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Stress and where it shows up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  My very stress-free location and I want to talk to you about that
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  because I want to talk to you about stress and we're going to
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  actually do a little bit on this because I just feel like it's
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  such a huge part of our lives. And we, as you know, unconscious
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  human beings moving through our lives.
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  Don't pay attention to how much stress we have.
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  So, today, we're diving in. So, what exactly is stress,
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  basically? Boils down to it's a silent
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  killer and I don't, I'm not exaggerating.
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  When I say that statistics show that eighty percent of all
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  doctors visits are predicated on stress-related illnesses, think
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  about that stress. Related illnesses, meaning they
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  are self induced because no one can make you experience stress
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  unless you allow it to come in. Now, we've talked about that
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  before and I know I'll get feedback on this and someone
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  says that's not true. My boss is horrible.
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  Yes. But nobody can make you feel
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  something. You don't choose to feel.
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  And this is the, I personally believe this is the human
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  condition that we are supposed to learn.
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  We are not supposed to allow people to come in and make us
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  feel things that we don't want to feel.
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  I'm just as guilty of it as the rest of you have a lot more
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  fewer buttons that can be pushed now.
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  And I am considerably grateful for that.
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  I just think that I worked really hard.
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  Add it. Now I say most of those buttons
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  are gone but there are buttons between my husband and I between
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  my kids and I that clearly those buttons get fired off and I
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  still have work to do because that's the job when you're alive
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  you have work to do. So the good news is if you're
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  irritated, if your buttons are being pushed, if you're alive,
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  you're alive that means. Yes you have a fundamentally
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  very Human Experience, going on and you have to work on it.
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  So again we come back to this one.
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  Very imple fact of you get to decide about how you feel.
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  So stress, back to the subject at hand, here it encompasses,
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  our whole body, when it fires off.
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  As you all know, it's part of fight or flight, very important
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  distinction when it comes up. It's like it.
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  It feels like it's survival inside of us because we're so
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  intrinsically tied to fight or flight.
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  We can't get away from it under normal circumstances.
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  It's Post to be used for life-threatening situations and
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  tell you to move, but because we don't have our fight-or-flight
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  worlds in place every single day and our lives have changed over
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  hundreds of years. So much, thousands of years
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  they've changed so much. We're not always in survival,
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  we're not always in survival mode.
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  So because of that we don't need it quite so much but it still
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  has a part of us and we take it and make things seem I'm bigger
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  than they are so huge. Part of stress is because we are
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  not telling ourselves the truth about situations and we are
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  exaggerating them, whether we've become tied to stress, I mean I
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  see a lot of clients that are very addicted to stress.
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  Meaning they don't even realize how addicted to it.
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  They are they just go to it as their response, it gives them
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  something to talk about. It gives them something to
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  identify with with other people, it gives them something to
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  connect with other people. It gives them a feeling of
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  certainty because they know it's always available to them in as
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  crazy as that sounds. You're going to say, what is she
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  talking about? It's no different than a child
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  who causes a problem in the house and he gets in trouble and
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  parents will say well, but he knows, he's going to get in
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  trouble. Yes, he knows he's going to get
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  in trouble but that response of getting in trouble is something
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  that's more valuable to him. Then making the change, he is
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  okay. With the fact, he's going to get
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  in trouble. He's getting attention and we
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  All get attention for talking about stress.
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  We get attention for connecting with other people on it because
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  we feel like, oh yeah, you get it to.
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  Oh, okay. And lo and behold.
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  We wonder why we have an addiction to it.
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  So stress in itself, has to be defined so that you understand
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  exactly what's going on. So today is about us, really
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  defining stress for you and saying, where is the showing up
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  in my life? How are these little tiny
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  fractures? Of my mindset of my point of
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  view of my view of the world creating for me a stress
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  situation every single day that I identify with go to and have
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  an issue with. So I want you to take today and
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  I want you to look for all of those factors that stress you
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  out, whether it's simple things like I can't find my keys or
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  it's more complex and someone that's able, that's not simple.
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  But most of the time it is we just make it much bigger than it
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  is. I look for the things that you
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  make much bigger than they are. Look for the things that are not
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  great as far as your responses, look for how you feel in the
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  process of it and say, okay, was that stress-related?
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  Did I create that stress? And if you get an answer back
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  that says well, no my boss created that stress, I want you
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  to pause. I want you to think about it and
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  I want you to say, was it, really my boss or did he just
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  come to me with the problem and I created the stress because I
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  want you to all remember when emotions go up intelligence goes
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  down. So, if you are in a process of
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  constantly feeling stressed, you are not at your best to solve
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  any problems, and you have to stop yourself and you have to be
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  willing to say. Nope, I'm just going to remain
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  calm. I'm going to Center myself and
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  I'm going to go back now tomorrow.
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  Part two of this. I'm going to talk about ways
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  that we can de-stress ourselves strategies that we can use and
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  start this process so that we have a little tool bag if you
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  will of things that are ready for us.
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  So today, your homework just go look for all those stressful
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  situations and identify them all.
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  So you can see how to avoid them by simply identifying them
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  because simple things like your keys, well, that can easily
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  Fixed, if you set up a situation where when you come in the
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  house, you immediately, put those keys somewhere, where, you
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  know where they are, we walk in our door and right there, right?
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  Right there. You, we have a dump station
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  where we can go ahead and put shoes backpacks, handbags Keys
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  glasses, all of it, if you take more than six steps into your
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  house and you're dumping things on your kitchen, counter your
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  dining room table, you're putting things in a spot.
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  Where you don't, you know, they're going to get moved by
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  other people. You're setting yourself up for
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  failure, right away, and then the stress shows up.
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  So, all I'm saying, is there are ways to fix this and you can't
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  fix them. If you don't know what you're
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  fixing, you can't just say I'm stressed.
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  If you don't know what's stressing you, so look for the
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  stress today. That's your homework and I will
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  see you all tomorrow and I hope you have a very peaceful day.
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  Take care guys. Bye.