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Beat Imposter Syndrome with These Exercises · RiseUp - Live Joy Your Way

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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, let's start the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rise up, live joy your way.
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  SPEAKER_00: From emotional intelligence through cognitive distortions, certified life and wellness coach Comedy Wood is on a mission to help people see the magnificence of their own unique human spirit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Through these small bites of self-visualization and self-confidence, you can have healthy relationships, success in business and career, and live the life you want to live.
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  SPEAKER_00: Rise up, live joy your way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hi there and welcome to another episode of Rise Up, Live Joy Your Way.
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  SPEAKER_01: Whether it's morning, afternoon, or evening, thank you so much for taking some time out of your day to spend with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm grateful for it and I'm grateful for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And today we're talking about imposter syndrome exercises and how to embrace your greatness.
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  SPEAKER_01: This concept of imposter syndrome has been popping up more and more in some of my client sessions, just in terms of feeling like we don't we're not capable of doing the things that uh are coming our way.
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  SPEAKER_01: So for instance, I was recently just talking to somebody who got promoted, really wanted the promotion, worked really hard for the promotion, and then as soon as he got the promotion, felt like uh he just didn't know that he had the ability to do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: That the self-confidence just wasn't there.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's it's really when we talk about imposter syndrome, what we're what we're really looking at is just the the questioning of one's own skills, one's own abilities, competencies.
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  SPEAKER_01: Am I smart enough?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, maybe feeling just uneasy about being skilled.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that's basically what this client was sharing was that now that he had this promotion, it was sort of this this self-doubt of can I actually do this?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can I actually lead this team?
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and really what that comes down to is feeling like an imposter.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like for some reason, we don't have what we need in order to execute in the role that we've been given.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this doesn't just happen in the workplace, it can happen even in our personal lives.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know many individuals that I've worked with as parents, they almost feel like an imposter as a parent.
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  SPEAKER_01: Am I even a good parent?
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know that I can do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: I don't know if I'm making the right decisions.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's really just characterized that imposter syndrome is just characterized by the that constant self-doubt and the internalization that I that I I'm not good enough to succeed at this.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, and really what ends up happening when we lean into that imposter syndrome or that self-doubt is that we start to um go down the spiral of of not believing in ourselves and the beliefs that maybe we aren't good enough, and that false belief takes hold.
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  SPEAKER_01: So um, you know, the the term imposter syndrome really came out of just describing the feeling of um like really accomplished uh individuals who were accomplished in many different aspects just felt like they still could not um execute on the things that they wanted to execute on.
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  SPEAKER_01: Uh they're just they just didn't have enough information.
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  SPEAKER_01: I even see this in um like even with doctors that I've worked with, like for some reason they think that they have to keep going um and learning more and more.
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  SPEAKER_01: And now, not to say that continuing education is not important, it absolutely is, but they almost feel like they can't go practice until they go get, you know, some more information or more certifications or or more specializations, and so they just keep themselves from actually even entering into practice because they're afraid that they don't know enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: Research has actually shown that um 70% of people at some point in their lives are going to feel like they are a fraud or that they're faking it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then some suggest that women and minority groups actually experience imposter syndrome at even higher rates than that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, there was a study in the UK that found that 90% of British women felt like they were not good enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: And imposter syndrome is just really prevalent amongst women.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not to say that men don't feel it.
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  SPEAKER_01: I like I said, I've dealt with clients who are men who definitely have imposter syndrome, but women um also feel it at really high rates.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as I mentioned before, that the the root or the we could say one of the roots of of imposter syndrome are those self-limiting beliefs or are those false beliefs of maybe not being good enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so what ends up happening sometimes with imposter syndrome, if we leave it unchecked, is then self-sabotage takes hold because we don't there's this inner fear of failing, so that what ends up happening is in a way to control the fallout, self-sabotage will take hold.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here are some sin, some exercises for imposter syndrome that might help you accept yourself and embrace your own personal excellence.
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  SPEAKER_01: One of the things is to just really sit down and make a list of all of your strengths, all of these things that you're qualified for and that you're really great at.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it may sound silly, but actually putting pen to paper and seeing all of your strengths right there in front of you allows you to see where you do shine.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so you're it's harder to then turn away from it because you're seeing it right there in front of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: These are my strengths, these are the things that I'm really qualified for.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, start paying attention to your self-talk is really important too.
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  SPEAKER_01: Notice those moments when the self-talk is is really self-critical or putting yourself down.
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  SPEAKER_01: Bring that to your awareness.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then as it now that we bring it into the consciousness, we have a choice at that point of monitor, not just monitoring it, but then asking ourselves, well, is that actually true?
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes journaling can really pick really help here because if you're able to put pen to paper of how you're actually talking to yourself and you see it, you can start saying and asking yourself that very important question is this actually true what I'm saying about myself and to myself.
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  SPEAKER_01: A growth mindset is really important when we're facing imposter syndrome.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's about um asking that question of what's possible versus this is all I know, which is the fixed mindset.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, for instance, if you think that you might be underqualified for something or that you might not be able to get a promotion, allow yourself the ability to still go ahead and uh put yourself out there.
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  SPEAKER_01: Or maybe ask yourself what um what would be the harm in even in trying and just you know, because it's an absolute no, it's a hundred percent no if you never apply for the promotion, but there's always the possibility, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's stepping into what could be possible and letting go of perfectionism, letting go of the perfect way to do something.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, many of us high achievers are perfectionists, and we and and we really do have a real tough time with imposter syndrome because we feel like if we aren't perfect, then we're clearly not good enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so when we look at imposter syndrome, we can see that perfectionism is really strongly linked.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so working on that aspect, it's it's working on what's good enough for right now, uh, and letting go of this idea that I have to get it perfect all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the another thing that we can do in terms of dealing with imposter syndrome is keep track of your successes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this isn't my worthiness comes from my achievements.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's not what this is.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is an exercise, though, of recognizing yourself for those accomplishments, recognizing these are the things I accomplished, and then leaning into and how did I show up to create those successes for myself, right?
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  SPEAKER_01: So we're not just looking at the accomplishment itself, but we're also looking at and who was I, how did I show up that allowed room for that success to happen?
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  SPEAKER_01: So they're going hand in hand.
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  SPEAKER_01: And the very last thing when we're talking about imposter syndrome is we really have to be aware when we're when we fall into the comparison trap.
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  SPEAKER_01: Comparing yourself to others can absolutely lead to this feeling of not enoughness or dissatisfaction with self.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when you catch yourself comparing, it's it's slowing down and recognizing we are all at different stages in our lives.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so we don't have to keep measuring ourselves against somebody else's story.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's about writing your own story.
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  SPEAKER_01: Learning to wrap learning to embrace imposter syndrome rather than run away from it is really important because you can't change something that you're not aware of.
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  SPEAKER_01: So when we at least acknowledge what's happening, happening for us, we give ourselves permission to then take uh the steps in order to handle it and to work through it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Imposter syndrome, self-limiting beliefs, these are all things that I work with my clients on because sometimes we just need that collaboration, we need that support system to help us see things differently.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you'd like to talk about this, by all means, feel free to book a time with me at chatwithcomedy.com.
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  SPEAKER_01: And until next time, stay well.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for listening to Rise Up, Live Joy Your Way.
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  SPEAKER_00: For more information, book a chat with comedy at www.chatwithcomedy.com.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or visit her website at www.comedywood.com.
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