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Balance Your Life with Danielle Harvey | Episode #362 · Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess

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Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your Life Count.
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I'm your host, Doctor Gloria. Gloria Burgess, international leadership expert and
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trusted adviser. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make your Life Count. I'm delighted
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I hope you're enjoying a fabulous day and that you're having a fantastic week,
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because you know what, in the grand song of the universe, life
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is very short. It's short, sweet and very precious. So I hope
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you're making a difference in your own life because when you do, you also
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make a difference in someone else's life. Now, a lot of folks want
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to make their life count for something, and they ask me, doctor Gloria,
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how do you do that. Well, it's really very simple, very
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simple. You make your life count, day by day, step by step,
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moment by moment, every single day. Three sixty five twenty four seven.
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That's what Legacy Living, Make your Life Count is all about Now.
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out one of my Ted talks at ted dot com. Now, today I
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want to talk with you about leadership, a topic that is near and dear
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to my heart. Specifically, we are going to focus on work life balance.
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Today I have a very special guest, Danielle Harvey Stenson, and she's
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going to share a little bit about her work and her leadership journey and how
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she thinks about work life balance. So who is Danielle well, she wears
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many, many hats. She's a mom, she's an avid, lifelong learner,
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and she's a very creative soul and a trusted friend and an amazing mentor.
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In a word, Danielle is an influencer, and to me, she
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is very inspiring. Danielle is a leader who makes a difference in her own
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life and in the lives of so many others throughout the world in her work
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at the University of Southern California. In that work, she works in alumni
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relations. Now, I met Danielle about ten years ago when she was looking
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for a keynote speaker for USC's Women's Alumni conference. At that time, I
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was seeking to expand my reach in terms of impacting more women leaders, and
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when I heard Danielle talk about her work at USC, she was absolutely in
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love with what she was doing. I mean, she was on fire,
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and I thought, yes, I'd love to work with this young woman who
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is truly passionate about her work. So it was a perfect match. Now,
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I'm also a USC alum, which made it even sweeter for all the
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USC folks out there like me fight on right now. As I said,
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USC is very lucky to have Danielle, and there she works in alum my
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relations, leading a diverse team of professionals. She and her staff are responsible
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for engaging all alumni lifelong and worldwide through a vast array of programs, services,
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and events. Worldwide. Her team is responsible two and four about five
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hundred thousand people in terms of providing them with an incredible ray of different programs,
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services, and events, including the USC's Women's Conference, the Reunion Weekend,
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and Alumni Leadership Conference. And knowing Danielle, it's a lot more than
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that. Danielle and her team are also responsible for the LGBTQ Alumni Association,
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Industry and affinity networks and generational groups, and she will tell us more about
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that during my conversation with her. As I and just a few moments ago,
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Danielle is positively on fire and she is committed to making an impact on
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the world, and in particular making an impact to empower women leaders to transform
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their world. When you hear her story, you will learn why she's so
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passionate about making a difference, about making an impact on the world in this
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particular way. Now. When I met Danielle, I was struck by her
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enthusiasm and by her passion, but these are just a couple of her many
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wonderful qualities. We are truly blessed and honored to have her as one of
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our guests on this show now. Danielle has worked at USC for a little
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over fifteen years, and her passion for teaching and lifelong learning show up in
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her work on a daily basis. And she has impacted so many professionals in
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terms of recruiting, onboarding, coaching, and mentoring. And like I said,
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she's actually one of my mentors as well. Danielle earned her bachelor's degree
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in education from USC's Rossier School of Education and an executive master's degree in leadership
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from USC's Price School of Public Policy. Danielle says that, among others,
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her mom has had an enormous impact on her life and has shaped her vision
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for her work. During my conversation with her, you will hear more about
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her story. You will also hear about some of the people and moments that
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have shaped and formed Danielle as a person of influence. People in moments who
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have shaped and formed her as a leader, all with a particular focus of
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serving other leaders in many ways. In her outlook on life, and in
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her work, Danielle pulls together the many threads of what my own life and
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work are all about. Now you've heard me talk about these threads and themes
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on this show, the themes of gratitude, authenticity, vulnerability, generosity,
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strength, passion, presence, hope, and possibility. I just love it.
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Two women, Danielle and me, from pretty different backgrounds, very different
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in age and lifestyles, yet we share so many common threads. Can I
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just tell you something? Danielle and I had a fabulous conversation and I'm so
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excited to have this amazing leader with us today. This is going to be
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a marvelous podcast. You don't want to miss a single word, So put
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on your walking shoes, grab your earbuds, or simply relax in your favorite
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chair, grab yourself a cup of coffee or tea, or a nice cool
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glass of water. You are going to want to take notes today. We're
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gonna have a great time. Okay. Now, before I jump into today's
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episode, I want to take just a moment to welcome you. If you're
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just joining us, I'm your host, Doctor Gloria, and this is Legacy
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Living. Make your life count. I'd also like to extend a special welcome
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to those of you who are joining my show, or if you're joining Talk
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network radio for the very first time, let me tell you you are in
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for a real treat. I'm excited to have you listening today, and I'm
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deeply honored that you've allowed me to be part of your day so you can
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be inspired by ideas and resources to make your life count. Today's episode is
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all about work life balance, a very important topic as you develop your own
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identity as a leader. Good morning, Danielle. How are you doing today?
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Hi, Gloria, I'm doing well. Thank you so much for having
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me. Oh, it's such an honor and a blessing to have you on
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the call today. Danielle. I know that my listeners can't wait to hear
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what you have to share with us, So welcome and again, thank you
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for joining me. Thank you. I am looking forward to today's conversation.
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Right, so, Danielle, let's begin if you would just say a little
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bit about yourself, you know, kind of tell us about you your journey
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to you know, where you are today, and the kinds of things that
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you do in your current work. Okay, sure, So I am currently
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the assistant vice president for Alumni Relations at the University of Southern California, and
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I have been working here for over thirteen years now, and you mentioned my
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journey. I actually started no Shame in my game as the assistant to the
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assistant of the head of the alumni Association, and it was a funny thing
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that happened on the way to the coliseum. Literally that I can I can
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share with you. But just going into what I do on a daily basis,
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I am responsible for alumni engagement around the world and with our various alumni
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constituents. So we have over four hundred thousand alumni that are living around the
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world, as I mentioned, and my task, along with several members of
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my staff, is to break that number down and to engage alumni on a
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personal level. So we will look at everything from how do alumni work,
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to where do they live, what are some of their personal interests, and
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then we'll build programs around those things. So there are alumni clubs of New
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York. There's an industry network based around real estate. We have professional network
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for women. You name it, there's probably an alumni program for it,
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and hopefully that speaks to those alumni. So I have a very creative job.
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In short, if you, if we would just want to boil it
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down, I get to be creative and you know, work with really amazing
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people. Well, it sounds like this is like the perfect job for you,
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Danielle. You and I have known each other or oh my going on
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seven or eight years now, and I know that you know, it's becoming
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very very rare for people like you, professionals to stay within an organization for
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you know, even more than three or four or five years, and you've
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been there for almost fourteen years now at USC. Can you tell us about
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a little bit more about that no shame in your game thing, you know,
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your path at USC, and why you stayed there longer than longer than
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the norm. Absolutely so too, I'll start with your last question first.
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So I've stayed at USC probably more than anything because no two days has been
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the same. And when you're a creative person like I believe myself to be,
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you know, you need that. I need that, I need that
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creative outlet I need to be, you know, thinking of things differently in
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new ways and how can we do things better? But to start at the
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beginning, as I was moving through my professional track, here. I I'm
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very inquisitive. I think it's the best way to say it. I'm inquisitive
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by nature. So when I was the assistant to the assistant, that means
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I got loaned out to the entire staff. It was hey, you go
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make these copies, or hey you we need you to answer the phone,
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or you know, Greek guest at the front desk. And I recognize my
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position in the organization. I was here to be a support and assist any
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and everyone who needed it, and by doing so, I actually learned a
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lot about our organization, about usc in things that I didn't even know as
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a student. I'm also an alum, which makes the job easier sometimes.
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But I'm also an alum, so I already had an eleve and an affinity
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for the university. But I got to discover people and programs and things that
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I had no clue about as a student. So when I became the assistant
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to the assistant, and as I described, you know, worked with everyone
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and for everyone. You know, I just went about my business in a
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way that allowed me to really discover, Wow, this is a bona fide
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profession. And not only is it something that I'm interested in doing. It's
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also something that I happened to be good at doing, and I would say
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that I probably would conclude that based on all of my other previous jobs.
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So I've worked at a museum, i was a docent. I've worked for
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a law firm. I was a file clerk. I've worked at a major
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hotel and was the night manager responsible for all of the night processes as well
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as all of the guest services. So all of those things combined allowed me
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to wear a lot of different hats and pivot when I need to pivot.
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So sometimes I get to manage the front desk and other times I'm simply standing
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there making copies and folding and stuffing envelopes. So, you know, being
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able to go from one task to the other has allowed me to be successful
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in those early years. To add to that quickly, I don't want to
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speak too long on this one question, but like most young professionals, I
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was a decade and a half younger than I am now when I first started.
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But I did look for other opportunities. I was saying, Okay,
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I think I've done everything I came here to do. I've learned everything I
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can learn, you know, I want to go and look for other opportunities,
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and strangely enough, those opportunities ended up being here. So I don't
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know if it's because I've put it out into the universe or if you know,
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I continue to just make myself indispensable. You know, my bosses,
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my supervisors would say, hey, Danielle's done all of this, and she
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seems to be, you know, successful, Let's add something else and let's
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provide another opportunity for her. So I've been very fortunate in that I've had
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an organization that have allowed me to grow up and progress and has progressed with
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me. So I think that's rare and a lot of organizations, but the
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fact that I've been able to do it here, I count it as a
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blessing. Well, you know you, I think you're the trajectory of your
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path there at USC Danielle. It's very inspiring and thank you for sharing,
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because a lot of people they kind of scratch their heads. They look at
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somebody like you and they go like, how did she do that? You
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know, like what kinds of steps do you have to take to get there?
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And you kind of told us you unpacked the deck a little bit for
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us so I really appreciate it, and it's very inspiring to hear to hear
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about your journey. So I know you described yourself as very creative and you're
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curious. You you like discovering new things. You're a learner, right,
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and so I would love for you to share with our listeners some of the
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key lessons me, you know, maybe like two or three lessons that you've
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learned through your journey at your time for your time at USC and also if
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you could share with us, like, you know, what are your biggest
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challenges as well, or I'm going to start with actually one of the lessons
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that I learned just growing up in my household, something that my mother told
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me that her father told her, and I don't know where he got it,
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but it's definitely something that now I even hear my children saying, anything
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worth doing is worth doing well. And whatever your job may be, if
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you're the one making the copies, you be the best copy maker you can
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be. If you're the one getting the coffee, you make that the best
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pot of coffee anyone's ever had in their lives. And you know, it
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sounds funny to say it, but I think there really is something to be
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said, and to make the point what I always share with my staff,
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or with young professionals or with students that I may be mentoring, you're always
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interviewing, even when you're not interviewing. And what I mean by that is
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people are going to observe you and the way that you go about your business
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and the way that you go about your work. Are you going into your
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work with passion? Are you approaching your work with care and thoughtfulness? I
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think that is something that people observe even when they're not paying attention. And
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as now somebody who isn't a super supervisor role, I now supervise other staff
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members. I can definitely notice that even if I don't check in with a
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particular staff member, you know, on a day to day basis, or
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I haven't checked in with them for a couple of weeks, I can tell
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when someone's sowing it in and when someone's really going about their work in a
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way that shows they care. So to speak to the challenges. I think
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another thing that I sort of live by day to day is never be satisfied
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with just good enough. And and I'll say that in a way, yes,
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sometimes we do just need to get it done, and I have a
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I have a short list of things. Okay, we've just got to do
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it, and you know, this is as good as it's gonna get.
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But after I've done something as big as you know, let's say, a
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reunion program or a women's conference or any of our big programs, immediately following
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and sometimes even the week of, I'll start thinking about, Okay, if
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where we are is is the best that we can do, what does next
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year's look like, or what does it look like the next time? What
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could we have done better? For the things that are outstanding, how can
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we replicate that or make it scalable so that we're not stressing ourselves unnecessarily.
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So that is something that I think again attaches itself to that first thing,
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which is if you're going to do something, do the best. And then
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if you did do something, take take pause and see how can we how
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can we do it better? How can we continue to get better? And
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that goes to the lifelong learning in me being a dedicated to always learning,
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you know, sort of mantra that I that I live by. And yeah,
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and then we just keep challenging ourselves. I feel like every single day
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that we wake up and open our eyes and have breath in our bodies.
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We're here to be a little bit better than we were before. And it's
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kind of like how our start my day, Like what's the day? Because
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like so those are like my three big ones and they're all related to one.
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Absolutely, you sound like you could have grown up in my household.
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I'm just if you say that, I know, And I was also thinking
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about I'm not even a football person, but yesterday the Seahawks, our local
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team here, just like blew it off the charts. And I only mention
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it because you talk about the challenge your particular things is never be satisfied with
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just being good enough. And Pete Carroll used to be the football coach at
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USC and he's now up here, and I'm just thinking, like, that's
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how he coached the team there, That's how he coaches the Seahawks, like
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never be satisfied, never be satisfied, and always look for those possibilities.
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So yeah, all right, So can you tell us a little bit,
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Danielle about your experiences and specifically what you do to educate and empower your staff.
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I mean, you have people reporting to you you haven't always had that,
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so you know, how do you do that? And maybe who did
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you learn from? Who influenced you? Yeah, you know, that is
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a great question. So just a little bit of a background I did not
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share, which is if it's not a parent to everyone. Now, my
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major was education, so it's not an accident that I am so committed and
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love the thought of lifelong learning. Every day we can get better, there's
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always something new to learn, and so I actually take the approach with my
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staff as how can we make this a teachable moment or what are we learning
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about ourselves, about our programs, what are we learning about the work that
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we're doing, and how can we apply that again to be better, to
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do better, to grow more, to progress. So, even in the
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times where we don't always do everything perfect right, because lest I TechEd,
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everybody's still human, you know, those of us who are on earth.
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So when we do get to those moments of hey, we did not hit
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our target or we totally missed the mark on that, instead of hey,
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let me come down on you and make you feel terrible about something that you
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probably are already making yourselves still terribles out again, let's unpack and let's look
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at what can we do differently, what did we learn about that, and
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how can we just use this to empower us to move forward. So it's
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so important to me because I've had terrible bosses. Not here at USC it's
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a wonderful university, but I've had terrible bosses in the past where instead of
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helping their bath members, you know, figure things out or to be successful,
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they were always finding thoughts this is wrong, that's wrong, you didn't
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do that right, you should have did this, and blah blah blah blah,
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but not really giving concrete information about how to be better in the in
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the future or how to be successful at that particular thing in the future.
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So I know, like I said, how that feels and how it just
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makes me want to you know, it made me at those times just want
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to throw my hands up or hey, you know what I'll take I'll take
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my my toy go elsewhere. So when I work with my staff, it
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is important for me to allow them to sail with grace, you know,
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you know, and and again then move forward. So that that's really important
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to me. Thank you and Danielle you mentioned but you had some some really
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good mentors as well. Can you tell us perhaps about one or to people
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who really influenced you. Yeah, I'll last you the next question after you
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answer this one. And my head's just kind of spinning because I'm loving talking
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with you. Oh my gosh. Yes, you know, you and I
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talk about this. I you and I can talk for hours, and I'll
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try I'll try to give some concrete answers and a short amount of time without
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going on and on like I'm doing right now. Uh. Some my mentors
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not to better up the host, but Gloria, I definitely count you as
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one of those women's leaders and confidants who I've been able to call and talk
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things out. And for my mentors that I've had over my lifetime, and
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there has been many some that I have been mentored by and they didn't know
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it, and then others that I've had, you know, a mentor relationship
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with formally, but to speak to our relationship and how we've come into each
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other's lives, I always say, you came into my life at the right
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time, and you helped me with our women's conference program, which I believe
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we'll talk about a little bit later. But since then, you've always been
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someone that I could call and say I have this idea and because of the
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trust, and this is unspoken, because of the trust, because of our
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openness, and because of our transparency and our ability to be vulnerable with one
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another. I just want to lay some things that are in my heart out
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to you. And you've been very recepted to that. And I think as
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mentors, just globally taking this back for a second, that's what mentors are.
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Really. That's when they're useful, right, Like we know about the
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professional mentors, Hey, mentor John Smith. Help me get this internship,
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or help me get this job, or help me with this interview. That's
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all great if those are needed. But those mentors where you can just be
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there and vulnerable and open and in a safe space, those are the ones
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that are really near and dear to my heart, which is why I always
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love talking to you. And I hope that others are able to find those
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mentors because they're just as important as those other tactical mentors that you need to
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get your jobs and get your promotions and get your your references and all those
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sorts of things. Absolutely, and you know, I really appreciate you sharing
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that, Danielle. You know so many people and women in particular, they
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kind of struggle sometimes with finding mentors. And I think you've just spoken to
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mentors are not created to do everything for you, and so we need different
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mentors and different arenas of our of our work life, professional and personal life.
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Yeah, so thank you, Yes, and yeah, I want to
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shift a conversation a little bit and talk a little bit about work life balance.
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For first of all, I know that there's been a really big push
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about work life balance in the last probably twenty years or so, maybe even
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more than that. I remember talking about work life balance when I was still
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back in high tech and that's been Mercy about twenty five years ago. And
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I was wondering, Danielle, if you could tell us what work life balance
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means to you, because it means different things to different people, and then
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just share a little bit with us about you know, do you feel balanced
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in your own work life situation and how do you achieve that balance? Absolutely,
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so, this is it's one that I always giggles. I won't say
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laugh at, but it makes me giggle to hear work life balance. I
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actually had someone recently in an interview asked me, well, what's the work
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life balance like here at your organization, and for me it's personal to everyone,
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So as an organization, I can answer that question. So work life
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balance that is a matter of you, yourself, the staff member or employee,
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being able to say, based on what is needed to get the job
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done and the time that I have to do it, I will be able
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to do my job within this time period and then go and do my life
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in this time period. And I think everyone balances it differently, so again
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full disclosure. I am the a VP, as I mentioned, so I
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have about fifteen different staff members here that I'm responsible for checking in on,
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working with, and supporting. On top of that, I also have my
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own programs that I'm specifically responsible for managing and leading. So that's a full
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professional plate. And if I allowed myself, I would be here eighteen,
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sometimes of twenty hours a day in any given week. That doesn't always happen
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maybe once or twice outside of that. I am married, I have three
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children, and I also have three stepchildren who I am responsible for loving and
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nurturing and supporting. So my life is completely fool not to mention my extended
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family that relies on me. Brothers, sister, mother, you know,
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all those all those wonderful people in things that are in our lives that we
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hold dear and feel responsible for. In two, so I'm saying that to
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say it is really Danielle's responsibility to look at what does she get paid to
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do and is important for her to get done so that she is successful,
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her staff is successful in USC feels they're getting what they need from me and
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us, and then I also need to assure myself and work with my family
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to give them what they also need, and that's my responsibility. I don't
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think that's the responsibility of my company unless my company is saying I don't care
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what you have to do. I need to hear at these times, even
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if it conflicts with what's going on here outside life, and at very rare
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in today's age that that happens. I've never been told that I can't go
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be somewhere for my children, for my husband, for my family. So
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anyway, I think I'm getting a little bit off. But I just want
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to say that balance one is personal. In two, it's really up to
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us to determine when and where things take place. Some days or weeks,
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the balance may tip in favor of your professional life and on some days and
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weeks things may align so that you were attending to all those things outside of
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your professional life. So that's just my take on it, and I'd love
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to hear your opinion on this as well. As you said you started hearing
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about it over twenty five years ago. What were some of the challenges that
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you faced, Gloria, I know that you were also family in marriage and
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in personal lives and professional life. Well, I love your response then,
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you know, so thank you for sharing sharing it with us. That it's
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very personal and that you have to take responsibility. I know a lot of
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you know, a lot of individuals that I've talked to over the years about
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work life balance. Some people think that it's the responsibility of the organization to
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provide that work life balance for them, and I'm I'm you know, I'm
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more in your camp. You know, I really believe that our professional lives
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is our responsibility, not our companies, not our organizations, and that goes
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for work life balance. For me, I think I take a page out
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of a friend of mine. She's actually from a little tiny country in Africa
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called Burkina Faso, and in her culture, she says glorious, She says,
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I don't get it. She said, you know, every time I
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come to the US, we talk about balance, and it's always like fifty
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fifth, she said. In my country, it's balance is what's needed today.
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You know, that's needed like right here, right now. And I
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love that because you know, in different seasons of our life, we have
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different obligations, different responsibilities, they're different calls, uh, And I'm going
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to save in demands on our life, both in our personal life as well
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as professional and so balance is really not something that's static. It's very dynamic.
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And like you're saying right now, Daniel, your responsibilities, I mean
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you're I couldn't when you said you're responsible for like four hundred thousand people,
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I'm going, like, what you know, that's that's a lot of people.
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That's a lot of people, right and you have fifteen staff that you
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you know, and and at some point in your life along the way,
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you didn't have that scope of responsibility, So your work life balance is probably
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different. You know, your children weren't in the life stage that they're in
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now. So for me, it's really about what's eat it right now,
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right here, right now, at this particular moment and in the season of
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my personal and professional life. Yeah, I completely agree. Yeah, I
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love that what's needed right now? I mean I say, all the time,
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life happens when we're busy making plans and I want to do Listen,
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Yeah, so hey, I'm gonna do these ten things today, and then
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life will say, Nope, no, you're not emergency call. You gotta
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get down to your kids school or you know, emergency call. Husband's car
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is on a flat and now you've got to help him get that situated.
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So yeah, it's it's nice that people think it's fifty fifty. Congratulations to
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anyone who is able to get and get to entertain and maintain that fifty fifty.
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But I think, as I someone else has told me over the years,
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you know, live long enough and you'll start to see a whole nother
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side. So absolutely, absolutely. Oh my great conversation. Thanks again to
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Danielle Harvey Stenson for being my very special guest. Now, if you'd like
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to learn more about Danielle's work, or, as she mentioned during today's conversation,
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if you want to contact her directly about programming and services that she offers
36:22
through USC, you can reach out to Danielle via email at this address that's
36:28
Harvey d h A r v e y d as in Danielle at EU SC
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dot e d U Harvey d at USC dot edu. Or you can reach
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out to her on Instagram or Twitter, and on Twitter, I'm going to
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spell out her handle, it's at d A n I E l i z
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as in zebra A Harvey at d A n I E l I z A
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Harvey h A r v e y. If you missed any part of this
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week's episode about work life balance, you can listen to it right here on
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Talk Network Radio. You can also catch us on iTunes or Android, Alexa,
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SoundCloud, and so many other places. Before I close today's show,
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I want to give a shout out to women around the world and to my
37:36
mom. Yay, love you Mom. When Danielle mentioned her mom as one
37:42
of the women leaders who influenced her, you know what, I was thinking
37:45
the very same thing, as I know many of you were too. I
37:51
actually ask this question to a lot of people now. If I'm presenting at
37:55
a workshop for young leaders, as I just recently did, or as I
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have coming up because I'm always speaking right, one of the questions I ask
38:06
is who inspired you? Who inspired you when you were a young girl or
38:12
a young boy, Who did you look up to? Who did you admire
38:16
and why? It seems like no matter where I am in the world,
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the response to that question is pretty much the same. Right, who inspired
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you? Who influenced you? This is what I hear my mom or my
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dad, or my grandma or my grandpa. It is truly amazing how much
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impact we have as leaders in our own home with our own children. So,
38:45
moms and dads, even when it seems like you're a daughter or your
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son isn't paying any attention at all, can I just tell you something.
38:52
They are. They are listening, they are soaking it in, and more
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than anything else, they are watching you. So let me be really clear.
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They are scoping you out right. They're observing everything you say and do.
39:13
Most importantly, they are watching you to see of what you say and
39:16
what you do line up. Our actions really do speak much louder than words.
39:23
A good friend of mine, who is a former CEO of a very
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large company, also says, as a parent, as a leader, in
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any context, your walk has got to talk louder than your talk talks.
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I love that let me repeat it. She says, your walk has got
39:44
to talk louder than your talk talks. Why is that? Because that's how
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we build the bridge called trust. That's how we strengthen our bond with those
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we love. That's how we deep in our relationships one step, one step
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at a time, inch by inch, mile by mile, and smile by
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smile at home, at work, and in any area of our lives,
40:13
every single day. Three sixty five twenty four seven. So let me ask
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you this, How is your walk lining up with your talk? You know
40:22
what? It is never too late to get your walk and your talk lined
40:28
up, to get your act together, so to speak, right, so
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you can take it on the road and make the difference in someone's life that
40:36
only you can make. Remember this, how you live is how you lead.
40:45
How you live is how you lead. Now, if you happen to
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miss any part of this week's episode, or if you miss last week's,
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You can also catch us on iTunes, Audible, Alexa, SoundCloud,
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41:37
to one of my ted Talks. Just type in my name to find me
41:42
there. Before I close today, I want to thank each of you for
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tuning in to today's episode, for allowing me to share a bit about my
41:52
journey with what legacy living is all about, not just living and learning,
41:58
but living and learning and serving so that you make a difference in your own
42:04
life and in the lives of others. It's about being on purpose every single
42:10
day. Three sixty five twenty four seven. Legacy living is a powerful way
42:19
to make your life count. Once again, I want to thank you for
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joining me for today's episode. I'm your host, doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess,
42:34
and this has been Legacy Living, Make your Life Count. Please join me
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Network Radio. Don't just count the days in your life. Make the days
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in your life count. That's what legacy living is all about. Have a
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fantastic day and remember, make the days in your life count. God bless
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you. That's our show to day. I'm your host, doctor Gloria Gloria
43:35
Burgess. I hope you'll join me again next time. Until then, don't
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just count the days in your life. Make the days in your life count.
43:46
That's what legacy living is all about. Here's to you have a fantastic
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day and be sure to make it a yes kind of day. Remember to
43:58
celebrate the music usick of your life. Make the days in your life count