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Calling Women Dear · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: We got a question from American mamas, Dear mamas, is
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  Speaker 1: it wrong to call a grown woman deer?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask our American mama's mama, ma, and.
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  Speaker 1: Jining is now our American mama's Terry Nediville and Kimberly Burlison, Okay.
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  Speaker 1: Over on CNN, they were having one of these you know,
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  Speaker 1: debate things that they do. They were getting into a
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  Speaker 1: fight and arguing over stuff, as they are prone to do,
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  Speaker 1: and one of the I guess there's their token conservative
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  Speaker 1: gets in there and he says the word deer in
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  Speaker 1: a nuts so great.
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  Speaker 2: I didn't have enough to insight that shouldn't.
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  Speaker 3: Be charged deer, okay, deer y, misogyny.
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  Speaker 2: I'm going to stop it right here. We're not going
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  Speaker 2: to get off on a wrong foot. Please do not
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  Speaker 2: address a grown woman as dear.
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  Speaker 3: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So the operator of the panel comes out, don't address
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  Speaker 1: a grown woman as deer, and he's a very contrite
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  Speaker 1: after that and does not say deer anymore. Is there
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  Speaker 1: anything inherently wrong with saying to a grown woman the
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  Speaker 1: word deer because we say dear mama's every single day.
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  Speaker 4: Well, it is how you say it that to me?
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  Speaker 4: And I differ from what the guys were saying on
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  Speaker 4: the panel. But it was condescending, he said it. It
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  Speaker 4: was the wrong moment for him to say that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think when I saw this, Okay, So Pat
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  Speaker 3: bet David was airing this on his show, so his
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  Speaker 3: panel of guys were like, what's the problem. He said, deer,
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  Speaker 3: what's wrong with deer? Well, clearly, if you listen to
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  Speaker 3: the tone, it's kind of like, okay, brah, you know,
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  Speaker 3: And that's probably the way I would have handled it.
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  Speaker 3: I probably would have used humor. I would not have
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  Speaker 3: made a big deal because then you look like a
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  Speaker 3: little tity baby. I probably would have said okay, brah,
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  Speaker 3: all right, you know. And then but it got serious,
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  Speaker 3: and then Abby Phelps had to say, not on my show,
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  Speaker 3: are you going to?
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  Speaker 4: And then she did the same thing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, she was condescending and treated him like a little
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  Speaker 3: boy after he told her, I mean, after she told
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  Speaker 3: him not to treat her like a little girl. So
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  Speaker 3: it's like, come on, guys, so.
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  Speaker 1: Which in the end, basically it stifles debate altogether. It
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  Speaker 1: does altogether because because he's not gonna be.
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  Speaker 3: Min yeah, so and so in essence, you can say dear,
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  Speaker 3: and if I said, let's say this, they.
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  Speaker 4: Were also debating. Yeah, so that's not the moment you
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  Speaker 4: you say anything like that while you're in a debate.
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  Speaker 3: So when you're talking to your husband and you're trying
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  Speaker 3: to make a point and he's over, he's talking over you,
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  Speaker 3: and you go, I got it, dear. Yes, that's clearly
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  Speaker 3: a sign of you know, I am I'm ticked off,
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna put you down, and so.
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  Speaker 2: It's like a bless your heart, yeah, y, yeah, she.
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  Speaker 3: Could have handled it a little bit differently to be
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  Speaker 3: funny and not let it go. But I differ with
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  Speaker 3: Pat Bett David on this one. And of course, you know,
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  Speaker 3: we're so easily offended in this world that I really
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  Speaker 3: hope that we can get back to going, you know,
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  Speaker 3: using humor again, which is our style. It's always been.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, do you like it? Because I don't like it
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  Speaker 4: if I go to a restaurant, if I got this,
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  Speaker 4: I hate it when someone younger than me, a waitress
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  Speaker 4: or waitress or someone calls me dear or love the
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  Speaker 4: honey or honey, I'm like, no, no, no, no no, no,
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  Speaker 4: she call you that because I'm the oldest, so to me.
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  Speaker 4: It's like if the oldest person calls you that, that's
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  Speaker 4: one thing, but not a younger person. To an older person.
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  Speaker 3: It irritates me sobuddy, because when we're eating and somebody
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  Speaker 3: does that, like here you go, dear, I just go
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  Speaker 3: because I know she hates it, doesn't It doesn't bother
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  Speaker 3: me because it's like part of their little language. Yeah, like, well,
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  Speaker 3: she doesn't say anything, she's just or she'll go, okay, honey,
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  Speaker 3: I will do that. She'll kind she'll come back and
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  Speaker 3: like kind of that's how she tells him she doesn't
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  Speaker 3: like it. I don't care. These are young girls. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: the inflection of their voices anyway.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes you know, it's not condecision for the no.
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  Speaker 1: She just you're just like the word choice isn't right.
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  Speaker 4: I guess it feels that way. It just I don't
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  Speaker 4: like it because it feels like you little old lady, dear.
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  Speaker 4: You know, I don't like it. It just irritates me.
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  Speaker 3: That's so funny. Well, but I say it to.
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  Speaker 4: Young people all the time. I call him honey, I
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  Speaker 4: call him baby. I you know that I do limes
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  Speaker 4: out because that's how that's how I talk to my
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  Speaker 4: children so I think of them as you know, kids,
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  Speaker 4: but when it's reverse, I don't like it.
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  Speaker 1: So if so, if the waitress calls you, dear, and
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  Speaker 1: the waitress is younger than you, not ever, okay, No,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if a waiter male waiter, if he
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  Speaker 1: called you deer, same thing, same thing. But if they
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  Speaker 1: were older, I love it.
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  Speaker 4: I think, oh, she's so sweet.
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's true.
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  Speaker 2: But what if it's an older man.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's so sweet.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, they're older than me, it's sweet.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So if they're older, using the term deer is okay,
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  Speaker 1: as long as it's not condescending.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, you know what actually flattered when check her at
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  Speaker 3: Brookshire's other night is an old guy and he said that.
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  Speaker 3: He said, well, you know, God bless you, dear, have
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  Speaker 3: a great one. And I thought, oh, I love you.
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  Speaker 3: But I don't know if it had been a young guy,
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  Speaker 3: if it would have come off years yeah, yeah, I
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't say anything. I would have said thank you, but
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  Speaker 3: it would have been like I guess you're right, it does.
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  Speaker 3: It depends on the age difference, and manned a woman.
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  Speaker 3: So I wondered though, if she would have come back
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  Speaker 3: and just said okay, bruh.
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  Speaker 4: That would have been funny.
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  Speaker 3: That would have been funny, and would he have lightened up?
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  Speaker 3: And then they could have gone on and going okay, okay,
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  Speaker 3: my bad, yes, Like wouldn't that have just carried like?
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  Speaker 3: Can we just used humor?
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  Speaker 4: We just used humor.
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  Speaker 3: Hughes use humor, and I feel like that it can
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  Speaker 3: diffuse some boss for sure.
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  Speaker 1: out of a Kimberly bills and thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: Thanks Bro,