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What's The Word That Narcissists Hate The Most? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful folks, beautiful
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  people, beautiful people. I'm back to beautiful people.
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  Today we're going to be talking about the narcissist most hated
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  word, the worst word in the dictionary.
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  The narcissist absolutely hate to hear.
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  Like if excuse me, if most narcissist or a lot of
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  narcissistic people heard this word then they will lose their
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  damn minds. Like you might see them switch
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  it up and like this is actually yeah, this is actually the word
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  that you can use to spot narcissists faster.
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  You want to know what that word is?
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  Yes, yes. Go ahead and put the word in the
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  comment section right now. It should have took you the
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  longest 2 letters. It's the word no, the word no
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  y'all. Using the word no will
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  absolutely teach you more about people than you would ever
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  realize. Like no, no, it's 2 letters, but
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  it's so damn powerful. The word yeah, I'm just telling
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  you the word no is absolutely just it it, it positively will
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  help out the narcissistic person in your life.
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  It absolutely will like narcissist, toxic people,
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  whomever you're dealing with. Hate to hear this word.
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  Well, well, Lee, why? I don't think anybody likes
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  hearing the word no. What?
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  What? What makes narcissists hate the
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  word even more? Because when you say the word no
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  to a narcissist, it makes them feel like a bad person.
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  It makes them feel like a bad person.
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  It's typically very black and white thinking.
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  Y'all, It's very black and white thinking.
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  It's just like I'm either all good or all bad.
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  And if you use the word no on me, then I feel like I'm all
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  bad. Like really.
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  Like if you say the word no to me, I feel like a bad person.
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  Like I feel like I'm I, it brings.
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  So the word no opens the door to so much shame, right?
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  The word no opens the door for narcissists to feel an
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  unbelievable amount of shame and they don't want to deal with it
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  because it makes them feel like a bad person.
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  So This is why a lot of times you, if you use the word no when
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  you getting to know someone, typically they're going to have
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  a visceral reaction. Not all the time.
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  I said typically, not all the time, but sometimes they will.
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  A lot of times they will have a very visceral reaction.
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  If you say, hey, no, I don't want to do that.
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  They will try to talk you into it or they'll get angry.
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  This is why. All right, y'all rant bubble.
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  Y'all knew one was coming. I knew that.
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  Y'all feel that. Y'all feel they're coming to
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  you. This is why it's very difficult
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  to navigate the world and navigate toxic relationship
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  dynamics and getting out of them faster.
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  If you have problems standing up for yourself and using the word
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  no, because if you allow them back into your life, they'll
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  just keep coming back into your life over and over and over
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  again. This is the type of stuff that
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  will just keep happening. Well, Lee, I don't know.
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  Why does it keep happening, y'all?
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  Because they think it's OK if you don't use the word no.
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  They automatically think it's OK if you say no at first and then
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  you take. If you change your mind, it's
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  the same feeling. Why did you change your mind?
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  You must be OK with it. If you said, if you said, if you
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  said yes, you must be OK with it, right?
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  Because why would you change your mind?
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  Like if you were not OK with it, you didn't have to say yes.
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  You have to say no. You have to be able to use this
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  word. Put this word in your arsenal.
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  If you have to go look into the mirror and just say the word no
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  100 times just to make it feel more comfortable, go do that.
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  Go literally look at the mirror and say no, no, no, no or any
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  type of variations. No, I don't want to do that.
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  No, I don't. I would prefer not to.
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  No, that makes me uncomfortable. No, I don't really like that.
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  Just say no. I'm telling you of course use
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  discretion and make sure you're in a safe place because some
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  narcissistic people will absolutely erupt when you tell
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  them, when you tell when you say no to them, they will absolutely
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  erupt. Lose they use they damn mind
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  just go crazy because you said the word no to them.
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  Lose it. They will lose it because you
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  said no absolutely lose their minds like you can't understand
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  what the hell you going through, what the hell you experiencing.
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  They will lose it. They hate the word no, hate it
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  with a raw seething passion. I just tell you because it
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  brings so much shame. It opens the door up for them to
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  feel bad about something and you want narcissistic people to not
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  feel good around you like you want to get a narcissist to
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  leave you alone. Make sure that that make sure
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  that they don't feel good around you.
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  Make sure that your, your area, your space, your, your general
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  vicinity is not a comfort zone, right?
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  It's not a comfort zone for them.
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  Because if it's a, if it's a comfort zone, then they'll just
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  keep doing the same things over and over and over and over again
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  because it's a comfort zone. If it is a comfort zone for
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  them, they'll keep doing it over and over again.
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  If there's, if it's not a comfort zone, then they'll
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  typically leave you alone or they'll keep trying to apply
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  pressure until you switch it up, right?
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  They don't take, they don't hate.
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  They hate taking no for an answer.
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  And then if they finally flip it into a yes, they'll make you pay
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  later on for saying no to them originally.
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  If it's something that you don't want to do, don't do it.
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  Yeah. And then I tell people, just
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  like you have to fight, like in the beginning when you're just
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  getting to know someone, I know it feels great.
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  I know it feels good. Saying yes to everything,
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  getting swept the ball for your feet and all of this stuff out
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  of these things like that. Right, but find a way to say no
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  so you can actually learn who you're dealing with.
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  Because you don't really know people until you said the word
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  no to them, until you've seen them angry, until you live with
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  them, until you had a share finances with them, until you
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  had kids. But you don't really know
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  people, right? Use the word no.
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  It helps you out people faster. And another reason narcissists
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  hate the word no because they feel like it's rejection.
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  They feel like it's a rejection to their systems.
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  They feel like you are rejecting them and hurting them and doing
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  damage to them. So they're going to, they hate
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  that right there. Rejection can breed obsession.
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  Now, rejection, rejecting them and say no to them could make
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  them disappear, right? They could go away for good and
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  you never hear from them again. But on the other side of things,
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  if you say no to them, they could absolutely turn that no
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  around and and become obsessed with you because you they become
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  obsessed because you rejected them.
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  They feel like, well, I'm not good.
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  I guess I'm not good enough for you then.
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  I don't know what I did wrong. I don't know why you don't.
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  I don't know why I'm not good enough for you anymore.
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  I just thought things. I thought things between us were
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  going pretty good. But I guess not, right?
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  I guess things are not going as good as I thought they were,
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  huh? I guess we're not.
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  I guess we're not as connected as I thought we were, huh?
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  This is, this sucks, man. For real.
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  This really does suck. And then if they become obsessed
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  with you, they can get very dangerous, right?
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  That's what I say use discretion.
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  Make sure you're in a safe place, make sure you're able to
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  be as safe, safe away from this person as possible.
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  Because if you say no to them, they could absolutely become
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  obsessed with you because they, they, they want to know why.
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  Why did you say no? Why am I not good enough?
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  They start feeling not good enough.
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  They start feeling like bad people.
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  They start feeling worthless. They start feeling less than and
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  a lot of times, yeah, you want them to feel that because they
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  are worthless, they are less than you if they, especially if
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  they're being abusive or they have plans of being abusive to
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  you in the future. Hell yeah.
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  Right. You mean hell yeah?
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  Ha. Hell yeah.
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  Ha. That's good for topic Thunder,
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  but you want them to feel less than again, because if your area
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  around you is their comfort zone, then it'd be very hard
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  pressed to get them to leave you alone.
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  It just will. And I know some people out there
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  don't want them to leave you alone, right?
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  Some people just like, well, you mean I, I, I just don't want,
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  right? I just don't want them to look.
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  I don't, I want them to come back, right?
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  You want them to come back so you, you won't listen to what
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  I'm saying right now and you'll try to say yes to everything
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  because you want them to come back.
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  If you're wanting your narcissistic partner to come
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  back, you mean protect. If you want them to come back,
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  it's time to take a deeper look within yourself.
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  It's time to take a deeper look within you and what's going on
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  with you mentally. It just is.
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  Like seriously, it's time for you to take a deeper look within
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  yourself and ask yourself some deep and penetrating questions.
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  What's going on with me? Why do I feel this way?
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  Why do I feel like I need this person into my life?
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  You see what I'm saying? Why?
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  Why do I want this person back even though they've hurt me,
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  even though they've harmed me, even though they've put me
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  through hell? Why am I entertaining this
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  person again? Why do I want them back in my
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  life in any way, shape or form? Why do I need them back?
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  Why do I feel like I need them back?
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  Why, why, why? These are important questions
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  that you have to ask yourself in in this space right here.
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  You know, this is this is this is extremely important.
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  Ask yourself if you, if you're wanting them back even though
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  they've abused you, It's time to take a deeper look within
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  yourself. It really, really is.
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  It really absolutely is because you can't control them.
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  The only thing you can control is you, right?
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  The only thing that you can control when you're in a toxic
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  relationship dynamic or any anywhere in the world pretty
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  much is you. You can, you have control over
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  you. You have autonomy over you most
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  cases, right? Because some places, you know
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  you, it's about to get very, it's about to get very unique in
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  some places. the United States vote the word autonomy.
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  When the word autonomy comes up, it's going to be very unique in
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  some of these places, right? But this is how it goes.
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  Like seriously, this is what you're going to face.
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  You have to get used to saying this word, being strong and just
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  being yeah, you got to be firm, but you got to have a firm.
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  No, that no got to be firm is about to say firm as FI don't
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  feel like cussing in the video. That's already I didn't guess in
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  that video. I haven't cussed yet.
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  Maybe I have. I don't remember.
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  But you still have to be firm. You have to be firm with your
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  note. You have to be immovable with
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  the word no. Narcissists hate it.
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  They hate the word no a lot of times.
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  Lee, why did they? Why did they discard me and go
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  find a new supply? Because you said no, you said
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  no. They will discard you for saying
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  no a lot. Again, not every single time,
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  but they will discard you for saying no.
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  And if you, if they don't discard you, they will hold it
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  against you for saying the word no, right?
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  They will absolutely hold it against you if you say no to
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  them, if you say no to them in the in the beginning, if you
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  rejected them in the in the beginning, if you made them feel
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  bad in the beginning, they will absolutely say, they will
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  absolutely hold it against you if you said no to them back in
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  school, like years and years ago.
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  If you rejected them in high school, you said they wanted to
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  date you, you said no, and somehow you ended up dating them
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  in your adulthood. Guess what happens?
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  Guess what happens? They will hold that against you.
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  They will use that against you. They will weaponize that against
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  you. This is what goes on in the mind
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  of a narcissistic person. They will absolutely use it
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  against you, weaponize it against you, and just treat you
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  horribly. Yeah, that's why you're saying
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  like, I want y'all to heal. I want y'all to be the best
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  versions of yourself. I want y'all to just enjoy life
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  relationship or you're trying to leave one, I do want y'all to
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  empower yourselves to keep moving forward, right?
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  It really, it really, really is. So as you, as you, as you keep
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  going forward on your healing and growth journey, just
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  remember, use the word no. Add the word no to your arsenal.
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  Say no. Find a different variation for
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  it. Use it.
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  Yeah, use it in a different language.
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  Use what I'm saying. Use it in a different language
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