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Dangerously in love and trying to rebuild his life · "What's happening at the Courthouse?" with Rameez Khan

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  Speaker 1: For some prison is where it ends, for all courts
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  Speaker 1: where it begins. The TV show This is the Real
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  Speaker 1: World and this is what's happening at the courthouse on
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  Speaker 1: KFM Mornings with Me.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, giving every courthouse a chance, remise does yes, So
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  Speaker 2: today it's athlone and the CBD where he asks everybody
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  Speaker 2: one simple question.
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  Speaker 3: What's going on here? What are you doing at the
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  Speaker 3: courthouse today?
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  Speaker 1: Coming? Do you find out if my husband gets failed?
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  Speaker 3: Why is your husband heresier for tift fift? Okay? What
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  Speaker 3: did he do?
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  Speaker 1: Why he took a soundball from someone's soundball? Yes, okay,
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  Speaker 1: like I just opened in February. He was the recent
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  Speaker 1: so many times afterwards, this guy's never appeared, but only
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  Speaker 1: now reason here?
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  Speaker 3: Why did he take the soundball?
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  Speaker 1: He's had an argument over a girl? You another girl?
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  Speaker 3: What girl? Is this?
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  Speaker 1: Another girl? Ex? Oh?
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  Speaker 3: And then how long are you married?
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  Speaker 1: Now we're not married.
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  Speaker 4: We engaged okay, okay, But you called him your husband basically, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Okay, you said he wasted several times? What happened?
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  Speaker 1: It was all other cases for different things, so different things.
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  Speaker 3: Why are you with this man? Man?
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  Speaker 1: He's my man, That's why I love him?
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  Speaker 3: What I love him, That's why. But it's easier. It's
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  Speaker 3: making you come here to quote the whole time.
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  Speaker 1: Yes, not mine.
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  Speaker 3: He would do it for me a difference. I don't
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  Speaker 3: think you will.
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  Speaker 1: He is.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, give me something like crow from me? Have you
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  Speaker 4: have you been to quote? And he's been here standing
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  Speaker 4: here like you.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly?
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  Speaker 1: But he wasn't. Three years.
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  Speaker 3: I was arrested because we weren't.
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  Speaker 1: Writing that time.
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  Speaker 3: How long do you know him?
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  Speaker 1: It's been two years.
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  Speaker 3: And in that time how many times did you get arrested?
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  Speaker 3: Four times?
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  Speaker 1: What?
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  Speaker 3: Why are you still with this man? Man alone? I
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  Speaker 3: don't think Yes, just just one more question.
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  Speaker 4: He stole a sound from a sad did the did
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  Speaker 4: the friend then lay the case.
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  Speaker 3: Against them the friend's mother that the friend is the mother?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, because the mother's sound of the mother sound replace
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  Speaker 1: it so the guys.
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  Speaker 3: Can get withdraw. Okay, so you're going to do that?
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  Speaker 1: Yes?
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  Speaker 4: And now are you also giving out money of your
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  Speaker 4: own because you love him?
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  Speaker 3: Thank you very much for your time. Man. What are
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  Speaker 3: you doing at the courthouse today?
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  Speaker 5: I've got arrested for position of drugs last week, so
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  Speaker 5: I was asked to go to community court yesterday and
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  Speaker 5: speak to social worker and explain my situation is that
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  Speaker 5: I am currently unemployed and homeless. It leads me to
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  Speaker 5: their own kind of people. Through the social work, I'll
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  Speaker 5: be attending a cup of assistance program and today I'm
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  Speaker 5: just back to court to have things finalized and in
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  Speaker 5: the case withdrawn against me.
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  Speaker 4: So I understand that you said that you're homeless, but
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  Speaker 4: you look you look really good for a homeless guy.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, sir.
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  Speaker 5: I've got a few clothes and I think you look
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  Speaker 5: after them. But it's not what you've got at our
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  Speaker 5: ue what you've got, so things are difficult to shelter.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 5: We get two spins of porridge in the morning, we
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  Speaker 5: get one meal at night. There's no meat, no vegetable,
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  Speaker 5: so not enough protein fast. But nevertheless, I'm grateful for
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  Speaker 5: the roof of my ada and food in my tummy.
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  Speaker 5: So yeah, and I'm just trying to find my feet again.
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  Speaker 5: For employment, I've got itself and luckily I've been unemployed
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  Speaker 5: for about a you know, so through LinkedIn and careers
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  Speaker 5: toenty for online, I'm applying for sales work, which I've
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  Speaker 5: got a sense at background.
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  Speaker 3: On look at you, yes, sir, but it's tough, you know.
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  Speaker 5: And I must say that this journey, I'm blessed because
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  Speaker 5: of pained a closer relationship with my God, my religion.
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  Speaker 5: I realized who's actually important in life and he's not.
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  Speaker 5: But then, yeah, I my destinate decision last week and
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  Speaker 5: I landed me of a court today and I have
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  Speaker 5: not to make that decision again.
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  Speaker 3: What what decision was there?
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  Speaker 5: And we knew on the streets are difficult and tough,
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  Speaker 5: and you don't always have money, and you're hungry.
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  Speaker 3: You know your friends are.
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  Speaker 5: They may be catching on a nonsense with illegal substances.
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  Speaker 3: I don't drink. I'm an alcoholic. I'm an alcoholic, so
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  Speaker 3: I can't touch alcohol.
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  Speaker 5: True, so I got him to but they can illegal
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  Speaker 5: usage of substance a deal basically, Yeah, but I had
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  Speaker 5: such a little on me when a search me actual fact,
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  Speaker 5: they were looking for an arm robing town on that
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  Speaker 5: day with a redcap, black jacket and white shoes. The
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  Speaker 5: law enforcement explained that I who had the same and
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  Speaker 5: do the mine. If they do search on me, that's
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  Speaker 5: how they find the little bit of substances that I had.
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  Speaker 5: And you're wearing this black jacket and nine percent of
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  Speaker 5: my coat and I was actually in text my way
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  Speaker 5: to Bowwol because I bought some one or two smart watches.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, in Cape Town for cheap.
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  Speaker 5: That's how I've been making my income on the streets.
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  Speaker 3: So, so how does it work with the shelter?
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  Speaker 5: One needs to go through the Social Development department at
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  Speaker 5: the Golden Acre and then they found your placement there.
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  Speaker 5: But these various kind of shelters. There are some people
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  Speaker 5: at the shelter where I'm at, we are employed. Yeah,
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  Speaker 5: how much do you pay for the shelter? I'm gonna
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  Speaker 5: go look at an other one out today because there's
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  Speaker 5: a bit of trouble there the last one. So it's
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  Speaker 5: that you made no man, it's just I'm bumping. It's
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  Speaker 5: so it's one don and two hundred in a month
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  Speaker 5: and then you get three meals a day and a
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  Speaker 5: roof of it. That one doesn't around enables you to
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  Speaker 5: have a room of just four of you instead of
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  Speaker 5: where I'm currently staying, where it's like an airport banger
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  Speaker 5: of three hundred guys and double banks all over it.
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  Speaker 5: But being on the streets you about a year, so
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  Speaker 5: you kind of get used to it. It's tough, it's
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  Speaker 5: not easy and there are places, especially with the DA
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  Speaker 5: in the Western Cape, they do look after the people
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  Speaker 5: on the streets if those people.
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  Speaker 3: Want to be looked after.
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  Speaker 5: My father's all alive, so he's in an honestor so,
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  Speaker 5: so why not go back to them. There's no work here.
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  Speaker 5: He's divorcing my mommy. My mommy is she doesn't have money,
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  Speaker 5: so she's thinking my brother.
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  Speaker 3: But I know she's safe.
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  Speaker 5: My father's does support me financially and there. But you know,
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  Speaker 5: I mean, I get out of asking that. I'm sure
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  Speaker 5: he gets kind of you know, giving sir. So, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: I'm independent on one of my privacy of my independence
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  Speaker 5: back that's my email. I pray for that every day.
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  Speaker 3: Soon but you're homeless, man, Yeah, why not go back
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  Speaker 3: to the new partner? Don't get along? I see basically
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  Speaker 3: what I'm hearing is that you're the problem.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, so I've got a bit of a Jerry Springer
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  Speaker 5: family situation causes friction in their marriage.
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  Speaker 3: Don't smock you, nice, she don't smoke you. But you
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  Speaker 3: know what, my dad and meusl tight.
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  Speaker 5: We phone each other speaking and at the end of
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  Speaker 5: the day, I'm a man, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 5: I can't run back to the daddy.
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  Speaker 3: True. So, yeah, thank you very much for thank you.
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  Speaker 3: I apreciated. Now there's always avation. You just got to
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  Speaker 3: keep your faith, keeping it up.
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  Speaker 2: He seems hopeful. He seems hopeful and.
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  Speaker 3: So grateful despite everything that's going on. At the end said,
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  Speaker 3: so you're the problem, but he seems reflected. Was like
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  Speaker 3: a mirror.
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  Speaker 5: Just to be clear, are you seeing what I'm seeing?
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  Speaker 5: I'm that first story.
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  Speaker 3: So you're gonna be paying because she loves him. That's why.
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  Speaker 3: My man, my man, my man.
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  Speaker 2: So that that first story. Yeah, they've been together two years.
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  Speaker 2: He's been arrested four times. You know old question you
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  Speaker 2: needed to ask how many times has she been arrested?
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  Speaker 3: No, she hasn't sold. She was arrested before they made.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, yes, But has she been arrested since?
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  Speaker 1: No?
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  Speaker 3: No. My question is why did she say yes to
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  Speaker 3: his proposal?
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  Speaker 1: Absolutely, that is the question that should be asked, because
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  Speaker 1: is this what you want for a lifetime?
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  Speaker 4: You're going to build a life with a man who's
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  Speaker 4: been arrested four times a time you've been together.
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  Speaker 3: Clearly, we look at market, we look at something.
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  Speaker 2: Ladies you like the bad boys, you like the bad boys.
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  Speaker 1: That's why we must that's why we must heal before
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  Speaker 1: we get engaged.
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  Speaker 2: It should be a phase as good boys. We don't
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  Speaker 2: understand that bad boyfather.
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  Speaker 1: Stop. Stop. And I don't know if good boys go
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  Speaker 1: around calling themselves.
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  Speaker 2: I'm a nice guy, so we're good boys, were good boys.
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  Speaker 4: I wish I could sit down with her and give
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  Speaker 4: her a hug again, and and give us some tough
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  Speaker 4: love too, over a cup of teether with love.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, of course.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, we'll wait for your comments on way two nine
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  Speaker 2: four five zero nine four zero. It's always wild.
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  Speaker 1: Eh.
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  Speaker 3: I'm gonna say it's the judgment free zone.
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  Speaker 2: But the judgment no, no, no, no, this is not
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  Speaker 2: like what called us. We judge.
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  Speaker 3: You did so well, ready, we do judge. We listened,
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  Speaker 3: and we judge. It's the way