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Why Not Today? Season 1 - Episode 8 with Krystal Downey-Shada who is a friend, mentor and Spacious Living Coach. · Why Not Today? with Leslie Kane

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  Hello, my name is Leslie Cain and I am the host of the Why Not Today podcast.
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  This is a podcast to celebrate people who have been courageous and said, Why Not Today?
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  I started this podcast in honor of my father, Patrick Cain, who often just said, Why Not
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  Today?
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  There was not a problem he couldn't solve.
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  Or everything was figure out of all that they often said.
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  I am based in Reston, Virginia, a planned community right outside of Washington, DC.
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  And thanks for joining us today.
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  I am super duper excited that my guest today is Crystal Downey-Shada.
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  And I know Crystal from the Mary Kay world, which is the first guest I've had on from
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  Mary Kay.
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  But all right, we're going to talk about Mary Kay today.
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  So before we hear from Crystal, I always kind of share a little bit about connections.
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  And I love connections and how we meet.
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  And Crystal and I actually met at a Mary Kay retreat in, it was at December to remember
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  in Austin, Texas with National Sales Director, Maritine, now at Bamforth.
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  And probably not going to share our big connection story, but we met and hung out and just instantly
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  did connect and talked about all kinds of stuff and not Mary Kay stuff.
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  And then stayed in connection with you, Crystal.
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  And I still remember many moments of calls and coaching and mentoring from you.
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  And not only a mentor or coach, but so you're a great friend.
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  And I'm excited to have you as a guest on our podcast today.
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  So let's get started with, I want you to introduce yourself, tell us a little bit about your
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  story and then a fun fact that people might not ever not know about you.
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  Awesome.
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  Thank you.
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  Well, Leslie, thank you.
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  And I do recall our meeting and our conversations and our great friendship and just thank you.
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  Thank you for inviting me on.
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  It's great to be here.
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  So just short version, 31 years of building a Mary Kay business.
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  I have enjoyed it and hustled my way to a very high position in the company.
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  And it's been a great experience and probably a fun fact is that I am a new beekeeper.
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  I have I know I have these and I love them and it's super fun.
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  So I check on the girls every day and it just gives me an awesome experience and grounding
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  in it's fun.
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  It's super fun.
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  And you are most of the people I think almost everybody I've interviewed is the local to
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  me, but you are not.
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  Tell me where you're from and where are you like?
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  I'm in Calta and Calta, Idaho and Idaho born and raised and this has been home for me for
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  a very long time.
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  This valley that I live in has been home to me for a very long time.
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  I've built my business here and beyond and I have two grown sons and they also live here
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  and I have other family here.
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  So yeah, this is it.
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  And I think I've been your direction a few times.
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  Yeah, you did come here for one event.
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  I remember picking you up and we went and hung out for dinner and I don't remember where
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  it went, but I do remember that.
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  It's a while ago.
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  I can't believe your sons are grown because they were.
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  I know like young kids when we met me either.
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  How does that happen?
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  So well, the beef keeper thing is really a cool story.
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  So I always start by asking people what does courage mean to you?
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  You know, courage means to me risk taking.
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  It's doing something different.
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  It's for me, courage is about feeling some anxiety or fear or discomfort around it and
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  making the decision anyway, doing the thing anyway.
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  And that would that would probably be my definition, my working definition of what courage means
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  to me and what that's about.
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  Yeah, totally agree with that.
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  And I know your journey in Mary Kay has ups and downs and there's a lot of places where
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  I know you personally that you showed courage and saw courage, but I think you want we talked
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  about going in a totally different direction.
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  So what have you done in your life that took courage?
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  Let's talk about your why not today story.
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  Okay, I would love to jump into this and it is a totally different conversation as I
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  shared with you before we came on I find myself just in unfamiliar territory discussing this
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  topic.
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  It's not generally a conversation that I'm having and well, I say generally, but I'm
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  having this conversation more and more with people over the last few years when I talk
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  about a paced life or a slower life or a spacious life that I'm living now.
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  It's a conversation that a lot of people are tuned into.
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  And it's tapping something in people that's pretty exciting.
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  So I just a short version, I'll kind of back up my story a little bit.
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  I have been building my Mary Kay business for, you know, as I said, 30 plus years.
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  In fact, this last month was 31 years having built my Mary Kay business and I was driven
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  and focused and between my Mary Kay business and raising my children primarily as a single
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  mom.
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  That was it.
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  That was my life.
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  And I was all about the doing of it.
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  And it worked.
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  I could press through and do the things that were required and necessary to create what
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  I thought I wanted to create.
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  And then what happened was I turned 50.
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  And when I turned 50, there was this bell ringing kind of wake up call in my life that
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  I realized.
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  I don't know.
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  Well, that coupled with I also had a miss in my Mary Kay business, a very big public
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  didn't make a goal that everyone knew that I was going for kind of miss.
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  And at the time I was heartbroken.
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  I mean, I was crushed that it did not happen.
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  And it kind of fell apart a little bit after that.
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  And in that crushingness of that missed public goal, I paused and looked up for a moment.
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  In other words, you know, I kind of had head down handling all of the things doing my life.
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  And in that experience, though it was crushing, it had me pause for a moment and that coupled
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  with turning 50, I just paused for a moment and I looked up and around and realized, wait
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  a second, this is, this is my one precious life.
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  This is it.
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  This is the only one I get.
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  And I get a little bit emotional when I share about that because that was a powerful realization
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  that that I only have this one and time is escaping me.
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  Am I really living the life that I desire to live?
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  And as I started looking, I just realized that my ladder that I had been furiously climbing
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  and was perhaps propped up against the wrong wall.
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  Yeah, don't we hear that often like make sure that ladder is up on the right wall.
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  Well, and I thought it was and had you asked me prior to that moment in my brain, it was.
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  But I think the combination of my, my time on this planet and and a crushing blow in this
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  goal.
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  I think the combination of those two at that time just had me pause and take a look and
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  say this is not.
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  Well, I first asked the question, is this my definition of success is everything that
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  I have worked to create how I define success, or is this a definition placed on me by our
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  society by growing up when I did by not having a lot when I grew up and the feeling the need
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  to prove and hustle for my value.
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  And so the combination of those things, I think just had me pause and look up and start
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  to ask questions.
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  But the definition, what I discovered was that my the definition my definition of success
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  had actually come from outside of me.
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  It had not come from within me.
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  And when I realized my time is limited.
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  I don't know how long it is, but it is limited.
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  Right.
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  Then that had me shift to a new thought.
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  And I said, wait a second, this is, this is not.
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  It's not okay with me.
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  And so that began the process of discovering what didn't align with me, what I thought
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  did but but actually did not align with me in my life and what was not working in my
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  life.
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  And I do feel like that's a first step.
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  Absolutely.
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  The processes, what do I not like what is not working for me.
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  And sometimes, you know, people can get into this over the top toxic positivity like, well,
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  what is working?
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  Well, I could go there but that that wasn't going to help me at that moment.
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  What I needed to do is examine what was not working.
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  So then from that place, I could say, great.
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  Now what?
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  Now what is that going to look like for me moving forward?
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  So I don't even know if I remember your original question or where we were.
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  What have you done that took courage and that took a ton of courage, especially the path
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  you were on and everybody watching you and to be able to take a step back and say, okay,
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  this isn't this is not working for me.
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  And I think you get wrapped up in the excitement and everybody watching and you know, Mary
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  Kate is a big platform with a lot of eyes on us.
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  Right.
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  And to be able to say, okay, that's not working and what do I want and value you and not what
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  everybody else thinks and as you said that external evaluation that I think think 50 is
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  kind of a magical year.
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  I kind of felt it a little at 40 of shift, but 50 definitely like it's about taking care
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  of us 50 felt like life grabbed me by the shoulders and said, we're not messing around
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  girl.
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  Yeah, like like their time matters and in a way that it had not before and my age does
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  not bother me so please I don't want this to be confused with I have an issue with anything
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  about that.
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  I think it was just the realization in a very real way that that time is time matters
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  differently than it has before now.
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  Also realized to that I was coming up to I'll share this little part of the story.
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  So in 2019 is when I really started taking some action on this 2018 had a huge year and
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  Mary came 2019.
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  I started to work on that inventory I had been taking for a few years, but and actually
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  started some execution of that process of what I wanted to change.
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  And during that year I remodeled and put on the market and sold a house that I'd raised
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  my babies in and it was the image house you know it was the house that looked successful,
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  but was not what I wanted.
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  What I wanted is what I have now which is this really charming 100 year old cottage
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  on a little tree line street and it's sweet and I love it and it's small and it's delightful.
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  And that's really what I desired is and not to be ungrateful for what I had, but I had
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  that because of the image that it was and I needed to look successful.
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  And so I did that became an empty nester my youngest graduated from high school, separated
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  and divorced my husband, then husband of 15 years and bought another business and went
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  through menopause.
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  2019 was a year.
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  A lot of stuff.
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  One of those was 2020 was bad.
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  Well that was 2019 so then when I finished 2019 I thought 2020 it's my year and it was
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  my year, but it was my year differently because that year required such a pause for so many
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  of us and that are obviously people in the medical field it was not a pause but for me
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  in my life it was a pause and there was a lot of uncertainty in that time and that actually
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  supported this how do I want to live my life process and what does a spacious life look
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  like.
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  And so 2020 actually served me very well in learning that and creating a practice around
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  that.
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  Yeah and so I know because we work together and we talk every couple weeks and you coach
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  me on this.
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  I think it'd be helpful maybe to kind of share what was the process of seeing how you wanted
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  to redesign your life or reevaluate like what were I know you know obviously one of the
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  questions is was it just a moment which turning 50 was kind of a moment.
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  And everything with Mary Kay was a moment, but like what's a process if we wanted to
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  people listening wanted to coach them and they're feeling the same thing like how can
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  you what can you suggest for people to reevaluate and shift and I know you we've talked a lot
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  about this and designing the life and we often talk about being okay with everything not
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  being done which you know and I know with Mary Kay and probably a lot of businesses people
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  entrepreneurs which a lot of people listen to this that are you know we never closed
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  the door and we're never done you know always more like people that go to an office you
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  know they're done for the day they close the door and they're off for the weekend and
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  it's done for a lot of people but it's not that way in our world and so you know how
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  would you coach somebody that is like facing like okay I'm turning 50 or 40 or 30 or and
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  it's often those zero monumental birthdays which we do evaluate and what's going on in
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  life but what what would you suggest to somebody that's feeling those feelings and like okay
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  this is not working for me.
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  Mm-hmm.
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  What do you evaluate and make a difference?
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  Yeah I think it would change.
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  It's a great question and I think the the first place is the internal the internal conversation
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  and examination of what is it I want my life to look like what do I want my life to stand
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  for what am I committed to creating in my life and as you as answering those questions
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  why does it matter to me is I think the next piece of that because I can say I desire this
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  I'm committed to this I want that but without the clarity around why does it matter to me
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  I think the why it matters to me is directly connected to the motivation and then that's
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  where the action comes from so that's my experience of it is first that internal inventory of
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  right now right here right now what is it that I want my life to look like stand for
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  what do I want to create what am I committed to in this and and along with that then why
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  does it matter those two parts together really go hand in hand and I think that that's a
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  beginning place for me I knew I was not happy I knew I was dissatisfied in a lot of different
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  areas of how I was living my life but I don't know that I knew beyond that until I started
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  doing some inventory of wait a second how I can go back to how or where did I get off
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  track but the bottom line of it isn't about that it's about where am I right now and what
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  matters to me right now and and here's the other piece and this is maybe geared towards
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  women maybe it's geared towards people I'm not sure but taking that pause to say what
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  do I want felt selfish it felt like a selfish question to ask because my life until that
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  point had been building a business and my children and raising my children and and and
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  what that was about and so that was my priority so becoming an empty nester was a big part
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  of this as well because I realized though they're always in my life and you know and
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  they're always my kids there was a shift that a significant shift in my identity that happened
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  at that point it was like wait a second I'm now not raising children I'm now not a wife
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  and those shifts made a difference too and it felt a little bit selfish to ask the question
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  what do I want and I think self I'm going to use the word self care I don't like that
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  word but I'm going to use that because I think it's too overused and is all about used to
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  sell a bunch of stuff and that's not what it's about but I think self care can feel selfish
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  when we haven't done it before when we haven't actually paused and asked ourselves those
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  questions so so if you find yourself grappling a little with the oh this feels selfish of
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  course it does because when was the last time you actually asked yourself what do I want
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  and I think as a mother and a wife and raising kids you know and I'm sure there are all kinds
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  of people that do that I think women in general your whole world is wrapped around the kids
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  all the things and then all of a sudden you wake up and you're like oh who am I and where
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  is my life and why did I get here and is this a track I still want to go right lose like
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  even I watched my sister who a lot of her friends were all wrapped around kids and the kids
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  activities and the kids pull the kids out and things change a little bit and I don't wait
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  and please know I mean one of your questions I know often I've listened to some of your
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  past podcasts as well as is often about regret I don't regret having prioritized my children
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  not for a minute I don't regret it and I lost myself in there somewhere between my position
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  as a Mary Kay director and mom and navigating all of the things that life was about and
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  just really surviving life at a very high price surviving life I discovered in that
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  process I lost me.
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  Yeah who is Crystal?
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  And what do I want and what matters to me because that's really when it comes down to
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  it that's what I got.
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  And in the other podcast I have talked about in reference Daniel Pink's book regrets and
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  he said when he wrote this he's went to his daughter's college graduation it's like how
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  did I get to the point that I have a child graduate and it feels like I just did it's
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  like life moves so fast with everything you wake up one day and like oh and it's often
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  the regrets of oh why didn't I do that or maybe take care of me a little or you know
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  and what what did you wish you'd done that you could do now and it's interesting that
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  whole story of turning 50 and 50th birthday and being selfish on my 50th birthday we are
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  planning a trip like a big trip bunch of girls all these people coming well this person
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  start adding and this person start adding and this person didn't like this person and
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  this person wasn't going and it became about everybody else and not me and so I remember
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  going to bed one night I'm like this is not okay this is not how I want to celebrate my
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  birthday and so I went down and made a list of the people I cared about the things I want
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  to do and I said forget this trip you guys go if you want but that's not about me that
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  was about everybody else and I picked the people that I cared about things I like and
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  I planned a bunch of things that I want to do and be around and did the things that gave
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  me joy not because somebody else wanted me to do it and I think with age comes wisdom
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  and I think we can look back and say all right what's okay for me and it's not selfish that
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  this is our life you know the other thing that I'm thinking is I'm listening to this
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  Leslie is that and as we're chatting back and forth is that there is this new process
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  that has been part of this from me that is allowing grace for myself prior to this there
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  was never grace for myself there was just demand from myself and performance me with
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  me right and performance demand no matter what you know and again as I said is a very
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  high price so I think that's another part of this process is how and where can we offer
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  grace be kind to yourself I mean I was talking to somebody yesterday about how we plowed
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  through things and we are exhausted and we didn't feel well and we still showed up I
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  know one of my highest values is dependability and so there are times I showed up and I probably
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  you know I didn't have it in me to show up and I probably could have easily said no and
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  the person would have been totally fine and people do it to us all the time but I don't
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  like saying no to somebody and sometimes we need to take care of us well we live in a
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  world that rewards anxious over achievers and perpetuates the narrative that our value
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  is based in what we do and who we become and this outside information so and that our value
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  must be earned in all of the different ways so of course so of course we're just busy
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  trying to you know play the game of what is next what's the next requirement of me to
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  earn my value and when it's about earning our value that is so much on the line that
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  yeah we'll do whatever yeah and yeah and you know in the Mary Kay world and lots of different
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  worlds we were we were the Mary Kay hat people just assume that and so I really try you know
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  with this podcast I'm doing and try showing that I'm much more than just the Mary Kay
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  consultant there's a lot more to my life than just a consultant or director and we've got
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  so many other facets to our life and do so many other things I mean you're a beekeeper
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  I love watching you're doing your house and you redid the floors I'm like okay that I
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  don't know if I could do but I could do other things yeah yeah it's been quite a process
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  there's probably not much of this house that hasn't been touched by me in the redo and
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  it's funny you're talking about the success status house so my house as you can see in
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  the back is fun and that's who I am I love the beach and my house is fun and I had a
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  friend come over one day she goes you need to be one of those reality shows when they
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  come and totally redo your house so it shows the success that you are and I mentioned it
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  to her later like it really insulted me but she didn't mean it that way but the way I
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  took it was like she didn't like my house and it had to be totally changed to the successful
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  person that I am she's like you're a top executive in Mary Kay you're super successful your house
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  should look different I'm like now this is my house and this is what I like and this
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  is what gives me joy and I live here right right you know my house is for somebody else
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  yeah yeah yeah it's this process of of healing those outside expectations that we grab onto
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  and own as our own and starting to detangle that of what's mine and what's not and then
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  once we do standing in that and I think you know COVID was I mean it was a bad thing for
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  a lot of people but I think it was a good evaluation I know I've evaluated me and I've
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  shifted my life because of the virtual world and being able to travel and do the things
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  I enjoy and work wherever still be able to have a livelihood but be able to take it and
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  do and just like you said just reevaluate why are we doing what we're doing got on that
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  hamster wheel I think right and it's an ongoing practice to peel back and those years of earning
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  our worth by being busy and productive at the expense of a life well lived and a life
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  well being of ourselves is is at the at the middle of it or the center of it and it's
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  a practice to heal that hustle and so it doesn't just like oh you know little fairy
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  bop you on the head and boom now you're going to be nice it's an ongoing practice of I value
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  my life and that that value of my life is not in direct direct proportion to my busy
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  my productivity my programmed image of success and it's a day by day moment by moment practice
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  it's so I love how you call it practice I know brunet brown often talks about its work
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  but not like in this sense that you've got a job work it's working on us yeah and it's
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  not because I'm a recovering perfectionist so I need to know that it's a practice and
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  I'm not going to get it exactly we got it and that's one of the things with this podcast
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  it's like I just had to do it and it's not perfect and this is actually the first episode
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  that I'm going to throw on YouTube which is a little scary so we're doing the video part
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  and but every episode I try to add a little difference a little add a little bit more
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  learn something new so it's it's yeah we try to everything has to be perfect to start
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  and sometimes you just got to start and that's what I did with that and I know you're looking
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  at doing a podcast or something similar yes so I'm excited to see that and hopefully what
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  I'm doing can teach you some things and we can work together things together so yes looking
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  forward to it in fact I think this message is a message that that a lot of people have
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  resonated with so I'm excited to have more of it out there I'm coaching a few people
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  now around it so to actually take it as a message that to support people in this process
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  I'm excited about I am so grateful for you coaching me on it that I have my practice
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  phone call every two weeks and it's ongoing and as you are a great coach that you coach
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  me that there's a lot of self coaching going on because of what you taught me and working
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  on us so what encouragement would you give somebody else to be courageous and actually
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  I heard something on a podcast or something the last couple days they use the word encouragement
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  and I just this just Chris this just just hit me that encouragement they said was courage
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  within was encouragement which was what we're talking about so you know from the inside
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  out so what would you suggest what encouragement will you give somebody to be courageous or
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  work on themselves or evaluate their life or well I think asking ourselves are we truly
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  living that life that we desire without selling out to the supposed to have or supposed to
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  be you know really coming to that core of what is my definition of success for me what
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  does it look like what does it taste like smell like feel like sound like what are all
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  of the parts of that in detail visualizing it in a way that is powerful and I can actually
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  feel it come alive in me like that I think is a step in this process that is revealing
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  and really beautiful and when we open ourselves to possibility possibility is one of my favorite
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  words so what would be possible if I began that journey if that experience inside of
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  me of what my definition of success looks like not what it's supposed to be not what
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  I've been taught but what I really want and desire and committed to having what would
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  be possible in that journey because I think sometimes we hold back because we just don't
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  know we can't see we don't have the whole picture it's a little unclear and so if we
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  can begin with that place and open ourselves to all of the possibilities and it could be
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  really beautiful.
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  Yeah, never know.
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  And so I always at the end connect because this podcast was an honor my father and I
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  always try to connect back to my dad and I interviewed somebody she's like I never met
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  your dad which of course you didn't either crystal but that's not about what it is it's
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  about what we talk about that is kind of the legacy he left so lots of things popped up
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  one saying that you wanted to you know what mattered to you paying attention to that and
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  what does you want what's your life to stand for and look like and my dad definitely left
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  a legacy that and I probably mentioned this many times that there's people that I know
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  I grew up with that said my dad had more conversation with my father than they did their own father
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  and he left that legacy and he made a difference and just like you he was great at asking questions
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  made you come up with the answer now very frustrating when you're in high school at
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  midnight trying to do your homework but you know he wanted to make a difference and he
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  actually started the rest in chamber not because he had local business but he was raising a
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  family of six kids in this community and wanted to make a difference and be a part of it and
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  so you know and talking about possibilities and he there was never a problem that he thought
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  was a problem there was always an option and let's look at this and let's look at that
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  I was talking to somebody the other day and he said she's like your dad always like was
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  thinking 100 steps ahead like creative ideas and looking at the possible and crazy ideas
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  like really but you know some of his crazy ideas have come to pass and the legacy he
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  left not only on me but people in the community and my family and it keeps getting passed on
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  and hopefully this why not today will connect keep going but yeah it's looking at what's
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  important he was not always you know I wasn't in the cookie cutter like what he's supposed
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  to do he owned his business which I think encouraged me to own my own business and thought
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  outside the box and was creative and we actually kind of a crazy story when I was 16 my parents
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  bought a camper and at that point there were only five of us Amanda wasn't born yet but
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  we went on a cross country trip for five weeks.
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  Catherine my sister was five weeks old when we went.
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  Now as a 16 year old the last place you want to be with is your family and your sister
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  that's five weeks old looking back the fact that he sacrificed and did that for us and
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  I mean it was a great adventure but it was he was enjoying life and enjoyed life till
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  the minute he died basically kept going so yeah lots of connections which is really
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  kind of cool so any parting words or anything you want to share or how do people find you
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  know people can find me just via my email in this moment which is healing the hustle
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  at gmail.com and I'll share this too with all that would be great yeah that'd be great
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  and this is an adventure this moving into spacious living is an adventure and and what
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  again what would be possible if we could have it come from that perspective like what is
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  the next step in this awesome adventure called my life and what can happen from that place.
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  Yeah I'm excited that being part of this adventure with you so thank you so much for being on
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  here and sharing your story and I love that we've been in a whole different way and hopefully
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  teaching people some things today you can find the why not today podcast on Spotify
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  iTunes we're working on a website and working on some other things but also working with
• 34:53
  the promotional company to come out with some merchandise so I think I've shared it before
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  but we have a why not today cups to remind you why not today and the logo on here if
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  you don't know me or my dad he actually this was his logo he had an eye patch and a handle
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  of our mustache so we affectionately call this flat pat and so I do have a t-shirt I'm
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  very casual today but these are new t-shirts I just made that have a flat pat on the back
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  it says why not today so I'm working with this promotional company last weekend we have long
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  sleeve short sleeves men's women's we're kind of playing around with it so if anybody's
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  interested in some why not today gear I actually have a vinyl for your car like why not today
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  and I kind of a funny story to add to this is last weekend a friend of mine I was out
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  of town four hours away at a lake and a friend of mine was having a hard day Saturday morning
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  she came to water my plants and I'm like why don't you go to the lake oh I got a clean
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  she was gonna paint her closet and she had her day very much scheduled she got up at
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  six o'clock and had her complete to do was scheduled by the time she had to do it and
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  I was like why don't you just come it was like 80 degrees no humidity beautiful I'm
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  like you could be here this afternoon and finally we're like why not today and she jumped
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  in the car and was literally there 24 hours and had the best time exactly what she needed
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  and who cares about the to do list thing sometimes you just need to say why not today and enjoy
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  life because it may be raining and hot first next week but take advantage of it when you
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  can so yeah so thank you again for being on crystal thanks everybody for listening I'm
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  going to try to figure out a way to do some comments likes give away some stuff maybe
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  that'll be next week or the next one great so every other Saturday we debut a episode
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  of why not today if you know anybody that's interested as a great story let me know and
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  we'll share it so thanks again crystal thank you thank you my dear you are welcome.