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Dear Banya: A Monica or a Rachel · Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad

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  Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
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  Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in.
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  Speaker 3: Scrub dub dub in the tub, tub Tub.
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  Speaker 2: It's a Dear Bonya episode. Tis we are here to answer? Oh?
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  Speaker 3: No, fear Bonya is here.
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  Speaker 4: It's also a super Bowl episode, the last episode before
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  Speaker 4: the super Bowl.
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  Speaker 3: Let me tell you if we know the Scrubbers, they
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  Speaker 3: really care aboutpisode.
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  Speaker 4: I think, Yeah, what's the plan? What are you guys doing?
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  Speaker 4: Big Chiefs Eagles game?
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna be driving back from Oh do.
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  Speaker 4: You think time? You will make it home in time
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  Speaker 4: to watch the super Bowl at three thirty Pacific time.
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  Speaker 2: I actually don't know if we'll be back.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, how do you not know?
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  Speaker 4: Well? Customs takes it?
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  Speaker 3: Oh does he know anything?
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  Speaker 4: Know anything? The airport?
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  Speaker 3: Who knows stuff?
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  Speaker 2: So I'm like, I think it just depends on.
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  Speaker 4: Leave.
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  Speaker 2: But yeah, the tail one depends on when we leave.
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  Speaker 2: So I don't know. Is Robbie doing anything for the
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  Speaker 2: for thee.
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  Speaker 4: I should hang out with a Robbie.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah No, I don't. I don't think he's doing anything
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  Speaker 3: for the super Bowl.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so, well, were we'll be coming back that day.
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  Speaker 3: Cool, but like, are we coming back morning or midday
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  Speaker 3: or night?
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  Speaker 2: Kind of up to us?
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  Speaker 4: That's fun.
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  Speaker 3: How is it up to us?
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  Speaker 2: It's just up to us?
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  Speaker 3: So it's an airbnb.
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  Speaker 2: Anyway.
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  Speaker 3: Wait, who don't you have.
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  Speaker 4: To checkout times?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? Check, but you can kind of choose like when
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  Speaker 2: you wanna head home, if that makes sense. Gotcha what
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  Speaker 2: I'm saying? Are you all rooting for anyone? Are we
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  Speaker 2: just like hoping that.
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  Speaker 4: I don't care? I don't. I mean, I don't want
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  Speaker 4: the Chief to win again, but I can't room for
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  Speaker 4: the Eagle Soles fans are just kind of notoriously obnoxious.
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  Speaker 4: Like there's a viral video of a woman going to
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  Speaker 4: an Eagles game a couple of weeks ago in the
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  Speaker 4: other team's jersey and they were yelling the sea word
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  Speaker 4: at her from all around her, and I just feel
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  Speaker 4: like I can't root for those folks. So I don't know.
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  Speaker 4: I'm just going to enjoy the game and hope that
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  Speaker 4: it's a nice game, and I'm going to enjoy the commercials.
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  Speaker 4: I'm going to enjoy Kendrick Lamar and just enjoy the
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  Speaker 4: holiday of it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm over commercials.
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  Speaker 4: Why they're so fun?
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  Speaker 3: You know what. I'm over them.
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  Speaker 4: I've been watching them in advance. That's how into them.
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  Speaker 3: I'm so nineteen eighty two.
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  Speaker 2: Why are they having them in advance? Right right?
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  Speaker 4: That happens almost every year now for some reason, they're
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  Speaker 4: all on YouTube before the actual game, which I don't
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  Speaker 4: get why they do that, but they.
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  Speaker 2: Do that pisses me off.
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  Speaker 4: I'm sorry.
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  Speaker 2: Why did they do that?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know, but I really enjoy get to see it.
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  Speaker 4: I enjoy. I'm telling you right now, David's Backham.
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  Speaker 2: One is enjoy it because we need to enjoy it.
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  Speaker 2: The day of the fair enough, that's weird. Why spend
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  Speaker 2: all this money because feel it? I'm with you, hype
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  Speaker 2: going anyways? Okay, well who are you rooting for the Eagles? Oh? Strong?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Why is that?
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  Speaker 3: Robbie likes them? So my association. I have no idea.
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  Speaker 4: There are two teams that have had a lot of
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  Speaker 4: success recently, and I like the underdogs. I got it
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  Speaker 4: had been fun of the Bills in there or the Commanders,
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  Speaker 4: because neither one of them is won in decades, so
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  Speaker 4: that would have been neat. But we get what we get.
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  Speaker 4: We don't get upset. We enjoy bad food. And watch it.
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  Speaker 2: One thing about me, All I want is a good game,
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  Speaker 2: A good, safe, fun game.
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  Speaker 3: Do you Yeah you have No, you're not pooling pooling
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  Speaker 3: for anyone?
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  Speaker 2: No, Like I won't have feelings, I won't have feelings.
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  Speaker 2: I won't have strong feelings either way.
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  Speaker 3: Uh huh, I usually never do.
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  Speaker 2: I think it'd be I think it'd be fun if
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  Speaker 2: the Eagles won, just because the Chiefs are so dominant
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  Speaker 2: and like they always come back and win it, so
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  Speaker 2: I think there'd be something fun about that. But I
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  Speaker 2: also am like, good for them another win, put it
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  Speaker 2: in the record.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, the best team. Again. I know nothing about football,
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  Speaker 3: but for the best team, then like, good on them
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  Speaker 3: for winning all the time.
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  Speaker 2: There's the thing, right, the better you are when you
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  Speaker 2: get to the top, the more haters you have.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, teams get better every like, Yeah, draft, better draft
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  Speaker 3: whatever that means. Yeah, draft better shower, better train.
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  Speaker 2: They're probably dirty. They're probably not winning because they're just
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  Speaker 2: weighed down by their dis like not being clean.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know what goes into all of it. All
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  Speaker 3: I'm saying is why must we punish the Chiefs for
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  Speaker 3: being the.
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  Speaker 4: Best the People's Choice store two years in a row.
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  Speaker 2: Exactly right, and people were probably so sick of it.
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  Speaker 2: Probably we got booted out of that nomination, right.
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  Speaker 3: And like you can't fault us for being the best.
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  Speaker 2: Actually we got nominated one more year.
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  Speaker 4: Were the chiefs of that category Chamberlain.
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  Speaker 2: Of the podcast in the Chamberlain one that year, el right.
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  Speaker 2: And then after call her daddy came, I said it
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  Speaker 2: was spun walls.
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  Speaker 3: I'm not sure she's ever won it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't. Yeah, I don't know either.
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  Speaker 3: I may say scrubbing into better?
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  Speaker 4: Did they even do the People's choice the words this year?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah? I feel like I only saw the country one.
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  Speaker 3: I saw it get announced, and then I was trying
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  Speaker 3: to find out who was nominated. I could not find
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  Speaker 3: any information about it whatsoever. Yeah, alright, p.
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  Speaker 2: Should we do one? Should we get into our dear bonya?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 4: Yes, here we go. This is from anonymous back in
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  Speaker 4: time your market Easton. I need all the help with
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  Speaker 4: this one. I'm twenty seven, I'm married with two kids,
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  Speaker 4: but I'm very close to my twenty year old niece
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  Speaker 4: since we're close in age. I became the cool aunt
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  Speaker 4: after marrying her uncle six years ago, and I was
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  Speaker 4: there for her during her teen years. Two years ago,
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  Speaker 4: I helped her leave a toxic first love, which allowed
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  Speaker 4: her to enjoy college, join a soro already, and focus
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  Speaker 4: on herself. Well that's Christmas. She introduced her a new
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  Speaker 4: serious boyfriend, which raised some concerns red flags. He doesn't
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  Speaker 4: match any of the qualities you wanted in ifuture husband.
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  Speaker 4: He doesn't go to church, he's a bartender. She didn't
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  Speaker 4: even drink before this. He wants to move her two
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  Speaker 4: hours away, and he has no real goals in life.
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  Speaker 4: I voiced my concerns. She brushed them off. She said
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  Speaker 4: he's a good guy. He treats her well. Over the
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  Speaker 4: past month, she has changed, going out more. She even
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  Speaker 4: missed her nursing school entrance exam. I know she's caught
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  Speaker 4: up in the moment, especially with her roommates getting engaged
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  Speaker 4: in throw already sisters in wedding mode. But I worry
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  Speaker 4: she'll look back in five years and regret wasting time
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  Speaker 4: on this guy. How do I approach this again and
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  Speaker 4: help her see he's not the one before it's too late.
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  Speaker 2: Anonymous cool ant. I think you know the answer that
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  Speaker 2: we're all going to give you, which is that you
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  Speaker 2: cannot control who she is dating or ends up with.
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  Speaker 2: And I think that the more that you push and
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  Speaker 2: try to out of this relationship, the more she's gonna
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  Speaker 2: pull away from you. I think your best option is
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  Speaker 2: to be there for her while she navigates this, because
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  Speaker 2: she's most likely going to come to terms with the
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  Speaker 2: things that aren't healthy, and you want to be able
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  Speaker 2: to be a support system for her, even though you
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  Speaker 2: don't agree.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like you can't. You've already tried to
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  Speaker 3: do it once and if she wasn't receptive. I just
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  Speaker 3: feel like there's something about getting involved with people's relationships
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  Speaker 3: that can go very south, because I feel like if
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  Speaker 3: you try to push too hard, you might push her
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  Speaker 3: away from you, and that's like worst case scenario. So
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  Speaker 3: I think you just have to be there for her.
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  Speaker 3: You can still like raise your flags without having to
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  Speaker 3: like have a come to Jesus conversation. Yeah, so I
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  Speaker 3: think you do it that way.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, not your circus, not your monkeys, yeah, not your clowns.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, all right.
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  Speaker 2: And I do think if she comes to you and
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  Speaker 2: says like, oh this happened, what do you think, I
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  Speaker 2: think you can go. I think you deserve better. I
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  Speaker 2: think you can say it, but still be a safe
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  Speaker 2: space for her, because you don't want to get to
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  Speaker 2: a point where she doesn't even talk to you, and
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  Speaker 2: then you're really gonna worry because you're not gonna know
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  Speaker 2: anything that's going on. So I think you stay as
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  Speaker 2: a support system, be there for her, let her know
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  Speaker 2: that you love her. And she's gonna have to figure
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  Speaker 2: it out the hard way unfortunately.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, and when she does, you'll be there for her.
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  Speaker 3: Yes you will, Yes, you will.
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  Speaker 4: Oh, we have a shout out. Hey beca Tanya Mark
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  Speaker 4: and Easton, my childhood bff and I are Day one listeners.
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  Speaker 4: I wanted a shout out Emily who got engaged today.
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  Speaker 4: We love listening to you guys, and we like to
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  Speaker 4: discuss things as if we're all one big friend group.
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  Speaker 4: Even though we're spread out through southern California. This podcast
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  Speaker 4: brings us together. Tanya Wedding planning advice. Now Emily gets started.
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  Speaker 4: We love you guys so much. Love Caroline and Lizzie. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: and they included a picture there. I believe this is
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  Speaker 4: Emily and her fields.
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  Speaker 2: The picture rainbow And there's a rainbow and they're under
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  Speaker 2: like a really cute little umbrella. And she's holding flowers
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  Speaker 2: and there's.
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  Speaker 4: A dog, dog with a beg.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, that's really cute.
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  Speaker 2: Congratulations Emily. What's your advice, Tanya?
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  Speaker 3: So my advice to you is this, Emily, buckle up.
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  Speaker 3: I'm kidding. Uh. I think what you need to decide
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  Speaker 3: is if you want to do a full blown wedding
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  Speaker 3: or if you want to do something small intimate. I
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  Speaker 3: feel like really having that honest conversation with yourself and
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  Speaker 3: then just like starting from A to Z bad advice.
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  Speaker 2: Well, no, like, like what's the first Like, in hindsight,
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  Speaker 2: do you wish you had done anything different in the
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  Speaker 2: planning process? Do you think, yes, finding a wedding planer
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  Speaker 2: was like crucial right off the bat, someone that you
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  Speaker 2: were excited about.
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  Speaker 3: I think, in hindsight I would have done a lot different.
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  Speaker 3: But I think that deciding between the big and the
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  Speaker 3: small wedding is like the key. I didn't realize how
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  Speaker 3: hard it is for me to like plan stuff until
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  Speaker 3: I was like in the thick of it, you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean, Like, I didn't realize that, Like I
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  Speaker 3: love having people over and I love hosting people, but
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  Speaker 3: I love it intimate groups. I've never had to plan
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  Speaker 3: something for this many people, and as somebody who wants
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  Speaker 3: to make everybody happy, it's been like very very difficult,
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  Speaker 3: and so I wasn't like prepared for that. So I
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  Speaker 3: think really like sitting with yourself and deciding what you
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  Speaker 3: want for you. If you want a big, full blown wedding,
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  Speaker 3: then you need to just like come to terms with
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  Speaker 3: some people are not going to be happy with some
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  Speaker 3: of the decisions that you make, and you just have
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  Speaker 3: to like be okay with it.
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  Speaker 2: Do what do you?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Do you?
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  Speaker 3: Because I think there's gonna be a lot there's so
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  Speaker 3: many opinions and there's so much coming at you, and
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  Speaker 3: you might get sidetracked and and say or do things
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  Speaker 3: that you might not necessarily want. And then you know,
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  Speaker 3: so just staying you really sit down with your husband
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  Speaker 3: and figure out what you guys actually want and then
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  Speaker 3: execute fiance.
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  Speaker 2: She's in her fiance era.
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  Speaker 3: Sorry did I say husband? Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Jumping the gun.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, we're so happy for you. Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: This next one, I want to read her how she
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  Speaker 4: found scrubbing in before I read her question. It's anonymous,
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  Speaker 4: but this is what she said. She said, I know
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  Speaker 4: you like to hear how listeners found scrubbing in. I
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  Speaker 4: can't say I'm a day one scrubber. I've been loyal
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  Speaker 4: listener since March of twenty twenty four, so coming up
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  Speaker 4: on a year. I came here by way of Tanya's book,
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  Speaker 4: The Sunshine Mind. I'm a big fan of cooking shows,
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  Speaker 4: including Selena plus Chef, where I was introduced to Raquel
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  Speaker 4: after learning she co authored a devotional I bought myself
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  Speaker 4: a copy that book introduced me to Tanya, and when
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  Speaker 4: I heard out that she hosts a podcast, I had
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  Speaker 4: to listen. I know you hear this all the time,
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  Speaker 4: but this podcast shed so much light, joy and positivity
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  Speaker 4: into the world. Thanks for continuing to show up and
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  Speaker 4: bring this podcast to listeners.
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  Speaker 2: WHOA so cool? I love that the author, the author,
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  Speaker 2: the co author.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, you know what's interesting is like that book, Like
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  Speaker 3: I forget that people bought it, like.
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  Speaker 4: That it's on shelves of people's homes.
• 12:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's so crazy.
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  Speaker 4: But also she only knows you as the author of
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  Speaker 4: a devotional book and this podcast. She doesn't know you
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  Speaker 4: from the Seacrest Show or anything else. All right, Anyway,
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  Speaker 4: her question is, my husband and I don't have kids,
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  Speaker 4: but all of our friends do, and We love being
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  Speaker 4: part of their lives. The biggest struggle we face is
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  Speaker 4: the germs. Every time we hang out, at least one
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  Speaker 4: person in their family is sick. We understand that kids
• 12:35
  Speaker 4: bring home germs from daycare in school, but we wish
• 12:37
  Speaker 4: we were giving a heads up before we arrived. When
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  Speaker 4: we brought this up, our friends get annoyed and said
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  Speaker 4: they'd never do anything if they rescheduled every time someone
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  Speaker 4: was sick. We try to lead by example, letting them
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  Speaker 4: know that if we might be sick before I hang out,
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  Speaker 4: we're not going to come, you know. But they don't
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  Speaker 4: offer us the same courtesy. It feels like they don't care,
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  Speaker 4: or they assume it's not a big deal since we
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  Speaker 4: don't have kids. We've started avoiding all of our friends
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  Speaker 4: for two weeks before important events just to avoid getting sick.
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  Speaker 4: We love them, we want to be in their lives.
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  Speaker 4: We can't handle one more fun hangout turning into a miserable,
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  Speaker 4: ten day cold. Would love to know how you all
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  Speaker 4: would handle this.
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  Speaker 3: Seriously, this is so funny.
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  Speaker 2: This is so funny because there is this weird thing
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  Speaker 2: with people with kids versus people without kids. People with
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  Speaker 2: kids are so unhinged. About germs, like they're so nonchalant
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  Speaker 2: about it. It's like it's just a cold, it's allergies
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  Speaker 2: and the kids got like snot coming out of like
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  Speaker 2: every orifice. And you're like, I don't want that whatever
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  Speaker 2: that cold is that minor cold that you're claiming, I
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  Speaker 2: personally don't want that, and that is a big deal
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  Speaker 2: to me. Like someone will be like true, someone will
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  Speaker 2: be like, yeah, we just had pink eye, and I'm like, okay, okay,
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  Speaker 2: can you just stay home? I'm sorry, but or tell
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  Speaker 2: me so I can stay Oh my, I'd rather stay home.
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  Speaker 2: It's so true.
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  Speaker 3: And being someone who like as like a step parent
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  Speaker 3: with kids, like I have kids, they're not my own kids,
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  Speaker 3: you know what I mean, Like I didn't birth them,
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  Speaker 3: and so there's this like weird thing because like you
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  Speaker 3: do get thrown into this world like they do, they
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  Speaker 3: just bring germs. It is what it is. And so
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  Speaker 3: it's just funny because I know exactly what Anonymous is
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  Speaker 3: talking about, because it is it's just so like something
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  Speaker 3: is always sick. Am I No, no, no, that's no.
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  Speaker 3: Not everybody, Like.
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  Speaker 2: My sister has five kids, and it'll be like it's
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  Speaker 2: just not even a thing, if one of them sick,
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  Speaker 2: there's no, we're not canceling anything. It's just yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: move forward. Yeah, and everyone just take your vitamin see
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  Speaker 2: and load.
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  Speaker 3: Up constantly, just taking quick defense and just topping those things.
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  Speaker 4: Like anybody on the staff is sick, she is freaking out.
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  Speaker 4: Sistney was out most of this week, which she worked
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  Speaker 4: from home, which we have the ability to do, know,
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  Speaker 4: which is great. Yeah, she came back into day times
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  Speaker 4: like are you sure? Is it sure? I'm sure it's
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  Speaker 4: it time for her to come in on.
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  Speaker 3: This is actually valid, Thank you.
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  Speaker 4: It doesn't change always this way.
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  Speaker 3: No, when I have big life events coming up, which
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  Speaker 3: I happen to have a lot coming in, always.
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  Speaker 4: Very paranoid when anyone on the staff is sick. I
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  Speaker 4: don't remember one time I had a little tickle in
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  Speaker 4: my friend. Oh God, you were like in a bubble
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  Speaker 4: because you're.
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  Speaker 3: So close to me.
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  Speaker 2: Emotionally, you were hacking a little bit.
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  Speaker 3: It was like a headache. I'm like, get out of here, but.
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  Speaker 2: There is this thing that and I'll be so I
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  Speaker 2: just know what's going to happen with all of you
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  Speaker 2: when you have kids and you're like, I just need
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  Speaker 2: a break to hang out with my friends, and it's like,
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  Speaker 2: the kid has a cold. You're like, I'm not going
• 15:31
  Speaker 2: to tell Becca because like I can't risk her not
• 15:34
  Speaker 2: coming to hang out. I'm desperate.
• 15:35
  Speaker 3: I would never have you come into my home with
• 15:38
  Speaker 3: a sick child without telling you, like, hey, I do
• 15:41
  Speaker 3: that even now, if like one of the kids is sick.
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: Oh. I think I think there should be a courtesy.
• 15:47
  Speaker 2: I do think it's kind of because then you have
• 15:50
  Speaker 2: the option. I think her friend should anonymousis friends should
• 15:54
  Speaker 2: give them the heads up just so they know what
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: they're going into at the very least.
• 16:00
  Speaker 3: That's what I think, But they don't. I get what
• 16:02
  Speaker 3: she's saying. Look, my advice is find new friends.
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: I don't think you find new friends. I think you
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: just say hey. I understand where it's a very different
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: phase of life and your your view on sickness and
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: colds is very different than mine. And I know it
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: changes when you have kids. But I'm not in that situation.
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: So if you could just give us the heads up
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: if we're coming over and the kids are sick, that
• 16:27
  Speaker 2: way we can make the decision.
• 16:29
  Speaker 3: From December to February, just don't leave your house.
• 16:33
  Speaker 4: And we have our best friends. Our best best friends.
• 16:36
  Speaker 4: They lived in the valley and we lived out in
• 16:38
  Speaker 4: Thousand Oaks and that's like could be like an hour
• 16:39
  Speaker 4: with traffic, so we rarely saw them. Well, they moved
• 16:41
  Speaker 4: out by us, like, oh, this is going to be great.
• 16:42
  Speaker 4: We're going to see each other all the time. The
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: sense that really struck me in this email was our
• 16:47
  Speaker 4: friends get annoyed and say they'd never do anything if
• 16:49
  Speaker 4: they rescheduled every time someone was sick. Yeah, we reschedule
• 16:51
  Speaker 4: every time someone was sick. We never see them ever.
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: They live three exits down the freelway. We never see
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: them because we always plan this Sunday, let's get together. Okay,
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: it's going to be great. The day before, sorry, so
• 17:01
  Speaker 4: and so sick. Okay, well that's that. Yeah, we never
• 17:03
  Speaker 4: see them. So yeah that's reality.
• 17:05
  Speaker 2: No, I agree. I think that's true. And I think
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: it's really I think that's hard when you're the one
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: with kids and the people who don't have kids are like,
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: I don't want to be around your German kids. You
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: know what I'm saying. I think it's hard. I also
• 17:19
  Speaker 2: think there has to be a level of respect and
• 17:22
  Speaker 2: uh just thoughtfulness in that regard yeah, I'm.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: With you, anonymous, fine new friends.
• 17:33
  Speaker 1: Don't remember.
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: We'll look back on this.
• 17:36
  Speaker 3: People that are so nonchalant about germs, keep your germs
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: to yourself.
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: You heard it here first, and we'll be right back.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: Oh all right, that was a groundbreaking moment that Tanya
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: got the timing right for commercial. If you listen to
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: this podcast regularly, she does try often and we're always
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: like no, But that was smooth professional.
• 18:18
  Speaker 3: That's a fine wine.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: We have an opportunity here, a simple life opportunity.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: So Tanya said a few weeks ago on the show
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: that she could live anywhere. She doesn't care. All she
• 18:29
  Speaker 4: needs is Robbie and that's it.
• 18:32
  Speaker 3: No Wi Fi dog dog friends.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: Friends, that's it. That's all you need. Grocery store, living,
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: city country.
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: We set friends because no one else I didn't say friends.
• 18:45
  Speaker 3: Friends could be part of the weekend activities the grocery
• 18:48
  Speaker 3: store run.
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, well we got some response to that. And
• 18:51
  Speaker 4: here's Jamie. No, not Jamie, here's Kana Keana says hi
• 18:54
  Speaker 4: Becka Tanya Mark and east and midwestern very small town
• 18:57
  Speaker 4: dairy farmer here. I'm just saying I'd be more than
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: happy to host you too. For research purposes for Tanya.
• 19:03
  Speaker 4: How funny would that be? Northern Michigan farm country, very
• 19:07
  Speaker 4: cold at the moment. Would love nothing more. You're welcome
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: any time to come hang out with me on the farm,
• 19:13
  Speaker 4: Mark and Easton. You're welcome to a podcast from the
• 19:16
  Speaker 4: farm in northern Michigan. Sounds fun to me. Thanks for
• 19:19
  Speaker 4: always making my week. I'm going to check, by the way,
• 19:22
  Speaker 4: that northern Michigan they call those yupers up there upers
• 19:25
  Speaker 4: because it's the Upper Peninsula up the upers up there.
• 19:29
  Speaker 4: Let me see what the temperature is in northern Michigan
• 19:31
  Speaker 4: right now in February.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: Here's the thing. Please, none of us other than Tanya
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: said any interest in going and being on the farm,
• 19:39
  Speaker 2: the small farm. But I do think Tanya should go document,
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: bring her little camera, ring light and document her doing
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: the farm chores with Kiana.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: First of all, with all due respect Kana, I did
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: not say that I could go and live on a
• 19:57
  Speaker 3: farm with Kiyana and her family in the farm. I said,
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: if Chrystal's were my husband, and my husband happened to
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: live on a farm like so meaning Robbie, if he
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: lived on a farm, I could to move to said
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: farm with him in our own home, milk, some cows,
• 20:16
  Speaker 3: walk the dog, watch a lot of fun TV. Do
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: my plates on video from my house, get a little
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: performer in there, you.
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: Know, do it up.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: I could do it, make my own everything.
• 20:33
  Speaker 4: We all dispute it still, we don't think you could
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: do that. But the temperature right now, and I just
• 20:38
  Speaker 4: picked a random town, Northport, Michigan. It's twenty three degrees gorgeous.
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: I would not leave the house.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: You need a lot of puffers.
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah, but my house is going to be so huge, right,
• 20:52
  Speaker 3: aren't the houses big?
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: I'm sure you.
• 20:54
  Speaker 4: Could potentially, Yeah, barns are big.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Could you imagine so much space? How many that
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: his towers?
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: I could have every room.
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: Every room could have its own midst, Every room.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: Could have its own lettuce tart. Okay, so you're not
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: interested in going to the.
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: Farm again, Let me repeat myself. What if Robby came,
• 21:13
  Speaker 3: If Robbie were to want to move to a farm
• 21:16
  Speaker 3: with me, I.
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: Just want you to go for a I just want
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: to experience you in your simple life era on a farm.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: You and Robbie Beverly Hills nine o two one oh.
• 21:30
  Speaker 4: Three feet on the ground like to the Upers. Yeah,
• 21:36
  Speaker 4: that'd be a pretty good show.
• 21:37
  Speaker 2: That would be a great show I'd watch.
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: Well. I hope Robbie gets a job in northern Michigan.
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: No, I'm not saying no. Okay, Okay, We're.
• 21:48
  Speaker 2: Gonna revisit this.
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 21:50
  Speaker 4: We also got a lot of response to the talk
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: of Danny Austin. Again, this is a big one, Jamie says,
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: Hi Beck at Tonya, Mark and Eastern. Actually, sorry, I apologize.
• 22:01
  Speaker 4: I just want to start off by saying I'm a
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: Day one listener. Love listening to you since the beginning,
• 22:05
  Speaker 4: and it's kept me busy on my long drafts to work.
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: I look forward to it every week and the two
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: days a week now makes my heart so happy. I
• 22:10
  Speaker 4: also followed Danny. She's very open and I love it.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: I have a four year old. I had fertility challenges.
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: I love being pregnant, but it's so different for everyone.
• 22:18
  Speaker 4: Labor is completely different, and my best advice is don't
• 22:20
  Speaker 4: have so many expectations, have an idea of a birth plan,
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: but also go with the flow, as anything can happen.
• 22:26
  Speaker 4: I love being a mom. It has its challenges as
• 22:28
  Speaker 4: anything does, and it's not easy, but you figure out
• 22:31
  Speaker 4: how it works with your lifestyle. Kids are amazing. I
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: am someone who loves the infant stage, but every stage
• 22:36
  Speaker 4: has its challenges. It's such an exciting time to start
• 22:39
  Speaker 4: thinking about it. Don't let us stress you out. Do
• 22:40
  Speaker 4: what works for you. And once you're a mom, it's
• 22:42
  Speaker 4: the same and you have to listen to your gut.
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: Excited for your wedding. Tanya, you guys are the best.
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: I love the infant stage too, that's my favorite stage.
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: Like the babies I've been around, like they're not walking yet,
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: but they can hold their head up. That stage where
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: they're like chunky and like kind of babbling, that's like
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: the best to me cause when they start walking up
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: to chase them everywhere, and that seems like back pain.
• 23:04
  Speaker 4: An old bossom had said to me. Once you set
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: them down and they don't stay where you set them down,
• 23:09
  Speaker 4: that's when things start to go real fast. And I've
• 23:12
  Speaker 4: found and of course I'm on the other end of
• 23:13
  Speaker 4: it now, but boy, once they can drive goodbye, that's
• 23:17
  Speaker 4: pretty much your time as their parent is done. They're
• 23:20
  Speaker 4: gonna live with you for a few more years, but
• 23:22
  Speaker 4: you're never gonna see them, and that's gonna be that
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: that independence is really a major change because at first
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: you're like, oh, this is great, I don't have to
• 23:30
  Speaker 4: drive her to dance, Like I bet I drive my
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: youngest daughter to dance seven times a week. Well, no,
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: because I got to go there end backs. We're probably
• 23:38
  Speaker 4: talking ten to twelve times a week. I drive to
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: the dance center and back, and the dance center and back.
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: It's a lot. And so oh she can drive herself.
• 23:45
  Speaker 4: I don't do that anymore. Oh my gosh, you gonna
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: be so much time. But then you realize there is
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: so much quality time spent in that car together. Those
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: are good conversations. That is bonding going out in that car.
• 23:55
  Speaker 4: And when that's gone, you realize how little bonding you
• 23:58
  Speaker 4: do other than that. Right, you're just kind of in
• 24:00
  Speaker 4: the house together. You're not having those conversations every day
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: that you had in the car. So when my oldest
• 24:05
  Speaker 4: started driving, that was the real adjustment. Like, oh, man,
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: I miss her and she's still here in the house
• 24:10
  Speaker 4: with me, but I miss her because those conversations are gone.
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: It's depressing.
• 24:15
  Speaker 4: And now she's in college crying.
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: No, but that's depressing.
• 24:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like you put all this work.
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: In and then you just get a car there out.
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: You remember what it is you that.
• 24:29
  Speaker 2: When oh, when I got my car and I had
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: my CD, uh like envelope that had Oh my god, man,
• 24:41
  Speaker 2: they'll never know.
• 24:42
  Speaker 3: They'll never know. They just sy bill cover. I did
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: not have a cover hot, pink, fuzzy.
• 24:51
  Speaker 4: It's so funny to watch her because I have to
• 24:52
  Speaker 4: be with her, because she's got a permit busher sits down,
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: plugs in that phone, puts on the playlist she wants,
• 24:59
  Speaker 4: hits media on the dashboard, puts on the sunglasses, just
• 25:03
  Speaker 4: those mirrors, and she's it's so great, It's really great.
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: So cute.
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: All right, Michaele's fighting the number eighteen? Did we? Oh hey,
• 25:12
  Speaker 4: scrubbing and pot. I wanted to write in a stand
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: up for my favorite number. I know there's been some
• 25:15
  Speaker 4: back and forth on Tanya's favorite number being eighteen? Are
• 25:18
  Speaker 4: we anti that? I don't remember as being anti eighteen?
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I think we were just like, why right?
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: I want to write and let you know that not
• 25:25
  Speaker 4: only is my birthday the same as Tanya's July eighteen,
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: cap my favorite number has been eighteen my whole life,
• 25:32
  Speaker 4: and I'm twenty four. The number Eighteen has always been
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: very good to me, and I always seem to show
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: up in most random places. I recommend one hundred percent
• 25:39
  Speaker 4: having eighteen is your favorite number and you should never change.
• 25:42
  Speaker 4: Love the pod, Tanya, stay with eighteen. It'll treat you well.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 25:46
  Speaker 3: And you know why I love eighteen because eight plus
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: one equals nine and it's the year of the nine.
• 25:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, the change next year your pipe. You know what's
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: so crazy is that eighteen is such a huge number
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: in my family because that was my brother in law's
• 26:05
  Speaker 2: number when he played to LS. So it was like
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: all my nephews, you know, that's like eighteen. There's such
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: a thing around eighteen. So I'm I'm very familiar with
• 26:13
  Speaker 2: the passion around eighteen. It just didn't make sense for you.
• 26:15
  Speaker 2: It's still My birthday is on the eighteen.
• 26:18
  Speaker 3: That's it. I love the number eight infinity it never ends.
• 26:23
  Speaker 4: And you and Robbie are going to be together for
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: one infinity one eight eighteen.
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: We're getting not married on the eighteenth.
• 26:31
  Speaker 2: No one you didn't know at that point.
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you're right.
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: This is a yeadatatious favorite number.
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, thank you, thank you, Caitlin.
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: Hello friends, So I wrote in before and had you
• 26:43
  Speaker 4: guys categorize the original grays interns as Tanya's or Becca's
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: And it was fun. So now let's do friends much
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: like Becca. Friends is my comfort show. I go to
• 26:51
  Speaker 4: bed watching it on Nick at night every night. So
• 26:53
  Speaker 4: who is a Tanya and who is a Becca? I
• 26:55
  Speaker 4: can't wait to hear your take. Thanks for all that
• 26:57
  Speaker 4: you do, the four of you. I could not be
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: more obsessed with Mark. They know that's nice. Bring me
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: The four of you bring me so much much needed
• 27:05
  Speaker 4: stress free happiness.
• 27:06
  Speaker 3: By the way, do you know what Robbie said to
• 27:08
  Speaker 3: me the other day? What So when we got our dog.
• 27:12
  Speaker 3: Becca is one of my best friends. She named her
• 27:14
  Speaker 3: dog Phoebe. Pauline is another one of my best friends.
• 27:17
  Speaker 3: She named her dog Joey. I was like, we have
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: a Phoebe and a Joey. We need to name our
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: dog a friend's character. Whichever one right, And they were like,
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: he was not into it. And then we landed on Sunny,
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: which is like, she's totally a sunny girl. But yesterday
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: Robbie looks at her, he goes, she does look like
• 27:37
  Speaker 3: a Rachel.
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: She's so.
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: It was so it was the best opportunity.
• 27:44
  Speaker 2: I had to let you do it, you how to
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: do because it was your dog and whatever. But I
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: was like, she is a Rachel.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: She is a Rachel. She is pristine, she's gorgeous.
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: She has a lot of anal gland issues though, like
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: a Rachel, such a Rachel thing, Rachel Greens.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: And sometimes with the wrong haircut, it gets a little dicey.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: Rachel Green doesn't have a single bad haircut the entirety
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: of friends.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she does in the beginning eight Yeah, in the
• 28:16
  Speaker 3: beginning years. When it's like, but is.
• 28:19
  Speaker 4: The pre Rachel, right, are you saying pre Rachel?
• 28:22
  Speaker 3: No? No, she was Rachel at the time. Rachel Rachel,
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: the like short one. I'm just saying.
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: Rachel.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: She's definitely a Becka.
• 28:33
  Speaker 4: How about Monica Geller, Tanya? How about Phoebe Tanya? How
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: about Chandler Bing?
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: I think Beca the sarcasm, Yeah, okay. And Joey's you
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: so I always when I watched the show, there's things
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: that Joey, Phoebe and Monica dor say and I'm like,
• 28:51
  Speaker 2: that is so, Tanya. I think Monica's energy to me
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: is the most you like her like passion and like
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: how she like screams things when she's excited. That's so
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: you to me.
• 29:04
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: Sometimes Phoebe does things where I'm like, that is just
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Tanya trying to come up with a word, you know,
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: that vibe. Yeah, and then Joey does things sometimes just
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: randomly where I'm like a huzzled, like I would say,
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: like ten percent Tanya.
• 29:18
  Speaker 3: So you're Rachel. Because Rachel's just the perfect one. I
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: feel like you're like the perfect one.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: I'm not the perfect one.
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: You are, though, don't you think she's the perfect one.
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: I'm not the perfect Yeah.
• 29:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, she's like teacher's pet.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: You're totally teacher's pet.
• 29:38
  Speaker 3: I'm like the opposite of teacher's pet. You guys come on.
• 29:43
  Speaker 2: Everything by the book. You're literally like show up for
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: anything and everything you're asked to do with like.
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: Because I have to. We're all get booted out of you. Rachel.
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: Let me tell you it's.
• 29:54
  Speaker 4: The in school. I bet you were a major teacher.
• 29:58
  Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, mister Martinez, finitely have a favorite student and
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: it was you.
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: Yes, definitely. Okay, But I'm saying now in life.
• 30:06
  Speaker 4: Does that change that much?
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: The people that are in charge here that aren't big
• 30:09
  Speaker 4: fans of yours. I feel like that's on them. It's
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: not because you haven't been a proper teacher's pet, like
• 30:13
  Speaker 4: you're some sort of rebel or something.
• 30:17
  Speaker 3: No, no, I'm not saying I'm a rebel. I'm just saying
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: Becca is the favorite.
• 30:20
  Speaker 4: Well, I don't know how. I haven't seen Beck interact
• 30:22
  Speaker 4: with an authority figure.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: Who are who? And I'm saying, like, who are you
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: saying I'm the favorite? To like, who are you saying? No?
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: No?
• 30:37
  Speaker 3: Oh yes, yes something there, thank you, thank you? AnyWho?
• 30:42
  Speaker 3: Becca is the Rachel in that regard. And then now
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: I do see the Chandler, the sarcasm, the funny quips
• 30:49
  Speaker 3: like quick on his toes, that side of Chandler. Now,
• 30:54
  Speaker 3: Ross Geller is an interesting one. Who is he?
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: Ross's Robbie? I see so much of Robbie when Ross
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: does certain things you do?
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: Yes, well, first of all, that's not the game. It's
• 31:09
  Speaker 3: Tanira back up.
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, Ross might be a combo yeah, because
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know that I really identify with Ross.
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: I don't think I identify with him, but he's my
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: favorite character.
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: The show is based around him. So I was Robbie
• 31:23
  Speaker 2: at Ross there's certain things that he does, you know
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: how Ross when Robbie's want to say something goes like that.
• 31:31
  Speaker 5: Ross. Oh my god, when Robbie's tried to explain something
• 31:36
  Speaker 5: and he starts and he's like yeah, like he's thinking,
• 31:41
  Speaker 5: so he like makes this sound what are you are
• 31:44
  Speaker 5: you kidding? He was, yeah, you'll notice it, okay, but
• 31:52
  Speaker 5: it's like he's thinking of what just how to answer.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: So it's like Ross Rousse will do it sometimes.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god.
• 31:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's really funny. I would say. I would say Ross, Yeah,
• 32:06
  Speaker 2: well I think yeah, Russell's bonnya you'll know.
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  Speaker 3: Now I'm going to pay attention.
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: I've never noticed that when you take one more break,
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: we have a very sweet email on the other side.
• 32:18
  Speaker 1: Great, her truth is ready, I think coming back from
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: the break.
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: That's right, I'm gonna go get it put in tomorrow. Wow.
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: Congratulations.
• 32:47
  Speaker 4: By the way, if we discussed the fact that her
• 32:49
  Speaker 4: dentist is a thousand miles.
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: From here, yeah, it's strange.
• 32:52
  Speaker 4: It's a deep Orange County and the.
• 32:55
  Speaker 3: Orange County it's La County. It's the La County. Yeah,
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: up until Long Beach.
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: Someone who changes dentists every time I go because I
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: always think I'm going to find someone who makes it
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: less miserable, and it's just that the dentist is miserable. Sounds,
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: it's everything. But I'm like, there's got to be someone
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: in the LA region close in the Beverly Hills region
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: you live. Probably Oh, her lights, not her internal lights,
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: but her out well.
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: We're internal lights. Next, Like, I.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: Feel like you could find the best dentists in the
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: world in your zip code.
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: First of all, it's not about the best dentist. There
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: are so many good dentists. However, this dentist is my uncle.
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: So it's like I can go on if I book
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: an a point, you know, with our schedule. If I book
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: him on like a Tuesday or whatever and I can't
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: make it, I just text them and say, hey, I
• 33:45
  Speaker 3: can't make it. Can I come Thursday. I can't do
• 33:47
  Speaker 3: that with a normal dentist.
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't realize it was your uncle.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, be at the wedding, Okay, I can't.
• 33:52
  Speaker 2: Wait to meet him. Yeah, I'm looking for might be
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: able to do it touch up if you need.
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: A touch up. Yeah, my tooth is my wedding gift.
• 33:59
  Speaker 2: That's a good one.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: Like I was like, thank you.
• 34:03
  Speaker 4: Quite aposse, you have your aesthetition there, your dentist truly
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: your coming to Khanya rolled deep.
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah, my dentist is my dad's best friend, so like so.
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: Not actually your uncle.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: He's not my real uncle, but like basically my uncle.
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, all right, this is very sweet.
• 34:23
  Speaker 4: This is also another example of how people find us
• 34:27
  Speaker 4: random ways they find us. I guess I assume it's
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: all all people in knew Becca from the Bachelor and
• 34:32
  Speaker 4: people in Nutania from the radio show Hi Beca, Tanya
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: and Easton and Mark. I've been listening to the podcast
• 34:37
  Speaker 4: for two point five years now. I originally listened to
• 34:40
  Speaker 4: it after Becca and Haley became public. I wanted to
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: know who the girl who stole lesbian Jesus's heart.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: Was, Oh my god.
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: And if she seemed like a girl who was going
• 34:50
  Speaker 4: to be good to our sweet and swaggy Haley.
• 34:53
  Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.
• 34:55
  Speaker 4: And I gained so much more. Not only did I
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: learn about Becca and the wonderful when that she is,
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: but I was introduced Tanya, who is hilarious and unapologetically herself,
• 35:06
  Speaker 4: as well as Markernis. There were some of the sweetest
• 35:08
  Speaker 4: guys and have the best one liners the entire scrubbing
• 35:11
  Speaker 4: group with a smile in my face. Every week I
• 35:13
  Speaker 4: laugh and I learn so much from you all. The
• 35:15
  Speaker 4: podcast truly changed my life, and I will say this
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: to anyone who will listen. I am forever grateful. I
• 35:21
  Speaker 4: was originally emailing you all because I'm dealing with a
• 35:23
  Speaker 4: broken heart, but I don't think there's a point in
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: asking for advice when I know the answer. I've been
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: wanting to email you all for over two years because
• 35:30
  Speaker 4: I genuinely loved the podcast. So as long as you
• 35:32
  Speaker 4: all read this, I'll be happy.
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: Laura, Laura, we love you.
• 35:39
  Speaker 3: About the girl who stole Swaggy Hailey. Sweet Swaggy Haley's heart.
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: Sweet Swaggy really sums Haley up honest perfectly perfume like.
• 35:54
  Speaker 3: Haley.
• 35:55
  Speaker 4: But it sounds like she came to the show with
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: a little bit of a chip on her shoulder, Like, well,
• 35:58
  Speaker 4: let's see who this is. She can't be good enough
• 36:01
  Speaker 4: for our Look how the one that she is?
• 36:06
  Speaker 3: I love that Harper?
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, who.
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: Risen Harper?
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: Her husband is shared?
• 36:18
  Speaker 4: Oh right, yeah, right, right right, Oh that's right. She
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: came with a chip on her shoulder.
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: Let me hear her.
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: That's amazing, that's so cute.
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: Laura.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry you're going through a broken heart, but I
• 36:30
  Speaker 2: hope that our silly podcast can bring you some joy
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: while you're navigating it.
• 36:36
  Speaker 4: You can do so much better than that person, exactly.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: And you know what a broken heart just means that
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: it can be put back together, and you're going to
• 36:46
  Speaker 3: put it back together, right because you're gonna love again.
• 36:49
  Speaker 3: You will, and that person will take care of that heart.
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, exactly. We love you, Laura. That was so
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: nice to the podcast.
• 36:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah all right.
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: Well, next time we're back, we will be discussing, uh
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: the super Bowl. Will Taylor Swift come out with Kendrick
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: Lamar for Bad Blood? Stay tuned.
• 37:14
  Speaker 3: We will will still be here, That'll be gone, that'll
• 37:18
  Speaker 3: be gone.
• 37:18
  Speaker 2: Say goodbye because they will never see her again.
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: Have fun this weekend