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Season 3 - Episode 69 -The real meaning of satisfaction · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and mastermind set
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. In fact, Miss Amelia's sitting,
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  like, right close to me right this second, and she's going to
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  be babbling any second. She has a lot to say, huh?
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  Hi, Amelia. Say hello to everybody.
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  Oh, I know you're helping out this morning, huh?
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  Really. OK, well, we'll continue on with
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  that. OK, so today we're talking about
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  the word satisfaction. Now when someone says I'm
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  satisfied, do you think that that's a good thing or it's an
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  OK thing? It's not an OK thing.
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  Just pause for a second and think about that word
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  satisfaction because it's tricky.
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  And I and this is one of those words that I hang people up,
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  that always gets in the way. I'm satisfied.
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  Now stop and think about this. If your partner says to you I'm
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  satisfied, do you take that as a good thing or a bad thing?
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  I don't know. When I use the word satisfied,
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  I'm not necessarily thinking I'm over the moon.
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  I'm excited, I love it. I'm satisfied means it was OK.
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  But technically, when you look up the definition of this, it
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  actually means fulfilment of one's wishes, expectations or
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  needs or the pleasure derived from this.
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  He smiled with satisfaction. So that's the example they give.
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  I I will tell you without question, I don't think of that
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  word as my wishes fulfilled. Satisfaction is not that to me.
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  It has a completely different feeling in my brain when I say
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  it in my gut, if I'm satisfied, yeah, it was, it was OK, it was
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  good, but it wasn't outstanding. And I think so many of us have
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  become geared towards words that are much bigger than satisfied.
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  And I'm using that as an example because it happens constantly.
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  And no matter what words we're talking about, we have different
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  definitions than what they actually mean.
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  And I have found it to be quite interesting for myself over the
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  last year or so, Every time I repeatedly use a word, I'll look
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  it up and I'll say, OK, what's the actual definition of this?
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  Like, I know what the definition is, but I want to know what does
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  the Webster's dictionary say the definition of this is so that I
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  can really embody it and see where it's taking me.
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  Because I can tell you right now I have a different feeling about
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  that word, whatever the word might be.
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  And satisfaction is just an example, but it's the one I'm
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  using today because it was such a clear difference in my mind.
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  I I don't know if my if I cooked dinner and my husband said,
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  yeah, that was satisfying. I'd be like, what?
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  You didn't love it? And I would have this visceral
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  reaction to it, and I'd be like, OK, well, what could have done?
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  What could I have done better? Especially since, and here's the
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  key, I have an emotional sensitivity to my cooking
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  because I'm not necessarily the best cook.
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  I was not one of my skill sets. I didn't hang around and learn
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  it as a kid. Can I follow a recipe?
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  Yes. Do I often do that?
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  No. That's why I'm making a point to
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  do that this year. Like, I want to move beyond
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  sandwiches. I'm excellent at pancakes and
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  sandwiches, and I'm moving beyond it in other ways.
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  So the point is, satisfied doesn't mean something to me the
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  way it does to other people and maybe or maybe to you, it does
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  mean exactly what it says. I don't know, but it's worth us
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  exploring. So we know our words and our
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  triggers and we understand which words we want to use and which
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  ones we want to say. I need to rewrite this and get
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  this more accurate, or even better yet, have a
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  disassociation from the meaning so that we're not feeling
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  constantly. Like one word can throw us down
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  a rabbit hole. And we all know there are those
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  words. When you're in an argument with
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  someone and they use that one word that just says that's
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  disgusting, why would you say that to me?
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  You know there's they're just big triggers.
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  If someone says to you, hey, I think you're selfish, I think
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  you're self-centered. We know what that means to us
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  and right away we get fired up because of it because that just
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  doesn't feel right to me. I am not that way, but the words
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  trigger us and they hold power over us.
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  So I'm going to direct everybody to go and start thinking about
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  what trigger words you have. Where are they?
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  Think of the word satisfaction as an example, but go back and
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  think about where are your trigger words, Where are they
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  and and do they show up often and usually.
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  Unfortunately, the people that we have in our life that we're
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  closest to are the ones that get in that that vortex of being
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  able to say those words and push our buttons.
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  So figure out what they are so you can change the meaning,
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  change how it pushes your buttons, and you become solely
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  in control of yourself, not allowing others to control you
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  'cause that's what this is all about.
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  OK my friends, I hope you have a blessed day and I'll see you
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  tomorrow. Bye.