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Why You Get Defensive the Second Someone Criticizes You
Why do otherwise thoughtful, self-aware people become instantly defensive when they receive real feedback? This episode breaks down defensiveness as an identity threat rather than a maturity problem, showing how the brain protects coherence before it allows learning. We look at why people who talk about growth often struggle most with change, how behavior gets fused to self-worth, and why feedback shuts down the moment it feels like a judgment of who you are.
The second half focuses on what actually makes feedback usable. Psychological distance lowers reactivity, meaning and purpose stabilize…
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