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#HURDLEMOMENT: What Do You Want Your Legacy To Be? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: I keep going back to this quote from Kobe Bryant.
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  Speaker 1: He said, the most important thing is to try and
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  Speaker 1: inspire people so that they can be great in whatever
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  Speaker 1: they want to do. Hey, Hurdler's Emily Abadi here checking
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  Speaker 1: back in with another installment of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle,
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  Speaker 1: a wellness focused podcast where I sit down with inspiring
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  Speaker 1: individuals to talk about everything from their big wins to
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  Speaker 1: how they've gotten through some of life's toughest moments. With
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle Moment, I want to get a little bit more
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  Speaker 1: granular with my mission to inspire you to be your
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  Speaker 1: best self, move with intention, and have some fun along
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  Speaker 1: the way. Now, it's been a really tough week. On
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  Speaker 1: Friday night, I was in my apartment finishing up Monday's
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  Speaker 1: episode of Hurdle when I got the news of the
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  Speaker 1: past of Lyla Johna. She was a CEO of Samosaurus
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  Speaker 1: and Luxmi episode fifty four of the podcast, and I'll
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  Speaker 1: link to that in the show notes. It feels like
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  Speaker 1: yesterday I was sitting down with her in this small
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  Speaker 1: studio space near twenty third Street, and I was just
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  Speaker 1: so in awe of absolutely everything she was, everything she
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  Speaker 1: was doing, how much she was giving to other people,
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  Speaker 1: especially those less fortunate than her. And then I'm laying
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  Speaker 1: in my hotel bed here in Denver and a friend
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  Speaker 1: texted me the news about Kobe Bryant and the helicopter crash,
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  Speaker 1: and I just was so beside myself. It's hard. It's
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  Speaker 1: hard when you feel like there's just nothing you can
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  Speaker 1: do about it. It's hard when we go looking for
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  Speaker 1: some sort of explanation and there isn't one. On Saturday,
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  Speaker 1: I was about eight miles into my fourteen mile long
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  Speaker 1: run and I found myself just like on the brink
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  Speaker 1: of tears, and I kept asking myself, why why do
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  Speaker 1: these bad things happen to good people? I just felt
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  Speaker 1: so tired and powerless, and I started to thinking as
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  Speaker 1: I picked up my piace again, what is it that
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  Speaker 1: I want my legacy to be? I mean, if you
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  Speaker 1: open up any social media app right this second, you'll
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  Speaker 1: see endless quotes from so many people that have just
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  Speaker 1: gone too soon, tidbits that they leave a serious impact.
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  Speaker 1: I keep going back to this quote from Kobe Bryant.
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  Speaker 1: He said the most important thing is to try and
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  Speaker 1: inspire people so that they can be great in whatever
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  Speaker 1: they want. To do for me. Well, that sums it up,
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  Speaker 1: which is why I really want to ruminate on this
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  Speaker 1: idea of legacy for today's hurdle Moment. Today, I'm asking
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  Speaker 1: the question, what is it that you want your legacy
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  Speaker 1: to be and what can you do with the time
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  Speaker 1: that you have while you have it to make a
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  Speaker 1: lasting impact, Because that's important, right. You don't need to
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  Speaker 1: be an elite athlete or a top CEO or hold
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  Speaker 1: some sort of world record to leave a legacy. Before
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  Speaker 1: If you have a hurdle moment of your own to share,
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  Speaker 1: just want to say Hi, I'm here for you. Reach
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  Speaker 1: out to me. It's Emily at hurdle dot us. And
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  Speaker 1: with that, let's get to hurdling. What do you want
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  Speaker 1: your legacy to be? It's a really thought provoking question.
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  Speaker 1: I was watching Cheer on Netflix like everybody else, and
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  Speaker 1: one of the girls she was saying that she didn't
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  Speaker 1: really mind if no one that came after her on
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  Speaker 1: the team knew who she was. Hey, if that's how
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  Speaker 1: you feel, then that's how you feel. But here's the
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  Speaker 1: thing I know in my gut that I want to
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  Speaker 1: be remembered as a good person. I want to do good.
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  Speaker 1: I want to be known as someone who cares about others,
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  Speaker 1: someone who makes something tangible that can help other people.
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  Speaker 1: I want to lead a legacy. Today, I'm talking through
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  Speaker 1: how to do just that with the help of some
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  Speaker 1: really great advice that I've been offered along the way.
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  Speaker 1: First up, give others. The gift of time. Giving is
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  Speaker 1: a really powerful pathway to lasting happiness and positive personal growth. Sure,
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  Speaker 1: giving money or some sort of tangible donation, that's one
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  Speaker 1: thing that's great, but the gift of time is so important.
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  Speaker 1: We don't always have the same amount of money to offer,
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  Speaker 1: but what we do have is the ability to offer
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  Speaker 1: up our person, to offer up our physical being to
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  Speaker 1: help others. Maybe it's a few hours a month, volunteering
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  Speaker 1: on the weekend, or maybe it's a couple days a year,
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is that works for you, I encourage you
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  Speaker 1: to look for the right way to give back in
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  Speaker 1: your community and beyond. I've been there. I've had opportunities
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  Speaker 1: to give that have come at the wrong time, that
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  Speaker 1: have felt like a little bit of a hassle, just
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  Speaker 1: because my skull dual life it feels chaotic. But I
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  Speaker 1: promise you will never regret taking the time to show
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  Speaker 1: up for others. Just like a good workout, it can
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  Speaker 1: feel a little bit daunting heading into the experience, but
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  Speaker 1: when you walk away, you feel better knowing that you
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  Speaker 1: did something good. When you give to others, you're feeding
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  Speaker 1: your own soul in the process, and you're making an impact.
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  Speaker 1: Next up, stay kind Ah, It's really interesting what happens
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  Speaker 1: when you treat people well. I know that sounds kind
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  Speaker 1: of silly, right. The other day, I was in a
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  Speaker 1: bit of a rush. I was trying to get into
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  Speaker 1: a we work to do some work, and I forgot
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  Speaker 1: my key cards, so I signed in on the iPad
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  Speaker 1: and for one reason or another, it just didn't go through,
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  Speaker 1: despite having a registration email on my phone to show.
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  Speaker 1: The nice man sitting at the front desk. He asked
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  Speaker 1: that I called upstairs so that the we work team
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  Speaker 1: could put me in the system, and it felt to
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  Speaker 1: be honest, like a hassle, and so admittedly I gave
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  Speaker 1: him a little bit of an attitude. After all of
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  Speaker 1: a sudden, done I was on the phone, I had
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  Speaker 1: this moment where it hit me that I was like, Wow,
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  Speaker 1: you really didn't need to approach him like that. And
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  Speaker 1: so after everything was taken care of and I got
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  Speaker 1: off the phone and I had the QR code, the
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  Speaker 1: scan at the front desk. I looked at him and
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  Speaker 1: I said, I'm sorry, you didn't deserve me to give
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  Speaker 1: you that attitude. And he was so surprised that I
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  Speaker 1: would even take the time to greet him with that kindness,
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  Speaker 1: to offer him that courtesy, and it felt really good.
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  Speaker 1: It goes back to this quote that we hear so often.
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  Speaker 1: People may forget what you said or what you did,
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  Speaker 1: but they'll never forget how you made them feel. We
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  Speaker 1: have the opportunity every single day to approach other people
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  Speaker 1: with kindness, and it's hard. Some days. I get it.
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  Speaker 1: Like I said, I was just there, but usually saying
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  Speaker 1: something nice, offering someone a smile, lending someone in ear
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  Speaker 1: it doesn't have to feel so hard. What I've noticed,
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  Speaker 1: as I've consciously made kindness one of my important stressed
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  Speaker 1: values over the past couple of years is that it
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  Speaker 1: becomes easier. It sounds a little silly when I say
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  Speaker 1: that out loud, but these instances, like the front desk
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  Speaker 1: man at we work, you realize just how much value
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  Speaker 1: your positivity can bring to someone else, how it can
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  Speaker 1: completely change their day. Now, I'm not saying that we
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  Speaker 1: should be kind because we're looking for something in return.
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  Speaker 1: No that's not it at all, But rather, it feels
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  Speaker 1: good to be good. That in itself is the reward.
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  Speaker 1: It feels right to offer that outlet, to act with
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  Speaker 1: positive intention. My next tip for leaving a lasting legacy
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  Speaker 1: is to be authentically you. Without authenticity, we have nothing
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  Speaker 1: to fall back on. When you are your true self,
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  Speaker 1: that's when you have the opportunity to connect with other
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  Speaker 1: individuals on a deeper level. It doesn't matter if what
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  Speaker 1: you have to say is the popular opinion. What matters
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  Speaker 1: is that you're telling your story. You're offering your honest truth.
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  Speaker 1: I posted something the other night to my Instagram story
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  Speaker 1: about how I feel like life is just a lot lately.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like everyone I come into contact has made
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  Speaker 1: some sort of point about January feeling like it's been
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  Speaker 1: seven months long. Work feels like a lot lately, And
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  Speaker 1: in exchange with a friend, I said to him that
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  Speaker 1: even though the grind really does just feel like a
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  Speaker 1: grind these past few weeks, something tells me that it's
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  Speaker 1: all paying off. He asked me something important, He said,
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  Speaker 1: what does paying off mean to you? It really made
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  Speaker 1: me think. I told him that I wanted to leave
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  Speaker 1: an impact and well that goes back to this whole
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  Speaker 1: legacy thing. Me being authentic with you is in my eyes,
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  Speaker 1: a way to open the door to real conversations, to
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  Speaker 1: give others who might feel self conscious about being upfront
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  Speaker 1: the go ahead to do so. There is only one, Hugh,
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  Speaker 1: What a beautiful opportunity, right, I keep revisiting a prompt
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  Speaker 1: from this book I'm reading, Ask me, who are the
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  Speaker 1: people that you admire to leave a lasting legacy? I'd
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  Speaker 1: say that it's really important to be able to answer
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  Speaker 1: that question, to have role models to look up to,
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  Speaker 1: who have paved the way, who have inspired us to
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  Speaker 1: be better humans. And so today, along with the other
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  Speaker 1: words that I am leaving you with, I encourage you
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  Speaker 1: to write that one down as well, to ask yourself
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  Speaker 1: who inspires me? Why do they inspire me? And then
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  Speaker 1: go a little bit deeper. What is it that you
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  Speaker 1: want to be remembered for? What does paying off really
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  Speaker 1: mean to you? Now? I'm not talking into this microphone
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  Speaker 1: under the impression that you got it all figured out.
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  Speaker 1: I sure as hell don't. But by taking the time
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  Speaker 1: to stop and reflect, well, that's how we get to
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  Speaker 1: where we want to be, That's how we leave an impact.
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  Speaker 1: I want to end today's episode with a reminder, be
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  Speaker 1: where your feed are. Take so much time often worrying
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  Speaker 1: about what could be, worrying how things are being perceived,
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  Speaker 1: that we forget that we have the opportunity to be
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  Speaker 1: fully present. A listener sent me this bee where your
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  Speaker 1: feet are reminder while I was on the treadmill, admittedly
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  Speaker 1: struggling this morning, and it reminded me to be present
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  Speaker 1: in the wake of all this chaos, to show up today.
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  Speaker 1: Take that opportunity to show up, to keep playing the
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  Speaker 1: groundwork for your legacy. At Emily a Body at Hurdle Podcast,
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  Speaker 1: Another Hurdle Conquered. Keep your chain up, everyone, and I'll
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  Speaker 1: catch you next time.