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429. Signs you are in a Functional Freeze & how to break out of it · Do You F*cking Mind?

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Speaker 1: Hello, beautiful beans, and welcome to the podcast episode of Today.
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Speaker 1: Welcome to the episode of Today. So today's episode is
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Speaker 1: all about the functional freeze. I actually did like a
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Speaker 1: TikTok and I think an Instagram video on the functional freeze,
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Speaker 1: but after significant thought, I'm like, this deserves a whole
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Speaker 1: episode on what is a functional freeze because we all
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Speaker 1: know about the fight or flight or freeze response when
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Speaker 1: we are, you know, in a position of like extreme
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Speaker 1: fear or trauma. But here we're referring to a functional
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Speaker 1: freeze where you are kind of this is the kind
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Speaker 1: of ware like you struggle to take action on things.
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Speaker 1: You're kind of like you feel like you're stuck. You
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Speaker 1: can't like in bed, and like you feel like you
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Speaker 1: don't want to hang out with people. Every day is
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Speaker 1: just ticking buy and nothing's really happening. But you're still
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Speaker 1: functioning in life, like you're still maintaining your employment, you're
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Speaker 1: doing the things that you need to be doing, but
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Speaker 1: you kind of feel like it's just one day after another.
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Speaker 1: You're just slogging it out and you're not excited about anything.
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Speaker 1: You're doom scrolling all the time. Life feel like it
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Speaker 1: doesn't really have that much of a purpose or a meaning.
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Speaker 1: That's a functional freeze. Okay, So I'm going to give
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Speaker 1: you signs that you're in a functional freeze and things
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Speaker 1: that you can do to lift yourself out of that
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Speaker 1: functional freeze. And I'm going to tell you what causes
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Speaker 1: a functional freeze. While you might find yourself in this situation,
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Speaker 1: We're going to go all into that because I think
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Speaker 1: it's extremely prevalent and I think some people will kind
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Speaker 1: of float in and out of a functional freeze, depending
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Speaker 1: which stage in their life that they are at before
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Speaker 1: we do that life update. Life is good, Everything's great. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just trying to think when this
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Speaker 1: episode will come out. No, I wouldn't have done the
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Speaker 1: puzzle comp by that, because the puzzle comp is in
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Speaker 1: like a week and a half, so I'm very very stressed.
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Speaker 1: I've got to get like T shirts made up. Anyway,
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Speaker 1: I'll keep you updated on how that puzzle comp goes,
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Speaker 1: but by the time you guys listen to this, I
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Speaker 1: still would not have done the puzzle competition so stage
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Speaker 1: and for that anyway, we do have a brain fact
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Speaker 1: for the day. And the brain fact is a short
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Speaker 1: and sweet one but pretty interesting. And this is why
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Speaker 1: do people get the munchies when they get stoned? Okay,
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Speaker 1: so the munchi's effect of marijuana. Technically, it's actually the
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Speaker 1: effect of THHC, which is the psychoactive component of cannabis. Okay. Now, THHC,
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Speaker 1: for those playing at homes, is actually like short for
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Speaker 1: tetra hydroca cannabinol. Tetro hydrocannabinol. Say that fast ten times
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Speaker 1: in a row. So basically this has got to do
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Speaker 1: with the interaction between THHC, that psychoactive component, and the
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Speaker 1: brains cannabinoid receptors, in particular the CB one receptors. Okay.
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Speaker 1: So THHC, when like whatever you take it in, whichever
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Speaker 1: way you take it, binds to these CB one receptors.
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Speaker 1: They are also c B two receptors, but we're talking
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Speaker 1: about c B one receptors here. So let's just first
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Speaker 1: talk about something called the endocannabinoid system ENDO, meaning within
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Speaker 1: the body, produced by the body. Okay, So we have
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Speaker 1: a cannabinoid system within our body. We produce endocannabinoids, We
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Speaker 1: produce our own cannabinoids within the body, okay. And it
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Speaker 1: is this complex part of the brain and body, regulating
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Speaker 1: energy balance, feeding behaviors, among many other things. But one
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Speaker 1: of the big roles that it plays is it regulates
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Speaker 1: feeding behaviors and energy balance. Okay. And it is, like
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Speaker 1: I said, produced within the body, and it is very
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Speaker 1: similar to THCHC. Obviously, it doesn't make it doesn't have
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Speaker 1: a psychoactic psychoactive component, the ENDO one, the endocannabinoid one,
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Speaker 1: but as far as how it binds, so THHC is
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Speaker 1: also a cannabinoid just exogenous, not endogenous, and it binds
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Speaker 1: to the same receptors that the endogenous ones bind two. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so we produce our own and we also get cannabinoids
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Speaker 1: from the external environment as well, like a lot of
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Speaker 1: things same as like like morphine, We've got endorphins. You know,
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Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that exist in the outside
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Speaker 1: world on a chemical level that we have kind of
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Speaker 1: our own endogenously produced version within the body. That is
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Speaker 1: why a lot of drugs will bind to these particular
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Speaker 1: receptors because the receptors exist therefore, the endogenously produced ones.
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Speaker 1: It's really really cool. So they mimic how like the
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Speaker 1: way the body produces its own, but on a much
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Speaker 1: higher level and more intense level, and that's why people
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Speaker 1: seek it out. So it's a naturally endocannabinoids, it's naturally
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Speaker 1: coccurring chemical in the body. They act as messengers similar
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Speaker 1: to neurotransmitters, and the two main ones are endocannabinoids and
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Speaker 1: nandivind I won't go into that, this is just getting
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Speaker 1: too complicated, but basically, these molecules bind to these receptors
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Speaker 1: and they initiate physiological responses. Okay, Now, these receptors are
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Speaker 1: these proteins that are located on the surface of the
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Speaker 1: cell bodies. I've spoken about receptors a fucking thousand times.
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Speaker 1: If you've been around long enough listening to my podcast,
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Speaker 1: you would have heard so many pharmacology brain facts that
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Speaker 1: I've gone through on you know, opioids, on the ketamaine.
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Speaker 1: I've covered it all. So as you know, these receptors
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Speaker 1: are protein is located on the surface of the cell
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Speaker 1: and c B one receptors, which is what we're talking
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Speaker 1: about today, and the munch is and all of that
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Speaker 1: are primarily found in the brain and the central nervous system,
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Speaker 1: while CB two receptors are more prevalent in the peripheral
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Speaker 1: nervous system, immune cells and all of that. Now, enzymes
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Speaker 1: are responsible for this synthesis and degradation of endocannabinoids. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so they ensure these enzymes within the body are going
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Speaker 1: to ensure that the endocannabinoid levels are appropriate from maintaining
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Speaker 1: balance within the body. If they need more, they're going
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Speaker 1: to synthesize more, and if they need less, they're gonna
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Speaker 1: there's gonna be like a degradation process to how less. Now,
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Speaker 1: when it binds to a receptor. When this endocannabinoids bind
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Speaker 1: to receptor, it triggers like a response, and it can
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Speaker 1: affect the body in a whole bunch of ways. So,
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Speaker 1: in particular, this endocannabinoid system regulates sleep, mood and appetite,
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Speaker 1: sleepwake cycles, emotional responses, eating behaviors, pain, and inflammation. It
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Speaker 1: plays a huge role in pain management and moderating immune response.
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Speaker 1: That's why a lot of people take THCHC for inflammation
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Speaker 1: and pain, and it's very effective for that. Motor control,
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Speaker 1: memory and learning, cognitive functions, the ability to learn and remember,
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Speaker 1: and then of course a whole bunch of other functions. Now,
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Speaker 1: don't come at me being like, oh my god, my
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Speaker 1: cousin gets stoned every afternoon and he can't remember anything.
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Speaker 1: We're talking about endocannabinoids at this point, and we're talking
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Speaker 1: about THHC in particular doses. If someone's a pothead and
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Speaker 1: they're smoking all the fucking time, you can't compare the
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Speaker 1: effects on the body that that would have versus someone
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Speaker 1: taking medicinal cannabis to treat inflammation or something like that. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so the poison is in the dose, So don't look
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Speaker 1: at one case study of one person who you know
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Speaker 1: forgets everything because they get stoned all the time and
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Speaker 1: think that must equal this. Okay, So the poison is
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Speaker 1: in the dose. The dose determines the effect. Now let's
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Speaker 1: go into this whole munchies thing. So researchers at Washington
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Speaker 1: State University publish their findings which reveal that cannabis activates
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Speaker 1: this specific bunch of neurons in the hypothalamous region of
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Speaker 1: the brain, and this is what stimulates hunger. So this
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Speaker 1: particular neuron within this media medial basal hypothalamus is called
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Speaker 1: the AGERP neurons, which is the Agauti regulated peptide neurons.
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Speaker 1: You don't need to remember that. So this is kind
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Speaker 1: of what we're seeing that's responsible for appetite suppression. So
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Speaker 1: when you increase the activation of that particular neuron, it's
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Speaker 1: what leads to a feeling of hunger. So the brain
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Speaker 1: is always in a state of regulating the activity of
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Speaker 1: those neurons, so we're not always feeling hungry, so we're
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Speaker 1: not always seeking out energy sources and food. That way,
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Speaker 1: we can shift our focus to other things. If we've
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Speaker 1: got the significant energy levels that we need that needs
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Speaker 1: to be inhibited that part of the brain needs to
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Speaker 1: switch off temporarily, right because we are satisfied. So then
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Speaker 1: these neurons, you know, inhibit and then we're not feeling hungry.
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Speaker 1: We're shifting our focus to other things. So it's an
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Speaker 1: inhibitory action. It's telling these neurons not to fire. Therefore,
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Speaker 1: do not send signals that you are hungry. But THHC
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Speaker 1: seems to disrupt this regulation mechanism, and that's what Then
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Speaker 1: it causes these neurons that are sending inhibitory signals to
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Speaker 1: fire less or to not fire at all. So you're
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Speaker 1: basically saying, don't do your job right. So then because
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Speaker 1: we're not getting inhibition, these AgRP neurons go crazy and
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Speaker 1: they fire as they want, and then this results in
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Speaker 1: feeling a whole more hungry. This result in you're getting
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Speaker 1: the munch is when you have THHC. In other studies,
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Speaker 1: we see that when CB one receptors are activated this
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Speaker 1: there's like an increased desire to eat. There's a boost.
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Speaker 1: This in a group of cells called the pro opiomelan
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Speaker 1: melanocorton neurons also known as POMC neurons. Also in the
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Speaker 1: hypothalamus and they are responsible for feelings of satiety and
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Speaker 1: suppressing appetite. So these neurons release a peptide called alpha
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Speaker 1: MSH which tells the brain that the body is now full.
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Speaker 1: So it's kind of similar mechanism as what I was
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Speaker 1: just talking about. And when these receptors are activated, it
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Speaker 1: inherit it inhibits this full feeling. It's again inhibiting these neurons,
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Speaker 1: and therefore it's reducing how much of that peptide is released,
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Speaker 1: and then of course that signal of being full is reduced,
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Speaker 1: and therefore we're hungry and we're seeking out food and
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Speaker 1: energy sources. So, as you can see, there's a whole
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Speaker 1: bunch of different pathways that influences CVA one receptors. When
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Speaker 1: you take TCHC that give you the munches. Now, interestingly,
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Speaker 1: or maybe not interestingly, people that have the munches when
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Speaker 1: they get stoned are not necessarily overweight. They're not more
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Speaker 1: overweight than what they would have been. And this tends
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Speaker 1: to be a combination of a few things. One of
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Speaker 1: the reasons could be that normally, after the effects of
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Speaker 1: THHC has worn off, they're just not hungry for another
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Speaker 1: period of time, So it kind of their energy, they're
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Speaker 1: even at the energy balance. Or another reason is that
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Speaker 1: if you something are a very regular user of THCHC cannabis,
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Speaker 1: the effects kind of get less and less and wears
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Speaker 1: off in regular uses. It's kind of like you kind
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Speaker 1: of what's the word for it, basically where you can't
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Speaker 1: think of the word, but where you become kind of
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Speaker 1: immune to it in a sense. Now let's get straight
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Speaker 1: into the episode topic of today, and we are talking about,
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Speaker 1: of course, the functional freeze. So the first thing we're
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Speaker 1: going to do is what does the functional freeze of
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Speaker 1: look like? What exactly is it? How is it impacting
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Speaker 1: your life? So it's I'm just going to rattle off
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Speaker 1: a whole bunch of things and you can just yell
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Speaker 1: at yep, that's me, Yes, I feel this. Oh my god,
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Speaker 1: what the fuck am I doing with my life? So
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Speaker 1: it's this feeling of having a lot to do, It's
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Speaker 1: kind of always being in between parts, in between tasks
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Speaker 1: and kind of pausing and not actually ever getting much
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Speaker 1: done at all except for the urgent things that have
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Speaker 1: to be done. It's binging TV shows or staying on
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Speaker 1: your phone when you know you have a lot on
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Speaker 1: So it's almost like, oh my god, there's all this
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Speaker 1: stuff I've got to do. There's all these emails and
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Speaker 1: text messages that I've got to reply to. So instead,
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Speaker 1: I'm just gonna zone out and watch seven episodes of
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Speaker 1: this TV show, or I'm going to be on my
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Speaker 1: phone and whatever, or I'm going to like you just
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Speaker 1: you go like not not fucking dealing with this, and
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Speaker 1: I'm going to just pacify myself doom scrolling. Of course,
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Speaker 1: finding it really hard to be self motivated a task.
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Speaker 1: The keyword here is self motivated. Okay, so you're more
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Speaker 1: able to do something if the motivation is external, And
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Speaker 1: what I mean by that is, you know, not being
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Speaker 1: late for a job, paying your bills when the consequences
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Speaker 1: are external and they're high. If you don't do it,
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Speaker 1: you are able to still carry those out. That is
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Speaker 1: why it's called a functional freeze. You can still function
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Speaker 1: to a significant extent, but in a way that you
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Speaker 1: still feel extremely flat and unsatisfied with your life. So yeah,
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Speaker 1: if the motivation is external, you're likely going to get
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Speaker 1: it done. You will rock up to your job, for example.
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Speaker 1: It impacts many areas of your life, but you can't
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Speaker 1: really pinpoint where it's stemming from So it's kind of
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Speaker 1: like a background noise or a fuzz. You can't be
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Speaker 1: like it's this exact thing that's caused me to feel
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Speaker 1: this way. So if this sounds like you, fucking listen on,
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Speaker 1: because you're gonna learn a whole bunch of like tools
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Speaker 1: to kind of deal with it and break out of
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Speaker 1: it and feel better about yourself and start repro your reality. Now,
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Speaker 1: it's not really a diagnosis. This is it's not as
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Speaker 1: far as you know psychology and psychiatry is concerned. The
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Speaker 1: functional phrase is not a diagnosis, but it is a
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Speaker 1: behavior that is observed more and more and more often. Okay,
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Speaker 1: so it's almost like a symptom. This is not the
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Speaker 1: same as a fear response of fight or flight or freeze,
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Speaker 1: where this is triggered by trauma like an accident, abuse,
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Speaker 1: something significant that has happened that at times can result
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Speaker 1: in a full freeze where you are unable to even
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Speaker 1: work or do the regular things in your life. So
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Speaker 1: that's a full trauma response. This functional phrase refers more
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Speaker 1: to the fact that you are still functioning at a
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Speaker 1: certain degree. But think of it like a functioning alcoholic,
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Speaker 1: Like it's still a major problem, but you're getting by
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Speaker 1: in life, and other people may not notice that there
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Speaker 1: is this underlying problem. Other symptoms. It's on good low
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Speaker 1: lying anxiety. It affects your physical, emotional, and mental state.
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Speaker 1: It's often due to burn out, stress, chronic stress, and
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Speaker 1: a sense like a lack of purpose, like I do
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Speaker 1: I feel a bit stuck. I'm not really sure what
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Speaker 1: I'm doing with my life. You've got less motivational desire
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Speaker 1: to do the things that you know will make you
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Speaker 1: feel better. You avoid replying to people, calls, you cancel plans.
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Speaker 1: You're more likely to isolate. You're more exhausted and fatigued
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Speaker 1: than normal physically, so feeling like you need to rest,
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Speaker 1: but never actually feeling well rested. And then, of course
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Speaker 1: other physical problems may arise from that from due to
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Speaker 1: issues with your sleep and things like that. Other things
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Speaker 1: are feeling disconnected from what you know, from your current reality,
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Speaker 1: from what you're doing, Feeling disconnected to your close relationships
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Speaker 1: and to your job or your career or whatever it
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Speaker 1: is that you are doing with your life. Okay, Avoidance,
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Speaker 1: feeling like you're dissociating, less interested in social outings when
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Speaker 1: you used to be interested in social outings. So if
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Speaker 1: you're someone that's listening to this, being like, but I've
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Speaker 1: never wanted to go out, you might just be an introvert,
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Speaker 1: and that's perfectly fine. But if you're someone that's always
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Speaker 1: been interested in social outings and all of a sudden
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Speaker 1: it's just a fucking mission to do it, along with
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Speaker 1: the other symptoms, that might be a sign of the
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Speaker 1: functional phrase. So, like I said, why is it happening?
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Speaker 1: It just ultimately comes down to there's too much on
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Speaker 1: your plate. Whether it's physical or whether it's mental load,
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Speaker 1: there is too much on your plate, and then it
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Speaker 1: feels like you're falling behind on tasks. It's stacking up.
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Speaker 1: This mountain is being created right next to you, and
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Speaker 1: you're looking at that being like I can't. I cannot,
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Speaker 1: it's too overwhelming. I can't. And then you just you ignore,
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Speaker 1: you ignore, you turn a blind eye. I can't deal
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Speaker 1: with that right now. Now. Another thing that's happening here
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Speaker 1: is too much stimulation. So in an effort to reduce
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Speaker 1: this stimulation, we do things to distract ourselves. But what's
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Speaker 1: wrong with our coping mechanism is that by distracting ourselves
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Speaker 1: from this too much stimulation we're increasing stimulation, we're still overthinking,
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Speaker 1: we're still consuming way too much via TVs, via our phones.
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Speaker 1: The rest that we give ourselves is not adequate rest.
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Speaker 1: So the rest that we think that we're giving ourselves
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Speaker 1: doesn't really exist. And then it's kind of like a
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Speaker 1: never ending loop. And that's when you get really down
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Speaker 1: on yourself, and that's when you bedro and doom scroll
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Speaker 1: and do all of the things sense sense. So now
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Speaker 1: let's go into the tools to have of how we're
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Speaker 1: going to stop the functional freeze. Now, the first thing
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Speaker 1: I'm going to cover is something that I actually mentioned
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Speaker 1: in the last episode, and I'm going to go a
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Speaker 1: little bit more in depth about it, and it is
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Speaker 1: the fallacy of resting on social media. Now I don't
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Speaker 1: and it sounds like I'm demonizing social media. I kind
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Speaker 1: of am to an extent. I'm demonizing over use of
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Speaker 1: social media because I use social media, and I actually
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Speaker 1: find social media like great if you can really curate
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Speaker 1: it for exactly what you want, like exactly what you want,
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Speaker 1: and it can be very very good. I follow a
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Speaker 1: lot of neuroscience accounts, like really interesting facts like history things,
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Speaker 1: interior design, some good fashion whatever, like it could be
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Speaker 1: epic if you do it properly. But I think the
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Speaker 1: main issue that we're talking about here is over use
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Speaker 1: of social media. We're kind of like a bit of
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Speaker 1: a zombie to our screens. That's a problem. So the
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Speaker 1: fallacy of resting with social media is that you do
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Speaker 1: not rest as your emotional centers are in overdrive. There
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Speaker 1: are so many parts of the brain that are active
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Speaker 1: and stimulated when you are on your phone engaging in
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Speaker 1: content content content, content content more so than watching TV,
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Speaker 1: way more okay, visual emotional. The dopamine system is getting depleted,
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Speaker 1: leaving you feeling flat and demotivated. At no point ever,
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Speaker 1: is being on your phone appropriate rest. Be on your phone,
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Speaker 1: but don't kid yourself saying that that's your rest time.
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Speaker 1: So if you're going to be on your phone for
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Speaker 1: thirty minutes, do it, but you still haven't rested. So
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Speaker 1: when is your rest time? When are you going to
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Speaker 1: allocate time to rest? That's my main thing. My main
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Speaker 1: thing is when people are delusional and kid themselves, and
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Speaker 1: that's we're not about that, very off brand for it.
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Speaker 1: Do you fucking mind a listener? So be on your phone,
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Speaker 1: just own be accountable, being like thirty minutes on my phone.
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Speaker 1: I love it, fucking love the shit. I'm going to
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Speaker 1: do it good. But you haven't fucking rested. So now
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Speaker 1: that I've done that, how am I going to rest
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Speaker 1: moving forward? Okay, let's quickly go into that before I
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Speaker 1: go into the other tools. So while it might feel
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Speaker 1: relaxing to be on your phone, this constant strength of
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Speaker 1: information actually keeps your brain in a very alert, active state,
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Speaker 1: similar to how your brain would be when it reacts
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Speaker 1: to a stressor So this constant stimulation leads to reduced
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Speaker 1: attention span difficulty focusing, and then, of course, reduced attention
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Speaker 1: and difficulty focusing is going to affect other areas of
19:55
Speaker 1: your life. When you're really frustrated because you can't remember things,
19:59
Speaker 1: you feel really scattered, you feel like you can't hold
20:01
Speaker 1: focus on anything. Everything is harder when your attention span
20:06
Speaker 1: and your focus is reduced. Now, this is what's happening.
20:08
Speaker 1: Dopamine release. Social media, of course releases a lot of dopamine,
20:12
Speaker 1: and it creates this cycle of seeking more and more dopamine.
20:15
Speaker 1: But every time you get a quick hit of dopamin
20:18
Speaker 1: that isn't really earnt, Like we haven't gone for the run.
20:21
Speaker 1: We haven't done, you know, I talk about dopamine and
20:23
Speaker 1: easy dopamine, like cheap dopemin. Then you get this spike
20:28
Speaker 1: and then a dip below baseline. Then we seek the
20:30
Speaker 1: spike again, very addictive. It's this intermittent reinforcement that is
20:34
Speaker 1: like the underlying reason for addiction. The next thing is
20:40
Speaker 1: over stimulation, like I mentioned, so this influx of information notifications,
20:44
Speaker 1: you know, keeps us in this hyper arousal so we
20:48
Speaker 1: can't actually rest and recover. I think a lot of
20:50
Speaker 1: people are so used to being on their phones at
20:52
Speaker 1: any given moment because they're terrified to be bored, that
20:55
Speaker 1: they don't actually know what it's like to have deep
20:57
Speaker 1: rest when they're not asleep. They just don't know. They've
21:00
Speaker 1: forgotten what it feels like. Okay, so a lot of
21:02
Speaker 1: people are like, oh, but that sounds boring. You have
21:04
Speaker 1: no fucking idea what it feels like. Then you have
21:06
Speaker 1: forgotten how good it is to just rest, and we
21:10
Speaker 1: are designed to be able to do that, so you
21:12
Speaker 1: need to rediscover that ability. The other one is reduced
21:15
Speaker 1: attention span. So because social media content is so fragmented, right,
21:20
Speaker 1: it becomes harder to concentrate on tasks that do require
21:23
Speaker 1: sustained focus. It doesn't destroy your ability to focus. You
21:27
Speaker 1: are just conditioning yourself to mate for things to be
21:32
Speaker 1: harder to focus when it's more of a longer stretch
21:34
Speaker 1: of time. So I don't like it when people say
21:36
Speaker 1: social media has ruined our attention span. No, everything's about conditioning.
21:40
Speaker 1: You can get it back, but it requires effort. Okay,
21:43
Speaker 1: so it is you are temporarily have conditioned yourself to
21:46
Speaker 1: have shit focus and that's what you're doing right now.
21:48
Speaker 1: Of course, it impacts your sleep. I don't need to
21:50
Speaker 1: go into that because you know obviously the light and
21:53
Speaker 1: the stimulation and the dopamine, all of that's going to
21:55
Speaker 1: impact your sleep. And then excessive social media use leads
22:00
Speaker 1: to kind of like brain rots, which is not actually
22:04
Speaker 1: your brain rotting. It's just a term where you're constantly
22:08
Speaker 1: stimulated but you're not ever engaging in a meaningful activity. Okay,
22:12
Speaker 1: So overall this is what happens. It's going to lower
22:15
Speaker 1: your attention span, your impulse control, your sleep quality, your memory,
22:18
Speaker 1: and your cognitive function. Fucking has that. Fucking take my money.
22:23
Speaker 1: I'd love more of that. And basically the and then
22:37
Speaker 1: of course, that's going to affect your happiness. You tell me,
22:40
Speaker 1: you mentioned one person to me, one person that you
22:43
Speaker 1: know that has lower attention span, impulse control problems, sleep
22:47
Speaker 1: quality problems, memory problems, and cognitive function problems. Who's happier?
22:51
Speaker 1: They're not happy, okay, because it's affecting every area of
22:54
Speaker 1: your life. When all these things take a hit, your
22:57
Speaker 1: mental health takes a hit, your mood, your happiness will
23:00
Speaker 1: take a hit. So you become at the mercy of
23:04
Speaker 1: everything around you. And that's one of the key things
23:07
Speaker 1: that I want to want to get into you when
23:09
Speaker 1: it comes to this functional freeze, is you become a
23:13
Speaker 1: victim to your surroundings. You don't feel like you are
23:16
Speaker 1: in control with your life. That is one of the
23:18
Speaker 1: key underlying feelings that I want you to identify. So
23:22
Speaker 1: you've got all these symptoms that I mentioned, I mentioned
23:24
Speaker 1: like about one thy fifty, but ultimately you feel like
23:28
Speaker 1: you don't have control, You're a victim. You're at the mercy. Okay,
23:31
Speaker 1: you don't have autonomy, and this these behaviors are taking
23:35
Speaker 1: away from that autonomy, which you you could get back
23:40
Speaker 1: relatively easily. So that's the fallacy of resting with social media.
23:44
Speaker 1: The other thing that's really important is low stimulation zones.
23:48
Speaker 1: To start creating low stimulation zones. After everything I just
23:53
Speaker 1: told you about the brain, you got to think, how
23:54
Speaker 1: the fuck am I going to reset this lump inside
23:58
Speaker 1: my skull to feel a bit more relaxed and to
24:00
Speaker 1: be able to get to doing a task. You know
24:03
Speaker 1: how when like your computer's having a meltdown, and they
24:06
Speaker 1: always say, well have you try and switching it off
24:07
Speaker 1: and turning it back on again, and you're like, oh,
24:10
Speaker 1: but actually, what is happening is sometimes too many things
24:15
Speaker 1: are open within this system, this operating system, and then
24:18
Speaker 1: the operating system has like layered all these things and
24:20
Speaker 1: lay it and lay it and lay it and lay
24:21
Speaker 1: it and later, and then it becomes really clunky and
24:23
Speaker 1: unable to perform a pretty basic task. You get the
24:26
Speaker 1: spinning wheel of death. It's really clunky. When you turn
24:28
Speaker 1: it off, it shuts bang bang bango bang mag It
24:30
Speaker 1: closes everything down and it restarts it from scratch. So
24:34
Speaker 1: it sounds stupid, but we should be doing this without
24:36
Speaker 1: computers because it makes sense that then instead of this
24:39
Speaker 1: operating system taking forever to get to the information that
24:42
Speaker 1: it needs, you've switched it off, you've rebooted it, and
24:45
Speaker 1: then it's like bang, I can access this information a
24:47
Speaker 1: whole lot easier. That's your brain. That is your fucking brain.
24:50
Speaker 1: We need to go into a low stimulation zone, kind
24:52
Speaker 1: of like restarting a computer and getting it to the
24:55
Speaker 1: point where like, if I allow myself this low stimulation zone,
24:59
Speaker 1: I am like restarting a computer, my ability to access memories, information,
25:05
Speaker 1: maintain focus, to calm down, to keep my cool in
25:09
Speaker 1: a stressful situation, to not be reactive, to become creative.
25:13
Speaker 1: That all is easily accessible if I've allowed that restart
25:18
Speaker 1: in my brain, like my own computer. So you do
25:22
Speaker 1: this through low stimulation zones, wakeful low stimulation zones. So
25:28
Speaker 1: this is walks with no music, nothing, just go for
25:32
Speaker 1: a walk and pay attention to the sounds that you
25:34
Speaker 1: do here on your walk. This is reading a book
25:38
Speaker 1: with no background noise as in like no like music
25:41
Speaker 1: or this or that, like no double stimulation, just reading
25:43
Speaker 1: a book, wakeful, deep rest. So that's not even meditating,
25:48
Speaker 1: that's just you being like I'm going to get home
25:50
Speaker 1: and sit on my couch and just fucking close my
25:53
Speaker 1: eyes and just think. And sometimes it might be a
25:55
Speaker 1: lot of thoughts. Sometimes you can start daydreaming about this.
25:58
Speaker 1: Then before you know, you're thinking about the d de tails,
26:00
Speaker 1: about this holiday that you went on two years ago
26:01
Speaker 1: that was so fun. All of that is wakeful, deep rest. Okay.
26:05
Speaker 1: We're just allowing our mind to be free. We're not
26:07
Speaker 1: trying to control it. It's loose. It's loose, okay, but
26:11
Speaker 1: with no external stimulation coming in time and nature is
26:15
Speaker 1: ideal if you have access to that. If you can
26:18
Speaker 1: get outside body of water or into a like a park,
26:23
Speaker 1: national park, or even like a public park where you're
26:25
Speaker 1: near with the trees and you can hear, that's huge
26:27
Speaker 1: for your mental health. There are so many studies that
26:29
Speaker 1: are done on like forest bathing, being outdoors, all of that,
26:34
Speaker 1: Like it's it's extremely underrated and very very good for
26:38
Speaker 1: creating these low stimulation zones to kind of reset the mind.
26:41
Speaker 1: So try and include one of these things. Excuse me,
26:48
Speaker 1: try and include one of these things every day if possible,
26:50
Speaker 1: in your life, even if it's only for like fifteen minutes,
26:52
Speaker 1: ten minutes, whatever it is, Okay. The other one is
26:56
Speaker 1: breathing and movement. I've gone over that a thousand times,
26:58
Speaker 1: but I'm going to go over it again. And you're
27:00
Speaker 1: going through that functional phrase and you're like, oh my god,
27:02
Speaker 1: I feel like I can't do anything. You don't even
27:05
Speaker 1: have to work on a task. What I want you
27:07
Speaker 1: to do when you identify this is, let's say you're
27:09
Speaker 1: scrolling on your phone whatever, just standing up and changing
27:12
Speaker 1: your physical state. I'm gonna change my posture. I'm gonna
27:14
Speaker 1: reach my hands above my head. I'm gonna take a
27:16
Speaker 1: few deep breaths. I'm gonna reset my nervous system, and
27:20
Speaker 1: then I'm just gonna pace up and down my house,
27:22
Speaker 1: my apartment, whatever, and then I'm gonna sit back down.
27:24
Speaker 1: You're gonna feel your state change. You're gonna feel calmer instantly,
27:29
Speaker 1: Gonna feel calmer, the karma you feel, the less aversive
27:33
Speaker 1: you are to tackle tasks that need to be done.
27:36
Speaker 1: So you might be like, oh, I actually feel a
27:38
Speaker 1: bit calmer. Maybe I can just reply to that one
27:41
Speaker 1: email that I should have replied to yesterday. It's just
27:44
Speaker 1: one email. I'll reply enough, feel like I've done something, Okay.
27:47
Speaker 1: So it's these little things where you're resetting your nervous system,
27:51
Speaker 1: where you calm yourself down and you think, oh, my god,
27:53
Speaker 1: what seemed insurmountable ten minutes ago is actually doable. It's
27:56
Speaker 1: only going to take me a couple of minutes. That's
27:58
Speaker 1: the beauty of changing your state through physical movement and
28:01
Speaker 1: through breath. Not to mention working out. I don't even
28:05
Speaker 1: have working out on this list, but working out is
28:07
Speaker 1: also going to be very very very very beneficial for
28:10
Speaker 1: your brain. But this is just something really simple that
28:12
Speaker 1: we can do in the moment. Okay, another thing that's
28:15
Speaker 1: very good for you is doing a brain dump. A
28:18
Speaker 1: brain dump is extremely underrated, and it is one of
28:21
Speaker 1: the best ways to start to overcome a functional freeze
28:23
Speaker 1: because right now, not only are we stressing with all
28:26
Speaker 1: these things we have to do plus avoiding, we also
28:29
Speaker 1: have the additional burden that we need to be remembering
28:32
Speaker 1: all these things and we're holding it in our mind.
28:34
Speaker 1: A brain dump is it feels like you are removing
28:39
Speaker 1: whatever's in your brain and putting it out on paper.
28:41
Speaker 1: Get it all out. What do I have to do
28:43
Speaker 1: for my home life, my work life might like? What
28:46
Speaker 1: life admin? Do I have to do? What's on this?
28:48
Speaker 1: To do this? What am I behind on? What is
28:51
Speaker 1: a deadline that is coming up? Get it all out
28:53
Speaker 1: on fucking paper. Get who have I not replied to who?
28:56
Speaker 1: It's all out on paper? Okay? You know you can
28:59
Speaker 1: type this out. This doesn't have to be one of
29:00
Speaker 1: the things that you physically write out, because sometimes I
29:02
Speaker 1: say you have to write it out. You have to
29:04
Speaker 1: do this one. You can type it out, it doesn't matter.
29:06
Speaker 1: But this two things are happening. Number One, you're relieving
29:09
Speaker 1: the pressure that you have to remember everything. But number two,
29:13
Speaker 1: as you are putting it down on paper or typing
29:16
Speaker 1: it out, you start to process it in a more
29:19
Speaker 1: logical way. It's not so aversive and emotional. You start
29:22
Speaker 1: to processing. You start to think, that's actually not that bad.
29:25
Speaker 1: If I actually did it, it actually wouldn't be that bad.
29:27
Speaker 1: Even if you're not even actioning the thing, you're already
29:29
Speaker 1: starting to mentally processing. You're like, oh, yep, it's doable
29:32
Speaker 1: for me. The two things. When I'm going through a
29:37
Speaker 1: really overwhelmed time and I'm going through a functional freeze,
29:41
Speaker 1: which I do go through. Mind you, It's not like
29:43
Speaker 1: I don't go through it because I've got this podcast.
29:45
Speaker 1: I absolutely go through it. The difference is that I
29:47
Speaker 1: then access these tools as quickly as possible, and then
29:49
Speaker 1: now you will too. And the two things for me
29:52
Speaker 1: that are the most effective out of everything I've just
29:55
Speaker 1: mentioned that I will is the brain dump that to
29:59
Speaker 1: me is every and the low stimulation zone. I will
30:02
Speaker 1: brain dump and then get the fuck out of the house. Unbelievable.
30:06
Speaker 1: I return home being like, come at me, what the
30:10
Speaker 1: fuck can I start tackling now? I'm fucking right out.
30:12
Speaker 1: Even if I don't tackle anything, even if I'm like,
30:14
Speaker 1: well it's night time now and whatever, but I'm like,
30:15
Speaker 1: I feel empowered. I feel like I'm in control of
30:17
Speaker 1: my life again. So simple, but you feel in control,
30:21
Speaker 1: write the things down, you begin to process it in
30:23
Speaker 1: your mind. Then you can categorize it. Go listen to
30:25
Speaker 1: my episode of two weeks ago about writing the best
30:27
Speaker 1: to do list. Ever, you can categorize it if you
30:29
Speaker 1: want or not. But it's a brain dump, and the
30:31
Speaker 1: brain dump is unbelievable as a form of therapy. Do
30:36
Speaker 1: it today, do it now? Okay? Then of course social time.
30:44
Speaker 1: This is so important for people going through a functional freeze. Okay,
30:49
Speaker 1: even when you're not in the mood, you have to
30:52
Speaker 1: do it. But you've got to be selective. I'm not saying,
30:55
Speaker 1: oh my god, you're going through a really high stimulated time,
30:59
Speaker 1: you're really overwhelmed. Why don't you go to the chlorobe
31:01
Speaker 1: I get fucked up, and then you're gonna feel like
31:02
Speaker 1: fucking it. Demon's rowing not talking about that, Okay. I
31:05
Speaker 1: mean you can if you want, if that's what float
31:08
Speaker 1: your boat. But what I'm talking about is often what
31:11
Speaker 1: happens is we'll be in a really high stress, very
31:15
Speaker 1: overwhelmed situation and then you've got a dinner planned and
31:19
Speaker 1: you're like, the last fucking thing I want to do
31:22
Speaker 1: is go to this dinner. So and then we kid
31:24
Speaker 1: ourselves because we say self love, self love, I'm gonna
31:27
Speaker 1: have a night to myself self love, which is all
31:29
Speaker 1: well and good, But then this is where we kid ourselves.
31:31
Speaker 1: We say that, but then we just sit around aware
31:34
Speaker 1: on our phone the whole time, and we're not actually
31:35
Speaker 1: doing something of self love. All we've done is isolate
31:38
Speaker 1: ourselves even more, shut ourselves off. And one of the
31:40
Speaker 1: biggest things for our mental health is real human connection.
31:44
Speaker 1: So it's trying to find the balance between yes, I
31:47
Speaker 1: need to be able to say no when I am
31:51
Speaker 1: too stimulated, when I got too much of my plate,
31:53
Speaker 1: because I'm a big advocate for not putting too much
31:55
Speaker 1: on your plate. But if I'm saying no to seeing
31:58
Speaker 1: my best friend when I just can't be fucked getting
32:02
Speaker 1: ready going after but I know that the interaction is
32:05
Speaker 1: very fulfilling. If I'm saying no to that but then
32:09
Speaker 1: doom scrolling, then I am deluded and I need to
32:13
Speaker 1: admit that. If I'm saying no because I'm planning to
32:17
Speaker 1: do a bit of a brain dump and some deep
32:19
Speaker 1: rest and i need to reset and I'm going to
32:21
Speaker 1: go for a long walk, then that's fine. So you've
32:24
Speaker 1: got to You've got to be real with yourself. I
32:26
Speaker 1: can't say self love as an excuse and then go
32:30
Speaker 1: and do something that's detrimental to my mental health because
32:33
Speaker 1: that's fucking bullshit. Okay, that's not what we're here for.
32:36
Speaker 1: So if that's you, it ends today. Human connection is
32:41
Speaker 1: one of the best things you can do for your
32:42
Speaker 1: mental health. So when I talk about social time as
32:46
Speaker 1: one of the best ways to overcome a functional freeze,
32:48
Speaker 1: is get very specific on who that time is going
32:50
Speaker 1: to be spent with, because there's certain people that drain
32:52
Speaker 1: you like nothing else. They're not the ones I'm talking
32:55
Speaker 1: about the people that you can really relax around, you
32:58
Speaker 1: can really be yourself around, you can vent, you can laugh.
33:02
Speaker 1: It's not that much effort because they just know you
33:04
Speaker 1: so well. They're the people. Then you're going to pick
33:06
Speaker 1: an environment where you're comfortable. I just want to go
33:08
Speaker 1: to that cafe down the road. I just want to
33:09
Speaker 1: have a mid morning coffee with them. I just want
33:11
Speaker 1: to walk down the markets with them, and just these
33:13
Speaker 1: little things. Doesn't have to be this flamboyant dinner or
33:16
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get my friend over. We're just going to
33:19
Speaker 1: cook some pasta together and then we you know, cook
33:22
Speaker 1: pasta together and maybe watch a rom com in the
33:25
Speaker 1: background while we're laughing about whatever it is. I'm gonna
33:28
Speaker 1: have a slideshow night with some friend. It doesn't matter,
33:30
Speaker 1: but social time, because you're going to realize that during
33:33
Speaker 1: that time, when it's a real connection, a proper connection
33:36
Speaker 1: with someone that you feel comfortable with well and obviously
33:40
Speaker 1: someone that you love, you start to calm down. You
33:42
Speaker 1: start to come down, calm down, calm down. Your oxytocin
33:45
Speaker 1: goes up, your serotonin goes up, you start to feel
33:47
Speaker 1: more grateful. This calms your brain oxytocin and serotonin have
33:51
Speaker 1: this beautiful effect where it makes you feel good but
33:54
Speaker 1: also stay relaxed. You then feel more connected. Everything is
33:58
Speaker 1: more in perspective. You feel feel more grateful, you feel happier,
34:02
Speaker 1: you sleep better. So one of the things that's the
34:05
Speaker 1: first to go with the functional freeze is real social connection.
34:08
Speaker 1: That's what going to be one of the first things
34:10
Speaker 1: to come back. Okay, isolation is not the answer. We
34:14
Speaker 1: will isolate ourselves under the excuse of I'm just too overwhelmed,
34:18
Speaker 1: I can't fit anything else on my plate. Be selective,
34:21
Speaker 1: be selective. But connection is everything. It's fucking everything. Okay.
34:26
Speaker 1: It is the line between having mental health and not
34:29
Speaker 1: having mental health. Real connection, So that is crucial. So
34:33
Speaker 1: you got to ask yourself, who are the people on
34:35
Speaker 1: that list that's going to be that There might only
34:37
Speaker 1: be two people that's fine, there might be one fine,
34:39
Speaker 1: And then what are the things that we could do
34:42
Speaker 1: that make me feel good with that person? And I
34:44
Speaker 1: want to go to a club, and I want to
34:45
Speaker 1: go to a bar. Maybe I want to do these things.
34:47
Speaker 1: Maybe I do want to go to a bar. Maybe
34:49
Speaker 1: I'm dying to go to that New Negroni bar. That
34:50
Speaker 1: just opened up in Sorry Hills? Can you tell that
34:52
Speaker 1: I'm just desperate for a Negroni? Anyway, Start a cute
34:55
Speaker 1: little reward system as well. The last one is start
34:57
Speaker 1: a small reward system. I want you to create a
35:01
Speaker 1: miniset of like rewards, whatever they may be. It could
35:04
Speaker 1: be like, for example, I love going to Yochi, but
35:08
Speaker 1: if it was up to me, I'd go to Yochi
35:09
Speaker 1: all the fucking time. And that's just really not realistic.
35:11
Speaker 1: So I could say, if I can record two episodes
35:16
Speaker 1: extra this week for my back catalog for when I
35:18
Speaker 1: go on maternity leave, then on Friday, I'm gonna treat
35:20
Speaker 1: myself and go out to Yochi. How fucking good is that?
35:23
Speaker 1: That's so doable. It's just a bit more work on
35:26
Speaker 1: my plate. But I've got something exciting to look forward,
35:28
Speaker 1: and I'll top it off, I'll go to Yochi with
35:30
Speaker 1: my cousins. So it's like double whammy. I love hanging
35:33
Speaker 1: out with my cousins. I fucking love gone too. So
35:35
Speaker 1: that's an easy, easy, easy reward for something that I
35:39
Speaker 1: could very easily also put off because it's self motivated, right,
35:43
Speaker 1: because I'm making myself do it. And if I don't
35:45
Speaker 1: do it, there's no major repercussion in the moment. Okay,
35:49
Speaker 1: there's no you know, I'm not really suffering if I
35:52
Speaker 1: don't do it right now. I'll suffer later, but not
35:54
Speaker 1: right now. So that's a really good example. Another one
35:57
Speaker 1: is at the end of the day, maybe there's like
35:59
Speaker 1: a little sweet treat that you love to have, and say, well,
36:02
Speaker 1: if I just do these, if I clear fifty emails
36:04
Speaker 1: out of my inbox, I'm gonna let myself have that
36:06
Speaker 1: timtam at the end of the night, whatever it is. Okay,
36:09
Speaker 1: every time I talk about rewards, it's always like sweet foods,
36:12
Speaker 1: and I don't want that to always be what your
36:14
Speaker 1: reward is. That just happens to be mine because I've
36:16
Speaker 1: got a swear tooth. But small rewards, delayed gratification is
36:20
Speaker 1: really a really nice way to start curbing how you
36:24
Speaker 1: approach things. And then, of course, I know I said
36:26
Speaker 1: that was it, but the simple ones that I'm just
36:31
Speaker 1: going to bang out back to back that I've just
36:33
Speaker 1: spoken about before many times of it. But it's like
36:35
Speaker 1: I said, working out hydration, be hydrated the whole time.
36:38
Speaker 1: That will really help you functional freeze, especially in the morning,
36:40
Speaker 1: lots of electrolytes, a balanced diet, Are you eating enough?
36:44
Speaker 1: Are we hungry and then binging on things that don't
36:47
Speaker 1: make us feel good and then we're really hungry again
36:49
Speaker 1: and then binging instead of just being like I'm going
36:52
Speaker 1: to be full in the morning, I'm gonna be full
36:53
Speaker 1: at fucking lunch time, and I'm gonna have a good dinner.
36:56
Speaker 1: You know, just back to fucking basics, like, actually is
36:59
Speaker 1: your diet? Are you eating enough of the right foods?
37:02
Speaker 1: Are you getting a good spectrum of your diet on
37:05
Speaker 1: your plate, not eating too close to bedtime and no
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Speaker 1: caffeine or alcohol too close to bedtime, alcohol couple hours beforehand.
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Speaker 1: I think it's around four or five. If you want
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Speaker 1: a good sleep, if you're out partying, fucking yollow. But
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Speaker 1: if you want a good sleep throughout the week, maybe
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Speaker 1: eliminate that red one with your dinner. If you're like
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Speaker 1: I need to fix up my sleep so I can
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Speaker 1: feel more engaged in the morning. And then caffeine. Really
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Speaker 1: you don't want anything strong after like probably two pm
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Speaker 1: if you're super sensitive after midday, and then if you
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Speaker 1: are somebody that is like alexis none of that fucking
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Speaker 1: shit works. I've tried everything, it doesn't work. Then there's
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Speaker 1: a big link also between like I said, low levels
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Speaker 1: of anxiety. If you have this functional freeze, but in
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Speaker 1: addition to that there is a deeper anxiety or a
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Speaker 1: deeper sense of depression going on, then of course this
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Speaker 1: is something that you would like might want to explore
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Speaker 1: cognitive behavioral therapy, speaking to a therapist. Also things like EMDR,
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Speaker 1: which is i'm of desensitization and reprocessing, which is another
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Speaker 1: form of therapy. So there are therapies that you can do.
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Speaker 1: If you feel like your functional freeze is more so
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Speaker 1: due to a very traumatic event that you can't move
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Speaker 1: past and it's actually impacting and you're not actually that
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Speaker 1: functional in your life, so it's gone beyond that functional freeze,
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Speaker 1: then this is something where therapy can really step in
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Speaker 1: because it gets to a point where if it's too overwhelming,
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Speaker 1: and if it's due to a traumatic event as well,
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Speaker 1: sometimes doing it on our own is not sufficient. Sometimes
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Speaker 1: this is what we need external support to guide us through,
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Speaker 1: like the right path. Okay, So CBT EMDR they're just
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Speaker 1: two examples. CBT is phenomenal for this kind of stuff,
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Speaker 1: and you like you can work through it with a
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Speaker 1: coach with well, like with an actual therapist. So that
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Speaker 1: is the episode of today. I hope you found it enlightening.
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Speaker 1: I hope it inspired you to go outside for a
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Speaker 1: fucking walk, do a brain dump, and then get your
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Speaker 1: friend over to cook some pasta. That is all for
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Speaker 1: today's episode. My beans, you are my beans for life,
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Speaker 1: and yeah, that's all. Love you guys so much, thanks
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Speaker 1: for tuning in. As always remembered, be kind to yourself,
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Speaker 1: be kind to your brain. Don't take shit from anyone,
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Speaker 1: and especially don't take shit from yourself. Don't care