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Accepting Help | Better Together | Ep 1 · Dear Son,

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[SPEAKER_02]: check check check we in here check check I don't even know how to open this up I'm lying I'm lying I'm lying This is for everybody I have anybody want to use the content so think that way through it as we have the conversation
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I already see where it's going.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We would have the conversation before you came in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Don't see it about the seas that will plant like this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This happened, well, I mean, it happened through this platform.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Honestly, like the connections three years ago.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And stayed in each other's lives by intent, by proximity.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Me and you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The week that all of this came together, man, it is the testimony that I needed to end a year because I still don't know how things going to work.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm sure they are going to work and that's the tough part for me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But the sequence of days that happened, Joe T hit me with a voice mail saying, hey, you want to grab a studio, I see you at church that I don't attend, but I was only there because of a reschedule and reschedule.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was encouraging what I found out that day, and that wasn't even about this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Next day, you hit me like, day.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Need a heart that you bought a space, and I'm like, no, you're cool.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not that you won't about your business, but it's like, I made a came out of the blue.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Two days later, you're like, yo.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm waiting on the keys.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, what's up?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I hit James or like, you're all, that's what it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's funny that went away.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, none of this, none of this is funny.
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[SPEAKER_02]: My happy stance so shut me up because I'm a big side of the whole episode.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I like how, how we end in the year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is gonna be, this is gonna come out new years day.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not big on resolutions, but I just want to document the momentum as we go.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So welcome to the dance time show.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Joe T. J.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Black on Reggie George, who's been on the platforms you've been following from the day one us.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I love your how content she's like I've been this since the beginning.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, oh, that may we we move somewhere So my idea they've been this as the beginning.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So so Rage came on I still got to credit Emma law with this because I have a lot of determine on your story
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[SPEAKER_02]: And the first time me and Reds met was at the studio.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it wasn't necessarily the refrain.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was interested in telling his story.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not as a business opportunity.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was just like moved by the story.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Brad, you can share as much of as little as you want to now, whatever.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But that's how it started.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And all of these seats, I consider y'all to further ground.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know if that's a pause or what.
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[SPEAKER_02]: the seeds sold in this room.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I started being fruit.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So, not broke.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think even going back to Anviline, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's really dope to see how God has interceded in so many different areas and so many different seasons, man, because I hadn't even thought about that until you just said it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like bro,
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[SPEAKER_02]: When, when my baby got hurt, man, we had just sold our career moving into these lofts and envelopes just happened to be our upstairs neighbor.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But when we was in court, bro, like, man, he was there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like I knew the kid, like literally, like, bro, I don't, you know, my, my people asking me like, who is the homie?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm like, man, like, bro, he just, he live upstairs.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But again, he became extended family that introduced me to D and, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, all these connections came, but it's beautiful to see, bro, especially as we go on into the new year, not on no resolution, not on no, but just to see the evolution,
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[SPEAKER_02]: of things, the momentum of things based on those seeds that were planted when we didn't even know where you're planting seed.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like bro, that's the beauty of of of reaping and so on because a lot of times man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We know the assignment, but like you said, we don't even recognize the soil that we put in the season and how that, how that harvest is going to come out the ground.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, that makes sense.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, Jote, Brandon, Jote through Nate.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So Nate is another.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Avalon connection because Amalon introduced me to force.
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[SPEAKER_02]: force was how I was shooting the show for force for us had made on the show me a naked neck that we all went out to lunch out to that kind of stayed in touch.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Nate came on the podcast, so he came to the men's conference, it turned into a men's conference.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I caught up a bunch of dudes say, hey, it was like, yeah, we got to get him and talk about identity and
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[SPEAKER_02]: Nick, how did you, how did you, you, I met Nate.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Oh, I was out eating with both of you.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And they worked, I think for the stats, for the saying real estate company.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And they came in and we, she introduced me to him.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And before you know, we got the rapper.
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[SPEAKER_03]: And he was like, man, I got a partner.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know, I'm saying, been doing my podcast for like, he was like, man, we can go out there.
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[SPEAKER_03]: He was like, I want to film.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, sure.
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[SPEAKER_03]: We came and did that and shoot from there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was in in the back of my head and then finally it was, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey,
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[SPEAKER_02]: From then, like, what do I have to offer?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I kind of revisited that system.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But a year went by.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I don't know how I think I might have just reached out to you, like, learn how you wanna show that, that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: From that, it was like yo.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We need to do this a week.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think I'm trying to pull up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So he came off like two or three episodes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then me, hell, gotta gotta show.
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[SPEAKER_02]: J.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Black was episode somewhere 15, 17, something like that, again, somewhere in the 30s.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then I think 42 is what was like, hey, man, hey, yeah, we're talking about him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So him to me, because again, I'm thinking this just, like, I believe in this thing, and to see other people believe in it and commit to it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: As man, I open it for me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The biggest thing that I understand and I listen to all three, I'll say, but try as you say it is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's always said that if you do something that you're passionate about, are you doing something for the right reason?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Too often we'll do a thing with like, man, if I do that, that's gonna bring me extra amount of money.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or if I do that right there, that's gonna bring, ooh, I'm a, it's gonna take off.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or it's gonna get the notoriety and attention I need.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's gonna parlay in the disc.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Whereas you can try to push, push, push, push, but because it's the wrong motivation.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It kind of never really get off the ground.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Even if you force it, it might tremble a little bit, but it just don't do what you had in mind.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Whereas all of these relationships were forged from.
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[SPEAKER_01]: However, it turned out, it's just the thing to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This feel good, this feel right.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I enjoyed this, this chemistry good, this vibe good.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're gonna roll with it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just like you said, I didn't do this because, who, if I do this in week Murray, is we gonna go start a, what they can think of, maybe they think that's on the table, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Nothing was moved, I wasn't saying that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was slow up there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So with that, imagine doing something for the right reason and then look up and now you surrounded by the success of what those relationships have brought to the table.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that wasn't even the goal or the intent.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Obviously, eventually it was like, man, we're gonna put our heads together and get some, but the intent was, it's a good dude.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Man, it's a good network.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm with it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's roll.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And all of it, we're resonated with me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, like you will commit it to your wife about your thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I guess let's just down the panel.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like what was like, how did you, what push you into your wife a day?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Uh, I mean, for I've been in Dallas going on six years, man, and I've been asking the most high to connect me with the right people for a long time, you know, saying like you said about four, some pieces and this and I work in the motivations of things, this and this, why I heard it was, uh, a field, right, uh, the motivation behind it is, right?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like you said, it ain't force, the communication is there.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: Ain't no, ain't none to sit back and question.
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[SPEAKER_03]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: I had just flow and my wife's always going, you know, on top of all of that is the people, man.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Like I pay attention to the response, like we, in a time where our people need
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[SPEAKER_03]: some positive, we need encouragement, we need real hope, we need, and then we need black men, you know, seeing black men do it and had these conversations and I, and I know these men live in it.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: This ain't no podcast where we know we click bait men, could say certain things are coming from a peer's place.
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[SPEAKER_03]: They come from the heart.
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[SPEAKER_03]: They come from the spirit.
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[SPEAKER_03]: They come from, you know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_03]: What we walking through and saying.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's true.
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[SPEAKER_03]: That's true.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So, uh, that's, that's my
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, my, my wife is, um, my wife's me, um, and I'm not saying it in the, and it's so, well, I'm not saying it in a, uh, guess it sounds selfish, but like I put me to the side for a long time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's common.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I don't think there's anything wrong with putting others ahead of you at times.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and prioritize and other people's happiness, a joy, especially as a family person, but to completely lose yourself in the process, like I'm guilty today.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I don't have nobody to blame, but I don't have no story about all my wife.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, no, I allow some things to take priority.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I made priorities for my family, that they didn't agree to, and then I said, you know, I'm doing this for y'all.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But through this process, and then coming out of corporate,
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[SPEAKER_02]: Though I was speaking it, I wasn't necessarily ready for it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: On my time, God's time and his perfect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And he's been the most uncomfortable years on my life these last three years.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The thing that has been the most consistent for me is this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And what this is revealing to me about me, are things that have been holding my family back.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I don't feel guilty about this being my wife because the collateral benefit and where it's taken to family, by blowing and then by, you know,
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[SPEAKER_02]: J.T.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Tim, he said, I don't care to be all Kim, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right, right, right, right, right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want people saying D. John, he, he do the network.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They're like, yeah, I don't know what the boy looked like.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He didn't put an out quality stuff.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So like, yes, I'm excited about facilitating your success, our success, the adjacent success of people that we know that attach at the right time because at some point,
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[SPEAKER_01]: Take out you want it for me it's um it's too full like really I'm double dipping the chip on it meaning It was therapy in the beginning for me Uh, just I'm on my second marriage second family if you will even I was previously married three children in that marriage Uh, the personalities didn't didn't miss it was a crash out all in water Um
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've grown into a space to accept my personal contribution to that failure as well.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because as...
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[SPEAKER_01]: bad all for or not for me as that relationship that marriage that woman was, I actively played a part in it, not being for me as well.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that caused me my family, that caused me my children.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So even to this day, my oldest, where my children from that marriage, 24, 21, and 15, I haven't seen them in over 10 years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I haven't laid my eyes on any of those three children in over 10 years.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so, because of that, I thought I'd never get married again.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So then, I meet my current wife on, we get married, and now we have three children together, three sons.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And it's my second chance at life, if you will.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Typically, you don't get that second chance into your grandparents.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and that's why so many grandparents are such great grandparents because they feel like that's their second chance at parents who the mistakes they feel like they made or they weren't adequately prepared financially then a better position in life so now they like this my parents and shot right here while I was blessed with it in real time with my actual children not my grand so now the mistakes I made
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[SPEAKER_01]: I talk out loud on the platform and I'm really talking to me, things that I hear me say out loud, that's being given to me, the energy is being given to me and I try to maintain it so I can pour it into my family about children.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That helps to make me a better husband as well.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I know we talk about our children and trying to be a certain type of parent.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But it also, I use it in my marriage as well, but I'm a better communicator for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I try to use this as things that I used to wouldn't even say out loud.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I say it now.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I communicate in real time if my son does something that really irritate me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I pause for a minute because I've heard us discuss it on the platform.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I try to hear him all the way out and hold my anger and be slaughtered, react to him.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and then think about why did he do it and then we communicate about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And then I walk away saying, man, my first shot at parenting, who is this dude?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I wasn't this guy, but I think God that I am.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's even.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Now that is, everybody's good too, just good.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm thinking about my answer, man, but I think in this season, it's 100% about my wife's about obedience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like I've done a lot of things under my own wheel.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Being the Lord of my own life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I know I'm successful at it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's businesses, that's family, that's everything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But in my grandmother, you saw always tell us man, it probably comes before the fall.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And what happens is God will remind you in your disobedience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because again, see, sometimes we think building a thing on our own ambition is not disobedience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's a level of disobedience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We think just because I'm not saying it or I'm not doing something actively that look negative.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's still a level of disobedience because again, that's the thing that creates the spirit of being the Lord of your own life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we talked about it earlier, man, I was a, I was a back in Christian.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I want to do my thing, and then give God, like God, I thank you for doing this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And like, man, I ain't told you to do that, and for me, I knew a lot of our situation even with my baby.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we talked about it on all the episodes, man, I got told me early on where is this about you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that became the why in doing the file to figure movement of the apparel, the podcast, is like, I want to be able to say I'm doing things out of obedience, amen.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This apparel was created out of obedience, the podcast, this space is about obedience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So,
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[SPEAKER_02]: Of course, my wife is always my family.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's always me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's always, you know, everything that I've accumulated.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I don't think I can accomplish that in a space of being disobedient.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So obedience is really the why in this season.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's why even like Dee was talking about, like man, I would early in
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm talking to every step.
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[SPEAKER_02]: How are we going to do this?
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is that in the third, like man, I promise you, bro, in this season, if God say, go get that space, I'm going to get that space and just wait on the next constructs.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know what I'm going to do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't have to know where everybody is, so if I look up and you in a room, then
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[SPEAKER_01]: and you call it so it's just like I don't have to be in 30 rooms if I have 29 other tourists where the brothers on the side of me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We have 30 rooms at one time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to be five.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do me five for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to be kidding me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know if it is wrong.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We always hear the memes and the quotes like, man, your name is in the music.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's how we get there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They don't get there, Pods is you show one of them in the room.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They get there by people saying, man, I don't know what cat to do with them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: How did him?
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[SPEAKER_00]: How did it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And when you get in the room, don't take yourself out of the room because you ain't figured out how you got in the room.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm talking to me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Talk to me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Be out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One in my blood.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Two in my blood.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Speak to the wishes to address the obvious, we are in that space.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, we're in that space, the painting, the painting went up in some places and they dried another the floor is what it is, but it was important to me and to share by everyone sitting there that we honor the journey, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because it's not going to be perfect, but I think.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think God will perfect what is being done to your point and obedience and come on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm here for a man, so this was as you say figuring things out, I don't have to know everything, but I'm a stickler for production.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm cool with being known for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: If it's a flop,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would never shoot like this before.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This guy to be.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got my artwork.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's the story.
19:20
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
19:20
[SPEAKER_02]: This is the story.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I think the story is the most important thing.
19:24
[SPEAKER_02]: And it'd be, it'd be a disservice to the community, I say that, to rob them of the building of the great thing.
19:34
[SPEAKER_02]: Social media is full of looking the great thing, even if it's just
19:40
[SPEAKER_02]: The camera angle is making it a great deal.
19:42
[SPEAKER_02]: It's not even, it's not even great in real life.
19:44
[SPEAKER_02]: It's just how it, how it looks, man.
19:48
[SPEAKER_02]: Something that's, and I'm not taking the wheel at any point, but it's just some things that's been, been brewing in me, like, when did y'all learn to ask for help?
20:00
[SPEAKER_02]: Cause I'm late to the party.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Bro, I think that's a work in progress, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: is a chip at your ego, especially man when you call yourself a man's man or when you call yourself an alpha and especially certain kind of hell, you know what I'm saying, certain kind of like if if if I need some financial help, man, I got to be at the very bottom of
20:36
[SPEAKER_02]: See, I don't mind, like, man, if I need some spiritual help, man, I'm a tap into my past or I'm a tap into the home, you know what I'm saying?
20:43
[SPEAKER_02]: If I need some help in, you know, whatever it is, I'm doing physically, but it's certain parts, man.
20:52
[SPEAKER_02]: I still ain't learned to just swallow my pride and let that ego go to say, man, and then bro, we don't understand going back to obedience is some people that are
21:07
[SPEAKER_02]: It's some people that's that you are aligned with, yeah, to help you, and if you don't, and if you don't, again, the book tells us you have not, because you asked not.
21:19
[SPEAKER_05]: Right, right, right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And some of that asking is for help.
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[SPEAKER_05]: I have to agree with that, man, because, and to the point of obedience,
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[SPEAKER_01]: where sneakily, prideful as me.
21:38
[SPEAKER_01]: We so ridded to be self-made case and point.
21:43
[SPEAKER_01]: The last real popped up where I was talking about, I taught my son how to pump gas.
21:49
[SPEAKER_01]: And this buffoon was like, that's the most ignorant thing I've heard of my life.
21:55
[SPEAKER_01]: I learned by observing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you saw one person do it, you were taught.
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[SPEAKER_05]: Come on.
22:01
[SPEAKER_01]: That's life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We didn't just fall out of a sky and start putting our hands on things and we're blind and we never noticed or observed anyone doing anything.
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[SPEAKER_01]: decrease yourself so that you can increase somebody else.
22:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Stop always being the one that always be ready to be like, look what I did and be known to your chest.
22:21
[SPEAKER_01]: Everything that I ever beat my chest for and celebrated of look what I did, I built this from the ground up.
22:27
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't own or possess a single one of those to this day.
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[SPEAKER_01]: lost every bit of it.
22:32
[SPEAKER_01]: But my first life, I'm on life 37.
22:37
[SPEAKER_01]: My first, one of my first.
22:39
[SPEAKER_01]: That's just what it was.
22:41
[SPEAKER_01]: Man, I was, I was in an industry.
22:43
[SPEAKER_01]: I was in the oil field and she went to his boomer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So,
22:46
[SPEAKER_01]: I disrespected money, print money, I treated it like it was printed pieces of paper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Whereas now it's a tool, it's a tool to uplift something or someone or some idea or some effort or some cause to so that it can grow and multiply the efforts of others.
23:04
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not for me to hoard or stack or
23:20
[SPEAKER_01]: with any type of asking for assistance and financial, even spiritual, sometimes I'm in a spiritual battle about something and I won't say a word to a soul, nobody.
23:34
[SPEAKER_01]: I just sit there and I try to meditate my way through it or think my way through it.
23:38
[SPEAKER_01]: And sometimes that's the absolute worst thing you can do because how dare you do that with the resources.
23:44
[SPEAKER_01]: Like you said, you have people that's ordained in a line in your life.
23:48
[SPEAKER_01]: for their very thing and it doesn't come out until like I got brother's back in Louisiana and they'll call me right now.
23:57
[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, hey, I hadn't heard from you in two months normally when you disappear like this, you're going through something what you got.
24:03
[SPEAKER_01]: And we laugh and I'd be like, well, you call her right on time.
24:06
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm absolutely in the midst of something right now.
24:15
[SPEAKER_01]: I get that call and with like you said to your point that it's no longer funny how that's weird when what a coincidence not at all that's that's that's that's their old bd this yeah oh
24:34
[SPEAKER_03]: fresh fresh out of therapy, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out of there, fresh out
24:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Growing up, my trust issue going come from my environment, they didn't trust nobody.
25:06
[SPEAKER_03]: I never heard my my ass for help.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Nobody asked for help.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It was actually pushed in us, whether it was by somebody who was saying or something that we saw, it was just that survival in us just to go.
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[SPEAKER_03]: and and figure it out.
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[SPEAKER_03]: So it was the environment and the people that was around me dead, created that not asking for help.
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[SPEAKER_03]: What I've learned now, I have no issue as of for help.
25:37
[SPEAKER_03]: When I'm in a reciprocated environment, I have no issue calling nobody right here because I already see it.
25:46
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't feel it.
25:47
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm only going to feel like I can't answer it.
25:49
[SPEAKER_03]: When I'm around people, I just
25:52
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, you know what's going on going back to what you were saying is it's ain't no motivation It ain't ain't another gender.
25:59
[SPEAKER_03]: You ain't no in them places.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I ain't answering you none.
26:02
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't hear to the point now Where I have no issue with ask.
26:07
[SPEAKER_03]: I want to know this is real
26:09
[SPEAKER_03]: When they come in, my relationship exposed a lot of that too.
26:13
[SPEAKER_03]: Watching how she was able to communicate certain things, express herself in a certain way, how vulnerable she could be at times.
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[SPEAKER_03]: It was a product of what she come from.
26:23
[SPEAKER_03]: I don't come from that.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I can't trust you for that.
26:29
[SPEAKER_03]: That's the two of us.
26:30
[SPEAKER_03]: You don't know.
26:30
[SPEAKER_04]: You're no one to tell.
26:32
[SPEAKER_03]: I had no issue like I told these young couple weeks ago.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I was saying, and I was like,
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[SPEAKER_03]: I wrestled to get it out.
26:42
[SPEAKER_03]: But I'm somewhere else, I can ask for help.
26:45
[SPEAKER_03]: I can say I needed.
26:46
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
26:46
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm saying so.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I don't have that issue as much now when I'm dealing with people that I know reciprocate the energy.
26:54
[SPEAKER_03]: It's the only one I know.
26:55
[SPEAKER_02]: And to kind of piggyback Joe, man, it's good that you say it there because a lot of times, I think that's the one place that we struggle the most based on our background is asking for help with that hard.
27:07
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
27:08
[SPEAKER_02]: Like sometimes when whatever, hardens that hard or whatever, whatever, you know, sometimes it can be too slow.
27:17
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
27:17
[SPEAKER_02]: So, I think as me and Bro, the matters of the heart, because that's where all you're feeling issues and you're spiritual issues, all that stuff come out of the heart.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And Bro, asking for
27:38
[SPEAKER_02]: It's tough.
27:39
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
27:39
[SPEAKER_02]: Especially when you don't trust people with those things, or when you don't trust, and it's good that you say that, man, because, um...
27:48
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm thankful that we hear to start this thing, because there is a level of trust that a lot of times I know for sure, even when we had our initial conversation bro, I'd dejan is like man, dude dude, I'm like man, I had already planned to get y'all some keys.
28:06
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying like bro, I'm not in this to say come look at my spot.
28:12
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
28:13
[SPEAKER_02]: Like if I'm not in the season and piggybacking on what you said, like man, I wanna say look what we have accomplished.
28:21
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
28:22
[SPEAKER_02]: Like man, the thing about help oftentimes is the collective.
28:30
[SPEAKER_02]: Like man, you might not need no help with the thing that you are uncomfortable with.
28:35
[SPEAKER_02]: But when you ask for help, that thing gonna get fixed too.
28:39
[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, man.
28:40
[SPEAKER_02]: Again, you picked out your relationship.
28:42
[SPEAKER_02]: See, whatever heart issues most me and have, not gonna get fixed unless you, unless you, call me a man.
28:49
[SPEAKER_02]: Find that one.
28:50
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I promise.
28:52
[SPEAKER_02]: Ain't nothing in the street, ain't no, no homeboy ain't no nothing gonna expose.
28:56
[SPEAKER_02]: the hard heart like a woman with and vice versa again we can we all married about to be married bro like the things that we get to help our spouses with
29:07
[SPEAKER_02]: is really what's going to drive us to be better me stepping on toes.
29:15
[SPEAKER_02]: Stop it all on toes and I've been, um, is she cool?
29:21
[SPEAKER_02]: What, what cool?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't, I don't say nothing.
29:22
[SPEAKER_02]: Flavor.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not what I was going to.
29:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, Joe.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, man.
29:27
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Stop.
29:28
[SPEAKER_02]: Well, Lizzy, we go.
29:30
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going to put the pause here.
29:31
[SPEAKER_02]: Like last episode.
29:32
[SPEAKER_02]: We had.
29:33
[SPEAKER_02]: Be John asked me a question.
29:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, hey, bro.
29:36
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to.
29:38
[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, I was like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like
29:59
[SPEAKER_00]: I gotta say, I gotta say, because if I'm getting punched on me, hey, come on.
30:04
[SPEAKER_00]: How's she know if I'm here?
30:05
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, she know how I'm hurting if you don't hurt too.
30:07
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
30:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I was talking.
30:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I might take that out.
30:10
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
30:12
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't take nothing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't take nothing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like who can show this platform?
30:17
[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.
30:18
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what we'll be going in on him, sir.
30:21
[SPEAKER_02]: But the things that the person that I had to become for my family,
30:29
[SPEAKER_02]: In this season right now, it's stretching me and it's intimidating, like my wife, my wife is super strong.
30:40
[SPEAKER_02]: I said it a lot of times, like sex, pregnant, baby, work.
30:45
[SPEAKER_02]: That's not really how it happens, but that's like her her demeanor, it is like that.
30:50
[SPEAKER_02]: She's been a trooper because she's had to be, she's felt like she's also the oldest child
31:01
[SPEAKER_02]: or father's health right now and we had a conversation that same on me for not being uncomfortable for the sake of her to find some relief is like I don't know how to do this.
31:18
[SPEAKER_02]: I've been scared of the conversation how selfish of me and it's not my father it's my father in law so I'm not disconnecting what I'm saying is
31:27
[SPEAKER_02]: Also, what I've seen of my father dealing with parents that are passing as they pass my father hasn't agreed his father died 50 years ago One 50 years ago, like we had their conversations like did you have a degree?
31:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Hmm, I don't think so and and I end in the conversation with Kishaw's like I don't actually know how to deal with death
31:51
[SPEAKER_02]: from what I've seen is always keep going.
31:54
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, when you see your father's, he's the only son, he's the oldest of four.
31:59
[SPEAKER_02]: He has three sisters, he's buried his mother two of his sisters and his baby sisters left.
32:03
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh.
32:04
[SPEAKER_02]: Never seen a shed a tear or he'd be discouraged.
32:09
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to use the word weak.
32:10
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm saying like, be other than,
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[SPEAKER_02]: God, given the Lord, given the Lord, take us away, bless me, like that's literally y'all.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, you have a metal butcher, but that's, that's what I thought is, but that's not who I am.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not saying he's wrong.
32:28
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm saying I haven't developed a sense of, Greek, I don't know.
32:35
[SPEAKER_02]: So when she told me and I was like, I had to be as honest, not to take the moment from her.
32:38
[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, I'm willing to be whatever you need.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna have to learn in real time.
32:45
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know how this, I can't identify with the feeling and I'm not going to sit here in front like I can because you know I haven't.
32:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Also, I have this weird disconnection with death that it prevents me from a lot of things.
33:00
[SPEAKER_02]: So like I'm right now having to figure out how to be more of what you need and I don't know.
33:08
[SPEAKER_01]: That's difficult.
33:09
[SPEAKER_01]: And the biggest thing that you did was you communicated on your real stance and position with it.
33:15
[SPEAKER_01]: Like you didn't try to match all your way through it.
33:17
[SPEAKER_01]: You didn't beat your chest through it like, oh, baby, it's going to be all right.
33:21
[SPEAKER_01]: And you don't know that at all.
33:22
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't know if it's going to be all right.
33:24
[SPEAKER_01]: You do.
33:25
[SPEAKER_01]: But you know what I mean, but when I say, like I don't know what the next step looks like, but where sometimes so conditioned that it's me to put on that facade, like I'm expected to put on this go-time, the cameras on this showtime, counting, the curtains up, I got to be on for my fame.
33:40
[SPEAKER_01]: So now, I don't know how to grieve, I don't have time to grieve.
33:45
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not expected to grieve as what we convince ourselves of these things.
33:48
[SPEAKER_01]: So now if my family sees me grieve, who's going to be strong for them?
33:52
[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I can't we all grieve together and have a weak moment.
33:55
[SPEAKER_01]: A shared weak moment is not a sign of weakness of the household.
33:59
[SPEAKER_01]: It's just yet really another abundant moment.
34:01
[SPEAKER_01]: A lot of people are saying, oh, that's a trauma bond.
34:03
[SPEAKER_01]: No, that's not the same thing.
34:05
[SPEAKER_01]: It's an emotional progression.
34:08
[SPEAKER_01]: we all feel this loss the same.
34:11
[SPEAKER_01]: It bothers you perhaps differently than me, but if we also happen to cry at the same time, that's not an unhealthy thing, but we've been conditioned as the man in the situation or the household that if you cry now who they're going to look up to or now if you're that vulnerable in front of your wife or your children, they'll never see you as that strong again.
34:34
[SPEAKER_01]: These are things we convince ourselves of, and those people didn't even tell us that.
34:39
[SPEAKER_01]: Like to your point about how you always say, I've conversations in my mind.
34:43
[SPEAKER_01]: Dialogs not monologues.
34:46
[SPEAKER_01]: Imagine having a dialogue by yourself in your mind.
34:50
[SPEAKER_01]: The other person did not give their response.
34:53
[SPEAKER_01]: You created their response in their reaction to it.
34:56
[SPEAKER_01]: didn't consult them for them to sign on the phone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's actually how they felt or will feel.
35:02
[SPEAKER_01]: And you've convinced yourself, you absolutely right.
35:05
[SPEAKER_01]: That's exactly how you're going to feel.
35:06
[SPEAKER_01]: That's exactly what you're going to say.
35:07
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't let her see me like that.
35:10
[SPEAKER_01]: And now you just continue to broken cycle, just because of a lack of communication.
35:15
[SPEAKER_01]: I say all that to say, you did the opposite.
35:18
[SPEAKER_01]: Hey, I'm available.
35:20
[SPEAKER_01]: That is my 100%, I don't know what this looks like feels like or it's supposed to do, but I'm going to and willing to learn in real time.
35:28
[SPEAKER_01]: Just tell me what you need or let's figure out what you need as I see it.
35:32
[SPEAKER_01]: Or as you see it, let's talk about it in a community so I can be that thing.
35:37
[SPEAKER_02]: And bro, marriage is about skill building.
35:42
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
35:43
[SPEAKER_02]: Nobody comes into a thing with every skill build.
35:52
[SPEAKER_02]: I think everybody has to learn certain skills the hard way.
35:56
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, especially when it comes to trauma, when it comes to death, or when it comes to grief, or when it comes to, you know, for us, it's PTSD of a thing.
36:04
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying, like, bro, what my baby got out the hospital, you got four people dealing with the same incident for a different way.
36:17
[SPEAKER_02]: And not only do we have to build the skills within ourselves, we have to build the skills to deal with each other while we're dealing with the thing.
36:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Can you give a little contact?
36:27
[SPEAKER_02]: So, you know, when can I get stabbed, right?
36:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I know, I know the toll that it took on me, just as a father, as the protector, as the
36:41
[SPEAKER_02]: As the head, you know what I'm saying?
36:44
[SPEAKER_02]: When a 15 year old little boy stabs my baby, my daughter, you know what I'm saying?
36:49
[SPEAKER_02]: And for context, stabbed in the head with a pair of scissors at school.
36:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Egotistically, I'm 1000% concerned about how it made me feel.
37:03
[SPEAKER_02]: What it shipped away at me, what it stripped me of my protective piece,
37:12
[SPEAKER_02]: The three months he was in the hospital, I started having to identify like, man, my wife dealing with this thing too.
37:19
[SPEAKER_02]: Then I'm thinking like, man, my baby got a twin sister.
37:23
[SPEAKER_02]: She dealing with this thing too.
37:27
[SPEAKER_02]: And now it's like, okay, now now we go into skill building saying, like, okay, while I'm dealing with it, and I'm struggling.
37:37
[SPEAKER_02]: Let me, let me help you, you help her, she helped her, she do this, but, and going back to what you was saying, bro, everybody has to be somewhere enough to know where they at in that situation.
37:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Everybody got to be be somewhere enough to say, listen, I'm not dealing with this part with.
38:00
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not dealing with this part well.
38:02
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not dealing with this part well.
38:04
[SPEAKER_02]: I see them struggling because all that Husband wife parent.
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[SPEAKER_02]: All that's out the dough.
38:10
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah All that's out the dough because we think these traditional assignments of being a husband or being a father like man That's that's cool, but you got four people dealing with the thing You know what I'm saying and bro
38:29
[SPEAKER_02]: If you're not looking at it from the perspective of saying, I need to build this skill, that's when we, and what Joe was talking about earlier, that's when we, based on how we was raised or what we dealt with, some people just tell you to pack that thing away and move on.
38:57
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
38:57
[SPEAKER_02]: So, if you can identify those things in the individuals' bro, you never get to a place where you're saying, this the plan we came up with, this how we gonna deal with.
39:10
[SPEAKER_03]: My pops told me of years ago when I escaped out of jail, he didn't know about how he got home.
39:17
[SPEAKER_03]: They told him I was still on the run at that point.
39:20
[SPEAKER_03]: So he called when I was at and soon I got on the phone and said, hello, his words were verbatim.
39:27
[SPEAKER_03]: He said, we don't run from nothing.
39:28
[SPEAKER_03]: We deal with it.
39:32
[SPEAKER_03]: This and then one of the things I'm going to enjoy the most about this
39:38
[SPEAKER_03]: of a black man, the experiences, responses, reactions, mistakes, what you learned, how you decided to evolve and get better, because I'm being on that, because for one, break in generational courses, looking back at people who just refused to see, you know, that's
40:07
[SPEAKER_03]: Uh, and it's somebody looking for growth in you, you know, so when I listen to what you just said, you know, and where you come from, how you what you was in your response or still growth to me, that's all I heard because even then not knowing what to do, you've done something about what you say it.
40:30
[SPEAKER_03]: literally.
40:31
[SPEAKER_04]: And real life.
40:33
[SPEAKER_03]: And then I'm listening and he could I didn't know that.
40:36
[SPEAKER_03]: No, I'm saying, like, I'm listening.
40:37
[SPEAKER_03]: I'm listening.
40:39
[SPEAKER_03]: That's what I'm looking.
40:42
[SPEAKER_03]: That's one of the things I'm looking for to about this podcast is just hearing how to deal with life.
40:47
[SPEAKER_03]: and continue to grow and figure this thing out as husband and his fathers, as men, as friends, as what, I'll out of it around, man, that's what I want to say about that part, right there, man, up.
40:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I appreciate all that helps me see things differently in real time.
41:06
[SPEAKER_02]: Kind of want to shift a little bit, but not too much of a departure.
41:11
[SPEAKER_02]: talking about help, talking about where we struggled or not struggled any more asking for help.
41:19
[SPEAKER_02]: But I want to throw it out there, Matt, what are you giving this?
41:26
[SPEAKER_02]: What whatever this is going to be, and I'm not making light of it, this is going to be great.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What
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[SPEAKER_02]: I need D. John to be D. John, man.
41:45
[SPEAKER_02]: As you know, I'm saying, like, bro, there's no way, there's no way we, we're doing this to show people.
41:54
[SPEAKER_02]: Um, man, matter of fact, let's retro, just having the idea to do this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
42:00
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
42:01
[SPEAKER_02]: You come on, bro, that to me, that says more than anything that I any answer I can give.
42:07
[SPEAKER_02]: You know, I'm saying, like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: just to have the mindset to say, man, let's shoot something for the new year.
42:15
[SPEAKER_02]: Let's shoot and show people how to build a thing.
42:18
[SPEAKER_02]: Let's show people think or let's show people a raw space or raw conversation.
42:29
[SPEAKER_02]: The part about who you are as a producer of things is already there, bro, we just, we just got to do it on a bigger scale.
42:40
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
42:41
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, I'm a big believer in a bill, gross scale.
42:47
[SPEAKER_03]: And I think everybody's in a season of scaling, and we got to get to it.
42:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, we just need you to keep seeing that.
43:00
[SPEAKER_03]: You've been saying that, we'll just, that's it.
43:03
[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah, yeah.
43:04
[SPEAKER_01]: Stop running from the camera.
43:09
[UNKNOWN]: Yeah.
43:09
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
43:09
[SPEAKER_02]: We sighed at the camera, but you talked about it.
43:12
[SPEAKER_01]: How far would the guy find the camera attached to you?
43:15
[SPEAKER_01]: That answer to the chair of us, we sighed at the camera.
43:18
[SPEAKER_01]: So I just want to hear him say you damn right one time.
43:22
[SPEAKER_01]: You don't have a name like that, that humble pie.
43:25
[SPEAKER_00]: Cool.
43:25
[SPEAKER_00]: On hands, we're going to do that.
43:26
[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, on here, don't wear that's coming, but it's all seriousness, it's a comment three between the three of us to have the same response because we see it, not that you do not, but we see it because we outside looking at an experience in it as well, too often.
43:47
[SPEAKER_01]: People that are in this place, uh, professional producers and in content creators and, um, you know, friends and colleagues that we have that are in production spaces and studios and run newsrooms for major metropolitan areas, the first thing they say when they see it is, man, that production though.
44:08
[SPEAKER_01]: I cared you not.
44:08
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not saying that because you're sitting right here, that's the first thing that my media professional colleagues and friends say,
44:17
[SPEAKER_01]: utmost compliment they said the content is good what you guys say is good it's great but that production is what drew me to the channel so you have to realize
44:34
[SPEAKER_01]: You can't be the last person to the party of your own party.
44:37
[SPEAKER_01]: It's not a surprise for the surprise party.
44:40
[SPEAKER_01]: The honor is the last person to arrive here.
44:44
[SPEAKER_02]: So we ain't throwing this part of you through this part.
44:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
44:48
[SPEAKER_02]: I guess I mean, I didn't even see the right thing.
44:51
[SPEAKER_02]: And then you're looking around like, it's just a part of it.
44:54
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so that's a good thing for real, appreciate that.
44:57
[SPEAKER_02]: For real, I won't ask if he doesn't make me feel good by this stretch.
45:01
[SPEAKER_02]: I am like, I, I, my life literally depends on this.
45:07
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's how I'm approaching it.
45:08
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, so yeah, if it, if it, if it starts to grow,
45:14
[SPEAKER_02]: Remember that I said that first before you snatched my colors, I mean still snatched my coloring character.
45:20
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm cool.
45:20
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm cool with that.
45:21
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm cool with that.
45:21
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm cool with being corrected, but just know it's in the spirit of.
45:26
[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
45:27
[SPEAKER_02]: or nothing.
45:29
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm personally very excited about the four me and city side by side right now.
45:36
[SPEAKER_01]: There's other extensions to the platform and the network, obviously, and that's not the discount any one.
45:41
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm equally excited to work with and experience those guys, but there's a certain bond and
45:46
[SPEAKER_01]: Fellowship that's taking place with the four me and you see on this platform the day In devours and movements to come and I wholeheartedly believe in indoors In all of the movements that are come from under this roof and the future things and decisions that are be made in platforms and creations and sub titles and it's it's it's it's up man.
46:10
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm excited and and I don't use that word lightly because
46:14
[SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot of things that I'm genuinely always happy about because I'm just going to find the good and something to make that motivates me to keep pushing forward.
46:23
[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a more in person, I'm it's hard to give me down.
46:28
[SPEAKER_01]: So because it's hard to give me down for me to say I'm ultra excited about a thing, hey man, I can't wait.
46:36
[SPEAKER_01]: for the world of C-2026.
46:38
[SPEAKER_01]: I can't wait.
46:39
[SPEAKER_02]: Now I'm growing and D-John used the right word, man.
46:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Like I can literally feel the momentum.
46:44
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
46:45
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
46:46
[SPEAKER_02]: Like sometime bro, you get in a space where, and again, man, I remember playing football, bro, you can kind of feel, like sometime I would feel, like man, oh, I'm gonna do some crazy today.
46:59
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
47:00
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's the kind of momentum.
47:07
[SPEAKER_02]: Not even like I said, I don't know it, not even on no resolution type thing.
47:11
[SPEAKER_02]: It's just like the future, you know what I'm saying, and the future, and I keep, again, I don't hold the title of no profit, but I'm saying the first 90 days of this thing going to be so crazy.
47:27
[SPEAKER_02]: That's the momentum, it's almost like a buzz or a vibration.
47:34
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
47:35
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, bro, just watch the first night by March, man, we're gonna be able to see a shift that we don't have to talk about.
47:48
[SPEAKER_05]: I don't want to, I don't want to, yeah, yeah, I don't want to, I'm not going to, I'm not going to, I'm not going to, I'm not going to, I'm not going to, it's wouldn't be, it's wouldn't be a deal.
47:54
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I was so that we didn't play into the,
47:58
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48:14
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay, come on, thank God.
48:16
[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, hey, you don't get it.
48:18
[SPEAKER_02]: We, we saw it.
48:18
[SPEAKER_02]: We boxed fans.
48:19
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48:30
[SPEAKER_03]: That's fine.
48:31
[SPEAKER_02]: I've been trying to do this in this work, especially, especially breathe.
48:34
[SPEAKER_02]: It's especially breathe.
48:35
[SPEAKER_02]: Y'all are fighting for your life.
48:38
[SPEAKER_02]: Y'all are drawing out the inevitable.
48:40
[SPEAKER_02]: Y'all will let Carolina put y'all to say, what?
48:43
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, come on.
48:44
[SPEAKER_02]: We should all try and give away.
48:46
[SPEAKER_02]: We're trying to give away the conference.
48:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Why don't nobody take it down?
48:48
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know about it.
48:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Take it.
48:49
[SPEAKER_01]: Carolina will snatch the next week.
48:51
[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
48:51
[SPEAKER_01]: We're about to see you.
48:52
[SPEAKER_00]: We should all try and give it away.
48:53
[SPEAKER_00]: We'll see you.
48:54
[SPEAKER_00]: Can you just jump right on them people?
48:55
[SPEAKER_01]: Right, see you.
48:56
[SPEAKER_00]: Here's why I get off camera because he always tried like he always trying to un-serious a serious thing, man Would a serious thing because the cowboys is a very serious You try to un-serious at different series.
49:12
[SPEAKER_02]: We can seriously see the stadium from their window But that's about that's the years as it gets that's why you chose the space I
49:25
[SPEAKER_00]: I get on a way out, man, what's the word of McCarrison if the people that need something on the first or need something whenever they see this after it is on the first which you got.
49:35
[SPEAKER_02]: Long as short as you wanted to be.
49:37
[SPEAKER_03]: See it through, trust the process.
49:41
[SPEAKER_03]: In the beginning when you were talking about how we feel and people get discouraged because they see people on the mountain, not the climb.
49:48
[SPEAKER_03]: I promise you, everybody that you compare yourself to they had a start, and I promise you didn't look like what it looked like now when they earned out the Kings when they figured out the play, when they ran into the right resource, they had to figure that thing out.
50:02
[SPEAKER_03]: And every time I process, it made it, it's the look of things, it's your character, it's your integrity, it's so many things that's being earned out.
50:11
[SPEAKER_03]: If you can, because it's hard to, in the middle of trying to figure something out to
50:18
[SPEAKER_03]: If you can't just come down and know, trust the process, it's a journey, man.
50:25
[SPEAKER_03]: It's, it's, it's not, you know, just want to go with it.
50:28
[SPEAKER_03]: But when all I got is, uh, go bigger because you can.
50:32
[SPEAKER_05]: Whoo.
50:37
[SPEAKER_01]: To both of these gentlemen point, don't get so called up looking for the results that you don't have your eyes on the work.
50:48
[SPEAKER_01]: we so busy looking for the output that we lacking on the input.
50:55
[SPEAKER_01]: That's weight loss, that's health, that's money, that's investments, that's anything that takes you committing to it.
51:04
[SPEAKER_01]: And the results may not show up today tomorrow next week next month.
51:09
[SPEAKER_01]: If you know you're doing what you're supposed to be doing and you believe in what you're doing, focus on the
51:20
[SPEAKER_02]: and i think i think my advice man going into the new year would be if if god give it go get it
51:27
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
51:28
[SPEAKER_02]: See, sometimes I think we let our own ambitions, and we talked about it earlier, we let our own ambition cloud us from what God has for us.
51:38
[SPEAKER_02]: But once you identify that thing, man, go get it.
51:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Go get it and go get it and get out your own way.
51:46
[SPEAKER_02]: See, a lot of times, man, will that self doubt that the end result,
51:53
[SPEAKER_02]: is what get in the way.
51:54
[SPEAKER_02]: That ain't our job.
51:56
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
51:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, if you tell you to do something, you do it.
52:00
[SPEAKER_02]: Everything else is all in.
52:03
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's that's coming out of the book or principles and promises.
52:07
[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
52:08
[SPEAKER_02]: If you follow the principle, the promise is automatic.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Every time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I often we doing this.
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[SPEAKER_03]: I'm on.
52:18
[SPEAKER_03]: Go on.
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