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THEY CANNOT HURT YOU – Unless You Let Them | Empower Yourself · Motivational Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Thought is something that can't be destroyed, and we are thought.
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  Speaker 1: Therefore we can never be destroyed. You have to take
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  Speaker 1: responsibility for everything that you are in your life and
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  Speaker 1: everything that you live. Internally, Now, the word responsibility means
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  Speaker 1: responding with ability. I have the ability to respond. I
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  Speaker 1: can respond with ability. Anything that you hate or annoyed by,
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  Speaker 1: or angry about, is really your own hatred, your own annoyance.
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  Speaker 1: That's yours. You own it. Nobody else owns that. Nobody
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  Speaker 1: else can put that into you, nobody injects you with
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  Speaker 1: anger or annoyance. It's all something that you own. And
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  Speaker 1: what happens as you move along the path in a
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  Speaker 1: more enlightened way is that you you tend to regard
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  Speaker 1: the people who behave towards you in ways that you
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  Speaker 1: used to call annoying. You begin to see that as
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  Speaker 1: their problem. You don't own it any longer, you don't
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  Speaker 1: take it on to you any longer. So now you're
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  Speaker 1: responding with ability towards the people who are behaving in
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  Speaker 1: ways that you don't like, a solution oriented way to
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  Speaker 1: dealing with it rather than a problem oriented way. And
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  Speaker 1: you have to always keep in mind that you're looking
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  Speaker 1: for solutions. Throughout history, there have been catastrophic events. There
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  Speaker 1: have been terrible things that we've had to deal with.
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  Speaker 1: We are not in any particularly unique time right now.
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  Speaker 1: How we react to things in our life is much
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  Speaker 1: more important than what the events are positive works negative.
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  Speaker 1: Doesn't We know that the way that we think affects us.
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  Speaker 1: Our chemistry is affected by that. Nothing outside of you
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  Speaker 1: can make you unhappy, depressed, miserable, stressful, fearful, any of
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  Speaker 1: those things. There's no stress in the world. There's no
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  Speaker 1: fear in the world. There's no anxiety in the world.
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  Speaker 1: There are only people thinking anxiously, stressfully, fearfully. So what
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  Speaker 1: you do is you take responsibility for how you feel,
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  Speaker 1: and that comes from the way that you process events,
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  Speaker 1: not from events themselves, And how you process an event
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  Speaker 1: determines totally your level of happiness and fulfillment and success
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  Speaker 1: as a human being. We're going to continue to have
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  Speaker 1: a lot of circumstances that none of us like, and
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  Speaker 1: certainly they're going to be physical disasters. They're going to
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  Speaker 1: be natural disasters, and there are going to be human
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  Speaker 1: made disasters. And there are some people who are going
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  Speaker 1: to be part of the problem, and there are some
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  Speaker 1: people who are going to be part of the solution.
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  Speaker 1: The ones who are going to be part of the
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  Speaker 1: problem are the ones who believe that the problem is
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  Speaker 1: what makes me upset. Therefore I can't do anything about
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  Speaker 1: it because the problem has to go before my upsetedness
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  Speaker 1: goes away. The people who are part of the solution
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  Speaker 1: are going to say that this is the condition of
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  Speaker 1: the world. These are the things that we have created,
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  Speaker 1: These are the things that are, and I am going
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  Speaker 1: to process them in such a way that I can
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  Speaker 1: change it so that means I can't be immobilized by
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  Speaker 1: my thoughts about things. The clock never turns backwards. Once
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  Speaker 1: you experience that nobody else can control your emotions. You
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  Speaker 1: get it because you experience it and you go through it.
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  Speaker 1: Then you get to the point where it's impossible for
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  Speaker 1: you to go backwards. The clock can't move back. You
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  Speaker 1: get treated in your life the way you teach people
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  Speaker 1: to treat you. Look at yourself and say, what is
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  Speaker 1: it about me that I have allowed this person to
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  Speaker 1: treat me in this way? What do I have to
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  Speaker 1: change so that I don't feel so abused and victimized?
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  Speaker 1: Rather than blaming the victimizers and when you teach somebody
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  Speaker 1: over a lifetime what you're willing to put up with,
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  Speaker 1: then they will go as far as they can with
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  Speaker 1: that kind of negative conduct towards you. So you take
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  Speaker 1: the responsibility for how you get treated in your life
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  Speaker 1: throughout life. You have to do that. You have to
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  Speaker 1: do it in everything, and it all comes from this
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  Speaker 1: internal belief in who you are as a human being.
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  Speaker 1: You wouldn't abuse something that you thought was very valuable. Well,
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  Speaker 1: the same thing is true of yourself. If you think
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  Speaker 1: of yourself as very valuable, very important, very significant as
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  Speaker 1: a human being, then you would never ever allow yourself
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  Speaker 1: to abuse it, and you wouldn't allow someone else to
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  Speaker 1: abuse it. And most abuse that people have, whether it's
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  Speaker 1: their own smoking, or their own overeating, or their own
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  Speaker 1: alcoholism or whatever, it comes from a belief, a fundamental
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  Speaker 1: belief that what I'm abusing isn't worth anything. Most people
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  Speaker 1: who are lonely are lonely only because they don't like
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  Speaker 1: the person they're alone with. If you like the person
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  Speaker 1: you're alone with, being alone is never lonely. It's just terrific.
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  Speaker 1: I've got some opportunity now to be with this terrific person.
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  Speaker 1: But if this person I'm alone with is really sort
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  Speaker 1: of contemptible and unacceptable to me, then I'm looking for
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  Speaker 1: somebody else to fill in the void. It applies to
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  Speaker 1: external abuse as well, and I'm not just talking physical abuse.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking any kind of activity which you find yourself
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  Speaker 1: being treated in less than the perfection that you are.
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  Speaker 1: Each one of us is a part of a perfect universe,
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  Speaker 1: and we are as much a part of the universe
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  Speaker 1: as anyone else or anything else is in it. In
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  Speaker 1: a perfect universe which works on harmony and cooperation and love,
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  Speaker 1: there are no mistakes, So you're not a mistake. You
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  Speaker 1: are a part of the perfection of it. If you
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  Speaker 1: believe that about yourself, the first time that you begin
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  Speaker 1: to see other people behaving towards this perfection, this object
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  Speaker 1: of beauty and this object of importance, then you react
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  Speaker 1: the way you naturally would react to someone who's abusing
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  Speaker 1: something beautiful. You wouldn't allow that. You can't kill thoughts.
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  Speaker 1: Thoughts are energy. You can't kill feelings. Feelings are the
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  Speaker 1: result of thoughts. Matter or form or our bodies are
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  Speaker 1: just things that change form. Who we are as a
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  Speaker 1: human being is the entire mental process. The entire thinking process,
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  Speaker 1: the entire attitude process. We fear what we don't face,
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  Speaker 1: and what we don't face controls us. Another person's opinion
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  Speaker 1: is not truth. At least, it's not your truth. It's
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  Speaker 1: not necessarily reality, it's not necessarily the best, it's not
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  Speaker 1: necessarily anything. It is somebody else's opinion. They can't hurt me,
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  Speaker 1: they can't destroy me, they can't make me into anything
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  Speaker 1: less than I am as a human being. They simply
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  Speaker 1: are other people's opinions. Opinions are of very little value.
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  Speaker 1: It's what you do with your opinions that makes all
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  Speaker 1: the difference in the world, not what your opinion is
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  Speaker 1: about something. My reputation is located in other people's opinions.
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  Speaker 1: That's what a reputation is. So I don't care about
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  Speaker 1: my reputation. I'm not interested in it at all. What
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  Speaker 1: other people think of me is where they are. What
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  Speaker 1: other people think of me is just that. What other
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  Speaker 1: people think is just that person is someone who understands
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  Speaker 1: that everything you do in life you did because you
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  Speaker 1: were supposed to do it. Otherwise you wouldn't have done it.
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  Speaker 1: The evidence for that you're supposed to do things is
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  Speaker 1: that you did it. You can't not do it, you
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  Speaker 1: can't should have done anything, or if only, if only
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  Speaker 1: doesn't exist, So you did it. Everything that happens to
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  Speaker 1: you that is considered negative or that is considered a
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  Speaker 1: failure is a hidden opportunity. And the seeds for all
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  Speaker 1: solutions to all problems are in the problem itself. The
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  Speaker 1: cure is in the illness. The cure is always in
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  Speaker 1: the illness. You ought to be the most grateful to
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  Speaker 1: the people that you feel are causing you the most
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  Speaker 1: upset in your life, because because they're the ones who
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  Speaker 1: force you to face yourself. And it isn't what you
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  Speaker 1: face that controls your life, it's what you don't face
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  Speaker 1: that controls your life. You have to let other people know,
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  Speaker 1: including the people that love you the most. You have
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  Speaker 1: to let them know that you have to be your
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  Speaker 1: own person and that when they want you to be
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  Speaker 1: something that you can't be because it conflicts with where
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  Speaker 1: you are on the path, that you have to say
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  Speaker 1: no to that, and that will strengthen the relationship. You
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  Speaker 1: will let somebody know these are the limits. No, I
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  Speaker 1: can't be that, I can't be your little victim. I
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  Speaker 1: can't just be your little servant. It's only what you
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  Speaker 1: don't face. It's only the things that you just continue
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  Speaker 1: to ignore and you hope will go away that are
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  Speaker 1: really controlling your life in a negative way. So it's
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  Speaker 1: just like you reverse on. You begin to stand up
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  Speaker 1: to the people that you love the most and also
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  Speaker 1: the people that don't even know you. You have gotten
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  Speaker 1: yourself to the point that you understand that what's inside
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  Speaker 1: of you as a result of what you think. Jealousy, anger, depression, fear,
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  Speaker 1: negativity of any kind are things that a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people spend a lot of time defending, and they're hardly
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  Speaker 1: worth defending at all. I am what I choose to
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  Speaker 1: believe about myself.
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  Speaker 2: Over here is a no limited person. And this is
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  Speaker 2: one of the crucial variables of the no limit person.
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  Speaker 1: They are interdirective.
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  Speaker 2: They consult their inner signals to decide what is right
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  Speaker 2: or wrong for themselves and to decide about their own life.
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  Speaker 1: Mission and what they're going to do.
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  Speaker 2: They have that quality of being able to say to themselves,
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  Speaker 2: this is what has meaning for me, and I have
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  Speaker 2: to do it because I believe it's right, even if
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  Speaker 2: I fly in the face of criticism from everybody else
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  Speaker 2: down the line.