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Life Hack: Gain Clarity in 3 Steps and Empower Your Life Purpose · Create The Best Me

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Carmen Hecox: Welcome to Create the Best Me.
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Carmen Hecox: I am Carmen Hecox, a personal development coach, and I am so excited to be connecting with you today.
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Carmen Hecox: Whether you're listening to the podcast or joining us on YouTube, my goal is to help women navigate through midlife challenges with compassion, inspiration, and empowering conversations.
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Carmen Hecox: Each week we'll dive into thought-provoking topics, designed to build self-confidence, overcome invisible women's syndrome, and find the courage to create the best version of yourself.
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Carmen Hecox: I'll also be joined by expert guest who will share the wisdom and insights, so make yourself comfortable and let's embark on this journey together.
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Carmen Hecox: Are you ready to finally break free from the monotony of going through the motions in life?
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Carmen Hecox: Tired of feeling lost and questioning your purpose.
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Carmen Hecox: It's time to take control and discover the power of clarity.
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Carmen Hecox: Our guest today, Janet Zavala, is a bestselling author and coach who has dedicated her career to helping people just like you find their purpose and live their best lives.
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Carmen Hecox: She is here to share her expert insights and proven three step process to gain clarity, empower your purpose, and take your life to the next level.
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Carmen Hecox: You'll learn how clarity and purpose are interchangeably linked and how you can't have one without the other.
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Carmen Hecox: Janet will also give you actionable tips and strategies to put into practice so that you can start seeing results right away.
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Carmen Hecox: This is an episode you don't want to miss, so grab your notebook.
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Carmen Hecox: Let's get ready to take some notes and let's dive in on how to gain clarity you need to live your most fulfilling life.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Hello, welcome.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Hi Janet.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Thanks for joining me at Create the Best Me Podcast and YouTube channel.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: How are you?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I am doing great, Carmen.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Thanks for having me.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I'm so excited for our conversation today.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Hey, I know that some of the listeners may not know who you are.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, with that said, tell us a little bit about yourself and your business.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Sure.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I'm a transformational life coach and a writer, so I really work with clients to inspire them and help them.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Create the best life for themselves by getting clear about what they want to achieve and holding them accountable for taking actions.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, it's really, you know, getting clear on what they want and working towards making those dreams and those visions for their life come true.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, in the way I think about transformation, transformation isn't about changing who you are, it's returning to the core of who you are before life's experiences created fear and doubt within you.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, it's really returning to your true nature, and believing that you are capable and able of creating that life that you want to live.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I understand that you have published one book and are working on releasing another book in the early spring of 2023.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Can you tell us what inspired you to write both books, the book that you co-authored and the book that's coming out.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Sure.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So it is,"Own Your Awesome".
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's a collaboration book.
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Janet Zavala Audio: There are 27 writers included.
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Janet Zavala Audio: My chapter is called"Honor the Landscape of Your Life", and I really kind of open up to my own vulnerability and my experiences, the trauma that experienced, um, when I was young and the challenges that I faced as an adult and really taking those experiences and owning them and honoring them so you can, so I can take those experiences and those attributes that I gained.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I, I, I developed strengths from those traumatic experiences.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, with that, I've been able to apply those strengths to what I do now in coaching and writing and helping other people navigate their own healing so that that is"Own Your Awesome".
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Great.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: What about the new book coming?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Well, before we go into the new book, I did a little bit of researching about you and I just like to read two, reviews that some people have shared, this is written by Sylvia and it was on Amazon and it says, what I loved about Janet's chapter was her brutal honesty in sharing her tough childhood and early adulthood.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Her life wasn't perfect, who's is?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: But she recognized it was time for action and move forward, and she is awesome and deserves more out of life.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I really loved her message about being compassionate to ourselves as we explore the lessons we've experienced in our lives and it works to our own strengths, there are some questions that at the end of the chapter will help you get started, which I appreciate.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Another reader, Gina said, this book is the ultimate guide for personal development.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: "Honor The Landscape of Your Life" written by Janet Zavala is without a doubt one of the stories that will not only inspire you to begin your own journey of healing, nagging wounds from the past that tend to interfere with the presence.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: But she also shows how our negative experience also the source of our strength.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I love how this author uses nature as a metaphor through her personal stories that reflects the landscape of our lives, which provides us the skills needed to transcend adversity.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: This chapter made me realize my struggles throughout my life have not been in vain, and I can achieve whatever I set out to do because my wounds have made me stronger and wiser.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: That realization in itself is so comforting.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Five stars.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: That's impressive.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Wow.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Wow.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And, and that is exactly what I wanted to achieve, that people realize that these things happen to us, but they do not define us.
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Janet Zavala Audio: They do not limit us and who we can become.
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Janet Zavala Audio: They give us the, these strengths that we can use.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You've earned them, use them.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, what was written in the chapter in this first book, are we going to expect more of that in the upcoming book?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yes.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yes, so the book that I plan to publish it's called"The Nature of Transformation".
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's a comprehensive life coaching system inspired by nature to heal your mind, body, and spirit.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So I take a lot of inspiration from nature, but I also weave in together my own stories and help people navigate through their own healing journey, and I use it or provide the reader with a comprehensive look at their lives, mind, body, and spirit, so they can, understand that each area needs to be balanced and cared for in order to kind of live that fulfilling, joyful life that we all desire.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, this book takes a little bit about your own life experience and you are a life coach.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Is that correct?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And so, it integrates all that into a guide workbook type of reading experience?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yes, yes.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, the book is comprised of stories or research or different narrative that kind of grounds the person and the topic.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I provide guided meditations with essential oil recommendations and breath work, inspiring nature stories of nature's transformation that aligns to the need for our own transformation.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And then critical towards the end of each section is time with the coach.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, this is where I give the reader, journal prompts or questions that I would use as a coach with a client to navigate that topic area so they can gain a deeper understanding of what's holding them back and how they can move forward past some of their challenge.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And I just want to also interrupt you here to, do a little shout out.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I'd like to read a couple of the reviews that people gave you when they visited you for your personal coaching.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And so, here's Sandra, Janet is an incredible coach, and it is evident that she really loves helping others realize her full potential.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I came to Janet at a time where I felt unfulfilled professionally and personally.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I felt lost in my way.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I kept looking in the wrong places for my purpose.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: She helped me see things from a complete different perspective and lens.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I sense regained my confidence and have been more intentional about pursuing what aligns my goals and aspirations.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Her authenticity, kind heart and amazing leadership shine through every conversation and session that we've had.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Whether you are feeling like you aren't sure what to do next in your life and nothing you are doing is fulfilling your purpose, or you're simply seeking guidance and just need a soundboard, call Janet.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: It will be the best decision you've made.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And then Joyce says, Janet is warm, genuine, and makes me feel very comfortable during our coaching sessions, she has helped me understand what motivates me and what I want to do versus what I think others think I should do.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: This clarity has given me the courage to pursue goals with confidence.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Janet's coaching is actionable, positive, and provides me real results.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I highly recommend Janet Zavala's coaching.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Wow,
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Carmen Hecox Audio: That's impressive.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's such, uh, kind words from some very strong women, so that's, that's awesome.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Yeah.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: But I think what really resonated with me when I read both reviews, whether they were the book reviews and the coaching reviews, it was that you helped them find clarity.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And so I invited you on to this podcast because I'd like to explore that a little bit more with you since it seems you've helped people, whether it's been, one-on-one coaching or through a book that you wrote based upon stories that happened in your life and you changed the narrative of how those stories were going to impact you.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Either it was going to be a negative or a positive, but you took a negative experience and turned it into something positive and you know, all that is clarity.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, what does it mean to have clarity?
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Janet Zavala Audio: So I think for me, clarity is a verb.
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's an action, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that it's something that we're always seeking to define throughout our lives, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's always something that we should try to do and take time to do is seek clarity, because I don't think that we arrive at clarity, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think we develop clarity, and we develop, those ideas of who we want to be and what we want to do and how we wanna show up into this world over time.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think clarity is an action and it's simply kind of lifting the fog in your mind of what you want to achieve.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I wanna be clear that it's not the absence of fear or self-doubt because those things are all will always show up, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: We'll always kind of fear or feel the fear and self-doubt because we might be embarking on something new or pushing past our boundaries.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So those things are gonna show up for us.
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Janet Zavala Audio: But what clarity is, is going, I feel those things, but I'm gonna push past those anyhow.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I'm gonna keep on going on my path because I know that I want something better.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I want this thing in my life to materialize.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, for me, clarity is always an action.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I heard once, Carolyn Myss, she's a author and a teacher, she says the universe has a tricky way of kind of showing up and putting obstacles in your way while you're on your path, while you're trying to achieve what you want to achieve.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And it's the universe's way of kind of saying, are you sure you want this?
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, clarity is like, yes, yes I do.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I'm gonna push past this obstacle, this barrier to kind of, really march down that path and try to achieve what I want to achieve.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Can you talk a little bit about the importance of why we need clarity?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Is clarity something that, in order to accomplish anything in life you have to have clarity.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yeah, I agree.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that if you abdicate getting clear about what you want, in your life, you are either leaving things up to chance, so not being intentional with your actions or what you want to do.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You know, you're just kind of letting things happen to you instead of making things happen.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think that's the first piece of clarity that it's so critical.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And the other thing is that if you don't develop a clear idea of what you want to achieve, maybe you are manifesting somebody else's idea of what you should do, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's, and I think it was said in that review, it's like not doing what other people think I should do, but doing what I think I should do.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I mean, it really brings you a greater feeling of joy and fulfillment and satisfaction, and certainly peace as you are getting clear with what you want and taking the steps to make those things happen.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: That's really true.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I'm speaking of my own experience.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I remember when I turned 40, I began to question, it sounds kind of silly, but I questioned what is my purpose?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I've walked on this earth for 40 years, and here I am at the age of 40, questioning what is my purpose or trying to understand what am I supposed to do.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And I'm going to be honest with you, it haunted me for about three to four years.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: You know, just trying to figure out, what was I put on this earth to do?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Is that common with women once they hit a certain age or in a certain season in their life?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yes, I unequivocally, yes.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that I see this in all the women that I speak to.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that we begin our life.
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Janet Zavala Audio: We're either surviving some childhood trauma or we're going to school, we're having the kids, we're setting up our career, whatever that career.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Sometimes we, I don't know for anybody else, but I just kind of fell into careers and jobs and did well, but it, it wasn't of my own choosing, I didn't choose to take that action.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think that at a certain point in life, I think that there's a tipping point in a woman's life.
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Janet Zavala Audio: When you've done all those things, when you've set everything up, you've kind of maybe established some sense of security or some a place in life where you're thinking, well, what else is there?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Like, I'm feeling this nagging feeling that there has to be something more.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I am capable of so much more.
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Janet Zavala Audio: We have, at that point in time, so much more confidence in ourselves, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: We've realized that we've survived a lot of things in life, so, we come upon this point in time where we're thinking, what else?
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Janet Zavala Audio: What else?
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I think that nagging feeling exists in so many people, so many women you know.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Have you ever had any clients that perhaps, they have that feeling that something's missing.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: They're exploring, it's nagging, it's, resonating in their head that, there's gotta be more.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Can there be a negative impact?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Can some women maybe go instead of exploring clarity, in a positive way, perhaps seek it in a negative way.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Sure.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I guess perhaps there's always an opportunity to lean back on your negative thought patterns and your trauma responses.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that there's always that possibility.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that if somebody is doing that and falling back on those responses, it might.
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Janet Zavala Audio: they won't find that satisfaction that they're looking for, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: it, they won't find that fulfillment at the end of those trauma responses or negative thought patterns and behaviors.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think that it makes sense at some point for people to look at how they can move forward in a positive way, that is for the best outcome for their selves, their true selves, their core.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I, I think that it's always a possibility that it happens.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Okay.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, they could kind of see themselves constantly, I know you used this phrase before.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: That fog, that fog is still there, and they may continue to seek because they're looking for clarity in the wrong direction.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Absolutely, and they're looking for, fulfillment outside of themselves and you brought up purpose, like you were looking for your purpose.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I think that's an interesting topic, and I've got a little bit of a different spin on somebody finding their purpose.
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Janet Zavala Audio: It was kind of a trending personal development topic several years ago, 10 years ago, or however long it was that people are, I'm sure hundreds and thousands of books were written, find your purpose, but let me help you find your purpose and from my perspective, our purpose is not outside of ourselves.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Our purpose is ourselves.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Our purpose in life is to be the most, healthiest, most fulfilled person.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Healing our traumas, getting past our barriers, really, getting closer to that authentic self.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, then we can bring our full, enlightened self to this planet and to what you want to do as far as your passion is concerned.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think that when you're looking for your purpose outside of yourself, that's kind of like a faulty ground to place that expectation on that.
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Janet Zavala Audio: If you don't find it, then what you know.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So you haven't found your purpose.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Your purpose is you; your purpose is always you.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, seeking purpose is more of a building from the inside and out?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I, I love that.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yes.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that's perfectly said.
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's making sure that you're developing your own self, your authentic self, that you're weeding through all of the negative thought patterns and trauma responses that you've been left with that have separated you from that true fact that you are worthy and capable of living your best life.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Well said, perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, tell me, what steps can we take, anyone can take to gain clarity?
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Janet Zavala Audio: So I think about it in, in a framework of purpose, passion, and inspiration.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So we've talked a little bit about purpose, that, finding that within yourself, and you know it might take some time like this is a journey, but people really need to come to the understanding that they are worthy and capable of living their best lives.
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Janet Zavala Audio: There's nothing that you've done.
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Janet Zavala Audio: There's nothing that you could do that would take you out of that, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: We've all lived complicated lives, but it's really finding that understanding about yourself that you are worthy of living this best life.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You are worthy of love, you're worthy of happiness, you're worthy of everything.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, embodying that, I think, is the first step.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, the second part is passion.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I'm passionate about coaching and writing.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That is what lights me up.
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Janet Zavala Audio: By doing that, I am being fulfilled.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I'm thinking that I am helping others in this world by putting these things, putting my writing out into the world, and coaching people that I am able to live my passion; I think this is where your intuition kicks in, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: This is where I used to have a little voice in my head; at night or when I first wake up in the morning or after my meditation, it would kind of whisper, you should write, you should write.
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Janet Zavala Audio: It'd always come to me.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You should, you should write.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And then my ego-mind would push it away going, uh, nobody wants to read what I have to say.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I haven't gone to school for in studied English or literature or writing, or I haven't done all that.
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Janet Zavala Audio: All of that ego stuff to keep me small and keep me down, but always that little whisper when I had that, those moments of still stillness, you should write, you should write.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So everybody's got that voice, and I heard Glennon Doyle, she's an author as well, and I, she was answering a question from somebody who said, you know, I, I get the whisper.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I call it the whisper, your intuition that you should write.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And she said, well then write, you're a writer.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You should write because people who are not writers do not get that whisper.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right, they get another one.
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Janet Zavala Audio: There's another one coming for them, but you're getting that whisper.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So those whispers are not wrong.
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Janet Zavala Audio: They have your highest good, your highest intention in mind.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, you know when you get those hits of intuition, voices in your head that tell you to do something, and if you can catch it before the ego steps into, stop it, you need to follow it because it is not wrong.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And then the fi, the final piece of that is inspiration because somebody might be listening, going, yeah, I got no whispers, right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I got nothing.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And, and, and that's okay cause a lot of people, they haven't tapped into it.
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Janet Zavala Audio: They've probably got all these experiences that have created barriers to hear their intuition.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, what I say is like, go out and find inspiration.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Do something creative, do something that you know inspires you, or just kind of has this meditative effect?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I love nature photography.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I love gardening.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I will never do these a as a profession or something more formal because these are my inspiration.
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Janet Zavala Audio: They when I do these things, I get inspirations about writing.
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Janet Zavala Audio: When I do these things, I get other things from them.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, if you don't have those whispers of intuition that kind of talk about your passions and what you should be doing, go out and find inspiration.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Do something creative.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Some people do it, get it from exercise or doing creative activities, gardening or painting or writing or whatever that is.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So follow your inspiration and just do that as much as you can.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So you're saying doing those things that give you inspiration could potentially feed into what you could be doing.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I feel like it's kind of like clearing the deck of all the debris that's left right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And through it, you will probably be able to hear your intuitive voice a lot stronger.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You'll just be more joyful.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And when you're more joyful, you're able to kind of walk that path that you're supposed to walk.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So doing these creative activities it's never a waste of time.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: What kind of steps can we take to stay on course, seeking clarity?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yeah.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think one of the most important things, and something that I think has changed my life, is the practice of meditation.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So you need to start to get still and tap into your intuition.
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Janet Zavala Audio: One of the best ways to do that is to have a regular meditation practice, but allowing yourself to incorporate mindfulness and meditation into your life will help you and will open up the channels for you to be able to hear your intuition more clearly.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And it'll also allow you to start to eliminate the negative voice, the ego voice that says, oh, you can't do it; you shouldn't do it.
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Janet Zavala Audio: All of those kind of negative thoughts because if your intuition is saying, do something, you should take a stab at it.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think that's kind of the first thing.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And then, the other thing is action brings clarity, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think at a certain point in my life, I kind of tried to sit back.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think it was exactly when I was 40, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I thought that the meaning of life and everything else would be presented to me automagically, and I would just know.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I would just have all the answers.
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Janet Zavala Audio: But it doesn't show up; it doesn't knock at the door.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Action brings clarity.
24:42
Janet Zavala Audio: So, you need to take action.
24:44
Janet Zavala Audio: You need to try different things.
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Janet Zavala Audio: When I was embarking on this kind of coaching journey, I had a friend who said, hey, why don't we go take this course over here?
24:53
Janet Zavala Audio: It was a psychology course.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And through that, I got introduced to the profession of coaching.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I didn't even know it existed.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, taking action, taking that course if you like, Hey, you know, listen to that podcast and hear something that brings you to that action cuz action will always bring clarity.
25:14
Carmen Hecox Audio: That's really important.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I'm glad you brought that up.
25:17
Carmen Hecox Audio: If you listen to podcasts episode, my first podcast episode EP001, I talked about this, practice makes perfect.
25:26
Carmen Hecox Audio: And, when I think about practice makes perfect is, that's something I think we told each other as we're children.
25:33
Carmen Hecox Audio: The act of practice is you're giving yourself permission to fail.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I think we all are afraid of the word failure, but when you change the word of failure and identify it as practice, it makes it okay.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And so, just like you said, action you're not going to nail it the first time you're practicing, but the more you put it into play, the better you're going to get.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And I talk more about that in my episode 001.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I think that's so cool that you brought that up, and you haven't even listened to that episode yet.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yeah.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think it's so true that you're not gonna get to where you need to be by just kind of sitting there and not taking action.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Or continuing to plan.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Planning will get you nowhere without action.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
26:25
Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
26:26
Janet Zavala Audio: That's so right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think an another piece of is like, don't get too attached to an outcome, right?
26:31
Janet Zavala Audio: I'm going to be publishing my book, and I want people to read it.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I want it to be a success, but if it, for some reason it's not, then that's not a reflection on me.
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Janet Zavala Audio: The journey and the value is the person I become by pushing past my barriers to actually publish the book.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's about who I become in the process, not the outcome.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I want people to not get too attached to an outcome.
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Janet Zavala Audio: We do that cuz we want that; we want it to be perfect.
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Janet Zavala Audio: We want success.
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Janet Zavala Audio: We want, yeah,
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Exactly.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And then you stop and think about a lot of these famous painters, they painted these phenomenal paintings, and they put it out there, and it was kinda like, but now, once they passed on or time went on, these paintings are worth.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: millions of dollars, and these people are well known.
27:27
Carmen Hecox Audio: So it's just because you put something out there today and it doesn't give you the results that you anticipated right off the bat, doesn't mean that six months, a year, two years, that may be the lifecycle when that particular product is gonna boom.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And you just never know what's going to happen, and along your journey, it might shift and become something else.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And having a specific outcome that you're so tied to, and when you talked about failure before, it's like, that doesn't mean that you failed.
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Janet Zavala Audio: It means that you succeeded because you've actually pushed through to make something happen.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Exactly.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Have you, as you're working with your clients one-on-one, have they ever mentioned to you, cuz they're getting all this inspiration and all this clarity, and they find themselves in this kind of like crossroad, where now they want two things.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Have they ever told you I don't know where to go because this sounds good, but this sounds good too.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And I never had so many ideas come and flood and hit me in the face.
28:37
Carmen Hecox Audio: How do you keep them focused on where they should go or guide them as to where they should go?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yeah.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that it's okay to be multi-passionate.
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Janet Zavala Audio: It's okay to be interested in multiple things, and if you're looking at a crossroads, if you're thinking about shifting direction.
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Janet Zavala Audio: If you're going this direction and now you wanna go a different direction, it's okay to shift your focus.
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Janet Zavala Audio: If you evaluate first that you are not suppressing some sort of fear by doing that, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: That you are not using this tactic as a, um,
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Carmen Hecox Audio: A way of avoiding, taking action.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Self-sabotage it so that you're not taking, avoiding going down a path because of self-sabotage because of your fears or driving those decisions.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, it's really good to get clear on if that fear is existing for you in such a way that you wanna switch directions.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, it's really important to identify that if you, somebody evaluates, how do I feel if the ultimate outcome happened with this, right?
29:48
Janet Zavala Audio: If this kind of turned out exactly how I wanted, what feelings does that bring up?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Does it bring up fear?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Does it bring up any sort of other feelings that could be the reason why they're wanting to switch?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right, so I think that there's something to sticking with something as long as it feels aligned to your authentic self.
30:06
Janet Zavala Audio: But if you want to switch, or for me, I follow the two paths.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I'm a writer and a coach.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I love doing both of them.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You can exist and more than just one way, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: It doesn't need to be an either or it can be a both, and you can be both a writer and a coach.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, you get to make that decision for yourself.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And the other critical thing is that it will change, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Right now, I identify as a writer and a coach.
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Janet Zavala Audio: In 10 years, it might be something else, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Because I've shifted, and that's okay.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Cuz we change as soon as we kind of get or become who we want to become through these actions, we get turned on to something else.
30:48
Janet Zavala Audio: And that's okay too.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think it's very individual.
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Janet Zavala Audio: With the person, whether it's fear and self-sabotage or wanting to actually shift their focus.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, I would say um, evaluate and ensure that this fork in the road is not a avoidance.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And could, some people maybe identify this fork in the road, kind of as an obstacle.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Absolutely.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Absolutely.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And if we always have a choice.
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Janet Zavala Audio: We have freedom of choice.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Do we want to take the steps to overcome that obstacle?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Is it worth it?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Is the end result that you're reaching for, is it worth the challenges that you're facing now?
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Janet Zavala Audio: And you get to decide.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You get to decide if it's worth it.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I think that it's beneficial to push yourself past your comfort zone and your boundaries.
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Janet Zavala Audio: But I mean it while also identifying if this is true to your authentic self.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: How do you help your clients navigate in getting clarity?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Like Sandra, who said that she was lost.
31:52
Carmen Hecox Audio: She had lost her passion professionally and personally.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yeah.
31:57
Carmen Hecox Audio: And, based just reading her review, it seems like you were able to help her figure out what she wanted.
32:09
Carmen Hecox Audio: And there, there was a process.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Can you explain?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And navigating and getting clarity.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: How did you help her?
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I mean, someone like her that comes in with those same challenges.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yeah.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that looking at the barriers that they're presenting, right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: as a client coming saying, I want this.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I can't do this, or I'm stuck in this situation.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that there are thought processes that go into, you know, leaving us in a certain situation.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, what is it about that is keeping you stuck?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Is the source?
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Janet Zavala Audio: A previous experience, previous trauma that makes you kind of believe that this situation is okay.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Or that you can't get out of it or that you don't have the capabilities.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think the first step is kind of working through the belief system that they have around the situation.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, it's really that in-depth kind of coaching process, listening to the client, understanding what their words are saying, what's their map of the world; how does that affect how they're at; where they're at now?
33:11
Janet Zavala Audio: And then, once we understand kind of what those thought processes are.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Then we go into kind of reprogramming those thoughts into ones that are empowering, ones that allow them to believe that they are capable of making a change or getting past this stuck place to get clarity about what they want.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And I think it's important for them to dream.
33:33
Janet Zavala Audio: I encourage all my clients to dream big.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I like don't think about barriers, don't think about anything that's holding them down or that's in their way, and I can't because of this person, or I can't because of this situation, or I can't because of money.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Like, don't think about that.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Like, think about the ultimate dream that you have.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You know, maybe you had an inkling of it when you were a kid.
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Janet Zavala Audio: You know, dream big.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I think that is an important piece of the processes is to have people open up to possibilities.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So that's kind of like building a sort of a vision board,
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Janet Zavala Audio: Absolutely.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Or taking them back to their childhood and say, when I grow up, I wanna be X.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: You're re-engaging or giving energy back to that child-like belief of what you wanted to do when you grow up.
34:19
Carmen Hecox Audio: But now you're an adult, and you're dreaming.
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Janet Zavala Audio: That's right.
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Janet Zavala Audio: I think that daydreaming is one of the best exercises that you can do for yourself is to think about the possibilities of what you want.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, how can people learn more about you and get a notification of your upcoming book?
34:41
Janet Zavala Audio: Sure.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, on my website, janetzavalacoaching.com, you can sign up for my newsletter.
34:48
Janet Zavala Audio: I don't spam a whole lot.
34:50
Janet Zavala Audio: I've signed up for so many newsletters and email lists, and I get a whole lot.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, I just like to send something out once a month and kind of what I'm up to, where you can find me, what's coming up.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, you can go and add your email address to my, sign up when you enter my website.
35:04
Janet Zavala Audio: It'll pop up; I can be found on all the social media channels, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, all the ones.
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Janet Zavala Audio: But I also host a Facebook group, it's called"Living Intentionally." So that is the place where I've kind of built a community where people get together and support each other, and we talk about the barriers that exist.
35:25
Janet Zavala Audio: And so we all, we have I have weekly live chats on that channel, and I bring in people to interview, and it's just like a fun place to get inspired and have that community that is really like-minded and wanting to improve their lives and, build something, great for themselves.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Okay.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: And, your coaching business, is that a one-on-one, local coaching, or is that something that you also do online?
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Janet Zavala Audio: I provide virtual coaching sessions.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, what I provide right now is a free 30-minute intake assessment.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, this is where we kind of just get to know each other.
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Janet Zavala Audio: What are your goals?
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Janet Zavala Audio: We talk about kind of how we're gonna work together and those things.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, and then I've got packages available.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, that free 30-minute intake assessment is really key to kind of making sure it's a right fit, right?
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Janet Zavala Audio: Because with any sort of service provider, you wanna make sure that it's a right fit for you and for me, and so, that really helps navigate that process.
36:23
Carmen Hecox Audio: Okay.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: So, to wrap things up again, what were the three steps that people can take as far as getting clarity?
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, the three steps that people can take to navigate clarity is understand their purpose.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And their purpose is them.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Your purpose is you to become the most healed, most balanced person that you can, to manifest what you're supposed to manifest in this life.
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Janet Zavala Audio: The next thing is passion.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, listening to your intuition to understand and work towards what you're passionate about.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Mine is coaching and writing.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Yours will be different but listening to that intuition and working in those areas that you're passionate about.
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Janet Zavala Audio: And then the last one is finding inspiration.
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Janet Zavala Audio: So, if you're having trouble identifying what you're passionate about.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Go out into the world and find inspiration, be inspired by the arts and music and nature and all the things around us so you can clear the pathway for that inspiration to show up.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Perfect.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Thank you so much for giving us a quick tie back to the three tips to finding clarity.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: Janet, thank you so much.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I will include links to how people can get ahold of you in my show notes.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: I will also include information about your prior book or a link for your prior book that can be purchased on Amazon if you wanna purchase it and your upcoming book.
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Carmen Hecox Audio: If you have any type of like link or anything like that, that people can either sign up for to be on a waitlist to purchase that or whatever, I will have all that information in my show notes for people to be able to get your information.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Great.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Thank you so much.
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Janet Zavala Audio: What a fun conversation.
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Janet Zavala Audio: Thanks for having me.
38:07
Carmen Hecox Audio: Thank you.
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Carmen Hecox: That's a wrap on today's episode, and what an episode it was; Janet's insights on how to gain clarity and empower your purpose in life were truly enlightening.
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Carmen Hecox: I hope you learned a lot and are ready to take action.
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Carmen Hecox: Remember, the first step is understanding that your purpose is unique to you and cannot be found in anyone else or bought.
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Carmen Hecox: The second step is to pursue your passion, whatever that may be, and the third step is to find inspiration, which can often come from pursuing your passion.
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Carmen Hecox: If you're still struggling to find clarity or need to reevaluate your purpose, I highly recommend contacting Janet.
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Carmen Hecox: You can find her information and resources at createthebestme.com/Ep004.
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Carmen Hecox: Don't let this opportunity pass you by.
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Carmen Hecox: Take action today.
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Carmen Hecox: Start your journey to gaining clarity and empowering your purpose.
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Carmen Hecox: Trust us, you won't regret it.
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Carmen Hecox: And don't forget to visit.
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Carmen Hecox: createthebestme.com/Ep004 to get all the information and resources you need to succeed.
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Carmen Hecox: So until next time, take care, and best of luck on your journey to clarity and purpose.