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I Became A Fool For 39 Years For My Marriage To Work - Mummy GO · DidiLawren

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  Hello, welcome back to another episode of Entre.
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  just jump right into it because ha, it's a trend in video is a
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  trending topic. Now, this is about in Momiji.
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  You, he, I saw this video online and before this video, I mean,
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  she was talking about being married for 36 years and the
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  sea. Kris of be my for that long is
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  because she has endured and your hands.
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  I mean, let's say she said she has to play the fool to be
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  married for that long and it begs the question.
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  Do you for you to be married to me for you to be in a
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  relationship? Do you have to play the fool or
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  do you have to just you know be a punching bag.
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  No they actually bought just lying down there and take Taking
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  everything that comes your way. Now, the reason I want to talk
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  about this is because today is Sunday, and these are our videos
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  that goes on the Altar and talks to women, talk to marry women
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  who most times, you know, marriage is, I think they don't
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  go to counselors, they don't go to a therapist or, you know,
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  people to advise them like, professionals to advise them.
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  What they do mostly is to go to pastors, is to go to Mommy juice
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  to kind of Media complains, also kind of talk about their marital
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  issues now. Before I even go into this topic
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  proper, let me just play the video for you to understand
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  where I am coming from Office. Watch the training video that
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  kind of triggered this video. So watch this.
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  Hello, I still remember the Julian.
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  I've come to realize in this 39 years of being with my husband.
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  I realized I had to play the fool for the marriage to work
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  playing the fool. Even when I know I am, right
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  foolishness a relationship for your you to sustain your
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  marriage, you have to play the fool, playing the fool way, even
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  though, you know, your right from your left.
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  The man is claiming rights, you are claiming, right?
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  It's, you know, walk and that's why one has to play the food.
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  Why do your other person Remains the one that knows it all.
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  That's the secret of this 39 years of being together.
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  Playing the fool, doesn't mean you don't know your rights.
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  It does not make you to be a slave lead, that you're being
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  cheated knowing fully that your spouse is clean or Integrity.
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  But because of the value of made together to stay to Eternity and
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  for God. And if children are involved
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  because of the children, you just have to overlook so many
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  things. And that's where the place of
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  forgiveness comes in forgiveness because of God, because of the
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  relationship because of the children, and for you to move
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  forward. So, for used to When your
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  relationship for you too. Continuing the relationship.
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  One person has three the food. It means one has to be blind to
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  whatever you see, and the other one Dev to whatever you here.
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  Now, before I'm going to this video, talking about Mommy Geo
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  and Analysis. Let me just tell you about a
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  story that broke two weeks ago. So this lady came out online.
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  She called out her husband, they lived in the u.s. they were
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  According to her, they were happily married for 12 years,
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  they have two children. So she said before, they got
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  married, the husband was a struggling engineer, she also
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  was knows, or she is a nurse, so they were kind of working
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  together to build their life together so she literally met
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  him when he had nothing. And according to her she said
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  that at that point, the family. We are disappointed in him
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  because you know he traveled abroad so they respect him
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  truck. Loads of money from him.
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  And at that point he wasn't even finding his footing is not to
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  talk of you know sending money to the family now, she met him,
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  they started building together, they moved into, they got
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  married moved into a one-bedroom house or something and you know,
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  she was, she said, she prayed for her husband, I don't know if
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  you to spray about why I believe is when you have two income to
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  household income is to be easier for you guys to save.
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  Invest money, which they did, according to how the body, very
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  massive house. According to how they moved into
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  this house. They were doing okay, the saved
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  a lot of money. They took some loon build houses
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  in. Nigeria, paid off de Lune, they
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  were investing both Nigeria. And in, you know, in America now
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  she said, trouble started when the husband started going to
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  Nigeria frequently according to her.
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  She said, that's the man said, He had Investments or he wanted
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  to start investing in Nigeria, or so, they're looking at their
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  Investments, looking over their Investments, overseeing their
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  investments in Nigeria, he talks okay?
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  No, it's not a problem, because sometimes if we leave all these
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  things in the hands of strangers, you might lose
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  everything. So she allowed him to go to
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  Nigeria. He started from you know once a
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  year twice a year to three times a year you know she was thinking
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  no no problem. That's that's not an issue
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  according to her during one of His frequent visits, he said he
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  got a contract, a government contracts, to execute one,
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  whatever he said he wanted to execute and that he needed some
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  money to kind of start up the contracts.
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  Now, he told her that he will be sending of one of their
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  properties in Nigeria, was about 50 million to use to even start
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  up that contract. And according to high, but in
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  the contract papers and everything and everything looks
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  legit. So she said this is going to
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  bring a lot of money. So go ahead according to her.
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  She he left went back to Nigeria state for you long time.
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  She felt that her husband was taking care of the contract.
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  Now he came back after that was still during the pandemic
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  because they were still wearing face masks and all that.
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  He came back and they went to the airport to pick him up.
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  Everything was Rosy, he came back home, they Continue their
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  family as usual. So when everything kicked off,
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  was when a friend called her like it distance from, you know,
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  some of these friends that you haven't spoken to, like, 23
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  years, they just called her and said, how are you doing?
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  How is everything going? How is your husband?
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  And she was like, oh he's fine, we're fine.
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  Everything is okay. So the first was kind of asking
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  is anything. Is anything happening?
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  What That is wrong your marriage.
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  He said, no, the hammer is this perfect start?
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  Nothing is wrong. The front proceeded to ask if
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  the husband was angry, or is angry with her and she said, no,
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  that the old man is doing view. They are fine.
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  Nothing happened, the friend. Now said, listen, I don't want
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  to tell you this. I don't to be the bearer of bad
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  news, but I saw a picture from my friends profile that your
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  husband got married to another lady.
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  She was like, no, that's a lie. Like no, no, house 1 is in.
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  Nigeria for business. She said, no, that the pictures
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  are actually both worthy in a whole new moon, those wedding
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  and holy Moon. And in fact, the celebrated our
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  one-year anniversary, she said no that I cannot be it's not
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  possible that she cannot. The husband is not a kind of
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  person. So according to her, she ended
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  the coal thinking. This friend is just one of those
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  As friends, I want to break up our marriage.
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  She said she picked up the phone and called her modulo because I
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  was trying to call the husband, the husband numbers do going
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  through, so she called him more than a lot to ask.
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  Did your son, get married? And you mother-in-law said, no,
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  no, no, I told you that kind of Eli that.
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  No, you don't get married. You're the only wife.
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  This is that beholding to the story.
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  The parents of the husband, this modern Lana is denying that the
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  sun is no Maura. Actually followed the sun to
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  grammar in second wife without informing the first wife.
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  And now that the first one was asking her about it.
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  She blatantly denied it, she was like, okay, that's okay.
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  Since everybody is denying this thing.
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  Maybe she's just overthinking everything.
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  But she said, okay she started digging people were making her
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  look crazy because if she called the family of the guy they will
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  tell Ali that I say life is ending.
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  This shoe cordials, but here's my would deny deny deny.
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  Now, how can you get married? He's in, Nigeria to do business
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  that. He's not there to get married.
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  This lady says you so much wanted to believe them but um,
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  she was not having it so she contacted that the bearer of the
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  bad news to say, how did you get this story like, okay, show me
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  pictures. She said I was doing the the
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  lady's left floating away. Pictures, sent all the pictures
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  pre-wedding Shorts, you know, wedding pictures from more
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  traditional white wedding, honeymoon, pictures honeymoon,
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  pictures guys, this lady Center everything she said, she
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  couldn't believe that her husband somebody, she married
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  somebody, she's been with for a very long time, 12 years and
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  they share two children have assets.
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  Together could get married to somebody else without even
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  Telling her and even denying it when asked, so she had to call
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  back the parents which is the mom to say this is what I'm
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  getting, these are the pictures, why would you deny this and
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  funny enough? The mom was in those pictures,
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  the mother I was denying it was in those pictures so this will
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  Mark will not deny it anymore. She just said hi and just take
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  it and he's a man. What can you do?
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  He has already married her. Just have patience.
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  Is since the wife is in Nigeria, you are the one in America just
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  have patience. Now, these are the issues.
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  I mean, I understand that, you know, marriage, you have to be
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  submissive to your husband, you have to be patience, you have to
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  let him lead, but just imagine getting married to this kind of
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  person. I'm having this mama, do as your
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  mother-in-law. And then you're coming too hard
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  to say. This is how your son is doing.
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  How would you want me to actually tells you, who is for
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  39 years, I played the fool, you have to play the fool.
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  When you are complain to family of your husband will tell, you
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  know, I just buried and just relax and just don't don't look
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  at your children for the sake of your children.
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  And when the woman leaves, just because of her mental health, do
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  say, ashes Cheryl, and she left you, because so that she won't
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  be running or all over the streets.
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  These are the issues. This is a very big problem that
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  people don't want to address. I say, even after having all
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  these issues, she tried talking to a motor.
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  Hello. And or what I was telling her
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  have patience, do these two dots and then she goes to the church
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  where Mommy do is the pastor's wife.
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  She went to Mommy juice to complain and say this is what my
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  husband did to Mew Muslim married.
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  Another wife who my husband changed the whole property to
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  his second wife name Even though the he was even considering his
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  children, he, in fact, he sold everything to, you know, Mary
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  the SEC and you tell Mommy Geo these things.
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  I'm gonna beat you say. Ah, no, for 39 years, I played
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  the fool for you to remain. In this marriage, you have to
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  play the fool. You don't have to be.
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  I just have to be patience and marriage.
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  One person have to play the full and just play the fool.
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  You you're only 12 years and played the food here for you.
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  Droid play the fool. These are the issues.
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  And you know, something will be like, oh no, regardless you are
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  in or will not play. See men, we can.
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  No, not all of it half of what they give because even the Bible
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  is saying be submissive to your husband.
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  The same Bible says husband's, love your wife.
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  Now if you love your wife, I don't think even if you want to
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  marry second wife, you have to inform her just because of The
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  love you have for her or for you to go out her back to get
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  married. His second wife not only that
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  you transfer all the Assets in Nigeria to your second wife's
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  name. How is that loving your first
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  wife? So you have failed the first
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  rule of loving your wife, then, how can that woman?
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  I'll be submissive to you now. More media is now saying play
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  the fool regardless of what I he loves you regardless.
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  Vessel without whatever he is doing, just play the fool so
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  that you remain his wife. This is this is why and these
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  are the women that raised the generation of men that we are
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  marrying today. Men, that will tell you
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  whatever, they are my mother took it so, and why are you not
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  taking needs? My father used to slap my
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  mother. She does not do anything.
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  I just shouted at you and you're saying, you're leaving.
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  My mother. Was the one doing everything in
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  the house? Why are you like home training?
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  That is why you cannot do certain things and my mother, my
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  mother this my mother that and you you are and these people are
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  not realizing that they come from from this is not healthy.
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  This is not mentally stable. They don't understand it.
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  They just want that, you know, cycle to continue.
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  Its just want a cycle to continue and ask that man, would
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  you want? To your daughters to be treated
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  the way, you're treating your wife, they will tell, you know,
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  before I my son-in-law, I'll have to make sure that he can
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  take care of my daughter, but you taking care of your wife.
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  Pictures is no, and that's not median.
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  And I seen the whole she married for 39 years, and she was a fool
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  for 39 years to advise her to turn out to be full, but she's
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  coming out boldly. What her son, her son's wife
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  have to be full for 39 years. I think, what I've realized is
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  that this generation women, we're kind of trained to be
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  wives while the men they just like, I don't, Even think they
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  give men training like they don't, you have them, changing
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  the lock home training, maybe not home training.
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  Well, I don't think men, most men understand what it takes to
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  be a husband. I don't think anybody is such a
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  guy down or you man, down to Silky apart from providing.
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  What does it take to be husband? And most of these people,
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  because they come from traumatic background, that is all they
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  know. And nobody told them otherwise.
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  So they take that into whatever relationship they're going into
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  and you don't know where the other partner is coming from.
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  If the Lady or the other partner is coming from an equally
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  dramatic background, she might be sitting on this is okay.
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  Yes. Oh My mother took it for 39
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  years. I will take it for 39 years, you
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  know, you don't know. But what if the person came from
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  it, normal background, where she has seen love, where she has
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  seen people, you know, husband, and why we love each other
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  kouha, be together. She is expecting more from the
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  man that had no idea of what marriages or and had no example
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  of what the healthy marriage or a healthy family is and this
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  will come together to marry. And when she start having
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  issues, she completed the Modern Love Modern.
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  Love. You have to be a full for your
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  marriage work. She goes home with you Mom.
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  Did you say hi? You have to be a full for your
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  marriage to work. I was a fool for 39 years.
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  You have to take everything you have to be submissive regardless
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  people are dying. People are mentally imbalanced,
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  people are going through a lot. Just because of marriage.
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  And if you cannot even complain to your modern low because of
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  this mindsets, are you having to go to church and complain to, to
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  your pastor? And as we all know African
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  communities. I don't even think we understand
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  therapy. I don't even think we understand
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  the importance of counseling. You know, even if you want to
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  get married that you have to get counseled in church.
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  And it was to tell you this regurgitated, Wife is submissive
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  to your husband husband. Love your wife without even
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  breaking it down. I don't know if the break it
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  down because I've not been to marriage counseling, so I don't
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  know but if they actually do that then I don't think we'll be
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  having all these problems that we have in even if they do
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  because of our points. Because I do Point, they've made
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  a decision to get married so it doesn't matter.
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  No crash course of one or two weeks to tell, everybody will be
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  agreeing to everything you see in and out points body.
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  Core values. The core of that person, what
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  they have seen growing up. How does that affect who they
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  are? I think this is what we need to
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  strive in looking at, you know, in the olden days, when you want
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  to get married to people they go.
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  Do you do a background check? Do you tell you these people,
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  they have Madness in their family.
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  They will tell you these people, I don't think husband, House.
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  They will tell you, is they beat their wives to tell you these
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  people, they don't feel as if they have the history, they have
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  the data to back up those things.
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  I think what happened in these days is that you just ask you,
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  is it all which are handsome, what's the other quality?
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  Nobody gives a hoot about, you know, those kind of values of
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  family background and then people get into situations,
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  where you know, We have all these problems and mummy-ji use
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  and their mother in-laws. Are telling us play the fool for
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  you to have a successful marriage, play this for you to
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  be there to take care of your children or more is not
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  business. As usual, it is not anyway, I
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  don't know, please leave me a comment in the comment section.
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  Do you think that for those of you that are married, I haven't
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  been playing the food Tommy successful marriage.
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  I mean, we don't know the percentage because if 90% or
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  even if any 60% is playing the fool to remain in marriages,
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  maybe that data will help most of these younger divorced
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  couples because most of them, can you slap me some tell?
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  You know? I her muslin is between you.
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  I stayed there for 39 years so business now A deal-breaker.
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  So I think if we have this information, if the actual
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  success criteria for marriage is playing the full on the woman's
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  part because men don't play fool, who is the woman about to
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  play the fool for the marriage to work.
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  So if that is the key ingredients, we need to know.
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  So leave me a comment in the comment section.
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  What do you think is the key success to marriage whether the
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  Our success means being there and being battered emotionally
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  mentally and psychologically for the rest of your life or for the
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  duration of that marriage, let us know.
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  So that we get prepared, mentally, physically and
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  emotionally to get to play the food.
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  Thank you very much for watching today's episode, please like
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  Bye. Bye.