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Dear Banya: Raw Dogging the Flirt · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya red An iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 3: Scrub what It's just like the way I watch your
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  Speaker 3: eyes get ready to do a jingle.
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  Speaker 2: I just am like anticipating it.
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  Speaker 4: Scarrub dub dub and the dub ub dub.
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  Speaker 2: The other night, Haley made me dinner and she made
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  Speaker 2: me your Yep, was it delicious? It was delicious.
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  Speaker 4: So Robbie's mom made us a bon the other night
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  Speaker 4: and hers is so good. And because I got my
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  Speaker 4: teeth bleached, I can't eat it because it's like red.
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  Speaker 5: God, it's red.
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  Speaker 4: Like you can't stay anything red for theatable features, anything
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  Speaker 4: colored for five days.
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  Speaker 2: Oh oh for five days.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, for five days. You're supposed to just like white.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm like, you don't realize it as you don't
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  Speaker 4: even know how much color you eat until you're in it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, sitting on the counter, Could you have spaghetti through
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  Speaker 6: a straw?
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  Speaker 5: No? I just had chicken.
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  Speaker 2: That was really funny. People loved it.
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  Speaker 4: By the way, I saw when Haley left that you
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  Speaker 4: made her cute little to go breakfast burrito and wrote
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  Speaker 4: their names on it. And I was like, whoa Becca
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  Speaker 4: is being extra cute these days.
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  Speaker 6: I yeah.
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  Speaker 3: They they left like super early, Haley and Marla to
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  Speaker 3: go to New York, and so I was like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: do you want me to make you like a breakfast
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  Speaker 3: burrito so you can just heat it up and ticket
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  Speaker 3: And then I was like, oh, make Marlon wan too,
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  Speaker 3: and so she posted it and Ali wrote me was like,
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  Speaker 3: you're like domesticated.
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  Speaker 2: Huh.
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  Speaker 6: He's like, yeah, breakfast burrito.
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  Speaker 3: It's simple. It's really simple. It's scramp soft, scrambled eggs soft.
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  Speaker 3: Haley wanted have varty cheese, and then I did mozzarella
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  Speaker 3: for a vari I don't really know. It's a little sharp,
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  Speaker 3: Like I don't really like it. It's a little strong
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  Speaker 3: for me. And then I put it in the burrito
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  Speaker 3: that and just cheese an egg, yeah, just SGG and cheese,
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  Speaker 3: and then I just like toasted it on the pan.
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  Speaker 3: But they were both like this was the best, Like
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  Speaker 3: Marlasa was life changing. She's like, what did you put
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  Speaker 3: in there? So I guess I make really good So
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  Speaker 3: it's a little bit about me.
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  Speaker 5: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, if you ever.
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  Speaker 1: Wanted to bring those in for a scrubbing in session,
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  Speaker 1: you know, there'd be no complaints.
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  Speaker 6: I would be so happy to do that if you
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  Speaker 6: don't mind.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, just egg and cheese. Correct, no protein? Let me,
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  Speaker 2: I guess eggs are protein.
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  Speaker 5: I'll just take the eggs. Maybe little turkey bacon in mine.
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  Speaker 6: I could do that.
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  Speaker 5: Turkey bacon chopped up in there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but you have to have it with the tortilla.
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  Speaker 5: Fine, okay, gluten free?
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  Speaker 2: Did they have a gluten free do you like the cassava? Yes?
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  Speaker 5: They have tons of gluten free ki.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, Yeah, I would love to do that
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  Speaker 3: for you'all. And y'all can let me know how if
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  Speaker 3: they're really good or if they just tasted good, because.
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  Speaker 6: It sounds like the way you put it on the.
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  Speaker 4: Get a little browned, the fine that a breakfast brito.
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  Speaker 5: They always put so many tricks.
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  Speaker 4: And stuff in there, and it's like it doesn't you
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  Speaker 4: know that I would enjoy a little potato in they're that.
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  Speaker 5: A hash frown or just a thick potato like whatever.
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  Speaker 5: But then they throw in the pico.
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  Speaker 4: De gao and the green sauce graandmon like multiple cheeses
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  Speaker 4: and like maybe some beans, maybe some rice.
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  Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't need any of this.
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  Speaker 2: I'm the same.
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  Speaker 6: I don't need any of that.
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  Speaker 2: Oh really shook right?
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  Speaker 3: Well, I'll bring you all a simple ah add some additions,
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  Speaker 3: but I'll keep it simple.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a.
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  Speaker 3: Dear Bonnie episode. So let's let's get to the listener.
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  Speaker 6: Well, we've got a lot of response to the boudoir shoot.
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  Speaker 5: Oh oh yeah, we still have to do that.
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  Speaker 1: Like Alyssa, for example, says, listening to Tany talking about
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  Speaker 1: giving Robbie a boudoir shoot as a wedding gifts and
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  Speaker 1: have a few thoughts.
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  Speaker 6: Do it.
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  Speaker 1: It's something you'll treasure forever and look back on. It
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  Speaker 1: did both my husband. I look back at it often
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  Speaker 1: after a baby. It's such a beautiful reminder of how
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  Speaker 1: amazing women's bodies are.
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  Speaker 6: We just talked about that on Monday and.
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  Speaker 1: Will forever bring back the emotions you had while doing it.
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  Speaker 1: The modern woman energy is unmatched, and the emotions when
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  Speaker 1: you gave it to Robbie. It's expensive, but spend the money.
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  Speaker 1: Something you don't realize looking into it is the poses
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  Speaker 1: and how it's not natural to pose in lingerie or
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  Speaker 1: even nude. That's where a reputable photographer comes in. I
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  Speaker 1: was hesitant to spend that much on it, but it's
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  Speaker 1: one of the best things I've ever spent money on.
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  Speaker 1: I would argue is the best investment made in our wedding. Whoa, Tanya.
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  Speaker 1: I also ripped out journal entries of when I first
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  Speaker 1: met my husband and put them in there with it.
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  Speaker 1: He's a big swiftie, so I also wrote Taylor's lyrics
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  Speaker 1: to Wildest Dreams in there. Needless to say, I'm a
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  Speaker 1: big advocate for this. Paying someone to give you one
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  Speaker 1: of the best and most fulfilling moments of your life
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  Speaker 1: as a woman and as as soon to be wife,
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  Speaker 1: you will not regret it. I am not rich. I
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  Speaker 1: was literally a professional dog walker and saved up a
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  Speaker 1: long time to do this. Love you guys a day
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  Speaker 1: one scrubber, Alissa, it.
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  Speaker 2: Sounds like you need to call them the professionals. I'm
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  Speaker 2: feeling intimidated by that.
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  Speaker 5: Let me tell you something.
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  Speaker 3: I'm just let me tell you, have you ever tried
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  Speaker 3: this one kidnap position?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll just take all of Sabrina Carpenter's positions from
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  Speaker 4: Taylor and just slap that on a photo.
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  Speaker 5: Respectfully. Alyssa, I'm not one.
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  Speaker 4: I do not judge anybody on what they want to
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  Speaker 4: invest their money in.
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  Speaker 5: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 4: If this was what you wanted and you feel strongly
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  Speaker 4: about it, go all out and are all in for me.
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  Speaker 4: I have so much faith in the world in Becatilly
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  Speaker 4: as my photographer. I feel safe in your hands, I
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  Speaker 4: feel gorgeous behind your lens, and there's nothing else I
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  Speaker 4: need more than that. So why would I have a
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  Speaker 4: stranger take a picture of me in a very vulnerable
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  Speaker 4: state when one of my best friends will do it.
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  Speaker 2: Here's what I'm thinking, And I don't.
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  Speaker 5: Want, I don't need.
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  Speaker 4: I'm gonna like get white lingerie, maybe throw a pearl
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  Speaker 4: necklace on and call it a day.
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  Speaker 5: Like I'm not like changing into all.
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  Speaker 4: These hoops and tricks and like crotchous panties and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we set a date.
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  Speaker 3: I do the photos, and if we're like dying and
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  Speaker 3: like laughing over them, and you still want to do
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  Speaker 3: it a little more like elevated, then.
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  Speaker 2: You do it. But like we do it, we do.
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  Speaker 4: Like grision, right, because then we just go to like CBS,
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  Speaker 4: yeah and print them. You're gonna help me find a
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  Speaker 4: photo album on Etsy?
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  Speaker 2: Uh huh? We need to do that fast though.
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  Speaker 5: Oh really I think so, Etsy, do be taking time.
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  Speaker 2: Do be taking time.
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  Speaker 4: A lot of people love Etsy, let me tell you
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  Speaker 4: he's great. Had a lot of Etsy recommendations.
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  Speaker 3: Because it's it's fun to shop from people who make
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  Speaker 3: it part on like a grand scale and not have
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  Speaker 3: like amazing talents.
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  Speaker 4: I know, and I realized I have had one bad
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  Speaker 4: experience with Etsy, so too bad experiences with Etsy. So
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  Speaker 4: it has thrown me off of my Etsy game and
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  Speaker 4: I have not partaken in Etsy since. But I think
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  Speaker 4: I might dip my toe back in.
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  Speaker 2: I had a bad experience too.
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  Speaker 3: I bought a coffee table but it had termites from Turkey.
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  Speaker 5: Wow, termites from Turkey.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: But then Etsy, I just like reported because then I
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  Speaker 3: went to I went to like messages a guy and
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  Speaker 3: the page wasn't there anymore.
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  Speaker 2: So he either blocked me.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what happened, but uh anyways, Etsy was like,
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  Speaker 3: we're so sorry.
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  Speaker 2: They refund and me gave me a credit.
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  Speaker 4: Like all those things we bought, like soapholders on Etsy
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  Speaker 4: and my first bathroom they were like the size of
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  Speaker 4: like half of the palm of my They're like miniature.
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  Speaker 5: They're like.
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  Speaker 2: Your fault because the.
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  Speaker 4: Measurement soap container that doesn't even hold a bar.
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  Speaker 3: So Kanya, All I'm saying is, I know those measurements
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  Speaker 3: were listed and one someone chose to ignore and just
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  Speaker 3: went based off.
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  Speaker 5: That was not my fault.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, I'm just saying, you can't blame Etsy for a
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  Speaker 3: user error.
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  Speaker 4: Who is buying a bar of soapholder that can't even
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  Speaker 4: hold a bar.
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  Speaker 5: From who has mini soap?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe it's for like a doll doll.
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  Speaker 5: It must have been for a dollhouse. It was crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 3: So we're gonna do a test shoot for the boudoir shoot.
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  Speaker 3: Like with me, We're not a test shoot, but like
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  Speaker 3: we're gonna I'm gonna put my best foot forward. You're
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  Speaker 3: gonna put your best positions forward, and then we'll just
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  Speaker 3: if we need to bring in how we'll see how
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  Speaker 3: good I am.
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  Speaker 6: Listen to Julie.
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  Speaker 1: Julie says, I've never emailed in before, but given time
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  Speaker 1: its predicament, I thought it was time. I may or
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  Speaker 1: may not have given my husband the same gift. It's
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  Speaker 1: totally worth it. Such a gift to yourself too. For me,
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  Speaker 1: it was a big confidence building something called treasure best
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  Speaker 1: ship in my life, same as Alyssa, but she says
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  Speaker 1: the professional price was way too much. A twenty five
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  Speaker 1: dollars camera tripod ring light went a long way. It
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  Speaker 1: was so fun to have a modern woman playlist going,
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  Speaker 1: just me and a clicker and the camera tripad posting
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  Speaker 1: however I wanted. Because there were no witnesses, I researched
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  Speaker 1: more high security picture book websites and found MPIs to
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  Speaker 1: be the most recommended. It cost fifty two bucks, delivered
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  Speaker 1: within two weeks, and I've not seen any sexy photo
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  Speaker 1: of me on the internet yet. Have so much fun
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  Speaker 1: with it, having your girls hype you up. It's great,
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  Speaker 1: so she says.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, So I was inundated with DMS about this last week.
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  Speaker 4: Really yeah, And I want to say thank you for
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  Speaker 4: the respect of not putting it in the Facebook group
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  Speaker 4: because I don't want to spoil it for Robbie.
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  Speaker 5: So everybody went straight to my DMS.
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  Speaker 2: Listen, one name about our scrubbers.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, they love us, love They're gonna they're gonna spoiler.
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  Speaker 3: There are girls girls. Yeah, yeah, I was.
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  Speaker 4: I appreciated that, but I was inundated with d MS
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  Speaker 4: about people that have done this same boudoir photo shoot
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  Speaker 4: for their husbands.
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  Speaker 5: It's very popular.
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  Speaker 3: Well, so that was two different pieces of advice. One
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  Speaker 3: was like high end, go for go photographer. The other
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  Speaker 3: one was like, get a tripod on your phone and
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  Speaker 3: we're doing it in between ya because I have some
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  Speaker 3: nice cameras, nice cameras, and I know Angles knows the angles.
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  Speaker 5: If there's something back at Tilly knows, it's angles.
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  Speaker 2: And unfortunately no one knows my angles.
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  Speaker 5: I'm willing to learn.
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  Speaker 2: That's good. That's all I need is a willingness to learn.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, all right.
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  Speaker 6: It's a quickie from Courtney.
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  Speaker 1: She wants to know the name of the pasta, the
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  Speaker 1: gluten free pasta that Tanya mentioned.
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  Speaker 4: Oh yes, so my apologies. I am locked out of
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  Speaker 4: Facebook for some reason again because I don't even know
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  Speaker 4: why this time. However, I do have the name of
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  Speaker 4: it and.
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  Speaker 5: Stand by. It is called.
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  Speaker 7: La Okay Sulla de Abruso is the brand? You spell
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  Speaker 7: that r r U s t I c h E
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  Speaker 7: l l A d okay? Oh yeah, the apostrophe a
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  Speaker 7: b r u z z o abruzio and they use corn.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, maybe you could just link it in your story, yes,
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  Speaker 3: in your story.
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  Speaker 2: I think that's an easier way for her for Courtney
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  Speaker 2: to get the box.
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  Speaker 3: You were fan that that wasn't a riveting segment of
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  Speaker 3: this spelling out.
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  Speaker 4: But I wanted to put it in the Facebook group,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm locked out of my Facebook.
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  Speaker 5: I asked Robbie.
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  Speaker 4: I hit babe, can you put this in the Facebook
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  Speaker 4: group so that they can see the thing?
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  Speaker 2: And he was like, he's a top contributor, he can't
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  Speaker 2: be just lobby and just sorry.
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  Speaker 5: I don't know if I can because I have a
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  Speaker 5: brand deal right now.
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  Speaker 3: Or have Crystal do it on the scrubbing it. This
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  Speaker 3: has really turned into a thing.
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  Speaker 6: All right, Now we get onto some actual advice.
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  Speaker 2: Actually, oh, let's take a break.
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  Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, you're so on top of that. Back
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  Speaker 6: a good job.
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  Speaker 2: All right, we're back.
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  Speaker 3: Now it's time that we were reading advice from our scrubbers,
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  Speaker 3: and now it's time to give our advice.
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  Speaker 6: That's right, scrubbers.
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  Speaker 1: Anonymous needs career advice. Hi Becatanya, marcro and Easton. I've
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  Speaker 1: been at my current company for just over twelve years,
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  Speaker 1: moving to a few different roles. I've now landed a
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  Speaker 1: position where I love what I do. When the people
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  Speaker 1: I work with and including my boss. The job's also
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  Speaker 1: in the field. I got my degree in the cons
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  Speaker 1: After twelve.
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  Speaker 6: Years, I feel like I've towd here.
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  Speaker 1: There isn't much of a ladder in terms of growth opportunities,
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  Speaker 1: and there's very little chance to make much higher of
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  Speaker 1: a salbary despite adding on in my workload. I've asked
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  Speaker 1: for a raise in the past. I know that here
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  Speaker 1: I am just another number, and sometimes I feel undervalued.
• 13:12
  Speaker 1: A former colleague reached out about an opening at her company.
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  Speaker 1: The job is not anywhere near as exciting as mine,
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  Speaker 1: but the pay could almost double my current salary, and
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  Speaker 1: the benefits are big, including work from home days, four
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  Speaker 1: weeks paid time off to start, incredible for a one
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  Speaker 1: K match, and yearly bonus potential. I am drowning in
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  Speaker 1: student loan debt while also hoping to get my own place.
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  Speaker 1: I know this would help me immensely. I'm interviewing, but
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  Speaker 1: I'm struggling with the right choice. If they make me
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  Speaker 1: an offer, do I give it my current role that
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  Speaker 1: I'm great at, where I love what I do, but
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  Speaker 1: there's no room for growth and I can barely make
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  Speaker 1: ends meet. Or do I step out of my comfort
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  Speaker 1: zone to something unknown that would provide a lot of
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  Speaker 1: opportunities for me, but may not be as exciting I
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  Speaker 1: am in my early thirties. I would love your advice
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  Speaker 1: and love you all and the space that you've created.
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  Speaker 5: This seems like a no brainer.
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  Speaker 2: To I was going to say, you know what to do?
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  Speaker 2: You just wanted you.
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  Speaker 3: You needed the three of us to say tis time.
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  Speaker 4: When you say no room for growth, that is that's
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  Speaker 4: stop right there, and you've been there for twelve years.
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  Speaker 3: I im plateaued, Yeah, it's time, girl.
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  Speaker 2: You're about to step out.
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  Speaker 3: You're about to get that PTO work from home.
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  Speaker 5: Let me tell you what the double the salary.
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  Speaker 4: You can maybe find something else that's gonna incite, excite
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  Speaker 4: you creatively that you can now pay for.
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  Speaker 2: Ye know where life begins outside of your Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: let's go. Yeah, I'm excited. That got me like pumped
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  Speaker 2: for you.
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  Speaker 3: There's there's no part of me that says you have
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  Speaker 3: anything to think about no h ott og o, that's right.
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  Speaker 6: You're excited. You love the job, you're good at it.
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  Speaker 5: There's literally not one percent of me that says you
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  Speaker 5: should say.
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  Speaker 6: What's the alternative.
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  Speaker 1: You're gonna just keep making that salary till you're what
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  Speaker 1: you're fifty years old?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, No, now's the time.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah.
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  Speaker 6: I love the easy ones.
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  Speaker 1: Allison, Hi, Beka, Tanya market Nastin First love you All.
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: I'm a day one scrubber. I've been listening. I've been
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: re listening to the pop from the beginning in between
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: new episode drops. You've given me so much hope and
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: have inspired me to be the modern woman I am today. Second,
• 15:14
  Speaker 1: I'm in a dating era and want to hear what
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: y'all think on this topic. I want to save sex
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  Speaker 1: for a relationship and have always liked the idea of
• 15:21
  Speaker 1: waiting for marriage. But I also know that I may
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  Speaker 1: change my mind once i'm inde a new relationship. Tanya, Becca,
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  Speaker 1: when you were in your dating eras you set expectations
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  Speaker 1: with the people you were dating about physical stuff, can
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: you talk about when and where you had these convos?
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  Speaker 1: Was it while you were out to dinner? Was it
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  Speaker 1: while you were already making out on the couch before that?
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  Speaker 1: How many dates in What was your approach in terms
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: of getting the message across that you're still super attracted
• 15:43
  Speaker 1: to them. I've had conversations like this before that went okay,
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: But I'd love to hear how y'all went about it.
• 15:49
  Speaker 1: For reference. I'm almost twenty eight. I'm dating more seriously
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: now with marriage in mind and not.
• 15:53
  Speaker 6: Just for fun.
• 15:55
  Speaker 2: Well, I talked about it on national television.
• 15:57
  Speaker 6: Okay, that's an option.
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: So that was one way of going about it.
• 16:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah, you also put it in your dating profile, you know,
• 16:04
  Speaker 4: like on Hinge no sex before marriage.
• 16:06
  Speaker 5: Yeah, no, just gets it out there.
• 16:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean you could, but I think it's just
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: if things start. Well, you actually did kind of do
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: this while you were dating. Yeah, I'll let you touch
• 16:19
  Speaker 3: on this because I don't really Mine was like The
• 16:21
  Speaker 3: Bachelor and then Haley and I didn't wait. Yeah, we
• 16:26
  Speaker 3: were like said, we were in love in two weeks.
• 16:28
  Speaker 3: So it was quite quick. Everything happened very fast.
• 16:31
  Speaker 4: I I was, uh, I mean, is it celibate is
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: the word?
• 16:37
  Speaker 2: Yep?
• 16:37
  Speaker 4: Didn't have sex for four years because I decided that
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: I was like in this perpetual pattern of pain where
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: I was giving my body before I was getting the
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: commitment that I wanted, and so I made the decision
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: to not have sex outside of.
• 16:50
  Speaker 5: A committed relationship.
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: And it's very weird once you make that decision for yourself,
• 16:56
  Speaker 4: and you're so convicted in that decision, it really doesn't
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: become a weird thing like for somehow. It always came
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: up in conversation very early on. I only really remember
• 17:08
  Speaker 4: with Robbie previously with other guys too, Like I had
• 17:12
  Speaker 4: had the conversation very early, one date in or two
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: dates in, and it wasn't like I made it seem
• 17:19
  Speaker 4: like it was like a weird thing. I was just
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: I would just say, yeah, you know, I've chosen not
• 17:23
  Speaker 4: to have sex outside of a committed relationship. I was
• 17:27
  Speaker 4: hurting myself a lot, and I'm looking for commitment, and
• 17:31
  Speaker 4: so like it was, it just kind of came out
• 17:33
  Speaker 4: in conversation. It was never like a thing that I
• 17:35
  Speaker 4: presented as something weird or off putting. It was just
• 17:38
  Speaker 4: like a part of who I am and a decision
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: that I made. And if it deterred some If it
• 17:43
  Speaker 4: deterred some guys, I wouldn't know because they just dropped off.
• 17:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 17:52
  Speaker 5: And screw them. I didn't didn't need them anyway, you know.
• 17:55
  Speaker 4: So if it deterred some guys, I'm sure, which I'm
• 17:57
  Speaker 4: sure it did, good riddance for me. But it didn't
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: deter the one that I'm ending up with Hu and
• 18:05
  Speaker 4: here we are today.
• 18:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I always felt very confident in that decision. So
• 18:10
  Speaker 3: I think that's another thing. And like you were saying,
• 18:12
  Speaker 3: you're conviction about it. Like I think, when you have
• 18:14
  Speaker 3: confidence and a decision you're making for yourself, the conversation
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: becomes a little more. It happens naturally as you're like
• 18:23
  Speaker 3: getting to know someone and you're getting to like a
• 18:25
  Speaker 3: more physical stage because you're able to just be like, hey,
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: I really like you.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: I'm attracted to you.
• 18:30
  Speaker 3: I don't want this to come across in any way
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: that that is in.
• 18:34
  Speaker 2: Involving my attraction towards you.
• 18:36
  Speaker 3: But I have been heard a lot from giving myself
• 18:40
  Speaker 3: prematurely and I don't I'm not doing that anymore. So
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: if that's a problem for you, I totally understand. But
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: that's that's where I'm at with that, and just be
• 18:47
  Speaker 3: like confident in it.
• 18:47
  Speaker 4: Because but it's funny, you say, because it's when it
• 18:50
  Speaker 4: is your decision, it comes across so different than if
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: it's something that you're doing because you think you're supposed
• 18:55
  Speaker 4: to be doing it or.
• 18:56
  Speaker 5: Somebody else wants you to be doing it. Oh, I
• 18:58
  Speaker 5: think it's what you should be doing.
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: Different, totally different on both ends, choosing not to and
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: choosing to do it right. It's like, if you have
• 19:06
  Speaker 3: the confidence in making that decision for your own self,
• 19:09
  Speaker 3: that that's the difference.
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: Yeah, agreed.
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: It's a great way to separate the uh yeah, the
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: hook the good ones. Yeah, the hookups from the because
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: my wife said this to me early on in our
• 19:20
  Speaker 1: relationship that I'm not looking to do that until until marriage.
• 19:23
  Speaker 1: And I said, Okay, that's that's fine with me, and
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: I didn't go anywhere, and that ended up not being
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: the case. We ended up making that decision together. But
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: I think it was valuable that you knew that I'm
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: not in this for that I'm not going anywhere, And
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: I think that's a good thing.
• 19:37
  Speaker 6: You find out who's legit this way.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I remember with Robert, it gave me so
• 19:43
  Speaker 3: much respect for him because he obviously was not a
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: virgin and he was so respectful and that decision. I
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: never felt like pressured or anything. And that's how that's
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: what I was gonna say. Like, you, when you're with
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: a good guy and someone who respects you, you orger
• 19:59
  Speaker 3: if you're with a good guy or girl, you will
• 20:01
  Speaker 3: feel that respect from someone.
• 20:03
  Speaker 5: Yeah. I felt the same way with Robbie.
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: I never felt like he was like trying to change
• 20:08
  Speaker 4: my mind or anything.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Torri has a question about how to talk to girls.
• 20:14
  Speaker 6: Hi, I'm Tory. I'm twenty years old. I've never been
• 20:16
  Speaker 6: in a relationship.
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: I've been out as a lesbian since i was sixteen,
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: but I've still never kissed a girl. I'm confident in
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: my sexuality, but I have no idea how to talk
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: to girls. When I do talk to someone I like,
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: they often turn out to be straight, which is tough
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: because I'm more attracted.
• 20:29
  Speaker 6: To feminine women.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: Anyone who has listened to Haley Kyoko's curious or He'll
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: never love you know It's how difficult it can be
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: navigating feelings for more feminine or straight looking and quotes
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: women you never know if they're gay or just playing
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: with you. I'm also very shy, which stems from a
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: physical disability. I have a form of muscular dystrophy, meaning
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: I can only walk short distances before getting tired, and
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: I also have breathing issues. I've used a BiPAP machine
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: at night since I was four. I had scoliosis or
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: a back brace for eight years, had surgery for it.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: At school and longer routings, they use a wheelchair, and
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: I still sometimes use one now. Although I've lived with
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: these challenges my whole life, I've always felt a bit
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: of an outcast, especially in dating. I worry people might
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: judge me or not take me seriously, even though no
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: one has ever made me feel that way directly. Because
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: of these insecurities, I feel like I lack the confidence
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: to talk to girls, and I don't know how to
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: start conversations with someone I'm interested in. I worry about
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: coming off as the weird, awkward, disabled girl or making
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: anyone uncomfortable. Because I'm attracted to straight looking women. I'm
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: also a huge people pleaser, which doesn't help. Whenever I
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: try to talk to a girl I like, I freeze
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: up or find out they're straight. It's hard and it's
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: a somewhat discouraging cycle. I love some advice, I would say, Torri.
• 21:38
  Speaker 2: I would say that sometimes.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: Like I never went through this, especially dating women, because
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: I met Haley and that was very instant, and that's
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: the only woman I've date, Like, I haven't had to
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: write myself out there I literally don't know how I
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: would date, like.
• 21:56
  Speaker 5: I know, I think I don't even know how to
• 21:58
  Speaker 5: answer this question. I would have no idea.
• 22:01
  Speaker 3: But I also think it's this it would be the
• 22:03
  Speaker 3: same as if, like.
• 22:06
  Speaker 4: Yeah, like dating up, like hitting on a guy and
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: realizing he's married, right yeah, or in a relationship right,
• 22:12
  Speaker 4: So it's a little different.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: It's a little different, but it's it's basically they're not
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: available to you, correct emotionally, regardless of what the reason
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: is for it. So I wouldn't be embarrassed by finding
• 22:23
  Speaker 3: out that someone's straight. And I think the only way
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: that you keep finding someone is by putting yourself out there.
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: So like when you put yourself in a situation to
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: meet people, that's how you're going to meet someone. And
• 22:35
  Speaker 3: sometimes it might be easier to talk to someone on
• 22:37
  Speaker 3: like a dating app where you're getting to know them
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: and you can especially if you're setting your like settings
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: to women, yeah too like women instead of that way
• 22:48
  Speaker 3: you don't have to question if they're into girls.
• 22:50
  Speaker 5: So the girls, I feel like she's talking more like
• 22:52
  Speaker 5: in real life.
• 22:53
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think in real life, you just shoot your shot,
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: just like a guy like shoots a shot with a girl.
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: And she's like if if a guy shoots a shot
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: with the feminine lesbian, and she's like, I'm not into guys,
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: it's he's still shot, you know, it's still like a
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: respectable action to make a move, just like we would
• 23:09
  Speaker 3: encourage a guy to do with a girl. So I
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: think you keep putting yourself out there and there's no like,
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: with the right person, how you flirt isn't going to.
• 23:20
  Speaker 5: You can say that again, what that was horrible flirt?
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: Well granted you did have people doing it for you
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: for a little bit, I.
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: Know, but like in real life, you can't have anybody else. Yeah, yeah,
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: straight raw dog you.
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes you just got a raw dog the flirt and.
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: The right person the way you flirt, even if it's
• 23:41
  Speaker 3: not like the cool way or the the way like
• 23:45
  Speaker 3: how taun your thought, like the cool girl way of
• 23:47
  Speaker 3: doing it, the right person is going to like the
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: way that you approach things.
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, And I.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: Think that I think if anything, being confident in who
• 23:56
  Speaker 3: you are with all those things that you listed are
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: just a part of you.
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: They're not they're not who you are as a whole.
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: And I think if anything, they make you, I'm like, Wow,
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: she's so strong and amazing.
• 24:08
  Speaker 2: That you have gone through life with.
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: All these health issues and physical disabilities and still put
• 24:16
  Speaker 3: yourself out there is so incredible. So, if anything, I
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: think that is such an attractive quality, and I hope
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: that you keep putting yourself out there. And like I said,
• 24:23
  Speaker 3: I think if you're trying to avoid the being disheartened
• 24:26
  Speaker 3: by someone being straight, go on the dating apps and
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: make sure you're only looking for woman like want something
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: to that.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: I think that's pretty good advice actually, the dating apps,
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: so now you both know what's going in. Now you
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: can just focus on the connection you make or won't make,
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: but that you don't have to worry about that element
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: of it.
• 24:43
  Speaker 6: It removes it completely.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I agree.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it kind of takes away the not knowing and
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: then the fear of being rejected simply based on sexual sexuality.
• 24:54
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: All right, I think we should take a break because
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: we have a light one and a heavier one coming up.
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: All right, we are back with two more.
• 25:25
  Speaker 1: All right, First the light one from page. Hey friends,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: your podcast is saving me during the middle of the
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: wakings of my newborns by keeping me awake and entertained.
• 25:34
  Speaker 6: Bravo. Page We salute you and what you've gone through.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you're Amanda Stanton or but anyway, Tanya,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: in episode thirty, you talk about a guy using a
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: straw being a deal breaker.
• 25:46
  Speaker 6: Because Robbie use a straw, Why was it a deal breaker?
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: Did you ever watched a guy drink an alcoholic beverage
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: through a straw?
• 25:57
  Speaker 6: He's still a deal breaker, she gets worked out about.
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: But only uh wait, but only an alcoholic beverage.
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: Yes, So, like Robbie drinks the straw out of his
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: like you know cup that he takes around town Stanley
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: if you will, sure, that's fine. But if he were
• 26:13
  Speaker 4: to be slurping down.
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: His his vodka soda?
• 26:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah, or what's the other one, like the.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: Skinny margarita? Anything fashion? An old man?
• 26:23
  Speaker 5: If he's slurping that through a straw, he.
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: Is getting the boot that night mobile, so he's kind
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: of chasing it with his mouth.
• 26:33
  Speaker 3: Okay, but does anyone drink an old fashion with a straw?
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: I've never seen anyone.
• 26:38
  Speaker 4: I've never seen anyone drinking with a straw either, But
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: a vodka sodada with a straw so much better.
• 26:45
  Speaker 2: But margarita, because you have the salt.
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: You can't have a strop Oh my gosh. Really, only
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: vodka or tequila soda is okay.
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: With the straw.
• 26:52
  Speaker 4: But to be honest, if Robbie drink anything from a straw,
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: I'm sure I'd be like, OK.
• 26:57
  Speaker 5: Just goes to show you can't do the wrong thing
• 26:58
  Speaker 5: with the right person.
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: That's oh, that's so true.
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, Melissa Dear Tanya beca marcron Easton. First off,
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: I want to stand a huge fan of Day One Scrubber.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: I love the episodes and it's just the four of
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: you laughing together. It's like I'm catching up with my friends.
• 27:13
  Speaker 1: My now fiance, Brandon and I met November twenty nineteen
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: and we got engaged in September twenty four. I was
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: single forever before meeting my fiance, and we always say
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: there was an invisible string tying us together and that
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: we met it exactly the right time. We planned a
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: wedding for September of twenty five. We secured a beautiful
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: venue just outside of Semecula. Sadly, we just had to
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: cancel it because we lost our home in Altadena due
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: to the Eaton fire. We lived with my ninety three
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: year old Japanese grandfather who had been in his home
• 27:40
  Speaker 1: for sixty eight years. We are fortunately all safe, even Grandpa,
• 27:45
  Speaker 1: but we lost everything, my car, all our photos, personal items, documents,
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: my grandmother's urn who passed away in twenty twenty. It
• 27:52
  Speaker 1: is devastating not only for us, but for our beautiful
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: community of Altadena and all those who.
• 27:57
  Speaker 6: Were displaced because of the fires.
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: I'm not necess sssarily looking for this to be public
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: or gather sympathy, because we are fortunate to have a
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: great community surrounding us. Tanya, I saw your video of
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: your bride's maid surprising you, and it reminded me of
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: my best friends, who, the day after losing our home,
• 28:11
  Speaker 1: surprised me and my fiance with brand new clothes, comfort snacks,
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: and replaced some of the things we lost in the fire.
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: I cried uncontrollably over a puffer jacket they replaced. I
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: just wanted you all to know there are people who
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: appreciate what you all do. The morning of the fires,
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: I was out of town, so I didn't know what
• 28:28
  Speaker 1: I was coming home to. I listened to the Year
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: of the Nines that day. I was so excited to
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: be a twenty twenty five bride and that my date
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: was in the month of September, the ninth months Tanya.
• 28:39
  Speaker 1: You recently posted it within All the Wedding Planning US
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: twenty twenty five brides get to marry our best friend.
• 28:44
  Speaker 1: It was a great reminder that while my dream wedding
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: looks different, I still get to spend forever with my
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: number one teammate. Thank you for all you do and
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: the support you have given to the victims of this
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: horrible tragedy.
• 28:54
  Speaker 6: The fire may have.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: Destroyed my home, but it also ignited my love for
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: this amazing community of Los.
• 28:59
  Speaker 6: Angle, Angelus.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: Wishing you a true year of the Nines and an
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: amazing twenty twenty five.
• 29:04
  Speaker 6: Full of love. Melissa with a y m hy lsa.
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: Sad just I mean that just puts everything into perspective.
• 29:16
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: Something that I like noticed a lot. I feel like
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: with people that lost their homes is this like crazy
• 29:29
  Speaker 4: positivity where I feel like I would sulk and I
• 29:31
  Speaker 4: would be so sad about the things that I lost,
• 29:34
  Speaker 4: and like I feel like if I put myself in
• 29:37
  Speaker 4: their shoes, like I don't think I would handle it,
• 29:39
  Speaker 4: you know. Like she's literally just writing us to like
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: I don't even know who say thank you, and like
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: not even ask for anything, and she just lost everything,
• 29:52
  Speaker 4: and I'm sad that you had to push back your wedding,
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: like it all just sucks.
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I think it's such a great like perspective shift
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: of thinking someone who lost everything and still being able
• 30:07
  Speaker 3: to find joy and getting to marry her best friend
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: even though it's not what she expected. And I truly
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: believe that what your wedding ends up being, Melissa, is
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: going to mean even more after this.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: And I truly I think.
• 30:26
  Speaker 3: Reading that my heart like dropped and also was just
• 30:30
  Speaker 3: like expanded because I was like, what a testament to
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: the type of person she is and who she's surrounded by,
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: and like thinking about even just a puffer jacket, and like, how.
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: Are things are.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: Valuable to us? And yet the thing that she mentioned
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: was people.
• 30:49
  Speaker 4: You know, you know what's better than nine year Melissa?
• 30:54
  Speaker 4: A ten year Wow, the year of the ten. I
• 30:58
  Speaker 4: don't have on the tip of my fingers what the
• 31:00
  Speaker 4: ten year means, but I know it's gonna be good.
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: It's gonna be really good.
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: It's gonna be really really good.
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: And there's that feeling that with your partner, you can
• 31:09
  Speaker 1: get through anything. Yeah, And you're finding that out now unfortunately,
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: But that's the feeling when you've got that person and
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: you're going to get married, that no matter what life
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: throws at us, we've got each other, no matter what.
• 31:19
  Speaker 6: And that's so comforting.
• 31:21
  Speaker 4: There really is like something I feel like that you
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: don't understand until like you're in a committed.
• 31:28
  Speaker 5: Relationship like that we're in.
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: Is that level of safety, you know, Like I totally agree,
• 31:35
  Speaker 4: Like I feel like anything that came our way, like
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  Speaker 4: having Robbie by my side.
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  Speaker 5: I could get through it.
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  Speaker 2: M h.
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  Speaker 4: And it's so powerful. Yeah, And that's really what it's about.
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  Speaker 4: And I'm grateful that you found him, and I'm grateful
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  Speaker 4: that you have each other.
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  Speaker 3: I'm grateful that you're all okay, yeah, your Grandpa's okay,
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  Speaker 3: and that y'all have each other to rebuild with. And
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  Speaker 3: I'm also so sorry that this happened. It's like there's
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  Speaker 3: no words that adequately can justify the sorrow and devastation
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  Speaker 3: I feel. But I just hope that you feel surrounded
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  Speaker 3: by love.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, and please keep us posted.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, please, because I know like now that you know
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  Speaker 3: time has passed, people life moves on and people move on.
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  Speaker 3: But I hope that you know that if you ever
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  Speaker 3: need anything, whether it's posting to us or the scrubbing
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  Speaker 3: In group, like we're here rallying around you.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, we're here for you, and we love you.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: We love you, and we love all of you.
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: Oh yes, we do.
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  Speaker 2: Truly our girls and few guys.
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  Speaker 5: I'd be shocked if there is any male listeners.
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  Speaker 1: Like I said at our live show I started off,
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  Speaker 1: I think ladies and very few gentlemen.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, the the loyal committed men to our scrubbing in gals.
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  Speaker 4: I can't I still can't believe that our live show
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  Speaker 4: in LA I was only dating Robbie for like three
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  Speaker 4: months at the time.
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  Speaker 3: That's when I met him for the verse yeah ago, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: time plus.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but also like a girthy one to come to
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  Speaker 4: throw him into the girthiest of the girl.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: If you ever want to write in to a Dear
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  Speaker 3: at iHeartMedia dot com.
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  Speaker 5: That's right, and we love.
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  Speaker 2: You so much and we hope you have a great
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  Speaker 2: rest of the week. And we will be back on
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  Speaker 2: Monday to be continued. Love you, bye bye