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Jordan Peterson_ Get Your Life Together Before It_s Too Late · Motivation study

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  Speaker 1: I don't know what the hell you should do with
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  Speaker 1: your life. I can help you figure it out, maybe.
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  Speaker 1: We can talk about it. But you are the person
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  Speaker 1: who has to decide if the things that you're aiming for,
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  Speaker 1: you know, get you out of bed in the morning.
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  Speaker 1: Then you've got to specify the transformation processes and start
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  Speaker 1: practicing them. And you have to understand that you're going
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  Speaker 1: to be bad at it, but it doesn't matter. Because
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  Speaker 1: bad's fine. Persistent is what you need to be. If
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  Speaker 1: you persist, with tiny improvements, if you persist, you win.
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  Speaker 1: It's direction that produces primary positive emotion. And so, if
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  Speaker 1: you need positive emotion to move through life, which you do,
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  Speaker 1: because you can't even move without positive emotion, and also
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  Speaker 1: positive emotion is a good bulwark against terror and pain.
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  Speaker 1: If you need those things, then you need direction, you
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  Speaker 1: need a goal, you need a value structure. You let
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  Speaker 1: all that nonsense burn away. And you might say, well,
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what I should leave behind. And the
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  Speaker 1: answer to that is, that's a lie. All you have
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  Speaker 1: to do is ask yourself. You'll come up with a
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  Speaker 1: list instantly of a hundred stupid things that you're doing
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  Speaker 1: that you know you could stop doing. Take on the
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  Speaker 1: consequences of error and learn from it. And then you
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  Speaker 1: win constantly. Because even if something goes sideways, you think
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  Speaker 1: there's something to be derived from this. When you're in
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  Speaker 1: the world and something objects to you, something that matters
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  Speaker 1: objects to you, then the entire unrealized world is in
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  Speaker 1: that thing that objects. It's all tangled up inside it.
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  Speaker 1: That's why it's the great dragon of chaos. It's everything
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  Speaker 1: that's outside of your conceptual structure. And what is that?
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  Speaker 1: It's everything that lurks outside of your walled city. And
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  Speaker 1: it's manifested itself like the snake in the garden. And
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  Speaker 1: the easiest thing to do is say, I'm not having
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  Speaker 1: anything to do with that. But the problem with that
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  Speaker 1: is Well, you get your C minus and you don't
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  Speaker 1: do anything about it. Maybe you're a little bitter and
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  Speaker 1: more resentful and your study habits get a little worse.
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  Speaker 1: So the next time you get like a D plus
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  Speaker 1: and then you collect a bunch of Fs and then
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  Speaker 1: you stop going to school. Then you stop showering, right?
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  Speaker 1: Then you end up jumping off the bridge. And so
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  Speaker 1: that's how the dragon eats you when you don't pay
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  Speaker 1: attention to it. And so it's no bloody wonder that
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  Speaker 1: people avoid, you know. It's really no wonder that they
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  Speaker 1: avoid because error messages contain within them The implicit world.
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  Speaker 1: Now the upside of that is. While they contain within
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  Speaker 1: them the implicit world. And the world isn't all negative.
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  Speaker 1: And so maybe you get your C minus. And that's
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  Speaker 1: actually the best gift you ever got. Because somebody finally
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  Speaker 1: took you and went. Whack. You know. Clue in. And
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  Speaker 1: so you take that apart. And you think. Oh I
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  Speaker 1: don't know how to write. I don't know how to think.
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  Speaker 1: I've never read anything in my life. My study habits
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  Speaker 1: are abysmal. You know like maybe I'm working at 2% efficiency.
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  Speaker 1: Which is probably. I would suspect that. I bet there's
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  Speaker 1: 30 to 50% of the people in the room are
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  Speaker 1: working at 2% efficiency. To find that out is so optimistic.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, if you're barely hanging in there, but you're
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  Speaker 1: only working at 2%, you might imagine what you could
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  Speaker 1: have as a life if you're working at like 50%.
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  Speaker 1: So the C- can be the best gift you ever had.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the gold that the dragon hoards. That's exactly
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  Speaker 1: what that means. That doesn't prove that you're stupid. Now,
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  Speaker 1: it implies that you might be stupid, but it doesn't, right, really,
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  Speaker 1: it does, and that's why you don't want to look
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  Speaker 1: at it. Maybe it implies that you're lazy, or implies
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  Speaker 1: that you're ignorant, or, like, it implies all sorts of terrible.
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  Speaker 1: Might imply that you're a bad person, even. But you
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  Speaker 1: don't want to leap to that, and that's sort of
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  Speaker 1: the proclamation of innocence before guilt. You are the thing
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  Speaker 1: that is and you're the thing that becomes. And you
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  Speaker 1: should put the thing that becomes at a higher place
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  Speaker 1: than the thing that is. That means you also have
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  Speaker 1: to allow yourself to shake off those things about you
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  Speaker 1: that you might be pathologically attached to. Habits and people,
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  Speaker 1: for that matter. Ways of thinking. All of those things.
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  Speaker 1: You have to allow yourself to shake those off. And
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  Speaker 1: that's more like a burning. That's why the phoenix is
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  Speaker 1: the symbol that it is, right? It's old and it deteriorates.
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  Speaker 1: It bursts into flame and then it's reborn. It's like, well...
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  Speaker 1: Do you want to be reborn? It's like, that's not
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  Speaker 1: the question. The question is, do you want to burst
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  Speaker 1: into flame? And the answer to that generally is no.
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  Speaker 1: But that's the wrong answer. The right answer is, you
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  Speaker 1: let all that nonsense burn away. And so then you
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  Speaker 1: look at the micro-routines. It's okay, well, I got a
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  Speaker 1: C- in this course. Maybe I should study for that
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  Speaker 1: course 15 minutes more a day for the next three months.
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  Speaker 1: And then you ask yourself, do you think you could
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  Speaker 1: do that? No, I'm too useless. Okay, how about 15
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  Speaker 1: minutes every second day? You think you could do that?
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  Speaker 1: You put it in your schedule, like 15 minutes every
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  Speaker 1: second day in the morning. And that's while you think, well,
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  Speaker 1: what's wrong with me? Well, I'm not very good at
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  Speaker 1: managing my study schedule. That's not quite down here at
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  Speaker 1: the behavioral level, but it's pretty close, because you can
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  Speaker 1: take an action. You can open up your schedule, and
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  Speaker 1: you can say, well, mark 15 minutes aside. Then you
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  Speaker 1: can practice doing that. It's pretty low level in the hierarchy.
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  Speaker 1: It means, while you're still not a horrible person, you've
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  Speaker 1: just got to polish up your work ethic. It's like,
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  Speaker 1: shut the hell up most of the time. But now
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  Speaker 1: and then, you don't shut up, because it's time to
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  Speaker 1: say something. You don't want to make unnecessary enemies, though. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you don't want to take yourself apart any more than
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  Speaker 1: is absolutely necessary. Develop some of the micro routines on
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  Speaker 1: the other side of the personality distribution. So if you're
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  Speaker 1: disagreeable as hell, maybe you could start learning how to
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  Speaker 1: do nice things for people. And that actually works, by
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  Speaker 1: the way. So if you take disagreeable people who are
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  Speaker 1: depressed and you get them doing nice things for other people,
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  Speaker 1: their depression tends to lift. But then by the same token,
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  Speaker 1: if you're agreeable, then you should practice... doing some things
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  Speaker 1: for yourself and being more tough-minded in your negotiation. You know,
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  Speaker 1: you're extroverted. It's like, okay, man, learn to spend some
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  Speaker 1: time with yourself, right? You're low in openness. Well, try
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  Speaker 1: reading a book that's outside of your, you know, your
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  Speaker 1: sphere of interest now and then. If you're conscientious, well,
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  Speaker 1: you should probably learn how to relax occasionally and so forth.
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  Speaker 1: So you can, I think partly what you're doing as
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  Speaker 1: you're developing your personality is not moving the mean much,
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  Speaker 1: the average much. you know, where you're located, but you're
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  Speaker 1: extending the standard deviation so that you're a bigger bag
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  Speaker 1: of tricks than you were before. Life has got its
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  Speaker 1: rat's nest of miseries, and that's for sure. Maybe you
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  Speaker 1: could even make a categorical statement that life is mostly
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  Speaker 1: a rat's nest of misery. You know, and you can
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  Speaker 1: make a pretty powerful argument for that. But then there's
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  Speaker 1: a counter question, which is, well, what if you tried
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  Speaker 1: not to make it any more miserable than it had
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  Speaker 1: to be, right? Then what would it be like? I
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  Speaker 1: would suspect that most of that misery would go away.
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  Speaker 1: Because it's the unnecessary misery that really brings you down,
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  Speaker 1: you know? It's like, well, if someone has cancer, it's like,
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  Speaker 1: that sucks. But it's not like you can say, if
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  Speaker 1: only we had done this differently, then that wouldn't have happened.
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  Speaker 1: But when someone's out, like, torturing you in a malevolent way,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe you're doing the same, you can always ask yourself, well,
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  Speaker 1: is it really? Is this really necessary? Is this just, like,
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  Speaker 1: a useless add-on to the miseries of life? That's what
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  Speaker 1: disheartens people. And so even in your own life, if
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  Speaker 1: you aren't suffering from self-imposed misery, and you're only suffering
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  Speaker 1: from inescapable misery, maybe you could handle that. And even
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  Speaker 1: maybe without becoming irredeemably corrupt. So the goal would be, well, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: life is a rat's nest of miseries, and maybe it
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  Speaker 1: has no ultimate meaning. We could say that if we're
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  Speaker 1: feeling particularly pessimistic. But it still leaves one question open,
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  Speaker 1: which is, if you didn't do everything you could to
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  Speaker 1: make it worse... How good could you make it be?
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  Speaker 1: And the least answer is, well, it could be tragedy,
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  Speaker 1: but maybe not hell. Thank you.