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Autism Stimming Behaviours In Adults (Tea Time Talk) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  But again, here's a livestream, anybody walked in on the replay.
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  Hey, how's it going? Yeah, this is episode 1 of T
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  talks with Dan so that my cup of tea, my Facebook create a mug.
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  My hair is terrible because I'm going to work out with you and
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  so I didn't wash it as money. And yeah, I just wanted to wait
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  forever to get in here to pretty cool.
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  Thanks everybody watching on the replay.
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  You guys are absolute Heroes. Big love, see you guys.
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  Hey how's it going? Cool.
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  So just this is like a weekly episode.
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  I want to do. Good morning down from barley.
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  Good morning from Bali. Cool, that's awesome.
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  Thank you. So this is a weekly episode.
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  I'm going to do, which is T talks with Dan, so I just
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  basically want to just do an episode where we talk.
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  Just talk about things that happened.
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  Basically, where are we now? So we're on Tuesday and I've
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  been taking medication for 10 days, I think.
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  So anybody who, who have been following my my Vlogs I'm doing,
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  obviously, season to my Vlog, which is amazing, which is of my
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  YouTube channel will know that I've been having a lot of anger
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  management issues. So, I'm on do L'Occitane, which
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  is like a Now a depressant, but it helps loads of things helps
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  take the edge of, like, anxiety and stress and things like that.
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  So hey, how's it going as religious people?
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  That's awesome. So yeah, so I'm feeling pretty
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  good at first. I was feeling really, really
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  sick. Then I got really, really tired.
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  And now I'm feeling. All right.
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  Apart from is give me the bags under my eyes, even though I'm
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  like sleeping eight to nine hours a night, which is crazy.
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  Maybe I'll sleep in too much. Thank you formation.
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  Oh, you're more than welcome. So, yeah, I'm just literally, I
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  have like my goals written down here of like, All the things I
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  want to do in, you know. So I obviously want to get like
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  200,000 subscribers on YouTube this year I think we're on like
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  1831 doesn't run 118,000 currently, I think that's a
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  current market and then I just want to kind of like you know
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  make more content to be like somebody who is connecting with
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  their fans more. So I was on so Serie telling 100
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  mg y money on fake. Of gelatin, which is actually
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  working really well. So I'm actually quite happy of
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  how it's working out and it seems to be okay and I seem to
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  be responding. Well, so that is a good thing.
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  Also guys my office is super, super like minimal.
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  Now, I might actually do a video of like, a tour of my office
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  because I got rid of like these fields of shells behind
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  collectibles on it. And then I went through and I am
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  a eBay them all, because one of my obsessions anybody's got
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  like, autism, obviously knows that people have to want
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  obsessions, one of my obsessions was EBay and like wearing like
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  wondering, like how can you like, make a job on eBay and I
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  love that, like, idea of just like flipping stuff.
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  So I just got all my collectibles.
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  And I sold them on eBay and was really cool.
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  Then I bought an iPad Pro, which is this thing who right here,
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  which is pretty crazy. This is the iPad Pro, the 11.9
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  inch or something like that, which is pretty fantastic.
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  Actually, this this has been amazing, just just, just
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  amazing, especially for autism. And it was something that I
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  wanted to do a bit more of, as do bit more of like, autism and
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  autism and iPads kind of videos, which would be pretty sweet.
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  So, let me try and just my iPods, not adjusting, not really
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  good. Where are we?
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  My son is obsessed about about life's an arcade machines, but I
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  do understand the first word. So yeah, iPads are just like the
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  coolest thing ever. And I'm really, really, really
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  happy with with iPads and specially iPad Pro.
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  But, anyway, so yeah, responding.
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  Well to the medication. I did a, I did a keynote talk,
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  in an Autumn employability conference.
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  I was talking about how, like, people can use.
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  Hey, Alex. How's it going?
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  I was talking about how people can use their, you know, autism
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  traits to them like, create a A job out of it.
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  I actually have created a course and online course specifically,
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  on that. So if anyone's interested in
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  that online course, drop me a comment in the comment section
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  below, especially on the if you're watching this on
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  Instagram, on the replay DME and then I'll link you to that
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  course. But in terms of that conference,
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  it was really really good. And I did a panel talk at the
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  end, talking about like how, you know, what needs to change in
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  the world in terms of like autism employability.
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  And then also, the day before I did a briefing of the European
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  Council Hearing on autism. So basically we're talking about
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  is how autism support. It isn't is lacking.
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  All of these videos will be online.
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  I'm going to do, I did a vlog with the European Parliament,
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  one, which will be online. And then also the, the one I
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  did, the Autumn employability conference that talk will be
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  online as well. So, I think, the automobile
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  employability video will be on Saturday and then.
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  Yeah. And then the other one will be
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  on Sunday, or Monday. I can't remember, which day I'm
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  gonna do that. Mom of two teenagers autism one
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  son, one daughter. Now that's really super
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  interesting. Actually girls have a harder
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  time than the males because it was a difficult issue.
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  Trying to find all of the diagnostic criteria to fit the
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  females. My daughter doesn't feel ready
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  for college yet and is causing her so much anxiety.
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  What. Okay, you know, I suppose you
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  know we all have times in our life will become ready for stuff
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  and that is you know different in everybody.
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  So I wouldn't worry about that. That.
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  Oh, here you go. We have a question.
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  Is it normal that I often have multiple meltdowns a week?
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  It's it's normal for people on the autism spectrum to have
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  meltdowns. Of course, why wouldn't it be?
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  You know, Mount that has happened because we are
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  obviously related, we are stressed, we are a depressed, we
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  were anxious, you know, there's a bulge bunch of multiple kind
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  of variables that would, cause not in the Meltdown.
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  So that would definitely happen. And to have multiple ones or
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  week, this is happening, this used to happen, to me, actually
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  Anna. Is why I wanted to actually get
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  some medication to see if I could help overcome those
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  things. And it definitely has started to
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  work, which is funny. One of the things that people
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  been saying, what my Vlogs though is that the medication
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  seems to be making me more hyperactive, which I don't seem
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  to think so I feel like it's chilling me out, but maybe,
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  maybe in. Chill is me being hyperactive?
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  I have no idea. Hey, how's it going there,
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  everybody, who's on the, on the live chat is really awesome.
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  Thank you so much for joining the live chat here.
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  Anybody watching this on the replay?
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  Thank you so much for joining, and yeah, make sure you hit the
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  Subscribe and notification belt on YouTube because YouTube have
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  this hard time of actually telling my fans, when, my, my
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  videos are uploaded. So if you are subscribed to me
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  already, then hit the notification bar, which you're
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  not already subscribed going. Subscribe to my YouTube channel
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  and to the notification bar, which would be pretty pretty
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  awesome. I'm actually going to share a
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  video on my Twitter account. A minute, which is a vlog from
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  Spain. When I went to Spain to do an
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  Asperger's Galaxia talk in in Spain, it was really, really
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  good and it was actually one of my I think it's my most
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  favorable trip ever and it's also my favorite Vlog ever.
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  So I'm going to publish the Vlog out so it was really, really
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  good. Yeah, some good show.
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  So this week I have no talks this week.
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  Thank goodness. I am literally working on videos
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  all week and then I am working on content for my other social
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  media channels. And pretty much that is only
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  doing this week which is really nice to catch up on actual work
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  and stuff. But then I've got more talks
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  going up and doing the autism show a Manchester Birmingham and
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  London and also doing a lot of them show in, from, didn't know,
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  and in Cardiff doing talks, and meet, and greets.
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  And then I'm also doing A talk in the Isle of Wight with Alex
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  W. You guys know how to watch my
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  videos and hey, how's it going Francisco?
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  How's it going? And then yeah we're actually
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  doing what do I'm doing a talk and a show the day before in
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  Isle of Wight, which is cool. And then I'm doing an employment
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  conference with Alex, again in London in March.
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  And I also have primarily some social media events to attend
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  Also, it's all go and it's always all the time.
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  So it's just kind of like one of those things I just thought I'd
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  like, you know, wanted to update you guys on those those things
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  to see if we have any more questions here.
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  This is an interesting question. Is there a cure for autism?
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  Absolutely not. So there was a, there was a time
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  when people didn't understand much about autism.
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  And then there was like a big question, like, can we cure
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  autism? But often can't be cured,
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  because autism actually is a neurological condition.
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  So it's not like, it's not Like a disease.
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  You can like potentially cure diseases or sicknesses But
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  ultimately the sickness, it's a condition.
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  It's a neurological way of how the brain is formed.
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  So that is a no for curing autism, but you can treat it in
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  a way to help with like, you know, symptomatic issues.
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  So you can look treat with therapy and medication.
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  How old are you? I'm 33 years old, as I got
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  diagnosed with autism. When I have a problem sharing my
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  things with other people. Is there any ways to cope with
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  this with sharing? And yeah?
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  What I used to do is have a set of things.
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  So I actually experienced this as well.
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  When I was in college, before I met University, I had pencils
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  and pens, and my pencil case and people just like take them and
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  use them because they were on the same table.
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  And they thought that we were really good friends and they
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  could just do that. And then I was like really
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  freaked by the. So I basically have set of like
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  pens and pencils that I didn't mind people using.
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  So I had to set aside my set and I had set that people could
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  share. So that's one way of doing it.
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  How many people have autism? It's 1 in 100 people in the
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  United Kingdom, and one in 59 in the United States.
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  But You know, that number can vary quite a bit, just such a
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  statistically that the numbers that statistically speaking.
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  So, that's how that, that kind of works.
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  So, Anyway, that was that was really interesting.
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  So moving forward, I want to set up my own events like my own
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  meetups and events where people can come and listen to me talk
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  and have some of our guest speakers who are on the
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  Spectrum, who are also video influencers.
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  And I would love to do one like maybe Chester in Manchester in
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  the United Kingdom. May be that way here this year.
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  So let me know if you guys are interested in attending an event
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  hosted by me and some of the autistic individuals.
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  I would love to know because yeah, we're just going to be.
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  We're going to be demoing different kind of like talks and
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  stuff like that because I love like having like actual physical
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  talks, get to meet people and then we get to like, you know,
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  one-on-one people have like live questions is why I really enjoy
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  my videos. And I just feel like that would
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  be really, really awesome. But in terms of that, I want to
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  make sure that I'm picking the right City.
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  So UK only send me a DM and let me know which city you would
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  like to see me talking. And I also put a poll up on my
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  Instagram story, so that once you finish watching this video,
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  I'm going to come story and check the pole and then like
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  vote for it and I'll do like, you know, booming in Manchester
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  Liverpool London Chester, you know, the big ones really and
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  then see where I would, I would, would there be a meet and greet?
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  Ya hundred percent. So, what I want to do is I'm
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  setting up these talks where you can come and listen to it.
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  Like I do love, like, motivational speaking for people
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  on the Spectrum, which is pretty cool.
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  And I have all the fun doing that.
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  Get people like super like You know, pumped.
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  And then after that, we do the community where people can like,
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  literally just come and hang out and talk to me.
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  And then, you know, we might have some merch for sale,
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  they're like t-shirts and stuff. I got something kind of cool DM
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  on here, or on Twitter. Anyway, you can DM me on
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  Twitter. I here, let me know.
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  There are also for the poll on Twitter, I'm going to pull out
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  on all my social is actually just to see what we're doing.
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  Southampton, if you guys want to see me now from your from
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  Southampton, why don't you go to the Isle of Wight in April?
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  I'm doing a big talk on the ELA in April and doing to of doing a
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  Doing a festival called Spectrum festival and then the day before
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  that doing a evening with like the as we world so you can come
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  down and hang out and do a meet-and-greet there in a
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  theater in the Isle of Wight, which is gonna be really cool.
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  Hello from Aberdeen. I've never been to Aberdeen
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  actually. But yeah, Scotland is quite a
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  ways. It's like, typically like a
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  very, very far away from where I am.
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  So that's why I don't do much a stat that I will never see you
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  because I'm from Barcelona and you never know.
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  I might be doing a talk in battle and I do talks all over
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  the world so don't never say never.
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  I mean not them. That's not something that will
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  actually happen, you know? It might you know, never know I
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  might be doing talk in Barcelona.
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  Anyway guys, this has been a really Cool.
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  T talks with Dan, just want to do?
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  Pretty much just to cut up cell phone and hello from boom, boom
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  on the south London. Hello there.
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  Hello what team do you support? I don't what about steel if I
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  live in North Wales. So right up on the Welsh
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  Coastline which is pretty cool. So got Mighty got my guys, you
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  guys. You know, any my squad?
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  And then yeah, we got some questions coming in here.
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  Watch your favorite sensory tie. My favorite sensory toys.
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  Actually the clicks. It's where did I put it?
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  You did hit someone. Well I put it I've been using
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  upstairs away. My favorite sensitizer clicks
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  which is that clicks Gadget that like moves around and it looks
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  sounds like popping like your pop in.
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  What's it called? Bubble Wrap so kapiti love okay
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  some another, look a question. I think there's another question
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  here. Okay, here's a question.
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  Does it seem like I'm being a hypochondriac for doing
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  extensive? Research on autism and thinking
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  I might have it and getting? No, I don't think that's been
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  hypochondriac tie. Think that, like, you know,
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  people on the autism spectrum, actually, research things quite
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  extensively. You know, I was just things like
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  crazily. One of my biggest obsessions is
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  North Korea to I study a lot of olenick, North Korea stuff, and
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  that's a bit weird, isn't it? But at the end of the day, it's
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  what you The interested in so okay.
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  Here's another question. Do you think that do you think
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  is the traits in kids are very difficult for different from
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  adults. Lovely Channel.
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  Thank you so much for the love and no, I don't think the the
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  traitor different. I think they are the same but I
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  think how they are presented are slightly different, you know.
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  So they're still gonna have issues with the tried impairment
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  like social interaction, you know, certain aspects of kind of
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  like organization and time management and social
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  constructs. And social concept.
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  All of those things are going to be quite, you know, across the
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  board. But in terms of kids, it'll
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  present stuff different kids. So people who stem as apples,
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  may stem, especially people who are like, you know, on the lower
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  support needs side of it, like Asperger's Syndrome, all terms
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  and you're on high functioning autism, not stuff.
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  Even we don't use the terms anymore.
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  I think those people will stem kind of like quite privately,
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  but kids will just kind of stem out, right?
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  That's a good example of its outright my, my beard is
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  tickling. My nose.
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  It's we can we want to sneeze. What's your favorite color?
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  My favorite color is like shocking pink but not actually
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  only thing that shocking pink. He's on a bass guitar laughter,
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  I can pick up. I might buy another one when I
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  earned the money. So okay, let's do another
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  question. So the question you do, good
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  work man. Can you describe a difference in
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  your typical thought and a s thought?
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  So yes, as an Asperger's Syndrome different thought I
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  guess people with neurotypical people who knew typical brains.
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  They kind of understand social constructs and social concept.
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  They kind of just see socializing is something that is
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  easy to do and that thing horrible things, small talk is
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  easy to do, and they do for small talk and then it's fine.
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  But in terms of autistic people, the autistic brain doesn't
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  really grab Raspy idea of that socializing small talk.
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  So small talk will comes a bit different and difficult for
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  someone on the autism spectrum to kind of deal with.
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  So yeah, it's it's a bit of a difficult situation socializing.
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  Okay, this is an interesting question.
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  Why do people get autism when we get autism?
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  People are born with Autism. So, that is basically how the
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  brain it is created. When you're growing.
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  You know, when you're under human your tiny human, you're
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  growing your brain fuses are certain way and that causes
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  autism, not like getting autism, that makes sense.
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  Okay, here's a question advice on keeping my young son safe in
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  public. He has absolutely no sense of
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  danger and he, and so frightening.
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  I did a video all about keeping kids safe on the autism
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  spectrum, 100%, And it's on my YouTube channel, I only pulled
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  it a couple of days ago and so it's a couple days ago, sorry,
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  couple weeks ago maybe two weeks ago so it's about four videos
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  away. So go check it out and and that
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  might actually help you that answer the question better than
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  I could do ad hoc on a live talk like this, okay.
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  Okay, let's take a couple more questions.
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  Is there such thing as being under stimulated?
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  Yes, 100% like me in school. Okay, here we go.
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  I was recently diagnosed with Asperger's at 18 and I have and
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  told my friends, yet, any advice?
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  And I'm just going to do a video on telling friends and family
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  that you have an awesome scratching condition and my
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  advice is just to be honest, open and 100% kind of like
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  backed up. So if you say, hey, I've, you
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  know, I've got this condition or I am autistic, this is
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  information on it and then you can give them information and
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  that information that will help them.
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  Kind of go away and think about it and digest that because
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  that's what people wanted to just want information, really?
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  So that's how that works. Okay guys, will attend the live
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  stream here. Thank you so much for watching.
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  Peace out, check out my competition.
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  I'm running over on Twitter, you have to follow me on Twitter to
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  enter the competition but I will leave a link in my Instagram
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  stories. If you want to join the
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  competition and anybody watching over on YouTube right now, for
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  competition, still running. Check out the link in
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  description below and yet still in some sensory gadgets.
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  Alright guys, thanks.