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Quiz Is it Lust or Love (self test) · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Psych2Goers. So, question. Have you seen that clip from
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  Speaker 1: the Married at First Sight reunion where someone basically says,
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  Speaker 1: I was in love with the idea of her, but
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  Speaker 1: I never actually knew her? Yeah, that hit a little
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  Speaker 1: too close, didn't it? Modern love is weird. We text
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  Speaker 1: all day, but struggle to say what we really feel.
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  Speaker 1: We hook up first, then wonder if it means something.
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes we end up confusing heat for depth and
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  Speaker 1: loneliness for love. If you're not sure what this thing
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  Speaker 1: you're feeling is, whether it's lust, love, or some limbo
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  Speaker 1: in between, this quiz is for you. Not to judge,
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  Speaker 1: just to gently notice. And maybe, just maybe, to help
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  Speaker 1: you hear yourself more clearly than before. Let's go. How
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  Speaker 1: to play. You'll get 10 simple but revealing questions. Each
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  Speaker 1: one paints a real-life moment. And then pick the answer
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  Speaker 1: that feels most like you, right now. You might feel
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  Speaker 1: called out, and that's okay. That means you're paying attention. Ready?
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  Speaker 1: Let's begin. When you think about them. One. I feel
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  Speaker 1: this rush. My chest tightens. I want to kiss them
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  Speaker 1: or touch them. Two. I replay our flirty combos and
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  Speaker 1: laugh at their jokes again in my head. Three. I
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  Speaker 1: wonder how they're doing and hope they're okay. Or four.
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  Speaker 1: I think about how we fit together. Not just today,
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  Speaker 1: but long term. When they take too long to reply. One.
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  Speaker 1: I panic a little. Like, did I do something wrong? Two.
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  Speaker 1: I get annoyed. Maybe they're losing interest. Three, I feel
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  Speaker 1: a bit anxious, but I try to respect their space. Four,
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  Speaker 1: I trust them. If they're busy, they'll get back to me.
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  Speaker 1: When you're alone together in silence. One, I wanna break
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  Speaker 1: the silence with something physical. Two, I get a little bored, honestly. Three,
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  Speaker 1: it's kinda nice, like being wrapped in a soft blanket. Four,
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  Speaker 1: the silence feels safe. Like we're still communicating, just without words.
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  Speaker 1: When they cry in front of you. 1. I freeze.
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  Speaker 1: I don't really know how to react. 2. I try
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  Speaker 1: to make a joke or change the subject. 3. I
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  Speaker 1: reach out even if I don't know what to say. 4.
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  Speaker 1: I feel their pain, and I want to hold space
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  Speaker 1: for it. Imagine a future without sex in this connection. 1.
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  Speaker 1: Then what's left? 2. I'd miss it, but maybe we'd
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  Speaker 1: still be fun. Three, we'd still have deep talks, inside jokes,
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  Speaker 1: late night walks. Four, honestly, I'd still want them in
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  Speaker 1: my life. They're my person. When they achieve something big. One,
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  Speaker 1: I compliment how hot they look while doing it. Two,
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  Speaker 1: I feel proud, but mostly just want to celebrate with them. Three,
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  Speaker 1: I feel genuinely happy for them, even if I'm not involved. Four,
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  Speaker 1: I'm emotional. Their win feels like our win. What scares
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  Speaker 1: you most in this relationship? One, losing the spark. Two,
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  Speaker 1: being ghosted. Three, growing apart. Four, losing someone who truly
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  Speaker 1: gets me. What do they bring out in you? One, hunger, playfulness,
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  Speaker 1: maybe jealousy. Two, butterflies and insecurity. Three, hope, comfort, reflection. Four. Honesty, softness,
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  Speaker 1: and growth. What do you mostly talk about? One, flirting, jokes,
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  Speaker 1: random stuff. Two, hanging out, memes, late night cravings. Three, emotions, fears,
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  Speaker 1: and goals. Four, life, family, healing, everything. And question 10.
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  Speaker 1: Deep down, this connection feels... One, addictive. Two, unstable. Three,
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  Speaker 1: warm and new. Or four, soul level calm. Add your points,
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  Speaker 1: one to four per question. If you scored 10 to 17,
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  Speaker 1: could be lust or obsession. You're drawn to this person,
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  Speaker 1: hard like gravity. But when you sit still, when the
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  Speaker 1: noise settles, there's not much to hold on to. It's
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  Speaker 1: not your fault. Our brains are wired to crave intensity.
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  Speaker 1: Dopamine hits, adrenaline, the thrill of what if. This could
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  Speaker 1: be limerence, a state of obsessive infatuation driven by reward-seeking,
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  Speaker 1: not mutual love. It feels urgent, but it's not the
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  Speaker 1: same as emotional closeness. You're not broken. You're just hungry
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  Speaker 1: for connection, for meaning, for more. So try this. Journal,
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  Speaker 1: what do I really want from this person? Validation, intimacy, safety?
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  Speaker 1: Slow it down. Skip the next flirt. Ask a deeper
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  Speaker 1: question instead. Notice how your body reacts when they're near
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  Speaker 1: and whether your heart feels safe too. If you scored
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  Speaker 1: 18 to 26 points, situationship or emotional limbo. It's complicated.
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  Speaker 1: You care, kind of. You're close, sort of. And yet
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  Speaker 1: something always feels missing, like you're reaching but not quite touching.
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  Speaker 1: This isn't just about them, it's about how your emotional
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  Speaker 1: needs are meeting your current reality. The space often aligns
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  Speaker 1: with ambivalent or anxious attachment. You're craving connection but afraid
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  Speaker 1: to be too vulnerable. Try this. Write out a timeline.
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  Speaker 1: When did this feel real? When did it start to
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  Speaker 1: feel uncertain? Ask, if this person couldn't give me anything physical,
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  Speaker 1: would I still feel fulfilled? Don't be afraid to ask
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  Speaker 1: for clarity. You deserve emotional honesty. If you scored 27
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  Speaker 1: to 34 points, it's growing love. This is something real,
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  Speaker 1: not perfect, not always stable, but real. You're starting to
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  Speaker 1: understand them beyond the surface, and maybe you're letting them
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  Speaker 1: see you too. You're in what Sternberg calls compassionate or
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  Speaker 1: developing romantic love, a mix of trust, care, and emerging intimacy.
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  Speaker 1: Try this. Share a piece of your past you've never
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  Speaker 1: shared before. Watch how they hold it. Practice emotional mirroring.
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  Speaker 1: Reflect how they feel and see how it deepens connection.
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  Speaker 1: Don't rush the label. Just notice the quality of your
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  Speaker 1: time together. And if you scored 35 to 40 points,
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  Speaker 1: it's secure, balanced love. You're not chasing, you're choosing and
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  Speaker 1: being chosen back. There's physical attraction, sure, but also safety, growth,
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  Speaker 1: space to be a messy, evolving human. This is the
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  Speaker 1: sweet spot. This is consummate love. Intimacy, passion, and commitment
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  Speaker 1: all presented and working together. But love like this isn't lucky.
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  Speaker 1: It's built. It's chosen again and again. Try this. Keep
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  Speaker 1: doing check-ins. How are we really doing? Stay playful. Don't
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  Speaker 1: let the spark go stale. Challenge each other to grow
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  Speaker 1: while making room for rest and softness too. So what
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  Speaker 1: did you hope your results would be? What parts of
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  Speaker 1: the quiz felt too real? What does your answer say
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  Speaker 1: about what you're truly craving right now? Closeness? Control? Clarity?
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  Speaker 1: Whatever your score says, it's not a verdict. It's just
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  Speaker 1: a mirror. If you find this quiz helpful, we made
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  Speaker 1: this quiz based on the video, Lust Versus Love. We
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  Speaker 1: know the quizzes are meant to be more interactive, however,
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  Speaker 1: they're not 100% accurate. The best way to truly know
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  Speaker 1: for yourself is to simply keep an open mind and
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  Speaker 1: keep growing. If you want more on this topic, we're
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  Speaker 1: actually working on a follow-up video about how to turn
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  Speaker 1: lust into love. If you're struggling, especially if your hypersexuality
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  Speaker 1: is taking over, or if you're just unable to truly
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  Speaker 1: see someone beyond the dopamine part, let us know.