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- 0:32Speaker: Today we're gonna be talking about something that quietly shapes and affects your relationships more than anything else, and that is when you as a woman get into too much masculine energy around.
- 0:46Speaker: Men, not because anything is wrong with you.
- 0:49Speaker: Let's be clear, nothing is wrong with you, but because at some point you learned that being in masculine energy as a woman felt safer than being in feminine energy.
- 1:00Speaker: And the truth is that most women don't even realize what's happening.
- 1:04Speaker: For most women, this is actually a very innocent mistake, especially those of.
- 1:08Speaker: Women who grew up in Western societies, what they do know is that they just feel tired all the time.
- 1:15Speaker: Their hormones are a mess.
- 1:17Speaker: They feel disconnected from their bodies, or they feel like they're doing everything without actually getting what it is that they desire.
- 1:24Speaker: These are the women that I call the awakening.
- 1:27Speaker: Warrior where everything feels like an effort and a fight.
- 1:30Speaker: And you may also be noticing that if you're in this energy and you're dating and you're single, you tend to attract more passive men.
- 1:37Speaker: Or perhaps if you're already married or you've been in a relationship for a long time, then your husband starts to become, uh, passive.
- 1:44Speaker: So in this video, we're gonna be talking about how to bring awareness to this, how it affects relationships.
- 1:50Speaker: And how to shift it so that you can start moving more into feminine energy and start experiencing more ease and flow.
- 1:57Speaker: In your relationships.
- 1:59Speaker: Hi, my name is Amanda.
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- 2:22Speaker: There's too many women out here right now who are running around ragged.
- 2:26Speaker: Stressed in lackluster relationships burning the candle at both ends, their hormones are a mess.
- 2:32Speaker: Autoimmune diseases, I mean it, it's crazy what's going on out here with women right now and we're on a mission to help women start coming back to that healthy, empowered feminine energy.
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- 2:47Speaker: And if you are new to this conversation about feminine energy, I do have a free resource for you.
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- 3:33Speaker: So let's go into what it actually means.
- 3:36Speaker: Let's ground this.
- 3:37Speaker: Let's bring this back to planet Earth.
- 3:40Speaker: Before we get into the signs, we first have to understand what masculine energy is in women, why women tend to go overboard in masculine energy, and how it starts to show up.
- 3:50Speaker: So first and foremost, masculine energy is not bad.
- 3:54Speaker: You need it.
- 3:55Speaker: Okay.
- 3:55Speaker: You need it to get around in daily life.
- 3:57Speaker: If you have children, you need it to, you know, organize the kids and organize their schedules.
- 4:02Speaker: If you're running a household, you need it to a certain degree.
- 4:05Speaker: If you're in business or your career, obviously you need it to a certain degree.
- 4:09Speaker: It's powerful.
- 4:10Speaker: It creates a lot of structure.
- 4:12Speaker: Direction and movement.
- 4:14Speaker: The problem is that it doesn't work in romantic dynamics, and I would actually venture to say that it also kind of doesn't work, um, in business.
- 4:23Speaker: And I have a lot to say about that because if you know my story and how this process even started and how I really started to embrace feminine energy in my own life.
- 4:33Speaker: Then basically what happened is I was one of the hyper independent women for 15 years, had an almost seven figure business.
- 4:40Speaker: Uh, but I was running myself into the ground.
- 4:42Speaker: I wasn't fully supported.
- 4:43Speaker: Making money was way harder than it is now.
- 4:45Speaker: Um, I was perpetually single or I would invite more passive men.
- 4:49Speaker: Into my life and my hormones were a disaster for a decade.
- 4:52Speaker: I mean, I had all kinds of issues with my hormones and my thyroid and all that kind of stuff to in 18 months, um, basically losing everything, having a huge spiritual awakening where I had to go through a lot of deep internal healing, shadow walking and ancestral healing, you name it, and really returning to this feminine energy.
- 5:11Speaker: Was the solution to that.
- 5:13Speaker: And within four months, I manifested my masculine provider husband.
- 5:17Speaker: I started getting new creative ideas, like projects like this where I would bring in some of the masculine energy stuff I had learned before, but with a twist because again, it's not bad.
- 5:28Speaker: You just have to be mindful of not going overboard.
- 5:31Speaker: Like I was before you.
- 5:33Speaker: I also end up manifesting, moving to another country.
- 5:36Speaker: I was born and raised in the United States.
- 5:38Speaker: I'm currently in Mexico, um, and I had always wanted to live in other countries.
- 5:43Speaker: Finally made it happen within 18 months, and in addition to that, I was able to heal my hormones completely naturally.
- 5:49Speaker: Completely, naturally, I have no issues anymore after having them for over 10 years.
- 5:54Speaker: And what happened was I had gone overboard into my masculine energy.
- 5:58Speaker: I had become what I call the awakening warrior.
- 6:01Speaker: This is the woman who learns that at, at a young age.
- 6:04Speaker: Hey, my life is my responsibility.
- 6:07Speaker: Um.
- 6:07Speaker: And I'm the one in control of everything, which is great because at least you're not a perpetual victim like the wounded Maiden.
- 6:15Speaker: But a lot of it still comes from survival mode.
- 6:18Speaker: A lot of it still comes from not being good enough.
- 6:20Speaker: A lot of it is just conditioning that we get in society.
- 6:23Speaker: A lot of women are being told that certain things are okay that are absolutely not okay and puts them in a dangerous situation or puts their children.
- 6:32Speaker: Dangerous situations, but particularly in the United States, like we live in a society where people get coddled a lot.
- 6:38Speaker: And then that's caused a lot of confusion when it comes to masculine and feminine energy.
- 6:42Speaker: Um, and a lot of women are out here finding themselves in full on survival mode and just going way to far.
- 6:49Speaker: Um, and again, there's a big giant mix of reasons why this happens.
- 6:55Speaker: So the problem is that in romantic dynamics.
- 6:58Speaker: And also money because men and money aren't that different.
- 7:01Speaker: When you're constantly in masculine energy, you're no longer allowing polarity to exist.
- 7:07Speaker: You have to effort all the time.
- 7:09Speaker: So what is polarity?
- 7:11Speaker: Polarity is what actually creates attraction between.
- 7:14Speaker: Men and women, it's connection, it's desire.
- 7:18Speaker: And the feminine is in the receivership position because she's the attractive one, like bees to pollen like that.
- 7:25Speaker: That's kind, the flour is very attractive to the bee, for example.
- 7:29Speaker: Or if you look at, you know, how babies are made, you know, the, the, we just like, we're just there, like our organs are just there doing their thing and it's a sperm that has to go to the egg.
- 7:41Speaker: The egg's not moving around, it's just there.
- 7:43Speaker: So we already see it in our bodies and in nature and how this works.
- 7:47Speaker: But we as humans have a tendency of forgetting that we are a part of nature.
- 7:53Speaker: We do have more consciousness than animals in nature, but we are still a huge part of it.
- 7:58Speaker: And we have a tendency of forgetting that because we have a tendency of over intellectualizing everything.
- 8:03Speaker: So the feminine, a woman who's in.
- 8:05Speaker: Feminine energy.
- 8:06Speaker: She learns to receive.
- 8:08Speaker: She feels, uh, safe.
- 8:10Speaker: She feels open.
- 8:11Speaker: She knows how to feel her emotions.
- 8:12Speaker: She knows how to feel her body.
- 8:14Speaker: So when you find yourself doing the opposite of these things, as most women these days are, then that's, that's when things start to feel really off.
- 8:23Speaker: That's when.
- 8:24Speaker: You start to feel like you have to control everything.
- 8:26Speaker: That's when you attract more passive men.
- 8:29Speaker: That's when perhaps the partner you've been with for a long time starts to become more passive.
- 8:33Speaker: That's when making money.
- 8:34Speaker: Everything becomes about achievement.
- 8:36Speaker: You become an achievement addict and making money becomes difficult.
- 8:40Speaker: Let me tell you something about the money, making money when I'm in feminine energy.
- 8:44Speaker: So much easier than it was when I was in overdrive in my masculine energy, and I was quite successful when I was in overdrive of my masculine energy.
- 9:53Speaker: I had an almost seven figure business, but as you heard in the story, it was coming at a huge cost.
- 9:57Speaker: Now, my husband, obviously is the provider, so there's constantly money coming in from his business and all the ways in which he makes money, and then I start getting creative ideas and I start doing YouTube channels like this, and then money starts to come in passively.
- 10:12Speaker: I never had passive income.
- 10:14Speaker: In my previous businesses, because I was in that overly masculine energy where I always had two effort, I always had to grind.
- 10:22Speaker: So that's a big part of what you may be experiencing.
- 10:25Speaker: So let's go into the signs that you may be in overdrive in your masculine energy, particularly in your relationships.
- 10:33Speaker: So sign number one is that you feel like you have to control the outcome.
- 10:37Speaker: Control is huge.
- 10:39Speaker: It's huge.
- 10:40Speaker: And it's also very subtle, which is why it's very confusing.
- 10:43Speaker: But control and wanting to control everything shows up in overthinking, planning everything, overanalyzing everything.
- 10:51Speaker: Trying to make sure that things go a certain way.
- 10:54Speaker: Always jumping in to solve other people's problems because you're overly responsible.
- 10:58Speaker: And what happens is you are no longer in the moment, you are no longer enjoying the present moment you are in your head.
- 11:06Speaker: Managing your experiences, you're in your head trying to manipulate your reality.
- 11:11Speaker: Now, maybe you're wondering.
- 11:13Speaker: Where's this going?
- 11:14Speaker: What does he mean by that?
- 11:15Speaker: Oh, he told me this two years ago and I haven't heard from him ever since, but I'm still replaying the conversation in my head.
- 11:21Speaker: How do I respond so that I don't mess up?
- 11:24Speaker: Or maybe it shows up in you replaying a conversation over and over and over again.
- 11:27Speaker: You're like ruminating and.
- 11:29Speaker: Circling the drain in your brain.
- 11:31Speaker: That is not presence, that is not feminine presence, that is control.
- 11:36Speaker: And one of the things that women, especially those of us who've been in that awakening warrior stage, and we were there for a very long time as I was, we have to learn to let go and surrender and release control, and control is a masculine response to feeling unsafe.
- 11:53Speaker: In women, right?
- 11:54Speaker: Control in men is actually healthy because they're the protectors and the providers.
- 11:58Speaker: Where it's not healthy in men is when they go into dominating over other people, but some level of control is healthy.
- 12:05Speaker: In women, a lot of times that desire, that need to control everything and manipulate everything is a masculine response to, for some reason feeling unsafe.
- 12:16Speaker: That's why I call her the Awakening Warrior because she's always like this.
- 12:18Speaker: She's ready.
- 12:19Speaker: She's ready to go.
- 12:20Speaker: She's in fight or flight all the time.
- 12:24Speaker: And when you start learning how to release control and release the outcomes, I promise you ladies,'cause I have gotten better about this.
- 12:30Speaker: My husband and I were actually talking about this last week.
- 12:33Speaker: I was like, I've chilled out a lot.
- 12:34Speaker: Haven't I?
- 12:35Speaker: Right.
- 12:35Speaker: In the last few years.
- 12:36Speaker: He goes, yeah, you've, you've chilled out a lot.
- 12:39Speaker: You've definitely learned to.
- 12:41Speaker: Be more present and not jump in and want to solve things all the time.
- 12:45Speaker: You've let just kind of things start learning how to flow.
- 12:49Speaker: Um, so when you start to do that, I promise you a lot of things that you think are problems just kind of resolve themselves.
- 12:57Speaker: You'll be amazed at how that happens, but in the beginning, it's going to be very difficult and very scary because you've always had to control in order to survive or to feel safe.
- 13:09Speaker: So for those of you who wanna go deeper into that, I highly recommend checking out our magnetic Woman transformation bundle because we talk a lot about surrender, releasing control, and we talk a lot about nervous system.
- 13:22Speaker: Regulation and learning how to heal those wounds that get triggered, that could that trigger the control in you.
- 13:28Speaker: And this week, because it's my birthday, you can get 30% off that program and any of my programs using the code B Day 30, you can find all the links below.
- 13:38The next sign is that you struggle to receive.
- 13:41This is huge.
- 13:41I'm doing a whole video just on receiving, so make sure to subscribe and hit the notification bell so you don't miss this one.
- 13:48'cause it's that big.
- 13:50So what this looks like is he offers to help and you say, it's okay, I've got it.
- 13:54It looks like he gives you a compliment and you deflect it.
- 13:57He gives you a gift, God forbid, and you immediately feel like you have to return the favor.
- 14:01He tries to show up for you and you minimize it.
- 14:04And that's not independence.
- 14:06That's a nervous system that doesn't feel safe receiving from anybody around them, whether it's support, love, money, et cetera.
- 14:13It's all related.
- 14:15And here's the truth.
- 14:15A feminine woman, a woman who's in her feminine energy, she doesn't always feel like she has to.
- 14:21Immediately reciprocate something that comes from a feeling of guilt and a feeling of not being good enough and not feeling safe.
- 14:28That's what that behavior is rooted in at the end of the day, and I know that many of you were taught growing up not to receive anything from anybody because they're always gonna want something back, but a healthy masculine provider man wants to give to the woman who knows how to receive that is how.
- 14:45Polarity works.
- 14:47Um, and again, a lot of the stories that you guys were told were also rooted in survival and safety, but it's not necessarily how energetics.
- 14:55Works in relationships.
- 14:57Sign number four is you feel responsible for everything and everyone you feel responsible for his emotions, the connection where things are going.
- 15:06You're constantly adjusting yourself in order to make things work with this guy.
- 15:11Uh, trying to be easier, trying to be less emotional, trying to be more chill, trying to be more laid back.
- 15:17But in doing that, you actually abandon your natural expression.
- 15:22You also oftentimes end up abandoning your boundaries when you're trying to be, or your values when you're try and be like the cool chill one.
- 15:30And the feminine has never been the one who was supposed to carry the relationship.
- 15:36She was the one meant to experience the relationship.
- 15:40She was the one meant to.
- 15:41Experience, uh, providership.
- 15:43She was the one meant to experience provision and protection and all those kinds of things.
- 15:48It's usually the masculine who's responsible for giving it form and moving forward.
- 15:53I will tell you something, this is the damn truth.
- 15:56I've asked a lot of healthy men about this, and they've all told me the same thing, and it's a great example.
- 16:01It doesn't take them that long to figure out whether or not they wanna marry a woman.
- 16:05It doesn't take them long at all.
- 16:06I'm talking like 90 days to six months.
- 16:08They know.
- 16:09They know whether or not they wanna marry you, and they will make it known where the relationship is going.
- 16:14I never had to wonder with my husband where the relationship was going, not once he made his intentions for the relationship known from the beginning, and every time it was advancing again, he would make it known again.
- 16:29What his intentions were.
- 16:31So if you are in the feminine energy position, that is how masculine men are going to respond to you.
- 16:37They will let you know the stage of the relationship and where things are going.
- 16:41A lot of times what happens is that women, because they get anxiety, because they hook, get hooked on one man.
- 16:47Because their anxiousness takes over or they start to feel unsafe.
- 16:51They're the ones trying to manipulate the situation.
- 16:53But when you start trying to manipulate, you go into the masculine pole, and a healthy masculine man is not going to be attracted to that.
- 17:00The men who are attracted to that are men who take advantage of you, passive men.
- 17:04Men who want a mommy, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
- 17:08So sign number five is that you do not feel safe to soften or even slow down.
- 17:14And this is the root of all of it, because when a woman feels truly safe, her body softens, she relaxes, she opens, she becomes receptive.
- 17:24I'm not gonna say who, but some of you have sent emails about how you are in.
- 17:28Uh, relations of those kinds in the biblical sense, let's put it that way.
- 17:32And you feel nothing.
- 17:33You feel absolutely nothing and your body's tightening up and cramping up and you're like, girl, I can't have an orgasm.
- 17:39What is going on here?
- 17:40It's because your body is not relaxed and open, right?
- 17:43It's not actually a receptive, and you may not feel safe to soften.
- 17:47A lot of women don't.
- 17:49So this is just a conscious practice.
- 17:51Um.
- 17:52That we have to go through over time.
- 17:54I know I didn't, I didn't feel safe in my body for a very long time because I was taught that men were always going to take advantage of me or treat me poorly, or always had to be hyper independent.
- 18:04I got a lot of the same stories many of y'all did, and I was in fight or flight for a very long time that I too could not feel my body for a very long time, or my body was extremely tight, which I actually have a tip for those of you who wanna.
- 18:18Loosen yourselves up down there so you can start feeling some things again.
- 18:22Uh, lately I've been doing a lot of, something that helped me a ton actually was belly dancing classes because the belly dancing classes, um, blood starts to flow to the pelvis and you start to loosen up down there.
- 18:33So pro tip belly dancing classes, you can find a bunch of free ones.
- 18:37Um.
- 18:38On YouTube.
- 18:38But going back to the point here, when you always feel like you have to be on or protect yourself or in fight or flight because you don't feel safe to soften and be in your own body, you can't fully let go and your system stays in protection mode and tightens up.
- 18:55And protection mode always leans masculine because the masculine, um, is the protector.
- 19:02So here's how we start to reframe this, right?
- 19:04Because some of you may be noticing this and you're like, oh God, that's me, that's me, that's me, that's me.
- 19:10I've been all of these by the way.
- 19:12And if you haven't checked it out, make sure to check out my video on, um, feminine Energy Micro habits because it'll start helping you.
- 19:20Um, really start.
- 19:23Rewiring your body and your nervous system and your mind.
- 19:26So I'll make sure to leave it below.
- 19:28But basically, if you saw yourself in any of this, I want you to hear something very clearly.
- 19:32There's absolutely nothing wrong with you.
- 19:34There's nothing wrong with you at all.
- 19:36This is not a personality flaw.
- 19:38Um, it's just a pattern that you learned.
- 19:40It's a pattern that your body learned, a pattern that your mind learned.
- 19:44It's an energetic imprint that you have, and at some point in your life, being in control.
- 19:50Felt safer than being open.
- 19:52I'll use myself as an, as an example, immigrant family.
- 19:56I know at least three generations back on each side controlling hyper independent women because they were forced into survival through different situations, whether it was becoming widowed or um, a revolution happening in the country and them losing everything and having to flee and having to start over in two different countries.
- 20:13I get it.
- 20:14I understand for some of us it's literally just learned behavior that we got from.
- 20:18The women in our families.
- 20:20So for me, I learned at a very young age that I always had to be in control because the shoe was always gonna drop.
- 20:26Or I got messages about men that they're dangerous, so on and so forth from the women in my family.
- 20:32And at some point, being in control felt safer than actually receiving.
- 20:37And then your, your system adapted to that.
- 20:40So there's nothing wrong with you.
- 20:41The good news is that we can.
- 20:43Adapted in the other direction so this is where most people get it wrong.
- 20:47They think that the answer is to act more feminine.
- 20:50So they'll do a lot of stuff on the outside, right?
- 20:52They'll stop texting first.
- 20:53They'll learn to lean back.
- 20:54Uh, they'll learn to follow the rules to put it that way.
- 20:58Uh, but the feminine energy becomes very performative because nothing's been done on the inside.
- 21:03Um, and when nothing's been done on the inside, you're basically just cosplaying femininity, because femininity is actually a state.
- 21:11And when you learn this about yourself and you learn to regulate your nervous system, you learn how to be more present.
- 21:16You learn how to do the inner work of feminine energy.
- 21:19You start to regulate your reality.
- 21:21Your body starts to feel safer.
- 21:23You naturally soften, you naturally receive.
- 21:26Um, and it doesn't feel like such a struggle.
- 21:28It starts to feel a lot easier over time.
- 21:30As you expand and expand and expand even more into your feminine energy, you will even naturally stop over functioning over time because you start to realize that there's absolutely nothing to force and nothing to control, and that you are safe.
- 21:44And it turn, it starts with a feeling of internal safety, inner safety, and self trusts.
- 21:49So the real invitation isn't how do I do this, right?
- 21:53How do I do feminine energy, right?
- 21:54How do I act this way to get a man to act that way?
- 21:57It's Where am I still holding on because I don't feel safe to let go.
- 22:01That is the deep inner work, and that is where your power lies because as I've said oftentimes on this channel, ease is the new edge.
- 22:09Okay?
- 22:09We're all looking for ease because we're all running around completely.
- 22:13Fragmented and frazzled in our energy around all over the place.
- 22:17And the more that you start to come back into your body, the more everything that you've been trying to control starts to move toward you.
- 22:25I saw this with my husband.
- 22:26I saw it with moving abroad.
- 22:28I saw it with business.
- 22:29I saw it with my hormones and my health.
- 22:31All these problems that I've been trying to solve for a very long time suddenly all started coming to me.
- 22:37They started coming to me very quickly, and if you wanna learn more about that particular process, then definitely make sure to check out our Hustle to Harmony Masterclass, which again is 30% off this week for my birthday.
- 22:48You can use the code B Day 30, but that's where I go into my four step process for regulating your nervous system that allowed me to be in this state.
- 22:57Um, where I was in the, like literally when I filmed that and I taught that, I was in the process of all these changes starting to come to me and I was like, oh.
- 23:06So when I regulate myself and I get into feminine energy, I don't have to go solve all these problems.
- 23:12All my desires start coming to me.
- 23:14So hustle to harmony is where you will learn more about that because I go deeper into that process, and you can find the link for that below.
- 23:21So if this opened something in you, then stay with that feeling.
- 23:25Stay with the feeling, learn to feel.
- 23:28And if you're ready to go deeper into this work.
- 23:30All of our courses and trainings are 30% off this week for my birthday, just use the code B Day 30.
- 23:36The ones that I would recommend for this particular video are the Magnetic Woman Transformation Bundle, which is one of our best sellers.
- 23:43It goes a lot into nervous system regulation, core wounds, feminine energy, surrender, letting go.
- 23:49There's so much in there, it's so juicy.
- 23:51So that's definitely one.
- 23:52And the other one, as I mentioned, is the Hustle to Harmony Masterclass that's more of a manifestation one.
- 23:57So regulating your nervous systems to start manifesting what it is that you desire.
- 24:01But all of our courses and trainings this week, whether it's relationships manifesting or feminine business, or 30% off with the code be day 30 in celebration of my.
- 24:12Birthday, so consider that your invitation to go to the next level with me, because that's where everything begins to change.
- 24:20It's not because you do more, it's because you finally allowed yourself to receive.
- 24:24So allow yourself to receive a little birthday discount on me.
- 24:29Thank you so much for giving me your time today, and I will catch you on the next one.