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470: Why Most People Who Learn Human Design Still Can't Read a Chart · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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Nicoel Laino: Come here to become an unshakable human and build an unshakable business according to your human design.
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Nicoel Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Laino.
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Nicole Laino: Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: I'm your host, Nicole Lino.
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Nicole Laino: And it's just us today, and we're going to talk today about reading charts about what it really means to read a human design chart and why most people who learn human design actually still can't do it.
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Nicole Laino: And I don't mean that as a slight.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not ragging on anybody.
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Nicole Laino: I'm saying it because I remember what that was like, that I took a Human Design certification.
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Nicole Laino: And the amount of time that it took me to learn really what I was looking at, it was just I had to really develop this process myself because I took several certifications, I've taken several courses.
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Nicole Laino: I have, like, I have studied so much, and nobody really taught me how to do this.
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Nicole Laino: Like, and I'm going to break down a little bit of what I do and what my process is and what I see here.
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Nicole Laino: But this, it's a fundamental problem with the way that we teach human design.
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Nicole Laino: And I want to kind of call it out here and just.
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Nicole Laino: So if you're one of those people, if you're either thinking about becoming Human Design certified, you're looking to understand it for yourself, where you're like, I've been digesting all of this information because this is a lot of people, right?
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Nicole Laino: I'm digesting all of this information.
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Nicole Laino: I'm memorizing.
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Nicole Laino: I am like, I am this wealth of knowledge about human design as a concept and as a knowledge base, but as a system, I really don't know how to use it.
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Nicole Laino: And it's really that will hinder your progress with it, and you certainly won't be able to teach it.
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Nicole Laino: So it'll be a problem for you if it's just for you, but it'll also be a problem for you, especially if you are looking to help people with this.
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Nicole Laino: If you looked to get certified in human design so that you could help guide people, whether that be formally like a coach or you want to do readings or informally like with your children, and maybe it's with your team at work or you want to do it just with the people in your life, like, whatever it is.
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Nicole Laino: So many people have taken course after course, and they know type they know profile, they know all the lines.
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Nicole Laino: They know what planets mean.
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Nicole Laino: They have all of that stuff.
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Nicole Laino: But as far as, like, how you bring that all together is that's a bit elusive.
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Nicole Laino: So I'm going to break down kind of the main difference that I learned or that I kind of fell into through my process of really digesting every bit of information I could get my hands on and what that process was like.
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Nicole Laino: And then finally coming to a point where I was like, oh, this is how I actually start to really get it.
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Nicole Laino: So this episode is going to be about how you get it, right?
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Nicole Laino: I'm not going to be telling you what anything means.
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Nicole Laino: I'm going to be talking to you more about, like, how you actually get this information to go from an information just like a dictionary to something that's actually usable.
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Nicole Laino: Where this is like a talent that you have, where this is an actual framework that you use with people and you understand how to do that beyond just telling them.
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Nicole Laino: Because I hear people do this all the time.
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Nicole Laino: Oh, well, you're here to respond.
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Nicole Laino: But they don't really get what they're looking at when they're looking at a chart.
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Nicole Laino: So we're going to break that down today.
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Nicole Laino: Before we do, I have something to share in two parts.
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Nicole Laino: First, first, we have a brand new guide out.
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Nicole Laino: It's called the Coach's Guide to Human Design.
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Nicole Laino: So if you're interested in this topic of, like, learning how to use human design on a deeper level, this is the guide for you.
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Nicole Laino: And it's totally free.
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Nicole Laino: Now, I cta that I told you guys about it in the last episode and if you happened to download it or try to and had trouble and got the wrong one, it's my fault.
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Nicole Laino: I called out the wrong word for you.
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Nicole Laino: I put out the wrong link.
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Nicole Laino: It's correct in the show notes.
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Nicole Laino: My team put the right one in.
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Nicole Laino: But what I said in the episode was absolutely wrong.
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Nicole Laino: You probably got the Identity Guide, the Identity Shift guide, and you didn't get the coach's guide.
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Nicole Laino: So to rectify that, this is the correct one.
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Nicole Laino: If you would like the Coach's Guide to Human Design, all you have to do is DM me the word coach on Instagram.
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Nicole Laino: I'm icolinofficial and if you want to just grab it off the website, you can do that too.
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Nicole Laino: Just go to nicolelaino.com coach and you can get it there.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, the record is corrected.
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Nicole Laino: I apologize profusely.
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Nicole Laino: I felt so stupid.
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Nicole Laino: I was so annoyed with myself after I realized that I did that.
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Nicole Laino: But it was too late to change it.
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Nicole Laino: So here we are.
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Nicole Laino: But now we move forward.
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Nicole Laino: Now we move on.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, so let's talk about this.
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Nicole Laino: So it all comes down to really, this one fundamental thing.
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Nicole Laino: There's knowing human design, and then there's actually seeing a chart, cataloging features, and just being like, you have a this.
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Nicole Laino: So that means that to actually reading a person and seeing what their life is going to be like, seeing how their energy moves, seeing where that might be an issue.
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Nicole Laino: And there are many layers to this.
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Nicole Laino: Like, when I work with people and I do a human design reading, I'm not just jumping in.
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Nicole Laino: I've trained myself to look at a chart and see the person, but I also ask them questions.
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Nicole Laino: I also ask them questions before we do a reading.
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Nicole Laino: I ask very specific questions that, you know, depending on how they answer them.
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Nicole Laino: Some people just want to book the reading, so they answer the questions very quickly, and they don't give a lot of detail.
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Nicole Laino: But I start the reading by asking them questions again because I want to understand what they're going through, because that will help me interpret the chart in a way that is beneficial to them, that is very current to their needs in the moment, versus me just telling them that they're a generator and they're here to respond, and it means that they're here to be lit up.
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Nicole Laino: All very important.
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Nicole Laino: But what's more important is for me to understand a little bit more about them so I can start to marry the human with the chart that I see in front of me.
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Nicole Laino: Most human design courses, certifications are information based.
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Nicole Laino: They are information based.
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Nicole Laino: And so they're training you to more recall information, not recognize patterns.
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Nicole Laino: And this is a huge, like, structural gap that there is.
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Nicole Laino: Right.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not digging at any teacher.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not ragging on anybody.
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Nicole Laino: But this is a problem because it's the patterns that you are looking for.
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Nicole Laino: The patterns are what you help people change.
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Nicole Laino: There are certain tendencies and patterns and certain things underlying the chart that are going to allow you to give somebody.
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Nicole Laino: It's the difference between giving somebody a reading where they walk away being like, that was interesting.
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Nicole Laino: Oh, cool.
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Nicole Laino: And another reading where they're like, wow, you like, changed my life with this reading.
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Nicole Laino: Or where they cry and they say they feel so seen.
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Nicole Laino: Because you're not just telling them what's there.
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Nicole Laino: You're telling them what I bet your life has been like.
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Nicole Laino: What you may have experienced were these things.
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Nicole Laino: And that is the defining factor between it and that's often not covered in a lot of the Teaching that's out there.
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Nicole Laino: So what does this all mean, right?
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Nicole Laino: This is we stop asking the question of what do each of these components on the chart mean?
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Nicole Laino: Instead, we start asking, what is the chart pointing to?
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Nicole Laino: What is the chart saying to us?
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Nicole Laino: Charts speak.
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Nicole Laino: And if you don't know how to speak the language of the chart to understand what's happening there, you know, it's like you can know how all of the pieces on a chess board move, right?
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Nicole Laino: You can know that I can take two steps forward on any pawn on its first move, and then they move one and they move in a straight line only, and then you can know those rules.
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Nicole Laino: But it doesn't make you a great chess player.
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Nicole Laino: There's a strategy underneath it that's telling you there's a game underneath the game.
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Nicole Laino: And that's very true of human design.
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Nicole Laino: Human design.
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Nicole Laino: So when I look at a chart, I am always asking, you know, what was this person's life probably like when they were a child?
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Nicole Laino: What did they kind of walk in with?
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Nicole Laino: What were the things that they probably dealt with?
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Nicole Laino: What are the things that probably caused issues for them or where they may have gotten stuck?
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Nicole Laino: You can tell that maybe from some of the characteristics.
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Nicole Laino: So you might be able to tell that somebody with an open G center might have trouble knowing their direction in life or feeling held by that or feeling sure of something like that.
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Nicole Laino: Or maybe they know what it was like to.
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Nicole Laino: Or they've struggled to potentially be able to nail down their identity in this life.
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Nicole Laino: Identity work might have been really difficult for them.
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Nicole Laino: That's a valid piece of information to give somebody, but to see it in the greater context of the whole chart, to understand where they might have a problem.
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Nicole Laino: Like, when I look at a chart, I'm looking at how the energy flows.
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Nicole Laino: And that wasn't something that I learned to do until several years into my own personal training.
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Nicole Laino: Because we did a recorded reading in my certification, that was it.
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Nicole Laino: I never talked to anybody.
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Nicole Laino: I recorded a reading completely on my own, sent it in.
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Nicole Laino: They said, that was good, you're certified.
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Nicole Laino: All done.
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Nicole Laino: That's it.
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Nicole Laino: I never really talked anyone.
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Nicole Laino: I never got any feedback.
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Nicole Laino: I never really got any guidance on how do we read a chart.
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Nicole Laino: And it's funny.
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Nicole Laino: I have a lot of people who are human design certified in my program in business by design, for sure.
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Nicole Laino: Some people in the Human Design Authority Lab, some people in Align Brand Builder.
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Nicole Laino: I've done readings for people who have gotten human design certifications.
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Nicole Laino: And what's so interesting to me is that a lot of people Will not feel comfortable actually using it.
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Nicole Laino: They don't feel ready to give readings, or they'll give readings, but they're not.
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Nicole Laino: Like, they won't market them.
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Nicole Laino: They'll only do it if people come to them.
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Nicole Laino: Or they'll do it for friends, and they'll do it for family.
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Nicole Laino: And it starts there.
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Nicole Laino: That's totally fine.
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Nicole Laino: But they don't feel confident to go out and do this, or they don't feel confident to coach people through their human design.
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Nicole Laino: And that's doing everybody a disservice.
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Nicole Laino: You're not getting any better because you're not using it.
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Nicole Laino: And you're not using a tool that could truly help somebody.
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Nicole Laino: And the gap there is because nobody really taught you how you feel like you need to prepare.
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Nicole Laino: Like, for every reading, you've got to write down what everything means so you don't forget something.
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Nicole Laino: And I know this because I did this in the beginning.
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Nicole Laino: I used to take.
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Nicole Laino: I would take, like, hours to prepare for a reading.
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Nicole Laino: So.
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Nicole Laino: Because I was so scared that they would ask a question I didn't know the answer to.
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Nicole Laino: And now, of course, I very rarely am going to get asked a question that I don't have answer to other than why are these centers colored the colors that they are on a traditional human design chart?
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Nicole Laino: Still can't answer that question.
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Nicole Laino: Looked everywhere.
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Nicole Laino: Don't know.
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Nicole Laino: If you know, please DM me and tell me why is the G center yellow and sacral is brown?
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Nicole Laino: I have tried to think through that logically in every sort of way.
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Nicole Laino: Can't really come up with it.
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Nicole Laino: If you know the answer, please tell.
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Nicole Laino: But outside of that, I pretty much know all the answers.
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Nicole Laino: But the key is I'm not really giving people any of that anymore.
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Nicole Laino: I'm talking about how the energy flows in their chart.
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Nicole Laino: And I do that through some key elements in the chart.
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Nicole Laino: I do that through.
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Nicole Laino: I'm looking at their channels.
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Nicole Laino: I'm looking at how the energy flows from one center to the other.
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Nicole Laino: I'm noticing what that flow looks like.
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Nicole Laino: I'm noticing what these themes are around it.
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Nicole Laino: And that tells me a lot.
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Nicole Laino: A big picture about who they are and what they are here for.
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Nicole Laino: The incarnation cross is leading them somewhere.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, how are they getting there?
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Nicole Laino: How are they?
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Nicole Laino: What is the role that they're here to play?
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Nicole Laino: How is that playing out for them?
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Nicole Laino: What problems may they have had on their journey so far?
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Nicole Laino: Where are they still having problems?
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Nicole Laino: That's why I talk to people about it, because I did a reading recently where they didn't tell me until the end that they were actually very focused on love and partnership and looking for a relationship.
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Nicole Laino: And I didn't know that or I would have brought that up in the reading more.
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Nicole Laino: And it gives context to the chart.
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Nicole Laino: The human life gives context to that chart because it could be interpreted so many different ways.
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Nicole Laino: If somebody is having a particular problem, I'm looking for that roadblock.
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Nicole Laino: I'm looking for how the chart may help guide them to a smoother path.
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Nicole Laino: So every chart is so different.
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Nicole Laino: So I think that's why a lot of people don't teach reading charts, because it's so difficult to generalize it.
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Nicole Laino: Because every chart is wildly different from the last one.
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Nicole Laino: Even if you think it looks the same, it's so different.
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Nicole Laino: And those differences come in these different themes.
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Nicole Laino: So somebody might have.
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Nicole Laino: They might have the same centers defined, but one's a triple split and one is a single definition.
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Nicole Laino: That's a very different expression of how those people are going to have a.
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Nicole Laino: In experience in life.
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Nicole Laino: I can almost guarantee that the triple split is going to have a little bit more of a difficult time processing and moving forward in a straight line.
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Nicole Laino: So the way that we guide these people is to give them ways to understand and work with the aspects that they have.
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Nicole Laino: And we ask questions.
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Nicole Laino: We don't just say, this is what you have.
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Nicole Laino: We ask questions and we work with them to.
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Nicole Laino: I would say my readings are very interactive because of that.
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Nicole Laino: I don't just.
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Nicole Laino: I always say, it's not the Nicole show.
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Nicole Laino: I'm not here to just talk to you and talk at you.
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Nicole Laino: I'm here to have a conversation and for this to be a back and forth so that I'm giving you the tools that you need to move forward from here.
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Nicole Laino: Because that's the goal, right?
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Nicole Laino: To move forward in greater alignment and greater ease.
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Nicole Laino: So all of this to say that seeing a chart is seeing, like, the life that somebody is leading through this chart.
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Nicole Laino: The chart wants to operate a certain way.
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Nicole Laino: Every chart has a certain expression to it.
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Nicole Laino: Every chart has a mission.
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Nicole Laino: And if you can't see that mission, then you're just telling people things that they probably heard in every other reading.
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Nicole Laino: This is how when people sit down with me and they do a reading and they're like, I've had readings before and it was nothing like that.
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Nicole Laino: This was so eye opening.
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Nicole Laino: I've had people cry because they feel so seen and they feel so moved.
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Nicole Laino: And then I can take that.
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Nicole Laino: You know, in business, by design, we start with business readings for everybody.
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Nicole Laino: So those business readings I sit in those readings and I give them the reading, and then it's like, okay, well, now I know how I'm guiding you.
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Nicole Laino: I give you.
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Nicole Laino: I kick you off with telling you that this is how we'll be guiding you.
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Nicole Laino: This is how we're working.
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Nicole Laino: This is the way you operate.
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Nicole Laino: These are the things we're focused on.
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Nicole Laino: And then in our coaching calls, I'm constantly bringing them back to that.
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Nicole Laino: So by the time we're done with a year, this is their new habit.
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Nicole Laino: They're operating correctly.
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Nicole Laino: And this is why people get real results with the way that I coach with this.
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Nicole Laino: This is the difference between having something like human design be like, a parlor trick and, like a cool thing and actually being able to help somebody guide their life through it.
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Nicole Laino: It's a very big difference.
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Nicole Laino: So this is.
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Nicole Laino: I wanted to do an episode on this because I know that there are so many people who are struggling with, okay, I got certified, but now what do I do?
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Nicole Laino: I took a course, but I don't feel equipped.
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Nicole Laino: I encourage you to learn how the chart speaks, learn how the chart moves, how energy moves through it, how to guide people with this and, you know, practice.
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Nicole Laino: And if you would like the guide, we have the coach's guide to Human Design, where I've kind of outlined a lot of these frameworks and the way that I think about coaching with human design.
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Nicole Laino: And then I actually gave you the guidance that I give by type for each of the five types.
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Nicole Laino: How I look at it, the different ways that I actually coach people to move with their design, which is different than a lot of what the textbooks say.
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Nicole Laino: So if you would like that guide, just DM me the word coach on Instagram.
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Nicole Laino: I'm icoleno, officially.
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Nicole Laino: Or go to nicolelaino.com coach and you can download it there on the website.
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Nicole Laino: Okay, thanks so much, everybody.
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Nicole Laino: You have a wonderful rest of your day.
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Nicole Laino: And remember, in order to have an unshakable business, you must first become an unshakable human.
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Nicole Laino: So thanks for letting us help you become unshakable with human design.
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Nicole Laino: We'll see you next time.
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