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Why You Can’t Feel Pleasure (In The Bedroom & In Life) · Beyond Limits With Olivia Marie

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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to the Live Well Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm your host, Liv, a naturopathic doctor, mentor, energy healer, Akasha Breeder, intuitive, energetic business mentor, and honestly, so much more.
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  SPEAKER_00: And with that, let's get into the show.
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  SPEAKER_00: I am so excited that you are here.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm excited to dive into another episode, another little easy one.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love a quick episode, like just listen to 10, 15 minutes.
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  SPEAKER_00: You get the juicy chicken nuggets and you get to absorb them and implement them into your life and your day and have massive, beautiful transformation.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with that being said, today we are talking about why you can't feel pleasure in the bedroom and in life.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because I've said this before, your life should turn you on.
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  SPEAKER_00: You should be able to literally get turned on by waking up in the morning, by your morning cup of coffee, by you know, the sunshine, whatever it is for you, everyone has different things that bring pleasure, but to feel actually pleasure in your day, not joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, joy is great, but that's gonna be separate from pleasure, and I'll break that down for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And we're also talking about not just in the bedroom, because why would we want to just feel pleasure and turned on for a little bit of time in the bedroom?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why not feel that way all the time?
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  SPEAKER_00: This actually naturally helps in the bedroom as well and just helps you live a life that's turned on.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that being said, that's what we are diving into today.
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  SPEAKER_00: We do have a program to support this.
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  SPEAKER_00: Goddess activation is where you need to be if you want to heal your pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also have one-on-one packages, and sometimes I have mini one-on-one packages as well that are taking place.
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  SPEAKER_00: And yeah, so with that being said, let's go ahead and dive into why you can't feel pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I want to start off by talking about where pleasure comes from.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, we all know like anatomy when you are feeling pleasure in the bedroom, you know, it's coming from your womb, it's coming from your whether you want to call it your yoni, whatever you want to call it.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, it's a lot more to do necessarily with energy than necessarily physical.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's why sometimes you can even be engaging in something, like, you know, intimately, and physically you're doing things, but it's not generating the feeling that you want it to.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that really points to some of the energetics behind why you can't feel pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: So being disconnected from this energy is number one the thing that's going to contribute to why you can't feel pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you're disconnected from your feminine energy, if you are not plugged into it, if you are in your masculine, which is like perfectionism, burnout, hyperbody focused, hyperdirection focused, all of that, your nervous system is in fight or flight, and it can actually calm down to feel pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because when your nervous system thinks you're running from a tiger or running from a cheetah, it is not putting resources to you having like orgasmic or an orgasmic life, whether that's in the bedroom or outside, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So the number one thing is connecting back with that feminine energy, and so many women are disconnected from it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Every new client that I get, whether it's in a program or my one-on-ones, this happened recently with one-on-ones.
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  SPEAKER_00: I asked where you feel pleasure, and it was crickets.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I actually sat there and like, okay, let's think.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, where do you feel pleasure in your life?
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  SPEAKER_00: She couldn't think of anything.
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  SPEAKER_00: Well, my kids bring me lots of joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, no, I'm not asking about joy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where do you feel pleasure?
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  SPEAKER_00: She's like, I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: I was like, okay, can you make me a list of things that, you know, think about it outside this call?
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  SPEAKER_00: And there wasn't anything that brought her pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is like 90, I would say 95 to almost, I don't even, closer to 90, 95 to 99% of the women who come to me are not feeling pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, obviously it's because we need to heal their feminine energy, so that's normally why they're here.
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  SPEAKER_00: But they don't feel pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm like, we're not living a life that's turned on.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is that you don't necessarily need to be at the four seasons in the maldeeds to live a life that's turned on.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like, I guarantee you, your, like I said, your morning cup of coffee should.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so this is where I really want you to think about is there a place, like, do I feel pleasure in my life?
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, and if not, what's my feminine energy like?
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  SPEAKER_00: And really go back and listen to my other podcast episodes that I've done, you know, a lot of education on feminine energy, how to tap into it and all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: But I want to start to break it down because one of the things that makes you disconnected from your feminine energy is shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we need to talk about shame and healing shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shame cuts you off from your potency.
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  SPEAKER_00: Shame is the lowest frequency emotion, and we carry shame in the lower energy centers of our bodies.
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  SPEAKER_00: So we naturally carry shame if we feel it in our female anatomy.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the yes, that can be shame for your body, shame for what your look like, your skin looks like, but it can be shame for I don't know how much money you make, shame from what your family comes from, shame, whether you have a partner or not, shame for anything and everything.
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  SPEAKER_00: It can even be the shame you feel when you get embarrassed one time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't have to be like an overarching thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be one time, oh, I feel shame, and you store it.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the issue is that you store it in your female anatomy.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your female anatomy is what generates that beautiful, as we know, orgasmic energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where it starts, that's where the fire starts building.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then, of course, we want to bring it up our spine and up to our pineal gland and have a nice, like, full-body expression.
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  SPEAKER_00: But the antidote to shame is honoring, loving, and holding yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: And pleasure plays a big role in this healing process.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because as you learn to honor and love your sensuality and your sexuality and hold it as sacred, you heal the wounded feminine in you.
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  SPEAKER_00: So oftentimes you're like, well, I can't feel you know sensual and sexual because I have all this shame, but we you work with both of them at the same time.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's not like, oh, I wait to get rid of the shame in order to feel pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's like pleasure will help you get rid of the shame.
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  SPEAKER_00: And of course, there's things like sexual abuse and everything like that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's obviously going to be a heavier weight, if you will, in terms of shame and in terms of wounds in your body blocking you from pleasure because sex was just meant to be pleasurable.
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  SPEAKER_00: If that was seen as a traumatic thing, your body is just going to shut down from any kind of pleasurable experiences.
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  SPEAKER_00: So please, you know, this is something that I do in one-on-one and in goddesses, we do that.
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  SPEAKER_00: We also do it in glow because it is such a quintessential thing for hormones, feminine energy, and all that.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I really want you to think about where you've been blocked from expressing your authentic femininity and feeling pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: Was pleasure told to you to be a bad thing?
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  SPEAKER_00: Was according to your religion, is pleasure a bad thing?
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  SPEAKER_00: According to your religion, is self-pleasure a bad thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: If that's viewed as a bad thing, then why would you let yourself have it?
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  SPEAKER_00: And it like you might say, Oh, I know that's not true now, but what matters is the younger version of you that was conditioned, whether it was through verbal conditioning from mom and dad saying it or you know, church saying it, whether that was like also modeled to you.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, were mom and dad comfortable with their sensuality, sexuality.
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  SPEAKER_00: If they didn't talk about it, if it was kind of like taboo or pretend that it didn't exist, that's gonna be very not normalized for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so this really makes you put up a wall and really blocks that feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you build up these walls as a protection mechanism from the shame from all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Now, clearing shame increases pleasure, so it goes both pleasure will decrease shame, but also clearing shame increases pleasure, which is beautiful because when we do both, it's magical.
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  SPEAKER_00: The female body is designed for pleasure, and I mean your body to receive and experience the joys of pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we think about like the the orbit of, and I'm just gonna use um an example of um heterosexual relationship with a man and female, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So I just wanted to hop in and let you guys know about goddess activation.
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  SPEAKER_00: It is my signature program to cultivate deep self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Look, you deserve to feel delicious in the skin that you are in and to love not only the life you are living, but yourself so that you can become a natural magnet to everything you desire and live in more alignment.
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  SPEAKER_00: These are all the tools, techniques, reprogramming to bring so much pleasure into your life that your heart radiates.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you engage negative self-talk, people please have trouble setting boundaries, hate your body, this is your sign because I've been there and it sucks.
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  SPEAKER_00: But what you have to understand is that when you love yourself on a truly deep level, everything in your life improves.
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  SPEAKER_00: Your relationships, your friendships, your magnetism, your career, your happiness, your health, even how much money you make.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everything in life is a direct reflection about how you feel about yourself and what you believe you are worthy and deserving of.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's start living a life where you feel magnetic and delicious in your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: Man gives an essential act to the female, female receives, you know, during that coming together.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, like it's natural.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's natural for women to receive.
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  SPEAKER_00: But society right now has created this wounded woman, this wounded sexuality that's really cut people off from their deeper aspects of their vital life force energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And the thing is, is that this creates what's called the pain body, which is essentially a residue of emotional pain that's stored in the cells of your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what you need to know is that there is a magnificent, marvelous, mysterious counterpart to the pain body, and it's called the pleasure body.
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  SPEAKER_00: So the female body is designed for sensual pleasure, and the female brain is actually wired to give us an opportunity for the full experience of those pleasures.
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  SPEAKER_00: So if you're not experiencing the depth of pleasure and intimacy that you know is possible, and you find yourself, you know, holding back in intimate experiences, not unleashing that primal wild woman, you know, can't have sex with the lights on and go full, I don't know, whatever kinky stuff you're into or maybe not into, doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: You know, healing your feminine energy will open doors for you.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we've all felt like how good you feel, you know, after sex, after an orgasm.
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  SPEAKER_00: Imagine if you felt more pleasure in your life, how good you would feel in your day-to-day life.
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  SPEAKER_00: More love leads to more pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so if you're stuck in your masculine, like the masculine way to lead is through conquering.
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  SPEAKER_00: However, the feminine way is through surrender.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this is why surrender is A so important, but also B, one of the toughest things that I find with a lot of my clients, a lot of people who come to me, is surrendering is hard.
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  SPEAKER_00: Surrendering to our essentially our innate desire to lead with love, not necessarily lead, but like lead with love more so, and really feel great sensual pleasure in our bodies.
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  SPEAKER_00: Surrendering is not a bad thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It does not mean you are weak.
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  SPEAKER_00: Some people think that like surrendering shows weakness and makes you vulnerable, but that can only happen if you don't have the inner awareness to create a safe space for yourself to completely surrender.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you have healthy boundaries and attract in safe situations where surrendering won't leave you vulnerable to harm, then surrendering becomes extremely powerful.
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  SPEAKER_00: You actually hold like more of the cards or more of the power being in surrender.
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  SPEAKER_00: Surrender is a letting-go process, an opening, an expanding, you know, greater awareness of our divinity, and that's powerful, and that's the core of feminine energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: But unfortunately, we've created a society that is out of balance, meaning more masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there's nothing wrong with masculine energy, it's important too.
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  SPEAKER_00: We need aspects of it, but it's the dominance of masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's it's too much in that area and not enough in feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: So it's important to understand the difference between masculine and feminine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have podcast episodes on that, so definitely go back and listen.
• 12:51
  SPEAKER_00: But essentially, you need a balance of both, a little bit more in your feminine with some masculine to make you feel safe.
• 12:57
  SPEAKER_00: The best analogy I give is that it's like a cup and some water.
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  SPEAKER_00: The masculine energy is the cup, the feminine energy is the water.
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  SPEAKER_00: So you need the cup, otherwise, the water's all over the place.
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  SPEAKER_00: But like if you don't have the water, then the cup is just empty.
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  SPEAKER_00: And emptiness just literally feels like emptiness.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with all that said, in this more masculine and like make it happen kind of world, most of us have an abundance of masculine energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: And surrendering and opening up to your feminine is an act of honoring, loving, and holding yourself in all of that.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this will open your pleasure gates and ultimately heal your feminine energy, your true feminine, an energy that's been ignored and repressed for a long time.
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  SPEAKER_00: Right?
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  SPEAKER_00: So, pleasure is all about feeling safe to be open and receptive.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I really want to stress like starting with feeling pleasure from your morning cup of coffee or matcha or whatever you drink.
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  SPEAKER_00: I don't know.
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  SPEAKER_00: Even going further, pleasure from water.
• 13:53
  SPEAKER_00: We're actually doing a very wonderful surrendering exercise tonight.
• 13:57
  SPEAKER_00: No, not tonight, tomorrow night.
• 13:58
  SPEAKER_00: Got my days myself in glow level one, which is well nourishing glass activation put together, but we're also going to be doing this in Goddess, so definitely join that.
• 14:07
  SPEAKER_00: About surrendering and essentially allowing yourself to feel receptive and let love in and let love pleasure in because when you have these walls up and these protective mechanisms, first we need to like break that masculine shell for you to feel safe, you know, break that the wounded, make you a safe container, and then allow you to surrender into the container.
• 14:26
  SPEAKER_00: And it's this kind of love that allows you to heal your wounded feminine and bring you back into more of that, you know, sensual pleasure-feel feminine.
• 14:36
  SPEAKER_00: The more you calm your mind, you know, you feel safe, the more you start to really experience deep love for yourself, the more pleasure you're going to feel, and the more feminine energy you're gonna be connected to, the less shame you're gonna have.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then it becomes this beautiful circle instead of a vicious cycle, it becomes this beautiful cycle of you know the pleasure and the feminine feeding off of each other.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let's also touch on body image issues.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you have body image issues, you hold pain in your body, you don't have a loving, nurturing, and caring relationship with your body.
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  SPEAKER_00: And you suffer because of it, low self-esteem, lack of confidence in the bedroom, emotional eating, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: All of these things happen with body image issues.
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  SPEAKER_00: And these are all like contractive energies in your body causing you pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be like emotional pain, it won't be physical pain, but also like emotional pain.
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  SPEAKER_00: And right, and so when you allow pleasure in, pleasure is the path to learning how to heal this and to letting it go.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because by opening up your body, becoming more receptive, and letting pleasure in, it's going to heal your body image issues.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you let love and pleasure into your body, you stop the internal battle you might be experiencing.
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  SPEAKER_00: And this allows feminine energy to flow through you and you become a channel.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not only just like a channel of energy, but like a channel of orgasmic pleasurable energy.
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  SPEAKER_00: The problem is that we are not programmed, or we are, like our natural state is to be like this.
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  SPEAKER_00: But through our conditioning, we have almost like chains of programming to not be open, to not accept, to not delight in bodily pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It could be shamed, it could be frowned upon, etc.
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  SPEAKER_00: And historically, we haven't had a safe space for such receptivity because maybe your first sexual experience was a good one, maybe it wasn't, maybe it was frowned upon, maybe you were shunned or there was shame.
• 16:26
  SPEAKER_00: I've had people, you know, be shamed by their parents who caught them self-pleasuring when they were really young.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so they hold on to that, right?
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  SPEAKER_00: If you didn't feel safe or that contracted you to hold back, well then, you know, if you were shamed by mom when you were young for self-pleasure, why would you allow yourself to feel pleasure of any kind?
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  SPEAKER_00: Because that's gonna have shame from mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: And what do you need?
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  SPEAKER_00: You need love and acceptance from mom in order to survive.
• 16:51
  SPEAKER_00: So your brain and body is not gonna allow you to feel pleasure, right?
• 16:57
  SPEAKER_00: It takes effort to change the programming about pleasure.
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  SPEAKER_00: It takes effort and conscious awareness to heal the shame.
• 17:03
  SPEAKER_00: And pain might motivate you because you want to avoid it, but pleasure is really what heals.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when you take the time to learn how to open deeper into pleasure, you'll heal the relationship you have with your body.
• 17:14
  SPEAKER_00: And then you'll finally experience the joy of being in your body no matter what it looks like, right?
• 17:20
  SPEAKER_00: And this is especially, I think, important for women because you know, yes, your body also changes like from puberty to early adulthood to later on, but it also changes if you have children and it changes with this.
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  SPEAKER_00: And so it can't be contingent on that.
• 17:32
  SPEAKER_00: So, in other words, your ability to feel pleasure is related to your ability to be open and receive.
• 17:38
  SPEAKER_00: And you will automatically open up and become more receptive when you are feeling loved and honored, when you're honoring, right?
• 17:45
  SPEAKER_00: And I like to use the word honoring because honoring is very, it's love with to me like respect, right?
• 17:52
  SPEAKER_00: And so the secret is that honoring has to come within you first.
• 17:57
  SPEAKER_00: It doesn't matter if Joe or Sally, you know, thinks you have the best bot or the best amazingness, doesn't matter.
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  SPEAKER_00: Like if you attract someone in who knows how to deeply honor you, beautiful, that can be very healing.
• 18:08
  SPEAKER_00: But the truth is, is that that A may come afterwards, or B, you don't want to wait for someone else to have your healing, right?
• 18:15
  SPEAKER_00: And so even as you're like listening to this podcast, I want you to think about like, do you honor your feminine energy?
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_00: Do you honor your yoni, your feminine anatomy in organs, right?
• 18:31
  SPEAKER_00: A lot of us like you might even laugh or become slightly uncomfortable at me mentioning even connecting with that part of you because you're in a chronic state of disconnect and not really realizing it.
• 18:41
  SPEAKER_00: Or me even telling you to explore your anatomy and your body through self-pleasure might either make you uncomfortable, make you be like, ooh, that's weird.
• 18:49
  SPEAKER_00: You might even say something like ew or think it's it's gross or something like that.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_00: Or maybe you should look, you don't know how, you've never done it, you don't know how.
• 18:56
  SPEAKER_00: Be open to it, right?
• 18:58
  SPEAKER_00: Because we live in a world where the natural tendency is to react by shutting down instead of saying open instead of opening up, right?
• 19:07
  SPEAKER_00: And in new situations, the effort is to like safe, protect, contract, go into a shell.
• 19:13
  SPEAKER_00: And so it takes effort and consciousness to keep yourself open, it takes having self-awareness to keep that channel and allow it to flow.
• 19:22
  SPEAKER_00: And that's why pleasure may be elusive to you.
• 19:25
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm not only referring then to like sexual pleasure, but pleasure is something that can be connected with guilt, with you know, shame and all of that stuff.
• 19:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's the physical pleasure you feel in the day-to-day as well as in the bedroom.
• 19:38
  SPEAKER_00: And of course, the more you feel in the day-to-day, the easier you're gonna feel in the bedroom.
• 19:42
  SPEAKER_00: So if you have libido issues, I recently also did a podcast episode on libido, I think it's a few back.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_00: Definitely go back and listen to that one.
• 19:48
  SPEAKER_00: It was a very, very popular episode, which is so funny.
• 19:52
  SPEAKER_00: The ones I do on like orgasms and sex are always super popular, but like no one ever talks to me about it, and it's always like a very shy topic for people, but clearly people want to listen to it, so I always find that very interesting.
• 20:04
  SPEAKER_00: So I wanted to talk about a couple things to start implementing now, and then of course, definitely check out Goddess Activation to join us to do the work.
• 20:14
  SPEAKER_00: So, number one is can you be receptive to compliments?
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  SPEAKER_00: For example, what happens when someone gives you a compliment?
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  SPEAKER_00: Can you fully receive it?
• 20:23
  SPEAKER_00: Do you find a flaw in it, saying, oh, there's a hole in that sweater, you know, oh my hair is this or whatever it is.
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  SPEAKER_00: Instead of saying open, receptive, and truly receiving it.
• 20:34
  SPEAKER_00: It's like somehow it's automatic to find fault and not fully receive it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Or to have to feel like, oh, I need to give one back.
• 20:42
  SPEAKER_00: And you're not actually fully receiving it, you just get uncomfortable.
• 20:45
  SPEAKER_00: I'm like, oh, let's me find something to compliment you about now, right?
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_00: See if you can stay open and really receive it with zero resistance.
• 20:51
  SPEAKER_00: Notice if you can receive it without needing to return it and practice simply receiving it.
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 20:57
  SPEAKER_00: When you become more receptive, you'll not only create more pleasure in your life, but you'll automatically heal your feminine energy.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_00: And so then I also want you to ask for what you need to create more pleasure in your life and really create environments that are more conducive to you being more receptive.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe that's having certain types of people in your life, certain types of relationships, certain types of friends.
• 21:20
  SPEAKER_00: Again, this is not just about like sexual relationships, this is about everything.
• 21:25
  SPEAKER_00: You know, intimacy and pleasure, you know, how can you explore that?
• 21:30
  SPEAKER_00: How can you create more pleasure in that?
• 21:32
  SPEAKER_00: Where are you either not being not having your needs met or not meeting your own needs for yourself?
• 21:38
  SPEAKER_00: You know, where have you had unmet and unacknowledged feelings that are getting stuck up?
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_00: If you're really ready to like heal your wounded feminine, you must learn to feel your uncomfortable feelings and be able to ask for what you need.
• 21:51
  SPEAKER_00: And through that, you'll create a safer space to be receptive and open up.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_00: But learning how to feel and be present with those uncomfortable feelings and creating those environments is going to be key to feeling more pleasure, getting out of your masculine, obviously slowing down and experiencing things.
• 22:06
  SPEAKER_00: Because when you truly receive it, you experience it.
• 22:09
  SPEAKER_00: So going through them, those feelings, being honest with yourself, you know, hold yourself in like love and compassion instead of stuffing it down.
• 22:18
  SPEAKER_00: And when you do, you'll transform the pain, the shame, and everything into pleasure.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_00: When you're relaxed, you feel safe.
• 22:26
  SPEAKER_00: So how can you open and receive when you are in fight or flight, stressed out or filled with anxiety?
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_00: You can't.
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_00: In order to open up and receive, and you need to have a creative space, like a you need to create a safe space for yourself.
• 22:39
  SPEAKER_00: And that won't happen if you're in your masculine, if you're in fight or flight, and you're disconnected from your feminine.
• 22:46
  SPEAKER_00: So I hope this episode was informative.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_00: I hope this gave you a little close notes as to why you're not feeling pleasure and how you can start to heal that.
• 22:53
  SPEAKER_00: Of course, we will leave Goddess activation down below, or if you prefer to do this work one-on-one, just send me a message on Instagram and kind of chat through that.
• 23:02
  SPEAKER_00: Either way, I want each and every one of you listening to like live a life you get pleasure from, to feel turned on, to have that morning sip of coffee and be like, oh dear God, it is like I'm gonna be better right now.
• 23:13
  SPEAKER_00: Like that's what I want for your life.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_00: And it's it's not something that should only happen if you have a designer handbake or you're in the Maldives or I don't know, something extravagant.
• 23:22
  SPEAKER_00: Like your day to day life, it's not contingent necessarily on external circumstances, but it's an energy that you can bring to anything and everything from within.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: That was good.
• 23:33
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 23:34
  SPEAKER_00: That being said, I hope you guys learned a lot from this episode, and I will talk to you in the next one.