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Breakfast Bonus: Work life balance · Toni, Jase & Sam - Breakfast Catchup

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  Speaker 1: The Coast Breakfast Bonus Podcast with Tony Jason Sam.
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  Speaker 2: Thanks for listening to our Breakfast Bonus podcast. Do you
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  Speaker 2: think you've got a decent work life balance? We're all
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  Speaker 2: trying to struggle for it, all trying to strive for it.
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  Speaker 2: And I look back at my parents and I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if they had it that well when I was
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  Speaker 2: a kid, but I think Dad later in life deafly
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  Speaker 2: nailed it.
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  Speaker 3: I feel like I have balance, but both of them
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  Speaker 3: are too much, both the life and the work.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know what you mean.
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  Speaker 3: So the balance is tipping over just in fullness, you're
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  Speaker 3: just overflowing. Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I don't think that is balance though, Is that No?
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  Speaker 3: Because that's a balance on the other that's like the
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  Speaker 3: third parts of the balance equation. And it's not just two.
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  Speaker 3: It's like what's the cup doing.
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  Speaker 5: It's not only the pendulum, it's the volume in the cup.
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  Speaker 4: It sure is what you have it. You're right, cupson.
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  Speaker 4: My cup's overfalling, overflowing.
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  Speaker 3: It's over full of But is it overall with work
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  Speaker 3: or life?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe a bit of both actually, to be honest to
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  Speaker 2: That's why I know what you mean. So there's a
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  Speaker 2: test you can do. These are five questions you should
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  Speaker 2: ask yourself. Are you ready, yes, okay? What do you
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  Speaker 2: think of when you're falling asleep at night?
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  Speaker 3: I was thinking about last night, genuinely, who our nible
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  Speaker 3: signings were going to be, so that is class? Does work? Yeah?
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  Speaker 4: Work, yep, yep.
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  Speaker 5: I was thinking through script ideas for a video, so
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  Speaker 5: then it's work.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes I think about nickble positions for my kids team.
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  Speaker 3: So is that life?
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  Speaker 4: I guess that's lovely, that's good a bit.
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  Speaker 5: I'm thinking of very different types of positions.
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  Speaker 4: It's a attack of gold offens. What I get is goldf.
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  Speaker 3: No.
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  Speaker 2: I honestly, yeah, I'm very bad at I try to.
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  Speaker 2: I try to think about something that went really well
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  Speaker 2: that day, and it's the last thing I want to
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  Speaker 2: think about when when I fall asleep last night that
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  Speaker 2: didn't happen. I think last night I was thinking about
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  Speaker 2: how much I have to do, like tomorrow, like the
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  Speaker 2: moneyt day, and I've got work enough to work, I've
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  Speaker 2: got this, this, this, this is. I'll think about my
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  Speaker 2: to do list and that's not a good way to
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  Speaker 2: do things either.
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  Speaker 3: That's the answer.
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  Speaker 2: The answers you should be thinking about things are supposed
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  Speaker 2: to be grateful for most commonly that's what you should
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  Speaker 2: be doing. But most most commonly people think about work.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes I think of how proud I am of my kids.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, that's a grateful thing. That's what you're supposed to do.
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  Speaker 3: I'll think, oh, Mickey did so well on your speech today.
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  Speaker 3: I'll reflect on things like that. Good.
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  Speaker 5: I like to take myself off into a rainforest. So
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  Speaker 5: every night I said, I've got a white noise machine,
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  Speaker 5: hang on, yeah, yeah, yeah. And then I like to
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  Speaker 5: think of myself under a tin roof, a tin roof,
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  Speaker 5: and I think of like green fronds and a lake
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  Speaker 5: with drips of water falling into it. So that's how
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  Speaker 5: I try and create peacefulness in my mind.
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  Speaker 3: Idea, I reckon, your CAP's not full enough of that's
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  Speaker 3: what you're thinking all for? Wind that up? Brother?
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  Speaker 4: What do you want me to do edible kids?
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  Speaker 3: No?
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  Speaker 4: I think, I think. I think it's a good way
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  Speaker 4: to do it.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, how often are you late home from work because
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  Speaker 2: you had to finish something urgent?
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  Speaker 5: I this is an interesting one because what I do
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  Speaker 5: is I create busyness, Because I both I curse busyness,
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  Speaker 5: but I create it for myself as well. I like
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  Speaker 5: to create an urge.
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  Speaker 3: And see right, Okay, something sad about people that like
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  Speaker 3: to fill gaps in their already busy life. Yeah, that
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  Speaker 3: called avoids, and I think I'm one too.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I think we all are, yes, avoiding.
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  Speaker 3: What well, you know you need, you know you need
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  Speaker 3: to rest, and you know you need to break. But
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  Speaker 3: the moment you get when you.
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  Speaker 4: Feel it same, Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: To avoid in your and your empty cells.
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  Speaker 5: And they go on and I winge about it. I
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  Speaker 5: winge up always in a hurry. But I'm the one
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  Speaker 5: that created the mess.
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  Speaker 4: One of the worst things I do.
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  Speaker 2: Like if we have a meeting that goes on over,
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  Speaker 2: I'll just carrying on and I'll go back to my
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  Speaker 2: days and I'll finish what I need to finish. That way,
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  Speaker 2: when I leave here, I don't have to think about
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  Speaker 2: it much after that, Like i'd always laugh at my
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  Speaker 2: real job starts once the kids get home, so nothing
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  Speaker 2: to worry about from it. But that then makes me
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  Speaker 2: late leaving the building.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I can never do that anymore because there's
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  Speaker 3: just a constant stream of Edmond just never in.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I know I read this great thing.
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  Speaker 2: I can't remember who the guy was He's one big
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  Speaker 2: boss that might have been Google or one of those
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  Speaker 2: big firms.
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  Speaker 4: And what he did.
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  Speaker 2: He always said that Wednesday night was his date night.
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  Speaker 2: And then when you come through with a problem at
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  Speaker 2: four thirty, that's fine, I'll give you to all five
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  Speaker 2: to five, but that's it and anything else we deal
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  Speaker 2: with tomorrow. And he had the rule right through his
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  Speaker 2: life and he prioritized his wife and he's got the
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  Speaker 2: most amazing life balance. For the life of me. I
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  Speaker 2: can't remember a company, but it's a really famous one.
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  Speaker 2: But the big boss made that big thing. He's well
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  Speaker 2: into his like sixty seventies now, and he's had that
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  Speaker 2: one rule. Wednesday night is my wife night.
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  Speaker 3: Wednesday. He never had a kid that played sport then,
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  Speaker 3: because well may basketball or nipple on a Wednesday, and
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  Speaker 3: then he would have had to have changed his date night.
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  Speaker 5: He refused to change his date night. That was yes,
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  Speaker 5: he thought the structure of his family was based around
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  Speaker 5: the relationship with his wife, and he pold that up
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  Speaker 5: as one of his pillars, so it didn't matter.
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  Speaker 4: He was a tick grew I think it was.
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  Speaker 3: Did he changed the date night to Thursday?
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  Speaker 4: No flexibility?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, that's a movable that's that's I don't know
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  Speaker 3: if that's a good way to be in life. I
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  Speaker 3: don't know.
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  Speaker 2: He seems a very successful man, but also he made
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  Speaker 2: everyone awad, even people who worked with.
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  Speaker 5: Life every day, that that was his priority. Everything had
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  Speaker 5: to be done by that.
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  Speaker 3: And that's only one day, one day week.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, the problem, that's fine, we can deal with it tomorrow.
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  Speaker 5: So color every week that I like.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, do you enjoy the majority of your work? Yes, honestly,
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  Speaker 2: hend on heart, yes, yeah, yeah, okay. How often do
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  Speaker 2: you check work emails on your phone?
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  Speaker 4: Terrible?
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  Speaker 3: Every single day, on multiple times a day.
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  Speaker 4: We had to work emails. But I get one and
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  Speaker 4: I feel like, oh my god, I should reply to
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  Speaker 4: that and straight away.
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  Speaker 3: But it's not great because then people expect higher replies,
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  Speaker 3: like they don't expect to reply from you for at
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  Speaker 3: least a month.
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  Speaker 5: Well, I wait for the third email. But do you
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  Speaker 5: know what, there's nothing more than I gnaw. And it
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  Speaker 5: shows the different types of people in this world produces
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  Speaker 5: people that actually have an output of work and facilitators.
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  Speaker 5: Facilitators always email on a Friday afternoon to clear their desk.
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  Speaker 5: Facilitators won't sorry, facilitators producers of work won't because they're
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  Speaker 5: doing the work, get the stuff done. And facilitators so
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  Speaker 5: often unload everything On a Friday.
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  Speaker 3: Some people they are clearing their decks.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, which is I guess that way they have a
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  Speaker 2: life balance. They get away for the weekend. All right,
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  Speaker 2: how is your physical health?
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  Speaker 4: Out of ten?
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  Speaker 2: Our physical health can signal plenty of unconscious signs. We
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  Speaker 2: are struggling our parents, and physical feelings could become affected.
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  Speaker 3: Physical health is what your fitness.
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  Speaker 4: If you if you lingers, if your cough lingers, you
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  Speaker 4: just can't.
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  Speaker 5: Your health is terrible.
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  Speaker 4: According to my hair, it's only one factor. Yeah, the
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  Speaker 4: superb for example, what about that rash?
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  Speaker 5: No, there's a rash that I have on my wrist.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, I wasn't even I won't even seen that one. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I was meaning the one on you in a thigh.
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  Speaker 5: That terrible, as I from, I'm allergic to my ife
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  Speaker 5: I watch. I am having an allergic relation to my strap.
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  Speaker 2: Oh so the fact even little things like this, listen
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  Speaker 2: to this, I did not know this. If you found
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  Speaker 2: that you have to wash your here a lot more
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  Speaker 2: due to excess oil. Here contains the hormone cortisol. When
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  Speaker 2: you're under pressure, that's what you start producing.
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  Speaker 3: So you're washing.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you hear what or can't get into that that
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  Speaker 2: ling lingering legally cough are the things there. Dedicate one
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  Speaker 2: night a week for a couple of hours of uninterrupted
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  Speaker 2: self care time. That's how you get it back, your
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  Speaker 2: physical health and.
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  Speaker 4: Mental health everything.
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  Speaker 3: Just wash your here of people.
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  Speaker 5: No, no, but you do see people that are strung
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  Speaker 5: out in the hairs like they look like.
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  Speaker 3: A greasy mess, greasy meat.
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  Speaker 4: This is why, because they're under stress. That's so there,
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  Speaker 4: it is so yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So take at least a couple of one night a week,
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  Speaker 2: a couple of hours just to do nothing else, just
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  Speaker 2: your self care.
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  Speaker 3: Stop looking at my hair, Jase, It's not that greasy.
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  Speaker 4: It was great. The hat's really becoming me this ghost.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for listening to the Coast Breakfast Bonus podcast.
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