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A lesson from Aunt Irene · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let me ask you a question. How many times do you have a
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  thought, or a feeling on something?
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  And before you actually Express that thought, or that feeling on
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  something, you filter it and something else comes out of your
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  mouth and this can work for the positive or the negative.
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  So in other words, someone says to you, hey, would you mind
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  doing something for me and immediately you're like, oh God.
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  I don't want to do this, I do. I just don't want to do it but
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  you hear your mouth go. Oh yeah, I have no problem with
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  that. What always amazes me about
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  myself when I do that? Is how enthusiastic I seem to
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  be? When I hear the words come out
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  of my mouth. That sure, I'll take care of it
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  for you when I don't want to, or I have resistance to doing, or
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  there's some reason that I feel like I am just not positive
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  that. I want to get involved in
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  something, yet enthusiastically. I have claimed that I would be
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  involved with it. And this year coming up, this is
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  one of these times where I have really made it a point to let
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  myself say. Oh, no, no, we're going to
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  follow the Aunt Irene Rule and be as honest as we possibly can.
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  So if you've never heard me, talk about Aunt Irene, she was
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  my mother's aunt actually, and she was one of my favorite
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  people on the planet. When I was a kid, she had a
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  1970s ish, something blue, bright blue, New Volkswagen Bug.
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  She always wore very hippie type clothes and she had a big hat
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  and she had a big bag. And she always had goodies for
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  me in the bag when I was little and I love sleeping at her house
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  because she would let us eat bacon for dinner.
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  And she didn't care if we had cookies and bacon and soda.
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  She was just one of those people that was like, Hey, do whatever
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  you want to do. And she used to tell me when we
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  would ride in the car. And I was always so impressed
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  that she drove a stick shift and she was just Really eccentric
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  and fun. We would drive everywhere and
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  she would say to me, it's always important to just be yourself.
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  Don't let anybody else make you be something.
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  You're not. If you want to be something you
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  be that version just be, you don't let other people shove you
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  down a road, you don't want to go and that always stuck with
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  me. And I swear, that's part of
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  where my stubbornness came from. Was my time of being with Aunt
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  Irene because people would say to her, well, you can't do this,
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  you can't live on your own and you can't.
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  And she's like, yes, I can. Can, and she always did and
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  right up until the very end. She was one of those people.
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  That was just absolutely a force to be reckoned with and she
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  didn't care what people thought and I love that.
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  So, back to the whole purpose of this, Changing who you are in
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  those moments. When you have to answer
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  changing, what you really want to say, I'm not saying that you
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  have to be mean to people, right?
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  We don't want to be mean to people but telling them the
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  truth is really important. So I want to address this
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  because I think sometimes we want to say things but we're
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  afraid of how to say it. So really you can say anything
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  to anyone if you have the right intent and you have the right
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  emotion when you go into it. So if someone Ask you to do
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  something and you really don't want to do it the best way to
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  say it to them. As listen, you know, I get where
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  you are and I really want to help but I know if I tell you
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  that I can take care of this right now.
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  I'm going to feel like I'm overwhelmed with it later and I
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  don't want to do that because I don't want to get irritated with
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  you for something that had nothing to do with you because I
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  accepted it and I should have just told you in the beginning.
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  I couldn't do it. So hopefully we can find a way
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  that you can understand that and I can feel good about it and
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  what R is. Options, telling somebody
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  something like that. In that way is one of the most
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  useful tools I have ever learned about especially with my
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  husband, he will say things to me, and I will be like, in my
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  head, a whirling dervish of craziness, trying to figure out
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  why is he doing? Why did we have to do this?
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  Why is this the case? Baba, baba baba, baba, I'm
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  talking to myself in my head instead of just being able to
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  go. You know what?
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  I love that. You're thinking this way.
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  I love that. Want to do this.
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  But I know this is going to add a lot of stress in this way.
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  What's another way we can do this?
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  How can we handle this before we go into it and say, yes, what's
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  another possibility? What's an, and you present your
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  partner, your person with this challenge, nine times out of
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  ten. If you do it in a calm way,
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  where you're not being ruled by the emotion, that would take
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  over, had that situation been engaged in, you will Be
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  infinitely better but we don't choose to do that.
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  We tend to keep all that crap in our head and it's recirculating
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  recirculating recirculating. And before you know it you're
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  all hyped up about something that is absolutely unnecessary.
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  Had, you just been honest and dealt with the feeling that came
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  up first instead of speaking what you thought was the right
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  answer. So I'm going to challenge you
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  guys as you finish up this year and as you make your plans for
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  next year, And as you go into it because you know this month is
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  All About Us. Cleaning house getting things
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  ready. Making our plans creating the
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  the stuff that we want to make happen in our life but we're
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  going to do it from a place of being peaceful and and on
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  purpose as opposed to just feeling frenetic about doing it.
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  This is part of that process, my friends.
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  So start there, pay attention today with how many times you
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  wish you could say something different and start to think
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  about how you want to do it. And and really put your thinking
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  cap on with the emotion. You're in and talk from that
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  emotion of being calm and peaceful.
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  All right, my friends. I will see you tomorrow morning
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  and I hope you have a very blessed day.
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  Bye. And and really put your thinking
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  cap on with the emotion. You're in and talk from that
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  emotion of being calm and peaceful.
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  All right, my friends. I will see you tomorrow morning
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  and I hope you have a very blessed day.
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  Bye.