It Makes Sense That You Learned to Do That

The Unpatterned Podcast · May 16, 2026 · 17m

You've done the work. You know your patterns. You can see them coming.

And you still find yourself reacting the same way in the moments that matter most.

Most people assume they're not trying hard enough. Or not self-aware enough. But the reason the pattern keeps showing up has nothing to do with effort. It lives somewhere awareness alone can't reach.

In this episode, I share two moments from the same day that brought this into focus for me in a completely new way. One happened in a coaching session with a retired physician - someone who understands the human body better than most of us ever…