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What It Means to Surf Your Edge—and Why I Created This Podcast · The Inspired Speaker Network

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  Your travels have brought you to the Surfing Your Edge podcast,
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  where we explore what it takes to create the bigger, bolder,
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  badass life you know you were born for.
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  Not a life that simply looks good on paper,
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  and not another spin on the self-help hamster wheel.
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  If you're ready for more joy, more peace, and more contribution,
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  you're in the right place.
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  I'm Kristine Goad, the Surfing Your Edge coach.
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  Let's get surfing.
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  Welcome to the Surfing Your Edge podcast.
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  I'm Kristine Goad, your Surfing Your Edge coach,
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  and this is episode one, which is a little terrifying.
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  But that is a little bit about why we're here, right?
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  We are here to surf your edge.
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  So let me jump right in and talk about what I mean when I say
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  surfing your edge.
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  Your edge is that place where it's the place between where you are
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  and what's next.
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  It's the place where reality meets possibility.
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  It's the place where you are out on the edge of your comfort zone,
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  and you're maybe staying there a little longer than you want to,
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  because you know that when you do that, your comfort zone expands.
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  So that's what we're talking about when we're talking about surfing your
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  edge. And we're not talking about looking cool.
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  We're not talking about, you know, being macho.
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  We're not none of the bro stuff.
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  This is a bro-free zone.
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  But this is about living your bigger, bolder,
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  badass life. And what I mean by badass,
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  so that you don't run screaming away thinking, oh, that's not me.
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  Badass means being unapologetically yourself.
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  You are here on this planet to become the fullest expression of who you were
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  born to be. When you do that, you don't apologize for yourself.
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  You just keep exploring that edge and growing and leaning in and asking
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  what more can I do? What more can I contribute?
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  What more joy and peace and love can I experience?
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  So that is the journey you've joined.
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  Aren't you so glad you showed up here?
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  I'm really glad you showed up here.
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  All right. So as we've said, this is episode one.
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  And episode one is coming much sooner than I thought it would.
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  I basically started this podcast on a whim because a friend of mine came and
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  said, Hey, it's time.
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  And she had a very short window in which I could jump in and she would
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  support me on this. So I had to jump in before I was ready.
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  And again,
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  that is one of the things we're going to talk about on this podcast.
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  If you wait until you're ready, you've waited too long.
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  So here I am surfing my edge right in front of you,
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  right alongside you and creating something brand new.
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  Well, it's brand new. It's bigger than what it was before.
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  I have done a surfing your edge live show intermittently on Facebook for many
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  years, and I loved that,
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  but this is me finally stepping into the spotlight and asking for a bigger
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  stage or creating my own bigger stage because you don't have to ask,
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  right?
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  Okay.
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  So part of this came about because someone invited me to step in and I said,
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  yes,
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  but it's also the right time for this podcast because the world is in a place
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  of continual flux.
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  And a lot of us are waiting for normal to come back.
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  And I really don't believe normal is coming back.
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  I think the new normal is this continually shifting sands and this game of
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  look over here. No, look over here. Oh, look over here.
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  And then you don't ever get to feel like you're safe. Right?
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  And I've seen so many beautiful, amazing,
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  talented people who are already struggling with that self doubt that we all
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  have.
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  They're being impacted even more greatly right now because the world wants
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  them to feel unsafe and unsteady so that the people,
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  the powers that be don't have to worry about you, right?
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  If you're over here spinning in circles, you're not a threat, right?
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  So you just go spin is what they want you to believe.
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  And I'm here to say, no, I'm taking a stand for you.
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  And if there were ever a time for you to become the fullest expression of who
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  you are, this is the time we aren't waiting for other people to come in and
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  solve the world's problems. We are, we are the solution, right?
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  We may not have any clue how we're going to do what we need to do,
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  but the world needs us right now and we need you.
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  So that's, that's why, right?
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  That's why we're surfing our edge now and not waiting for someday,
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  not waiting for things to get back to normal.
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  This is your time. You, you were born for this. Okay?
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  This is okay. I wasn't even planning to go here, but let's just go here.
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  You were born for this.
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  You've spent your entire life becoming who you are,
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  gaining all of your skills and all of your resources and your world
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  perspective, developing your personality and your,
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  your sense of humor and whatever other life skills you have.
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  They've all been preparing you for this moment.
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  So it is time for you to surf your edge and I will be a
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  gentle guide alongside you.
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  And I promise I don't have all of the answers,
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  but I love asking the questions and I love talking to people about what
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  their answers might be.
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  So I hope to talk to you at some point and hear what you have to say,
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  where this comes from. Surfing your edge is,
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  is I think I spent a lot of my childhood afraid,
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  right? I wanted to look smart.
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  I wanted to be the good girl. I wanted to stay inside the lines.
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  I wanted to jump through all the hoops that everybody put in front of me.
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  And I was really good at it. I jumped through hoops and jumped through hoops.
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  And at some point I realized that jumping through hoops,
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  just because they were there and somebody else said, Hey,
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  wouldn't it be cool if you did this?
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  That wasn't necessarily the life that I was meant to have. Right.
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  And I also started to realize as I, you know,
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  graduated from college and started to find my way in the adult world,
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  I started to find that I didn't fit into anybody's boxes, right? I,
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  I went on a cross country bike trip when I was 29 years old because I wanted
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  to hear the universe whisper in my ear.
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  This is the box you belong to. You know,
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  when you finish this bike ride in August,
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  you go home and you find this company and you apply for this position.
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  And that is where all of your skills and all of your talents and all of your
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  interests belong. That is the box that was created for you.
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  And I never heard that. I didn't hear that.
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  What I kept hearing was BU and I'm like,
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  what does that mean? I had no idea what BU meant.
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  And basically I learned that I'd been asking the wrong question for,
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  for the whole bike ride.
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  I was asking what box do I belong in rather than how do I live my most
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  authentic life? Right. If you ask what box do you belong in?
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  And the answer is BU.
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  If you ask, how do I live my most authentic life?
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  And the answer is BU. That makes sense.
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  So I,
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  I put myself on this path where I was asking the wrong question and I kept
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  asking that question and I kept asking it and didn't realize for another
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  almost two decades that I had been asking the wrong question.
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  And I realized that I have to create my own box, right?
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  There is no box that was created that has all of that will let me be my fullest
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  self. Nobody else has created that box.
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  I have to create my own platform kind of like I'm doing with this podcast,
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  right?
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  So I'm here to help you also or invite you.
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  I'm here to invite you to create your own platform and experience,
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  explore what your U shaped environment feels like.
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  It doesn't have to be a box.
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  And why this matters to me is why it matters to me.
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  Not only that I get to be the most full expression of who I came to this planet
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  to be, but why it matters to me that you also get that experience is because I
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  believe the universe is learning about itself through us,
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  right?
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  It created you as a specific lens on the world on itself.
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  And in order for it to get a full
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  understanding of what it is that is happening in your part of the universe,
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  it needs you to fully express who you are,
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  to fully explore, to be funny or silly,
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  to make mistakes, to learn, to grow,
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  to follow your passion regardless of what the world,
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  what the world seems to be saying.
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  The universe, this is what the universe is asking of you.
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  That I believe is your true purpose on this planet is just to be the most you
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  you can be because as you've heard before, there is only one you.
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  There will never be another you and what you do matters.
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  Who you are matters.
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  What matters to you matters.
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  So that's why this work matters to me because we need you.
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  The world needs you right now.
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  As we've already discussed, we are in flux.
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  Things are changing all the time and we need you
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  to help us make the world a better place.
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  One little tiny step at a time in your own little world, right?
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  I'm not asking too much yet.
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  I might ask more later, but for right now,
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  we're just taking tiny little steps forward into what helps you explore your
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  corner of the world a little more fully.
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  So what I hope for this podcast is that you will come along
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  for some inspiration, maybe some laughs,
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  and maybe it will pique your curiosity a little bit and inspire you to try
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  some small experiments. Curiosity and experimentation, again,
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  are part of what we're going to be talking about as this podcast unrolls.
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  So I'm really hoping that you'll find your place where you are seen,
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  where who you are feels like enough,
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  maybe even more than enough because that's what's really the truth.
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  And I'm really just hoping that we all kind of make our own little corners
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  of the world more interesting and more welcoming and more solution focused
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  rather than the world is falling apart focused.
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  So again, I don't know exactly where we're going with this podcast.
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  This is episode number one and I have some ideas, but I have no real clue.
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  And okay, again, I wasn't planning to talk about this,
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  but we'll talk about it now.
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  Earlier when we were talking about don't wait until you're ready,
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  a lot of times we think we have to have the whole map before we can start out
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  on our journey, right? And if you wait until you've got the whole map,
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  how did anybody ever discover the world, right?
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  You've got to go make your own map.
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  If you've got the map in front of you, chances are someone else drew it
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  and it's not really yours.
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  So again, this is me walking my talk and taking that first step
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  without really knowing exactly where I'm going.
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  But the phrase that saved me when I was stuck in this rut for 10 years
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  of trying to figure out how to stop being someone else's employee
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  and start doing what I wanted to in the world.
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  One of the things that got me finally unstuck was hearing the phrase,
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  a path is made by walking.
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  So here we are, we're taking that first step and then we're going to look around
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  and we're going to figure out what the next step is.
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  And then we'll figure out what the next step is.
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  And eventually we'll be able to turn around behind us and see where we've come
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  and see the path that we've built.
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  But we don't necessarily know where we're going or how we're going to get there.
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  So if that sounds exciting, I hope you will come along with me
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  and play and surf your edge and enjoy the adventure.
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  Thank you for surfing your edge with me on your way to becoming
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  your bigger, bolder, badass self.
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  This week, choose one idea from today's show that made you curious or furious,
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  challenged you, or made you want to try something different.
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  Play with it and see what happens.
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  I've always got a special gift for you, so click the link below to find out what it is
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  and come back next week to catch a brand new wave.
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  Until then, I am wishing you wonder.