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Autism And Change In Situations (TOO MUCH) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Okay. Oh my gosh where do I start the
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  house? There's something else that you
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  know, this get into. It's going to it.
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  Guys, what's going on? Welcome Back to the ask me
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  world. Boom, guys, what is going on?
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  Good to have you here. This video is a little bit
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  different than the other videos. This is more like a vlog video,
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  but I'm sitting down talking to you in the studio because I'm
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  here, I'm set up and I'm going to talk to you about it anyway.
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  Oh my goodness, guys. Where do I start?
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  So, okay, three major things happened with the house thing
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  that really ticked me off. This is why a video of log on
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  the house. Move hasn't happened for the
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  past three weeks. Okay, first For run and we're
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  going to go to the fun fair. Okay, morning everybody.
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  This is a fun fur and it is on the doorstep of our town, which
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  would basically be tricky, getting like a game little bit.
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  So I'm out with my son alone, so this is kind of cool and
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  basically we're going to come back when it's open.
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  We're gonna have a fun time just playing about Out.
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  So we good but one thing while fun post.
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  What what, what is it? Oh, nothing Merry-Go-Round
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  something about Fairgrounds is that the so noisy?
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  Special one is an arcade there that it's socially, just
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  triggering, you know. So let's see how long he lasts
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  but if I come when it's kind of open its open till like, 6:00
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  p.m. in the evening. So if I come on it, first start
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  opening, hopefully should be okay.
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  So fingers crossed. Okay, so we're in Kind of over
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  the program as you can see behind me, my son is on some
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  rides. He's going on this thing which
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  is really, really cool. And there's so many cool right
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  here. I'm actually really impressed
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  about get it is but There's little tiny kids on, it's like a
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  now with him gone it and I'm a full grown adult, but the only
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  thing is it's very noisy here. So I don't know how long I can
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  last. Okay, so we're back in the room.
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  Now, these three things were super, super important because
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  they each impacted me and my mental health.
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  And the way I was dealing with the situation in different ways.
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  Now, the first thing I'll talk about is that I had an email
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  from our housing agent, the people who were is basically
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  corresponding between the builders and Is and, you know,
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  all the lawyers and stuff like that and basically what happened
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  is a completion date for the house, was the 22nd of October
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  which would have been something like, I don't know. 10 weeks
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  from the day they phone me, then they phoned me.
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  All they sent me an email saying that they changed it.
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  They pushed it back to the 17th of December.
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  Now look, we understand the situation we're in a super
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  blessed and we're super grateful that we have the ability to a
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  buy a house, it will be in a position to buy houses.
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  Great. And then Be having the option of
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  just saying, okay, well, we are getting a house.
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  You know what? We're eventually going to move
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  in. It's not with the house of
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  disappeared. All the opportunities going to
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  wait. I get all those things.
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  But what I think triggered me was that I was, I was thinking
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  about the 22nd of October and that's what I was aiming for.
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  And now everything's changed and changing routine.
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  With autism are changing too much change in spontaneous.
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  Change is very difficult to deal with.
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  As soon as this happened, I had like instantly like just low
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  mood. I had to like lay it down here
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  to do loads of stuff and it was really difficult.
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  For me to it's really function in that environment.
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  Now, in terms of why they did this, they said that there was
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  no basis. There was no bricklayers
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  available. It's actually the people who
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  create and build the actual house which is really annoying,
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  but we went on site today to actually see what was going on.
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  As you can see from these videos I so the bricklayers were
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  actually there, you know, building the house and stuff
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  like that and then you know, I was, you know, in a hat stuff,
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  I'm going to sites have a look at it.
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  Now the reason we were there today to have a look at it, even
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  though they've been put it back to December 17th, which I'll get
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  into all the ins and outs, where it's difficult in a minute is
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  because they told us as well. A second issue that happened is
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  that they said, hey, We're changing the color of the walls.
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  I know you signed one document to say the color walls are going
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  to be white, but we're changing it to almond.
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  White diamond white from White, may not be a massive difference
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  for a lot of people but it is for us, as you can see.
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  In this video, I'll be showing you the room, you can see the
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  difference between the ceiling and the walls.
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  This is white, this is all in white, but cool.
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  So, this is the yeah, back to you, in the studio done, big
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  difference end. So we bought all the furniture
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  and set ourselves thinking that we're gonna have these white
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  walls. And in fact, we've got these,
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  like, almond white walls are just weird.
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  Anyway, big thing, big stress again, knock me out, crazy on my
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  feet. So, we went down there to look
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  at the color, just to make sure it.
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  Sorry, guys, you have got this way, like you get so stressed
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  that your watch irritate you I have to take my watch off.
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  There we go. And, you know, we went down
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  there to check out the coloring because we weren't sure if we
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  liked and on then. It brings up other problems.
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  Like, at what do we do? Do we leave the plasterboard and
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  old, we get sweets, come in and paint.
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  It, we can't paint it for six months, at least all of the
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  plaster, dries all big thing, right?
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  So anyway, we went down there, we checked it out and we realize
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  that we're just going to keep that color that they put on it.
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  You know, it's less expensive to, you know, hire somebody
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  else. Again, it's all whole thing, so
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  that was the two issues with the house.
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  Now, the third issue is that we had a sulfur coming and the sofa
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  was supposed to be delivered last Friday, but On the day, I
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  get an email saying hey we forgot to load the software onto
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  the van. We're not delivering yourself or
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  your new sofa until next week and so it was like, as I had to
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  wait, you know, four days and then wait for the stuff we've
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  delivered people getting delivered to a storage
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  container, not our house because we don't have the house yet.
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  And this house is too small to get anything else delivered
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  because we have like, so much stuff in this office.
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  Unbelievable. And basically, it was just a big
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  ol stress. So, what happened here was in a
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  space of Week, I had two three, sorry, three changes in my
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  perceived reality of what was going to happen, and this
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  spontaneous change just knocked me for six.
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  It made me sick. It made me worry.
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  It made me knock out. I couldn't do anything.
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  I had to sleep. I had to like literally
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  disconnect from. Everything can do social, media
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  couldn't do my work and do anything and it really, just, it
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  just took me apart and that frustrated me.
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  So I took some time off going to the phone wake, my kid as you
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  saw. And then, you know, we went to
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  the fair ground and then We just did some stuff, you know, I
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  watch some TV, I watch couple of documentaries and it really kind
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  of got me back on track. And I'm so thankful that I was
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  able to do the things that, like, you know, my obsessive
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  interest of like, looking at conspiracy theories and stuff
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  like that, I was able to look at those and it kind of grounded me
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  and brought me back to it. And this is why I'm hitting this
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  video right now because without that, I don't know what I would
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  have done, you know, just so it's difficult to kind of
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  comprehend that. So, rest assured, the house is
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  gone ahead as planned, obviously, for the 17th of
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  December, at know, the, the issues that this brings up is
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  that are not when you move into a new house, then.
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  Is no curtains or anything up on a blind.
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  So, we have to get blind fitted. Now, to get blind fitted, it
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  takes you there to come and measure the blinds.
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  And they have to take two weeks to make can cut them, and they
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  come in and install them takes about a day to install them.
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  If we're moving in the 17th of December, that's like five days
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  before Christmas, nobody's working then.
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  So we literally have to find some way around this blinds
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  issue until the new year. It's just a whole thing, right?
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  It's a big whole thing and not to mention our blinds it.
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  I like motorized. So they got like their Luxor
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  controlled and they have, you know, Motors in them and stuff
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  like that, and batteries and stuff.
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  And then like it's just a whole thing, right?
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  You know. And, and so it's just, you know,
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  I'm renting a vehicle to move all the stuff I have to rent a
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  van and a pakal's definite van. And it's like so close to
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  Christmas. Then we have to like decorate
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  this house for Christmas and pack down these decorations.
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  Move them to new house set up. Again, do we have a Christmas
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  tree there? We have a Christmas tree here.
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  I don't know. How's this going to work?
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  I have no idea. It's already stressful.
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  Oh my gosh. I just another thing that makes
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  it worse. That's the main Pinnacle is that
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  we have a three year old. So my son is 3.
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  Just turned three. and it's like, you know, I have to, you
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  know, he is the main concern over Christmas time because it's
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  like a time for children, Stressful, but that being said,
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  staying positive. I think we can do it.
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  If you have any suggestions, please let me know in the
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  comments down below and and yeah, just us all honest
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  discussion, guys. I'll see you in the next Vlog.
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  Take it easy. Talk to you a bit.
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  Thanks for listening to this podcast episode.
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