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Hypnosis to Stop Trying to Be Productive — Start Building Skills That Actually Change Your Life · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  Hypnotherapist, Demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty Adam Cox. These recordings took place live
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  from Evans Clinic in London's world famous Harley Street.
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  So get yourself comfortable and enjoy today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist. Hi.
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  It's Adam here. Now some people have.
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  This. Hustle.
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  Mentality this idea. That they've always got to be
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  working. They've always got to be.
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  Doing something they've always. Got to be striving and that can
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  paradoxically lead to more procrastination and more
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  feelings of fatigue or burnout because enough is never enough.
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  And what this hypnosis session does is addresses that and says
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  rather than trying to be productive, what if the goal is
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  to build skills and prioritization and by getting
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  good at stuff, finding that the outcome is just a natural side
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  effect of competency and effort. And that's the paradox
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  sometimes, that sometimes people are trying to work, but to use a
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  Gordon Ramsay phrase, they end up being busy idiots and they
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  are being productive but being productive at the wrong things.
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  Whereas actually doing something to a high skill level could
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  actually mean a lot more gets done.
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  And it's about working hard and smart.
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  And it's easier to work smart if you have skills than if you just
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  have knowledge. And it does take some principles
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  taken from time management techniques and various things.
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  So you get clarity on what you're doing to free up
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  cognitive bandwidth to do the kind of things that actually
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  make a difference. And I realise I say this knowing
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  that I work a lot, You know, I post a hypnosis podcast daily.
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  I'm seeing clients all the time. I also have other business
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  interests out there. But when you do it from a place
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  of you love playing the game, you get enjoyment doing the
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  thing and the productivity is a an outcome.
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  It's a side effect of what you do that's very different than if
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  you're just trying to do stuff. Sort of encourage you to kind of
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  bear that in mind as you listen to this hypnosis session and
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  just think. What?
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  Skills would you like to be better at?
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  Now this session was created for an individual.
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  Some of the suggestions would be ideal for them.
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  Not quite right for you. So if you like the idea of a
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  bespoke session, check out the description and you'll see that
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  there is some resources there, like a suitability test, a free
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  webinar, lots of free downloads. All of those things are in the
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  description. For now though, I'd encourage
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  you to check out this episode first.
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  So find a quiet comfortable. Place where you.
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  Won't be distracted or disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, calm, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, just allow your eyelids to close.
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  Position your body in such a way where it becomes natural, easy,
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  perhaps even effortless to just relax.
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  That's it. Breathing and relaxation and
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  exhaling tension. Each breath enables you to drift
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  deeper and deeper, relaxed as you give yourself permission to
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  go to a place and a space that you've been many times before.
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  Safe place where change happens without force.
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  The change happens simply because it helps make a
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  transition from where you are to closer to where you want to be.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  And notice how that one deep, long
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  breath changes the quality of the space inside.
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  A fraction more room, a fraction more stillness.
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  What if this, a simple breath, is the first skill of the skill
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  builder? That ability.
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  To deliberately. Create the internal conditions
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  for neuroplasticity, for learning, for depth, for the
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  kind of intentional thinking that produces real capability.
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  Create an image in your mind of what you consider a master
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  craftsperson. And they don't begin their work
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  on a delicate piece in a state of agitation.
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  They prepare the workspace, they arrange the tools, they bring
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  themselves to a state of settled attention before they even touch
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  the material, because they know that the quality of the work
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  depends first on the quality of the inner state of the one doing
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  it. As you breathe in and breathe
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  out, feel a release and allow your body to do what it knows
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  how to do when given permission. The shoulders dropping, the jaw
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  releasing, the breath finding its own rhythm, the body
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  arranging itself for deep, unhurried, productive attention.
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  And notice something important happening as you do this.
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  The internal noise begins to settle, and not because the
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  external world has quietened, but because you have created a
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  space inside that is larger than the noise.
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  An internal workspace, clear and ordered, ready for the real
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  work. If your mind is at its most
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  capable, not when it's at its busiest, but when it has that
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  cognitive bandwidth, that breathing space.
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  When it has room, when the clutter has been cleared, when
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  the essential things are held in a trusted system somewhere
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  outside the head, Meaning the head itself is free to do what
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  only it can do, to think deeply, to build competency and skills,
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  and to observe with genuine curiosity.
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  And perhaps you've already imagined a workshop where that
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  person of skill and ability was preparing.
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  But let's refine it. Let's imagine a workshop, a real
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  one, the kind that belongs to someone that's been building
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  their craft for many years. It might be something practical,
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  someone like a Carpenter or a Potter, perhaps a watchmaker or
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  something else. Notice the quality of the space.
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  It is ordered and not sterile, and there is evidence of real
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  work everywhere. But everything has its place.
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  Every tool is where it can be found without searching.
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  Every project in progress is clearly labeled and tracked.
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  Nothing is forgotten. Nothing is falling through
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  cracks. Nothing is consuming background
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  attention just by existing. No open loops here, and the
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  person who works in this space can give their complete
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  attention to the project or work in front of them because the
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  system holds everything else. The system remembers and the
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  system tracks so that the mind doesn't have to, that that's
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  understanding, a way to juggle multiple projects and tasks, or
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  just know what's what The mind is a brilliant instrument for
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  thinking and a terrible instrument for storage.
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  When we ask it to hold everything simultaneously, to
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  remember the tasks and the deadlines and the commitments
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  and the ideas and the concerns, it devotes enormous energy to
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  that holding function. And while it's using its energy
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  for that, then the energy can't be used for the thing it does
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  best. But when everything lives in a
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  trusted system outside the mind, and when nothing can fall
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  through the cracks because the cracks have been sealed, the
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  mind is released, liberated, and it becomes available for its
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  highest function, building real, deep, lasting skills.
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  I want you to float into this workshop and feel like it's your
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  workshop. And as I countdown from 12:50,
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  you will imagine drifting deeper into this space, A haven in your
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  own mind, in which instead of building watches or furniture,
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  you are building skills 10. I'm going deeper into this
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  workshop 87. Feeling the quality of a mind
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  that has room to work 654. Feel the particular stillness of
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  someone who is completely present because nothing outside
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  this moment is demanding their attention. 32 and one.
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  Here you are in the workshop, tools in order, projects
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  tracked, mind free. And here in this workshop,
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  within your mind, we can begin the real work.
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  There is a particular kind of person in the world.
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  You've met them, perhaps in different forms.
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  The person who is genuinely absorbed in becoming better at
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  something, not for external validation, not to perform
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  competence, but because the development of real capability
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  is to them, intrinsically worthwhile.
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  They don't care about accomplishments and success.
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  The journey is the point. The destination is simply a
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  byproduct of doing something valuable, important, and getting
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  better at that thing. The skill builder is not
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  interested in appearing productive, they are interested
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  in actually getting better. And these are not the same
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  thing. In fact, they are sometimes
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  opposites, because appearing productive sometimes requires
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  performing activity, presenteeism, taking credit for
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  other people's work, whereas building skills sometimes
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  requires stopping and thinking, experimenting and failing
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  usefully before trying again with the new information and the
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  feedback. The skill builder values
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  something most of the world undervalues thinking, time
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  reflecting not the restless, anxious turning of problems in
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  the mind, but the genuine, unhurried, generative
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  consideration of things, The kind of thinking that produces
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  insight rather than just options, and that produces
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  understanding rather than just information.
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  And calmness. Not as a luxury, it is a nice to
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  have when the work is done, but as a prerequisite, as a
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  foundation, as an essential condition in which real skill
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  development becomes possible. The skill builder treats their
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  own calmness the way a musician treats the tuning of their
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  instrument. You can't make good music on an
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  instrument that isn't ready, and you can't build deep skill in a
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  nervous system that is running on high alert.
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  To embrace the skill builder and feel that your primary
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  orientation is toward genuine mastery, not the performance of
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  productivity and calmness and thinking time are not rewards.
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  They are the ingredients, the conditions that you work from.
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  And don't be surprised if this identity reorders what matters.
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  Things you used to value become less important, and other things
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  that weren't so important before become more important.
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  That's just a natural reaction to embracing the identity.
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  So the question stops being am I getting enough done and instead
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  becomes am I getting genuinely better?
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  The question stops being am I appearing capable and becomes am
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  I building real capability? And the question stops being
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  what will others think if I ask for help?
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  And becomes what's the fastest path to genuine competency here?
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  And is that path one I need help with?
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  Because the skill builder understand something about
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  strength that most people misunderstand.
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  Strength is not the absence of needing help.
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  Strength is the willingness to seek the most efficient route to
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  real capability. And sometimes that route runs
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  directly through asking the right person the right question.
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  The child that wants to be the samurai does not learn it by
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  themself. They find the master, the
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  samurai that is already capable. The aspiring samurai knows that
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  asking for help is a skill. It's how the skill builder
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  learns fastest, needing input, refinement, guidance.
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  It's not weakness, it's intelligent resource allocation.
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  Consider for a moment the difference between 2 versions of
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  the same person on exactly the same morning.
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  The first version, first person, carries everything in the head.
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  The tasks that need doing, the things that might be forgotten,
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  the half formed ideas that need following up, the commitments
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  made and not yet tracked, the concern that surface and
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  resurface because no decision has been made.
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  There's no formal home for them. Now, this person is technically
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  available to build skill, but their cognitive bandwidth is
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  already maximized and occupied, every thread of attention being
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  devoted to holding the structure together in case they forget.
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  But imagine the second version of the same person, and they
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  have a trusted external system. Every thought, every idea, every
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  project, every task captured, every commitment tracked.
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  Even ideas that maybe someday will turn into fruition are
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  still put somewhere. Every project is broken into
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  what can be done now and what needs to be done later, so their
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  mind never has to carry the weight of figuring out what to
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  do next. This person sits down to a piece
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  of work and their mind is clear, available, free to go deep.
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  What if this isn't just a preference, but a neurological
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  reality? Some people believe that the
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  mind cannot distinguish between tasks it needs to remember and
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  tasks it is formally captured. Both consume the same monitoring
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  resource, and the only way to release that resource is to give
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  the mind genuine evidence that nothing will be lost if it let's
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  go. That evidence is the system.
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  The system is an act of trust. And what if you have a system so
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  you can trust this structure to hold everything so your mind
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  doesn't have to? Don't be surprised if you're
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  unconscious. Starts to feel freedom and
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  safety and possibility in that liberated state.
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  With that additional cognitive and intellectual bandwidth,
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  there is more thinking capacity available, and whether it's
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  related to mathematics or machine learning, new knowledge,
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  new skills, you freed up the resources to do more with less,
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  so that skill building becomes amplified, enhanced, genuinely
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  not just possible, but inevitable because the
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  conditions for it have been deliberately created.
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  Your mind is for building skill, not for storage.
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  I want you to unleash another part within.
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  There's a part that can learn skills and another curious
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  observing part. Let's call it the
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  observationalist. And that part has made an
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  internal decision, a decision so deep it doesn't require
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  conscious choosing in the moment.
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  Perhaps a decision that says I'm not here to defend myself, I'm
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  here to observe, to understand and to choose deliberately what
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  I engage with. human or perhaps animal
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  behaviour in the field, who watches a difficult interaction
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  the way a documentary filmmaker might watch a rare and
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  interesting animal. Not with judgement, but with
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  genuine curiosity, with professional detachment, with a
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  sense of privilege that comes from having an extraordinary
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  front row seat to something genuinely interesting.
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  And when someone is patronizing, the naturalist doesn't take it
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  personally. They mentally note it
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  interesting. What's the function of that
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  behaviour? What's the underlying intention?
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  What is this person trying to achieve?
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  What is their tonality? Tell me about their internal
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  state right now. Is this projection displacement?
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  Are they going through a tough time?
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  What are they afraid of that would make this their strategy?
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  And when someone is disagreeable, the naturalist
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  asks questions. Real questions, curious
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  questions. Not rhetorical weapons, but
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  genuine inquiry that communicates I'm interested in
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  what's underneath this. I'm not rushing to respond.
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  I choose what I engage with and what I let pass.
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  Your curiosity is stronger than their provocation.
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  They want a reaction, which is why it frustrates them when
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  instead you choose to respond. Ask questions first, always real
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  questions that come from genuine curiosity.
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  Questions by time and gather information and subtly shift
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  power towards the one who is asking rather than the one who
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  is defending. You don't need to defend.
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  Defending has a presupposition which confirms the attack.
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  When you explain yourself without being asked, you are
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  agreeing that an explanation was required.
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  What if you reject the premise? The observationalist does not
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  agree to that framing. As the balls come over the net,
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  you choose which balls to hit back.
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  Not every throw requires a catch.
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  Not every ball needs to be returned.
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  Some things can simply land and be noted and be left there
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  without response, without engagement, without the cost of
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  your attention. The urgency to respond is a
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  feeling, not a fact. You can observe the feeling with
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  interest and choose not to act on it.
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  And what if this is just one of those powerful skills that you
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  are building, where you can be comfortable in your own
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  vulnerability to choose when to build skills, when to detach and
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  observe, to notice what you notice, reflect, learn, refine
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  with a wonderful state of curiosity and wonder.
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  Prioritizing growth, competency and rejecting that you even need
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  approval, validation. Rejecting the idea that someone
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  can criticize or judge. Just opinions, just words.
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  And I want you to get a sense that you're about to leave this
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  workshop in your mind with new beliefs, new identities, new
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  skills, new ideas that give you more choices, more options.
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  It's time to float up out of the workshop within your mind,
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  knowing you can return whenever you choose.
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  Take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose and wiggle your fingers and wiggle your toes.
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  Connect and calibrate into the here and the now as I count to
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  awaken you. 123 waking up. 456 More alert 7-8 Open your eyes,
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  Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake, Wide awake, wide awake.
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