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Herspiration Happy Hour, Season 9, Episode 25: Adulting Is the Real Horror Story · Herspiration Happy Hour

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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversations?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversation with your host, the unapologetic diva Dr.
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SPEAKER_00: G, the girlfriend therapist Dr.
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SPEAKER_00: Cortina Lewis, and the networking extraordinaire Diana Richardson Philippis?
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SPEAKER_00: Are you ready for cocktails and conversation?
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SPEAKER_00: This is Herspiration Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_00: Happy Wednesday and welcome to another episode of Herspiration Happy Hour.
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SPEAKER_00: This is season nine, episode 25.
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SPEAKER_01: This is your unapologetic diva, Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: G.
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SPEAKER_01: This is Dr.
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SPEAKER_01: Cortina Lewis, aka the girlfriend therapist.
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SPEAKER_02: And yours truly Shay Walker, the coach of courage.
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SPEAKER_00: And Diana will be joining us shortly, but you know, it is a winning Wednesday per usual.
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SPEAKER_01: And so we like to celebrate or you know, one another and whatever we have going on.
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SPEAKER_01: So what can we celebrate with you ladies today?
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SPEAKER_03: Huh.
1:26
SPEAKER_01: No, what day of the week is it?
1:31
SPEAKER_01: Oh my gosh.
1:32
SPEAKER_01: Well, you know what?
1:34
SPEAKER_01: Halloween is coming.
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SPEAKER_01: One of my favorite holidays.
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SPEAKER_01: So maybe that'll be something.
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SPEAKER_01: Are you dressing up?
1:46
SPEAKER_01: No, but Timmy's having his birthday party.
1:48
SPEAKER_01: He turned well, he turned nine yesterday.
1:51
SPEAKER_01: Oh, happy birthday.
1:52
SPEAKER_01: So we're having a birthday party for him at Sandbox VR.
1:59
SPEAKER_01: There's a little cute.
2:03
SPEAKER_01: Very cute.
2:04
SPEAKER_01: You see like little VR things on the pumpkins because it's Halloween.
2:08
SPEAKER_01: So yeah.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, so we're doing that, and it's a surprise.
2:14
SPEAKER_01: He doesn't know that Morgan is coming home for his birthday.
2:17
SPEAKER_01: Oh he told her, well, she told him he she wasn't gonna be able to come, but she's surprising him, and then she's gonna take him trick-or-treating.
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SPEAKER_00: I love it.
2:28
SPEAKER_00: I love it.
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SPEAKER_01: So, yeah, that sounds good.
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SPEAKER_01: And I get to see my baby, so yes.
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SPEAKER_00: So, what about you, Shay?
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SPEAKER_00: What do you have to celebrate?
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SPEAKER_02: I have many things to celebrate.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay.
2:40
SPEAKER_02: So I was asked to speak at the FDA conference in 2028, and so they want to book me for the entire conference.
2:52
SPEAKER_02: Um, there will be three sessions uh throughout the day.
2:57
SPEAKER_02: So I I know that I'm gonna be very exhausted.
2:59
SPEAKER_02: I am already putting together my team so that I can have some people to pass out to delegate some things to.
3:06
SPEAKER_02: So that's happening, and I am preparing to take my team to level 99 in Disney Springs uh this Friday.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm excited about that.
3:18
SPEAKER_02: And I got some great photos of the baby today.
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SPEAKER_02: We were able to see the 3D, you know, images, and it's so interesting how it's different now.
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SPEAKER_02: You can literally see like his eyebrows forming, and one of his eyes were open, and so we get to like his all the things.
3:38
SPEAKER_02: He's like he's very greedy already.
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SPEAKER_02: I love this, and so yeah, yeah, you see all the pictures.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, so we're celebrating real tough over here.
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SPEAKER_01: I see, I see.
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SPEAKER_01: Well, for me, I'm I am celebrating the fact that I have pretty much gotten everything solidified for my birthday ladies' weekend.
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SPEAKER_01: I got the personal chef done, I got the catering done for Friday night and the case and the chef for Saturday morning.
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SPEAKER_01: I that's for me, that's it's very me, but it's also, you know, just I've been so busy, and I think I froze.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, I was about to say I've been so busy lately that that's why I'm celebrating just a small win that I was able to get all of that done.
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SPEAKER_01: And so I'm ready for Halloween.
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SPEAKER_01: My costume comes, and y'all, I don't have rollers in, I have skull, a skull headband on.
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SPEAKER_00: The lady said it looks like I'm wearing rollers, but I'm not wearing rollers.
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SPEAKER_00: You could see the skulls because I'm going to be a skeleton for Halloween, and I'm glad it's on a Saturday because you just get to go out and have more fun and not have to worry about the next day.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's what I'm celebrating today.
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SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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SPEAKER_00: So, Cortina, do we have a drink for today?
4:55
SPEAKER_01: Yes, we do.
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SPEAKER_01: It's called the Bill's Boundaries and Bullshit.
5:03
SPEAKER_01: Uh, because Bill's burnt out responsibilities and pretending to have it all together deserve a drink.
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SPEAKER_01: So we got a drink to that.
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SPEAKER_01: So basically, you're gonna have one and one half ounce of vodka, one half ounce of elder flower, liqueur.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, we gotta have a little elder flower in there, one ounce of cranberry juice, one half ounce of lemon juice, one half ounce of simple syrup, two ounces of sparkling water, and ice.
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SPEAKER_01: And so, what you're gonna do with this, and then shake uh you're gonna shake your vodka, your elder flower, your cranberry juice, your lemon juice, together with the simple syrup and the ice, and you're gonna strain it over uh the rocks, over your ice.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, and then you're gonna top it with the sparkling water and then garnish it.
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SPEAKER_01: So there we go.
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SPEAKER_01: All right, all right.
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SPEAKER_00: So today uh we are talking about the the horror story behind adulting in a fun way, in a very fun way.
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SPEAKER_01: It's just you know, I'm sure when you all grew up, you you you were like, I cannot wait till I'm older, I cannot wait till I'm out of the year.
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SPEAKER_01: I can make all my own decisions.
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SPEAKER_01: So tell me tell me what is the most adulting thing that has bit you in the ass.
6:15
SPEAKER_01: Paying bills, y'all can keep all that, it's ghetto.
6:23
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
6:25
SPEAKER_01: You said the paying the bills, yeah.
6:28
SPEAKER_01: That was that's that's zero out of ten.
6:32
SPEAKER_01: Do not recommend.
6:33
SPEAKER_01: Um, I mean, well, you gotta pay them, but yeah, if I had it to do over again, I would enjoy not having to have a job, not really having the responsibilities, being able just enjoying your social life, and yeah.
6:50
SPEAKER_01: Who lied to me and told me I wanted to be an entrepreneur?
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SPEAKER_02: I'm responsible for everything.
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SPEAKER_02: Me, everybody, me and everybody, you know, and you and this is just this is this is my humorous thing.
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SPEAKER_02: Okay, I absolutely love everything about what I do, but honey, let's like for real, as a business, like when you are a business owner, that thing just hit different.
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SPEAKER_02: The responsibilities that come along with it, the people, the management, all the things, you know, sometimes just hit the clock and go to work and go home.
7:20
SPEAKER_02: Every let them figure it out.
7:22
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: The ooze and oh's, yeah.
7:28
SPEAKER_01: Um, there's definitely pros and cons.
7:30
SPEAKER_01: But you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: I I feel like no matter what you do, whether you're an entrepreneur or whether you work full-time, there's still a level of responsibility that you just don't feel like doing.
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SPEAKER_01: Because as an entrepreneur, you have to get up and show up for work.
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SPEAKER_01: As somebody who is employed nine to five, you have to get up and show up for work.
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SPEAKER_01: Regardless, you can't just lay in bed.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, mostly because if you, you know, even though you can set your own schedule kind of as an entrepreneur, I always say an entrepreneur is not really free-working.
8:05
SPEAKER_01: You work for everybody that you you want, you you work for all of your clients, you work for the people you service.
8:15
SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, yeah.
8:17
SPEAKER_01: So you're always working for somebody.
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SPEAKER_01: So technically, you might be an entrepreneur, but you got lots of bosses.
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SPEAKER_01: Absolutely, many of them, yes, young and old.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna tell you adulting for me.
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SPEAKER_01: I think a adulting horror story or uh uh you know that people don't really tell you about is things that come along with home ownership.
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SPEAKER_01: Like there are certain things I love about renting.
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SPEAKER_01: I love that you could just call somebody and they come and fix it.
8:48
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but when you own, holy shit, something breaks down, it's like, oh gosh, it's on you, it's on you.
8:54
SPEAKER_00: You can't call nobody, some things just have to sit for a little while.
8:58
SPEAKER_00: Oh, the the adulting that comes with homeowning is stressful.
9:04
SPEAKER_01: Because even when I had a house, I've had I've had a house built, and even then you learn once you have a house built once, oh you learn if you have a house built a second time at the shortcuts that these construction companies will take uh that will show up after a year or two, or even five years later.
9:27
SPEAKER_00: Crazy that you have to be responsible for.
9:30
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
9:33
SPEAKER_01: The other thing I would say is when pipes break and they belong to the city, but they're on your property, you're responsible.
9:41
SPEAKER_00: Like that's all you I have so many horror stories about homeownership and uh adulting, and I just don't and and I don't like it.
9:54
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't like it.
9:57
SPEAKER_01: That's one thing.
9:58
SPEAKER_01: What's something else?
10:00
SPEAKER_01: Um balancing just all the responsibilities that you have in life, just working, kids, marriage, friendships, uh bills, um, driving, trap, uh just juggling and handling all of it.
10:21
SPEAKER_01: Sometimes I don't think that people don't really look at how overwhelming all of those things can be.
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SPEAKER_01: Um, because I don't know if I've ever met an adult who hasn't shared that at some point in their life they was like, this is too much.
10:42
SPEAKER_01: This is a lot.
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SPEAKER_01: Why does it have to be this difficult sometimes?
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SPEAKER_01: Um illnesses, like all of the things that come with aging, right?
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SPEAKER_01: The things that you learn about, and it's just like, God dog, this this this can be a lot sometimes.
10:59
SPEAKER_01: So that's why it's important to make sure you make time for yourself because life can be a lot, and adulting can be very ghetto.
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SPEAKER_02: Parenting your adults is very getting.
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SPEAKER_02: I mean, your parent parenting your parents.
11:15
SPEAKER_02: That's ghetto.
11:16
SPEAKER_01: Oh, that is ghetto, very ghetto.
11:19
SPEAKER_01: Super ghetto.
11:20
SPEAKER_01: And there is no manual, there's no book, there's no, oh my gosh.
11:24
SPEAKER_01: And you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: I will say that, and maybe we just need to have a whole podcast by itself on that, because there are so many things that I am learning as I'm getting older, and after my dad had a stroke, and the advocating, and just the patience, the level of patience that you have to have, and grace that you have to give.
11:46
SPEAKER_01: And ooh, there's it's a lot, it's it's an emotional roller coaster that you cannot get off of.
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SPEAKER_01: And it makes it worse when you have a stubborn parent, like my dad, very honory.
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SPEAKER_02: Like, what about the honorary ones?
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SPEAKER_02: You know, that just meet you with conflict and confrontation every time you look around.
12:10
SPEAKER_02: What was the name of our drink tonight?
12:12
SPEAKER_02: I'm sorry, what was that?
12:14
SPEAKER_01: Bill's foundries and bullshit.
12:17
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, that was perfect.
12:22
SPEAKER_01: So, you know, you know what?
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SPEAKER_01: Let's I'm gonna I'm gonna throw out there some some everyday adulting horrors, and you tell me y'all, you you all tell me what you think.
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SPEAKER_01: Which is more terrifying to you?
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SPEAKER_01: Your phone at one percent or your gas tank on empty?
12:36
SPEAKER_02: My phone on one percent.
12:39
SPEAKER_01: Not your gas tank being on empty.
12:41
SPEAKER_01: My gas tank.
12:42
SPEAKER_02: No, my gas tank always on empty.
12:44
SPEAKER_01: It's it's uh yeah.
12:46
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, my gas tank always on empty a lot.
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SPEAKER_01: So your phone on one percent Shay is more terrifying to you, yeah.
12:53
SPEAKER_02: Because I keep but because I keep my gas full though in both in both my cars all the time.
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SPEAKER_02: And I'm I'm just that way.
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SPEAKER_02: My dad, he wouldn't let me drive my car if he ever got in there and it was at a half a tank, he would take my key.
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SPEAKER_01: So have you ever run out of gas before?
13:15
SPEAKER_01: Ever?
13:16
SPEAKER_01: No, no, never.
13:18
SPEAKER_01: I ain't never ran out of gas either.
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SPEAKER_01: I mean, I I know my car, so I know how far I can go.
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SPEAKER_01: I I have once, but I was only because I uh was traveling and I couldn't gauge.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, you you travel a new area and you can't gauge when the next gas station is.
13:39
SPEAKER_01: Uh yeah, that happened alone when I was young, but it happened to me before.
13:44
SPEAKER_01: Lesson learned.
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SPEAKER_02: That's probably that's why because my fear is that I would always drive long stretches, like you know, like you on the road all the time.
13:56
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, and my fear was always hitting one of those spots where it's nothing but woods, nothing off the exit.
14:02
SPEAKER_02: So I just always I'm always mindful.
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SPEAKER_02: If I get down, once I get down to a half, I'm getting off and I'm filling back up.
14:11
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, depending on where you travel, you also have to be comfortable.
14:17
SPEAKER_01: That's true, because you might be in the sundown town.
14:20
SPEAKER_01: You won't want to see it.
14:23
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that part that's what I'm saying.
14:25
SPEAKER_02: Yes, very true.
14:26
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, very much so.
14:27
SPEAKER_01: You're not trying to run out of gas in a sundown town, or you just sit in the car.
14:31
SPEAKER_01: Cause she you live in the old sundown town.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it's a side, you know, it's changed, but there is some sprinkles here and there for sure.
14:41
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, but they're they running them up out of you though, because everybody is 2026.
14:48
SPEAKER_02: So, Diana, we're talking about wearing up on.
14:51
SPEAKER_00: Oh, we're talking about adult adulting, and I asked the question which was more terrifying, your phone at 1% or your gas tank on empty.
15:08
SPEAKER_01: But then again, I can always call triple A.
15:15
SPEAKER_01: I think I think I I would go terrifying is that my gas is empty, my gas tank is empty.
15:20
SPEAKER_01: Although I don't have that problem now.
15:22
SPEAKER_01: I would just say if I ran out of a charge.
15:25
SPEAKER_01: And I've not done that, I've not done that yet.
15:27
SPEAKER_01: So, you know, I pull I've gotten some place on three percent, but it also lets me know it gets me to the closest place um that I can charge my car, and it'll tell me where I'm at when I get there.
15:42
SPEAKER_01: And then the percentage is very different from miles.
15:45
SPEAKER_01: So the percentage will scare the the crap out of me.
15:48
SPEAKER_01: And then there is the my, so I have to keep it on miles because percentage I I see 17, and that might be like 90 miles still.
15:59
SPEAKER_01: So I can't do I cannot do percentage.
16:04
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't care if my phone is on one percent.
16:06
SPEAKER_01: Well, let me take that back right about now.
16:09
SPEAKER_01: That's probably terrifying because my my phone is my key to my car.
16:15
SPEAKER_01: Yep, yeah.
16:17
SPEAKER_02: I saw somebody today, yeah, yeah, yeah.
16:25
SPEAKER_02: Because literally everything is the phone, everything is I wouldn't know where I'm going.
16:31
SPEAKER_01: I need the GPS.
16:33
SPEAKER_01: I don't even need it for that.
16:35
SPEAKER_01: Need it for the bank card.
16:37
SPEAKER_01: You never use the GPS in your car.
16:40
SPEAKER_01: No, I just always I'm always on CarPlay, I put CarPlay, so it just easier and it connects, and it knows how fast I go, and you know, all that jazz.
16:52
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so then let me ask you, ladies' debts, what household appliance breaking will send you over the edge?
16:59
SPEAKER_01: Refrigerator, what you say, Shay?
17:02
SPEAKER_02: I heard the refrigerator, wash and dryer, the stove, the washer and dryer.
17:09
SPEAKER_02: But you said in the kitchen, did you say the kitchen or a household?
17:12
SPEAKER_01: Household, oh definitely the what you know what the dryer.
17:17
SPEAKER_01: I you know no, I don't know because I'm so manual.
17:22
SPEAKER_01: I can go wash my clothes by hand and put them on a a line and dry them outside if I have to, you know, like I and I'm okay with that.
17:30
SPEAKER_01: I'd be I'm okay.
17:32
SPEAKER_01: Um I would say refrigerator, yeah.
17:36
SPEAKER_01: Let's go with refrigerator.
17:37
SPEAKER_01: I couldn't I could not live without that.
17:39
SPEAKER_01: I can make it without a washer and dryer, even if for a little while, because there's wash houses and all of that other stuff.
17:45
SPEAKER_01: But a refrigerator, oh, absolutely not for sure.
17:49
SPEAKER_01: Absolutely not.
17:50
SPEAKER_01: What about you, Diana?
17:52
SPEAKER_01: Drinking every day.
17:53
SPEAKER_01: I eat out a lot, so that part.
17:56
SPEAKER_01: I think for me, it's almost like it's it's probably the Keurig.
18:07
SPEAKER_01: I can't.
18:08
SPEAKER_01: That's an honest answer.
18:11
SPEAKER_01: I mean, it's the Keurig machine.
18:13
SPEAKER_01: Because if it go out, what I'm gonna do in the morning, like I don't want to go get called.
18:17
SPEAKER_01: You know, there's instant coffee.
18:18
SPEAKER_01: There is instant coffee for what I'm gonna do in the morning.
18:24
SPEAKER_01: What am I gonna do?
18:26
SPEAKER_01: I got to have it.
18:27
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it's crazy.
18:29
SPEAKER_02: I mean, but think about how we've all improvised during a time of a storm, you know?
18:34
SPEAKER_02: Like I've been without the fridge, I've been without the stove, I've been without power, and we made it through.
18:40
SPEAKER_02: It was difficult, but you accepted the terms and you just did what you had to do.
18:45
SPEAKER_02: Get some ice and all the things, but yes, right.
18:50
SPEAKER_02: Ice, yeah, ice, and then if you have a deep freezer, you stick all your stuff in the fridge in the deep freezer and keep it cold, you know.
18:58
SPEAKER_02: Yep, so I don't know.
19:00
SPEAKER_02: Keurig don't be working, the Keurig don't be working.
19:03
SPEAKER_02: Then I have look, you that's why you keep instant coffee in a house for real.
19:06
SPEAKER_01: Yes, I do have some instant coffee though.
19:09
SPEAKER_01: I look at it every day, and every now and again I get a little wild hair and I put the little filter in and put the the filter coffee, mean the instant coffee, but it's still in the Keurig, though.
19:20
SPEAKER_01: It it is going through the the Keurig.
19:24
SPEAKER_01: Really?
19:24
SPEAKER_01: Wait a minute.
19:25
SPEAKER_01: I have to use it.
19:28
SPEAKER_01: The coffee grounds because you know you filter oh and K cups.
19:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I have K cups where I've just put in regular coffee grinds.
19:38
SPEAKER_01: I've never now I do have I do have uh instant coffee, but I don't put that in the currig.
19:44
SPEAKER_01: I just do that to make just with some hot water.
19:49
SPEAKER_01: Well, I think I said that wrong.
19:51
SPEAKER_01: I use the hot water from the Keurig to make Insta coffee.
19:55
SPEAKER_01: Yes, there you go.
19:57
SPEAKER_02: Yes, yeah, excuse me, it's been a day.
20:00
SPEAKER_02: I felt like I was putting that together because I do that, and I got a little Keurig in my office, and I just brew the hot water and stick the instant coffee in there and keep it pushing.
20:09
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yes, Lord.
20:10
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, curious save lives.
20:14
SPEAKER_02: That turns us okay.
20:17
SPEAKER_01: Um, what simple errand somehow turns into an all-day event?
20:22
SPEAKER_01: Huh.
20:23
SPEAKER_01: Oh simple errand, grocery shopping from going to the store.
20:30
SPEAKER_01: That part I went to the store today.
20:33
SPEAKER_01: I was going to pet someone.
20:34
SPEAKER_01: All I had to do, I had one in my baby's digestive pumpkin.
20:44
SPEAKER_01: That turned into me getting them clothes and little outfits.
20:48
SPEAKER_01: Oh, they already I got them.
20:49
SPEAKER_01: They had little Halloween costumes for the little dogs on sale, a little dressing.
20:54
SPEAKER_01: So I'm in there doing that and then talking to all the associates and the dogs in there.
20:58
SPEAKER_01: One little task that I needed to do turned into an hour plus.
21:04
SPEAKER_01: One task.
21:06
SPEAKER_01: I couldn't, yeah.
21:08
SPEAKER_01: Mine is household shopping.
21:09
SPEAKER_01: So, like if I go to home goods, then I want to go and look at Rawls.
21:13
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna go to TJ Maxx.
21:14
SPEAKER_01: TJ Maxx, Marshall's all yeah, so just because they have all you plan accordingly when you're doing that.
21:20
SPEAKER_01: That's not a simple errand.
21:22
SPEAKER_01: That's you know what it was a simple error for me going in there for something very specific turns into me looking at other things, and now I want other things.
21:31
SPEAKER_01: So then um I I might go into one, yeah.
21:35
SPEAKER_01: I might go into one store and don't even buy what I needed to get.
21:39
SPEAKER_00: So now I still got to go find what I actually need it to get, it's just it's gonna take me to other stores.
21:45
SPEAKER_00: So I like home decorating, and there's certain things that I just like today.
21:50
SPEAKER_00: Probably why I have so many mugs.
21:53
SPEAKER_02: So, this is what I do now, right?
21:55
SPEAKER_02: To keep myself in order.
21:56
SPEAKER_02: I'm very strategic about this when I want to.
22:00
SPEAKER_02: Do one thing and one thing only, and I really want to stick to it.
22:04
SPEAKER_02: I will go, I won't go to the town centers where all the stores are.
22:09
SPEAKER_02: I'll go to the actual where there's just the standalone location.
22:13
SPEAKER_02: Okay, if I want to go to the grocery store, I'm gonna go to Publix, or I'll go to the Ross over here that's not attached to anything.
22:20
SPEAKER_02: But when I know that I'm setting myself up for a fun day, I'll go to the town centers or the plazas where all the stores are.
22:28
SPEAKER_02: Because I realize my one little thing, me gonna run in the Target or Walmart or whatever to pick up one little thing, gonna go, oh, let me go over here and see if they got this.
22:36
SPEAKER_01: Because I've been looking at that don't work for me.
22:41
SPEAKER_01: That don't even work for me because drive off.
22:46
SPEAKER_01: I'm driving all over the place.
22:48
SPEAKER_01: I'm like I'm going from one end of town to the other end of town, make to different stores.
22:55
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because like the Ross I go to, I used to go to when I was in Maryland.
23:00
SPEAKER_01: That Ross is nowhere near where Home Goods is at and where HomeSense is in another area, so I'm pouncing all around different stores.
23:14
SPEAKER_01: I like Marshall's TJ Maxx.
23:18
SPEAKER_01: I like the ball.
23:23
SPEAKER_01: I can I can probably because there's no Ross near me.
23:27
SPEAKER_01: Is the TJ Maxx?
23:28
SPEAKER_01: I do have Marshalls.
23:30
SPEAKER_01: Each Ross got something different, so you got to go to about three of them because they all have.
23:45
SPEAKER_01: I didn't even know where to go.
23:46
SPEAKER_01: It's location, like for instance, what you guys got going like what they'll have going on in Maryland right now is gonna be totally different from what they got in Florida.
23:54
SPEAKER_01: Well, but guess what?
23:56
SPEAKER_01: Even Sanford from Mount to Altamont to a pocket, like all different, and it's just like, oh my god, dang.
24:06
SPEAKER_01: Okay, let me put this on hold of here because I might go over here and they might have something that I really like.
24:11
SPEAKER_01: And then you just gotta circle back and be like, okay, if it's meant for me to have, it'll still be there.
24:17
SPEAKER_01: If it ain't, well, then you just gotta charge it to the game.
24:19
SPEAKER_01: It wasn't meant for me to have.
24:22
SPEAKER_02: So look at this real quick while we're talking about sales.
24:25
SPEAKER_02: Do not forget about the fall break sale at Bloomingdale's, everything up to 40% off.
24:30
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I don't even shop at Bloomingdale's.
24:34
SPEAKER_01: Might have to check that out.
24:36
SPEAKER_01: I got one Bloomies at Linux from Bloomingdale's.
24:40
SPEAKER_01: I remember that in the Palm Beach Mall.
24:43
SPEAKER_02: Like I get new bedding, all the things for the upcoming seasons.
24:47
SPEAKER_02: I'll change out my bedding, so I'll get bedding.
24:50
SPEAKER_02: It could be, let's just say something that's probably a set is maybe$700.
24:55
SPEAKER_02: You can easily get it for$300.
24:57
SPEAKER_02: Like now, y'all know what?
24:59
SPEAKER_01: So I'm finna share some.
25:01
SPEAKER_01: I don't think I knew it back then, but as an adult looking back, so remember, I just told y'all that you know, this is gonna say we're to the little story.
25:09
SPEAKER_01: I've never, I don't think I ever shared this with nobody.
25:12
SPEAKER_01: So me, my mom, my mom's friend, and somebody else, I don't know, was it her daughter or somebody?
25:18
SPEAKER_01: We went into Bloomingdales.
25:20
SPEAKER_01: So back then, you know, Bloomingdales was like that still, honey.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: It was oh girl, pricey.
25:27
SPEAKER_01: So I remember going in and trying on this dress in my mind.
25:32
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, oh, this dress is so expensive.
25:36
SPEAKER_01: And my mom's friend was like, just try it on, just just try it on, and whatever.
25:41
SPEAKER_01: And it fit so good, it was so pretty, it fits so good.
25:45
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna send y'all a picture of it.
25:47
SPEAKER_01: Um, and I remember loving the dress, and I went home maybe like a few days later.
25:57
SPEAKER_01: My mom comes to me and she was like, I was so excited, she was like, Here's your dress.
26:03
SPEAKER_01: I was like, Oh my god, I got the dress.
26:08
SPEAKER_01: Well, I didn't know my mom's friend at the time was a booster.
26:17
SPEAKER_03: She stole it.
26:26
SPEAKER_01: Wow, girl, stop it out.
26:31
SPEAKER_01: Stop it right now.
26:32
SPEAKER_01: She's like, We got to do the dress, baby.
26:37
SPEAKER_01: She said, Cortina wants this dress.
26:40
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna get her this dress now.
26:44
SPEAKER_01: My mom and I wasn't friends for like years or anything like that.
26:48
SPEAKER_01: Because I think like sometimes you be like, okay, I can't associate with people like this, but baby, I had my prom dress and it fit so good, but it was five finger discount.
27:05
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, I don't think I ever told nobody that story.
27:09
SPEAKER_01: I don't know why.
27:10
SPEAKER_01: I don't know why.
27:12
SPEAKER_01: Uh what is it?
27:14
SPEAKER_01: Young Miami song came to mind.
27:17
SPEAKER_01: We're all my what is it?
27:20
SPEAKER_01: We're all my skin and spending money in a bag, yeah.
27:30
SPEAKER_01: That's what happened.
27:32
SPEAKER_01: I was real, I'm not gonna say green, but I was real innocent, and it wasn't until one day I saw I think this was like after the fact, like with a black garbage bag full of clothes.
27:48
SPEAKER_01: I'm like, that's weird with tags on it and stuff, and then I was like, I don't know if I said it to my mom.
27:58
SPEAKER_01: We were somewhere else, and I was like, she be stealing.
28:06
SPEAKER_02: Please tell me your mama told you to just mind.
28:10
SPEAKER_02: Did she say mine?
28:13
SPEAKER_01: Just shut the hell up.
28:14
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
28:16
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
28:17
SPEAKER_01: Oh my god, I don't want to get in trouble, right?
28:22
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you all look, and you all like he got prom pictures and stuff.
28:27
SPEAKER_03: I'm gonna show y'all this dress, honey.
28:30
SPEAKER_01: Look, right?
28:32
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna show y'all this dress that was stolen.
28:36
SPEAKER_01: God forgive me for putting on the stolen merchandise, but I ain't still it.
28:39
SPEAKER_01: You didn't know, yeah.
28:42
SPEAKER_01: Well, did you know before you wore it?
28:43
SPEAKER_01: I mean, remember at some point.
28:45
SPEAKER_01: Okay, then I put two and two together, and I was like, This is stolen merchandise.
28:54
SPEAKER_01: The dress was I ain't gonna even lie, the dress was expensive because even for me back then, I was like, There is no way I'm ever gonna get this dress, but let me just go put it on for right now in the dressing room, right?
29:08
SPEAKER_01: Baby, the dress at least at least you at least you tried it on, and at least it fit.
29:14
SPEAKER_01: Oh, it fit, it fit.
29:17
SPEAKER_01: She was like, Oh, that's nice, you're nasty.
29:22
SPEAKER_01: That was good on you.
29:23
SPEAKER_01: That dress was made for you because she was talking my head up.
29:26
SPEAKER_01: I didn't know she in her mind.
29:27
SPEAKER_01: I don't know if she got it that same day because I don't remember us walking out with nothing.
29:32
SPEAKER_01: Well, clearly, we wouldn't if she was boosting it.
29:35
SPEAKER_01: We can't just walk out with it, but I don't know if she went back later at another time.
29:39
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
29:41
SPEAKER_01: I don't I don't, I just know I had the dress on.
29:44
SPEAKER_01: So Lord have mercy.
29:48
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it sounds like what's that?
29:51
SPEAKER_01: What's that little song?
29:53
SPEAKER_01: Uh you have a friend, and me, your mama had a friend.
29:59
SPEAKER_02: You had that she got her baby dress.
30:02
SPEAKER_02: That's what she did.
30:03
SPEAKER_00: That's exactly what she looked that's why she said you look good, and she was like, Oh, you look that look real good on you.
30:11
SPEAKER_01: It went right into a garbage bag.
30:13
SPEAKER_01: Look, it went right into a garbage bag.
30:15
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, she pulled it out of her toe pocket.
30:18
SPEAKER_01: Like, let me flip this bag.
30:21
SPEAKER_02: And now I'm not condoning uh anybody who on our hair stealing, but I'm just big shout out to the person that sacrificed it all to make sure Cortina looked good.
30:34
SPEAKER_01: Okay, all right, because she nailed on the line, and I was looking.
30:41
SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for the prom dress.
30:43
SPEAKER_01: I never forget it.
30:48
SPEAKER_01: So, look, so y'all, let me ask this: what is the scariest thing to discover after returning from vacation?
30:55
SPEAKER_01: You're sick.
30:57
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, this well, what kind of sick?
31:01
SPEAKER_01: Does it matter?
31:02
SPEAKER_01: Because I don't like that.
31:03
SPEAKER_01: I don't like nothing about that.
31:05
SPEAKER_01: If you went to Columbia and you was having sex with the BBL girls and you come back sick and give it to your partner, yeah, that's the problem.
31:12
SPEAKER_01: Um, you went wild with that.
31:14
SPEAKER_01: What the hell?
31:14
SPEAKER_01: I mean, well, that's why I said I just told y'all last week on the podcast what I saw in the club.
31:25
SPEAKER_01: Well, you didn't get specific about she if she was close enough to him, and I said, Well, you hope you get tested.
31:38
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, it was a whole thing.
31:40
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, it was a whole oh I mean, whatever you do, whether you look, whatever you did while you were gone, when you come back and you're sick, that is scary.
31:52
SPEAKER_01: Well, the scariest thing for me is realizing I have to go my ass back to work after being on vacation.
31:59
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I just don't want to do that.
32:03
SPEAKER_01: It's the scariest thing because I know I gotta open up eat the look, and don't be gone a week or two.
32:08
SPEAKER_01: And I used to take 30 days off before.
32:10
SPEAKER_01: So the scariest thing is coming back to yeah, I used to have a lot of a lot of vacation time.
32:15
SPEAKER_01: The scariest thing is coming back knowing that you gotta go through all these damn emails, and uh oh.
32:22
SPEAKER_01: So I I just hate having the just knowing that I gotta go to work.
32:26
SPEAKER_01: That's what I you know, yeah.
32:29
SPEAKER_01: Discovering that that next morning, I'm not gonna be on vacation no more.
32:34
SPEAKER_01: Especially, especially when you leave somewhere nice.
32:38
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that do be scared sometimes.
32:40
SPEAKER_01: Like, bye, yeah.
32:42
SPEAKER_01: So back to reality.
32:45
SPEAKER_01: That's the one thing about adulting.
32:47
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I hate is that going on vacation that your vacations have to end.
32:54
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, that's nice.
32:56
SPEAKER_00: And I don't and I don't vacation to escape life, I just like to go on vacation.
33:03
SPEAKER_01: So I still hate going back to work.
33:07
SPEAKER_01: Yes, I don't want to be able to do it.
33:09
SPEAKER_01: But it it I'm telling you, the best thing that I've ever had.
33:14
SPEAKER_01: Huh?
33:15
SPEAKER_01: Excuse me.
33:15
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
33:16
SPEAKER_01: I just want to be on the beach in some water with with some sort of cocktail.
33:20
SPEAKER_01: That's it.
33:22
SPEAKER_01: That's all I want.
33:24
SPEAKER_01: That sounds good right now.
33:25
SPEAKER_01: Every day.
33:28
SPEAKER_01: That sounds weird.
33:29
SPEAKER_01: Y'all, I've been on the Moscow mule t.
33:32
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I don't like ginger beer, I don't mind it, but it's with light ginger beer and lime, girl.
33:39
SPEAKER_01: It ooh, and they got a Mexican, it's called a Mexican mule with the tequila, a Mexican something.
33:46
SPEAKER_01: I can't do that.
33:47
SPEAKER_01: It's a Mexican mule.
33:50
SPEAKER_01: It's Mexican Mule.
33:51
SPEAKER_01: I don't like that one.
33:52
SPEAKER_01: I like the regular Moscow.
33:55
SPEAKER_01: I mean, my junk.
33:57
SPEAKER_01: I'm not gonna curse.
33:59
SPEAKER_01: I want one right now.
34:02
SPEAKER_01: I used to have those.
34:04
SPEAKER_01: I used to have the cup, the cups that uh you made Moscow mules in.
34:07
SPEAKER_01: I don't speaking of, I'm gonna have to ask Jay, what the hell happened to my my little my gold cups?
34:12
SPEAKER_03: I used to have said too.
34:15
SPEAKER_01: I don't know where they're at, and I haven't seen them.
34:18
SPEAKER_01: And I boxed, I boxed the entire I boxed the entire house up and unboxed the entire house, and I did not see those mugs.
34:28
SPEAKER_03: Hmm.
34:29
SPEAKER_01: Now I have to order some.
34:32
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I'm gonna get me.
34:34
SPEAKER_01: Well, I'm sorry for y'all and y'all.
34:38
SPEAKER_01: You have to give me some Moscow mule mugs, some mule mugs, mule mugs, yeah.
34:44
SPEAKER_01: The little ones with the handle, yeah.
34:46
SPEAKER_01: Uh-huh.
34:47
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, no, thank you.
34:49
SPEAKER_03: Say what thank you.
34:52
SPEAKER_01: I mean, it's not for me.
34:53
SPEAKER_01: I just like when you're entertaining and people want a Moscow mule, like Diana says, she likes a Moscow mule.
35:00
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, so you know, and I and I am the type of person I like to serve whatever's being drank in the right glass.
35:07
SPEAKER_01: Like, I can't, I don't like to have champagne and a wine glass.
35:10
SPEAKER_01: I like to have champagne and a champagne and a champagne.
35:12
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I get that.
35:13
SPEAKER_01: White wine and white wine glass, a red wine and a red wine glass.
35:17
SPEAKER_01: Uh so I and I so I prefer those things.
35:22
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I get that.
35:23
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, it makes a difference.
35:28
SPEAKER_01: I'm having water in a wine glass.
35:30
SPEAKER_01: What's up?
35:31
SPEAKER_01: So I've got a question for you, ladies.
35:34
SPEAKER_02: What does your and what does your final destination look like?
35:43
SPEAKER_02: Like your when I say your final destination while you are still like what is your what are your how do you how would you like to spend your last years?
35:55
SPEAKER_02: Let's just say if you knew you had 15 years left here on earth, how would you set yourself up?
36:02
SPEAKER_02: Like what would you what would that look like for you?
36:05
SPEAKER_01: I'll spend all my damn money so that nobody else can't spend it.
36:09
SPEAKER_01: So when I die, they can get the money then.
36:11
SPEAKER_01: But until then, I'm gonna go have me a a ball on my money.
36:17
SPEAKER_02: Like uh on what kind of things?
36:19
SPEAKER_01: Just traveling, shopping, like what probably traveling because that's my thing, but I really don't think I'm trying to think that you know, if I said, Oh, I have 15 years left to live, I don't think that I would do a whole lot different other than spend my money.
36:39
SPEAKER_01: I spend my money right now, but I wouldn't feel I I would feel like I don't have a reason to save at that point.
36:49
SPEAKER_02: Got you.
36:49
SPEAKER_02: So you would kind of just have some financial freedom and you can't do that.
36:52
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, but so let me ask who is telling me, like, who's telling me I have 15 years?
36:57
SPEAKER_01: Is this God telling me I have 15 years or is this man?
37:01
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, just absolutely just you knowing without a shadow of a doubt, like God's hey, you know what?
37:06
SPEAKER_02: I'm gonna give you another 15 years.
37:08
SPEAKER_01: Is this if we knew what that date was?
37:10
SPEAKER_01: If we just if oh hell yeah, I'm gonna spend my money, I'm not saving shit for people to spend when I leave.
37:16
SPEAKER_01: Okay, no, I have no more savings, no more savings for me.
37:21
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna go.
37:22
SPEAKER_01: I want to be by the beach by the water.
37:27
SPEAKER_01: I want to spend my days by the water, yeah, every day.
37:31
SPEAKER_01: I want to spend my days with my friends, so I'll be going visiting people and just making memories with people and celebrating life with people, which I kind of do that now, but I I think I would do it on where there's no hesitation at that point, where you know I wouldn't I would prioritize it even more because right now it's like I have to work, I got you know these things going on.
37:55
SPEAKER_01: I think that I would probably worry less about work and work and do more of showing up so that those people can remember me, huh?
38:05
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you would just have no restrictions, you would just do what you wanted to do.
38:09
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yep, got it.
38:11
SPEAKER_02: Okay, all right, and Cortina, you would just want to spend time.
38:14
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I just want to be by the beach walk traveling on water, looking at I can imagine myself, maybe not like at the 15th year, but at the at at well, maybe not at the first year, but like the last year, just going to beautiful lake views, ocean views, streams.
38:35
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, okay, it's so funny.
38:39
SPEAKER_01: Like the the older I get, I realize I'm really true to my science.
38:42
SPEAKER_01: I'm a water sign.
38:43
SPEAKER_01: I do like water.
38:45
SPEAKER_01: It's weird.
38:46
SPEAKER_01: I don't want to get in the water, but I like being around water.
38:50
SPEAKER_01: I like being around water.
38:52
SPEAKER_01: I want to be able to see the lake.
38:54
SPEAKER_01: I want a lake out, I want a house on the lake.
38:57
SPEAKER_01: That sounds cool.
38:57
SPEAKER_01: I want a house on the lake.
39:00
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
39:03
SPEAKER_01: See, I'm a water sign too.
39:05
SPEAKER_01: I'm kind of water and sand, I mean, you know, and land, so I kind of like both.
39:10
SPEAKER_01: Huh?
39:11
SPEAKER_01: I was gonna say, I don't want the sand.
39:13
SPEAKER_01: And well, I'm a little bit of both.
39:15
SPEAKER_01: I I I'm the type that I don't wanna I don't wanna be in the water because I don't like nothing touching my feet.
39:20
SPEAKER_01: If I can't see all the water, you don't want to be in the water.
39:23
SPEAKER_01: Hell no, they got too much shit going on in the water for me nowadays.
39:26
SPEAKER_01: Um you always in the water.
39:31
SPEAKER_01: What I'm just saying that's not my preference.
39:35
SPEAKER_01: I'm saying, like, I'm not gonna just hang out consistently in the water if I can't see through it.
39:40
SPEAKER_01: I said if I can't see through, I don't get in water, I cannot see through.
39:43
SPEAKER_01: We couldn't see through when you was on the paddle boat thing in the boat in the water.
39:47
SPEAKER_01: So Tarica, you couldn't see a damn thing.
39:50
SPEAKER_01: You can that's a lie, I can see enough.
39:53
SPEAKER_01: We couldn't see in the water.
39:56
SPEAKER_01: I saw enough.
40:01
SPEAKER_01: Personally, right now, I don't want to be in nobody's water after the educational lesson that Cortina gave with all of the sperm that's floating around in the baby.
40:15
SPEAKER_01: No, no, I don't want to be in the penis.
40:18
SPEAKER_01: No, the whale sperm.
40:22
SPEAKER_01: And not only that, the barnacles, the barnacle sperm, the whale sperm.
40:26
SPEAKER_01: No, not the barnacle sperm, the barnacle penis.
40:29
SPEAKER_01: Okay, the barnacle penis, whatever.
40:32
SPEAKER_01: Whatever it's just too much in the too much in the water.
40:35
SPEAKER_01: What are you gonna say?
40:36
SPEAKER_01: What y'all been talking about?
40:38
SPEAKER_01: Because we are not going back down that rabbit hole, but it's enough to where I don't want to be in nobody's water swimming no more.
40:44
SPEAKER_01: Just wait a minute.
40:45
SPEAKER_01: Just uh uh you breaking up, so you what are you you said?
40:54
SPEAKER_01: It's sperm in there from who?
40:56
SPEAKER_01: The whales, it's whale sperm.
41:01
SPEAKER_01: Ask Cortina how much, how much did it say?
41:03
SPEAKER_01: How many gallons of whale sperm did do they use gallons?
41:08
SPEAKER_01: Oh yeah, gallons, yeah, yeah.
41:11
SPEAKER_02: The salt a lot, it's a lot of sperm, yeah.
41:15
SPEAKER_01: And she said that's why the water's salty.
41:19
SPEAKER_02: Maybe that's why you'd be feeling all exfoliated when you get out of there, too.
41:27
SPEAKER_01: Be glistening, yep.
41:30
SPEAKER_01: Y'all are y'all are salt water, do something for that ocean water come out glistening on it.
41:36
SPEAKER_01: So it's a it's gallons of whale sperm, yeah.
41:39
SPEAKER_01: Five gallons each ejaculation.
41:43
SPEAKER_01: But don't they go into isn't he ejaculating into the to the to the woman?
41:50
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, sometimes, but I'm sure all of it don't get in.
41:56
SPEAKER_01: You know what?
41:58
SPEAKER_01: You know what?
41:58
SPEAKER_02: We're not we're not gonna let me find another question to ask because I'm just waiting Diana, where would you well how how do you see your how do how would you see your how would you see your final time?
42:10
SPEAKER_02: Your li your last time.
42:13
SPEAKER_01: Who me?
42:15
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
42:17
SPEAKER_02: So Diana is going to Is that me or is that or is there no I guess her what now Diana?
42:31
SPEAKER_02: It was me.
42:32
SPEAKER_01: Okay, can you hear me?
42:37
SPEAKER_00: Yes, we can hear you.
42:42
SPEAKER_03: Okay, now we can't water.
42:50
SPEAKER_01: You can't hear me.
42:52
SPEAKER_01: We can't we can't now.
42:56
SPEAKER_01: So can you hear me now?
42:58
SPEAKER_01: Yes, we can hear you now.
43:00
SPEAKER_01: Okay, what did y'all hear?
43:02
SPEAKER_01: Because I was just a talking nothing.
43:03
SPEAKER_01: So to nothing.
43:05
SPEAKER_01: Um so I said that I want to travel and I want to be by the water, preferably somewhere in the Caribbean.
43:14
SPEAKER_01: That's where that's a Diana thing.
43:17
SPEAKER_01: I want to be on somebody's sand with my cocktail, enjoying life with my mango stand.
43:25
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you said with your mango stand.
43:29
SPEAKER_01: Okay, Jesus.
43:31
SPEAKER_01: As in you're gonna sell mango.
43:33
SPEAKER_01: Honestly, I've always said that I wanted to retire in Costa Rica and open up and have a mango stand.
43:39
SPEAKER_01: Well, I didn't say I wanted a mango stand, but but Jay and I did say that we would love to um retire in Costa Rica.
43:46
SPEAKER_01: We liked it that much, but and and the other side of Costa Rica, not in that hot ass, super hot, burning that burn me up heat type of side of Costa Rica.
43:56
SPEAKER_01: Well, it was just the time of year was hot.
44:00
SPEAKER_01: It it sure was hot.
44:01
SPEAKER_01: Lord, it was hot.
44:01
SPEAKER_01: It was hot.
44:02
SPEAKER_00: That that that sun was disrespectful.
44:04
SPEAKER_01: It was really, really, really hot.
44:06
SPEAKER_01: It was disrespectful.
44:08
SPEAKER_02: It was.
44:09
SPEAKER_02: It was hot.
44:10
SPEAKER_02: So I would tell Pam, remember Miss Gloria, the rooftop breakfast, brunch we that's how I see my last times.
44:23
SPEAKER_02: Something like that.
44:24
SPEAKER_02: Because I absolutely love to cook, especially like, well, I like to cook all food, but brunch, especially.
44:31
SPEAKER_02: And so I would love to do that because I still want to be able to experience like interacting with people, but I want to be able to see the water.
44:39
SPEAKER_02: So where her restaurant is, she had a rooftop, but she had like a um, like um, what do you call it?
44:45
SPEAKER_02: Uh breakfast.
44:46
SPEAKER_02: Bed and breakfast.
44:47
SPEAKER_02: Bed and breakfast.
44:48
SPEAKER_02: A hotel like yeah, and the rooftop was on top, and she served uh breakfast food.
44:55
SPEAKER_02: But she was so homey and welcoming, and she was such a servant at heart, man.
45:00
SPEAKER_02: It was just such a beautiful experience for her.
45:02
SPEAKER_02: She picked up my biscuit and with her hand and like put it, just put the butter and the jelly on it, and so unapologetic about it, kind of like being in your grandma's kitchen.
45:12
SPEAKER_02: So it was that was such a beautiful experience.
45:14
SPEAKER_02: But that's how that's what I love to do.
45:16
SPEAKER_02: I love to host, I love doing things like that.
45:18
SPEAKER_02: So that's how I would like to spend my time.
45:20
SPEAKER_02: And it was a beautiful ocean view, it was just beautiful.
45:24
SPEAKER_02: Where's Miss Gloria?
45:26
SPEAKER_02: If I want to go, she's in Portland.
45:28
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, let me go.
45:30
SPEAKER_01: I beat you, go to Puerto Rico, it don't be working out for me.
45:36
SPEAKER_01: And we had a lovely time there, and it was really, really nice.
45:39
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, it was fun.
45:40
SPEAKER_01: I sent y'all a picture of the dress.
45:43
SPEAKER_01: You can't see the whole thing, but it was embroidered.
45:47
SPEAKER_01: I see, get it, girl.
45:49
SPEAKER_01: Okay, and come on then, it was fancy with my French roll, girl.
45:56
SPEAKER_01: Listen, and the glass with my clips in the front on the French roll, and my clips in the back beautiful with the E-grade glasses sprinkle away.
46:12
SPEAKER_01: I thought I was it, honey.
46:14
SPEAKER_01: It was it was okay, it was cute.
46:18
SPEAKER_01: It was mama did that.
46:22
SPEAKER_01: Come on, a friend show did you know what?
46:26
SPEAKER_01: I gotta take my mama to get her stitches removed from her surgery.
46:29
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna ask her, do she remember that?
46:31
SPEAKER_01: I might get y'all some more tea because I'm gonna figure out what happened why they wasn't friends no more.
46:34
SPEAKER_01: So and then probably because she boosted their dress.
46:40
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, your mom didn't.
46:42
SPEAKER_01: This is not gonna work out.
46:43
SPEAKER_01: I would not be an accessory, no.
46:47
SPEAKER_01: This is funny, no and no.
46:49
SPEAKER_01: Oh god, so y'all, on a funny note, because I know we've all done this.
46:54
SPEAKER_01: What is worse?
46:55
SPEAKER_01: Accidentally hitting reply all or realizing you were not muted, realizing I wasn't muted, and I'm on some, and and I'm on I'm saying something crazy, and then you be like, I have a go.
47:13
SPEAKER_01: Okay, um you mean reply all like in an email?
47:20
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't it doesn't matter, just if you ever accidentally hit reply all, and let's say I have seen people hit reply all, and what was being said was not uh uh appropriate or was about someone else.
47:35
SPEAKER_01: Oh, somebody on three and they accidentally hit reply all.
47:41
SPEAKER_01: Damn, crazy, yeah.
47:44
SPEAKER_01: Although I would say I I think for me it wouldn't be the reply all, it would be it would be the not muting that would be worse for me.
47:54
SPEAKER_01: I think it's worse.
47:56
SPEAKER_01: Huh?
47:56
SPEAKER_01: No, you weren't.
47:57
SPEAKER_01: We were shooting.
48:00
SPEAKER_01: No, you're just frozen right now, you're not moving.
48:03
SPEAKER_02: I think I would have to say, yeah, I'm gonna say we'll reply all because I'm pretty mindful about what I say and how I speak about things, people, situations, because I always have to be.
48:18
SPEAKER_02: So I mean, it's just reply all would be that's a little that's more permanent, in my opinion, because you can misinterpret something that you're hearing.
48:31
SPEAKER_01: So have you so you mean to tell me have you ever has it ever happened to you where like somebody either butt dials or don't hang up?
48:40
SPEAKER_01: And so you can still hear the all the conversations going on yeah, I've heard many times, yeah.
48:46
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, and I think that's also just as bad as not being muted.
48:52
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because we're gonna be like, Oh, I guess got off the phone with this aggravating ass person, and they just want to talk to me about crazy stuff that don't even matter, and you sit there listening, like, oh, that's how you really feel.
49:04
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I've had my problem is I've like, hell yeah, and I'm glad you heard it because I probably you probably needed to hear it.
49:11
SPEAKER_01: That's my problem.
49:12
SPEAKER_01: That's how we I'm gonna tell you.
49:14
SPEAKER_01: Look, I'm gonna tell you, I have had so many people, mostly like my mama's done it a few times, who will call me and my voicemails is they get the voicemail, but they don't hang up the call, so you're hearing everything in the background.
49:29
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, that happens too.
49:32
SPEAKER_01: Happened to Jay.
49:33
SPEAKER_01: Jay's made that mistake before, and he was out ordering food.
49:39
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, which brings me, oh my gosh, Shay, you cracked me up when you found that um that video of the man that was cheating on his wife because I've been butt dialed before.
49:52
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because he was sitting in his car.
49:53
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I mean, I've definitely been butt dialed, but he was sitting in his car, and he said this is also cheating on your wife, and he was sitting in his car eating.
50:04
SPEAKER_01: Well, you know, I shared that with y'all the other time.
50:07
SPEAKER_01: How I just sit in the car, and I beat it.
50:09
SPEAKER_01: And then when when she sent it, I said, Oh my gosh.
50:13
SPEAKER_01: She had just said it.
50:14
SPEAKER_01: That's what that's it's like that's what's that prompt me.
50:18
SPEAKER_01: I was like, Oh my god, look at Cortina, let me send it.
50:22
SPEAKER_01: Because she had just said she'd be cheating with food.
50:25
SPEAKER_01: I gotta be, I gotta be cheating with food, yes, because uh it's so good.
50:32
SPEAKER_01: Sometimes I don't wanna just want to have the hell last morsel, and I just want to put it in my car.
50:38
SPEAKER_01: Just wanna have the the um well.
50:46
SPEAKER_01: Okay, who's who's frozen?
50:49
SPEAKER_01: Uh that would be Diana.
50:51
SPEAKER_01: Oh, okay, just Diana.
50:52
SPEAKER_01: Okay, because you were so still just now, Courtney.
50:55
SPEAKER_01: I was like, damn, is it my computer too?
50:57
SPEAKER_01: No, uh-uh.
50:58
SPEAKER_01: Well, I guess I cheat often.
51:00
SPEAKER_01: You send your car to me.
51:05
SPEAKER_01: I can't hear if you're I'm gonna say that's a yes, I think she does.
51:08
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
51:09
SPEAKER_01: Yep.
51:14
SPEAKER_01: And so um, one question, oh, I would I want to ask this one.
51:18
SPEAKER_01: What purchase officially made you feel like an adult?
51:22
SPEAKER_01: Like, when did you really know that's like oh okay, I'm officially an adult now?
51:27
SPEAKER_01: When I bought my car by myself, and I had no cosigner.
51:33
SPEAKER_01: Okay, I was like, look at me, I got my own car.
51:37
SPEAKER_01: Okay, I'm doing it.
51:39
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I felt like I've I felt like a real a real adult.
51:43
SPEAKER_01: I was adulting.
51:45
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
51:47
SPEAKER_01: Mine was when I got my own insurance, my own life, and my own health insurance and dental and stuff.
51:52
SPEAKER_01: What is wrong with this?
51:54
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, okay.
51:55
SPEAKER_01: Well, that's that for me felt like now I'm really adulting.
52:01
SPEAKER_01: I was also in the military, so I don't know what's going on.
52:09
unknown: I don't know.
52:11
SPEAKER_01: This is adulting, this is a part of it.
52:15
SPEAKER_01: Shay, what about you?
52:16
SPEAKER_01: What what purchase did you make that just really solidified like I'm an adult now?
52:21
SPEAKER_01: Or what what how what trend what was that transition for you and that moment where you just said to yourself, I'm officially an adult?
52:30
SPEAKER_02: Well, I had to put utilities in my name.
52:33
SPEAKER_01: Oh, I didn't even think about that.
52:37
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, yeah, all of them light bill, water bill, table, yeah, start running credit checks for everything you wanted.
52:47
SPEAKER_02: That was just sending me over the edge.
52:49
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I didn't I forgot about that.
52:53
SPEAKER_01: I guess that goes right up there with health insurance because yeah, you're coming off your parents, it's like what?
52:58
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, insurance now, yeah.
53:01
SPEAKER_01: And low-key, I joined the military because I knew I wanted to break from college and I knew that I would lose my benefits, and I had never not had benefits, and I also didn't know how to utilize, as they say, civilian benefits.
53:15
SPEAKER_01: So said let me go get my own.
53:19
SPEAKER_01: And I did.
53:21
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
53:23
SPEAKER_00: You know, Diana, what about you?
53:29
SPEAKER_01: Yep, trying to navigate this this um with what we got going on right now.
53:36
SPEAKER_01: Uh huh.
53:37
SPEAKER_01: It's technology.
53:40
SPEAKER_01: I can't, I don't know if she can hear Diana.
53:43
SPEAKER_01: Okay, she she dropped off.
53:44
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
53:45
SPEAKER_01: No, no, yeah.
53:47
SPEAKER_01: Um, and so let's see.
53:51
SPEAKER_01: That's some I have some other questions here.
53:53
SPEAKER_01: Let me see another fun one.
53:55
SPEAKER_01: Uh would you rather lose your phone or your wallet?
54:00
SPEAKER_01: Damn, my wallet.
54:02
SPEAKER_01: Oh, there she go.
54:04
SPEAKER_01: I don't know what's going on.
54:06
SPEAKER_02: I just had to put it, I had to switch devices because it's weird.
54:12
SPEAKER_02: It's so weird.
54:13
SPEAKER_01: And StreamYard kept kicking me out saying that something went wrong.
54:19
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna say the wallet.
54:22
SPEAKER_01: But Diana, let me go back and ask you what purchase officially made you feel like an adult.
54:32
SPEAKER_01: Hmm.
54:35
SPEAKER_01: I think when I got my very first apartment, I thought you were gonna say dildo.
54:52
SPEAKER_01: I don't know why that popped in my mind.
54:57
SPEAKER_01: It's the sex therapist.
54:58
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
54:59
SPEAKER_01: That's a bunch more.
55:00
SPEAKER_01: What the hell?
55:03
SPEAKER_01: Does that make somebody feel like an adult?
55:05
SPEAKER_01: Maybe it was an apartment so that she can finally use her own dildo, yeah.
55:09
SPEAKER_01: Because they liberated in their own apartment that they're you can you can you can master.
55:13
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, because she's over there blushing.
55:15
SPEAKER_01: She first like, oh look.
55:19
SPEAKER_01: Look, that too.
55:20
SPEAKER_01: That can make you feel like an adult.
55:23
SPEAKER_01: Cheers.
55:24
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, right.
55:25
SPEAKER_01: So then we was asking, would you rather lose your phone or your wallet?
55:28
SPEAKER_01: And Cortina, you said you'd rather you lose your wallet.
55:31
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
55:32
SPEAKER_01: Why?
55:33
SPEAKER_01: Why your wallet?
55:34
SPEAKER_01: I can replace them credit cards and all that.
55:36
SPEAKER_01: It's so much stuff up in the phone and these numbers and these contacts.
55:40
SPEAKER_01: I don't like you, but that stuff is backed up in the cloud.
55:45
SPEAKER_01: Well, I don't know.
55:46
SPEAKER_01: Because sometimes I think I be having numbers in that and and text messages that I don't ever delete because I don't ever delete text messages.
55:53
SPEAKER_01: Um, yeah, I don't know.
55:55
SPEAKER_01: I just feel like somebody get a hole in my phone, some of the stuff that's in the phone.
56:00
unknown: Yeah.
56:02
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
56:03
SPEAKER_01: Okay, now that you say that.
56:12
SPEAKER_01: Okay, what's what what is in there?
56:17
SPEAKER_01: What's in there?
56:18
SPEAKER_01: What's in there?
56:20
SPEAKER_01: What's in there?
56:21
SPEAKER_01: Just stuff.
56:22
SPEAKER_01: What kind of stuff?
56:23
SPEAKER_01: I want to know what kind of stuff is in there.
56:26
SPEAKER_01: Some nasty stuff.
56:29
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
56:30
SPEAKER_01: You nasty.
56:33
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
56:38
SPEAKER_01: Oh no.
56:39
SPEAKER_01: Oh no, okay.
56:41
SPEAKER_02: Oh yeah.
56:42
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
56:43
SPEAKER_01: What about you, Shay?
56:44
SPEAKER_01: Your phone or your wallet?
56:47
SPEAKER_02: Oh, I have to say my phone.
56:51
SPEAKER_02: Because the phone, everything is backed up in the cloud.
56:54
SPEAKER_02: Everything is restorable.
56:56
SPEAKER_02: And then everything is linked to the, you know, the MacBook and all the things.
57:01
SPEAKER_02: So I can replace the phone more so than the wallet.
57:07
SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna have to go with Cortina.
57:08
SPEAKER_01: Uh the wallet can go.
57:11
SPEAKER_01: The wallet can go.
57:12
SPEAKER_01: Because I can cancel everything out, and and even my um new credit cards will pop up right where I can use them in my Apple wallet.
57:20
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I might not in the physical card, but I can cancel everything out.
57:24
SPEAKER_01: So the wallet can go, but I my lifeline is in my phone.
57:29
SPEAKER_01: That and if I'm out, I'll be walking home because my phone is my QR key.
57:37
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
57:38
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, I think the wallet can go.
57:42
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
57:43
SPEAKER_01: Diana People say, huh?
57:50
SPEAKER_01: What the the listeners would think.
57:52
SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
57:53
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, y'all can let us know.
57:54
SPEAKER_00: Like, would you prefer would you rather lose your wallet or your phone?
57:58
SPEAKER_01: Um now is the phone locked or is it open?
58:02
SPEAKER_01: Because see, my phone is triple protected, so I might lose it, but ain't nobody getting up in there.
58:08
SPEAKER_01: Like they they're not gonna get in there.
58:10
SPEAKER_01: If they can hack it, yeah.
58:11
SPEAKER_01: Mine too, is it's pretty secure.
58:13
SPEAKER_01: Oh, yeah, mine is secure, but still, I'm just still nervous.
58:17
SPEAKER_01: Um I feel like people find a way to do shit.
58:20
SPEAKER_01: So and you can also I'm seeing I don't know if you can wipe it from your find my.
58:28
SPEAKER_01: I think you can.
58:30
SPEAKER_01: You can wipe your phone or whatever from your find my or you can lock it.
58:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, you can try it.
58:38
SPEAKER_01: I guess it would have to be my wallet because I guess I could cancel everything real quick fast.
58:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I don't put everything on my Apple Wallet, like I got one card on there because I don't really trust all them swipe.
58:51
SPEAKER_01: The I that's just not my thing, you know.
58:54
SPEAKER_01: I know somebody got got big time.
58:56
SPEAKER_01: See, that's why my credit card, my credit card is in my Apple wallet, so you I can dispute that.
59:02
SPEAKER_01: So you're not you so my credit card stays in my Apple wallet now, not my debit card.
59:08
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, seriously.
59:10
SPEAKER_01: You gotta you gotta fight to get money back.
59:12
SPEAKER_01: But on the credit card, be like, look here, mm-mm.
59:14
SPEAKER_01: I did not approve that, and they're going and reverse it, and it doesn't, and it's not coming out of my personal account money.
59:22
SPEAKER_01: So yeah, I had to cut that out.
59:24
SPEAKER_01: No.
59:26
SPEAKER_00: But can you believe we're at the top of the hour already?
59:30
SPEAKER_00: No, yes, yes, we are.
59:37
SPEAKER_02: Uh Shay, where can everybody find you at?coach of courage program at the coach of courage.
59:51
SPEAKER_00: All right, all right.
59:52
SPEAKER_00: And Diana, where can everybody follow you at?
59:55
SPEAKER_01: Diana Richardson Philippis.com, Diana Richardson Philippis on all social media platforms, and Empower Womenpower.com.
1:00:04
SPEAKER_01: And Dr.
1:00:05
SPEAKER_01: Lewis, the girlfriend therapist on all social media platforms, the new R N O I R Center, and Smile Facilitation Services.
1:00:15
SPEAKER_01: All right, and you can find me and you can find me on all social media platforms at Iam Dr.
1:00:21
SPEAKER_01: P Gurley.
1:00:22
SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for hanging out and just you know, all of the comments and the feedback and everything.
1:00:28
SPEAKER_01: Uh, we only have a few more episodes left before we end this ninth season.
1:00:35
SPEAKER_01: And uh yeah, I like how you know it it in the ninth season, people really just like, I didn't even know y'all, we're here.
1:00:42
SPEAKER_01: Like, okay.
1:00:44
SPEAKER_01: But now we now that they do, uh, it's been lovely.
1:00:47
SPEAKER_01: Um, and so if there's anything that you I know, if there's anything that you would like to hear us talk about, any topics, or if you want to be on the show, just send an email to herspiration happyhour at gmail.com.
1:00:58
SPEAKER_01: Have an amazing rest of the week.
1:01:00
SPEAKER_01: Be safe out there on Halloween.
1:01:03
SPEAKER_01: Yes, if you're going out, if you're trick-or-treating, uh, I just you know what, and low-key, who giving out candy?
1:01:11
SPEAKER_01: It's too expensive.
1:01:12
SPEAKER_01: Girl, what that's what I was getting ready to say.
1:01:15
SPEAKER_01: I can't but it was expensive last year.
1:01:17
SPEAKER_01: I didn't last year.
1:01:18
SPEAKER_01: And the uh well, I do it every year for them kids.
1:01:21
SPEAKER_01: I got to but you go on the day of right before trick-or-treating starts, you will find better deals.
1:01:30
SPEAKER_01: Trust me.
1:01:31
SPEAKER_01: I can't go to Sam's right before it might be closed.
1:01:34
SPEAKER_01: See, half off.
1:01:35
SPEAKER_01: I mean, even if the the bags are like 20, 25, 29,$2.9.
1:01:40
SPEAKER_01: Yes, those same bags used to be$9.99.
1:01:44
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
1:01:45
SPEAKER_01: And now they go to Walmart.
1:01:47
SPEAKER_01: Go to Walmart or to if you have a Kroger in your area, the day of um, you'll get them heavily discounted.
1:01:56
SPEAKER_01: That's what I do instead of spending$30 a bag.
1:02:00
SPEAKER_02: Or you can go to the dollar store and rack up on those little painting uh things that they can do, the little arts and crafts things, and put them in little goodie bags and give them those.
1:02:13
SPEAKER_02: That's cute too.
1:02:15
SPEAKER_01: But see, these little rug rats are so they don't pile up at our office with the teeth falling out.
1:02:21
SPEAKER_01: You know what?
1:02:22
SPEAKER_01: I think I might just go buy some pencils.
1:02:24
SPEAKER_01: That's cheap.
1:02:25
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
1:02:28
SPEAKER_00: Yeah, let me see what I can find.
1:02:29
SPEAKER_00: I hate not giving anything away.
1:02:31
SPEAKER_01: Uh give them one tic tac.
1:02:35
SPEAKER_01: You know what?
1:02:37
SPEAKER_01: One tic tac.
1:02:39
SPEAKER_01: This is why we're gonna end the show right now.
1:02:41
SPEAKER_01: Y'all have a good one and be safe out there if you're giving out candy.
1:02:45
SPEAKER_01: But I do want to know who's paying$30 for these bags because I've seen I've not seen one bag leave at the grocery store.
1:02:51
SPEAKER_01: Well, that's why we're going to the other neighborhood.
1:02:58
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
1:03:01
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
1:03:01
SPEAKER_01: So um, yeah.
1:03:06
SPEAKER_01: I mean, my neighborhood is good, but I know some other neighborhoods where they give out the full-size candy bars.
1:03:11
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
1:03:12
SPEAKER_01: And they also have wine and liquor for the parents like asked they're walking by too, so you can get like a little cup or slippy sweep.
1:03:21
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
1:03:22
SPEAKER_01: I ain't giving up nothing.
1:03:24
SPEAKER_01: Not nothing.
1:03:26
SPEAKER_01: But um, y'all have a good one.
1:03:28
SPEAKER_01: I can't wait to show my costume when I'm dressed up.
1:03:30
SPEAKER_01: I got on a piece of it now.
1:03:32
SPEAKER_01: Um, but I'm ready for Saturday, and I hope you all are too.
1:03:36
SPEAKER_00: But you know what?
1:03:36
SPEAKER_00: As we always end our shows, uh, have an amazing one.
1:03:41
SPEAKER_00: Cheers.
1:03:47
SPEAKER_00: This is Herbert's Happy Hour.