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DLHS Hour 2 | Dad Buys Gift for Daughter but Not Stepdaughter · The D.L. Hughley Show

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  Speaker 1: All right, here's the thing that constantly galls the hell
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  Speaker 1: out of me. I hate people that think they have
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  Speaker 1: privileges that they don't anymore. And that privilege extends to
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  Speaker 1: me being fin giving anything financial to somebody that I
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  Speaker 1: don't have to. If I don't have to do something,
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  Speaker 1: you're counting on my good graces. If I don't have
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  Speaker 1: to do, if it's not quarter order, if it's not mandated,
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  Speaker 1: if it's not if I don't have to do it,
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  Speaker 1: then it is the tone and tenure of our relationship
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  Speaker 1: decides whether I do or not.
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  Speaker 2: I know, but I guess my issue is and what
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  Speaker 2: I hate more than anything is you treat a child
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  Speaker 2: a particular way because you have an issue with the
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  Speaker 2: mother or the father.
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  Speaker 3: You need to tell me that ain't got nothing to
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  Speaker 3: do with you women.
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  Speaker 2: Fact that you step into a child's life, you participate,
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  Speaker 2: ask her all.
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  Speaker 3: Of a sudden, I got an extra kid, So all
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  Speaker 3: you care about is that, as I'm not the kid.
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  Speaker 3: Obviously he did.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I'm talking about you because you said, I said
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  Speaker 2: you agree, do agree with it?
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  Speaker 3: That's horrible. You condone that type of may.
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  Speaker 1: It has nothing to do with what he did. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know him. He'll never know me.
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  Speaker 3: I know, and you agree with him. He could have
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  Speaker 3: been a total and you still agree with that.
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  Speaker 1: Then she shouldn't want a present from a dude.
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  Speaker 3: Who is it? I did show up? If you came
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  Speaker 3: to a person's house, I get it.
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  Speaker 2: You have a relationship with that family, right, especially with
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  Speaker 2: the mother, even if you were not the biological father
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  Speaker 2: of the first kid but the second. But you had
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  Speaker 2: been pretending since you say it wasn't the father, I.
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  Speaker 3: Don't know the father. How could you show up with
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  Speaker 3: a toy for one and now for the other like this?
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  Speaker 3: I got you, I got you, I can see you.
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  Speaker 3: You don't want to speak to the girl, you don't
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  Speaker 3: want to have nothing to do with her. But I
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  Speaker 3: would never mistreat it.
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  Speaker 1: I got a present from a real daughter out here,
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  Speaker 1: Come get it.
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  Speaker 3: I'm instead there in the door. That's horrible.
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  Speaker 1: Present for my real All Right, Who do you think
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  Speaker 1: was wrong? I think that men and women are probably
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  Speaker 1: going to look at this a lot different. But ultimately
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  Speaker 1: it is expectations. It's audacious of you to expect something
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  Speaker 1: from me that I don't have to give you. It's
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  Speaker 1: audacious of.
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  Speaker 3: You to do that.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I will say this after looking at the video. Yes,
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  Speaker 2: there there's one thing that I will have a change
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  Speaker 2: of heart about what And I did not know it
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  Speaker 2: was his daughter's birthday. Correct, that was correct, But y'all
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  Speaker 2: didn't tell us them, So was that whatever it is?
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  Speaker 3: You know, I disagree.
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  Speaker 2: I think if it wasn't birthday presence, I agree with
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  Speaker 2: that on her birthday, I have no problem with that.
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  Speaker 2: But if it was just a regular visit or you
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  Speaker 2: were coming to see her and you were bringing something,
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  Speaker 2: be it food or a gift, I.
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  Speaker 3: Think a nice thing to do would be the Also.
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  Speaker 2: If you had if you had nothing to do with
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  Speaker 2: this little girl or little boy and you never met them.
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  Speaker 3: And you just knew she had them by somebody else.
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  Speaker 2: But if you had played the role of father, I
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  Speaker 2: think the the human and adult thing to do.
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  Speaker 3: Would be a nice thing to do.
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  Speaker 1: And I don't think it's the adult thing to do
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  Speaker 1: because adults act all kinds of ways that don't comport
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  Speaker 1: with way I think. See, I don't think that, but
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  Speaker 1: I do think it would be a nice thing to do.
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  Speaker 1: Just like this, I used to want whenever my birthday
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  Speaker 1: was Kyle, what did I do.
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  Speaker 3: For my birthday? What I do for you guys. Take
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  Speaker 3: a shot. That's right, And now I'm not going to
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  Speaker 3: ever do that again.
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  Speaker 1: I'm just gonna do it with my grandkids because I
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  Speaker 1: don't really need them anymore.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, I'm just kidding, but I could see.
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  Speaker 1: It's my only problem is whatever I do, I do
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  Speaker 1: because I want to, not because I'm guilty, not because
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  Speaker 1: I don't care what you think about what I did.
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  Speaker 1: You crashing out because you didn't think that I acted appropriately.
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  Speaker 1: I would never hurt your child. I would never put
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  Speaker 1: my mouth on your child and be dispect for your child.
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  Speaker 1: And I also wouldn't get that little ingrade president either.
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  Speaker 3: Why would you call the child?
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  Speaker 4: Looking? Looking at the video, you can see the look
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  Speaker 4: that girl. There's a big Asians paradise. She looked like
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  Speaker 4: she was almost a teenager. She was so apparently they
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  Speaker 4: didn't develop that type of relationship. I mean for him. Now,
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  Speaker 4: I heard people.
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  Speaker 1: Say this is my mother's husband. I heard people have
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  Speaker 1: that kind of relationship. And then for the girl to
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  Speaker 1: start crying because she didn't get a present, because the
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  Speaker 1: little girl got a present on her birthday.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, and that girl crying for she was told to dad.
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  Speaker 1: He wasn't raised right. You could tell she wasn't raised
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  Speaker 1: right at all. No, we're not suckers, is when we're not. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: then mama had all her sisters there and then they.
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  Speaker 3: Listen. You could tell you look, listen and see, listen
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  Speaker 3: to that. It was a coven of ungrateful as it
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  Speaker 3: was a why I just know that's come on now,
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  Speaker 3: he ain't got to get that.
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  Speaker 5: Bro.
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  Speaker 3: Have y'all heard? This is big, she's she's older. I
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  Speaker 3: mean by a lot. I mean, I mean obviously, I
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  Speaker 3: always tell men who've had their heart broken a lot.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think a man out there's been who hasn't
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  Speaker 3: the heart broken. But I mean a lot. I think
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  Speaker 3: there's a difference between some and a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: You're not gonna you're not gonna hurt my feelings that
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  Speaker 1: I don't have any connection to somebody because somebody makes
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  Speaker 1: me do it.
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  Speaker 3: Nobody's gonna give your big ass away from my little
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  Speaker 3: dog present you do something. Nobody's gonna make you do anything.
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  Speaker 3: Get your big broken ass over there, wait for your
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  Speaker 3: daddy to get in. Yeah, that's what that is. Empty
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  Speaker 3: over there, it's emptying a lot. You got the cake
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  Speaker 3: on the birthday, for sure. On the birthday. You know,
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  Speaker 3: person's supposed to feel special. I totally get that.
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  Speaker 2: But the conversations that we've had in the past, whether
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  Speaker 2: it was someone coming to visit and they only bring
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  Speaker 2: something for their kids on they bring food, I would
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  Speaker 2: ever do that.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, well, but I think that the fact that the
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  Speaker 1: fact that this chick thought she was gonna get some
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  Speaker 1: on somebody else's birthday and made a big deal when
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  Speaker 1: she didn't, lets you know what kind of person she is.
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  Speaker 3: So here's an audio of a father.
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  Speaker 1: Bringing his daughter again, but he didn't bring one to
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  Speaker 1: his stepdaughter and his ex crashes out.
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  Speaker 3: He's yours too. I mean he was acting like.
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  Speaker 6: This, you need no person, see, and.
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  Speaker 3: Now you're got go do it her failings some type
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  Speaker 3: of way.
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  Speaker 1: He can't be the lousion of heart.
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  Speaker 5: Taken care of.
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  Speaker 6: You knowing him now against you knowing him now, waning
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  Speaker 6: against a lot.
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  Speaker 3: We are not doing that. We're not doing that. Come on, baby,
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  Speaker 3: Come on, do you think you think he was wrong?
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  Speaker 3: We go up to the phones.
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  Speaker 6: So I agree with d L. Actually, that has been
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  Speaker 6: a bone of my extension for me, for men who
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  Speaker 6: take care of kids that are not there, whoever that
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  Speaker 6: young lady's father is her biological father. The mom should
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  Speaker 6: go pursue him to get him to pay the child
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  Speaker 6: support and do the extra stuff. Not the man that's
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  Speaker 6: not her daddy. He has no obligation. If he did it,
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  Speaker 6: that was because he wanted to. He's not obligated to
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  Speaker 6: do it. And what if, for example, that girl's daddy
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  Speaker 6: buys her something but doesn't buy his child anything, And
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  Speaker 6: now this child is getting all the glee and all
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  Speaker 6: the gifts, and his daughter's not getting any gifts from
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  Speaker 6: that man. So that mom is wrong. She needs to
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  Speaker 6: make the responsibility be on the biological father, not this man.
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  Speaker 6: He has no obligation to that child. He has only
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  Speaker 6: an obligation to his own blood. He didn't make that child.
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  Speaker 6: His blood didn't mix up make that girl. If she
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  Speaker 6: feels a certain type of way, the mama should explain
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  Speaker 6: it to If the mama is a cuckoo for cocoa puff,
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  Speaker 6: then too bad. She don't know how to explain to
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  Speaker 6: her daughter, this is not your dad. We're no longer together,
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  Speaker 6: and so he's not buying you gifts. He's only buying
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  Speaker 6: his own child gifts. And I agree one hundred.
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  Speaker 7: Percent with d l really me personally, if I'm raising
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  Speaker 7: that child and me and that woman breaks up, I
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  Speaker 7: personally feel like I'm still obligated to keep raising that child.
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  Speaker 7: That child looks at me like a father figure. I'm
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  Speaker 7: going to keep being that father figure to that child.
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  Speaker 7: So if I do buy for one, I'm going to
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  Speaker 7: buy for the other one. Because Marley, I think is right,
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  Speaker 7: because that to be very disappointed and a crush the
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  Speaker 7: kid at heart to know that they're being raised by
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  Speaker 7: somebody who no longer wants to deal with them either.
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  Speaker 7: So in my personal opinion, I think that you should,
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  Speaker 7: you know, continue to raise that child because that child
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  Speaker 7: looks to look up to you as a father figure.
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  Speaker 5: He don't have to.
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  Speaker 8: Give her anything because it's not his daughter. But I've
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  Speaker 8: been in that situation before, and I gave to the
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  Speaker 8: all children that was there. I bought a little something
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  Speaker 8: for all children that was there. But he don't have to.
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  Speaker 8: She shouldn't expect him to because it's not his daughter.
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  Speaker 8: But it would have been a nice gesture, you know.
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  Speaker 8: But no, he don't have to because he's not his
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  Speaker 8: daughter and he's not gonna expect anything from her on
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  Speaker 8: Father's Day or birthdays because she's not his daughter, you know,
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  Speaker 8: but it would have been a nice sug gesture to
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  Speaker 8: kind of, you know, bring something, even if it wasn't
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  Speaker 8: equal to what he gave his daughter, it would have
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  Speaker 8: been something nice.
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  Speaker 9: All the question today, man, I'll see why the mama
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  Speaker 9: got rid of her soft ask. How dare you show
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  Speaker 9: up and treat that young lady like that? Just because
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  Speaker 9: you and a grown individual had a misgian understanding or
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  Speaker 9: whatever it is that y'all fell out about. You don't
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  Speaker 9: fall out with the baby. You got to be kidding me. Man,
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  Speaker 9: You're still standing there where she expected you to be.
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  Speaker 9: So I just think he's wrong for that man, even
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  Speaker 9: if you morally even if you're right, you're morally wrong. Man.
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  Speaker 10: I agree with the ll number one. That's why these
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  Speaker 10: girls need to watch it.
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  Speaker 11: They just allow their kids to call daddy and not
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  Speaker 11: if y'all didn't have understanding that, if y'all was to
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  Speaker 11: split up, that that man was not still the father,
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  Speaker 11: then he's not obligate that it did nothing for that baby.
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  Speaker 11: He's obligeted to do for his biological not somebody else's.
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  Speaker 1: So listen, a woman, a man brings his real daughter
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  Speaker 1: a president on her birthday and it's ungrateful as step
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  Speaker 1: daughter and her mama makes a big deal here.
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  Speaker 3: Just listen, this is y'all said suit. I mean he
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  Speaker 3: was acting like this was y'all kids.
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  Speaker 4: Who were together.
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  Speaker 2: Way you need no present, see, and now you've got
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  Speaker 2: my daughter feelings some type of way we.
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  Speaker 11: Bring't be the losi in the wear you take it
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  Speaker 11: care of?
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  Speaker 6: Was together pers the path?
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  Speaker 3: Are you going up now against he's going up?
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  Speaker 5: Now?
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  Speaker 3: We want to guess a lot. Now we're not doing that.
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  Speaker 6: Off, we're not doing that.
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  Speaker 3: Come on, baby, come on, who do you think was wrong?
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  Speaker 3: We're going to the phones.
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  Speaker 12: Well, I feel like that that's no way to treat
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  Speaker 12: a child. You know that, you mean that in humane?
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  Speaker 12: You know, I know it's a child, and I'm gonna
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  Speaker 12: build one something and not give the others. If you
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  Speaker 12: didn't want to give her something, then you should have
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  Speaker 12: pulled one to the side. But that's not the way
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  Speaker 12: you treat children if you have a heart.
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  Speaker 13: I was in a situation, but I raised two of
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  Speaker 13: her daughters and raised and had my daughter and raised them.
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  Speaker 13: I still consider them as my daughters. So if I
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  Speaker 13: bought them from my biological daughter. I got something for
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  Speaker 13: the other daughters, so that's what I do. So if
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  Speaker 13: he was with her for a long time, I mean,
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  Speaker 13: it shouldn't be no problem. I mean so, I mean
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  Speaker 13: liked it, you know, but I'm not like it.
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  Speaker 14: My name is kids from Ohio. And my question is
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  Speaker 14: if the girl's father in her life, does he buy
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  Speaker 14: this man's daughter presence when he shot? I think when
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  Speaker 14: the man lived in the hall, he should provide and
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  Speaker 14: give gifts some things. But once they're not together anymore,
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  Speaker 14: that's that child's father's obligation to provide her with gives
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  Speaker 14: something unless there's just that type of understanding between all
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  Speaker 14: the parents involved.
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  Speaker 10: First time call her, longtime listener. I disagree with d
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  Speaker 10: l usually And the reason why I say that is
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  Speaker 10: because I feel like if you come into a woman's life,
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  Speaker 10: you don't accept just her them children are part of her.
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  Speaker 10: You take the whole package, not part of the package.
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  Speaker 10: And you know, because I'm kind of definite life I'm
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  Speaker 10: living right now and stuff, I have to accept my
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  Speaker 10: children like their mind. You know, I have a nothing
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  Speaker 10: like their mind and stuff, regardless if they have a
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  Speaker 10: different father, I'm the one in her life right now
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  Speaker 10: and I accepted her going as she had of children,
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  Speaker 10: so I have to accept them as part of the package.
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  Speaker 10: I can't understand why he feels like, you know, well,
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  Speaker 10: I'll give to my biological but not to his. Those
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  Speaker 10: children are part of the package that he hooked up
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  Speaker 10: with stuff. So you'll need to accept the whole package
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  Speaker 10: or nothing.
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  Speaker 5: Well, my first thought is we need all the information. Okay,
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  Speaker 5: I called in here heated. But it's a birthday party.
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  Speaker 5: So if it is a birthday party, you bring a
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  Speaker 5: gift to the child who has the birthday. Now, Mom,
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  Speaker 5: she had no reason to go off on him, But
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  Speaker 5: I agree if it were Christmas or another holiday, that
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  Speaker 5: you should be buying gifts for everyone. But he is
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  Speaker 5: not obligated. But it does show who he is. And
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  Speaker 5: I guess there's a reef and they're divorced.