Hannaby season Hannaby season. We see him come into
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Speaker 1: the episode at the end this time, and I'm like, Connor,
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Speaker 1: you've been on the show, Like, are you down on
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Speaker 1: the beach? I didn't know who was there and who wasn't.
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Speaker 1: He goes, no, man, I've been in my hotel room
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Speaker 1: for the last ten days. It's a hotel room, lest
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Speaker 1: in days. Why because I don't know. He literally came
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Speaker 1: down to Paradise and he was just chilling until the
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Speaker 1: beach opened up to have one more man walk in.
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Speaker 1: Based on how people were going home coming and going,
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Speaker 1: there wasn't room for another man, so he had to
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Speaker 1: literally sit in his hotel room. Is that how it works?
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Speaker 1: You just sit in the hotel room. I guess I've
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Speaker 1: never been on paradise? Is that wild? Like being in jail?
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Speaker 1: Poor poor guy? All right, hey, um, let's take one
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Speaker 1: more break and then we're gonna bring on Chris and
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Speaker 1: Crystal Live to talk about their beautiful wedding that was
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Speaker 1: a celebration of all sorts of love, of a commitment
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Speaker 1: to each other, but also at its own drama. Let's
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Speaker 1: take a break, all right, Welcome back, hot Chris and
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Speaker 1: Chris or in studio. Hello, Chris and Crystal? What's going on? Man?
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Speaker 1: How are you doing? Man? You guys are glowing, trying, man, trying,
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Speaker 1: you know how it is? Looking good, looking really good.
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Speaker 1: All right. So we've been talking leading up to getting
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Speaker 1: you both in the studio about kind of everything leading
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Speaker 1: up to your wedding, and so we broke all that down.
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Speaker 1: Now I want to talk about your wedding. Um, first off,
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Speaker 1: let's start at the beginning. Why did you want to
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Speaker 1: do your wedding on television? Uh? So this was actually
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Speaker 1: a long process for Sloani. Uh. Months of talking, months
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Speaker 1: of negotiations, and um, you know, weighing the pros and
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Speaker 1: the cons. We knew that doing a televised wedding, UH
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Speaker 1: would have some risks because we knew that, you know,
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Speaker 1: not everything could be perfect when it comes to reality TV. However, though,
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Speaker 1: we thought of all the positives, and some of those
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Speaker 1: being getting married at a place where we first met
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Speaker 1: for the first time ever, had our first conversation first
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Speaker 1: I Love you, first date, and it was very symbolic
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Speaker 1: for us because we would be able to bring a
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Speaker 1: new element into that and that was our friends and
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Speaker 1: family to watch this chapter of love that has evolved
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Speaker 1: over the last year really come to fruition in front
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Speaker 1: of their eyes at the place where we met. And
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Speaker 1: I think it was also a thank you to the
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Speaker 1: franchise because uh, without all of this, we would have
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Speaker 1: never found each other. And so I think that really
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Speaker 1: all played into the decision making that allowed us to
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Speaker 1: move forward and go ahead with the decision of having
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Speaker 1: to televised wedding. Yeah, I think that was really well put.
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Speaker 1: I will say that as we were going through this
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Speaker 1: wedding planning process, a lot of fear from our past
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Speaker 1: seasons really started to come back to the surface, and
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Speaker 1: for us, I was just exposing just some areas we
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Speaker 1: were still hurt um and ultimately like as we got
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Speaker 1: closer to the wedding and kind of making that decision.
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Speaker 1: We ultimately had to decide that these wounds were areas
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Speaker 1: that we were gonna not let us, let us, you know,
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Speaker 1: be defined by them, and and instead shoes to step
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Speaker 1: forward into the future and become better. But it was
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Speaker 1: areas where we said that this actually requires real work.
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Speaker 1: What was those things? Like? What are things are you
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Speaker 1: speaking about? You know I'm talking about Like when I
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Speaker 1: was on The Bachelor and feeling I just felt so
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Speaker 1: afraid to be myself, and I think I was so
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Speaker 1: as I went through that process. I was so scared
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Speaker 1: of showing people who I really was, that I wouldn't
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Speaker 1: be accepted, I wouldn't be loved. And a lot of
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Speaker 1: that trails way back to my child of you know,
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Speaker 1: being on welfare and government assistance and my dad not
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Speaker 1: being in the picture and not letting kids at school
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Speaker 1: know that because they would tease me and make fun
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Speaker 1: of me, and so kind of carrying this image. And
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Speaker 1: I realized that I'd been doing that my whole life.
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Speaker 1: And when I went on The Bachelor and watched it
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Speaker 1: back and went through all that scrutiny um and getting
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Speaker 1: this fill and edit, I mean, really, that's that's who
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Speaker 1: I was, and so just becoming confident in who I am,
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Speaker 1: the woman I am today and owning my truth and
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Speaker 1: unapologetically but lovingly being me was a journey to get through.
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Speaker 1: I want to sit here for a second, Crystal, with you,
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Speaker 1: because I think this is an interesting point that oftentimes
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Speaker 1: we can't answer on this podcast. Um, I want to
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Speaker 1: start one and remind everybody that when Crystal was on
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Speaker 1: the Bachelor, your journey was not easy. It was not
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Speaker 1: one that I would say you probably walked out of
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Speaker 1: it feeling the most love. But you came on Paradise
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Speaker 1: and it was a completely it was a complete redemption story. Right.
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Speaker 1: So here's my question for you as somebody and you're
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Speaker 1: not anymore, You're not viewed this way. You are loved,
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Speaker 1: you're celebrated. Obviously, you just had a wedding on national television.
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Speaker 1: I can't wait to continue to talk about it. But
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Speaker 1: you were the villain after your season you went down
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Speaker 1: to Paradise, known as the villain. For anybody that comes
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Speaker 1: on this show and maybe doesn't know themselves fully and
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Speaker 1: isn't it doesn't have the greatest time on the show,
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Speaker 1: they don't represent themselves well, or they watch it back
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Speaker 1: in the Wow, I didn't realize I was such a
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Speaker 1: jerk or such a egomaniac or whatever. What would be
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Speaker 1: your advice for them to have their redemption story? How
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Speaker 1: do you then kind of turn the table? And then
18:46
Speaker 1: also my follow up to this, and I want you
18:48
Speaker 1: to because what does it feel like to be completely
18:50
Speaker 1: love now when at one time you felt isolated from
18:53
Speaker 1: this world? Yeah, I'd say, um, right now, they're there's
18:58
Speaker 1: still every now and then that little voice that just
19:01
Speaker 1: kind of doubts, like am I enough? Like do people
19:04
Speaker 1: like am I? Am I good enough to get this love?
19:06
Speaker 1: And and do I feel worthy enough to receive this?
19:09
Speaker 1: And I do? And it becomes this like daily practice
19:11
Speaker 1: of reminding myself that it's not about other people validating
19:16
Speaker 1: me to be happy, to feel worthy. It's about loving
19:19
Speaker 1: myself and just owning that and embracing that and knowing
19:22
Speaker 1: that all those hard times that I went through weren't
19:25
Speaker 1: anything to be ashamed of because they actually gave me
19:28
Speaker 1: my strength and they defined who I am today. And
19:31
Speaker 1: I think just honestly, my relationship with Chris is what
19:35
Speaker 1: really gave me that confidence. Because there was a moment
19:37
Speaker 1: on the beach when we were in the pool like
19:39
Speaker 1: day two and he's like, you're a businesswoman. And I never,
19:43
Speaker 1: even though I had a business, I had never viewed
19:45
Speaker 1: myself as this entrepreneur, as this businesswoman. And I was like, wow, like,
19:49
Speaker 1: you see something in me that I couldn't even see
19:52
Speaker 1: for myself. And I think that's why our our relationship
19:56
Speaker 1: has evolved, and that's why we got married, is because
19:58
Speaker 1: we bring out these sides in each other that maybe
20:01
Speaker 1: at one point we didn't feel worthy. We couldn't see it. Um,
20:05
Speaker 1: but we're continuously devoted to growing and pushing each other
20:09
Speaker 1: to really demand more of ourselves and um, and you know,
20:13
Speaker 1: we're just being surrendering to love. Really. As as great
20:17
Speaker 1: as that sounds, I think I think one thing that
20:20
Speaker 1: we don't ever really focus on is how this show,
20:24
Speaker 1: for those of us who go on it, it's kind
20:26
Speaker 1: of like a blueprint. And what I mean by that
20:29
Speaker 1: is is you might have not the best of journeys
20:32
Speaker 1: going on this show, Um, but that was you in
20:35
Speaker 1: the moment. A lot of people go on the show
20:37
Speaker 1: and they blame producers, they blame edits and but at
20:40
Speaker 1: the end of the day, it was your behavior. And
20:42
Speaker 1: whether that's ever happened to you before or it just
20:44
Speaker 1: finally came out. Those were hitting qualities or characteristics that
20:48
Speaker 1: you saw that you didn't like about yourself. So instead
20:50
Speaker 1: of deflecting, uh those situations, it's better to uh look
20:55
Speaker 1: at it in a way of taking full ownership and
20:59
Speaker 1: embracing it. And what I mean by that is is
21:01
Speaker 1: use that as fuel to understand that there are things
21:06
Speaker 1: that are deep in hit and that this show can
21:08
Speaker 1: bring out. But it's a good thing because that is
21:09
Speaker 1: a time where you can work on yourself and have
21:12
Speaker 1: self development and work on a new blueprint for yourself
21:15
Speaker 1: to become a higher, better version of who you are. Yeah,
21:18
Speaker 1: that's awesome. And my my advice, going back to your question, Ben,
21:22
Speaker 1: would be when I was on The Bachelor, there was
21:25
Speaker 1: a moment where I was blaming and I was pointing
21:27
Speaker 1: the finger, and then ultimately I realized, hey, I'm a coach,
21:32
Speaker 1: Like how I grow is through feedback, is through constructive feedback.
21:35
Speaker 1: So then I started going on Instagram and then I
21:37
Speaker 1: started reading all the comments and sifting through the messages,
21:40
Speaker 1: and there was a lot of death threats. There was
21:41
Speaker 1: a lot of really angry things, but there was also
21:43
Speaker 1: like nuggets of love and intention and admiration that people had,
21:47
Speaker 1: and I chose to read those without getting myself involved
21:51
Speaker 1: in that emotion and instead chose to see see it
21:54
Speaker 1: as feedback. And it was if someone kept continuously saying
21:57
Speaker 1: the same thing, then that was obviously like something that
22:01
Speaker 1: I needed to look at within myself and grow. So
22:04
Speaker 1: no that particularly we're speaking about Blake. You know, hard
22:08
Speaker 1: times I'll have to define you. You can grow and
22:10
Speaker 1: become better as we did, and I really hope that.
22:13
Speaker 1: And that's another reason why I think we decided to
22:15
Speaker 1: get married was because we went through this journey of
22:20
Speaker 1: into the dark but came out because we were together,
22:23
Speaker 1: because we leaned into this franchise, and because we just
22:26
Speaker 1: we just surrendered the expectations and just step into who
22:29
Speaker 1: we were. And I wanted that to be an inspiration
22:32
Speaker 1: story of that would inspire others that you know, you
22:36
Speaker 1: can become anybody you want. You deserve anything that you know,
22:41
Speaker 1: you deserve happiness and love, but you got to do
22:44
Speaker 1: some work to do it and to get there. What
22:48
Speaker 1: I want to sit here for a second, because Chris
22:51
Speaker 1: and Crystal, you've just said something that's never been said
22:54
Speaker 1: in the two years plus that we've been doing this podcast,
22:57
Speaker 1: I've never and I want to tell you, anybody out
23:00
Speaker 1: there listening who has listened for a while will know that.
23:02
Speaker 1: I think they're probably screaming, like saying, oh my gosh,
23:04
Speaker 1: this is what Ben has been begging for. But we've
23:08
Speaker 1: never had a villain air quotes come onto this show
23:12
Speaker 1: and ever say take ownership in your actions because if
23:16
Speaker 1: you do, you'll be a better person for it. Chris,
23:20
Speaker 1: you said it. It's it's you're brilliant and I'm learning
23:22
Speaker 1: from you. I'm just gonna repeat what you said. You said,
23:25
Speaker 1: don't deflect what you're seeing. Instead use it as growth,
23:30
Speaker 1: and when you do that, people respond. We connect through
23:33
Speaker 1: our our vulnerability, we connect through our weaknesses. And I'm
23:37
Speaker 1: literally just repeating what you said. So this isn't my
23:39
Speaker 1: own thoughts here, But what I want to say is
23:41
Speaker 1: I want to remind the listeners that what has happened
23:43
Speaker 1: here and what the beauty of this show is, it
23:45
Speaker 1: does bring out things that we don't always see, and
23:47
Speaker 1: when you use those as fuel to better yourself, amazing
23:52
Speaker 1: things can happen. Like these two guys. I'm telling you,
23:55
Speaker 1: we've never had that nobody's ever done that, and it's
23:59
Speaker 1: and it is. It is such a breath of fresh
24:02
Speaker 1: air for me. I've been waiting for that. So with that,
24:07
Speaker 1: you guys are really smart people with great advice here,
24:10
Speaker 1: I want you to tag team this. If Blake Blake
24:13
Speaker 1: does listen to the podcast, Blake's gonna hear this. What
24:18
Speaker 1: is your advice to Blake right now? Um? I think
24:22
Speaker 1: my biggest advice would be to really process this, don't
24:27
Speaker 1: act out of emotion. Uh know that not everyone's perfect.
24:31
Speaker 1: And I think the biggest thing is that it's it's
24:32
Speaker 1: so hard to take ownership because we know the truth
24:36
Speaker 1: about ourselves and we don't want the truth to to
24:40
Speaker 1: come to to come to life because we know that
24:42
Speaker 1: we'll be judged. But this is a moment where coming
24:45
Speaker 1: to truth will set you free from the bondage that
24:48
Speaker 1: you're that that's holding you back. Because the longer you
24:51
Speaker 1: continue to hold onto that bondage and you know you
24:54
Speaker 1: can't break through, breakthrough, you'll just continue to have these issues,
24:57
Speaker 1: to have these demons over you. And So for Blake,
25:00
Speaker 1: I mean, he's a great friend of mine. I love him,
25:02
Speaker 1: and I don't my perception doesn't change of him. However, though,
25:05
Speaker 1: I do want to rally behind him because I know
25:08
Speaker 1: that this will be a great stepping stone for Blake
25:11
Speaker 1: to become even a better man than he previous was
25:14
Speaker 1: through this journey on the franchise. So I would say
25:16
Speaker 1: to Blake, don't worry about what people are saying. I
25:20
Speaker 1: know that you've done what you've done. These actions were
25:23
Speaker 1: done from you, no matter if there was an excuse
25:26
Speaker 1: or reason. But just know that this is not what's
25:29
Speaker 1: going to define you. What's going to define you is
25:31
Speaker 1: how you respond and how you react in the action
25:34
Speaker 1: that you take moving forward. I expect to get preached
25:39
Speaker 1: to today, but come on, Chris, Yeah, that was good.
25:43
Speaker 1: I'm going to go into UM. I think my advice
25:45
Speaker 1: as a life and fitness coach to Blake would be
25:48
Speaker 1: to shut off the phone and make sure you're taking
25:50
Speaker 1: time every data to better yourself. And you know, I
25:54
Speaker 1: know people are saying a lot of things and a
25:55
Speaker 1: lot of opinions about him, but he can't listen to that,
25:59
Speaker 1: you know, he can't find his worthiness and what other
26:01
Speaker 1: people are saying. And what I have found to be
26:05
Speaker 1: most transformative for myself and for my clients is setting
26:09
Speaker 1: aside time every morning and just waking up with purpose
26:11
Speaker 1: in a plan that is solely focused on on developing you.
26:15
Speaker 1: So I love waking up and drinking my lemon water,
26:19
Speaker 1: pulling out my pen and my journal, and just writing
26:22
Speaker 1: out whatever is going on in my mind. And I
26:24
Speaker 1: think for Blake it might be easy to blame things,
26:27
Speaker 1: but just writing these letters just to get out the
26:29
Speaker 1: emotions that could be consuming him in his head. And
26:32
Speaker 1: exactly that Chris said, just kind of reacting out of
26:34
Speaker 1: emotion and um, a lot of fear that I'm sure
26:37
Speaker 1: he has right now is going to really help him
26:39
Speaker 1: get that clarity on the steps that he needs to
26:41
Speaker 1: take to move forward, because he's got the answers, he
26:43
Speaker 1: knows what to do. Sometimes we just give other people
26:46
Speaker 1: that power, but it's until we begin to look within
26:49
Speaker 1: and understand it's it's not about what's out there, it's
26:52
Speaker 1: about what's within me. Yeah. Seek uh internally, not externally,
26:57
Speaker 1: because no one knows what's best for Blake on the
27:00
Speaker 1: inside besides Blake. And so Blake needs to shut everything
27:03
Speaker 1: down and listen to himself on the inside and that
27:06
Speaker 1: will allow him to begin this new path of moving forward.
27:11
Speaker 1: And when in doubt, Blake. Just watch my season of
27:14
Speaker 1: the Bachelor and that that doesn't have to define you.
27:20
Speaker 1: You can move on in a happy, healthy way with
27:24
Speaker 1: a beautiful wedding. Hey, guys, I really want to talk
27:27
Speaker 1: about your wedding. I want to celebrate this wedding. I
27:28
Speaker 1: want to talk about how beautiful it was. I also
27:30
Speaker 1: want to talk about any of the behind the scenes
27:31
Speaker 1: things that maybe we didn't see that you were both
27:33
Speaker 1: feeling um. But I want to break that down in total.
27:37
Speaker 1: So before we do that, let's take one more break.
27:40
Speaker 1: We'll get back talking about Chris and Crystal's beautiful wedding.
27:51
Speaker 1: All right, we got Chris and Crystal in the studio,
27:53
Speaker 1: whose wedding we just watched on Bachelor in Paradise. Chris
27:56
Speaker 1: and Crystal, I need you to lead me through this.
27:59
Speaker 1: I was not, uh, the ones planning your reading. I
28:02
Speaker 1: had the opportunity to be there with my girlfriend Jessica
28:05
Speaker 1: uh and it was a beautiful wedding from our perspective.
28:08
Speaker 1: But the things you didn't see. I want to walk
28:10
Speaker 1: into this because I did see this part. We all
28:13
Speaker 1: walk into this event venue. It's a beautiful place at
28:16
Speaker 1: the Vedanta in Portavarto. Mexico, and we don't really know
28:20
Speaker 1: what's going to go on though, right, Jessica and I
28:22
Speaker 1: are going for your wedding. That is our purpose of
28:24
Speaker 1: being there. We don't know anything else. At this point.
28:26
Speaker 1: We flew down for Chris and Crystal's wedding. We go
28:29
Speaker 1: to a cocktailer that we've been invited to, and at
28:32
Speaker 1: this cocktail we're meeting Chris and Crystal's family, a couple
28:35
Speaker 1: of other people who are already there from Bachelor Nation
28:37
Speaker 1: that came down kind of with us that we had
28:39
Speaker 1: met at the pool earlier. And then the cast shows up.
28:44
Speaker 1: I mean literally they walked down this like venue space
28:48
Speaker 1: towards us like a herd of animals, and everybody's heads
28:53
Speaker 1: turned and we all go, what is happening? We didn't
28:55
Speaker 1: realize I saw your guys reaction, No idea that you
29:00
Speaker 1: are so surprised. We had no clue. I had no idea.
29:04
Speaker 1: But all of a sudden, the show literally came to us,
29:07
Speaker 1: and like, not when this happens, right, That's what I'm
29:11
Speaker 1: gonna say. It's not just the cast that comes, it's
29:14
Speaker 1: the cameramen that come it with them, and it's a
29:19
Speaker 1: huge group of people coming charging towards the wedding. They
29:22
Speaker 1: come down, all looking fresh, all looking it's super happy
29:24
Speaker 1: to be there. You know. The one thing they didn't
29:26
Speaker 1: see on the show was everybody that got to the wedding.
29:28
Speaker 1: We're like, we're so glad to be out of the house.
29:30
Speaker 1: We're like feel like we're you know, it feels like
29:33
Speaker 1: a different world that we've not entered into together. We
29:35
Speaker 1: feel like we've gone back into the real world for
29:37
Speaker 1: a bit. They're super excited to be there to celebrate
29:39
Speaker 1: you all and to actually get a breath of fresh
29:41
Speaker 1: air and air conditioning and air conditioning. And very quickly,
29:46
Speaker 1: and I don't know if how men you watch it
29:48
Speaker 1: last night on the show, very quickly realized that the
29:51
Speaker 1: show really did come to us. And this is the
29:53
Speaker 1: part that all of a sudden, Jessica and I both
29:54
Speaker 1: started to feel weird about, because there's arguing, there was
29:58
Speaker 1: mingling of relation and ships, there was new people coming
30:01
Speaker 1: in during you know, the cocktail hour, and Jessica very
30:04
Speaker 1: quickly looked at me and she goes, word, this is
30:06
Speaker 1: the show. Is like, this is like definitely about the
30:08
Speaker 1: show right now, right And I said it did, and
30:10
Speaker 1: we she started to get upset for you too, But
30:13
Speaker 1: I will say it turned quickly once we walked into
30:17
Speaker 1: the ceremony because at that moment it really was about YouTube.
30:20
Speaker 1: It was a beautiful wedding that I want you tube
30:23
Speaker 1: down kind of lead me through because we were nervous
30:26
Speaker 1: the cocktail hour, felt like it wasn't gonna be this,
30:28
Speaker 1: but then all of a sudden, it all changed. It
30:31
Speaker 1: was a drastic shift, and your wedding was a wedding
30:35
Speaker 1: to be remembered. Um was it everything you hoped it
30:37
Speaker 1: would be? And it's a tough question that to to
30:40
Speaker 1: answer because in a sense it is, but in a
30:44
Speaker 1: sense it isn't. Um. I gotta be honest because obviously
30:49
Speaker 1: we knew, Um, there could be some elements thrown into
30:52
Speaker 1: the mix of our wedding, and we knew that there
30:55
Speaker 1: were risks. Um did we know the whole cast was
30:57
Speaker 1: gonna come not untill about a dared too before the wedding. Um,
31:01
Speaker 1: we thought we were going to be possibly giving out
31:04
Speaker 1: a day card to one couple to come down. So
31:06
Speaker 1: it was definitely a surprise factor, and we knew that
31:09
Speaker 1: there could be some some situations taking place. Knowing that
31:12
Speaker 1: that amount of people with that level of drama going on,
31:15
Speaker 1: um could interfere, but there were a lot of positives.
31:19
Speaker 1: I mean, Crystal looked absolutely beautiful. Um. I almost fainted
31:23
Speaker 1: when she literally was walking down the aisle because I
31:25
Speaker 1: felt such such an array of emotions. And you know,
31:28
Speaker 1: it was a breakthrough for me to know that I
31:30
Speaker 1: was marrying my my life partner, my best friend, and
31:33
Speaker 1: uh my family right there, my mom front row just
31:36
Speaker 1: crying and being so happy for me. And these are
31:39
Speaker 1: emotions and these are memories that will stick with me forever.
31:42
Speaker 1: And UM, I'm extremely grateful and blessed absolutely um. And
31:46
Speaker 1: so for that, I am thankful. UM. And I think
31:51
Speaker 1: this was actually everything that I envisioned, and we did
31:53
Speaker 1: get what we wanted out of this and and I think, uh,
31:57
Speaker 1: I think for me personally, that five percent will dessipate
32:00
Speaker 1: soon enough. UM, you know, because it's just short term.
32:03
Speaker 1: It's not long term. Everything that's sticking with me is
32:05
Speaker 1: all the beautiful memories, not the not the little bit
32:07
Speaker 1: of drauma that that occurred. Yeah, I would say that, Um,
32:12
Speaker 1: we knew going in that it was going to be
32:13
Speaker 1: incorporated into an episode, not be a standalone episode, So
32:17
Speaker 1: it wasn't going to be just about our wedding, and
32:19
Speaker 1: we knew that there was going to be some cast
32:22
Speaker 1: that were that would be coming in, and ultimately we
32:24
Speaker 1: kind of looked each other and we said, well, we're
32:28
Speaker 1: always down for an adventure. Let's let's say then. And
32:31
Speaker 1: what was important, the most important thing and the most
32:33
Speaker 1: special thing for us, especially for me, was that we
32:36
Speaker 1: got to bring our our family and our close friends
32:39
Speaker 1: onto the show and have them see what it's like
32:43
Speaker 1: to actually be a part of this franchise because there's
32:45
Speaker 1: a little, as you know, it's a little bit of
32:46
Speaker 1: a disconnect. I'm sure there was like that with Jessica
32:49
Speaker 1: um As. We had talked about that she doesn't really
32:51
Speaker 1: know the world, so it's hard for her to comprehend
32:53
Speaker 1: and grasp like what goes on. So we were really
32:55
Speaker 1: excited for that element of it. And I would say
32:58
Speaker 1: everything was perfect up until we were in the reception,
33:02
Speaker 1: and it was at that point it did feel very
33:05
Speaker 1: much not about us produced. And there was an element
33:09
Speaker 1: where Chris and I were standing there and the room
33:12
Speaker 1: was totally empty and all the castles in their little
33:15
Speaker 1: corner for filming, and I all of a sudden looked
33:18
Speaker 1: around and like my microphone was off and no cameras
33:22
Speaker 1: were honest, and We're like staying there alone, and I
33:24
Speaker 1: was like, this isn't even about us. Let's go, let's
33:28
Speaker 1: get out of here. I mean, at the end of
33:30
Speaker 1: the day, we we left. We left the reception early.
33:33
Speaker 1: We did. We did. Yeah, and my my friends while
33:36
Speaker 1: my room has been actually ended up staying there toil
33:40
Speaker 1: production shut down. But I think Crystal made a great point.
33:43
Speaker 1: It's just in that moment um, as happy as we were,
33:48
Speaker 1: we did feel uh a little bit down knowing that
33:53
Speaker 1: the night wasn't over yet, and we just felt like
33:56
Speaker 1: the night ended sooner than maybe it should have. Yeah,
34:00
Speaker 1: the I want to back check because the reception is
34:02
Speaker 1: something that we just have to talk about. It was wild.
34:04
Speaker 1: I have so many thoughts on that. Your wedding, though,
34:07
Speaker 1: will be remembered. It was beautiful, it was a celebration. Um. Yes,
34:11
Speaker 1: I think watching it on television, there was moments that
34:13
Speaker 1: felt a little weird, like when Angela walks down the
34:15
Speaker 1: aisle and Clay is looking there like he's fearful, and well,
34:22
Speaker 1: you know, I remember we were sitting right across from him,
34:25
Speaker 1: and I had known the scenario and how it was
34:27
Speaker 1: going to present itself. And I was watching his face
34:29
Speaker 1: as she walked down, and I remember when I was
34:30
Speaker 1: in person, I tapped Jessica was like, that is wild,
34:34
Speaker 1: Like I know they captured that and watching it back
34:36
Speaker 1: is going to be rough. It wasn so many photos
34:39
Speaker 1: about like a screenshot of that. It was Oh my god.
34:46
Speaker 1: It was um. But your wedding was beautiful, Crystal. You
34:53
Speaker 1: looked absolutely gorgeous. I'm sure you've been told that a
34:57
Speaker 1: thousand times. I think you should be told that a
34:59
Speaker 1: thousand times, a thousand times more. Uh. Chris said it,
35:02
Speaker 1: he was fainted. You look so good you did. You
35:04
Speaker 1: looked absolutely beautiful. But I do have to ask, what
35:09
Speaker 1: in the world is this smudge pot cleansing? And why
35:13
Speaker 1: were they doing on your genitals? Well, so, um, if
35:20
Speaker 1: you watched Paradise when Chris and I were on and
35:23
Speaker 1: where we met, I mean, part of who I am
35:26
Speaker 1: is I love crystals and I love sage and a
35:29
Speaker 1: lot of that comes down to energy. And I smudge
35:33
Speaker 1: daily as part of my morning routine that I recommend
35:36
Speaker 1: like to do. And uh, what sage does. It removes
35:39
Speaker 1: negative energy and it just cleans the room and it
35:43
Speaker 1: allows you to just kind of wash away any any
35:46
Speaker 1: negativity of the past. It allows you to clean slate.
35:49
Speaker 1: And I felt that was really symbolic for christ and
35:50
Speaker 1: I because we wanted to let go of who we were,
35:54
Speaker 1: of the past, of that of that those hard times,
35:56
Speaker 1: never forget, but let go of about that trauma, any
36:02
Speaker 1: of that negativity that we had been prior to now
36:06
Speaker 1: moving forward as a married couple. So we really wanted
36:08
Speaker 1: to come into this marriage just clean, cleansed, and new. Yeah,
36:13
Speaker 1: I think it was very symbolic for us, UH, because
36:17
Speaker 1: we're very into UH in tune with one another and
36:21
Speaker 1: when it comes to our energies. This is one of
36:23
Speaker 1: the biggest breakthroughs we've had in our relationship is that, UM,
36:27
Speaker 1: we can feed off and understand each other's energy and
36:30
Speaker 1: and someone doesn't even have to say something. And being
36:32
Speaker 1: in tune like that allows you to communicate more effectively UM.
36:36
Speaker 1: And it allows us to not bottle up emotions UM.
36:39
Speaker 1: And it also helps us identify things within ourselves that
36:43
Speaker 1: UM we're able to work on rather than not being
36:46
Speaker 1: able to identify and to to to continue going down
36:49
Speaker 1: a path of UM not becoming better day in and
36:52
Speaker 1: day out. So UH this much ceremony. It was our choice,
36:55
Speaker 1: and we just wanted to kind of just show everyone that, um,
36:59
Speaker 1: don't you don't have to bring uh, negative emotions from
37:03
Speaker 1: the past into the future. And knowing that we can
37:06
Speaker 1: kind of shed some of that dead skin that we
37:08
Speaker 1: had from previous seasons. UM, this was a big moment
37:11
Speaker 1: for us to go into a new chapter, clean, refreshed
37:15
Speaker 1: and um fully confident of us being a couple and
37:19
Speaker 1: taking on the world together. And honestly, it was also
37:22
Speaker 1: like what I was talking about earlier, Ben, it was
37:23
Speaker 1: just showing people who we really are and not needing
37:26
Speaker 1: to try to put on this front and try to
37:28
Speaker 1: be someone we're not. We wanted to let people into fun,
37:33
Speaker 1: little quirky things like having crystals and burning stage and
37:37
Speaker 1: some people think it might be silly, but for us, UM,
37:40
Speaker 1: that's a part of our life, of our life really
37:43
Speaker 1: important one. Yeah, and we get to see that now
37:46
Speaker 1: why and eu genitals is that like a thing? Is
37:49
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not really sure. Okay, you know Todd.
37:53
Speaker 1: Todd is a really good friend of mine. I mean
37:55
Speaker 1: we've grown together closely over the last year, and uh,
37:58
Speaker 1: you know, he knew that he had this role he
38:02
Speaker 1: was very nervous. He tried to back out of it,
38:03
Speaker 1: but we wanted him to do it. And Tod is
38:05
Speaker 1: also one of the producers on the show, and he
38:08
Speaker 1: was actually both of our producers individually and then and
38:11
Speaker 1: then on Bachelor in Paradise, so he was a pivotal
38:14
Speaker 1: part of our relationship. So I mean the direction of
38:16
Speaker 1: how he was sieging the smoke and with the feather,
38:19
Speaker 1: you know, for him, I think he just wasn't even thinking.
38:22
Speaker 1: He was just trying to do it and get out
38:23
Speaker 1: of there. So I wouldn't say this. I actually earlier
38:27
Speaker 1: that day because he was so nervous, I was like, Todd,
38:30
Speaker 1: come over, let me like practice on how you how
38:33
Speaker 1: you like wiggle a brother disperse the smoke. So he
38:38
Speaker 1: came over. I gave a whole tutorial. He was like good.
38:41
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, this is a really serious roll.
38:43
Speaker 1: I don't want to be a joke. This is you know, Miname.
38:45
Speaker 1: Chris is like, this is this, you know, a ceremonial gesture,
38:49
Speaker 1: like and this is an honor for you, so please
38:50
Speaker 1: take it seriously. And then he walks out in flip
38:54
Speaker 1: flops and then tell me Vohammad a short hell. You know, Todd,
39:02
Speaker 1: he's just like like trying to be all like giddy
39:05
Speaker 1: and dorky and we love him so much. But you
39:08
Speaker 1: see me like, go to Chris, I got no laughing.
39:12
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be a joke. I wanted it.
39:14
Speaker 1: It was a very serious thing and it was our
39:16
Speaker 1: wedding ceremony. It wasn't it. It wasn't a joke. But
39:19
Speaker 1: turn out that way, I just gotta roll with the
39:21
Speaker 1: punch sometimes. Oh yeah, it was great, it was really great.
39:25
Speaker 1: I was just yeah, I'm glad you cleared it up
39:27
Speaker 1: for me because I I've never seen that before, and
39:29
Speaker 1: I thought, if anybody to be cleansing genitals, Todd is
39:32
Speaker 1: the one to do it. Well. Is there anything else
39:37
Speaker 1: that we saw we didn't see maybe in your wedding
39:40
Speaker 1: in the ceremony portion, because we're gonna get into the
39:43
Speaker 1: reception here in a second after we take a break.
39:45
Speaker 1: Is there anything else in the wedding portion that you
39:47
Speaker 1: want to mention to anybody out there listening. I mean,
39:50
Speaker 1: I think one of the biggest moments, I mean, Ben,
39:53
Speaker 1: you saw this was I wasn't wearing a mic um
39:56
Speaker 1: right before Crystal was about to walk down the uh
40:00
Speaker 1: you know audio came up to me and they're like,
40:02
Speaker 1: you know, sound check and I'm like I don't even
40:04
Speaker 1: have a mic on and they're like wow. They're like okay,
40:07
Speaker 1: we gotta hold on a board a board and they're
40:09
Speaker 1: like freaking out, and um, you know, it was just
40:11
Speaker 1: funny because then we have Crystal waiting and she had
40:14
Speaker 1: no idea what was going on. Then I was behind
40:16
Speaker 1: that curtain for seven minutes by myself, and no one
40:20
Speaker 1: was telling me what was going on. People just like
40:23
Speaker 1: would walk up and like smile and give me a
40:25
Speaker 1: thumbs up, and I'm like what, yeah, well, and I
40:30
Speaker 1: all of a sudden hear everyone in the crowd like
40:32
Speaker 1: laughing like louder louder louder, and I'm just like, I'm
40:35
Speaker 1: so confused. Like the music stopped, um and that moment
40:39
Speaker 1: I kind of started to freak out. And then ultimately
40:40
Speaker 1: I just had to close my eyes like draw it
40:44
Speaker 1: in and I did this like mini meditation, said like
40:46
Speaker 1: twelve prayers, and ultimately I was able to like pull
40:49
Speaker 1: into myself and have this incredible experience where I was
40:53
Speaker 1: able to get so present, so focused, so elevated, um
40:57
Speaker 1: energetically so that when I walked out, I just felt
41:00
Speaker 1: like I was beaming this aura of love and I
41:04
Speaker 1: felt just this ball of energy encompassing who I was
41:08
Speaker 1: in that moment. And um, there was a really special
41:11
Speaker 1: moment because I know, leading up to at the wedding,
41:14
Speaker 1: when we were talking about it, everyone was asking me like,
41:17
Speaker 1: who's gonna walk me down? And I brought up like,
41:19
Speaker 1: I don't really know, Like I think I'm gonna go
41:21
Speaker 1: by myself, and people were like, no, you shouldn't do that,
41:25
Speaker 1: or why would you do that? And it was this
41:27
Speaker 1: element where I already feel shame about it, but my
41:30
Speaker 1: dad isn't really a figure in my life, neither is Chris's,
41:33
Speaker 1: and that's actually what brought us together. And so for
41:36
Speaker 1: me to make that take that step to um, you know,
41:42
Speaker 1: make that walk alone, I realized that it was an
41:44
Speaker 1: honor because I am self made and I was raised
41:47
Speaker 1: by a single mom, but she was really not at
41:50
Speaker 1: all in my life, and um, it was it was
41:54
Speaker 1: a real honor for me to do that, um, and
41:56
Speaker 1: I was really proud of myself. So it was a
41:58
Speaker 1: really special moment. I think that's a point that maybe
42:02
Speaker 1: I don't even realize, was you did walk yourself down
42:04
Speaker 1: the aisle and that's a power that is a very special,
42:07
Speaker 1: powerful moment. And you walked yourself up to Chris and
42:11
Speaker 1: had an amazing, amazing celebration that Chris Harrison officiated. You
42:16
Speaker 1: wrote your own vows for each other that were beautiful,
42:19
Speaker 1: they were funny, they were unique, they were personal. And now,
42:23
Speaker 1: Chris and Crystal um based on your story of what
42:28
Speaker 1: brought you here. One of the most beautiful things about
42:31
Speaker 1: you two is the story that you tell about the
42:33
Speaker 1: life that you've lived up to this point. The story
42:35
Speaker 1: that's brought you here is now on to celebrate your
42:38
Speaker 1: husband and wife. And we're so excited to be celebrating
42:43
Speaker 1: you now on this franchise. Um. You are a success
42:47
Speaker 1: story and one that will be talked about for years
42:49
Speaker 1: to come. Let's take a break, and I want to
42:51
Speaker 1: talk about the drama though that ensued at your reception
42:54
Speaker 1: that caused you both to leave a little early. Let's say, great,
42:59
Speaker 1: you got it. For as beautiful as the wedding ceremony was,
43:11
Speaker 1: I would say the reception was, uh, well, what would
43:14
Speaker 1: you rate the reception on the skill of one to ten? Uh?
43:18
Speaker 1: You know, I would say that the first half it
43:22
Speaker 1: was about eight and a half, and then I would
43:25
Speaker 1: say the second half was probably the one. I would say,
43:30
Speaker 1: I say, I'm only given up point because we actually
43:32
Speaker 1: left at that point. So but yeah, I mean that
43:36
Speaker 1: that that's kind of how I would feel about it.
43:38
Speaker 1: I mean, here's what it went down. A beautiful start,
43:41
Speaker 1: great food, a really fun dance, some great talk speeches.
43:45
Speaker 1: Everything seemed to be going like a normal reception does.
43:47
Speaker 1: It was great, your family was there, and then all
43:50
Speaker 1: of a sudden it did. There was a drastic shift
43:52
Speaker 1: where it felt like, all of a sudden, the reception
43:55
Speaker 1: was no longer the focus. You had Hannah or Hailey
43:58
Speaker 1: and Analese and Ashley talking about Angela and how bright
44:01
Speaker 1: and glowy she was walking out lout she was. It
44:04
Speaker 1: made sense Tatian Analie are talking about Derek and JPJ.
44:07
Speaker 1: Katie and JPJ are talking people, are you know, kind
44:10
Speaker 1: of ragging on our our buddy Blake a little bit more.
44:15
Speaker 1: All this stuff starts to get heated about midway throughout,
44:19
Speaker 1: say an hour and a half into your reception, and
44:21
Speaker 1: at that point I felt like there was no getting
44:23
Speaker 1: it back. We actually Jessica and I left. Um I
44:25
Speaker 1: bet we were literally on elevators, the two of you
44:28
Speaker 1: and Jessica and I like side by side at the
44:30
Speaker 1: same time, because it did feel like something was missing.
44:36
Speaker 1: Was that I mean in the groom was gone, I
44:44
Speaker 1: think for me and and if anybody's out there, they're like, Okay,
44:48
Speaker 1: you give up some of the stuff with the TV wedding.
44:50
Speaker 1: You understand that it sometimes you're gonna have a mic
44:52
Speaker 1: issue and it's gonna have to pause and you're gonna
44:54
Speaker 1: have to reset and do this, Like that's something you're
44:56
Speaker 1: giving up to have a wedding in Mexico with your
45:00
Speaker 1: family there so they can see all this go down
45:01
Speaker 1: like that just happens, right, but there is And then
45:05
Speaker 1: the reception, right, receptions are usually wild, their drama filled
45:08
Speaker 1: most of the time in real life or on TV.
45:11
Speaker 1: There's hook ups going on, there's crap tears like it's
45:13
Speaker 1: that people are drinking, dancing, laughing, whatever. So I'm guess
45:18
Speaker 1: I'm leaving your reception going. It just felt like a
45:21
Speaker 1: little bit less than what I would experience in the
45:24
Speaker 1: real world. Like it well, and I want to hear
45:25
Speaker 1: if you agree, like you obviously left early, But it
45:30
Speaker 1: did feel like all of a sudden you were gone.
45:33
Speaker 1: We were gone, and I'm and we look back in
45:36
Speaker 1: the room that everybody was like supposed to be in,
45:38
Speaker 1: and it did it feel like everybody was in a
45:39
Speaker 1: corner arguing, laughing, arguing or crying. Yeah, I will say
45:44
Speaker 1: one thing that really stood out to me was that,
45:47
Speaker 1: and then they didn't really show this too much, but
45:49
Speaker 1: that they had invited multiple multiple um casts that were
45:53
Speaker 1: not current cast or bridal party who were singles and
45:58
Speaker 1: trying to get a chance to go down to Paradise. Yeah,
46:02
Speaker 1: and so a lot of them came not for the
46:05
Speaker 1: wedding per se, but to try to make a connection
46:08
Speaker 1: to pursue someone to come back to Paradise. We're back
46:11
Speaker 1: on to Paradise and Elise and Bibiana, I know we're there.
46:14
Speaker 1: They had been kicked off Paradise. We're back at the
46:16
Speaker 1: wedding looking to go back. Who were some of those
46:18
Speaker 1: people that from past season that were down there kind
46:20
Speaker 1: of looking to get onto Paradise. There was Um Brooks,
46:25
Speaker 1: Jase McNary, Daniel Lombard, Uh, that girl Whitney Um, I
46:31
Speaker 1: mean an Elie Um, Yeah, I mean there was there
46:36
Speaker 1: was quite a bit. I'm trying to think of other ones,
46:39
Speaker 1: but I mean those people were there too, and so
46:42
Speaker 1: you had I mean, to be honest with you, it
46:44
Speaker 1: kind of felt like a roast ceremony event. It seemed
46:48
Speaker 1: like there was it seemed like there was panic. They
46:50
Speaker 1: seemed like there was a lot of sadness. People were
46:52
Speaker 1: scrambling because they thought that this was their chance to
46:54
Speaker 1: go down to the island. Um. I remember people coming
46:57
Speaker 1: up and asking like what should I do to try
46:59
Speaker 1: to get on the show, And I'm thinking like, man,
47:01
Speaker 1: this is my wedding, Like I can't be talking strategy
47:04
Speaker 1: right now, this, this is not where my focus is.
47:06
Speaker 1: That I felt deflated at that point. So it really did,
47:09
Speaker 1: uh you know, in a weird way. It felt like
47:11
Speaker 1: a roast ceremony. So people were actually asking you to
47:14
Speaker 1: advice on how to get onto the show at your wedding. Yeah,
47:18
Speaker 1: that's wild. Who I should who I should meet, who
47:21
Speaker 1: I should hook up with? And I'm like, I don't.
47:22
Speaker 1: I don't really know all the couples or the all
47:25
Speaker 1: the all the situations that are going on right now,
47:27
Speaker 1: and you know, it just it just for me. I
47:30
Speaker 1: just I didn't anticipate that. I guess, m hmm. It
47:35
Speaker 1: were you Okay, I mean, obviously the wedding was important
47:39
Speaker 1: to you, like the ceremony, Were you willing to give
47:41
Speaker 1: up the reception? But I mean, so here's here's where
47:44
Speaker 1: this is coming from. I was in a car the
47:46
Speaker 1: next morning heading to the airport with a bunch of
47:48
Speaker 1: your family members and they were so thrilled with how
47:52
Speaker 1: the whole thing went. So obviously the reception wasn't that
47:56
Speaker 1: important to your family, like they really want to see
47:58
Speaker 1: a beautiful wedding. So were you two going into it
48:01
Speaker 1: willing to give up the reception kind of for the
48:03
Speaker 1: sake of the show or was that something that you
48:06
Speaker 1: really wanted. Honestly, we thought, I mean we spent I
48:10
Speaker 1: mean a whole freaking playlist on Spotify of songs we
48:12
Speaker 1: were going to play that not one was playing because
48:15
Speaker 1: they couldn't play it because they were filming a show.
48:18
Speaker 1: And so, I mean we thought it was gonna be
48:19
Speaker 1: an actual party and it and it was in that
48:23
Speaker 1: later half that was supposed to have been the DJ
48:25
Speaker 1: and the floor dancing and you know, getting down, we
48:29
Speaker 1: didn't have that element of it. So for me, I
48:31
Speaker 1: think that's what we were most excited about. And we
48:32
Speaker 1: were led to believe that that would be absolutely apart
48:37
Speaker 1: of the ceremony or the reception, and it wasn't. But ultimately,
48:40
Speaker 1: like we knew there was gonna be some kid, We
48:42
Speaker 1: knew what there was gonna be some take And is
48:44
Speaker 1: it worth the ceremony to not have the reception? Absolutely? Yeah.
48:48
Speaker 1: The the ceremony was so beautiful, so gorgeous, everything we wanted.
48:52
Speaker 1: And something you didn't see was the night before we
48:55
Speaker 1: had our rehearsal dinner, which was just an incredible experience.
48:58
Speaker 1: So ultimately our friends and failing us had a full
49:02
Speaker 1: vacation that was I mean, it was awesome. It was
49:04
Speaker 1: five star. So yeah, we didn't get that that second
49:07
Speaker 1: half of the reception, and it was it was worth it.
49:11
Speaker 1: I would say, I'm kind of thankful for the reception
49:13
Speaker 1: because it allowed my friends and family, um to see
49:18
Speaker 1: the element, uh that no one really sees, and that's
49:21
Speaker 1: the show actually in full force taking place. And I
49:24
Speaker 1: don't know if if Jessica can attest to this, but um,
49:28
Speaker 1: it probably allows her to understand you more now when
49:31
Speaker 1: you do talk about the show, and she can now
49:34
Speaker 1: uh kind of be someone that you can confide in
49:37
Speaker 1: when you do want to talk about the show because
49:39
Speaker 1: she probably can be more understanding now, just as my
49:42
Speaker 1: family and friends now, uh have allowed me to kind
49:45
Speaker 1: of be more open about the show and have asked
49:47
Speaker 1: me questions because now they understand and now they're not
49:50
Speaker 1: judgmental or they're not confused, which has really kind of
49:53
Speaker 1: helped my relationships with my boys as well, because they've
49:56
Speaker 1: always tried but they couldn't really pinpoint or under stand,
50:00
Speaker 1: and the same thing with my family. So in a
50:02
Speaker 1: weird way, I am kind of thankful for for all
50:05
Speaker 1: those things that took place at the reception because they
50:07
Speaker 1: got to see it. Yeah, there's two things that Jessica
50:09
Speaker 1: said to me after the wedding one, um, maybe three.
50:13
Speaker 1: There's a lot of things. Actually, she said, uh, crystal beautiful,
50:16
Speaker 1: what a great ceremony, those things, and then she was like,
50:19
Speaker 1: I'm less intimidated. Was one thing. She said, Um, by
50:22
Speaker 1: this world now, which is such a beautiful thing to hear.
50:24
Speaker 1: She's like, for for so long, I've I've kind of
50:26
Speaker 1: put the show up on a pedestal since I've met you,
50:28
Speaker 1: and I've been intimidated by any person that's been on
50:30
Speaker 1: the show. And I'm less intimidated now because I realized
50:33
Speaker 1: everybody's like normal or just a little less than normal people. UM.
50:38
Speaker 1: And then second is UM that she can relate with
50:43
Speaker 1: me better, that she can understand more when I talk
50:45
Speaker 1: about things. She knows me better because of that reception,
50:48
Speaker 1: and because of the wildness that took place. UM, a
50:51
Speaker 1: few less questions. I know we've got to get you
50:53
Speaker 1: out of studio. UM, I really want to talk about
50:56
Speaker 1: real quick, the Clay scenario with Angela. Angela was in
50:58
Speaker 1: the wedding, she's a good friend of yours. At all,
51:01
Speaker 1: did you feel bad about kind of setting I don't
51:04
Speaker 1: I don't even say sitting clayics. I don't think you
51:05
Speaker 1: set Clay up. You didn't even know he was really
51:07
Speaker 1: gonna be there. Um, but what at all? Was there
51:11
Speaker 1: a point in this that you felt bad for Clay
51:14
Speaker 1: or was this kind of something that should just happen?
51:16
Speaker 1: I mean, then we see Angela show up to the beach,
51:17
Speaker 1: so obviously this was a scenario that was going to
51:20
Speaker 1: happen somehow, some way. What were your thoughts, maybe he's
51:24
Speaker 1: the best way to phrase this. On the Clay Angela
51:27
Speaker 1: Nicole scenario during this time in Paradise. I mean, so
51:33
Speaker 1: Clay is actually one of my really good friends. I'm
51:34
Speaker 1: the one who got Clay and Angela together. Um, they're
51:37
Speaker 1: both my good friends. And to believe it or not,
51:40
Speaker 1: I was gonna have Clay view in my wedding and
51:42
Speaker 1: that that kind of changed last minute because I didn't
51:45
Speaker 1: want to have that situation and kind of you know,
51:47
Speaker 1: take away from Crystal on her day. But the whole
51:50
Speaker 1: dynamic is this is that you know the reason why
51:53
Speaker 1: Clain Angela broke up is because Clay was in a
51:56
Speaker 1: really tough spot, um with O t a s coming
51:59
Speaker 1: up with the NFL and trying to get a tryout
52:01
Speaker 1: and so what took places. They really had some deep
52:03
Speaker 1: conversations and they were planning for the future. But Clay
52:07
Speaker 1: takes care of his entire family, I mean down to
52:09
Speaker 1: his grandma, down to his brother's financially and um, this
52:13
Speaker 1: can be a burden on someone, especially when they have
52:15
Speaker 1: the weight of all of that. And I think those
52:17
Speaker 1: deep talks that they were having in the time that
52:19
Speaker 1: they broke up, UM allowed him to open his eyes
52:22
Speaker 1: and realize that right now, I need to figure out
52:25
Speaker 1: myself first with what I can do moving forward from
52:28
Speaker 1: my career in order to have these talks that I'm
52:31
Speaker 1: having with Angela actually come to fruition. So in a way,
52:35
Speaker 1: he didn't want to let Angela down, I think, and
52:37
Speaker 1: and I understand from Angela's point of view two because
52:40
Speaker 1: it is weird and it is shocking. However, though from that,
52:43
Speaker 1: I would say that you know, Clay did the only
52:46
Speaker 1: thing that he can do in that point in time,
52:47
Speaker 1: and that was to let go, even though it hurts
52:49
Speaker 1: both of them. And I think after a couple of
52:51
Speaker 1: months went by, um, the whole career thing was now
52:55
Speaker 1: taking a dramatic shift because I think at this point,
52:58
Speaker 1: you know, the NFL has done for him, which is tough,
53:00
Speaker 1: and I think for any man, especially who has put
53:02
Speaker 1: so much work into to have that kind of slip
53:05
Speaker 1: out of your hands, it's definitely definitely a shock and
53:08
Speaker 1: it and it definitely affects who you are as a
53:10
Speaker 1: man because then you have to figure out what's next.
53:13
Speaker 1: And I think Bachelor Paradise was a way to get
53:15
Speaker 1: away from this and and really be open to the
53:18
Speaker 1: fact that knowing that he knows that it's over now,
53:21
Speaker 1: maybe love can now be something that he can work
53:25
Speaker 1: on and focus on because he can now kind of
53:28
Speaker 1: um have it come back into his life. And and
53:32
Speaker 1: what I think is the whole in the cold situation
53:35
Speaker 1: is they get along great. I actually love them. I
53:37
Speaker 1: think they were I think they were beautiful. And I
53:39
Speaker 1: think that everything that we saw with Clan Angela is
53:41
Speaker 1: exactly what we would have expected, um from the reception
53:45
Speaker 1: or from the ceremony to the reception. And to be
53:48
Speaker 1: honest with you, uh, I don't have any ill will
53:51
Speaker 1: towards anything that took place with them, because I think
53:53
Speaker 1: that this was important for them to have that talk.
53:55
Speaker 1: I think that this was important for them to see
53:57
Speaker 1: each other face to face because at the end of
53:59
Speaker 1: the day, we're really going to now and see the
54:01
Speaker 1: true answer if this is a couple that um is
54:04
Speaker 1: someone that should be together, or if they should be
54:06
Speaker 1: a part. Yeah, it's going to be a storyline we
54:08
Speaker 1: want to follow in Paradise for sure. Yeah. Absolutely. And
54:11
Speaker 1: I know I definitely was nervous and I spoke with
54:13
Speaker 1: Angela prior to the wedding and I was like, I
54:15
Speaker 1: know Clay's going to be there. We hear he's dating someone.
54:18
Speaker 1: I really don't want this drama to take away from
54:20
Speaker 1: the wedding. And she had really reassured me that she
54:23
Speaker 1: was in a good place and you know, it would
54:26
Speaker 1: it would be good. So we were so we knew
54:29
Speaker 1: that we knew that going in, and we knew that
54:31
Speaker 1: there was going to be an opportunity for them to
54:33
Speaker 1: actually come together and talk since they had broken up,
54:36
Speaker 1: and I think that that Angela was really needing some
54:39
Speaker 1: closure on this relationship, so we wanted them to sit
54:43
Speaker 1: down and have a conversation. So we were really supportive
54:46
Speaker 1: of it. And we love Angela very deeply and we
54:48
Speaker 1: love Clay and we both want them both to be
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Speaker 1: happy and to take the opportunity for them to explore
54:53
Speaker 1: what they want. And I think that for Clay, what
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Speaker 1: is going to be really interesting that we're going to
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Speaker 1: see play out this season is I mean, he broke
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Speaker 1: up with Angela because he needs time to find out
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Speaker 1: who he is. What's his identity post football, which consumed
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Speaker 1: who he was and now he no longer has that,
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Speaker 1: So who is he now? And he needs to take
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Speaker 1: that time to to find himself and to create this
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Speaker 1: new life. And is he ready for a relationship or
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Speaker 1: does he still need to take take some time. That's
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Speaker 1: a good theme for the rest of Paradise. Is Clay
55:25
Speaker 1: ready for relationship or does he need takes some time? Uh?
55:29
Speaker 1: Chris and Crystal, thank you for sharing about your wedding
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Speaker 1: on this podcast. UM. What a wild season of Bachelor
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Speaker 1: in Paradise. We hope we can celebrate couples from this
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Speaker 1: season like we're able to celebrate YouTube you are, You're.
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Speaker 1: The words of wisdom that both of you shared are
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Speaker 1: things that UM, I'll take with me, UM that I'll
55:51
Speaker 1: point other people too. I bet on this podcast for
55:53
Speaker 1: years to come. When they are villains and they feel
55:56
Speaker 1: like they've gotten a bad edit or whatever, I'll just say,
55:58
Speaker 1: you need to talk to Chris and Crystal because, UM,
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Speaker 1: redemption does exist, but it has to exist within yourself first.
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Speaker 1: And I think those are words that I'm going to
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Speaker 1: take from listening to both of you. I'm so pumped
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Speaker 1: that I got to celebrate. Thank you for inviting Jessica
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Speaker 1: and I to the wedding. Thank you for allowing us
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Speaker 1: to be down there and on the prom Thank you,
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Speaker 1: um being at the Vedanta. Is there anything in your
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Speaker 1: lives right now that you'd like to share with our
56:18
Speaker 1: listeners before we go? Yeah, I want to say the
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Speaker 1: work that Chris and I did have been doing on
56:24
Speaker 1: ourselves has really evolved so much are who we are
56:27
Speaker 1: as people as well as our relationship and then just
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Speaker 1: elevated us into such as beautiful transformation. And so I've
56:33
Speaker 1: decided to now incorporate life coaching into my fitness coaching
56:39
Speaker 1: to be working with women on empowering their mind, honoring
56:43
Speaker 1: their bodies, and transforming their lives. So that's going to
56:46
Speaker 1: be coming up really uh soon, and I cannot wait
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Speaker 1: to start just being um just speaking to women in
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Speaker 1: their heart because I think a lot of us just
56:55
Speaker 1: feel unworthy and unhappy and we're really desperately seeking happiness.
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Speaker 1: But ultimately it's within ourselves and we all have the tools.
57:03
Speaker 1: Sometimes we just need a coach to point us in
57:06
Speaker 1: the right direction to bring that out within ourselves. So
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Speaker 1: coach Crystal dot com coming soon. Good for you guys. Hey, Uh,
57:14
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing your wedding with us on TV.
57:16
Speaker 1: Fans and listeners of this podcast have already started to
57:21
Speaker 1: write in and just say how awesome it is to
57:22
Speaker 1: see weddings on this show and celebrate the two of you. Uh, Chris,
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Speaker 1: you are the best doggie daddy I know. In Crystal
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Speaker 1: Um is that what you called him a doggy daddy
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Speaker 1: dog daddy, boys, I call him daddy. So yeah, we've
57:41
Speaker 1: talked about that in this podcast. That's all heir about it.
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Speaker 1: Hey follow my league guys, thanks again for co hosting
57:47
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57:50
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