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BBNIC S3 Episode 29 - Dating with a disability · Blind But Now I See

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Back at it for another episode. This is the Blob now see podcast.
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Voice is going, that's that dog hole of your ship. But that's a
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different story. I am your host. FOBC No the Hood, Ray,
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Charles Block, Poppy, if you nasty, the Voice of the disabls,
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Blind Lightning, And it's ain't it's saying you're not a guest, You're a
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host. Good host today you got woof in the studio locked in. You
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gotta got introduce yourself. I need to now. I'm Frenchy also known as
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hot Wheels. You can follow me on a gram at how Wol's for real
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and I'm also like part owner of really good show. Y'all might have seen
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you on from the throne. But yes, talk that talk. More to
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come, more to come. This episode took. I ain't gonna like,
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oh yeah, to get done. Boy, finally got it done. The
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best time the door is Valentine's Day. This is a Valentine's Day special.
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We ain't closing our eyes. We ain't doing that. We don't got nothing,
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ain't no story for the doctor trying to up lift this episode. My
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last is too big anyway, So this episode we're gonna talk about this day
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in disabled. How you feel about dating disabled? I feel like it's pretty
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I mean, I feel like, honestly, more guys. I mean,
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I've always had guys try to talk to me whether I'm walking or rolling,
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and then like, you know, we wasn't born in this position, you
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know what I mean, So you know what it's like from before, and
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you know what it's like now. I feel like more guys try to tolst
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to me now because it's just like a like a like, oh I wonder
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what she can Yeah, like a fetish. I feel like it's like a
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fantasy, like a fetish a lot of guys, you know, and then
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a lot of guys see me then they like, oh, she's so strong.
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So people are attracted to shrimp too, you know, like oh you're
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still able to do this. A lot of people that try to toast me
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like yo, you inspire me and stuff like that, and I'll be like
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oh really, like I'm just living my life, like shit, don't stop
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me. Do you feel like it's hard day disabled up? Because I feel
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like it's I feel like it depends on who the people you're doing, because
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you always need to get the ignorant people like the people that don't understand,
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like I have a lot of guys, the first thing they want to know
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was, like, you know, because I'm in a chair, your situation
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is different because you can you just can't see. So everybody know I'm in
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a chair, So the first thing you want to know is can you fuck?
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Like can you feel yours? And I'm just like, it's different levels
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of different injuries. But like I said on the other podcast, yes I
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can so yeah, but not yeah. But people still ask them questions.
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They ask the questions they want to know. I hope that they can just
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watch the podcast and never ask me again. But those are the questions,
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and that's why I gotta do that. Yes, I'm in a wheelchair.
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Of course people ask me. I'm videos too. You have to because that's
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what people like. People just really say the most dumbest ship and I'll be
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like, do your does your brain work? Like it's are you you got
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shot? You blind? You still have sex? I'm like, what,
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like you think about it? And half the time, niggas don't even be
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fucking in a light time anyway. Everybody be in the dark light. Everybody's
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dark anyway. You gotta just put that thing in the fuck. But it's
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hard. I don't know, it's hard for me to trust people. Wow,
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because you because I'm blind. What I mean, that's the perfect way
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of you feel like it could cheat in your face and I wouldn't never know.
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So it's just really I mean, but people put your phone one.
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That's the thing. Cheat whether you able body, not disabled or not.
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So it don't matter whether anything period. Now motherfuckers, what you mean?
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They don't got a sneak. I'm blind, So you could text a nigga
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and all that. You could take a picture of your titties send it's a
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nigga right then and there. I wouldn't never know what's going on. But
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that's but that's because the stuff you did in your past. That's the only
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reason if a man is to anything, Ladies, if a man is doubting
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you, it's because he's done something. Because just because you blind on me,
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you don't cheat. I don't cheat. Have you cheated while blind?
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Being blind? You? I never cheat? It you are? You're laughing
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your ass up. You're just trying to say face whatever relationship or not,
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I'm saying, so you've never cheated. I never cheated. How long have
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you been blind twelve years and you've never y'all. I'm gonna tell you why
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I never cheated it right First, the first relationship I had being blind,
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I just went through my trauma. I wasn't thinking about cheating. I was
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still trying to figure with her before the person. Were you with her before?
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The nob wasn't with each other before? But we still had relations before.
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You had relations before, but y'all got serious after. Yeah, okay,
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So how that mean you don't cheat? Because because you can't see,
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you don't cheat. Charles was getting it in. It's like when I got
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shot trauma, I was wildent trying to figure out who I was. I
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wasn't thinking about no females. You was just worried about I was worried about
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how like I'm going to see it again. So it's like maybe if I
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if I was in like years down the line, like who I am today
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type, then yeah maybe, But well I can't even say that today because
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I'm a different person now. I just want one more person. I'm in
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the clubs, I get tied to different females. So you've never flirted with
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other girls? Oh? Yeah? Did that? That's not you opening the
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doors for someone to think that they could possibly get up with you when you're
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in a relationship, that's she cheating at means when you stick it in,
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that's the only way you change. So your girlfriend is allowed to flirt.
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Everybody flirt? Everybody do, but everybody flirt? Is she in? You're
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like, yo, how about you pay for that cab? Oh? You
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an extra food? How did you get that? You flirted? That's not
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flirting? Oh my god, why it's not. That's not flirt. Why
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it's not you say, if somebody gets a free cab, it's flirting.
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Men do things for women just for nothing, just because they might want something
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from you. They might. And if I'm a woman and I'm going to
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use my privilege of being a woman to get free things from men, that's
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not my fault. That's not cheating. We were just talking. You went
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to brunch? How many? How many? Oh? No, I just
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went to know. We went to brunch. It was in Long Island with
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a bunch of white people and stuff. It was just I said, table.
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It wasn't like a lit brunch, all right. But we talked about
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what about the ratchet brunches? Oh, the ratchet How many drinks? You
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get for free. I always get drinks to free because it's just like,
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you know, they see me, they see Meta's like, oh let me
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buy little drinking too, And a lot of guys are just like they feel
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I feel like gods don't know me. So they probably feel like people feel
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like, oh, like they're doing their kind gesture not even know you fucking
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with a real demon, like you know, like you don't even know.
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Last I got a story last weekend when I went out to I went out
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to the bar. We went because we celebrated, you know, recording our
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episode and stuff, and we went out of funny because my ex. But
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he was my ex from like years ago, so it's like we don't even
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count. We haven't like since high school. You know, I'm saying.
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He was there and his cousin and my sister like best friends. So we
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was all together. So now we're all at a table, Me and me
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and iceing at the table. When God came, he was like, can
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I buy you a drink? He asked him, like can I drink?
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I said, Oh, that's my brother. You won't got to ask him.
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He said, oh you should, I say, yea, that's my
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brother. He goods. So my ex looking at me like this stupid,
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but he went along with it, you know what I mean. And the
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guy just kept buying me drinks like he approached you. Yeah he because I
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can't no, but he No. It wasn't like it was an older guy
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and that bar. I feel like the bar is like an older place where
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the people swinging stuff. It was the owner of the bar at that I
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feel like it was like a swingers bar, and he's the owner of it,
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so he just see me. He was looking at me from the beginning
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when I got in. I'm like, yeah, he about to buy me
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some motherfucking day, she said. But she was like, you know that.
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You think I'm about to order a limit Jobigga, give me a shot
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at any on this side. Sh straight, no ice. I would have
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been right there like the brother too. Yeah. No. I made sure
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bro was good. We made sure of them was good. Locked in,
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it was a good time. But men, I can't help what God choose
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to do for me. And all I said was thank you, bat my
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little lashes, thank you. And that's that. But is that flirting?
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Okay? So I guess flirting, all right, So flirting, it's not
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cheating. I'm gonna reniggle on that statement if that's the case, and flurting's
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not cheating. I feel like it's different levels of flirting. Like you can
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be like you can flirt like harmless flirt. There's harmless flirting and then there's
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like I did a lot of harmless. No, you don't see, I'm
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generous. I mean with the bottle girls with the fat asses, you know,
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the bodies on the strippers is the hookah girls. You know. That's
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why. That's why people saying say they don't like but people got that's a
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bad stick on party promoters though, but they feel like they interacted with a
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whole bunch of females. Do I turn them down? Though? You turn
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bogie, it's not boogie because I know what you want. You got bogie,
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dick. You're not just sticking in and everything. Because it's like what
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me said, Shorty bouncing up and down pretending she loved me. She really
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don't like me. She just attracted the money. I don't know. The
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chasing the bengis so you feel like so, you feel like so not only
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you feel like it's hard while you're blind because you can't see it. People
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flock to me more. When I can see that, I feel like I
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feel like, no, I feel like you would feel more because I feel
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like with situations, they say when you lose one sense, you start to
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feel something else more, you know what I mean? So can't you feel
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intentions? Like did your intuition get stronger? It got way stronger, But
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then you can't be in really fate? Yeah? I can tell, and
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it's I don't trust. I don't trust you. Just don't trust, bitches,
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I don't. You're from Brooklyn, a little treacherous out there. It's
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not exactly, it's treacherous out there before the gentrification. There's a lot going
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on out there. I'm from Queens where you come to find a queen,
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you know, Queen's women, No good e, we are queens women,
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we are We're angel It's good women out there. But it's just like,
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where's when that is that? Right? One? I feel like it's God's
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timing in not ours and our generation, because it's not you gotta take the
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disability out because dating this hard period, you know what I mean? Like
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and our generation we normalize, but we normalize situationships. It's always gonna be
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easier because not everybody knows how to accept your disability. It might be somebody
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that would have been attracted to you if you were not blind, or somebody
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that would have been attracted to me if I wasn't disabled, you know what
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I mean. But they're not gonna say that shot because they scared to a
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lot of people are scared with their friends who think what they feel me and
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think and it's their own like doubts and stuff like they're gonna have to do
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so much for you not realizing like we get ship. Yeah, the whole
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thing is like stop trying to learn my disability to learn who I am exactly.
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It's gird that didn't care that that busted open. But it's like it's
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always the one that you can't be in a relationship with though right and not
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for nothing. I mean, you can't see yourself, but you don't look
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blond, you get what I'm saying. People say that you don't look blind
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at all, like if I would have seen you, and it's like you
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be looking right at me, and ship, I mean like this Nigga lion,
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it's Nigga lion or something like I swear like I don't believe that ship
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and all the stories that I heard you did from other people and stuff.
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It's like, because we know we got we know mutual people and stuff,
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you don't really be sounding like you. I thank you frighting for ss I
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check. You're not just a little bit as money the thing. Don't think
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you're gonna get with us and get this. I ain't got no money on
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for you. Okay, it's hard. It's hard. Not for that blonde
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poppy need a blind mommy. I ain't gonna hold you. You would go
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blind, you would do a blonde, you would date a blind person.
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I don't think it would work. It won't work, It won't work.
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Would you just say that? Niggas just be talking into why would you not
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miss Why would you not feel like it would work with a blond woman?
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That's a good question, right, Why would you not feel like it would
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not work? I thought about it. I said, whatever be meeting up
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here, how are you gonna be? Oh? Ship gonna help? But
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the same way, the same way it's blonde people that go outside. But
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yeah, you just don't like to wear your stick this here. I said,
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I'm I'm gonna start using the people that go is a lot of blondeople
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that go out by them by themself. That look, I'm out by myself.
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She's out by myself. How do we know we in the same equation
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ship? Think about it? I don't know, think about it. I
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mean that's why. I mean, that's that is a good question. Yeah,
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moving around, Like, but isn't the like, isn't there something that
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tells y'all? Like I feel like technology is so real, Like it could
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be something like three steps further and oh, y'all could be right in front
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of each other. You're stealing me. I'm up to be on the same
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block. I'm a man and you don't even know. And you're right there,
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you can't see. That's the only thing it's like, how so other
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than that, like because it's too it's too many complications, you feel,
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I feel like you don't know when to Yeah, I don't. But how
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many black people you really run into? Charles? That's it, I'm playing
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TV wonder Ray Charles. But Steevie wander got like thirty kids. STEVEE wanted
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to his motherfucking thing. Okay, Rach Stevie, But think about it.
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You see more wheelchairs than do black people. Yeah, but I wouldn't date
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somebody in a wheelchair? Why is that you can see them? Because I'm
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not into playing bumper cars? Why not have it? Okay, all injuries
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are different. It's a lot of guys in wheelchairs that cannot you know,
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true, But did you try it? Hmm? Have I tried it?
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Let me think about this question before somebody's feelings is hurt. I don't think
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so. I don't. I hope nobody assumes that we tried it. But
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you know I was when I first got injured and this other boy, there
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was this one guy he was injured too, and I was gonna try it.
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I went to his house and stuff. I was like, yeah,
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let me see, let me see this about But I didn't do it.
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It did not work that way. I was thinking about it, but I'm
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like, it's just not me, Like I'm a princess, like I like
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to be picked up and stuff, like if it's theirs, who's gonna carry
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who? You know, Like it's certain situations that it just can't working.
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And it's like like when we fucking like that's about the look mad for what
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I'm not going that's just go crazy though, would go crazy? People would
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watch that only fans go crazy, but people will watch it without another disabled
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person. You know what I'm saying. Be like, I guess only only
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laugh atout disability. Nobody else to break the internet? Now that would?
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That would? I always said if I do only fans that we call mills
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on wheels. But I had a dream I was gonna start a only fans
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for the Poppy. Let me about doing it. I was gonna start one
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two years ago. And then I had a dream like my dad, Like
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had know my dad. I had a dream like the night before. I
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swear to god, it's how real it is. Like he's seeing like a
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video of me going viral and he just was choking me out. He's like,
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what the so I was? I just not. I did not do
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it like my dad. You know, my dad's a guy who watches porn.
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Imagine like I'm on poorn, hume somewhere going because you know, people
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can screen share your ship and stuff always. You know your dad watched for
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me, because who the fuck don't everybody watches I used to find my days.
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I used to find my dad when I was I actually have a dad.
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You know what I mean a lot of people be so confused about situations
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like that. Don't take it no weirdess way. I used to find my
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dad's dash like back in the day, you know we old back in the
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DVD take the bootlegs. He used to he used to try to hide them
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real good, like high up on the cabinet. I used to be up
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on top of the cabinet. That's what he was up there because I was
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I thought I was gay. I was just looking at old bitches of them
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fat asses. It was like cherokey, yo, he loved cherokey. It
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was beauty'll I love pinky back in the day, was like I loved Pinky.
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I like yo Sky black Smith's clear. Oh I love y'all. Oh
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god, I want my mother come across his mom like my, this is
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how you got that house. Ya. I had to do what I had
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to do. I'm telling you. I mean, you've never seen a blonde
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porn before? Do they have that be the first blonde? So wait,
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wait, but how does it work for you? Though? With porn you
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gotta be just listen. You just got to listen to it. So it's
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just the sound of it. Because that's a good question. Though, Like
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you use your you use your imagine. Wow, that sound like do it?
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Damn? Do they do? Because they have the descriptions, you know,
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the sound descriptions. Do you put those on your phone? And then
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it'd be like, yeah, I want to know the color of the bitch.
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I want to know what. You just need to hear the thing clipping
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cherokee going crazy, choy. I know everything I need to know. That's
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all I needed. That's all I need. So the sounds and stuff is
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more. That's all I need. So what is your thing for a girl?
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Like durings like that really gets you up, like you need to hear
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her? Uh, we're about watch or no like a girl like when you're
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having like when you're not Like back in the days, it was it was
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the vision of it. The bag shots was crazy. Now I don't,
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it's just now always you gotta you gotta be in love. It's passion.
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That's why I can't like give my energy to everybody minds didn't I don't.
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I feel the same way. But that's not because of the wheelchair. I
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just got older and I became a mom and it's just like you know,
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because I've been in the wheelchair for almost half my life now, because it's
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been twelve years. I got shot at fifteen, so it's like I feel
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like I'm changing now. I feel like I don't want to just have sex
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for no reason. Casual sex is not Casual sex is not beneficial to anybody
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because yeah, they're spiritually transmitted demons. I always say that I don't want
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nobody energy on me. No, I'm good. I gotta love you before,
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so you gotta love her before you fucking. That's why you say it.
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Don't cheat. But we're gonna get down to the boom. I'm gonna
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do my research because we're gonna come back on for a part too, to
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find out if you cheat. I'm as I if I get a girl today,
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I'm not going. But have you cheated and you've never been blind?
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Somebody cheated and he has cheated in this while he was blond. Please comment,
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do not feel do not be afraid. But I never cheated. You
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never got accused like by a woman of cheating while you were blind. Don't
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so you probably were cheating. Why was she accused you of cheating? It
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wasn't what the people I was out. It's like you're trying to give innocent
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No, I'm really innocent. I'm really innocent now when I could see it's
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a different story. It's a different story. You feel like I'm becoming blind,
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made you become more like, it made me calm the funk down,
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It made you say, like, right, I really got to charge one
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person. I noticed I had a go one. I fucked her over,
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and I think she's not going nowhere while you, while you was not blond,
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while he was blind. So how did you fuck her over? Didn't
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give a fun like I didn't care about her feelings. But you didn't cheat.
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You just didn't. Okay. See that's let's get into that. But
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people think that's the only way to end. But but what say it?
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But I participate and conversations that I wasn't supposed to. Okay, so you
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cheated, Thank you not cheating drops Mike, thank you time you participated.
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She made a text at right? What's that? Oh no, she's made
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a text free I'm texting or this start woo woo word damn. I'm trying
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to get this before I got hit. So we telling talking, talking what
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you were saying? I said, yo, bro, delete this, we'll
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go back in the room. He deleted it. I go to she let
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me see your phone. Yeah, tell it. I know it ain't nothing
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in there, she said with a message from starting. I'm like, so
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you cheated, being cheat, you cheated, Just talk a little freaking no
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that she again, that's cheating because you were going. If you didn't,
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if that was not, if you didn't foind out that that was your girlfriend,
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you would have kept going. To be honest, you would have kept
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when you you were trying to get that before you got. Yeah, you
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would. You would have did it, so you would have cheated. You
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just got. You just got caught before you did it. Young, Oh
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my god, you did. You cheated twenty one, twenty two. I'm
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still trying to find myself. You cheat, then I got so it's like,
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I know what it was. If I would have cheated, it would
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have been on some to see if I'm still that same person. So this
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is boy math. This is literally boy math because you just said at the
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beginning of the episode, and everybody will remember this, you said that you
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never cheated, and I never cheated because you feel like you because you did
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not, I didn't penetrate her. So if your girlfriend was texting the nigga
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saying, oh, such and such, and then she deleted the message before
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she came to the room. But it was you, and you know what
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I'm saying, how would you have that? Would you have considered that cheating?
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I want to consider that cheating. I would to consider that as Oh
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you think you select I know what you're trying to do, So you don't
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feel like that's cheating. No, it's not cheating. Okay, so then
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maybe okay, I don't consider that cheat. I can forgive you for like
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that. You know I'm not saying you can't forgive people forgive for cheating,
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people forgive for motherfuckers. Should I have forgave, like if you get penetrated,
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I can forgive, but if you give, hey, it's no forgiving.
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Oh god, I know that's for me too. I feel like this.
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If you give a man and that everything that mean you was into him,
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I feel like women is different for men. Oh God, here we
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go with the same stupid speech. How we gotta love a nigga? Fuck
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him? Like I said, I just I just became that way. I
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have had casual sex before without caring about a nigga, and a nigga didn't
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care more And all types of shit, I've had that already. It's not
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like everything is not I've cheated because I've been cheated on before. It's not
21:26
right, you know what I'm saying. But I didn't have a connection or
21:27
a soul time to that. Nigga's just I wanted to like, I wanted
21:30
to get back. I want you to feel what I was feeling. I
21:33
want you to feel my pain. I'm fear like that. You gotta make
21:37
it fear. So are you single to that? Yeah? Are you ready
21:41
to mean? And I'm putting you on a spot right now. I just
21:49
want to say I'm focused on me. Let's just do that. I'm not
21:52
dating or nothing. I'm just chilling. I don't talk to people and stuff
21:57
like that. I just chill. I'm focus. I don't know side to
22:02
confident to me? It didn't like what's the idea of a man though,
22:08
like a good man, like the ideal man that I would want someone that's
22:11
honest, someone that's consistent, compassionate, and would it be a problem he
22:18
take it to the factory. I'm a real Like we could go to Applebee's,
22:22
we could go to Fridays, we could go as long as I'm with
22:26
my men, I'm like daddy and your baby. See. Yeah, No,
22:32
seriously, I don't mind it. And that was when I was walking
22:34
to I was young, though, But I've been on dates when I was
22:36
walking rolling, I've been. I've been to days, to nice ass places,
22:40
to regular places. And when you're in a long term, when you're
22:41
in long term relationships, you gotta be reasonable reasonable, you know what I'm
22:45
saying. I was in a saxty relationship. We've been on nice ass dates,
22:48
you know what I mean. And then it was times where we just
22:49
had to keep it simple, go to the movies real quick. But as
22:52
long as you wish your significant other, it shouldn't matter where you're at.
22:56
A lot of people, a lot of girls these days, you know,
22:59
not the handout. Yeah, because but I can't even be mad at those
23:00
women because so many men don't date for love. So it's like a lot
23:04
of women started dating for money. Honestly, you can't. I can't even
23:07
knock it but me personally, But no, man should never change, you
23:11
should be able to change. You. Girls don't know themselves. A lot
23:15
of a lot of women don't know themselves, so they get with the walk
23:17
around with birks and don't kind of dollar in that ship. Just don't be
23:19
real, one thousand percent. Don't be real. It's like, I don't
23:22
know, it's just I see females in the club and all that. It
23:27
just turned me off. It's hard for me to trust a woman because it's
23:30
just like you see you what the outside doing and stuff. Not too many
23:33
women I trust. The one I trust don't want me. Why not broke
23:36
a heart? How you broke hard? Let's get into that. That's the
23:41
one I was texting, sext and whatever you want to be. That's the
23:44
one you got caught texting, and then you have stopped texting. No,
23:48
the one that caught me is the one I broke hard. You broke the
23:52
one that caught you. Okay, though she dealt with a lot of my
23:56
ship too when I got shot, because you have to go through those traumatic
24:00
emotions. Yeah, she was right there with me. It's like and she
24:03
was like an emotional she was like your emotional punching bag. Yeah. So
24:07
I'm trying to exit out the dolls. She's trying to come into the dark.
24:11
Oh, but you don't understand that. I'm the right guy, but
24:14
the wrong time, right guy, O time when you were young. Yeah,
24:18
but I was still trying to find myself. I just went through saying
24:21
traumatics like but that was I was always selfish. I was selfish of you
24:26
because should let her go? Yeah, because sometimes that's what men don't realize.
24:30
Sometimes I didn't get it, like if I let her go, who
24:32
I got nobody? That's selfish. It is a break up woman. And
24:37
then they never wanted they never look at me in the same Then you get
24:41
cold. I did. She finally started back like really communicating talking to me
24:47
with the Puerto Rico w it was nice. It was nice, beautiful,
24:51
had a good time the water nice, saying nice. So she didn't want
24:53
you to be friends before anything though. He was always friends. You gotta
24:57
gotta friendship. I had eggs. No, he so you fly the shout,
25:02
not fucker. We friends, yeah, said best friends. He's not
25:07
gonna answer it. You're not going to answer the question. You're blind,
25:11
not death question. You know you know you got the right person on here,
25:17
right person right there. It was one of those did you have sexual
25:22
intercourse with that woman? But that's what Bill Clinton, that's the ext Clinton
25:26
right. I did not have sexual relationships with that lady. We just went
25:29
out there. It was really a moment where we connected, like you know,
25:33
it's the other ways thought about. It's not about the sex. It's
25:37
like, you know sometimes you missed that. Yeah, that friend is like
25:41
YEA used to do a lot together. So now it's like, damn,
25:44
it's going because it's like you will never trust me or get close to me
25:48
like that no more. You have that moment to just you had that moment
25:52
to chill, to say like there's no argument, no beef, and it's
25:55
like, I mean, it was emotional moments where it's like damn, like
26:00
I put my oil into you type ship. How you do this? I
26:02
trusted you type ship And it's like you really let me down. But be
26:06
cool though, be good Like her daughter is like that my daughter. Well
26:10
he's sorry, miss lady. He's sorry, he's sorry, Miss Jackson.
26:15
It's all like my song, Oh yeah, I was on a plane.
26:22
The only song that kept playing. It was so sick. I'm like,
26:23
damn, I gotta go back to so yeah. But y'all rolled together on
26:27
the plane and everything, and then y'all came back. I lent back there
26:30
for Friday Monday. So what's the vacation like being blond. It's regular.
26:38
It's regular, like you don't like the scenery and stuff like you just it's
26:42
more, it's like, it's cool. I've been on vacation when it was
26:48
to turn up, and then I've been on vacation with just calm. I
26:49
like the calm vacations just so relaxed. And then you relaxing, you always
26:53
out. This man is always at somebody, he's a party promoting, he's
26:56
always outside. He's outside morning man. Listen. Everybody's so security, and
27:02
I gotta get it for how I get it, don't y'all talking they can
27:07
do that? Damn, Like, Yo, two thousand dollars in the bank
27:11
is nothing? What like really makes me like, damn, she's for me.
27:18
M hmm. It's like she don't give a fuck about the materialistic things.
27:22
Who the girl you was with, I'm let's go to the movies.
27:25
Back in the day, she had bootlegs to watch bootlegs save money. That
27:30
listen, that's I think that's real at the end of the day. See,
27:33
I've I've been with I've dealt with the same person for like on and
27:37
off the last six years. So I've I've been with him when he's had
27:41
it, and I've been with him when he's having It's never changed my thing
27:44
on him. Only my feeling's only changed because the things he's done to me.
27:48
You know what I'm saying, Your financial status can never make me unlovey
27:51
because you can always get more money. You know what I'm saying. Money,
27:53
money goes. But at the end of the day, you got to
27:55
show me that you for me. Like loyalty is my biggest thing, because
27:59
if you don't got I got If you don't got it, I got it.
28:00
In vice versus that I supposed to be. Everybody likes to think it's
28:03
fifty fifty, it's one hundred, one hundred. I'm not going half.
28:07
When nobody be all going, we're gonna put all. And you know what
28:08
I mean. If you need me, then I'm here. If I need
28:11
you, you be there. That's it. Have to sat it on me.
28:14
Now I know. My new thing is if I'm bringing the table,
28:15
you better bring a table too. That's it. It ain't no more I
28:18
bring the table or you got the table. I got the bacon line.
28:22
If I'm bringing the table, bring a table to So when I leave,
28:26
you got you You leaving with you can't be with That's it because people always,
28:30
people always Nowadays, people expect too much, you know what I mean,
28:34
Like they have hidden agendas. I should say, like nobody's dating,
28:38
nobody's dating genuinely. And that's why I said it's hard, whether because I
28:41
have because I hear my friends crying about you know that's walking and shit,
28:47
crying about niggas too. It's no difference, you know what I'm saying.
28:48
It's just people are who they are. No our generation, like I said,
28:52
normalized situationships. Too many people want to be in situationships. Nobody wants
28:56
to be in a relationship because everybody wants to be able to say, why
28:59
didn't you on you? I told you. You know what I'm saying,
29:00
Like I told you we weren't together. What I want to get married?
29:03
You want to get married. I want to dance with my mother at the
29:06
reception and you will, Yo, It's crazy. I play my whole wedding
29:08
and I don't got to to marriage all out my songs and everything. I'll
29:14
be in the house practice and dancing. So you gotta, you gotta,
29:17
you gotta start working on I'm coming I'm coming home. I mean, if
29:21
you want her, you got to keep applying depression. Sometimes you just gotta
29:25
give a person that space to show that you grew as a person. And
29:27
that's that's a lot of things that men don't respect because men will hurt women
29:30
and then won't give them the grace. You know what I mean. If
29:33
you heard a woman give me that grace to let me heal, don't force
29:36
yourself on me. And then it's like I don't get the chance, so
29:38
I end up despising you, you know what I mean, because I want
29:41
us to build it over, like, yeah, I want to be your
29:44
best friend. And my last relationship, that person was my bestest friend ever,
29:48
you know what I'm saying. Like literally, I gave him a child,
29:49
you know what I'm saying. So it's like that's somebody who I see
29:52
myself with. That's the person that made me think about marriage. That's the
29:56
person that I knew everything. Like I said, I wanted to start my
29:59
YouTube channel. He went and brought me a camera, lights, everything that
30:02
I wanted, like everything that I set out, he listened. He listened
30:04
to me, you know what I mean. And then after a while,
30:07
we lose, We lose the friendship because the relationship becomes you, you're scared
30:11
to lose that person, so you start to lie you know what I mean,
30:14
because when we're just friends, then you get to lie in and I
30:18
feel like it was That's why I feel like it's never just none of my
30:22
situations, none of my relationships ended because of the wheelchair, you know what
30:25
I mean. It's like none of them happened. Like I've had long term
30:29
relationships in the chair I've had. I've been in a chair for twelve years.
30:32
I've been in a relationship my whole time being in a chair. Like
30:34
I literally was in a relationship from the day I came out of the hospital,
30:37
no, the day I got into the day, you know till today,
30:41
Like not today I'm single? She slipping out well because because you know,
30:48
I'm a little confused. It's just like I feel like this the disability,
30:56
it really showed me who's really there for you? Back in the day's
30:57
anybody wanted to keeping it round and then it's like I got shot. Ship
31:03
changes. Yeah, but I always asked her, like, yo, why
31:07
did you stay around one of the people that I wanted to stay around never
31:11
did? So why what made you different from everybody else. And then that
31:15
was she was really there for me. It wasn't because what I had or
31:19
what I was doing. She was there for me, and to this day
31:22
I could call her she Oh, well she was. She wanted to be
31:26
some castes. She called me see you know what see you know she know
31:30
because I hate that ship because you know each other person. She called me
31:34
by my government. So it's like, I'm always to this. I always
31:38
asks her, what makes you love me that you stay in? You leave
31:41
like everybody else. Now walking the club, shout out to body my sister.
31:48
She's like, Yo, they think you really got money, So I
31:52
don't know why you got money? Is math, honey? I'm walking.
31:56
They jumping on me, yo, what's up this? That? And the
31:59
third and a regular nigga would love that ship, but I don't love it.
32:04
You don't like all the attention. Nah, the attention. I just
32:07
don't like to fake ship. Don't be on me for no money. Oh
32:08
like coming around for the money. But they were like, oh you buy
32:10
me a hookah? What okay? When you want buy some drink? Said,
32:15
my name is blonde poppy, not hooka poppy bitch. And I had
32:17
I had a girl that said the said, oh, I'm a fuck you
32:21
tonight, let's get real drunk. I said, yeah, by the drinks.
32:25
Mm hmmm, A regular Cormo nigga that bought the drinks to get it
32:30
to fuck Like so a bitch was trying to process drink? Yo is the
32:35
costant? What kind of look as you wanted? Not? That's it,
32:39
don Julio. I'm like, y'all gotta go to the ATM and get the
32:44
money out of your even asked spent. Now we're not doing that. I
32:49
had girls coming to club asking I buy him a bottle? What I look
32:52
like? They want you to? They think that they want to. People
32:55
tend to think that we're easier because we're like, like we should be more
32:59
gas. I do realize that, like when God's talk to me, like,
33:01
I get complicmented so much. Like so when other guys, like if
33:04
it's their first time seeing me, a commiment to me, they think like
33:07
I should be more ecstatic. Like I'm always very humble, So I always
33:09
say like, you know, thank you, like a smiling way, especially
33:12
living in New York, because you know, motherfuckers spin on you. You
33:14
don't say, you don't say something back to what, bitch, I want
33:17
to push you out the chair. But I've literally had I've literally had guys
33:22
like harassed me to push me, you know what I'm saying, Like harass
33:24
me to push me. I've had guys like, no, let me push
33:27
you, like or just grab onto my chair. Or somebody come and they
33:30
see me rolling with my son or something and they'll grab my son like,
33:34
oh, let me help. You don't touch my mind. I don't play
33:37
like that. And stop assuming because we're disabled, that we're needy or that
33:40
we we we fucking disable, not ugly. We got the the automatic chair,
33:51
I connect the skateboard. That's different. I don't feel I don't have
33:55
a motorized chick because I'm fit, you know, snatched. So yeah,
34:00
I don't like that because I'm young and I stay in shape. I feel
34:01
like the motorized bull chairs for people that you know, cannot move certain extremities
34:06
and you know, fat people, that's not for me that and you can't
34:09
get it. I'll be in and out. I be my friends got beamas
34:13
and benzes and ship. No motorized chairs getting in that and I'm not scratching
34:16
up through it. They always ask me like, yo, what's up?
34:20
Like why you don't walk around with your stick? It's like it's like people
34:23
think for me, Yeah, people think it's like I'm hiding it, Like
34:28
I'm really not. You just don't need it. It's not your thing,
34:30
it's not my thing. I want to see what it is. I want
34:32
to see people how they're gonna react to me without the stick, right because
34:37
people know what you are, then it's like, oh you So do you
34:40
ever get bitches like that? Like you're talking to a female and she don't
34:44
know you blind. I had a whole conversation with female and then when she
34:46
finds out, do she changed? She'd be like, yo, give me
34:50
like put your up up. My phone is right here. I'm like,
34:52
I said, yo, ship, you must be drunk. I'm like,
34:57
yo, my man, her phone, you know my bro boom me do
35:01
it. She gave me a hug. I said, you want me to
35:02
tell you a secret? What's that? I can't see? She said?
35:07
You lying? I'm like, no, I can't see that. The ball
35:09
is of your core if you are, use my my note? And how
35:12
did that go? Some using something don't? Some using something? But that's
35:15
how you do it. Some use it like that's funny. Is that like
35:20
like cat fishing, that's like blonds? Yeah, caught me blonde fishing because
35:24
I does it. The one girl on my body woa woo texting me.
35:30
She oh, I'm sending you picture, send me a picture of you,
35:32
she added me on Facebook. Now if you look on my content, but
35:36
you know I'm blind. Boom. I still ain't saying that. I think
35:39
she knows. She comes to the party. She over there turking. She
35:43
wondered why I'm not paying her no mind. She in front of me,
35:45
turkey going hard. I ain't paying no mind. I can't see it all.
35:51
She's like, you blind? I said, yeah, I told her
35:53
you know I'm blind, right, She said, you lying. I'm like,
35:57
I'm dead serious. She had my friend up. He like, yo,
36:00
she didn't know he was blind all that time. Bro, I said,
36:01
it was none of her business. If it's for you, it's for
36:06
you. And I feel like anybody that's truly a good person, it's not
36:08
even about being a good person, because you know what, you can have
36:09
your preference, because I don't want to take that away from people. I
36:12
don't want you to feel like a bad person for not wanting. But if
36:14
you can't rock with me being blonde, you're not my friend. My friend,
36:17
yeah, your friend. You pursue me. I didn't pursue you.
36:21
Yeah, that's true. I didn't pursue you. See, my disability is
36:23
visible, yours isn't, because, like I said, you'll call, I
36:28
can't tell you're blind, Like I literally wouldn't think you're blind either, And
36:30
it's like your whole mannerisms and felt on me. I wanted to dance on
36:35
me for like fifteen songs all this, Oh what I'm gonna do to you?
36:38
I'm like, are you're talking like that? Ooh? Text me?
36:43
Or I miss shield? Just that I texted? I said, you miss
36:45
me? How can I miss somebody I never chilled with? I said,
36:50
but bitch, you hit me up for your new and telling me this yet
36:52
new number, right, she said, Oh I got a man now?
36:54
Though, Okay, so damn this ship was just last week girl, But
36:58
it's cool not I don't know before that she used to bother me. It
37:02
don't bother me no more, though I remember a couple of weeks ago,
37:07
like you know, they do the rating thing, like you know that you
37:09
know how like gods we like rate the girls, and so they was like,
37:14
they put like my my bros, they match, how this's just younger.
37:16
These are younger boys. Is obviously Roman not doing that. So they
37:20
raided and they're like, oh, friend, she's pretty. What we gonna
37:24
give her for? Because what can what can I do with her? That's
37:28
what they said. The little boy, they little ass boys. So I
37:30
went and I too. They asked was gonna live? They asked up?
37:35
I said, first of all, you look like a fucking dyke. The
37:37
other one looked like motherfucking Charlie Murphy or not even not Charlie. What's that
37:42
comedian that like the list be coming up? I don't know his name,
37:45
but he like, yeah, ahead, that's what the other nigga looked like.
37:52
And I was just like you, I was rating, but they was
37:53
younger and stuff, and they're like, no, but we called you pretty.
37:55
It's just you know you're in I'm like, I don't give a fuck
37:59
about you. I wouldn't fuck you. The problem is that y'all soon like
38:01
it'll be easy, like, oh, you're too pretty. People say to
38:04
me, like you're too pretty to be in a wheelchair. But if I
38:06
say you're too ugly to be walking. Then I'm a bitch. You feel
38:08
me. So it's just like certain things. If I'm not your cup of
38:12
tea, that's fine, but non sometimes attendive. I'm not yours and you're
38:14
not mine. You know what I'm saying. I never wanted nobody that didn't
38:16
want me. I'm a beet song. Anything that I want is already mine.
38:21
Oh, let's fake love, but I do want to love. I'm
38:22
tired of being alone. No movies come out, wanting to go to the
38:25
movies. Just just being in love is a beautiful feeling out it is.
38:30
You're gonna wake up and this might just kiss you like like I know the
38:35
morning breafence. That's a love. I love. You know that's a love.
38:40
But it's love hurts. You're watching a basketball game, they come and
38:44
just lay on your lap and I'm like, okay, I love hurt.
38:47
That's love. We don't even this Valentine's Day. I mean, what you
38:51
doing for Valentine's Day day? In the club? You're gonna be in the
38:54
spot. I'll probably be right there when you tore w shot be like,
39:00
no couples allowed. That's it. We should do it. I say a
39:05
swinger speed date thing, my ass, you should do a speed date.
39:12
Yeah, I went to a speed date only disabled people, though, only
39:15
disable, that would be that would be fire. I'm down, play together.
39:19
I'm down because I said I never date. I said I wouldn't date
39:22
a person will try. Never said I wouldn't date a personal disability. You
39:23
know. So I'm down because I never talked to somebody. But I ain't
39:28
gonna lie. I don't discriminate though, because I ain't gonna tell that story.
39:32
Now let's get fastus get fast. I have deference before you had a
39:37
difference. Wait the fuck? Yeah? And how did that work? Because
39:44
she got it? No, I wasn't. I wasn't blind at the time.
39:46
Oh okay, so that don't count. I wanted to know if that
39:51
means I don't I don't discriminate if no, I'm saying I wanted to know,
39:52
Like, if you and that person was death, how did your communicate
39:58
text messages? Yeah? Oh but y'all, but you wasn't blond yet.
40:00
I wasn't blonde. But you're saying, I'm saying if I was blinding,
40:04
you can't do it. So you would date another deaf person? Yeah,
40:07
that'd be easy because I don't got to help bullshit. You got to curse.
40:14
You do text messages, I don't got to read it, and you
40:16
can't see her bullshit. Yeah, niggas said, I can't. So it's
40:21
like, yeah, I could talk cheating in front of you and you can
40:24
talk. You could text cheat in front of me. To think about it,
40:30
mad niggas, I can be talking to a bitch on the phone,
40:35
but you don't know who I'm talking to, and then she could be party.
40:39
I'm like, yeah, I love you, I love you. She
40:42
thinks I'm talking with really that she read your lips and all that, like,
40:45
I love you, I love you, hotel on the phone, something
40:47
else that's up. Okay, so what do you What advice would you give
40:52
somebody else that's blond about dating? Try? You got us your heart.
41:00
It's like you can't love through sight. You got in love with vision.
41:05
Yeah, walk by faith, not by sight. You got in love with
41:07
vision. So it's like before my perfect Oh, she had to be pretty,
41:12
her body got to be like this, she had to have a fat
41:14
ass. I was in love with the wrong things. Loving the heart.
41:17
Yeah, you could say the ugly girl now because you ain't got to see,
41:24
oh ship, So you could say somebody that's ugly because they got it.
41:29
But lie, then I think about the people. You know, do
41:30
you ever feel a bitch face to see how she looks? I know you
41:34
can't. You can't do that. I always, I always, I always
41:37
wanted a blond person to feel my face and judge me. I just go
41:43
for like my just imagine, like I just imagine how a person, Just
41:46
imagine how they looked through their voice. So you don't even know if you're
41:49
talking to the ugly now. But then it's like you never felt the bitch
41:53
faith, But that's how you that's how you're supposed to see how I feel
41:57
the features like damn that that's Ray Charles, that's Candy ray Chard, Stevie.
42:00
Wonder he's not doing that. You don't do that, Okay, So
42:02
that's that was a good question. Do you know if you never tried though,
42:06
pull on somebody face? Yeah, you know that's creepy. Ship.
42:08
I think you should try. I think you should try because if somebody blood,
42:12
I don't want another blond person rubbing on my face. But you're not
42:15
dating people the people that can see like here, bitch, come here,
42:19
let me see what you look like? What do you even touch them?
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Attractive? It's like the way that feel, that's that as man, heavy
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baby, that's the only thing that that matters to you. That's what gets
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you going. But it's like she can't be but she got to have some
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type of features or something. But you're not gonna know if you don't touch
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that face with you. Ask your friends, like, hell, y'all,
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but how you know your man's got the taste that you got. No,
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but they ain't gonna put me into because I know niggas that like ugly ass
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bitches. But then the two if my girl is ugly, and I know
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none of my niggas ain't gonna try to get it behind my back. To
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be honest, Jesus Christ. So he's saying, if you you too with
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a good heart, he got you shy. Yeah, not everybody, especially
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in their own way. It don't. Everybody not ugly. Everybody is beautiful.
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Don't do that, frend not do that. Everybody's beautiful. Everybody know
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it's beauty is in the eye that beholder. I'm not saying that, but
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I'm saying everybody has a let's it's not let's say. Everybody has a preferences.
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It's about being attractive, and we have attract people were attracted people that
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were not as long as they think, as long as they got body,
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you good. So you don't so you don't do it. So what if
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it's like a so you would do a thick, ugly bitch before you do
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a pretty skinny bitch. I don't like skinny. You can't see you.
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I don't know. It's just about them. Bigger is just something about the
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big you like bbw's like them? Oh you like them? Bb W?
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Oh I got somebody for you like them. I got somebody for you,
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like from chervoy Key to Christal I like, and that's always been your preference.
43:57
Yeah, hell yeah. I never was into like skinny girls. Okay,
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well my my dating advice to people that are in wheelchairs is just be
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confident within yourself. Nobody want nobody that feel sorry for themselves, Like how
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the fuck you want somebody to be with you? And you over here?
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We can't. I don't care about none of that shit, like, and
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I don't need nobody to feel bad for me because I don't feel bad for
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myself, Like it's good. The only thing that I got to do is
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roll into shit. You know, as long as it's elevated, it's cool.
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And I'm I'm light, so people carrying me up, so there's really
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no problems in that department. I just feel like me being a person in
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America is hard. The reason why it's hard to date, you know what
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I mean. I don't feel like the wheelchair makes sorr. I feel like
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it's just being in America because any like I said, anybody that's for me
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is already for me. And honestly, before this episode closes up, I
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just want to say I might be in a situation. I don't want to
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just close. I gotta think about myself like I'm figuring things out with someone's
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And another thing too. I love the one that loved You're not the one
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that you love. Oh yeah, you have to love people that somebody that
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loves. Sometimes we chasing love that's really not there. But the whole time,
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the person that really love us, we really dishing them off. Yeah
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that's true. I love the one I love you, not the one that
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you love. You'll get way father than that. Navidate your own song.
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Wow, yeah you know I'm playing. That's what it is. But it's
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definitely been real. Get back, it was well overend. Happy Valentine's Day.
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Make sure you follow me at hot for Real in my podcast, because
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I'm definitely coming up there to pop my ship on there too. Yes,
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you are definitely, but we are out of here. Lock in, lockout,
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just love, just love, guys, fall of love, Stay told.
45:43
I might go live on Valentine's Day. I'm giving out love advice.
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Man, I'm the love doctor. That's why they call me blind Poppy for
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a reason. Do not take this man advice. You don't know what is
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important is and what's not. Please I do. I I could teach you
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how to hit that up that spot, tryst to believe your girl, and
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thank you lady if you listen to blinde Poppy. But we off this not
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that's the good one. That's the good one. You're stupid as fuck,
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and I guess you don't want to fill her face