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146. Success Loves Speed · Impact Ready

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  Welcome to Impact Ready, a show dedicated to helping you elevate
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  your impact in the world. I'm Steph Safra, your host.
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  Let's explore the power of showing up with intention and
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  energy each day. This is for those who seek to
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  make life truly meaningful. Get ready for impact.
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  Hi team, happy to have you here. I hope you're having an awesome
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  day. I had this really great
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  conversation earlier this week. I was hanging out with my wife
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  and a friend of mine, Danny, and we were talking about putting
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  yourself out there in the world and getting out online and
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  getting in front of the camera. And he was saying he wanted to
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  do more of this in his business. We were encouraging him.
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  He was feeling a little hesitant, and it had me thinking
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  about something that comes up so often with people and something
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  that I wanted to address in this episode today.
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  It's this question of what kills our momentum?
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  What gets in the way of us finding that flow and creating
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  things that we want to create and really like building the
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  life that we want. And one of the biggest killers
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  of momentum is procrastination and waiting.
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  And it has me thinking about this idea of how can we shorten
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  the time between the idea that we have and the action that we
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  take. And I always talk to my coaching
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  clients about this because so often people kind of get stuck
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  in the idea phase. They have lots of insights,
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  epiphanies, aha moments. They're really excited about all
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  the things they're learning about themselves, especially in
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  coaching, but that action piece is missing for them.
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  And so as time goes on, they're wondering why am I not getting
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  the transformation that I want to see in my life?
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  And it's because they have the ideas and they're really nailing
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  that idea phase, but they're not taking any action in their
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  lives. And so if we can shorten the
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  amount of time between idea and action, that's when we start to
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  get some momentum. There's a coach out there named
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  Craig Ballantine and he always says success loves speed.
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  And I love that because what he's really implying is that if
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  we can have an idea and immediately start to put it into
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  action, or at least build the framework or the scaffolding
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  around it so that we can then take action on it, that's when
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  we're going to start to see the results.
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  Success, love, speed. And often when I say this to
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  clients, I'll get a little pushback.
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  They're going to say things to me like, but Steph, what if I
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  don't have all the information? And I'm like, great, you
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  probably don't have all the information.
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  That's a great question. So my question to you would be,
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  how do you get the right information?
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  Who do you need to talk to? What research do you need to do?
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  Great, now go do it. And then people will say, but
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  Steph, what if I'm just waiting for the right timing?
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  It doesn't feel like the right timing.
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  And I'm like another great question because I'm all for the
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  right timing, but that doesn't mean that you have to be taking
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  no action, that you sit in a place of inaction.
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  Everything does have to happen at its right time.
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  I can acknowledge that, fully believe that to be true, but you
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  have to lay the foundation for that thing to be able to happen.
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  You know, you can't sit there and say, God, I'd love to be in
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  the NBA someday and never pick up a ball, never go out and
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  practice your shooting and your dribbling and your passing,
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  never be on a team, never play in a league.
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  And you're wondering, God, it just, it's probably not the
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  right timing for me to be in the NBA.
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  And it's like, no, man, it's not that it's not the right timing,
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  it's that you never took any action to allow yourself to get
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  to that place. What's often happening is that
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  people are letting their saboteurs run the show and
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  listening to those little negative voices in their head,
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  so they're not making any moves to do the things they want to
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  do. And Lord, we've all experienced
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  this. It's very easy to get worried
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  about what people think of you, that you're going to be judged,
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  that you're stepping out of your normal identity.
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  And it feels vulnerable and embarrassing.
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  I'm not somebody who posts content online.
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  I'm not somebody who promotes my business.
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  I'm not somebody who has these hard conversations.
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  And so we worry that stepping out of identity is going to
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  create cause for us to be blamed or shamed or judged or
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  criticized. I get it.
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  Trust me, I've been there. Like I said, I was talking with
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  Danny earlier this week, and he was saying he wants to create
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  more of an online presence for himself with his business and
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  get on camera a little bit more and pump up his Instagram page.
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  And we were encouraging him because he's got a great
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  personality. He's out there in the world
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  socially all the time. People love him.
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  He said, yeah, But then when people see it, they can say, oh,
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  he's trying to do a thing. And it's really, really common
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  that we think that we're afraid of that response from people.
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  And so many people never move on something because they're afraid
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  to start small. I have been there so many times.
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  I've been dragging my feet because I have been afraid to be
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  seen as starting small in other people's eyes.
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  But we've all seen someone break out and do something new and
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  think to ourselves, ah, they're doing something new that's cute
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  and small. And then we don't want to do the
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  thing and we're afraid of being seen that way.
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  Meanwhile, that person who has been consistently showing up and
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  doing the small thing, all of a sudden they started to build
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  something bigger. And that small thing becomes a
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  medium thing. And then it becomes a larger
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  thing. And their life is starting to
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  change and they're creating some cool shit in their life.
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  And we're like, damn, I wish I would have started when they
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  started. But you are afraid of starting
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  and being seen as starting small.
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  It's a human condition. It's totally normal, it's
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  totally natural. We're afraid to take the baby
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  steps that lead to the big stuff, especially because we
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  have so much access to seeing all of these people in the world
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  that have seemingly made it in our eyes.
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  No matter the industry or the area of life, we can see those
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  people out in the world, on social media, in the news, with
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  the Internet. We just have access to so much
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  information that we look out there and we think, Oh my God,
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  those people. There are 25 chapters further
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  along into their life story than me.
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  And then we get into comparison and we say, oh God, that
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  person's so good at what they do.
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  I could never do that, man. That person's such an incredible
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  parent. They have it all together.
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  I can never be that organized and put together and so on and
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  so on. In every industry and every walk
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  of life. We can look out in the world and
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  see an example of somebody who's further along than us and think,
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  but I couldn't do that. But you could team and you know
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  it. You absolutely could.
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  You just have to have the idea or the vision for what you want
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  and then shorten the amount of time between the idea and the
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  action that you take. The other thing that so often
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  gets in our way is that we want things to be perfect before we
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  begin. Trust me, I have struggled with
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  this so many times. Or we get overwhelmed with the
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  fact that it's actually going to take a lot of work to have the
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  outcome that we want. There will be many baby steps to
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  get to that outcome. This happens with my
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  stepdaughters all the time. My oldest, Harper, she'll feel
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  like she needs to have this hard conversation with someone who's
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  hurting her feelings or or doing something lame, and she'll drag
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  her feet and make all these excuses why it won't work to
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  talk to them anyway. She says, oh, nothing will
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  change even if I talk to them, and nothing's going to change
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  because she's just going to keep doing it.
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  She's afraid to take the baby steps.
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  She's overwhelmed by the amount of work that it will take to
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  have that conversation. And so she does nothing.
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  And the behavior continues and she'll come home feeling the
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  same way day after day. Classic teenager move.
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  But then we talk about how it's just a start and that
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  conversation is something to build on and that there will
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  probably be a series of conversations that will happen,
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  but it has to begin somewhere. And how it's building her skills
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  and giving her more data about the friendship and on and on.
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  I tell her if you want something to change, you have to take the
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  action to create the change. Success loves speed.
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  She'd have a hell of a lot less drama and a lot more
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  satisfaction in her day-to-day if she would just move when she
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  knew she needed to move. If she could have the
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  conversation when she knew that she needed to have the
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  conversation. If we as people could stop
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  waiting so long to make a move on the things that we care
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  about, if we could shorten the time between the idea that we
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  have that we're so excited about, that's banging around in
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  our head that we just can't stop thinking about, and the action
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  that we could take to try to bring it to life, it would
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  dramatically increase your chances of it happening.
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  It creates speed where before there was just stagnation.
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  And we know what stagnation feels like.
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  It feels like frustration, it can feel hopeless.
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  It can have us starting to feel like the victim in our own
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  lives. It can feel like, oh, that idea
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  wasn't that good in the 1st place.
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  Stagnation is the killer of our dreams.
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  So my challenge to you today and this week is to think about that
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  idea that you've been bouncing around in your head, that thing
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  that you've been wanting to do, that conversation you've been
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  wanting to start, and take the first small step to doing that
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  thing. I'm not asking you to go 100
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  miles an hour or even 60 miles an hour.
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  I'm just asking you to put your foot on the pedal and start to
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  move the car forward. Success loves speed.
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  Trust me on this. So I hope that this helps.
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  I'm so glad that you're somebody who cares about the energy that
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  you're putting out in the world and the influence that it has on
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  other people and then your own life.
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  I hope that you have a great rest of your week and that you
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  can shorten that time between idea and action.
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  Thanks for listening and as always, thank you for being
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  ready to Impact. Thanks for listening to Impact
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  Ready. I hope today's episode inspired
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  you to own your impact and recognize that you are powerful.
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  By elevating our energy and awareness, we can create
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  I truly appreciate you. Thanks again for being here.