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42: Why Your Money Isn't Growing,Even When You're Investing In Yourself · She's Next Level

• Darshna Patel: Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the She's Next Level podcast. If you're watching on video, we are outside. So if you do hear a little bit of noise in the background, I'm gonna do my best to cut it off. But I am having the most fun. I feel so grounded, so good being outside. So this might be a thing given that it's summer. we will see. If you are new to this podcast, welcome. ⁓ My name is Darsh. And ⁓ in this podcast, in work that I do, I women look hotter, feel healthier, and be happier. All around feminine wellness, mindset, holistic health. So if you are interested in getting ⁓ into your most healthiest and radiant self and live a life, you're in the right place. Also, if you are interested in working with me one on one, I help women heal hair, heal their body. ⁓ So if you are in getting some help with that and healing from the inside out permanently, then feel free to apply for a one on one session. The link will be in the description box below. my intention for today's podcast episode ⁓ is to give you more insight and awareness as to ⁓ why your money has not been growing, even when are somebody that invests in yourself. ⁓ I know a of women in my community and the women that I attract. Are ambitious women. they are women that know what the fuck they want. And even if they don't know what they want, they are striving for more. They are not settling in their lives whatsoever. And that is why they are into self-development. They're doing the inner work, and this is what blew my mind when comes money because I have been working on money for quite some time, since 2024 actually. So for me it feels quite some time because ⁓ I grow really quickly, like I'm always working on myself, I'm finding new tools, ⁓ new information to make things more fun, more easier, more efficient. I've been doing The hardware, the inner work since then. And I have to some capacity, to some extent, really healed my relationship with money and some of the things that I do now, like the investments that I make in myself, ⁓ all of those things are so different than like the version of me even before 2024. Because I grew up in a very scarcity mindset type of household and upbringing. And till this day, I mean my parents are still very frugal. They're very scarcity-minded. They are definitely for sure not growing their money in what we're gonna get into today. And I still love them because our parents are here for a reason. They're here to support us in our growth. That's what relationships are actually about. We're not gonna get into that. Another topic for another day. but I feel like growing up, that can really imprint on your mind that I don't have enough. It really created that feeling for me of I don't have enough money or I'm scared that I'm gonna run out of money ⁓ even when I was making great money and I have been throughout my lifetime, I still had this underlying fear ⁓ this subconscious thing going on of like, I don't know if it's gonna come back the more that I invest in myself. I don't know if it's gonna be supporting me the way that I want to be supported. I don't know if this was the wise investment for me to make. And I felt nervous about it versus feeling excited about the investments that you're making ⁓ feeling certain about like. This money's here, this money's gonna come back. Like how some people talk about on YouTube and Instagram and on TikTok. And they talk about like how I knew like this was worth it. Like this made sense to me. I knew the money was gonna come back. And I would always get annoyed because I'm like, why don't I feel that way? Like I wanna feel that way. and what I'm gonna get into today is going to give you insight on why you have felt that way. And how to start to shift that and how to actually have a fun little hack at the end where I have been able to bend reality to my will of like making sure that all of my investments are actually profitable for me and are actually growing my money and doing it in a way where I still allow myself to get what the fuck I want. Because at the end of the day, we're here to enjoy our life as well. So this has been a really, really cool discovery for me, and I'm really excited to share it with you guys because it's been a game changer and it's basically allowed me to trust myself more with money, which really is the foundational thing to what we're talking about today. It's really the biggest missing piece that most people struggle with, not just trusting themselves, like that's one whole thing, but then trusting themselves on a financial level. This has been the motherfucking game changer for me. Because I have been implementing this and I have some like things to share with you guys how I've been feeling more confident in my finances and feeling more at ease. I think ⁓ the end of the day, a lot of us we just want to feel at ease with the way that we're using our money. We actually don't want to stress about money. Like we are so much bigger than money. And I feel like sometimes money can seem so much bigger than us. Like it can seem like it's just fucking taking over our and like our sanity. And ⁓ I'm at a place now where care about how I feel. I care more about my sanity I care about money. And it wasn't that way before. I felt like before money was definitely so prominent in my energy, in my mind, ⁓ that I like I needed more money or I needed money to feel safe and secure. And yes, I have been working on safety and security for some time, ⁓ but this definitely like another layer that helps support. everything around feeling more free and feeling ⁓ more safe around finances and how you're using them and therefore not beating yourself up and having more unconditional with your money because it is a relationship. And I just want to preface this before we get into the heart of this episode around why it is important to your financial obstacles and what they're telling you because. If you have not listened to other episodes where I have mentioned this law that plays out every single time, all day for anybody, no one is an exception. Even if you have the most outstanding self-image and unconditional love for yourself, you've done all the fucking work. It still plays out because at the end of the day, there's societal influence, there's a lot of contagions out there, there's a lot going on in our day-to-day lives that sometimes can hijack our thoughts, can hijack our Our state of being. And a lot of people just don't understand why this happens. But when you do, you start to control your reality more and you start to understand why things happen. You're able to shift things a lot quicker. But essentially, the law of reflections a law that I mentioned quite so many times, but it's basically a law which states that whatever imbalance that you going on, an emotional imbalance going on ⁓ in the area of life that it's showing up in. So this is showing up for you financially when you're having a lot of financial obstacles, ⁓ then it means that you have actually an emotional imbalance going a limiting belief going on from another area of life that is totally unrelated to finances. And that is where it started. That is why you have obstacles showing up financially to get your attention, to be like, hey, you're out of balance with your true core authentic self, with the limitless version of you. And so this is to help you grow. This is to help you move forward in your life in what feels the most aligned, what feels the most authentic. So a lot of reflections is really, really important. I'm actually gonna have an episode probably launch out next week where I was explaining it to one of my clients to her the work we and why we do what we do. So understanding this is gonna help you shift a lot of your financial obstacles that you have going on and also help you not beat yourself up because you know what the fuck is going on. what led me to creating this episode for you guys from the experience that I've had ⁓ for many, many years, but it became more prominent for me my higher self's like, okay, we want to shift this. ⁓ We want to like gain financial mastery around what you already know. ⁓ So ⁓ What was happening is I was experiencing so many reflections like back to back that were stemming from my finance area of life. So it was coming up for me in my career. It was coming up for me in my family area of life. It was coming up for me physically. Because the areas of life that you care about the most are the areas of life that it's gonna pop up in. So this is what led me to this discovery when I finally got a hold of like why this is happening, what's going on. Was because I realized that I wasn't trusting myself financially. And what that actually means when you're not trusting yourself financially is that all have an energy field, EMF field, it's scientific, it's not something that's woo-woo. ⁓ But we all have an EMF that radiates certain scripts throughout the day for everybody to pick up on because everyone's always essentially reading energy. And so everyone is always treating you ⁓ the way that you're treating yourself that's what you're radiating out. So because ⁓ I was lacking financial trust and really myself and my finances, was the script of I don't feel ⁓ certain around my money coming back. I don't feel safe and certain around my money growing. I don't feel like my money's gonna grow. and that's what creates that lack mindset. That's what creates that stress and worry ⁓ because you don't if you're gonna be financially provided for. Like you don't know if your money's gonna continue to grow ⁓ and that you're get to experience and do the things that you want to do. So ⁓ When you have the opposite playing of I do trust myself financially, I am certain that money is gonna come back because I'm using my money in a way that is making my money grow, then that's what starts to make you more of a magnet for growing more money. And one of the biggest reasons why women struggle with growing their money is because they are making decisions from an emotionally imbalanced place. Now, if you haven't listened to my podcast episode from last week around emotional mastery, highly recommend it to make this information land for you and give you a good starting place of making better decisions with your money and giving you an upper hand because emotional mastery comes in huge. With honestly anything that we want to create in our life, but especially trusting ourselves financially and making smart financial decisions that actually grow our money. Because what happens is when a lot of people are emotionally imbalanced. And what I mean by this honestly is when we're feeling a lack of an emotion that we actually want to feel, when we are not feeling special enough, when we're not feeling like we're safe enough, or when we're feeling like we're not youthful enough, or whatever the reason is. That you think that buying something's gonna give you, because that's what a lot of humans do, and this is something I did for like quite some time, and I was doing it so subconsciously I didn't even realize. ⁓ when we're making decisions and taking actions from an emotionally imbalanced place, we can end up buying things that don't actually grow our money. And that don't really fill us up the way that we want them to. How many times have you purchased something? And I have done this so many times. I see my mom do it all the time of buying things that you never use, buying things that you end up throwing away. I used to do this a lot with food because I'm a big foodie and I love trying new food. And I would end up buying things where I would probably just use it once and then not use it again. That was not a profitable decision. That was not something that was going to grow my money. This happens a lot because of societal influence, because of a lot of environmental contagions, of just so many opinions and beliefs and things out there that make you think that you need certain things to feel a certain way. And this is what causes a lot of people to be in debt. This is what causes a lot of people to not trust themselves because they don't know how to grow their money. They haven't understood the energetics that goes behind how to actually grow their money. They are just living their life, like even if you're making a decent amount of money, but you still somewhat find yourself not growing your money as much as you want to, or finding yourself like being at the same Place for a long time, You are not growing your money. You're not using your money in a way that grows it. Therefore, there is something going on ⁓ on an identity level, whatever belief it is, that's creating a lack of trust and trusting yourself financially. So I want you guys to really pay attention to this. And I do have a tool for you guys to implement to really help you understand how you can start to flip the script and how you guys can start to trust yourself more financially. This is something that I have been doing and I've been loving it. It's been like a fun little game. But I will say if you do have intuition, and what I mean by this is we all have intuition, but if you have trained your intuition Or if you have more of like a connection with yourself. I always say this when it comes to intuition. And I'm like, the more connected you are with yourself, the more connected you are with your intuition. Like you are a ⁓ embodiment of intuition. We're always using it no matter what. It's just like understanding how it works and why it works and how to use it helps a lot because then you're able to get the correct information, know where it's coming from, all of that stuff. So when I'm using my intuition, I am asking myself, Buying this will grow my money, yes or no? And I do use my intuition for getting down more accurate answers of like zero to a hundred, hundred percent being the most accurate or like the most highest level of growth. So, you know, an answer can be yes, but it can be only 20%, versus maybe you have another option in front of you that will grow your money more, and so that's when I use ⁓ ⁓ certain percentages to test that intuitively. And personally for me, I don't accept anything not 80%. I usually go for 90% or higher because that's the standard that I'm gonna have for myself. ⁓ And I there's always gonna be better options out there. So if you intuition, can totally ask that and just start practicing doing that with like smaller things. ⁓ And then when you that, when you get that number, if you get that yes, sometimes you can feel it in your body when you're using intuition. ⁓ lot of people do. They feel like a more expansive feeling when they get a yes, a more like a contractive feeling when they get a no, ⁓ attention to where it is. We always know though. We always know. ⁓ when using your intuition, you're doing that, then you want to ask yourself how. Like you want to give your brain, your human brain, the how. And it doesn't have to be always like a financial thing. ⁓ And that's something big that I want people to understand when it comes to your return on investment is that It's gonna be in other ways where whether it's through a connection that you make from attending an event or whether it's a referral that you get from meeting somebody new, ⁓ whether it is ⁓ energetically, whether just you feeling more energized and more happier, and then that's gonna pour into your business or whatever is important for you. It's gonna be in so many different ways. ⁓ So it doesn't always have to be monetary, but just giving your brain something to work with is gonna help you start to reprogram yourself of trusting yourself financially. Now, I do have a cool little hack for a lot of people that may have not trained their intuition, also for a lot of people that may want to still buy something and want it to be profitable for them ⁓ and still it energetically, like on an energetic level, grow their money. I have a hack that I've been playing with. And it's been really fucking cool because it has got my want down for even buying the thing of like, ⁓ I need this type of feeling. It has made me make decisions from a more balanced place. And it has made me trust myself more financially and not beat myself up for making the decisions that I make financially and not stress about money because I know that it's gonna come back in some way. So am into medical aesthetics. ⁓ love beauty, guys. I love health and beauty, ⁓ is why I do what I do. And so I was planning on getting an IV treatment. It's basically like when you go to like a place to get like the little wellness IVs. And had a sale going on. And your girl loves a good sale. And I think this is what fucks a lot of people is those sales. I know does for me. But they had a sale going on. And I was like, ⁓ my God, like I wanna get this and I wanna get that. And like I wanted to get this stress IV package, cause I've been working on stress for quite some time and I really feel like I'm at the finish end of it ⁓ and I to like accelerate my timeline and that's been like a whole thing for me of like timelines and getting rid of that. Whole nother topic for another day but I wanted get the stress reliever thing, the IV. and deep down, ⁓ like I know myself at this point it was like my mind, and I felt this sense of urgency to buy it. ⁓ And that sense of urgency sometimes when you get from buying or feeling the pressure to buy something comes from a place of fear. ⁓ Because if it's intuitively aligned and emotionally balanced, it's never coming from a place of urgency. It's never feeling like you need to do this now. It's just more of a neutral type of feeling. It's more of a neutral decision and you're not rushing yourself. ⁓ But me, I was like, ⁓ like I want to get this now. Or like I felt that emotional high where I was like, ⁓ this gonna help fix the stress even more. It's gonna help me heal even faster. And that. ⁓ was a taletelling sign of me being emotionally out of balance because I thought that the thing was gonna help me heal the thing that I've been working on for a while, like gonna give me the thing that I'm actually wanting. So I want you to pay attention to that. so when I did that, I was like, hold up girl, we need to rewind. ⁓ And ⁓ now like self-aware the way that I am, ⁓ I can catch myself moments like that and not make rash decisions like I used to. And is a big thing, especially if you are a emotional in human design. That will fuck you if you don't listen to your emotions and you don't balance yourself out. So what I decided to do, and this is kind of like a a process that I want to take you guys along with Because it really helped me get clear on what I actually want, where my money is going, what do I want to do with this? But also, I'm stubborn and I was like, I still want to buy this thing, but how can I make it profitable for me? So what I did was I got on Google, ⁓ I use Google Docs to like just channel things out. ⁓ And the first thing I did was I asked myself. Why do I want this thing? And so I was going down the Y game. I love playing the Y game because that is like the most best, simple, easy way for you to get to the emotional imbalance, which is usually what I call an emotional root cause. And so got down to the emotional imbalance for me was, you know, I was like, what do I feel like healing my stress? ⁓ if this accelerates me, healing my stress is gonna give me. ⁓ And I was like, well, the opposite of that is ease. And I want to feel energized. I want to feel ⁓ like that's underneath youth, right? There's a lot of other reasons that I had. And so I was like, okay. So I think that this is what's gonna happen. And then there was like a timeline thing too attached to it of like, ⁓ this is gonna accelerate my timeline, accelerate everything for me because I've been working on this for so long. So this is what's it what it's gonna give me. And so all of those reasons, obviously like unaligned because. that is not what I actually want. That's not what's best for me. That's coming from a place of lack. Once I got what the emotional imbalance was, then it was time to get my want for the thing down because I still was like, I still want this though. So what I decided to do was I was like, okay, well, what's great about not buying this thing? Because do I have to actually buy it to still get where I want to be? No, technically, I don't need to. I I will still reach my goals. I will still heal my stress. Like I'm still on track for that. And so I was like, Yeah, I don't really need it. I I think it's just like a cool little thing and yeah, it's on sale, but sometimes you don't need everything that's on sale. got my want down. Now, this is the key to make it profitable for you. I was like, Well, yeah, my want is down, and yeah, like I don't really like need because I see why I want it in the first place, but I still want it. Like I would still be like something that I want to buy for myself. And so, how do we make this happen? So, this is how you make it happen. You figure out how Purchasing the thing, it's going to benefit your other high value areas of your life and how it's going to add a sense of increase in your life. And so that means that you're switching your intention behind purchasing the thing of what you thought it was going to give you and what you wanted from it versus what's more beneficial for you ⁓ long term and how it's going to add a sense increase for you. So for me, I was like, well, it'll be cool. To learn around like what ingredients that they're using and go deeper into learning different supplements that they have and learning more about the body. And that would benefit my career because I do is all around body. It would cool to just go for the experience of it to see how I like it, how I feel. ⁓ It would be cool to meet people and possibly Maybe it could meet a end up meeting a client there. You never know. So ⁓ I was tying it into like the the areas of life that is high value for me, and ⁓ that was my new intention for it. That was the reason that if I said yes to this. This is why, not the emotional imbalance, but this is the reason why, and this is why it's going to be profitable for me. So the last piece after I did all of those three things was then I asked myself, okay, is this still gonna be profitable for me? And guess what? I gotta yee, I gotta yee, I got a yee, I got a yes. And that is when I was like, holy shit. So all of this to say is all around, not just our perception, right? Because our perception is everything, but This was such a big hack for me because I was like, it's all around my energy behind the things that I do. It's all around my intention. ⁓ And just by using these tools, like answer could have been a no, and I would have been okay with it because I didn't feel like I needed it. I got myself to an emotionally balanced place. ⁓ I knew the benefits of not getting So I didn't really need it, but it was from a place of desire. That I got to move from that place of desire, give myself what it is that I wanted. Even regardless if it initially was a no, I got to adjust my perception. got to move from an authentically aligned place. And that helped me financially trust myself more because I knew that I made the right decision financially. I was rooted behind that decision. And I enjoyed the experience more because of that. I thinking about like, ⁓ like it was this much, or ⁓ did I make the right decision? Or when is the money going to come back? ⁓ I know that the money's gonna come because I shifted my intention behind it. and even if, let's say, ⁓ something is a no for you, of like you're getting a no, like I don't think this is gonna be profitable for me. Run yourself through these three steps of getting yourself emotionally balanced to figuring out like why you want the thing and what you think it's gonna give you, and giving yourself that feeling of knowing I have the capacity to give myself this feeling without buying it, then. ⁓ Getting your want down for it. So understanding that, like, hey, if I don't buy this thing, I'm gonna be all right. I'm gonna be fine. I'm still gonna get what the fuck I want. Then getting it to be profitable for you of like, okay, what if I can start looking at this from a lens of how can this actually be profitable for me? What can I benefit from it that would benefit my other areas of life too? Not just this, not just this thing. It's gonna add a sense of increase in my life some way, somehow. It's gonna add a sense of increase in my life some way, somehow. And then asking yourself, is this still profitable for me? did this again for like a energetic healing that I wanted to invest in. And again, it was a no for me initially. And then it became a yes for me. And it I was just like mind blown by this because I was like, Wow, like you can have your cake and eat that shit too. You can eat the whole damn thing, baby. And you can have two cakes, matter of fact. And then asking yourself, is this still profitable for me? And I did it again. I did this again for like a energetic healing that I wanted to invest in. And again, it was a no for me initially. And then it became a yes for me. And it I was just like mind blown by this because I was like, Wow, like you can have your cake and eat that shit too. You can eat the whole damn thing, baby. And you can have two cakes, matter of fact. So ⁓ that is what ⁓ I wanted to share with you guys. Please practice and let me know. Whether you have intuition or not, gave you some steps to play with. But start practicing this in small ways with things that you purchase. ⁓ And especially when it comes to sales, girl. Because sales will get you. they will get you emotionally out of balance real quick. ⁓ And has been a game changer. I definitely feel like you know, the more that you're able to trust yourself financially, the more that you're able to have more unconditional love for yourself financially, get to where you want to be financially because you know what the fuck you're doing with your money. ⁓ You trust that your money is gonna grow. You have that safety, you have that certainty. It's gonna help you feel safe more. It's gonna help you feel more confident with your money. And it's just gonna make you a badass with money. So let me know what you guys took away from this episode and hit me up on Instagram. My Instagram is darsh vibes, d-a-r-s-h V-I-B-E-S-S. Let me know your takeaways. Let me know how this stuff goes for you. And share this episode with a friend because know that everybody can use this information to their advantage and start trusting themselves more financially and hacking the energetic game to make more money work for them. and if you haven't also left me a review. Leave me a five-star review. It really means a lot and it also helps get the podcast out to more women like us and builds the community more. Thank you so much for being here and I will catch you guys week. Bye. ⁓