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3 Ways narcissists react to you CRYING IN FRONT OF THEM. · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about how do narcissists react
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  to when you start crying, when you start showing emotions and
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  being vulnerable to them? What what goes on in the mind of
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  a narcissist? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a self aware narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  So boom, welcome back, welcome back, welcome back folks.
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  So yeah, so we're going to talk about 3 different ways that
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  narcissists can react to your tears, to you crying and
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  expressing your emotions, to you being hurt and feeling some type
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  of way about that narcissist or the toxic person, how they're,
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  what's going on with them and whatnot.
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  throughout the week as well. So check it out.
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  But yes, three different ways that narcissistic people, toxic
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  people could react to you crying and whatnot.
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  So the 1st way is anger RAR the angry toxic narcissistic person
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  that the angry rage that you get from a toxic abusive narcissist
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  that is angry as hell that you write.
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  This happens quite a bit to people who are dealing with
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  narcissists, to people who are experiencing narcissistic abuse,
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  right? This is part of it.
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  They can get very angry at you, like your tears or yo, your
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  voice cracking or whatever. It's it's like lubricated shame,
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  lubricate, you know, lubricated shame, like wet, wet
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  accountability. That's what this represents to
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  that narcissistic person in your life, right?
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  That anger and the shame that come along with it.
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  They are mad as hell. They want to get back at you.
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  They want to hurt you. They want to harm you because
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  your ain't your tears. Especially if it's something as
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  a is a result of something that they themselves have actually
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  done. If it's something that they are
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  absolutely responsible for, they cannot stand it.
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  They hate it. They hate accountability.
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  They hate when you're whole trying to hold them accountable.
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  They hate it. You know, so your tears, it
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  makes brains shame to them. And how do narcissists fight
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  shame with anger? Like you fight fire with fire.
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  They fight shame with anger. They fight shame with rage.
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  You know, shame with anger, shame with rage.
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  That's what, that's what a lot of narcissist people do.
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  They just, they, they match it. They, they, they, they feel like
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  they're matching your energy because they, they don't want to
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  take accountability for what you were saying or what your tears
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  or making you or hurting your feelings or making you cry or
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  making you cry, something like that.
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  They don't want to take accountability for it.
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  So they start, they lash out with anger and some not not all
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  anger, it's the same. Some people, some some people do
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  silent rage. They ignore you.
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  They they get disconnected from you.
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  Like I said, you ever had a narcissistic parent that is
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  screaming and yelling at you for crying for something, that
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  something that they have done, like they slapped, they went off
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  and slapped you out of nowhere, right?
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  You had a question. They didn't want to answer it.
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  They hauled off and hit you across the mouth.
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  They hauled off or snatched you across the face, right.
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  So now you're ain't like so now you're crying and now they're
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  getting angrier. I'm gonna give you something to
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  cry for. You already gave me something to
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  cry for this, so I'm crying. You.
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  You already gave me something to cry for.
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  That's why I'm crying right now. What are you talking about?
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  More? You don't give me more.
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  How you going to give me more? You see what I'm saying?
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  How you going to give me more? That's the mindset.
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  That's the like you get angry, narcissistic people wet.
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  Like I said, lubricated anger, wet shame.
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  This is what happens. This is the mindset.
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  This is the mentality of a lot of toxic abuse of narcissists.
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  They're going to make you feel it.
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  They're going to make you take accountability for the stuff
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  that they do to you, the stuff that they put you through.
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  They're going to make you take accountability for it.
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  How dare you be angry at me? How dare you?
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  You see what I'm saying? How dare you try to hold me
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  accountable. Roar, you tear.
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  You're just crying. Roar, beating their chest,
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  throwing stuff, yelling and screaming at you even more.
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  They get angry as hell at you, like anger.
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  They go meet your tears with anger.
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  They get mad wet. Like I said, wet shame, wet
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  accountability. It happens.
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  Yeah, it's kind of crazy. It's kind of crazy, but I said
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  it out loud. But they really do get angry.
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  The next way, the number two way that they that they can react is
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  they just, they don't give you a type of reaction.
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  They call you manipulative. They think like this is what
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  goes through their minds. They think you're being
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  manipulative. They think that you yourself,
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  they think that you're using your tears to try to manipulate
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  them. They think that you're being
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  manipulative with your tears. But Lee, why in the hell would
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  they think that we are trying to manipulate them with our tears?
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  Why would they do that? Why?
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  What, what, what? What does this mindset come
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  from? Lee, can you please help me
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  understand it? Like, why would they think that
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  we are being manipulative with our tears?
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  Because that's what narcissists do.
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  That's what they do. They're manipulative with their
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  tears. So they're assuming that you're
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  doing the same thing. Like if I'm being manipulative
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  with my tears, I'm assuming that you are doing the same thing
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  with yours. That's the, that's the crux of
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  it right there. I am assuming that you are doing
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  the same thing that I'm doing. I'm assuming that you are also
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  being manipulative with your because I know when I'm crying,
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  I'm trying to manipulate you with it.
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  Oh, you going to cry? You going to cry right now?
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  Well, look at me. I'm crying too.
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  Yeah, I cheated. You crying because I cheated.
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  I'm crying because I've cheated. I'm crying harder.
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  You know, in that in that scenario right there.
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  I'm trying to use my tears to make them feel bad.
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  You know what I'm saying? I'm trying to use my tears to
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  make them silly. I'm hurt.
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  I'm trying to use my tears to manipulate you.
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  You see, I know I didn't cry at the birth of my kids.
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  I know I didn't cry. I haven't cried at any funeral.
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  I didn't cry when I broke my arm.
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  I didn't cry. My pet passed away, but I'm
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  crying now 'cause I hurt you and I'm crying 'cause it hurt me.
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  That's why they think that you're being manipulative when
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  you are you something. That's why they think you're
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  being manipulative when you are crying, because that's what they
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  do. Narcissistic people are very
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  good projectors, you know, human projectors, human like human
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  projector screens. They project onto you what they
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  would do, what they are thinking, what they, what they
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  have done. You know, so they're
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  automatically assuming that you're doing the same thing that
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  they do when you're like I said, when you're crying, if I'm being
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  manipulated when I'm crying, I'm assuming that you're being
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  manipulated when you were crying because that's what you know,
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  tears of tears of manipulation. You're trying to manipulate me,
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  aren't you? That's when narcissist minds go.
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  That's what the mindset is right there.
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  Y'all. So that's why I'm just trying to
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  tell you I'm trying to convey that information to you.
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  This is what narcissists do. This is what a lot of
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  narcissists think. I they think that you're being a
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  manipulator because they would be trying to be manipulated in
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  this situation. So they're trying to put it, but
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  put both on you and the last way y'all, the last way that I go
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  over to that, how narcissists could react to what goes through
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  the mind of a narcissist when you're crying is the fact is
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  that they, it could, it could turn them on.
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  You know, it, it could, it could just turn them on.
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  That's it. Your tears could become an
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  aphrodisiac. You know I said wet shame
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  earlier. If I say I say your tears can
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  become wet shame. Wet, wet accountable, lubricated
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  accountability. This right here is a lubricated
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  aphrodisiac. It's like looks like what's the
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  oysters? Your tears are like an oyster to
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  them. You know what I'm saying?
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  I notice AI notice a crazy example, but your tears turn
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  them on. Imagine they're yelling and
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  screaming at you, right? Y'all driving down the highway,
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  they punching the steering wheel, yelling and screaming at
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  you and then you start crying and now all of a sudden they
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  stop punching the steering wheel.
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  You look good. You cry, huh?
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  You I know I need to. I know I'm driving 100.
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  I know I'm driving 185 mph down the highway because you're
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  trying to hold me accountable. I'm angry, but you look good
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  right now. I think I think I don't think
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  we're going to make it home right now.
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  You're over there like why you trying to sleep with me right
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  now? I'm not not trying to sleep with
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  you right now. You hiding hot.
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  That's the mind of a narcissist. You know that's the mind of a
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  lot of narcissistic people when you're expressing yourself
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  through when you're crying, they think it's hot.
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  They turns them on lately. How the hell do tears turn
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  narcissists on? Y'all, y'all know, I've been
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  open about this and some of my past videos that you're, it's
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  not the tears, it's the vulnerability.
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  Some narcissists don't possess. They don't possess the ability
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  to be truly vulnerable like that, right?
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  Or they just repress it a lot. So when you're being openly
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  vulnerable, it turns them on. They sometimes they get, they
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  get become attracted to what they are not.
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  They become attracted to what they are not.
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  So what they can become attracted to things that they
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  cannot do themselves. So you, you, you're expressing
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  your vulnerability. It turns them out like that's
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  how my mind used to be. I they were wondering the, the
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  private things that would ask my, that's one of my private
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  things. I would ask my therapist.
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  I'll just like, why does it turn me on?
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  Why does it? She's like, Oh yeah, it's the
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  vulnerability. You don't like being vulnerable.
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  You don't like getting deep and vulnerable.
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  So the tears are being the tears are the vulnerability turns you
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  on. Like you can counteract that by
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  being more open and vulnerable in your everyday life.
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  So the more open and vulnerable you are in your everyday real
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  life, the less likely the tears or vulnerability to somebody
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  else, the yelling and screaming, the big reactions that other
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  people give you might not turn you on because sometimes like
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  this, what happens, y'all, your, your reactive abuse can turn
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  that narcissist on. It's not just a crime.
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  Like you're reacting and you're crying and you're screaming your
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  big reaction, they might try to sleep with you, they might turn
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  them on. So that's why that's one of the
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  reasons why right there, y'all. That's why.
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  That's why I had to break the video down for you.
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  I know I've done other videos on crime before, but that's the
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  mindset, the mentality of a lot of narcissists, a lot of abusive
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  people. They become attracted to the
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  things that they themselves cannot do.
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  They become attracted to the things that they themselves wish
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  they could do, like crime, being being able to express themselves
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  and not being judged, being safe, being being vulnerable.
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  You see what I'm saying? They're feeling when you're
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  being vulnerable to them. It's just this weird feeling
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  like you feel safe enough with them to be vulnerable with them.
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  So they want to sleep with you. And I know that sounds crazy
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  because they're, they are the person that hurts you.
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  They are, they are the reason that you're crying.
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  But it's just this weird mindset that a lot, a lot of narcissists
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  have. And I'm like one of the, I'm
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  like, that's how my mind used to work.
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  You know what I'm saying? They're just like, damn, you
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  look good when you cry. I, I didn't know what it was.
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  This is a weird feeling that takes over you y'all when
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  somebody's crying and it's just like the people that you're
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  attracted to are crying women that you attracted to people who
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  who who whoever you're attracted to.
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  Y'all when they would cry just like what is going?
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  What's going on with me? You know what I mean?
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