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The REAL reason why Narcissists CRY · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on, beautiful folks?
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  Today we're going to be talking about the real reason that
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  narcissists cry. Why are they crying?
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  Why it was behind it. If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock. I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  welcome to another episode of The Narcissist Code.
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  Boom boom boom boom boom boom boom boom boom.
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  Welcome back folks. Yes, that's one of the things
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  that's the question right there y'all.
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  What is going on in the mind of a narcissist when they are
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  crying like what? What the real reason they cry
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  there's? So let's get the obvious thing
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  out the way y'all. Let's this first firstly.
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  First off, let's get the obvious thing out of the way that
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  narcissist can actually cry for real.
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  That is true narcissist can't absolutely cry for real.
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  There are some narcissists out there that will absolutely show
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  their where they they wear their emotions on their sleeve and
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  they're vulnerable narcissist and they let the real tears
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  flow. They can let them flow.
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  They can let them flow. You know, they can really cry
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  because they're really hurt. They're really in pain, they're
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  really sad, right? Those are vulnerable narcissist.
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  They tend to be more covert, right?
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  The covert vulnerable narcissist does exist.
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  We're real people. I'm one of them, right?
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  But yeah, some narcissists can't absolutely cry.
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  But the real reason that most narcissists cry is because they
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  want to manipulate you. Lee, I've never saw my
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  narcissistic partner ever cry, even during childbirth, even
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  during this, even during that, they never ever cried.
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  They never ever would cry. Nothing.
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  They they never let a tear drop leak out of their face.
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  Nothing like I never saw. I never even saw them sniffle
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  one time. I thought I thought I saw a
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  tear. I thought I saw a tear coming
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  from the eye one time and it just sucked back into their eye
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  socket. I thought I saw a tear one time,
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  Lee. I could have sworn I saw a tear
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  and a tear looked at me and it ran back in head.
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  Yo, they cry to manipulate you. Let's be let's be real.
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  Look at, look at, look at when they are crying.
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  Like if you an empathetic person, you might cry at a
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  movie. You might cry when like your
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  high school graduation, you might cry when your kids go to,
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  you might cry at your kids. And my wife cried at my, my
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  son's kindergarten graduation. She's like boohoo crying.
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  I was like girl, like woman, you know me, I didn't cry.
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  I didn't cry. I didn't cry when my kids were
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  born. I didn't like, I love my kids.
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  I just didn't cry. You know, she was crying.
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  It's, it's, it's like you're an empathetic person.
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  You have compassion in your heart.
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  You can cry, right? You know how it feels to cry and
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  be emotional, be an emotional person.
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  The narcissistic people tend to not understand that, right?
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  So they use their tears as a weapon.
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  Weaponized tears are a real, absolutely a real thing.
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  They weaponize their tears against you.
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  They want to it's, it's, I'm not saying it's fun, but a lot of
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  narcissists absolutely like crying to get to see what they
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  can get from you. They'll they'll be crying.
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  They they like, look, look at when they cry, like they cry
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  when there's an opportunity or they cry when there's a benefit
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  to them, right? They cry when there's something
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  that could directly benefit them in that moment right there.
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  Or they like I know, I know I cheated on you.
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  I know I did. I can't explain why I did it,
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  but I did it over and over and over again and.
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  I just hate. Myself for it, I just hate
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  myself for cheating on you and the pain and I put you through.
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  Like the teardrop fall from their face.
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  It's like a movie. The teardrop falls in their
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  face, hits the ground and starts steaming or it sounds like a
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  like sound like a Sprite. There's not real tears, y'all.
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  Those are a Sprite. There's a Sierra mist.
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  There's a story coming from their face, right?
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  That's, that's literally what it is.
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  They, they're crying story. It's not real tears, y'all.
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  This is the type of stuff that they are absolutely doing to try
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  and manipulate you. They try to get over you, to try
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  to take advantage of you, to try to take advantage of whatever
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  opportunity has presented itself in this moment in time, like
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  opportunity for forgiveness, an opportunity to manipulate, an
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  opportunity to do something else.
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  They're crying because the opportunity, I can't even tell
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  they're crying because the opportunity has presented itself
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  and they're trying to get out of something.
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  Willie, are they crying because they hurt us?
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  No, they're not crying because they hurt you.
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  They're crying because they're probably going to get held
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  accountable for whatever has happened in this situation,
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  right? They're crying because they're
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  going to get held accountable. They're being held accountable.
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  Their life as they know it, their life as they see it right
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  now is probably about to go up, go down in flames.
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  What they, the thing, whatever they've been working on with you
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  is probably about to go up in smoke.
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  It just is. It really, really is that
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  whatever they've been working on with you is probably about to go
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  up in smoke right now. Like their life is about to be
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  over. They're about to lose some
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  money, lose a house, lose a lifestyle.
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  So they're crying over that. They're not crying because you
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  are hurt. No, they're not doing.
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  I'm not saying they did. Yeah, I'm not saying that they
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  don't, that they don't care. Crying like something.
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  This is the whole video point of video is saying that hey,
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  they're they're not crying because they hurt you, right?
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  They're crying because they got they got caught and their life
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  is ruined or whatever is going on in this situation.
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  They're not crying because you are in pain.
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  They're crying because they're getting held accountable for
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  whatever they have done to you, right?
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  That is the truth right there. Again, I said in the beginning
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  of the video, I said in the beginning that some narcissists
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  can cry for real. And I said that every single
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  narcissist is the same. There are some narcissists out
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  there that will let it flow. They will let, they don't let
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  those tears flow for real, right?
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  But a lot of narcissists don't. They don't cry.
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  They don't let anything look, they don't let anything out.
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  They don't let anything through the through through, through
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  that, through that. They don't let anything through
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  that veal. They kind of like they got a
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  damn arm. They have an armed guard
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  standing behind their tears, right?
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  They have an armed guard standing at the gate of their
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  eyeballs. And it just won't let them cry.
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  It won't let them get past whatever is going on.
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  It won't let them get over the current situation.
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  It really, really will not. So this is the situation, this
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  is the mindset, the mentality that you kind of go through that
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  you in these scenarios, in these situations that you have to deal
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  with, you have to understand like they used to do.
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  Do the tears work. Shout out shout out to the to
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  the girl on my Instagram. They repeated my repeated one of
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  my one of my phrases yesterday. I don't think she understood how
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  much that made me smile. She said, does it y'all know my
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  one of my one of my not famous sayings, but she said in Lee's
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  words, will this work for some? Yes, yes.
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  So will the tears work for some? Sometimes yes, for some people,
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  yes. So shout out to Dolly, Dolly
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  Britt, Dolly Britt Brett on on Instagram.
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  Y'all check her out or whatnot. That was super cool of her to
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  repeat online. I was like, yay.
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  It will work sometimes because you're not used to seeing them
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  cry. If they haven't cried at
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  childbirth, they haven't cried at a funeral.
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  They haven't cried, you know, when they lost a pet, they
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  haven't cried at movies. They never cried, but now
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  they're crying right because they cheated in their court.
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  They're crying right because they, they, they got, they, they
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  started smoking again. They told you they never would,
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  right? They're crying again because
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  they, they, they, so they're so worried about your feelings.
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  Oh, hell no. I know.
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  Hold on. Wait a minute.
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  I just realized y'all one-on-one on Thanksgiving.
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  Wait a minute. Just realized Thanksgiving this
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  Thursday. Got to cut that out real quick.
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  I just thought about that. Wait a minute.
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  One-on-one, one-on-one on Thanksgiving.
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  Needless to say, I'll be taking that day off.
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  Redo that one. But yes, there are a lot of
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  narcissistic people out there, y'all who will do it just like
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  this. They will hurt you, they will
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  harm you, They will do a lot of damage to you.
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  And then they'll cry about it, not because they hurt you, but
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  because their life or whatever is going on in this situation is
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  going up in smoke. Their life is as they know it
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  is. Going down is like going down.
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  Down, down, down, down, down, baby, you're shooting in the
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  rain. Zoom baby top around a minute
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  ago. But that's what's going on.
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  That's what happens. This is and this is what you
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  have to prepare for, y'all. This is preparation.
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  This is how things are going to go.
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  This is how people, this is how a lot of narcissists and toxic
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  people operate. This is how it goes.
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  So you have to prepare for this. Y'all, when they're crying in
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  front of you, don't fall for the tears because like, yeah, if
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  they're crying in front of you, right?
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  And you're not falling for the tears, like you're just staring
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  at them. Like like like they stare at you
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  when you cry. If you're just staring at them
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  the same way when they cry, they might they might turn around and
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  get mad at your eyes. Like are you really not caring
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  that I'm hurting? You'll see the anger come out of
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  them. You see them going from from
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  tears to anger all of a sudden, Like are you really not caring
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  that I'm hurting like this? You see the pain that I'm in,
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  You see how much I'm suffering? You see this, that's what
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  happens right there. That really is the premise of
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  everything that goes on. That really is the the scenario.
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  Like they will get angry if you don't fall for the tears and you
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  then that will show you that the tears were not real.
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  The tears are manipulation. The tears are starry, starry
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  tears, Sprite tears or whatever. I would say Mountain Dew, but
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  Mountain Dew got the little little color to it or whatever
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  it wouldn't it? The tears don't look like
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  Mountain Dew. They might quench your thirst
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  like a Mountain Dew, but it don't look like Mountain Dew.
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  This is one of the things I had to deal with.
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  So I would just say I, I would end by saying this y'all.
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  Just because they're crying doesn't mean that they are hurt.
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  Just because they're crying doesn't mean that they are sorry
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  or apologetic. Just because they're crying
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  doesn't mean that they will treat you better.
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  Just because they're crying right now doesn't mean that they
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  will be a better person or try to work on themselves.
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  That's not what it is. They're crying because they want
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  something from you or or they want you to stop doing something
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  to them. You're hurting me by talking to
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  me about it. Why do you keep bringing it up?
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  Why can't you? Just let this go.
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