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The Unsexiest Secret in the Universe - E.414 · Misfit Podcast

• @misfitcoach: Good morning, Misfits. You are tuning in to another episode of the Misfit Podcast. On today's show, we have the grand unveiling of the 2026 Misfit Athletics rallying cry slogan, mission, whatever you want to call it. If you're a Misfit, you are aware that we do this on a yearly basis. and this is one that's been cooking for a long time. And I needed a way to word it and brand it correctly. but I I won't, I won't, I will bury the lead. I won't tell you guys what it is yet, but I will tell you that it centers around process over outcome, really buying into that and the arrival fallacy. That idea that that, you know, I'm just waiting until I'm gonna go on that vacation and then I'm gonna feel so much better or once I finally achieve this goal, could be a lift, could be a competition, whatever. Everything's gonna be great after that. It's gonna be fine. and spoiler alert, if you don't already know about the arrival fallacy, it doesn't really work that way. @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: so we're gonna get into all of that today. We're gonna talk about you know, what the arrival fallacy is, why we're buying into process over outcome, and then some tools, some anecdotes from Paige's career. to to really kind of get you guys to buy into this concept and help each other and yourselves put it into practice for an entire year and then hopefully beyond this year. Before we get into all of that, just a teeny tiny bit of housekeeping. as you are listening to this, we are in test week of phase one at Misfit Athletics, the very beginning of the 2027 season. The free trials are on on Fitter and Strivey. So you can go get seven days for free. The goal of that is for you to be able to really see the full week and get an idea of what we're doing at Misfit Athletics. I would suggest that if you're gonna do that and you haven't already, go back one week and listen to the phase one episode. We really kind of dig into the nitty-gritty of how all of that works, both phase one itself, how to execute on it, and then how that plays out over the course of the actual season itself. I think I think the easiest way to do my ad read this week is to if you're watching on YouTube, we have the grill. @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: I haven't really been into the citrus rain lately. normally we've got up over @paige_semenza: fun color. @misfitcoach: the shoulder here the the white frost is the goat, the go to, but I've been on a little bit of a citrus rain kick. This episode of the podcast and all episodes of the podcast are brought to you by GorillaMind. You can head to GorillaMind.com forward slash misfit or use the code word misfit at checkout. I I've got some stories for you guys at the end of the episode. but suffice to say, traveling solo with a toddler, time changes, all of that stuff. this episode of the podcast is literally brought to you by Gorilla Mind. And if you're a remote coaching client, the work @paige_semenza: Yeah @misfitcoach: that I did yesterday is literally brought to you by Gorilla Mind because before I did it, the gears really weren't spinning. and I went inside @paige_semenza: You grease them up. @misfitcoach: and I got myself a citrus rain and a glass and some ice and got to work and felt a lot better about 30 minutes later, I would say. so again, gorilla mind.com forward slash misfit. Or use the code word misfit at checkout, you save on the best supplements in the game and you support the show. There it is. All right. so where did the idea to do this come from? I like to explain it for a few reasons. I think it's really important to give you guys kind of the background and the origins, but then also when we would do this early on. A lot of companies have a slogan. It's their thing. Like this is the this is the tagline. It goes on the shirts. It does all of that. and because of the stories that I'm about to tell you, I like to do it on a yearly basis. And people are always like, Whoa, whoa, whoa, what happened to Sharpen the Axe or Dead Men Tell No Tales? Or, you know, just all of the different ones that we've done over the years. And it is very intentional to kind of reset and think through these things. Of course. We go back to 2025. I think Rain or Shine really resonated with a lot of people. we keep that, right? Like we @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: keep these concepts, but we are trying to build on them. We're trying to expand our perspective and our repertoire. and it comes from my high school football coach from freshman to junior year, absolute legend, like 70 something year old guy, Jack Flynn. real old school, and he would have a slogan on our shirts every year. and I'm not gonna lie, he wasn't a wordsmith. the one that I remember @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: and remember him really like pitching to us was pursuit of excellence. And it's like that might as well be on one of those posters you find in an office building. You know what I mean? He's pursuit of excellence and then it's just @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: like a picture of a mountain and you're like, what? Why is that? Why @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: it a picture of a mountain? and The reason why it still really sticks with me is because he was like the epitome of what we are trying to sell today. He's very passionate about talking to us about this stuff. But like a group of fifteen to eighteen year old boys, like you hit him with a they're probably staring at the ceiling when you're saying that, like waiting, like, can we go outside, put our helmets on and like smash them into each other? @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: Is that the next thing that we get to do? and with him, he taught us process over outcome through his actions and what he asked of us. And it really didn't connect for me until I got deep into coaching and I really thought about my experience with him because practice was boring. We did the same shit over and over and over. and over every five days a week, every single day, double sessions before the season got started, the same stuff over and over and over. And if I didn't do the little like after I hand the ball off, I gotta pretend that I'm running like a bootleg. I you know, continue, you know, sort of like choreographing the play. Stop, start over, do it again. And you got good at repeating it over and over, but I just didn't understand why you were doing it. It didn't like make sense @paige_semenza: Mm-hmm. @misfitcoach: to me. You know, we would go run the same route and throw it over and over and over and over and over and over. And when we got into games, the other team, the defense, would call our plays. We would get into a formation and they would be like, fullback trap, halfback sweep, whatever, watch out for so-and-so. And it didn't matter because every s like we they literally would call the play and then we would score. It didn't matter at all because @paige_semenza: Heh. @misfitcoach: every single individual person was so good at doing something that seemed so incredibly simple. So like we wanted to run a more complicated offense and he would wait to put in like like fun pass plays into like the playoffs and stuff like that. And again, we loved the results. Like we were, you know, we won the most games that we ever had with him specifically. but I don't think we really I don't think we really knew why we were just doing the same like 15 things on repeat over and @paige_semenza: Right? @misfitcoach: over and over. Well, it's because it got us really good at them. We just went in, we did the work, and that's where it was. And then I can say that I fortunately for long-term growth as a human, and unfortunately for my ego as a 17-year-old kid, I got the opposite experience. He got done after my junior year. We got the young hotshot coach that left college to come coach us. And he was outcome over process. He wanted a fancy offense, even though we graduated like something like 20 of 22 starters. and it was all young guys, and he just didn't understand. It's like the thing where we joke about like Paige, is it hard for you to coach people when you're so good at the actual thing? Right? Like he was one of those guys, like, why aren't you guys just better? Like, it's like @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: your your job is to make us better. Like that sort of thing. So I got the @paige_semenza: Right. @misfitcoach: and like we'll go over a concept in this episode that I've talked about a bunch. And, you know, especially if you're a Misfit Jim Portland member, you've you've probably been to one of my lectures on the ninety-nine and the one. But we were we went from putting The 99% of what it takes in just over and over and over to trying to put in that 1% with the new coach, the shiny things, the cool stuff, and it just didn't work. so that's kind of the origin story of why I do this on a yearly basis. I love a reset, I love a narrative, I love a concept that we can kind of really rally behind. And then the cool thing is I actually said. the phrase in an episode recently. and then while I was saying it, I was like, I found it. I finally found it. It's there. Like I have some @paige_semenza: Yeah @misfitcoach: way to because I had a version of it, but it sounded like a mashup of other companies, that sort of thing. so that's why the whole process over outcome thing is now like Okay, I th feel like I have an idea, a concept that I can kind of latch on to. because I have so many notes, there's the possibility of me rambling for like 30 minutes straight. Paige, hello, how are you? And anything to @paige_semenza: Hahaha! @misfitcoach: add before we get into the nitty-gritty. @paige_semenza: No, I mean you shared with me the definition of this season earlier and all that, one, it takes me back, you're talking about high school, it takes me back to my college days of sport @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: and the difference between... Training for a season and a game and like, you know, always having something that next weekend to look forward to verse like what we do now in CrossFit is like, you know, it's a lot more like few and far between that you're training for something specific. And it gets hard. having, you know, these rally cries and these things that kind of like set the tone and set the culture for us, I think are really important. think, you know, especially when not only your bigger athletes relate to it, but something that the whole Misfit community can relate to. think that really is what we get. I think that's what brings a lot of value into what we do, because it @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: isn't just about your five-star names at the top of the leaderboard, it's about everybody. So I'm pretty excited about this one. @misfitcoach: So the arrival fallacy is fascinating to me because I think it's one of the things where if you were to fully buy into it, regardless of whether we're talking about personal life, training, etc., you could completely change your life, your outlook on life, your just day-to-day experience. But it's so unsellable. And the reason that I know that is because I listen to and read some of the top minds talk about this concept and they all talk about how unsellable it is and the fact that no one's been able to write that book about this. Like your you know, subtle art of not giving a fuck or atomic habits or any of the books where people are able to take that thing and kind of distill it down into into something, you know, really kind of sellable and marketable. and like it's a little bit of like a segue just into the rest of the episode. There's a lot about this that just it's not out there as much because it's it's not easy to sell and market. Like that's one of the biggest things @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: here. and a lot of the companies in our space that talk about process over outcome kind of go right down the middle and just have a shirt that's like process not outcome. Which is fine, which is great because it's you know straight to the @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: point. It's it's what we want. But I also am not going to copy those companies. And for me, I just need it to have something a little bit more kind of natural to it. so all right, I am going to read a little bit to keep myself on track here. So if you are watching, you will see me kind of looking God knows where. and the funny thing about the arrival fallacies, we all do it. Every single one of us. So I'm here telling you guys, well if you just buy into this, then you'd be like me. And we'd have all this shit figured out. And then I will immediately say that I fall victim to this on repeat in different parts of my life, essentially. So the next goal, milestone, vacation, date, you know, you're gonna move at some point. It's a location. once that happens, everything's gonna feel perfect. Finally. We're finally gonna be there. and after that we just ride off into the sunset. We're done. Right. So you want to back squat 400 pounds, or you want to qualify for quarterfinals or semifinals. That's it, right? We're done. We did it. Fantastic. It's awesome. we know that's not true, right? We know that's not the case. and even though we do this on repeat and continue to move the finish line and the goalposts, that feedback doesn't really set in, right? We Have that shiny object out there that we're chasing. And then when it's not the end all be all, we just do another one. We just choose another thing to kind of go after. if we want to get deeper, which you guys know I do, maybe you do or don't, from like an existential perspective, it really means that we're not experiencing the actual life that we're living. We're waiting on a thing to happen that will finally make. Surviving your day-to-day worth it. And you can think about how brutal that would be for you as a person and your mental health and your well-being. Of I'm gonna survive this week and the next week and the week after because this thing is gonna happen out here. I'm just gonna go on autopilot, and then things are gonna be great once we finally get to that point, once this project is over. Once I again I've hit this PR, I've reached this goal, I've done X, Y, and Z. and I don't know. I think like everyone is probably listening to this and nodding their head right now. we know that this thinking is tragically flawed, and then we sign back up for it again to @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: be disappointed again, right? Like, so for me. I wanna know what like an action item could be here. If I know that this happens to everyone and that it's gonna continue to happen to everyone in some, maybe it's just like a small category. Maybe if it's just like you've gotten so good at it that it's just in your day, you're like, I'm gonna survive the next seven hours and then I get to do X, and Z. But that still isn't allowing you to immerse yourself in whatever you would be doing, you know, sort of for that. For that seven hours. so the questions that I put down here, why doesn't our own evidence convince us? How many times have you gotten the thing? And then how long did that work for? how quickly did the goalposts move again? what are you currently? This is a big one. What are you currently telling yourself that once blank happens, everything's gonna be great? and Then to cap it off here, we don't want to overcorrect. The dangerous part isn't having goals. It's requiring the goal to make the present worthwhile. Okay. And we are going to wrap this all up into training. that's what we're talking about. That's what we're almost always talking about. But I've told you guys time and time again, if it wasn't about more than that, I wouldn't still be here, right? Like this type @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: of thinking and what we learn about ourselves through the physical and mental hardship is sort of what I feel like is actually my life's work because it's taught me so much about how to be like a functioning adult in society. @paige_semenza: I mean, I guess I can, you know, kind of use myself as an example with some of these questions that you even have on there. Like, I can remember when making the games was the thing, right? And then if I could just get there, all right, I'm validated. I did the thing. But @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: again, you... immediately think of another version, like can I make it again? Can I finish higher? Can I make the top 20? Can I make the top 10? Like all of those things happen year after year. And like you said, like it's not necessarily bad that the goalposts move, right? Like that's like a growth kind of mindset in there for those things, but it's more of like... being, like you said, like being present, being satisfied and feeling like fulfilled with what you've accomplished, but like not using that to really kind of define your life, right? Like life is gonna continue to move on. And I could even think back, like some of my proudest moments were never attached to the actual like outcomes at the games. Like @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: I've been through a ton of hardship, I've been through injury, I've been through... you know, a lot of ups and downs and honestly, all of, everything leads to those results, but like, if I look back on it, like it's not necessarily the placements that are like my proudest moments. Like my proudest moments are ones that probably no one would know about once maybe I was, you know, in the trenches with McKenna, had a really bad day, turned it around. And I think those are really easy to like, forget about, like the better you get, the easier it is to, the easier it is to like forget that you're currently living inside something that you desperately want, you know? And I don't know, I mean, I don't know how to kind of tie this one together with what you're saying, but like that's really, that arrival fallacy is really like where it sits, @misfitcoach: I think honestly I I think I think you already have, yeah. @paige_semenza: yeah. So yeah, that's kind of. It's really easy, especially in this sport, especially with social media to always, you're always looking at highlight reels. You're always saying, what's the next thing to work on? Who can I compare myself to? And like you said, like, you know, I think that ties back to the dangerous part. Isn't having goals, it's the requirement for the goal to make the present worthwhile. @misfitcoach: Yeah. And it shouldn't be shocking for people because what we do and what we participate in and the gospel we preach is very unique and special as compared to other things. So it shouldn't be surprising that CrossFit puts this like whole concept on a pedestal. Like, @paige_semenza: Mm-hmm. @misfitcoach: no, you you get one chance. One. @paige_semenza: Right. @misfitcoach: You could train all year for it. Let's see if you can do that. And that's basically @paige_semenza: Yeah. Yeah. @misfitcoach: what we are talking about today. and it's man, it's one of those things where it's almost like going back to the beginning of the episode while you're in it, if you think about it in the wrong way, it's kind of fucked. It's like, wait, what? Like, I'm gonna do @paige_semenza: Yeah, honestly. @misfitcoach: all this work just for the thing, and then you go, wait a minute, does that mean the work is the thing? Is that the actual thing? @paige_semenza: Yeah, it's crazy, like I, a friend of ours, like one of my best friends, she's in med school and it's like, she's in med school doing this really hard thing and it eats up so much of her time, but like she finds ways to be social or fill her cup or like live life. And I'm like, there's so much, like it sounds so simple, but as someone who's like, enveloped her entire life in Do CrossFit and into this thing. Like, it's so refreshing to like watch and it's almost like, how do you do that? Like, this isn't an easy concept to learn when you've done the thing for so long and you're trying to like @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: make some of those changes. It really kind of like, it like, you know, messes with your nervous system because you're out of a routine, so to speak, or like, it just feels like a disruption. until you kind of find that this is life. And you kind of accept that and you remember that. So, yeah, just kind of like an outside anecdote that I think relates a lot to what we're talking about here. @misfitcoach: Absolutely. So now we need a bridge. We need a bridge from this big weird problem that might be we might repeat it because it's too big to grasp or it's too hard to avoid. and the bridge from that idea to action is process over outcome. and It truly is a solution to this problem. and it's kind of funny in like a cruel sort of way how it works relative to the arrival fallacy. Process over outcome does not mean that the outcome doesn't matter. The outcome determines your direction. It tells you whether your process is actually working. We're just not asking the outcome to do a job it can't do. Okay. The outcome, this thing that's out there can't live your life for you. It's not possible. It's not a thing, and that's the problem. but if you become obsessed with the day-to-day. If you fine-tune your process indefinitely, it's actually easier to reach the goal. So you ignore the goal, obsess over the process, the goal gets easier, and then it's actually fulfilling when you get there because it's like a no-stone left unturned situation. If we're locked in on just the goal, we're gonna go do all the side quests. We're gonna go look for the fancy secret. And then when it's not there, we're gonna be disappointed and we gotta, you know, you know, traverse all the way back down to the path that we were supposed to be on in the first place. so again, detaching from the outcome both makes the pursuit more fulfilling and probably makes you more likely to achieve the outcome that you wanted in the first place. So if we can dig into that, if we can dig into that idea, then You got a real shot at sort of at just achieving the outcome that you wanted in the first place, if that makes sense. @paige_semenza: Yeah, I mean it takes us back to rain or shine, right? You just kinda, @misfitcoach: It sure does. @paige_semenza: yeah. @misfitcoach: All right, I am going to play you guys the clip of me finally finding my slogan that I've been searching for for years. All right. See if I know how to do this. Bam. The work is the only way. It really is. It's kinda @paige_semenza: Damn. @misfitcoach: simple, which I like, right? It's kinda cliche. We have cliches because they're real, they're a thing that we can kind of buy into. I think that resonated with me because we try to find the other ways. We really do. We try to find the other ways. We try to is there that shortcut? And most of us know better. but you get, you know, maybe you get bored of the process. Maybe you maybe @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: it does maybe it does help you that your shoes are now green and they were white before. I don't know. But it's not going to get you from point A to point B. we again so we want there to be other ways we want to to to see, we want to go on Instagram and see the new supplement like I'm laughing about. Like I won't call anybody out, but you know, the the the gummies that that everybody's eating now. because they're there there's a company that is damn good at marketing very simple, very simple things. And we'll just we'll just leave it at that. But we Want to see the supplement. We want to know that so-and-so has the new grips that can hold on to the pull-up bar for longer, your sneakers, maybe a gymnastics drill or progression that's like three levels above where you're currently at. contrast therapy, you name it. and all of those things to me end up being side quests that pull us away from. From the direction that we need to be headed in. And I am a fucking expert on this topic because I have exhausted every resource to try and find the tricks. I really have, right? So I'm not just like, I'm not holier than thou. I'm up on my throne and I'm like, I can't believe you guys are distracted by these things. and I've told the I've told the story before, so I'll I'll make it quick, but I got one opportunity to play baseball in a game with a bunch of current semi-professional and collegiate level baseball players. I took a called third strike. and for those of you that don't know, if you watch a fastball come right down the middle and don't swing. Your walk of shame back to the dugout is a real thing. You kind of get a little frozen @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: in the moment. And I get into the dugout and a guy looks at me and says, Nice wristbands. It killed me. It killed me. I had different I had one black and one white. I looked fucking cool. @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: and I didn't look that cool at the plate. And it was one of those moments that was just like, damn it, he's right. I got the eye black stickers, I got whatever. And maybe I'm a little bit more focused on something that has absolutely nothing @paige_semenza: Right. @misfitcoach: to do with my ability to go out there and execute. And if I had thought less about my outfit and a little bit more about, you know, getting some extra swings in the cage, you know, maybe that wouldn't have happened. So this is this is life experience talking when I talk about this stuff. and Before we move on here, I think one example of this that we see a lot in our space is you always hear that a mediocre program executed perfectly is going to be way better than you trying to, you know, you program hopping, you're you're trying to find that perfect program. And you want it to happen to you, right? Like I've worked with really high-level, you know, one-on-one people before. And they're just like, well, why hasn't your program happened to me yet? Why hasn't this magical thing happened? and you find that we look at our examples again, those shining examples. Well, this person follows this program. You don't see the work that they're putting in. You don't see just like @paige_semenza: Right. @misfitcoach: like the volume and, you know, maybe the decade plus of work that they're actually putting in there. so that's one of the examples that I love of like, of course at Misfit Athletics, we are trying to do the same thing, process over outcome as coaches, right? Turning over every rock. trying to find what is going to help you guys succeed, but without your work and dedication and process, it don't really matter. All right. So our first concept here for the work is the only way is again the the the concept of the 99 and the one. and it's basically that ninety ninety nine percent of the actions required to achieve your goal are common knowledge. in what I would refer to as the work. And the one percent, is what the one percent uses. So our one percent the best of the best of the best. they're just trying to squeeze the last drop out of the orange. They're trying to get, they've exhausted everything. Their circadian rhythm is on point and they've worked out their nutrition and they warm up and they cool down and they know what mobility to do and they work their ass off. you know, and they work on their technique. They do all of these things. They've done everything right and they've done it right for an extremely long period of time. And then they want to know, okay, if I get in the sauna before I go to bed, does my sleep score go up? All of those things. Right. That is the last thing. It's the absolute last thing. When you feel like you are reaching your d genetic potential and you've just nailed everything else, then we can go look at the the 1%. but it's so rare that people go looking for that stuff at that point, right? You get a lot of people trying to figure out, like, you know, which recovery tool they can buy. Before they can string five days of consistent training together, which is just an absolutely @paige_semenza: Alright. @misfitcoach: crazy concept. I want five years of consistency before we're worried about like how long the battery life is on your fucking Theragun. Like, you know what I mean? Like let's let's figure out @paige_semenza: Yeah, for sure. @misfitcoach: what we're what we're actually trying to do here. and again, the 1% sells. It sells on Instagram, it sells, you know, on YouTube, wherever we're w whatever you're looking for there. but it completely ignores that body of work that that athlete has done to get to the point. Like the idea that your carb gummies could get you to the CrossFit games is crazy, right? But so @paige_semenza: but fixing your sleep routine. @misfitcoach: yeah. Like and @paige_semenza: Right? @misfitcoach: and honestly, that like there's always These little pieces of the 99 that athletes can't wrap their mind around. Right? Like I've worked with athletes that just the work ethic is otherworldly. And they're like, You want me to go to bed when? I don't know about that. And it's like, you're gonna do that much work and not adjust your personal schedule to get the amount of sleep that you need. Like, that's just @paige_semenza: Right. @misfitcoach: seems insane. And that could be extended out again to all of these different concepts. so We'll give examples here. The 99, warm up, cool down, mobility, consistent sleep, consistent basic nutrition, you know, 40, 30, 30, get your, you know, one gram of protein per pound. lifting, crossfitting, monostructural conditioning, skill work, recording and referencing the data from your training, and then showing up over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over. Normally I play the Marshawn Lynch thing. @paige_semenza: He @misfitcoach: where he talks about running through a running through a motherfucker's face, they're eventually gonna give up and he's not. He's a process over outcome guy. He's gonna hit you until you don't want to be hit anymore, and then he's gonna win. The one Norma Tech boots, rad runners. Listen, that's no, that's just the you're the flavor of the month. maybe they're great. @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: Supplements, new gymnastics scripts, skill progressions that are beyond your ability, specialty equipment, saunas in cold tubs. Everybody wants the one because the one is sellable. No one wants to hear sleep consistently, eat consistent, warm up, cool down, lift, condition, practice, record your shit, come back tomorrow, repeat it for 10 years. That's the fucking answer. page, first CrossFit open, 2015. A decade later, @paige_semenza: gosh. @misfitcoach: top 10 at the CrossFit Games, 2024. I wrote the 10 years thing before I did the math on that. conveniently worked out after I looked it up. but that's that's the ninety-nine and the one. Can we buy into the idea that it's not if it worked really well, like that's kind of the funny part about it. If it worked really well and it needed to be a staple part of either our program or your routine or the way that you execute, then it wouldn't be a secret and it would just be part of what everybody does, right? Like it'd be adopted @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: immediately. And that's one way, just as general advice that you can look at marketing, right? Like if you're looking at marketing and someone just does a really good job of selling something to you, no matter what category it's in, you gotta ask yourself like, hmm, is this overpromising potentially? Cause like if it was a thing, then it would just be a thing and everyone would do it. @paige_semenza: Yeah. I think I wanted to kind of circle back to when you talked about, I remember what I was going to say. When you talked about like the mediocre program being executed correctly over time is much better than like a perfect program for somebody. The amount @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: of times, and it's kind of funny because like in our remote coaching meetings, we talk about how we can personalize training for our athletes to get them better specifically. But at the end of the day, anytime I went through like an injury or a set back or something, I always had Gabe go like, just hit the stimulus, go with intensity, do the programming. Like the layout was always kind of the same. Movements had to change based on like what I could do. but it's so funny because it was always, the answer was always to simplify more, not complicate more. And like our first @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: thing to do is like, my God, I gotta go and readjust everything because. her back hurts or her shoulder hurts. No, it was actually very simple. Maybe he was different on the back end to you, but he was never stressed. And that always made it so possible to just show up. Obviously that can kind of segue even more into this. It was always simplified, I think was one thing. I, like there was always intention behind everything that we did. So it was like, is the intention to improve or is the intention like, is it a distraction? It's like, if it's a distraction, @misfitcoach: Mm. @paige_semenza: we're going to remove it. Does it matter if I have Norma tech boots? No, because I have my recovery habits under, like I have the training, the routine to go and do. yeah, I just, you know, I wanted to kind of circle back on that. because it's true how simple things can be, but our first instinct almost is to want to go and complicate it for some reason. When things get hard, want to go and make things that feels like it has to be a new math equation to figure out. @misfitcoach: Yeah, I mean and he's Gabe is Gabe is confident and direct. So as the athlete you believe in the idea. Right. Like he's gonna he's not gonna the the nonsense will be thrown in the trash immediately and he will let you know, @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: hey, we're actually just trying to get fitter here. So if we're just gonna move from that machine to this machine, it doesn't matter. We're chasing a stimulus @paige_semenza: Mm-hmm. @misfitcoach: and that's going to improve. And he was the exact same way when we would meet about your programming, and I was just more of the like Okay, I think this progression is now the new thing. and I think him as a delivery method is just again, he's just a very like we're both smirking because he's just, you know, he's gay. He's here's the thing. You you want to be distracted, go talk to somebody go talk to somebody @paige_semenza: Yeah. He's just like a I don't give a shit guy. Yeah. @misfitcoach: else about how distracted you are, right? Because @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: I'm not buy I'm not buying what you're selling, kind of a thing. @paige_semenza: Yeah, and you you talk about 10 years of competing, it's like, I think eight or nine of my years have been with misfit. it's like, was like, we always talk about, like, I've had people ask me in the past of like, you know, when are you gonna do this? Or when are you gonna try that? It's like, why would I change? Like, this has never been broken for me. This has always worked. Why would I change something that hasn't? Like, if, okay, if something's... does need to change, I'm gonna assume it's probably something on my end where like maybe it's my sleep habits or I'm, you know, there's something in my approach to training that can always be better or things like that. the question, like it never, it kind of, it never really fazed me as far as like that my programming wasn't working. I always like thought it was something first that I have to look within. Is there something that I'm not doing or is there something that I am doing that needs to change? before I go @misfitcoach: Right. @paige_semenza: to this. @misfitcoach: Yeah, and I mean for the you know the the the tragedy of all of this might be my personal bank account, but honestly I don't really give a shit. I have to I'm not distracted by I think a lot of the things that other coaches and companies are. And at the end of the day, the reason you're able to make that statement is because as a one-on-one coach very specifically, but also as writing the programming, you know, for the people who are, you know, the the subscription base, like I I get fired if the athlete doesn't improve. And I love that, right? Keeps me honest every single @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: year. I am going in. Like if you if if you're active And Telegram and I know who you are, I look up your games.crossfit.com page every single year. I can promise you that. You might think, not me, but I gotta be able to get everybody better. I'm just getting started @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: in this. I'm trying to win the CrossFit games, the whole spectrum. I have to be able to get people better. and like that's a expectation that I feel like I've like intentionally put on myself because it keeps you motivated to to kind of keep moving. @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: This is the part of the episode where I want to dig into your career a little bit because I think the end result is kind of like a fascinating explanation of this whole concept. my first question is you're playing college hockey and you have like 30 or 40 games a year. How do you so you you probably learned how to work and how to dedicate yourself to a thing, but how did you, how was the transition from like, okay, proof concept, proof concept over and over to like @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: proof concept, proof? Like how did that change for you? What was that like? @paige_semenza: Gosh, I think I just enjoyed CrossFit so much that I never really thought about it, to be completely honest. @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: Like, I genuinely, like once I first was introduced to the gym, I think I was there almost every day and I just never wanted to leave. Like, it was like my second home. And I wasn't even considering, like I didn't even really know what the CrossFit Open was at that time. I just genuinely enjoyed going and there were other friends that really enjoyed going. So that made going even easier. but yeah, I mean, in college it's you review tape, you go to practices, you have intention on at every practice. That's you're studying a team. Like we played two games every weekend against the same team. So it's like, We, you know, you learn patterns and strategies of those teams. You watch their tape, you practice to beat them specifically, and then you go again and you do it the next weekend for the next team and for the next team. So there was always something to like assess and do and practice the following day or the following week. And with Prosfit, you are preparing by doing the thing. So that was, you know, maybe the huge adjustment, but That's just me reflecting on it. just genuinely know that I enjoyed it so @misfitcoach: That @paige_semenza: much that I didn't care. @misfitcoach: That is such a good point. And it's making me retrace the differences between particular athletes at a really high level and the ones who have the longevity started out with cr actual CrossFit, like an on-ramp class, going to classes. getting to the point where they were probably at the top of the leaderboard and then starting to figure out that there might be something beyond that if you're interested in sport. I know a bunch of athletes who were like, watch the Froning documentaries. And immediately tried to start competing. And I think those people had a lot more ups and downs and ebbs and flows and shorter careers because it was the sh the the the outcome thing, the shiny object, the comparison, @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: you know, to you know, somebody at that level when you're trying to learn how to do a kipping pull up is kind of insane, right? so that's @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: that's really cool. And I don't know that we're gonna have listeners on this show that are trying to figure out what their first step is and becoming a a competitor, but like we're almost want to like banish them to like, okay, go to an affiliate and be an actual CrossFitter first and like drink @paige_semenza: Yeah. Yeah. @misfitcoach: the Kool-Aid and do Fran and do Helen and like do all of those things. That's a that's a really good point. @paige_semenza: Yeah, yeah, that was, I can even think of my level one. I talked to my brother, the moment I fell in love with being at the gym, it literally took, I don't know, five days. And I'm like, I wanna go get my level one, do all these things. My brother's like, wait a year. Do it for a year and make sure that you really enjoy it and that is really something you wanna do. And I could even remember my first CrossFit Open, I didn't complete all of the workouts because I was also just so busy having fun that like, I think I had one or two. Yeah, @misfitcoach: Yeah, you don't have any scores in twenty fifteen. You're signed up. Yeah. @paige_semenza: and then the following year, I put a whole year under my belt of just going to the gym and doing affiliate and doing my own extra stuff. You know for people that don't know it was like that was my very first year a second year I went to regionals on a backfill in 2016 and then 2017 I moved to Minnesota to be on a team so like again my spark of like making the CrossFit Games and then signing on with Misfit in 2018 and saying to Gabe that I want to make the CrossFit Games like that took three years so Like, it wasn't just like, I watched the documentaries and I'm like, I wanna go do that thing. Like, I definitely, @misfitcoach: Right. @paige_semenza: I think, built my passion for the sport on the process because I enjoyed going to affiliate class and I enjoyed being around friends that wanted to work out and lift and that made me better. So, yeah, I like that correlation there that you're kinda seeing. @misfitcoach: What's what was the final event at that regional? Thruster legless? So @paige_semenza: That was the... Mm-hmm. Yeah. @misfitcoach: my first conversation I ever had with Paige, because you had just started with Gabe and he was not there at the regional, the first conversation yeah, I ever had with @paige_semenza: This was 2018. Yeah. @misfitcoach: Paige was like I was not aware that you were already potentially capable. You know, you don't really know those things. You don't know the person. @paige_semenza: I didn't know either. @misfitcoach: That helps. @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: and it actually does help sometimes, right? Like, I'm just gonna go do my thing and @paige_semenza: Genuinely, yeah. @misfitcoach: but I found out something very important and deep about Paige in our conversation. I was just trying to feel out like Do you understand the gravity of this and how do you feel about it? And you were like, dude, let's fucking go. And I was just like, yes. Like the you do @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: not hear that from people, right? Even the best of the @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: best, like in that moment are like, well, do I do this? Do I do that? You were just you were fucking ready to go. And it wasn't an act. You weren't selling me on anything. You were just like, No, this is like I'm a competitor. This is my personality. I've been under the bright lights before. I'm just gonna go out there and go as hard as I can. And that's probably a good like beginning to that to the story of of you buying into @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: you were clearly buying into something larger than just my identity is how I go do this specific thing. @paige_semenza: Yeah, mean, I honestly can't think of it. Like you asking that question of like, you know, how did you get started? Like I couldn't think of it was the process. It was the process of falling in love with doing CrossFit and that was it. @misfitcoach: End of episode. Sold. This is this is how it works, ladies and gentlemen. @paige_semenza: Yeah, like that's it. Like, and you know, it was obviously before social media became so big and you see the highlight reels and you see the documentaries. Like, @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: of course I fell in love with watching like the Road to the Games, but again, that came afterwards. @misfitcoach: Okay. there's a there's a concept that I love that I've talked to a few athletes about recently called what got you here will not get you there. So you qualify for the CrossFit Games 2018, 2019, and then you what a lot of people forget because of your run after that, you did not qualify in 2020 and 2021. I'm interested to hear what it was about refining process over outcome and what your personal process was in those years that got you back on track for twenty-two, twenty-three, twenty-four of you making like really big jumps up the games leaderboard. What changed? @paige_semenza: Yeah, I think the biggest thing was telling myself that I'm going to fully commit to the training. So that meant not @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: just the training, but the routine outside of it, the recovery, the sleep, and keeping structure that kept me progressing and kept me recovering @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: from training every week. The biggest thing that like lit the fire for me was obviously 2020 was like the COVID year. I chose to go online. Probably not my best decision, but I was having a really good year that year going online. So I just took the risk. and 2021 we went and watched the CrossFit games and it fired me up so bad that I'm like, @misfitcoach: Mm. @paige_semenza: I, it's fun to watch. always enjoy watching it. but Having been there and knowing what it's like to be out there and knowing that you should be out there or could be out there, I was like, I gotta do this again. And that was when I was like, I'm gonna fully commit from when we got home that weekend. So through the summer, I started committing to doing the zone two work. And then training was just like, I would. add one other thing when I felt ready to. So like zone two was the biggest thing that I committed to first and doing those consistently every week. And then it was like, you know, going out to eat on Saturdays and hanging out at one of the restaurants for a couple hours and having drinks like that eventually got eliminated. like if it was intentional and it was putting me towards my goals, it stayed. If it was... distraction, it was something that got removed and that happened slowly. It wasn't just like a zero to 100 kind of decision. There were some things that were very easy to make changes and then other things that kind of took time because they were just kind of deeply rooted as habits. @misfitcoach: And and all of that stuff fits in right cleanly into the ninety-nine bucket, right? Like there was nothing @paige_semenza: Yeah, 100%. @misfitcoach: that was fancy or a secret. It was, well, I got here without doing those things, but now that's not gonna cut it. So what can I add? But they were all @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: things, again, that were part of the part of the plan of like how do I get to that next level? in the fun thing. for the listeners, what I hope is that you don't need to search anymore. You guys don't need to try and go find @paige_semenza: That's true. @misfitcoach: that thing. You really do not need to find it, right? It's like we're having the conversations now and listen, I I love the banter. I think having people to to commiserate with is really important. But like people being terrified of the the A T T rotest, right? There's nothing one percent about parking your ass on a rower for 40 minutes, right? @paige_semenza: Yeah, 100%. @misfitcoach: That ain't sellable. It's selling shit with that, right? but it is part of what we do because we know that it moves the needle. So buying into the simpler things that are either just more challenging physically or mentally, is is kind of how we how we move the needle there. So my final point that I have listed here is you arrived at a point in your career where you were so locked in on the process that injuries which would have sidelined other athletes for the whole year were worked around. And that in and of itself, let's say in twenty-three or twenty-four, you just qualified and experienced the CrossFit games. that would have been a victory on a lot of accounts, right? Based on what @paige_semenza: Yeah, 100%. @misfitcoach: you were going through, personal life, injuries, all of that stuff. You got better while not being able to do very specific things. And you trained for the CrossFit games without almost touching a barbell at all. You did a games prep. where you know it it was like it was like full metal jacket. This is my sled. There are many like it, but this one is mine. Like you became @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: one with your sled being pulled and pushed in God knows what in every possible direction at every possible loading. And you just you bought into the plan, the idea, your process, you knew what you could continue to do to move the needle. you knew that getting better at running was going to make a huge difference, all of this stuff, and you have your two best finishes in your CrossFit games career while trying to navigate those things. I don't even know that there's a question in there, but that to me is just we're distilling down this idea of of you buying into the concept enough for seven, eight years that when you needed it the most, it was like there. It was like part of you. It was your foundation. It was your bedrock. @paige_semenza: Yeah, I think like every time you go to the gym and you athlete, you're competing, you're working, you're, you're a professional athlete, whatever it is, like you have responsibilities and like when you take those things seriously, you always kind of find a way. Like you find a way to do the work that you can do that day. so like my responsibilities didn't change, but my circumstances did. So I had to. We had to improvise for that specifically and a lot of it, like, trust me, it was uncertainty, there was a ton of anxiety, there was a lot of stress involved, but like, I don't know, it was the belief in myself that I could do it and it was the belief from others that kind of like kept pushing me along of like, all right, go in for another day, go in for another day, go in for another day. It's like. The games are going to come no matter what. Either you withdraw or you figure it out. And it's like, I didn't want to withdraw. Was it in the back of my mind? Of course. But I didn't want to quit. And I think that was a big part of it too. Of just like, I wanted to go do the thing. So I wanted to do the work that I could do to go do the thing. Yeah. @misfitcoach: I also think an important thing that maybe we haven't covered that we probably should have, but will now, and is also part of kind of the next few bullet points here is part of the ninety nine is a coach, is a training partner. Is a support system, is your family, is the right people having the the right people around you? That's one of the things that every like Uber successful athlete needs to figure out. That's another @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: part of this where like we are not asking you, you know, to to you know become the Rocky training montage, you know, where you're by yourself and you know you're doing sit-ups in a barn and you know, running in Alaska or wherever the hell he was. it takes a lot of people and and as you ascend up the ranks it takes more and more people to kind of to kind of help get you there. @paige_semenza: for sure. @misfitcoach: okay. Here's our our I think everything that we've talked about thus far leads us into our two final topics to talk about. Confidence is proof is is something that I rely on really heavily as a one-on-one coaching relationship moves forward because I have a lot of data about an athlete and I don't have their emotions swimming around in my brain like they do, right? so confidence is a byproduct of buying into the idea. and I think you just need a little bit of help to take it across the finish line. So, like one exercise that I've done more than once is wheel out the whiteboard and write down, okay, not only have you gone from this placement to this one to this one to this one, we literally get better every single year, but you three years ago would have sucked so bad at this workout and you were like 19th in the world. Okay. So yeah, you're getting way worse. @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: You're totally right. Your insecurity is it's perfect. It's exactly where your headspace should be. and we'll get into scary season here in a second. but by traditional means, I think in a lot of ways, especially with a lot of of males, belief in yourself is often often very subjective. It is an image you have created of yourself, it's got to do with how you interact with the world. what you think you're supposed to be as a person, masking all of these different sort of psychological concepts. we wanna make this real and actually objective. there are major downsides to being quote unquote confident with no proof that you should be confident. I have Sales calls with people from time to time that are going to win the CrossFit games @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: that, you know, like can't do a total bar or something like that. And they want to do it in like a year. that @paige_semenza: Perfect. @misfitcoach: part doesn't really work for us. And then there are obvious downsides to proof without confidence, right? The athlete that goes in and does the work and progresses and is processed over outcome and cannot look Back at that data with a with an objective eye and say, wow, I have gotten so much better. And here's the thing: being able to actually level up requires you to believe that you can do the thing to the, you know, to the level of ability that you actually have. I won't call anybody out, but I can think of athletes who are world-class at a specific thing. And that movement or movements pop up at their Super Bowl and they're not ready to just go, you know, like be a dragon and, you know, burn everybody to a crisp. They're not ready to go do that because they don't believe in themselves. And it's like you literally @paige_semenza: Mm-hmm @misfitcoach: like this score, like, look at this. You can handstand walk further than everybody, and you can echo bike faster than everybody, and you're an amazing debt. Like what it what's going on out here? And it's because They haven't looked back on these things and bought in and truly believed that they can do the thing. and I think connecting the dots on this is process creates proof. Proof creates confidence. And I would say @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: that this is something that coaches and athletes need to really dig into and wrap their mind around because, you know. Having bravado when you, you know, maybe haven't earned it is is it's kind of whatever. It's a dime a dozen. Someone that works their tail off and then can't go express it, there's like a tragic element to that, right? 'Cause they have bought @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: into the process. just not this part of the process. It's more of the mental game side of the process. @paige_semenza: Yeah, to kind of relate that back with my story and injury, it's like, have confidence that I can go do the thing because I've been in a bad situation before, I've been injured before, I've had terrible training weeks, I've been in a position where I feel behind, but I've figured it out. So it's like, if I figured it out once, I could figure it out again. It just, it might look different, but like, I'm confident that I can figure it out along the way. @misfitcoach: You just have to be open to the idea that like things could actually go pretty well when there's @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: uncertainty surrounding it. And my examples @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: of that are you and I, we were at Rogue, and I was trying to help you fix your muscle ups and your snatch, and you had done neither movement. You hadn't done either movement in God knows how long. But you were open to understanding the concepts in the way that you move. And then you put together the best looking set of muscle ups in the warm-up area that I had ever seen you do. And then you moved better with a barbell than I had ever seen you move. And again, you had So much proof that you are one of those low rep learners that you're open to changing the way that you move and trusting that, hey, I'll try it out. Like what's what's gonna hurt from from trying this thing out? and you know, that sort of thing when you can develop that kind of mindset and just be open to the possibility of things going a lot better than you expect them to, then maybe you're just giving yourself a chance for that to actually happen. @paige_semenza: Yeah, I mean it's a cliche quote that's like, you know, well what if something bad happens? But what if it goes well? Like, we always have that @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: hard time of looking at that other side, that bright side. @misfitcoach: Yep, for sure. All right, final concept here. We will do an entire episode on this when we start @paige_semenza: Yeah @misfitcoach: to smell the blood in the water here in a few months. scary season. So we buy in to this idea and it's working, but that's still kind of the easy part in most journeys. What happens when you feel like you're not progressing then? What happens when you get hurt? When you start comparing yourself to the wrong people, when training feels shitty? This so we've I the whole the whole episode we've bought in, we're good to go. We've made it days or hours or weeks or months. What happens when these things start to be reintroduced to your life? and again, this is when we abandon the work, which is the only way that we're gonna get to where we want to go for the side quest. And then that creates that negative feedback loop because you're already in a bad headspace and you are performing actions that keep you in a bad headspace or even make it worse, and then you come back to reality and you haven't made the progress that you could have in the time. That you were on your side quest. and that can be really challenging. So, what happens when those things take place? I'm going to read a quote now. you would think I'm talking about a movie. I suggest if you're a reader, that you read the actual book. the book is fantastic. You are not special, you are not a beautiful and unique snowflake, you're the same decaying organic matter as everyone else. We're all part of the same compost heap. We're all singing, all dancing, crap of the world. that is from Fight Club. @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: If you didn't know, I'm aging myself here a little bit probably. I think social me this is one of the things I think social media has helped with a lot. When you're growing up and you're in your head and you're dealing with whatever ailments you have, whatever things you're going through, it's a very lonely thing, especially if you don't have somebody to talk to. that sort of deal. One thing that's fun about social media is you realize that these things that you thought made you yourself and unique. happen to, you know, whatever it is, 10, 20, 30 percent of @paige_semenza: Mm-hmm @misfitcoach: people, right? So we all now have these little groups. And I think people are actually becoming more open to talking about the shit that they go through because they realize, whatever, there's a billion people on earth that deal with the same BS that I'm dealing with. @paige_semenza: Right. @misfitcoach: that sort of thing. And when we feel like our personal circumstances are unique to us alone, I think they can take like on a life of their own and run the show. That's why I say like keep your identity small. Like don't box yourself in. I am this. I can't change and become what I want. It's just who I am. I'm again unique and special. And it may sound like a negative thing talking about you're not a beautiful and unique snowflake. but I think it's helpful. I think it's helpful to realize that your issues, if you were to be open about them, someone would say, yeah. Like I've seen that a million times. Like you're talking to your coach or whatever, @paige_semenza: Mm-hmm. @misfitcoach: and they're like, this is not unique to you. This is a like a very real thing here. and that brings us all the way to no matter who you are, and no matter how much you buy into everything that we're talking about, either already or you're about to buy in, is you will have one to three scary season moments per year. and it's a skill. To let them run their course versus fanning the flames and going down that stop and start path, right? Like @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: on a day-to-day level, a lot of psychologists refer to this as ants, automatic negative thoughts, right? You are not your feelings. Like your brain is gonna be cooking up all kinds of weird shit. and they're actually not concepts that you have developed on your own, right? But there are a lot of people that are slaves to their. like their own feelings. so automatic negative thoughts, like don't let the ants control what you're doing. So that would be more on like a day-to-day basis, that skill of, yeah, it popped into my head, but it's actually because I got low blood sugar because I haven't eaten anything or I'm cracked out on caffeine or I didn't sleep well or whatever. That's why something like that would pop up. And if we know that and it's not like a flaw that we need to judge, then we can just kind of cast it away. When you have the bigger moments, like scary season can feel like, letting them run their course might not be as simple as tossing an idea away. But in the grand scheme of things, letting it run its course, its twenty four, forty-eight, seventy-two hour course, and still just showing up and and you know, doing your work, that's when you can start to reduce the number, right? Like, are you one of those people that scary seasons actually Like it's scary week of this month. You know what I mean? We can @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: start to reduce those down, and stay on our path anyways, and not be so judgmental there. so I really wanna put an emphasis on the idea that these are the things I think that pull most people away from this concept, right? And it could be a fleeting feeling or thought, and you're just letting that thing run your life. @paige_semenza: Yeah. Letting it spiral is, know, McKenna and I talk about it quite a bit because even now, like we don't communicate as much because we're, you know, she's, I'm in Jersey, she's in PA and just you're doing life. like, you know, we have our moments where if that negative thought of training kind of creeps in, it could easily spiral until you identify it. So like being open or, know, knowing that people on social media, like this isn't a unique thing to you specifically, like hearing about other experiences or just getting something off your chest, like can really go a long way in like preventing a scary season from like extending its course basically, or you know, kind of, you know, make it much longer than it needs to be, so. Yeah, I don't know. think to me in those moments, I think back of like my 2023 season and like the biggest thing that I think I learned to do that year was like give myself grace. So like you have those ups and downs, like, okay, if these irrational thoughts are taking place, I'm gonna kind of give myself grace, take a step back so that I can start to see those more logical facts that... @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: or actually mean something about me. @misfitcoach: For sure. all right. I wrote a little bit here at the end. We'll we'll try to put a period on this conversation. You don't need to stop wanting the destination. You don't need to pretend winning doesn't matter. You just can't wait until you get there to start living your life. And ironically, once you stop asking the destination to save you, you become a hell of a lot better at doing white what might actually get you there. The work. Is the only way. Bam. All right. @paige_semenza: drop. @misfitcoach: Let's talk about some fun stuff now. Maybe that is fun. It's fun for me. coaches are people too. @paige_semenza: hyped up. @misfitcoach: Paige, what do you have going on in your life? What's up? @paige_semenza: Not too much. I came home for the weekend. I got my hair done. So that's kind of my life. I'm doing Herd Fest. I got a couple things lined up for October and November. @misfitcoach: Yeah. @paige_semenza: So Kenzie and I are doing Legends Never Die in Memphis, the beginning of October, @misfitcoach: Yep. @paige_semenza: doing some stuff with our gym, Fight for the Fittest with a team of four. So it's with our owners at our gym. And then Herd Fest. invited me for November. So I think I might put a little bit of like my phase one into that. Kind of kicking back off with some phase one stuff this week. So I'm pretty excited. I want @misfitcoach: Nice. @paige_semenza: to try to, yeah, I want to try to like buckle down a bit. It's hard. Like I find myself struggling to write the programming and then go do the programming. That's like a, @misfitcoach: Mm. Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: I don't know. It's always been like an athlete thing of me in my brain that I need to kind of get. out of my head. So, cause like anytime I would take time off from training, like whether it's like CrossFit off season or whatever, I would like write something up and be like, I'm not gonna do that. I'm gonna go do something else. I think that's just @misfitcoach: Mm-hmm. @paige_semenza: like a condition that I felt that I need to rewire. But, where's the application @misfitcoach: I don't know, it sounds like you might need a coach page. Listen. @paige_semenza: link? Let me sign back up. @misfitcoach: Yep. all right. I I I was in Maine last week. I did have a great time. It was great to be great to be back there. The weather was fantastic. We were on the beach in Scarborough, which is just South Portland, the the town that my wife and I both grew up in. had some some family stuff going on, some unfortunate family stuff going on that didn't really let us see the amount of people. I didn't get to stop into the gym. we also definitely learned that like a six day trip is actually like a four day trip. and that if we want to see a bunch of people, we got to go there for like a week and a half or two weeks. just kind of learned our lesson a little bit in that direction. But because of the stuff going on with our family, I flew home with Carter one on one. I think I'm the right no offense to my wife. I think I'm the right person for that job. I don't really sweat the small stuff. @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: so and I think part of it is like travel the less travel you do, I feel like the more stressful it is. Like you kind of just give @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: up like a little bit when you travel a lot. Like I used to do the thing where like if I had the like super early alarm, like I just could you just can't sleep because you're like, I'm gonna miss it. I'm gonna miss my flight. And then eventually it's like I mean, why wouldn't my alarm go off? Like why wouldn't I get up? And if it didn't, is that like the end of the world? Like am I gonna die @paige_semenza: Right? @misfitcoach: if I don't make you know, that sort of thing. So I think a lot of that takes place in that headspace of y you know, the world is chaos and you control nothing is the exact headspace you need to be in to travel solo with a toddler, right? @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: You are not gonna enjoy the trip from like I'm gonna get to watch a bunch of movies and You know, whatever. You are there in service of a little a little 40-pound animal sitting next to you screaming @paige_semenza: in service. @misfitcoach: because he's got noise canceling on and doesn't know what noise canceling is. and that could be scream because @paige_semenza: Yeah @misfitcoach: he needs a snack or he's pissed that there's an announcement that is interrupting his video. so that all taken into account, we are flying into Denver, got a tight connection, and the pilot announces that we have to fly around some weather and we are gonna add an hour to our flight. First of all, mentally @paige_semenza: Yikes. @misfitcoach: preparing for a four hour flight versus a five hour flight with a toddlet. I that's it is a big difference there, right? Like you really extended out those goalposts. The finish @paige_semenza: boy. Yeah. @misfitcoach: line is is really out there. So we dealt with that. we get there and you gotta wait for the stroller to come up. Like you would if you like, you know, checked your bag at the, you know, gate checked your bag. So you're waiting for that. and I already know that I'm not gonna make the connection, but you try, you try anyways. I also broke my rule. I don't run to try to get to a connection. I'm not doing it. It's just not gonna happen. I'm either gonna make it or I'm not gonna make it. @paige_semenza: With a toddler. @misfitcoach: the idea of no jammies, no sleep sack, no milk bottle. No crib, no tent for the crib, no sound, all that shit is in my checked luggage. You know, we're gonna go to a hotel together. I'm sure it'd be an experience, but you know, the motivation to maybe make that not happen is pretty high. So they said it takes 37 minutes to get from where you are to where you're gonna go. I was literally at the end of the terminal that I had to get back to the Beginning of the terminal to get on the train. And then where we get off the train, I was at the beginning of the terminal and the flight was at the end of the terminal, the entire thing. And if you've ever been to Denver's one of the biggest airports in the country, so it's 37 minutes, and he said that the @paige_semenza: so bad. @misfitcoach: boarding is over and they're gonna close the doors in 14 minutes. And I was like, you know what? Haven't exercised much on vacation. @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: We're gonna let it rip. So I sprinted through Denver. my son wanted to pretend to be Hank and he wanted me to pretend to be trash truck. If you're a parent, you know what I'm talking about. So not only am I sprinting through the airport like a crazy person, and my son is laughing because he thinks it's hilarious to tell me how fast I am, just a little bit of a confidence boost. I'm going honk @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: on. I am I'm full trash @paige_semenza: You @misfitcoach: truck to try and keep the peace. The you know what though? Like in those moments, there really for me anyways is no embarrassment that there would be if there wasn't a child involved. You know? Like it'd be a little alarming if I @paige_semenza: Yeah. @misfitcoach: was pretending to be a trash truck by myself. but even if somebody told me to do it like as a joke, it would be embarrassing. It's not really embarrassing when you're when you're, you know, doing baby talk in public or God knows what. You just do what you gotta do. @paige_semenza: I was gonna say, there's probably parents watching you and they're like, yep, we get it. @misfitcoach: they know. They know. so I am sweating, full on sweating, like I'm going for a run and like my lungs burn. Like I got the pennies taste from how hard I was @paige_semenza: you @misfitcoach: running through this airport. and I get there and I'm able to get onto the plane. So all's well that ends well. I cannot believe that we made it. Things after that, you know, got a little bit squirrely, but that's a story. That's a story for another day. we made it. @paige_semenza: He didn't have like an adrenaline dump on the next plane from how fast we were running with him? perfect. @misfitcoach: he did. he did. He had a full, he had a full, like, he was good to go. @paige_semenza: Unless he didn't go to sleep, yeah. @misfitcoach: Yeah, he fell asleep as we were landing in Denver. He fell asleep on me, which he never does. And I was like, shit. But when he woke up, he was like, Woo, what a nap. And I didn't want to tell him he'd been sleeping for six minutes. but he was very confused. He's Are we in Maine? Are we in Colorado? @paige_semenza: Amazing. @misfitcoach: Where's mama? Like really just kind of going through the repertoire of all that. @paige_semenza: Yeah. Mm-hmm. @misfitcoach: but yeah, the I I I recommend everybody you can really learn to surrender to the universe and all of its power by traveling solo with a toddler across the country. Yep. @paige_semenza: It's amazing. Definitely learned a lot in that story. @misfitcoach: Ugh, yes. Did we do it? @paige_semenza: We did it. @misfitcoach: Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Misfit Podcast. Thank you to our show sponsor, gorilla mind.com forward slash misfit, or use the code word misfit at checkout. You save on the best supplements in the game and you support the show. Keep it free forever. Phase one is underway. You can go to the link in bio on our Instagram or head to misfitathletics.com. We got a new website, makes it a lot easier to find where you're headed. you know, sort of figure out the option for you, explains all the programs, all that good stuff. So seven day free trials will be on for one week only, and then we will turn those bad boys off. 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