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170 | Why Your Thoughts Matter More Than Strategy: Understanding the Law of Assumption · Your Money, Your Rules | Financial Mastery, Wealth Mindset, Leadership Principles, Intuitive Decision-Making, Human Design

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  Erin Gray: Today on the podcast, I want to talk about the power of assumption.
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  Erin Gray: This comes from the book by Neville Goddard, The Power of Awareness.
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  Erin Gray: And we're going to explore how what you assume is actually what you create in your business, in your marriage, with your children, with your money, with your health, basically your entire life.
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  Erin Gray: So let's dive in.
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  Erin Gray: Real quick, I wanted to add that I am hosting a workshop tomorrow, Tuesday, December 16th at 10 a.m.
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  Erin Gray: Mountain Standard Time.
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  Erin Gray: And it is going to be about how to have conversations with your spouse from a place of more love and more connection and compassion.
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  Erin Gray: I would love for you to join us.
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  Erin Gray: And if you want to come, you can just click the link to register in the show notes.
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  Erin Gray: So one of the very first things that I have my clients do when they come into my world is to develop awareness because without awareness, we can't make any changes.
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  Erin Gray: So awareness is always what I say, the first step to anything.
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  Erin Gray: And when I start to have them notice and increase their awareness, I have them do two things.
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  Erin Gray: One, to start paying attention to their language, because our language is so powerful.
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  Erin Gray: I know I've talked about this before, is that our language carries a frequency, it carries a vibration.
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  Erin Gray: When we speak things into the world, it we also our cells verberate that vibration.
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  Erin Gray: So when we say loving things to ourselves, our cells expand, our cells grow, our cells love that.
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  Erin Gray: When we speak poorly and condescending to ourselves, our cells also respond to that and they shrink.
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  Erin Gray: And, you know, that's I don't want to get into too far down the rabbit hole, but like there has been a YouTube video that a scientist did around like speaking to water and how when we spoke lovingly to water, how it made these beautiful droplets and and all this kind of, I think he like froze the water, but you could see like beautifulness of the water.
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  Erin Gray: But then when you spoke poorly to it, what actually happened to the water?
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  Erin Gray: And so our bodies are made up of water.
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  Erin Gray: And you know, you can do this with plants, like you can play with this in all the different realms.
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  Erin Gray: But like when you speak things from a loving and expansive, empowering way, your body receives that and you are moving from a very empowered place.
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  Erin Gray: When you speak, like I said, condescending and not kindly to yourself or about anyone else, like, you know, the law of attraction or vibration is like what you put out is what you get back.
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  Erin Gray: So first and foremost, start to notice what your language is like.
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  Erin Gray: Second is your assumptions.
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  Erin Gray: You know, most of us are assuming the worst.
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  Erin Gray: We're expecting when's the shoe gonna drop.
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  Erin Gray: Like you don't think it's gonna happen.
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  Erin Gray: We have so much doubt and fear for ourselves while not really hoping for the best, right?
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  Erin Gray: Because when we hope, when we hope for the best, when we assume the best, when we know the best is on its way, we aren't sitting here in doubt.
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  Erin Gray: And so it doesn't work like that in the world of like, oh, we are moving, you know, from an assumption of the shoe is gonna drop and then, you know, wonderful things are going to come our way.
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  Erin Gray: And Neville writes in the book that a man's chief delusion is his conviction that there are causes other than his own state of consciousness.
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  Erin Gray: So we keep looking outside of ourselves.
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  Erin Gray: We've been taught as a society in in schools, in you know, parents, caregivers, all the things culturally, right?
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  Erin Gray: That, oh, look outside of yourself for the answer, look outside of yourself for the power versus recognizing that the power is already within each of us.
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  Erin Gray: You know, we can change anything that we want in our life.
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  Erin Gray: And it begins in the mind first, in the consciousness that we exhibit first.
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  Erin Gray: And we have to want something different.
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  Erin Gray: That's what Neville starts with.
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  Erin Gray: We have to desire something different.
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  Erin Gray: And I think that that is a true first step.
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  Erin Gray: The first step is wanting and desiring something different.
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  Erin Gray: But I think it goes even deeper than this is like you have to be willing, right?
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  Erin Gray: Wanting is like sitting there hoping, desiring for something different.
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  Erin Gray: Willing is I'm willing to take action to be something different.
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  Erin Gray: You know, people always ask me when they interview me on podcasts, you know, what type of client do you love to work with?
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  Erin Gray: And obviously, someone, you know, who wants to change their relationship with money and expand their life and have fun.
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  Erin Gray: But the thing that I always come back to is they have to be willing.
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  Erin Gray: You know, wanting and willing are two very different things.
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  Erin Gray: You can want and desire to change all day long.
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  Erin Gray: I've had clients like that.
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  Erin Gray: I've had people in my life like that, have had friends like that.
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  Erin Gray: You can want and desire, but if you're not willing to feel the discomfort or doing something outside of your comfort zone or your current identity, wanting does not get you very far.
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  Erin Gray: Desire is the first step and willingness is the second.
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  Erin Gray: So Neville goes on to say that in order to make your future dream a present fact, you actually must live in the assumption of the wish fulfilled, meaning that you must be living from the feeling of the outcome that you desire, not from the feeling of where you are and what you are observing in your 3D world, because that is just going to create more of the same.
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  Erin Gray: So think about what you desire in your business right now.
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  Erin Gray: Are you moving from gratitude?
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  Erin Gray: Are you moving from expectation?
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  Erin Gray: Or are you moving from lack and it's taking too long and pressure?
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  Erin Gray: What kind of energy are you moving from?
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  Erin Gray: Because that is not moving.
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  Erin Gray: If you are moving from lack or it's taking too long or, you know, pressure, that is not moving from the energy of the wish fulfilled, right?
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  Erin Gray: Because if you already had what you wanted, there would be no pressure.
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  Erin Gray: You would just be in complete gratitude, and then you would be looking at the next thing that you would be wanting and moving towards.
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  Erin Gray: So let's actually bring this into the body because I think we can understand this from an intellectual standpoint.
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  Erin Gray: But actually, like where we actually make changes is when we take it into the body, we embody this and we move and we take action from this place.
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  Erin Gray: So if you assumed and you knew that your business was going to grow year over year, what different choices would you be making?
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  Erin Gray: What would you outsource?
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  Erin Gray: How much time would you spend as a CEO instead of more of the employee role?
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  Erin Gray: Would you plan ahead with confidence and trust?
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  Erin Gray: Would you be thinking more in the five year, ten year, like you've already accomplished what you wanted already, you know, next year?
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  Erin Gray: So what would you be thinking about?
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  Erin Gray: You would be thinking more vision casting, thinking about years to come.
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  Erin Gray: Because what I see in most women is we are not moving from the assumption.
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  Erin Gray: We're actually moving from the lack of assumption, or we're moving from doubt or worry or fear.
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  Erin Gray: You know, things like I don't know, like you can start there.
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  Erin Gray: As soon as you say, I don't know, that isn't moving from the assumption.
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  Erin Gray: I don't know if my income is going to increase, so I'm not going to hire any help, or I'm going to wait to hire, right?
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  Erin Gray: I don't know if this investment's going to pay off, so I might wait.
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  Erin Gray: Think about anytime that you are waiting, you are not moving from certainty.
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  Erin Gray: Now, obviously, this is nuanced.
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  Erin Gray: Like when I have heard my intuition and I am sitting with it and riding my wave, but my intuition says yes, but I'm getting to a neutral point in my body.
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  Erin Gray: That isn't waiting.
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  Erin Gray: That is riding my wave.
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  Erin Gray: But once I have ridden my wave and it feels neutral in my body, I go.
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  Erin Gray: So really, really decipher and see like where does this apply to you?
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  Erin Gray: Where are you waiting?
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  Erin Gray: Where are you hoping?
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  Erin Gray: Where are you?
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  Erin Gray: Oh, maybe next month or next year, versus where have you said yes to something?
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  Erin Gray: And you're literally just allowing yourself to sink into the decision, and then you're going to move from certainty instead of hesitancy.
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  Erin Gray: So if you, you know, I hear a lot of women say things like, I don't know if I'm going to make my money back.
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  Erin Gray: So I'm not going to invest, you know, in this, you know, say employee or this mentor or course or whatever it might be.
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  Erin Gray: And I want you to really think about this because one of the things that I encourage everyone to recognize is we are our best investment.
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  Erin Gray: I have a belief now, didn't always, but I always make my money back.
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  Erin Gray: Like I am my best investment because I have total control over my mind, my thoughts, my feelings, what I want to do and what I like actions I want to take.
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  Erin Gray: I don't have control over the stock market.
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  Erin Gray: I don't know when fear is going to be imposed in the stock market and things are going to change.
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  Erin Gray: I have no control over things like that.
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  Erin Gray: I don't have any control over anybody else's business.
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  Erin Gray: So when you really think about like you are the one that is in control, you are in the driver's seat.
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  Erin Gray: You have total power of making it an investment back.
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  Erin Gray: So why wouldn't you just bet on yourself and assume that that's what's going to happen?
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  Erin Gray: So when you are moving from that place of like, I don't know, that's the energy of uncertainty and doubt and not the energy of knowing.
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  Erin Gray: Neville shares this metaphor in the book that just as the moth in his desire to know the flame was willing to destroy himself, so must you in becoming a new version and a new person, being willing to die to your present self.
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  Erin Gray: And I think this is something that we don't talk a lot about or enough about is the grief that actually comes with evolution.
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  Erin Gray: You know, we imagine this idea, like we a lot of times we want to just imagine all of the, when I say good, I don't believe there's good or bad, but like just imagine all the rainbows and the daisies and the expansion.
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  Erin Gray: But often there are parts of us that actually don't want to let go because those are the parts that feel familiar.
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  Erin Gray: They feel safe, they feel protective for us, right?
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  Erin Gray: And we need to honor that.
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  Erin Gray: We need to thank those parts of us that got us here and still be willing to move into the next version of ourselves.
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  Erin Gray: Neville writes that to incarnate a new and greater value of yourself, you must assume that you already are what you want to be, and then live by faith in that assumption, which is not yet incarnate in the body of your life, meaning that it's not yet showing up in the 3D world.
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  Erin Gray: I had a client the other day where we were discussing this and kind of diving deeper, because I think a lot of times people might get this at an intellectual level, but we don't actually embody it and take action from this place.
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  Erin Gray: You know, in order to bridge the gap, in order to move and to collapse time and your reality of what you see in your mind to what you actually experience and what you're observing with your senses in the 3D world, you have to stay in your imagination and basically ignore your 3D worlds.
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  Erin Gray: And you have to continue to live in the vibration and the feeling of what you are thinking and seeing in your imagination.
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  Erin Gray: I think the strongest muscle that we have to build is to hold that vision, even when our 3D world didn't match our imagination.
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  Erin Gray: You know, not, I don't, this feels too strong of a word, but like not falling prey to the 3D world or like not allowing our mind or to allow our mind to run the show that that we're observing the 3D world, to know that if we can see it in our mind, we can feel that feeling of the wish fulfilled and multiple feelings, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like if you had what you wanted already, you would feel gratitude, you would feel love, you would feel peacefulness, you would feel, you know, proud and successful and satisfied.
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  Erin Gray: So think about what are those feelings, and not just going to be one feeling, but you know, thinking about those feelings on a consistent basis and not just thinking.
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  Erin Gray: When I say thinking about them, what I mean is what would be those feelings and then actually feeling them in your body on a consistent basis, you know, and then taking action from that place until it shows up in the 3D world, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like not giving up on yourself, not being, not being attached to time, not being attached to how, but just knowing that it is done and that you are living from that place in complete love and gratitude and appreciation for having created what you wanted.
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  Erin Gray: I'll give you an example for my car.
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  Erin Gray: You know, I had ordered one originally and then for whatever reason it fell through, which was a blessing because I ended up deciding that I wanted a different model.
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  Erin Gray: And so as I said, okay, I want to purchase this one instead, you know, the the sales rep, my husband, my daughter were a little bit like, they're not making those.
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  Erin Gray: And you're gonna be six to six to nine months out.
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  Erin Gray: And I'm like, I am not listening to anything either of all three of you are saying.
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  Erin Gray: It was more so the sales rep.
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  Erin Gray: And, you know, my husband had made a comment about like, well, maybe you get a different car in the meantime.
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  Erin Gray: And I was like, no, that's not what I want.
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  Erin Gray: I want this car.
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  Erin Gray: I know that I see it in my mind and I know that I will have it.
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  Erin Gray: So whether they believe it or not, just because it isn't in the 3D world, I know that it is in my mind and I know that it is on its way to me.
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  Erin Gray: And so it just so happened that probably a couple of weeks later, he called and said, Hey, I've got this car for you.
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  Erin Gray: You want to come drive it?
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  Erin Gray: And when I when after we purchased it, what I found out was I said, Hey, how did this car come about?
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  Erin Gray: Because, you know, like the story he was telling himself was that there were no cars, they weren't going to be made.
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  Erin Gray: I was gonna have to order and be in line for six to nine months.
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  Erin Gray: And he said, A deal fell through.
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  Erin Gray: And after that deal fell through, I called you.
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  Erin Gray: And so what would it have been like if I would have compromised, if I would have been like, okay, I'll just get a different car, right?
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  Erin Gray: Like, how much of what we don't experience in our life is actually because we change our mind, because we are the ones that stray off of what we actually want.
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  Erin Gray: Because, and I've done this so many times.
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  Erin Gray: Oh, well, this will do over what I really want.
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  Erin Gray: No, stay the course, hold the vision, keep moving from that place, expect that it is already on its way to you.
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  Erin Gray: So, the other thing that I wanted to mention that Neville mentions in his book is that he talks about how that nature does not possess imagination.
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  Erin Gray: We do.
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  Erin Gray: This is where I think that we are so precious and so brilliant.
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  Erin Gray: Our imagination, it is the instrument by which we create our world.
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  Erin Gray: Imagination is the redemptive power in the universe.
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  Erin Gray: So I want to leave you with a couple of questions today.
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  Erin Gray: I want you to think about how often are you living from your imagination instead of your memory in the past?
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  Erin Gray: How often are you feeling the feelings you would feel if you already had what you desired?
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  Erin Gray: How often are you moving from certainty?
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  Erin Gray: Notice where you are already doing this in your life because that's another thing I love to share with my clients.
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  Erin Gray: We already know how to do this.
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  Erin Gray: It's not like I'm teaching you to do anything else.
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  Erin Gray: I'm helping you remember who you already are and you already are doing this, and already, this is already part of who you are.
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  Erin Gray: You just may not be doing it in some of the areas of your life.
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  Erin Gray: So notice where you're already doing it in your one area of your life.
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  Erin Gray: And then what I always say to clients is just move it to the area that you're not as practiced in.
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  Erin Gray: That's all that we're gonna do.
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  Erin Gray: How often are you assuming your favorite outcome instead of bracing for the worst?
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  Erin Gray: And then think about who you might you return home to be if you are willing to hold the assumption of your wish fulfilled.
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  Erin Gray: Okay, that's all I have for you today.
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  Erin Gray: I love you.
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  Erin Gray: I'm rooting for you, and I'll see you in the next episode.